Speaker 1: Hey everyone, welcome to Rad Dad Secrets. This is episode six, parent first, friend second.

Speaker 3: So the big question is how do regular dads like us who weren't given a playbook on parenting will only have 24 hours in a day to make it all happen How do we provide for our families in a way that will allow us to raise happy, successful children and have a thriving marriage while still being a man and doing the things we love That is the question and this podcast will give you the answers. This is Rad dad secrets. All right guys,

Speaker 1: so happy to be here with you guys. And glad you guys are joining us today. We've got an awesome topic today called parent and friend. Second. So my buddy Jefferson over here, um, came up with this idea for this podcast and I think it's golden. So why don't you start us off here, Jefferson

Speaker 2: Yeah, so I, I read this on facebook. It was one of these little memes that uh, I'll just read right here, says my promise to my children for as long as I live, I will always be your parent first. And your friend second, I will stock you, flip out on you, lecture you, drive you insane, be your worst nightmare and hunt you down like a blonde bloodhound when I have to, because I love you. When you understand that I will know you have become a responsible adult. You will never find anyone else in your life who loves praise, cares and worries about you more than I do. If you don't matter, or if you don't mutter under your breath, I hate you at least once in your life. I'm not going. I'm not doing my job properly. Parts of this. I agree with that. I don't. I don't. Yes, I, I've always said, you know, if you're not making your kid hate you at least once a week, you're not doing your job. You know, it Kinda goes back to kind of marketing. You know what I was going to say that taken at least one person off by by noon. You're not doing your job right. I don't necessarily agree with that, but I do agree with the idea of parent first and then be be their friend second.

Speaker 1: One of the things that stuck out to me on that really quick, I just want to throw it I the older I get, the more respect I have for some of the things that my parents did, I was like, Oh man, I did not get why they were so strict on this or they wouldn't let me do that or this happened and I didn't get it, and now all of a sudden, and I'm sure a lot of you guys listening can relate to this, but you're parenting your kids and you're like, what the heck just happened I was my dad for a second, and sometimes that's good. Sometimes it's not good, but either way you start to value and see why your parents did certain things and you start to understand. So just when it said, once you come to grips with why your parents did all this stuff, that's when you become an adult. So I guess in the last maybe year or so I became an adult. I don't know. I'm 39 now, but just getting there. Anyway, just wanted to throw that in there. I liked that. That was really cool.

Speaker 2: I feel like society right now has a lot of parent friends. What, what should we call them Fragrance for. That's not a very good word, but we'll, we'll come up with a word and yeah, we'll uh, we'll coined the term prints, prints. I like that. And what happens is we're raising a society that does not respect authority because they were not taught how to respect authority because they're, their parents were, you know, whether it's to the teachers, whether it's just to um, to police were, I mean, whatever it is, authority, they're not teaching them properly how to respect them. And so basically I went in an article I read, they, this person broke down, parents parenting into kind of two roles and emotional role and a functional role. And they said, um, they, they explained it really well when we are babies, we need both of those, you know, we needed our parents to fulfill both of those roles. And so