Episode 58 - Stephen Snyder, MD

A sex therapist, relationship therapist, and sexual medicine specialist — Dr. Snyder has dedicated his entire career to helping individuals and couples with sex and relationship concerns. Over 30+ years, he’s helped over 1,500 individuals and couples regain closeness and satisfaction in their relationships.

I heard him on a podcast “sexology” and needed to read his book and get him on my podcast. I loved the male perspective, and he offered ways for women to understand the male model of sex in a long-term relationship.

• How did you go from MD to sex therapist?

• Women are the “chief sexual officer” in the relationship

• How women and men are different

• The “two step” plan for good sex

• In his book, he writes, “your wife is not a lawn mower” – we discuss

• He writes – "Good sex definitely make you dumber. And great sex can make you downright stupid."

• Sex knots and how to untie them

• Why men “go missing” in bed

• Tips for talking to your male partner about better sex

• Talk about shame and sex!

• FIOS – for it’s own sake – enjoy arousal for it’s own sake. He discusses what “simmering” is and why we should enjoy it more.

• Why humans are not steam engines

• “Everyone over 35 should have a dimmer switch in the bedroom”

• ANTs – automatic negative thoughts – so many women have these and body image issues – help please!

• Desire – it is becoming an object of FDA approved medications – yet you talk so differently about it, such that it is not needed at all. Please educate us!

https://www.sexualityresource.com/

An amazing blog post about female sexual desire: https://www.sexualityresource.com/blog/womens-sexual-desire-and-why-men-often-dont-recognize-it

His book is amazing! Find it at:

https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B073Z8CBQ4&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_PKDWP0312DYJZ99H8YZ4&tag=kellycasperso-20