TODAY’S MESSAGE PSALM 37:4-6 TPT Make God the utmost delight and pleasure of your life, and HE WILL PROVIDE FOR YOU WHAT YOU DESIRE THE MOST. 5 Give God the right to direct your life, and as you trust him along the way YOU’LL FIND HE PULLED IT OFF PERFECTLY! 6… He will manifest AS YOUR JUSTICE, as sure and strong as the noonday sun.

QUESTION At the end of the holidays,

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO HAVE EXPERIENCED,

or how do you want to have benefited?

PRINCIPLE Expenditures/gifts should

HONOR the joy in relationships,

not BE the joy in relationships.

Gifts CELEBRATE relationships,

not FIX relationships!

FACT WHERE DOES STRESS COME FROM?

Stress is rooted in our

desire to control

something or someone!

_______________ PATH TO BEING STRESS FREE 1. SELF AWARENESS – ATTUNEMENT PSALM 77:6 KJV [Asaph said in a time of deep distress] … COMMUNE with MINE OWN HEART: and my SPIRIT made DILIGENT SEARCH.

PRINCIPLE You cannot CHANGE,

or FEEL DIFFERENTLY about,

what you DO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE.

You have to NAME IT to TAME IT!

PRINCIPLE Often we AREN’T BATTLING

the OTHER PERSON,

but our own WOUND-BASED NARRATIVE.

• SELF-QUESTION #1 - “What does this person, group, event or environment DO TO ME?”
• SELF-QUESTION #2 - “How long does it take me TO GET BACK TO ZERO after I have been with this person, group, event or environment?”
• SELF-QUESTION #3 - “What JUSTIFICATIONS do I wrestle with?”
• SELF-QUESTION #4 - “Why do I KEEP THINKING about this? Why do I get DYSREGULATED EMOTIONALLY with this?”
• SELF-QUESTION #5 - “Is this GOOD STEWARDSHIP of my energies?”

_______________ 2. DIFFERENTIATION – BOUNDARIES DEFINITION BOUNDARIES, in a broad sense, are the lines or things that mark a LIMIT, BOUND, or BORDER. Boundaries are the realization of our own person apart from others. This sense of separateness forms the basis of personal identity.

PRINCIPLE GROWTH in BOUNDARIES means growth in…

EMOTIONAL Intelligence

SOCIAL Intelligence

_______________ 3. LOVE – GENEROSITY OF HEART COLOSSIANS 3:12-14 TPT … Be MERCIFUL as you endeavor to UNDERSTAND OTHERS, and be compassionate, showing kindness toward all. Be gentle and humble, unoffendable in your patience with others. 13 TOLERATE THE WEAKNESSES of those in the family of faith, FORGIVING one another in the same way you have been graciously forgiven by Jesus Christ. … 14 For LOVE IS SUPREME and MUST FLOW THROUGH each of these VIRTUES. Love becomes the mark of TRUE MATURITY.

HOW TO STAY HAPPY! REMEMBER WHAT CHRISTMAS IS ALL ABOUT:

LOVE is the answer to HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

_______________ CALL TO ACTION What is your ONE NEXT STEP that you need to take?

• Begin soothing/spiritual/self-care exercises
• Invite safe family/friends into your stress
• Decide in advance what you want each event experience to be
• Prepare to limit exposure to dysregulating experiences
• Take the Science of Freedom Workshop to understand yourself
• Trigger the energy of love generously flowing from the heart

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