Season 3 of the Date Smart podcast is finally here and we’re talking all things money and dating.
Did you know that 57% of divorced couples cite money as the reason for divorce and 40% of couples don’t even talk about money before marriage? It turns out that most arguments around money have nothing to do with the numbers themselves and everything to do with the psychology behind money, that is, how you were raised to think about money. We all have a legacy — a story that is handed down from generation to generation about what money has meant to our family — and we bring those beliefs and feelings into our relationships. As John Gottman puts it, “When two people with two separate histories with money get together, they must face the challenge of merging those two histories—or deal with the consequences of not addressing them. “
We all have a sort of “money blueprint” that’s embedded from an early age - whether from our parents or society - and we go through life clutching on to these beliefs so tightly without questioning whether or not they’re serving us. And when we enter into a relationship, rather than talk about our beliefs and reach mutual understanding, we let conflicting opinions run a wedge between us without understanding the root cause.
As I mentioned, most people believe money arguments have to do with the actual numbers, ie: “If we just earned more money, then we wouldn’t fight about buying the organic blueberries at Whole Foods or staying in a 5-star hotel,” but that’s almost never the case. The root cause of money problems almost always starts at a psychological level. And that’s what we’re exploring in this podcast series. We’ll discover our own money mindset, how to explore your date or partner’s money mindset, and how to reconcile opposing perspectives around money so you can get on the same page and become co-creators of your lives.
Your money blueprint influences everything you do, including the type of partner you attract into your life. So, grab your coffee and a pen and paper and follow along, we are about to uncover the secret world of your money psychology.