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Episode Introduction:

It’s time to start choosing yourself. Tune in to the first part of our four-part series and find out how to stop caretaking others!

Episode Summary:

In this week’s episode of the Rise Station Podcast, we talk all about codependency and how it leads to caretaking others in a relationship. We start by understanding the primary phenomena at play and then go on to discuss signs of caretaking as well as how to stop.

Rise Tribe Takeaways:

  • Codependency is an unhealthy dependence on relationships.

  • Caretaking involves:

  • Sacrificing yourself for others.

  • Being self-righteous about your own opinions.
  • Helping compulsively.
  • Feeling responsible for others.
  • Crossing boundaries with unsolicited advice.
  • Judging others.
  • Thinking you know what’s best for others.
  • Giving but with strings attached.
  • Feeling exhausted, irritated, frustrated, anxious.
  • Feeling unappreciated and resentful.
  • Using pushy and judgmental “You” statements.

  • Controlling the life of the person you’re caretaking.

  • Caregiving involves:

  • Practicing self-care.

  • Respecting the opinions of other people.
  • Helping when needed.
  • Feeling responsible for yourself and to others.
  • Respecting their boundaries and those of others.
  • Giving advice when asked for it.
  • Feeling love and empathy towards the person you are caring for.
  • Knowing what’s best for themselves.
  • Giving freely without expectations.
  • Not taking others' actions personally.
  • Encouraging others to solve their own problems.
  • Using assertive “I” statements.

  • Supporting the recipient.

  • 8 Signs You Are Caretaking in Your Relationship:

  • You need to feel needed.

  • You take on responsibilities that your partner should and could do independently.
  • You take on your partner’s problems and emotions as if they were your own.
  • You anticipate the needs of your partner but are unsure of your own needs and feelings.
  • Your partner doesn’t feel confident in making decisions for themselves.
  • You control and dominate your partner.
  • You attempt to fix your partner and solve all of their problems.

  • You give your opinion and assert yourself but do not ask for their input on matters.

  • How to Stop Caretaking Others:

  • Practice self-care daily.

  • Remind yourself that you are worthy of your time and attention.
  • Empower others to solve their own problems.
  • Remind yourself that others are capable of managing their own lives.
  • Allow others the space and opportunity to decide whether or not they want to take your advice.
  • When others tell you their problems: listen, empathize, and empower.
  • Only give advice and solutions when asked.
  • Set healthy boundaries and maintain them.

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