When an affair is revealed, there are ALWAYS huge emotions, and all that has been simmering under the surfaces erupts.
What happens next is a circular conversation where NOTHING is truly resolved. Mostly because the formula of HOW to resolve it is unknown to the couple.
Today we are talking about common emotional consequences for the Hurt Person - that is, the person who didn't have the affair:
Imagining the details of the affair
Reliving the moment the affair was revealed
Avoidance and Numbing
Detachment/Disassociation/Isolation/Sense of limited future
Impairment of Sexuality and Intimacy
Hyper-arousal
Hyper vigilance/Anger Fits & Irritability/Sleep Disorders
Exaggerated/Strong Startle Response
During the time of an affair reveal EVERYTHING is unstable. There is NO safe place to land.
The Hurt Person worries that it is not possible to truly recover....
The Hurt Person worries that they will always feel a sense of betrayal and hesitancy to recommit....
The Hurt Person worries they will never feel safe again....
It's an intense time in a marriage. Often times counseling is sought, but mostly that counseling is INEFFECTIVE at genuinely healing the jagged edges of the betrayal so the marriage can be stronger than ever.
Join me to find out where to start to TRULY recover and repair a marriage that has been marked by an affair.
xo,
Meg
PS. To learn more about our model, here's a the link to my Masterclass:
https://bit.ly/2rXCt7K