Choosing The Best You: Recent Episodes
Carrie Spratley
Encouraging people to find hope where their health and purpose collide. I am a Board Certified Holistic Health Coach who battled auto-immunity for 10 years. With my new found health freedom, my desire is that you come to a place where you learn who you are and how to operate out of God's purpose; discovering that unknown space in the heart you never knew was empty.
Seeking repentance is an ongoing part of the Christian walk. The bible explains that our unforgiveness and unrepentant state, prevents our prayers from being heard.
Jesus calls for repentance as an essential response to the coming of God's kingdom — not just sorrow for sin, but a radical reorientation of life.
Seeking forgiveness and repenting from that sin by changing our mind on how we thought about something is a posture of understanding how wretched we really are and seeing that need for an ongoing repentant change of heart and change of mind.
To change your mind about what you did is true repentance. We can seek forgiveness. We can apologize for hurting one another.
We live in such a fast paced world. We were never created to take on the amount of information we have running through our hearts and minds on a minute by minute basis. All of that information creates additional chaos.
Our stories are the training ground God uses for His glory.
He uses what broke us to birth empathy in us
Your story is so meaningful because it comes through places you though you wouldn't ever recover from.
Romans 8:28 calls for in all things God works for the good of those who love Him.
We don't go through these trials just to move on. We go through them to move others.
The devil would love nothing more than our pain to make us bitter, but God wants to use our stories to make us better equipped.
When you share your story, you will go back and look at the moment that broke you. You will see how it redirected your prayers, refined your standards and revived your dependency on God alone.
This is the moment when we share our stories and our heartbreak becomes holy ground.
Any pain in our story, isn't the end of our story. Its the activation of it.
This is an area of discipleship I believe we are called and commanded to do. Its the one area that God says, test me in this. Let me show you that when you fully trust me, I am worthy of your trust. Not in a do this and God does that.
Its a posture.
Its a position of surrender before the Lord to seek Him and what He desires you to do, not because of what I am saying, but ask Him Lord is this an area I need to trust you with?
Show me what you want me to know. Show me what you want me to see and do in response to this.
This may or may not be an overnight discovery for you. But its still something to consider, discover and seek God over what, when and how He wants to live out more and more sacrificial lives for His glory.
This rest is necessary. We have so many habits and addictions waiting to devour us and we need to have rest physically and digitally from what can potentially overtake us. There are even so many opportunities for us to sin with the access that we have digitally.
Opportunity to covet. Opportunity to lust. Opportunity to put trust in man or self. Opportunity to fear. Opportunity to feel insecure. The list is long and its never what it was meant to be.
What did God intend this life to be about? Its always been about HIm. The glorification of our savior. To know HIM. To love HIM. To serve HIM. To point other people to him.
We need clarity and sobriety of our minds to do all these things well and what gives us clarity is to have more space for that clearer mind to happen.
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If you want your words to carry power, you have to stop speaking like a beggar and start praying like a BELIEVER.I think so often, we talk TO God and not WITH God.
So often we forget that its a two way relationship. A two way conversation and that just as much as God desires to hear from us, He also desires that we hear from Him.
- Stop praying uncertain prayers about things God has already promised like healing, provision, and peace. Know His will and declare it.
1 John 5:14 says “this is the confidence we have in approaching God; that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us.
2.We don’t need to pray “God be with me..”
You don’t need to ask God to be with you, He promised He already is. Instead thank him for his present and walk in it. Hebrews 13:5 says I will never leave you or forsake you.
Declare God is with you now and always. I walk with His presence, not apart from it.
Is this God's plan for your life?
A book you read over and over again? A book you study every single day?
A book He wrote for you. A book that transcends time. A book that will speak to whatever you are going through at any given time that will give you wisdom and discerment on how to raise your kids, to take that job or not take that job. To buy a home or not buy a home. Should you forgive and how to forgive. So much more.
Its all there!
Its revelevant. Its true and its for you and its for me.
Let's take a shallow dive into the waters of what it looks like and why we are to study the word of God!
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When I think back on my deepest formed relationships in life and how they were developed it is abundantly clear that those relationships developed by investing time in one another.
We can spend time with people and then we can invest time with people.
When we invest in a deeply connected manner we yield a return on our investment.
When we spend time, I see it as the more superficial experiences where we exchange pleasant sterile formalities that lack the true depth of deep relationship building.
Today I want us to consider what it looks like to deepen our relationship with our creator, God. What does that look like?
The purest form of courage is to rescue other people. We all need rescuing from time to time and its important that we see ourselves as usable by God for the benefit of his kingdom and for his glory.
What does the bible say about this topic?
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So many of us go around in life in our day to day activities with surface level questions, answers and conversations. I have learned that we can validate each other in our humanity when we are honest with ourselves,
Honest with God (who knows it all anyway) and with others.
Most people have a narrative and that narrative says we are the only one. And that simply is not true. When we think and feel like we are the only one, we tend to isolate, to think less of ourselves, we are inclined to shrink back in feeling small and insignificant.
So much of our lives are spent in comparison to others through a lens of social media outlets that leave us feeling less than. And this narrative simply is not true.
The truth is, we matter!
There is a narrative we are told and sold about what our lives are supposed to look like and then there is what God’s word says. I don’t know about you, but I recommend actively pursuing more of what matters - specifically what it looks like to be making disciples. This is a topic that once you gain that clarity, you can and should operate your days with more peace and confidence.
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God often gives us the dream first to help prepare us with hope for the future.
The dreams are what sustained Joseph during extremely difficult circumstances.
And your God-given dreams will sustain you too, no matter what your future holds. How do we stay devoted to our dreams, our family, and our faith when we are in the midst of our holding cell, like the one Joseph experienced?
First, when we doubt God, we must be honest about our feelings and questions. Being honest lets us move toward our relationship with God. Hiding our doubts and questions will keep us stuck and powerless. We will not reach our dreams by accident. We will not end up with a stronger faith after times of trial by default. This is an active stance—a battle.
Second, identify and deal with thoughts that are contrary to what we know to be true about God and His plan for our life. While Joseph was in prison for a crime he didn’t commit, he continued to believe God was in control. When the cupbearer talked about his dream to Joseph, Joseph replied, “Do not interpretations belong to God?” (Gen. 40:8). Abandoned by his family, alone in a foreign country, and wrongfully sentenced to prison, Joseph certainly had an excuse to wonder if God was present.
God has every right to remedy our situation or to let our worst fear come to be. Even if He doesn’t answer the way we want, God is still good and on His throne. Our responsibility is with our faith and actions.
Have you ever wondered if there is more to this life?
Have you ever considered that you were created for influence and to multiply?
Do you consider yourself a person of infuence?
What would it look like if you got abundantly clear on what you were put on this earth to do?
Let's work through what this could look like for you!
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We are created to be fruit bearers. We are created for influence. We are created to multiply our efforts. So what does the activity look like with those outcomes?
Let me also tell you that in this process, never trust your feelings. They are not worthy of your trust.
You need to trust the ONE who guided you to this path and stay on the path with the steps that it takes to remain on the path.
I promise you, that you will gain traction and you will encounter people who will find you and what you are offering that lines up with where they are at and they will value the connection. You most likely will need to continue to broaden your influence and what I mean by that is you have to grow your connections with people.
You are good. But can you be great?!
I am not referring to a life of being content with what you have. Contentment is a mindset.
I believe, as people whose lives are rooted in faith, we walk a fine line between desiring more for this life and having a spirit of contentment. What I will be sharing with you is a perspective around what God is capable of doing through you. When we look at our lives as holy and belonging to HIM, we have a higher understanding that we are His vessels and we need to always be in communication with Him for what He desires we do with our lives for more impact.
We are also called to be living sacrifices. We should be willing to do hard things. Our job is not to arrive safely at the end. Our job is to run this race like it's the one chance we get to run and in the end, God is at the finish line. My desire for you is that you see yourself as a person on-mission to consider yourself LESS and to consider more how God can be glorified in your workplace and with the monetary resources He can generate through you for His kingdom.
Over 20 years ago God opened up space for one of my life’s challenges - a 10 year battle with autoimmunity to be a place that stung, a place that hurt, a place that would render me not present physically, emotionally and sometimes spiritually. I prayed for healing for what seemed like a selfish prayer. And God heard me. But he didn’t just hear me, he prepared me to walk in new freedom both physically, emotionally and spiritually but also to lead others.
Other people’s opinions:
- None of your business
- If those opinions prevent you from doing what you are called to do, they become an idol for you
When you are on mission for meaningful things, you should have one person who you are looking to for validation or approval, and that is YOUR creator.
So unless those people loved you enough to die for you, they should NOT be who you are considering as part of the equation for your ability to impact people in this world.
In case you struggle with having value with your life.
In case you frequently wonder what this life is about anyway.
You are not alone. Most people undervalue who they are.
Once we realize WHOSE we are, we can better understand Who we are.
Then have the audacity to actually believe it!
You are made for more.
Get clear on who God is. Get clear on who you are as a result of who God is and then have the audacity to believe that He desires to do meaningful work through you - the kind of impact that is MORE THAN you can think, ask or imagine.
I actually have the audacity to believe that God desires to do BIG things through me.
Buuuuut, I also have these very conflicting thoughts that accompany that same belief. Its a very confusing mixed message I navigate.
How can you move from doubt to belief in any area of your life?
Maybe you are like me? Maybe you put attention and priority towards things that have no earthly value?
Maybe you struggle with the desire to see and do things that matter most for all of eternity?
God is growing my thought process around doing everything I do as if for the Lord.
He is teaching me that when my heart aligns more with His, that doors open to more of the things that matter most, including the least of these.
Our behaviors leave us clues.
Sometimes our behaviors are not just about the behavior. Many times there is a root cause to our behaviors that we can connect the dots to point to a direction that indicate where our faith, hope and love reside.
Its important to realize and know that there are behaviors that happen as a result of those root fears and lack of trust that can lead us down paths that render us feeling powerless and out of control.
We grab the steering wheel and course correct ourselves into a fetal, helpless inadequate space where we are lacking the fruit we are designed to have.
We have a loving creator that taps into our GPS and says, is this thing on?
When we let his love in, love wins all day.
When you’re in the depths of pain, whether it’s separation from loved ones, financial crisis, marital discord, and the challenges of raising a family, God is not the one who moves. We are the ones who move. We are the ones who remain less faithful. We lose our focus and we become self reliant on how to move through.
Our position is not faithful
God is always faithful to us so why can’t we be faithful to him?
Why do we lose our focus?
Why do we lose our fervency
Since the beginning of time, humanity has always encountered pain, chaos and discord.
When sin entered our world and opened up space for us to always navigate challenge
In the Bible. God‘s word says that we are to consider it joy to have a trial and challenge. And we are in fact, promised to have trial,
I think deep down ultimately no one wants to acknowledge the fact the common denominator we all face is to be in a world that is filled with sinful people.
We are those sinful people.
We have thoughts we have feelings we have emotions that all open up the capacity for us to succumb to arson for nature, but as we grow spiritually, pray and talk to our creator, read God’s word we can strengthen our position to how we navigate these challenges.
Pride keeps us from doing what we can still do.
Shame keeps us in regret.
Pride closes the door to spiritual growth, but humility opens the door of your life to more of God's grace.
In the end,it is because of Jesus’s humility that we can be forgiven of our pride. This life is not about us and we only deserve the wrath of God for our sin. Jesus took the punishment of our pride upon himself at the cross so we are renewed amd made humble like our savior.
Being humbled is not smooth or painless, but it’s our rescue.
Jesus is our rescue from Pride
I want to encourage you to advocate today.
Advocate for your best self. Advocate for your belief that you are worthy of being set free. Advocate that your life matters and that there is more to your life than just existing. That you are made to thrive. You are made for purpose and your body is designed to carry you to that life purpose.
You can take all the dream vacations and live in the dream home and have the dream this and dream that, but if you are not walking out the plans that God has intended for you to live because you don’t sleep great, you don’t have the energy your body is weighed down it's not your calling that is weighing you down, it's your resistance to it.
You have a calling. You should be on mission. You should be making a difference in the lives of others and if there is anything about your body and the state that its in that is not conducive to you getting up each and every day asking yourself whose life can you make better today because you were in it, than I urge you to consider a conversation with me or someone you trust what that looks like for you.
All these areas of our lives are all avenues that God desires to use you, to deliver you from, to give you healing from, to give you hope for the future from and as you allow him to use these things for his Glory, you become more set free. And the more set free you become, the more your life looks and feels like it is made to. Its made to matter.
The narrative in our heads can be flipped like a switch. Remember to acknowledge and ask yourself when you have those limiting thoughts of you, where they are rooted in. Are they true? Are they from God?
A good barometer to ask yourself is whether or not your thought will produce fruit or whether it will produce death and decline.
There are a lot of things that we can delineate for our time in life
I like to think of it in 2 categories
We either invest our time or we spend it
When I think about investing my time in things like my health and fitness or my walk with God, those yield a return. A high rate of return.
And my investment in my body - that is Gods vessel, allows me to yield a higher return on my desires to seek Him, to seek first His kingdom, to do more of the things that matter in this life and to have a conversation one day that yields a return
When I hear those words I long to hear, well done good and faithful servant
We all have things before us we can say yes and no to.
Some will yield a return and others will not.
When you tell other people what you have a decided heart for, you are less likely to have failure find you in that area of life.
You will seek to find solutions in the challenge and you can give permission to those people who you told to help keep you accountable.
With any successful outcome, it will always be preceded by a decision first.
When we decide…
When we have a decided heart vs a divided heart, success will follow.
Why?
Because once the decision is made, the consistent action will follow.
In our humanity
In our very existence
We crave validation - we want to be known and loved
When we move in our calling to impact the lives around us, we will use a source of energy to continue to fuel our desire and that’s based on the energy and validation we get back.
I don’t know a single soul who wouldn’t desire this.
The challenge then becomes how do we continue to choose to be a person, an agent of change, a source of love and light when there is no validation back?
Emotional maturity is when we choose to plug in to the ONE power source that never fails, never leaves & never forsakes us. And that is our creator, God.
You cannot let your feelings be your TRUTH
So my question for you today is
Can you dream bigger?
Should you dream bigger?
Where are you dreaming small?What lies are you believing and can you make them obedient to what God says of you instead of what you believe of you or what you believe the world believes of you.
Don't just pray for the fruit.
Pray for the capacity to hold what you receive.
Pray for the courage and boldness to make big moves.
Pray for a committed heart and conviction when you're operating out of integrity.
Pray for the forgiveness of your past mistakes and when you operate from your flesh.
Pray for the strength in the surrender.
Pray for each investment to become a seed.
Pray for each challenge to stretch you, grow you and heal you.
Pray for those who weren't meant to be in your space to quietly let themselves out.
Pray for the humility and a servant heart.
Don't just pray for the fruit...pray for who you're becoming in the process.
Our thoughts of worry can become feelings that leave us unsettled and uncertain.
So how do we merge thoughts of hope with thoughts of worry?
First we have to ask ourselves: What can we be certain of?
The bible says that God will never leave us or forsake us.
So no matter how bleak it may seem, the truth is we belong to Him and he has us in the palm of his hands.
And while circumstances may not be ideal, or within our desires and hopes, we still belong to God and we are cared for by Him.
Ultimately I believe at the root of these worrisome thoughts we have that can become feelings of anxiousness, is our pride.
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Take a moment to consider the trught that God will exceed anything we can ask or imagine.
I often repeat this back to myself and it lights up my heart every single time. Paul's words in Ephesians encourage me to come to prayer with a bigger outlook about what is possible. I dare you to consider bigger. I dare you to consider bolder in pursuing what is possible with God.
I want to encourage you. Your life goal should not be to arrive at the end safe. We were never called to live safe lives. We are called to hard… good… earth shattering.. hard things and we are promised to be held in every aspect.
The end result of our willingness to do uncomfortable awkward unsuspecting things is a satisfaction that our heavenly father desires to give us. Our character grows the harder things we face. We become stronger and better people. We become fruitful and walking out more and more meaningful things.
I have heard so many stories about people who experience peace when they say no to hard things in life.
Let me tell you, it is ABSOLUTELY peaceful to not be doing meaningful things - especially the things that God has laid in front of us to do.
Its not your calling that burdens you, its your resistance to it that is causing you the pain.
Your calling will crush you, press you down and you will become refined and new in this process. Even when we can't feel it, God is working.
One last thought on the idea of grand gestures. Sometimes we are on the giving end and sometimes we are on the receiving end.
And we base how we receive on the level of our worthiness.
When someone acts grand in our lives, we will internalize that gesture and see ourselves as worthy to receive or not worthy.
Our lives are not on our merit. They are on the merit of God. We would not be here if it were not for Him and his hand over our lives.
I could tell that the first homeowner we were working with, Vivian, was struggling with the idea that we were demonstrating this grand gesture for her and she was grateful we were all that but struggled with the idea of being worthy to receive it.
Her and I talked about it and she shared with me that she has struggles in her life. She struggles to always have pure thoughts, pure words and pure actions. So I shared with her that I do too. And that God doesn’t work that way. He isn’t waiting to lavish his love upon us when we get all of our stuff together. He lavishes it on us, even though we dont’ deserve it.
I also thanked her for her willingness to allow this tragedy in her life because her tragedy gave my life more purpose.
Life can happen to us or it can happen through us.
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Vivian is a single mom, a disabled US Veteran (Navy) She is a 2 x breast cancer survivor. She is an addiction counselor but hasn’t worked since February due to her cancer surgery. She had 2 ft of standing water in her uninsured home from hurricane Ian. She has lost mostly everything. Specifically we would like to start meeting some of her needs by getting her and her daughter a queen bed, bedding, towels, etc. They will be needing a new washer, dryer, referrer (all major appliances had to be discarded) They both lost their cars as well We have both big & small needs to be met here. I believe we can all make a difference together. https://gofund.me/70c01bdc
One last thought on the idea of grand gestures. Sometimes we are on the giving end and sometimes we are on the receiving end.
And we base how we receive on the level of our worthiness.
When someone acts grand in our lives, we will internalize that gesture and see ourselves as worthy to receive or not worthy.
Our lives are not on our merit. They are on the merit of God. We would not be here if it were not for Him and his hand over our lives.
I could tell that the first homeowner we were working with, Vivian, was struggling with the idea that we were demonstrating this grand gesture for her and she was grateful we were all that but struggled with the idea of being worthy to receive it.
Her and I talked about it and she shared with me that she has struggles in her life. She struggles to always have pure thoughts, pure words and pure actions. So I shared with her that I do too. And that God doesn’t work that way. He isn’t waiting to lavish his love upon us when we get all of our stuff together. He lavishes it on us, even though we dont’ deserve it.
I also thanked her for her willingness to allow this tragedy in her life because her tragedy gave my life more purpose.
Life can happen to us or it can happen through us.
If you wish to donate towards one of the amazing homeowners we got to work with in FL is Vivian.
Vivian is a single mom, a disabled US Veteran (Navy) She is a 2 x breast cancer survivor. She is an addiction counselor but hasn’t worked since February due to her cancer surgery. She had 2 ft of standing water in her uninsured home from hurricane Ian. She has lost mostly everything. Specifically we would like to start meeting some of her needs by getting her and her daughter a queen bed, bedding, towels, etc. They will be needing a new washer, dryer, referrer (all major appliances had to be discarded) They both lost their cars as well We have both big & small needs to be met here. I believe we can all make a difference together. https://gofund.me/70c01bdc
So how do we navigate the stormy seas that happen 50% of the time?
1. Acknowledge that storms are a given and will happen - be prepared for that
It doesn’t mean we won’t take on waves or water, it means that how we respond to the wind and waves does.
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What we expose ourselves to can hinder or help our ability to keep our ship headed in the most healthy direction possible.
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When the sun is shining, soak it all in. Absorb that Vitamin D we all need and allow it to penetrate your soul with gratitude for those sunny days.
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When the wind and waves come, know that the author of this life - our creator desires to give us peace despite the storms. He knows every detail of the wind and waves and desires to give us that comfort we all desire to feel even when it feels like the winds will never calm down. He is there for us. We have to simply invite him on board the boat.
What if these were to simply think about making a choice to not let what doesn’t weigh in the balance for all of eternity to not bother them.
Its statistically and humanly possible to always be in agreement with everyone about every thing in life.
Even more so, those statistics get really small in the confines of our very close relationships.
Typically when we are in conflict its because we see things going differently than they are.
Ive always perceived expectations as a thief of our ability to be content.
Our waiting
Our financial challenges
Our health
Our conflict at work
Difficult seasons in life
They happen
They are for a purpose
Sometimes these less than ideal things happen as a result of a poor choice on our part
Sometimes its a poor choice on someone else’s part
Ultimately its not lost on God what’s happening
The bible says that we are not to plan on what we will do on this day or that. I pray and ask God for things according to His will and his plan for my life.
I will never be attached to any outcome that he may allow whether I ask big for something and it happens or whether I don’t.
I could do nothing or I could do something. Something opens up space for BIG somethings and BIG somethings are opportunities for the world to see what our amazing God is capable of doing in and through his people who dream and ask big.
Any opportunity I can get to be around people who talk big, dream big and ask big I am there. These are my people. Like why not? Why not tell God that you are willing to be used by him for him with a purpose, for a purpose and on purpose!
Assume success because God is absolutely for you.
He is for your in your marriage
He is for you in your career
He is for you in your family
He is for you in your ministry
He is for you with your health
Your ability to do - solely rests upon lining up your heart belief with your mind belief and making your thoughts obedient to what Gods word says of you. He is for you.
We - you and I - have the opportunity for God to use us in ways we may not even ask for or imagine, but he does desire to use us.
When we surrender to Him and acknowledge who He is and that no matter what we have or we don’t, that we desire to be His hands and feet so that others can KNOW who He is.
He is caring for others and many times he is doing that through us
We don’t have to worry and others don’t have to worry because God is the orchestrator and we are the instruments of His peace to offer up our lives and the things that are in front of us, time, talent and resources that all belong to him to be used according to his perfect will.
Jesus PURSUED people who were awkward
Jesus pursued people who most people would not pursue
If our lives are looking more and more like His, our life will have conflict and we have a choice of how we see that conflict
Its who we CHOOSE to see
Its who we choose to be
So be offended and see if that moves you in a path of more purpose, more peace and more confidence for the days ahead
Or choose to let God in. Give him a room in your house of life
Allow him to be easily accessible to move in you for peace despite the conflict, despite the chaos and despite the people that say and do hurtful things to us on the regular
And newsflash, sometimes we are those people for other people
Check on your friends, they may not be ok
How are you? Are you ok?
Ask questions. And be honest with others if you are not ok.
We are living in different times
This current state of affairs in our world we are in has opened up space for a lot of confusion, a lot of fear a lot of lack of clarity for what is true and what is false
We are sifting and sorting sifting and sorting through all this uncertainty and all of this “what in the actual” is going on here?
I get it
I am with you
When we lack confidence, we lack hope and when we lack hope - we spiral to darker and darker places
I want you to know that I do have confidence
I do have hope
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Our brains are wired to keep us safe
Our brains are also wired to keep us so that we are right about our thoughts.
So if our thought is, we aren’t a good parent our brain will look for answers that make that a true thought.
If our thought is we could never get that promotion - our brain will look for ways for that to be right
If our thought is, we couldn’t ever achieve a healthier weight, our brain will look for ways for us to be right about that and then subconsciously we put things into place for that to be true
In How we grocery shop
In How we plan our meals
In How we order food from a menu at a restaurant
In how we take daily vitamins and minerals through supplements to help improve our bodies vitality
Most of us go along in life and as we travel we pick up things that we end up not always fully dealing with. We pack them in a backpack on our lives. We hang onto them and overtime those things we pack in and don’t deal with, get heavy. Encountering God in this way - allows you to empty the back pack and gives you tools about how not to repack
How is it that the list of good that we do in this world still can leave us feeling sad? Could I or should I choose something else to do?
Perhaps something less meaningful and less selfless?
But I always talk myself back to watering the grass I am on and being content with where God has me. I pick up my boot straps and I get back at it.
I've always known that this life is not about me.
I have always known that we will face challenges and trials of many kind - it says so in the bible.
So how is it that we can do really good work and still be sad?
The truth is, we have expectations and desires that aren’t always met.
Have you ever found yourself lacking confidence? Have you ever found yourself deflecting compliments?
Have you ever found yourself with low expectations in life?
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We were never designed to compare
It was never intended for us to have a spirit of competition or to feel less than
Sometimes we struggle to see the opportunity and the beauty in the present because we are too busy looking left and right, and allowing the enemy to steal our joy and even worse, we look back far too often in comparison to better days or days that we regret.
I want you to give yourself the best gift of all. I want you to look UP.
I want you to see that God is for YOU
That he has plans for you. To prosper and not harm. To give you a hope and a future.
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Who wins when we choose to go it solo?
We are up against an enemy. God’s adversary. The father of lies who opposes our prince of peace.
Being in community is something God desires and we GET to do it
Choosing to admit we need each other opens up space
Space is freedom
We have choices in this process
We get to choose to trust the One who made us this way
We get to allow others to bridge the gaps in our lives by being on both the giving and the receiving end of honesty, vulnerability and transparency.
Don’t be a part of the broken system BE the solution....
My social media is something I choose. I choose my friends. I choose when and what I choose to say. But never will you catch me making fun of a profession that puts food on the table for a family.
There are a lot of things out there that we can choose to share and participate in whether its social media or even in our belly to belly relationships that simply either hurt or it helps.
Don’t be a part of the broken system BE the solution....
My social media is something I choose. I choose my friends. I choose when and what I choose to say. But never will you catch me making fun of a profession that puts food on the table for a family.
There are a lot of things out there that we can choose to share and participate in whether its social media or even in our belly to belly relationships that simply either hurt or it helps.
Our human flesh is inclined to sin. We live in a world full of sin and people who make grave mistakes. We are subject to it all.
What we have a choice over is how we respond - either as a victim or victorious
When we are without hope, we are without future.Does that sound like God’s plan for your life?
The number one argument in marriage/relationship is about money. Does this resonate with you?
The Bible talks about money in regards to the love of it and how we are to steward it. But what I think ends up being the demise of so many families is there is no plan or agreement about how it is to be spent. Money, how it's spent and not spent shouldn’t be ambiguous. It should be clear and there should be a plan.
When we Dream BIG, we open up space for God to be glorified. Are you limiting what God can do?
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The truth is, The stronger our understanding of our identity in Christ becomes, the more our self-worth grows”.
We have times where we can be insecure, we can feel as though we aren’t good enough or we’re not able to take on big challenges. We feel like maybe we are just a wife or just a mom or just a dad or husband.
You may have asked yourself hard questions like, “God can I really do this? I mean, I know you called me to it, but am I good enough? Why bring me into this when there are people all around who are so much better?” To which the Holy Spirit gently answers and says:
“Just. Stop. Who are you?”
You are a child of God. That can never be threatened or taken from you.
We live in a fallen and broken world. There is no doubt that people disappoint us and we become discouraged. Perhaps we didn’t get a job we wanted or the promotion we thought we deserved. What about a failed relationship or even financial challenges that seem insurmountable.
When you have a challenge before you, there is purpose in front of you!
I am pretty sure we aren’t here on this side of eternity to always be seeking and striving for something different than what we have been given, but rather to trust that if God made us, he doesn’t make junk and we should be happy, content and loving self because its who he made us to be!
I do however believe that what happens on the insides of our bodies overflows to our ability to love ourselves and better yet love others and see ourselves as someone who God can use to leave our mark on this world.
Our health deteriorates when these things happen.
When we eat sugar, carbohydrates, and sugary alcohol and beverage - that feeds the yeast in our bodies and when yeast grows, it becomes a beast of brain fog, sugar cravings, mood swings, increased belly fat, indigestion, acid reflux, bloating, gas, IBS, thyroid dysfunction, constipation, diarrhea, headaches, insomnia, lack of concentration, anxiety, sadness, fatigue, allergies, acne, eczema, low sex drive and join pain.
How do you do with recall of that year? So many of us have people we know who are no longer with us. How do you recall or even honor a time of life that hurt so many people. Some people find their voice in tragedy and some people lose it. Sometimes we even lose our voice because we can’t articulate our truest thoughts.
I will not lie and tell you there were times (not extended) but brief times where I felt speechless. Would what I would want to say be received well? Would it seem inconsiderate to the people around me? Was it something that would resonate with others? Would it validate me to hear other people are feeling the same thing?
This is the narrative I tell myself every day.
There is not a day that goes by where I don’t have doubt or fear creep in. They usually go hand in hand. Not a day that goes by where the enemy tries to ask me just like he asked Eve, “is this really what God said?” Is this really what God has called you to? Because THIS right here is hard. This is uncomfortable. Would God really want YOU to be uncomfortable? Would he ask you to do something or some things that you dont desire to do?
You see the enemy doesn’t have to hurt us to take us down to become ineffective. He only has to create doubt. He only has to remind us to be comfortable and operating in what we deserve….
Is this really what God said?
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My question for you, is are you on the road to where God desires you to be? What will you do there? Do you know where you are going and is God in it?
Have you prayed and sought him for what he wants versus what you want
I know so many people who put limitations on their lives for what God can do based on what they want. It’s sad to see. It's sad to see people with limiting belief for what God can do.
I have done a lot of assumptions in my life. I assume that if I work hard and make a great living that I can live accordingly right? If I can build this home or buy a home in a certain area that I deserve to live there? Just because we can do certain things, doesn’t mean we should. We are learning that God blesses us so we can bless others and that those worldly things we think we want, need and deserve will fade but the legacy of what we leave behind matters more. Are you willing to give up something you love, for something you love more? The world certainly does a great job at applauding us for the vacations we take, the houses we live and the socioeconomic statuses we have but is that what THIS life is about? Is that the end game?
Clearly, God responds. He wants our relationship with Him to be our consuming passion—what we think about, what we talk about, what we’re constantly hungry for more of and willing to do anything for—because He knows once we’ve experienced His manifest presence, our appetites will be whetted for more. And more. Those in the Scripture who didn’t let obstacles become excuses for not seeking Him, or back down at others’ disapproval of their unabashed appeals for mercy, or give in to the despair of delay but latched on to Him for dear life—they received what God was obviously willing to give them.
How does a mom get to a point where she leaves her kids husband and kids with no plan to come back?
Why did I feel like leaving the 4 people I loved the most was the only option and
why why why was a person who has tremendous faith and hope at the point of hopelessness?
I thought that if I left, that would distance me from the sadness, from anxiety and from the hopelessness.
But the truth is, they were not the source of my stress and anxiety…
You know the ripple effect that would and could happen if more people were living the life they are designed to live??
there would be less lack of confidence, less lack of hope, less muddy waters for what this life is about. The more we see the world through the lens of expecting things to be “not bad” vs less bad, we can move on smartly with purpose, for purpose and on purpose.
We are very much a socially connected and driven society. We value and connect with other people. We see ourselves in others and others see themselves in us.
We trust that connection. We were made to have that connection. Think about why this matters so much to God. He is a God of relationship- he made us. He desires to be connected to us and when we are connected to Him and connected to others - those he also created - we become conduits, we become a catalyst. But catalyst is a choice. We all have the opportunity to choose to be a catalyst.
Somewhere along the lines, our mindset around money has become compromised. We tell ourselves a story that we can’t have both ministry and money or that if we have extra time, it should be devoted to ministry work.
I believe that wherever we go as Christ followers, its ministry because He lives in US and people who we come in contact with Get us.
If I didn’t have the revenue that I have, I would not be able to give what I give. Not only does what I do for a living provide for our family, it provides for others.
What is also unique about what I do in my industry, is that not only can I equip people to healthier lifestyles, the company I am partnered with, provides the ability for people to earn extra income for their household.
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This is a very difficult topic for discussion. I imagine it could potentially even stir up some unsettled feelings for some people too. I know it does for me. I know I have ways that I can grow in this topic as well. I have been hurt. I know other people have been hurt by people who are different than us, who have different life views, different lifestyle choices and are simply different. But different is the way we are created. Not one of us is alike. We all have aspects to the way God has created us that we can choose to see as polarizing or we can choose to celebrate in a more positive unified manner.
Apathy -
Indifference and Passivity - the root of these 3 light dimmers is pride and self
We want to look good. We want to feel good. We want to feel valued and recognized.
No where in the Bible does it say we will always feel our best, look our best or feel valued.
Those thoughts and feelings are around self.
When we find Joy - we are thinking about Jesus first, we are thinking about others second and we think about the “you” which is us last.
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My question for you is what are you hesitating in right now? What is holding you back? What is the bigger picture of what will be accomplished when you move in more freedom and to not be held back in hesitation. What story are you telling yourself that simply isn’t true because your brain is wired to keep you safe?
Hesitation is a spirit and it has a powerful way of holding us back from more and more fruit in our lives. It's exactly where the enemy desires us to be and I am calling him out and saying not today. Today the victory belongs to the Lord for me and it can be for you too.
So when we look at our friends list and see we have 1000 friends and only 3 people liked or loved a social media update - we place value on our lives based off what we see as “not happening” or happening as a validation that we are on the right path. We focus on the 997 people who didn’t validate us!
We are also programmed to pull the plug on what we put our hands to in life when what we are doing seems like it's not rendering fruit or benefit right?
I don’t know anyone who wants to be known as the person who continued to pursue something that wasn’t working because it makes us look stupid, inferior and unintelligent. Like who does that? Who pursues something that doesn’t appear to be rendering a positive result?
We are similar to a tree. We can have things in life happen that disappoint us, discourage us, sadden us and when we allow these things to deteriorate us, we erode on the inside. On the outside we are still living breathing normal appearing human beings but on the inside we are not even close to structurally sound. We are either sound or we are compromised.
It's ok to have less than desirable things happen in our life but we can’t let them erode us. God didn’t give us a spirit of defeat and if you are experiencing defeat its a choice. We choose to rise or we choose to erode.
These choices impact our ability to stand tall and walk in confidence in who we are created to be.
We will always have many areas we can put our hands to - in fact, its pretty much limitless what we could say yes to each and every day.
Sometimes though we say no to awkward, uncomfortable and challenging and tell ourselves a story that we don’t need to be in that kind of chaos and the truth is, we are already equipped to walk through the fire and have the ability to come out not smelling like smoke
What are you saying no to right now because you fear it will be a reflection of your lack of self trust?
You my friend are worthy of being trusted and you don’t need to compromise your ability to have impact
Trust that God will equip you every step of the way for what is already laid before you.
When you trust what is before you, you will be a great steward because we are a whole number - we are complete with God as our best power partner. When we are stewarding what is before us, we can multiply, expand and have joy and peace in the process.
What I see as injustice - something that breaks my heart is where I see people who are alive but are not living. Who have become master negotiators. They negotiate away the more meaningful things because they lack belief and hope for what is possible through them. We move in belief or we move in disbelief. Yes we can move in disbelief -its called putting our time and energy to things that don’t matter most. Being alive vs living.
Living is knowing what God has put you here on this earth to do and doing it.
If you acknowledge to him - by writing it out - he will provide the opportunities for you to do those things.
I do value what other people receive from me. But I should not be concerned or worried about how it is perceived. I cannot change people's perceptions because people see others based on a reflection of self. We don’t want to feel poorly about ourselves, so we will see other people in a way that justifies and protects who we are. We begin seeing things like a limited wardrobe as a way to help us feel better about ourselves.
You cannot compete with me sister or brother, I want you to be successful too.
We have the opportunity every day - every hour - to see our struggles that we face as opportunities to trust God, to step into the victory he has already laid out for us and to declare our ability to win even before the battle takes place. We don’t have to wrestle. When we are wrestling we are ultimately struggling with a mindset that hasn’t been declared victorious
So my friends. I have a question for you. In the key areas of your life.
Marriage, family, ministry, work,
Is there any area where you are shrinking back? Where you are not showing up? Where have you have disappeared because you are hurt, angry, frustrated?
Are you willing to work through and seek forgiveness from anyone you many have hurt? Can you extend forgiveness to anyone who has hurt you and choose to move in more peace and freedom?
These are all choices we make. I am choosing to not allow those around me who don’t know who there were created to be (yet) dictate how I operate in who I am created to be.
So many people are surviving life waiting for the time, waiting for the resources, waiting to get better at things before they start something impactful and that is a lie. We already have everything we need. Stop getting ready to get ready. The only thing standing between you and what you are called to do is you. And, I am a BIG believer in choice. We choose what we put our hands to and we choose what holds us back.
Time - is a commodity. We either invest it or we spend it. When we invest our time in meaningful things, those yield a return. Some will yield an earthly return where we get to see the fruit of it here and now and in our days here on earth ahead. Some will be things that will matter for all of eternity. Doing those things that matter most to God - like loving others and being in relationship with our creator.
When I think about everything that happens in our world on a daily basis - especially this past year. Unprecedented things have happened. Things happened that we couldn’t dream up. Things that appear it would be a fictional movie played out before our eyes.
But the truth is, no matter what is happening in the world - what creates muddy waters are our roles in the thick of it all. We are always going to have things happening we don't understand. We are always going to have things happening that are less than ideal and discouraging.
This can be stressful and it can blindside us to the point of paralysis or we can ask God - what is my role in this? How can you use me for the plans you have for me? How can I be a light in this dark situation?
When we are clear on Gods will for our lives, no matter what is happening around us - we can navigate it with hope or we can navigate it with nope.
Hope says use me despite it
Nope says, its too hard and I cant
Stewardship is a concept that God asks us to test him with. God wants to know we trust him. He wants us to turn back over what he has generously given us so that we can see how he is faithful. We can’t see his faithfulness when we don’t turn over what rightfully belongs to Him anyway. Time is his. Money is his. The talents we have, he gave us. He desires us to test him with what we have, turn it back over to him and ask him to use us to show his faithfulness.
This year has been unearthing for so many. It’s actually painful to think about the magnitude of pain we have navigated as a society, The disappointment that we all experienced on so many levels.
But how much really will change when that clock moves?
It will reflect an opportunity. It will reflect hope for better days ahead. But what if we don’t experience that?
Will we be ok?
What would you consider the good life? Dream job? Dream vacations? Dream kids making dream decisions that paint this beautiful picture to be a reflection of how we raised them?
When I think about what the world says and what God says, they don’t really line up quite the same.
How in the world do you know where to go on a day to day basis if you don’t know what the end game is?
But there is The space between contentment and striving for more that gets me every time. Why do I have such a strong drive and so often I feel that it conflicts with the inner desire to just be content with what I have.
Why can’t what I have be good enough?
I have found that looking around at others for my barometer for contentment leaves me feeling empty and sad and like I am missing out. But when I stop and think about what I do experience in my life on a regular basis, I have soooo much to be thankful for and when I list and acknowledge those things, I feel so much better.
Why do the Sally’s and the Joe’s in our life always seem to get what we want?
Politics - who will be the next leader of our country?
We are divided as a nation on some major life impacting topics
We are navigating a world wide pandemic
The truth is - we want the truth.
The truth is - we may never get it
The truth is - lies are being told
I don’t know about you but I don’t like being deceived and I certainly don’t like being lied to.
I don’t consider myself as a person who doesn’t speak the truth at all times but I do sometimes have a story that I tell that protects people from being hurt that is not always 100% the truth.
Have you ever sent a text or an email to someone and you don’t get a reply back? And then later that night you are laying in bed; maybe you had fallen asleep and woke up and wondered why they hadn’t replied or maybe you can’t even fall asleep thinking about what could possibly be the reason they haven’t responded.
If I had a nickel for every time someone has told me they “just saw my message" or "oh my gosh, I just realized I never hit send"….. I would be independently wealthy.
Maybe it's just me. Maybe it’s the people I am in relationship with? Maybe it’s the type of questions I ask. I do a lot of communicating with people in my practice via email or text in follow up and checking in to see how they are doing on their wellness journey.
Maybe it's not just me and maybe this does happen to you?
There is no doubt we are navigating a very confusing worlds with things happening we never anticipated and with behaviors that are inconceivable
When we don’t understand whats happening around us, how can we possibly consider the solution that we need
When we lack clarity we are confused. When we are confused we are paralyzed and when we are paralyzed we are ineffective - whether it be spiritually or physically.
I wonder what would happen if we quit quitting?
I wonder what would happen if we started to believe and stayed in belief?
I wonder what would happen if we feared less and "faithed" more
I wonder what would happen if we saw a solution to every challenge?
I wonder what would happen if we asked ourselves when faced with difficult things we don’t want to do, is this about me or is it about someone else?
I wonder what would happen if we relied on God more and self less?
I wonder what would happen if we said, I can’t but God CAN?
Part of stewardship is recognizing who you are - who created you -what he is capable of doing through you and then walking it out like you believe it’s possible not because it seems plausible but because God is possible. So many people look to what is in front of them, what is behind them and minimize what is possible ahead of them because they are looking to what they are capable of doing instead of what God is capable of doing through them.
There isn’t a measure stick for what we go through but there is an opportunity in there somewhere to see it for the good that can and will unfold as a result of how we choose to navigate through it. We may not ever have proof or evidence or anything tangible that will ever comfort us that the good is offsetting the bad - we just have to remain hopeful that the one who provides peace hope and comfort for no matter what we face is always there and waiting for us to seek our eyes on him and ask him - what is my role in this that you can use me for good!
When we lack certainty we lack confidence and when we lack confidence we lack hope. Our whole world could shut down and if we held hope, we would be ok because hope is what propels us for tomorrow to be better days ahead. When hope is lost - the will follows. Can we have hope when all seems hopeless? Is what we thought to be certain giving us a false sense of hope for what matters most?
1. Accept responsibility for our thoughts
2. Your mind - not just your behavior - must change.
3. Think through your problems rather than just react to them.
4.Take your disabling thoughts captive through confession.
5. Choose to focus your thoughts on the right things.
6. It is possible
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There will never be “overness” to the people who have been sick. There will never be an over to those who who have lost loved ones. Life will go on but the impact we all choose to have remains the same - it is up to us who we choose to be. I choose to be different. I choose to be stronger, wiser, more disciplined and by all means I will see things with a tremendous amount of more gratitude from the things like my backyard and the space it is providing us in a time of quarantine and the lens I will choose to look though is with more compassion for those who throughout this whole experience who put their lives on the line for mine.
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When we are living in relapse we are not making progress towards the point to it all.
God desires to give us wisdom on our lives. He showed us in the bible how the wisdom he gave Solomon was for the purpose of stewarding what God had given Him. He was given much and Solomon prayed for God to give him the wisdom to know what to do day in and day out with all that God had given him.
Do you see yourself as having much? What if we thanked God in advance for the much he has given us, believing that what he has trusted us with- he desires us to have the wisdom to know what to do with that which he has given. The more we understand who He is, what He desires for our lives then we are less likely to experience the relapse.
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I know there are more areas of my life I could be covering with more prayer. I have some solid things to which I stand and know that when I consider 4 things in making the bigger decisions - especially that impact our family with finances, income, and various ministries to pursue I want to share those things with you.
You can never go wrong with being prepared - whether we are navigating a health crisis like we are today with the coronavirus or whether we are simply navigating the every day challenges our immune system is constantly being challenged by
80% of our immune system comes from our digestive system. It's often referred to as the second brain of our body. And for good reason. Have you ever heard the saying, go with your gut feeling ? That is your second brain talking. Intuitively it knows. And intuitively its more easily and readily compromised
What compromises it?
I have had a crazy amount of impact in my 48 years of life - but the most impact I started having is when I said yes to faith and shut the door on the 4 letter F word FEAR and chose to step out in FAITH, losing the ability to have it all together and have every t crossed and i dotted for how it will look. It’s not about how it looks. It's about how we obey. It's about who we choose to be! God's word is very clear - lacking nothing for our ability to have the life we are designed to live. https://choosing-the-best-you.teachable.com/p/choosing-the-best-you
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Hurt people, hurt people. I have been hurt by people who have been hurt and I have also - typically unknowingly hurt people. Sometimes we say and do things out of fear of what other people will think of us - sometimes we do it because we lack clarity and confidence in who we are and why our story here on this side of eternity matters.
We ALL have to grow! None--NONE-- of us will ever reach a pinnacle of tip top growth. We all will need to continue to grow! But others may be more knowledgeable than we are at a specific time. To be coachable is not to surrender or give someone else your power! Quite the opposite! To be coachable, you are becoming more powerful.
Being teachable means you’re leaving your pride or jealousy pedestal for the possibility that there’s something you haven’t learned yet that could make you even better.
We don’t have to wonder if it’s God will for us to live in freedom of the gift of forgiveness and when we choose to not release this and turn it over, we are not in His will for our lives.
His will is freedom. His will is forgiveness - its why he sent his son for us - to forgive us and to forgive others. We can’t say what he did was good enough for us, but its not good enough for the person who hurt us
Sometimes in our minds we decide that not releasing people from hurting us is getting even
The truth is, we can’t be free until we let go of the grudge
The truth is, At some point you are going to need someone to forgive YOU and we want to be forgiven right?
I have a question for you
I really want you to think about it. Have you ever grumbled about something that has happened that was supposed to be a really good thing and you experienced disappointment with it? Ya, me too.
Have you ever expressed frustration with a desired experience that didn’t go as planned?
What about an area of life that you serve or volunteer? Have you ever grumbled in that?
I believe we can turn our perspective on any given situation when we truly focus on what is good.
Can you believe we GET TO........
Its not uncommon that no matter what we pursue - the discouragement that we allow to stake up camp turns into the spirit of defeat. The longer we ruminate in discouragement, the sooner the spirt of defeat stakes up camp.
Life happens to us all. We all experience setbacks, derails and we come to forks in the road that we sometimes choose that aren’t as ideal for where we desire to go in reaching our goals.
Can we change the past? Is there anything we can do?
If I were to tell you I have a way for you to reach your optimal weight and it would be easy would you do it?
If I had a way to help you bring in more money to your household and told you it would be easy would you do it?
If I had a way that would show you how to pick out the perfect spouse and spend the rest of your life in bliss and it would be easy, would you do it?
If I had a way to help you have a purpose with your life and told you it would be easy would you do it?
The truth is the answer to all the above is that it’s worth it. But in reality it’s going to be hard. The question is will you still do it?
Anything worth it WILL BE HARD
Get clear on the fact that God allows things in our lives that are not about us
Sometimes we make decisions in our free will that have consequences and those decisions and those consequences are something we can CHOOSE to learn and grow from and ask God the very powerful question, what can YOU do with this THROUGH me?
This is our purpose. This is our life. This is what we are here for. To have a life that is lived with purpose, for purpose and on purpose
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Purpose
I want you to think for a second. Off the top of your head - if time and money were not a consideration - the check is blank and being funded by a bank that has agreed to fill in the dollar amount for you and make it happen. Time is not a concern. What is it you would love to do? Your dreams. What is on your heart is not an accident. It's not unattainable. When you look at it as possible based off of your means - you are looking through your human eye as what when God desires to put his glasses on you to see what He is capable of doing through you.
2020 is your year of less regrets and more of what matters! Listen to hear about how you TOO can have layers upon layers of purpose in both the ordinary and the EXTRAordinary in this life. Don't be fooled by what the world tells you matters. What is that thing that sets your soul on fire? Let's discover how to do more of that together!
When it comes to people - and painful situations, its not uncommon for us to flee and run. I am not talking about a person who is physically, emotionally or verbal hurtful. I am talking about awkward situations where words or experiences unfold and we often don’t know how to navigate it.
We live in a culture where we can say and do just about whatever we want and the boundaries can become quite blurry sometimes. Especially when it comes to being hurt by people. When people are hurt, oftentimes they will hurt other people as a direct reflection of their own pain or insecurity.
Who or what are you "fleeing" from? What is a healthy response? Will you grow through it or go? Flee or face?
The truth is we have everything we need already need to be a great witness to everything we put our hands to. We simply lack the belief and resolve to be the best witness we can possibly be.
What do you believe? What kind of witness are you to what you believe?
Our kids our watching. Our peers are watching. Our colleagues are watching. Our friends and family are watching.
We can enroll people into what we believe based off of our actions and our efforts to be very intentional with the lives we live and know that everything we do matters.
All of our thoughts, words and actions matter - especially because we KNOW the truth. Sometimes the only witness to our actions, words and thoughts are between us and God. Just because others can’t see what we are thinking or doing, doesn’t mean it’s not being witnessed by the One who made us and the One who knows all. Let me help you move in more purpose! Join my program in 2020! https://choosingthebestyou.com/purpose
What area of your life are you not all in with? Marriage? Family? Job? What is at the root of your lack of commitment? Are you lacking belief for what is possible?
We line up what God wants with what we want. We line up what is able not based on what we are capable of, but who is capable in and through us.
Ephesians 3:20 - this has been my life verse this year and it has helped me o move in more of what I know I can’t, but God can.
Now to He who is able, to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us!
You don't always have to know the "how" to get to the end result.
Open hands opens space for others to receive Hope
My interview with Executive Director of Grace Church on the Hope First initiative to provide space for those who are navigating the decision to move further and further away from addiction and more into a life of sobriety and freedom.
Do you have limited belief in what is possible in this life?
Do you believe you were created for significance?
Do you desire a more magnified life?
Is there more to this life?
What is the narration happening in your mind?
Whatever we aren’t believing we are choosing. We have a choice in how we move in belief of every aspect of our lives.Whatever we aren’t believing in we are building a case against
What we aren't believing we aren't receiving
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What are you in a hurry for right now that perhaps you need to be more patient with?
What area of your life could God be growing you to trust Him more with his timing and his ways?
Somehow we have managed to become more advanced in our ability to do things quicker, yet still run late and still are strapped for time. Why are we in such a hurry?
When your message and your mission in clear, you will have clarity on where you are going, the confidence to operate more and more of what is in alignment for high quality, high producing fruit for what matters most in your life!
Perhaps we are in a hurry to learn that what we think will fill that space in our soul will give us true peace and satisfaction only to learn that what we thought would yield the result we wanted, only left us stressed and worn out pursuing the rush of what falls void on this side of eternity.
As someone who is walking in more fruit for what matters most, I can tell you that it is so worth learning these things sooner rather than later.
I really think we rush what we lack confidence and clarity on. We hope it sticks and works.
Don’t wait another day not knowing what it is you are called to so that you pace it out in a way that gives you peace in your heart and alignment with what matters most on this side of eternity.
Let’s link arms with me and work through this in the most meaningful manner possible
I have a succinct program to put you though that will help you tap more into what I call the good life - the life God intended you to live with purpose, for purpose and on purpose!
Today should be a defining day. A day where you choose to have clarity on where you are going with what is in alignment with your mission and what to say yes to, what to say no to and what spaces will fill your soul as you move through this side of eternity with more and more understanding of what you are called to do! I have this clarity. I am on mission. I am saying yes more and more to the things that matter most to me. I am slowing down but with urgency in my heart to succinctly go from message to mission! When your message is clear your mission is possible!
Go to www.choosingthebestyou.com Click on the Box that says the good life - fill it out and put in the message box, you are ready to tap into the good life - and lets get you moving in more clarity for what matters most to you!
The purist form of courage is to rescue other people! I value helping people heal the root imbalance of what hold us back for having a healthy gut and therefore a healthy mind! The physiological set back so many of us are encountering with anxiety is taking away our ability to be the best version of us.
I have a plan and a system to help heal this root imbalance and I want to help YOU or someone you love.
www.choosingthebestyou.com
Do people light up when you walk into a room or do they light up when you walk out? Listen to how my son is the one at college but I am the one who learned something today. How we make people feel will leave a mark that will not be forgotten!
Is truth relevant? Do you struggle with the idea of what others are thinking about you? Have you ever had someone say something about you that wasn't true? Let's chat about the dynamic of how to own your true self, own your truth!
Have you ever been hangry? Do you crave sugar and it seems unexplainable? Can you make it through your day without having an afternoon crash? Do you sleep great? Do you have hormone compromise? Let me explain the science behind all this and MORE!
How are you at making decisions? Indecision is a decision. People follow people with clear vision on where they are going. If we aren't changing, we are choosing!
What does it mean to have a fruitful marriage? How do you thrive rather than just thrive? What does God say about the two being better than 1? Marriage matters to God, so it matters to us.
Do you have goals? Do you have a plan? Do you believe you were created for more? Do you self sabotage over the holidays with food and beverage? Is it possible to go through the holidays with more focus, more purpose and a plan for success?
Check out what I found when I fasted and prayed for 30 days! The peace that came was ordained!
What is it about our lives that we have unhealthy relationship with? What are we loving and what are we quickly kicking to the curb that "isn't working for us" What are we investing in that God loves that develops character and perseverance that matters most?
What do you need resolve for in life? If what we are doing doesn't matter, we don't move!
How we spend our time often leaves us feeling bankrupt as the most precious commodity we spend. How can you maximize your spend to yield the highest return possible?
Do you believe you are capable of having impact?
What does that kind of life look like?
What kind of story are you telling yourself surrounding the impact God desires you to have?
There are many things that create imbalance on a physiological level for our bodies and those imbalances take away our ability to be the best version of us. How is the second brain of your body doing?