Replace judgement and self-criticism with gratefulness and love.

Monika and Jan Zands talk about connecting with love and creating a loving context. In this context, which is your personal “loving bubble,” you can love yourself and each other. The more love we can share and produce, the more we can live with others by bonding through loving connections.
Loving the moment and loving the journey, loving every moment along the way. We often take for granted our blessings; if we could connect to what we have, we would enjoy more and be grateful.
Monika explains the concept of “spiritual bypass,” with the difference between denial of our negative thoughts to making a real shift in our perspective. Don’t skip the voices in your head, because there is where healing is possible.
Try to exercise the connection with what is real now, the abilities, people, things, and moments you can enjoy at this very moment, without criticism and self-deprivation; this negativity is not a vehicle to make us closer to our goals, it just fills this moment with negativity about ourselves and our moment.
Exercise with Jan and Monika:
Direction: Imagine something that you’re not really looking forward to but know will take place in the following day/week.

Strategies to connect to loving:
1. Take a good look at the structure of the situation;
2. Connect with the upset; when there is upset is an opportunity to heal;
3. Think about how do you reacted to this sort of situation before;
4. How are you really feeling about this?
5. Feel compassion for yourself, be the best version of yourself;
6. Search if you have a “Future fantasy” about how everything will turn out; you can be unexpectedly surprised, and the result could be totally different from your anticipated failure.
7. How is this an opportunity to learn how to better love yourself?

Consider/Ask Yourself:
How do we shift the way we experience our reality?
How do we go from self-criticism to gratefulness?
How quickly are you unreasonable with the expectations you set up to yourself?

Key Insights and Ahas:

The external circumstances often don’t change; how we relate to them can make all the difference.