Eros Meets Agape: Recent Episodes
Saudia L. Twine, Ph.D. |Marriage & Family Therapist|Relationship Expert|Men
Let’s be honest, love can be difficult to understand and achieve. Everyone can build a healthy and loving relationship but only when we recognize that the passion and intimacy of Eros love must meet the unconditional and sacrificial love of Agape. Join us bi-weekly as your host, Dr. Saudia, a licensed marriage and family therapist and minister as she navigates the hard conversations about love, sex, marriage and relationships leading you to give and receive the love you both want and need.
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Understanding relationships can be like walking through a mine field. You just don’t know where the issues are until you come across it. Many of us, have heard some things about relationships and marriage and believe it as gospel. But, it depends. Believing some things to be fact can be detrimental, especially if you confront your partner with a myth. I’m here to dispel common myths in our relationships. Don’t always believe the hype!!!
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Let’s be honest, love can be difficult to understand and achieve. Everyone is able to build a healthy and loving relationship but only when we recognize that the passion and intimacy of Eros love must meet the unconditional and sacrificial love of Agape. The Eros Meets Agape podcast is where matters of the heart meets real talk. Join your host, Dr. Saudia Twine, a licensed marriage and family therapist and minister as she navigates the hard conversations about love, sex, marriage and relationships leading you to give and receive the love you both want and need. Did you know that only 25% of couples are happily married? Do you spend more time thinking about the conversations and time you used to spend together? Do you find your partner doesn’t want to talk anymore or do the things you used to do together? These are all the things that you did that helped you to fall in love with one another. So what changed? I’m sharing the answers in today’s episode.
Let’s be honest, love can be difficult to understand and achieve. Everyone is able to build a healthy and loving relationship but only when we recognize that the passion and intimacy of Eros love must meet the unconditional and sacrificial love of Agape. The Eros Meets Agape podcast is where matters of the heart meets real talk. Join your host, Dr. Saudia Twine, a licensed marriage and family therapist and minister as she navigates the hard conversations about love, sex, marriage and relationships leading you to give and receive the love you both want and need.
COVID-19 has changed many of our lives. Many of us in the US are on a stay at home status and quarantined. How do we survive our new life of work from home, unemployment, home schooling, caring for our children, aging parents, or just dealing with our new normal? What happens when we are the extrovert and need to be out and about interacting with others but can’t? Or what if you’re the introvert and while being at home is your thing, you are sharing your space with someone and can’t seem to find the time to be alone? What do you do? How do you manage? I’m talking to introverts and extroverts, sharing tips on how to manage during the quarantine.
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Let’s be honest, love can be difficult to understand and achieve. Everyone is able to build a healthy and loving relationship but only when we recognize that the passion and intimacy of Eros love must meet the unconditional and sacrificial love of Agape. The Eros Meets Agape podcast is where matters of the heart meets real talk. Join your host, Dr. Saudia Twine, a licensed marriage and family therapist and minister as she navigates the hard conversations about love, sex, marriage and relationships leading you to give and receive the love you both want and need. Sometimes without us even being aware, we can allow the pain from our past to affect our present relationship. If you have ever experienced a conversation where you fear something happening in your present relationship because you’re being triggered of mental reminders from the past. The person you’re with now, may not have even said or done anything but you assume they will do the same thing as the previous person, or will turn out to be like everyone else. Yep…that’s called baggage. On today’s show we’re identifying some common baggage issues, and discussing what each type says and how it appears in the relationship.
Let’s be honest, love can be difficult to understand and achieve. Everyone is able to build a healthy and loving relationship but only when we recognize that the passion and intimacy of Eros love must meet the unconditional and sacrificial love of Agape. The Eros Meets Agape podcast is where matters of the heart meets real talk. Join your host, Dr. Saudia Twine, a licensed marriage and family therapist and minister as she navigates the hard conversations about love, sex, marriage and relationships leading you to give and receive the love you both want and need.
Guess what?! Circumstances in life can cause you to experience moments where you question yourself, question your worth and question whether or not you have what it takes to move you from point A to point B. It is in these moments that we get anxious either questioning the decisions of our past or those of our future. Today’s episode we’re discussing anxiety and how to cope.
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We’ve caught up with Silas to see how he’s making progress with his love interest. To refresh your memory, Silas had been stalled for a while due to being overwhelmed with the prospect of having ‘a hard conversation’. While this conversation is important to his life goals, he has to balance the right temperament, tone and understanding while navigating this important discussion. Let’s find out if he has made progress and see where he is headed in his quest for love.
Recently, Kobe Bryant and his daughter Gianna Bryant were 2 of the 9 sounds lost on Sunday, January 26, 2020. Death can always make us become introspective and take inventory on what matters most. In this world, we all want love. The way to get it, is to give it. Today’s on the couch episode I share with you the various ways in which we spread love. Sometimes we lose our focus because of what is not taking place. I am sharing with you the many reasons why and how you can spread love. You never know how much someone may need your encouraging word, smile and love.
Sometimes we think we don’t really want a relationship…until we do. Maybe you’ve been here before. You didn’t think you would like her or him…but you do. That’s when we find ourselves caught in something that we can’t define. Left with no title. Not really able to stake a claim. No voice. And while we enjoy their time, we don’t know how we are going to move from this to a relationship. No one wants to be here but…you are. Let’s learn how to avoid getting involved in a situation-ship.
What does it really mean to be successful? Whose definition of success do we use to define the term? Is professional achievement a happenstance in light of one’s singleness or is it the result of being able to find a healthy professional and personal balance in one’s life? I’m asking the questions to dispel the myth that singleness isn’t a death sentence but instead the perfect place to be while one is becoming the best version of themselves possible. Join my special guests, Dr. Keiva Bland, Judge Kameshia Gant and Dr. Brendesha Tynes as they share their experience in living the single life.
It’s my favorite time of year…the Christmas holiday season. While I feel relaxed, in my element, and winding down from the numerous tasks and projects I do throughout the year, I also know that for some people this season is extremely difficult to navigate for various reasons. Some have experienced breakups and didn’t expect to be alone this holiday. Others are grappling with grief/loss of a loved one or experiencing depression or another mood disorder. Others become anxious due to the commercializing of holiday expectations and visits from family. Either way, the holiday season can be difficult. I brought in my colleagues to answer some questions and provide tips on dealing with changes in relationships, experiencing trauma, and managing and coping with grief/loss during this holiday season. Join us as we provide our go to tips for having the best Christmas and New Year possible!!
It’s been a while since we’ve check in on Silas as he continues his journey to be ready for love. Being avoidant, Silas has learned that leading emotionally sensitive conversations are challenging. Many avoidants feel this way. Will he have the conversation he needs to have? Will he employ the tools he has learned thus far? Silas wants to love and be loved, but what is really getting in his way? Is it love itself or how he chooses to approach love when he has the opportunity to have it. Let’s find out as we near the close of his relationship journey to finding the love and life he desires.
When we are on the road to healing emotionally, we can create roadblocks that prevent us from reaching our full healing potential. In order to live our best life, we have to stop ourselves from doing destructive things. They don’t have to be major deterrents, but they can be deterrents nonetheless. It’s called self-sabotage. What are they? How do we do this while being unaware? Listen to my countdown of the top 12 steps to overcoming this negative cycle.
I think we have all heard at least one couple that gets into a heated argument with their spouse and one person threatens ‘divorce’. It’s used as a tactic to get one person in line. But how effective is this? Divorce should not be used as punishment. It shouldn’t be used at all. There are some couples who truly have severe problems in their relationship, which if not discussed, and emotional closeness is not restored, their relationship begins to fail. So what are these warning signs? Let’s listen in as we discuss The 4 Horsemen. Research shows that 96% of couples who experience all 4 of these behaviors in their relationship, if they continue, then the threat of divorce, soon becomes reality.
When we think of depression we tend to focus on that of our youth or women. However, 30% men suffer from depression. Signs and symptoms vary but look differently from that of women. Today we’ll talk with filmmaker and graphics designer, Charles Kennedy. His upcoming film Affliction deals with mental health of an African American male. He shares his personal journey overcoming depression. For more information you can follow Charles Kennedy at IG: afflictionmovie and www.CharlesKennedyJr.com
So it’s been a while since we’ve last spoken with Silas. Has he been following the suggestions he’s been given? Or has his roadblocks deterred him altogether? It’s time to check in and it’s time to get real. Today we have our come to Jesus talk with Silas as we find out about his journey and if he’s truly ready for love.
If you’re grappling with a broken heart and you want to shake your way out of this you’ll want to hear this episode. Or if you get depressed this episode will be an eye opener. Although I’m not counseling you in this session, I will go through a tool that starts you on the road towards healing. We’re going to experience “The Trip In”.
You’ve been there before. Someone did something that seems unforgivable…or is it? We’ve all been hurt. But in order to move forward, and to even heal, do we need to forgive? Should we forgive? Does forgiveness mean reconciliation? Does forgiving someone absolve them from the wrong that was done? So many questions to ask. I have Dr. Tezonia Morgan a forgiveness expert shares her personal journey and educates our listeners on the subject of forgiveness. She teaches us how to walk through the process but most importantly, learning that the decision to forgive is a choice that benefits you and not the other person. To work with Dr. Tezonia Morgan or to purchase her Forgiveness workbook please contact her at: Wings of Virtue 21751 W. 11 Mile Rd. Ste 105 Southfield, MI 48076 248-327-6099 www.wingsofvirtue.org
In order to find love, we have to put ourselves out there. We actually have to put ourselves in positions that make us open and vulnerable to others. Last we met with Silas, we encountered some road blocks. In our chat, we check in to see if he has made progress as well as to share some thoughts to possible resistance he has created that could prevent him from finding the love he wants in life. Hey guys I’m hosting a free webinar on October 27, 2019. To receive the link to the webinar go to: https://www.subscribepage.com/ABCs2BetterLove
Every kids imagines growing up with both parents. But what happens when that picture does not become your reality? Moms are known for loving their sons and girls are known for loving their dads. But what happens when your dad is not around? Chooses not to be in your life? How do you learn how to love yourself when the person who should have been there wasn’t? How do you learn how to be loved? A parent is the most influential person in a child’s life. Their presence as well as their absence can shape who we become. Will hear from two special ladies as they share their stories and how the absence of their father affected their lives. But don’t believe their stories end in tragedy. They share how they learn to find their inner strength and to be able to choose the right type of man who is worthy of their love. You’ll listen to them overcome tragedy to triumph. Make sure to follow us on these social media platforms: @erosmeetsagape
Parenting in 2019 can be challenging to say the least. If you are a new mom and have many voices in your ear, or if you are raising a teenager and trying to compete with technology or the ever challenging coparenting post divorce or breakup. All of these scenarios are challenging. My special guest is a parenting expert. She shares with her clients the importance in being the best parent you can be and not being shameful of what that looks like in the eyes of others. She is the Parenting Coach, Mercedes Samudio and she teaches us tips on successful parenting in a world where we and others can be critical to our parenting style. Dr. Saudia appearing on the All Things Relationship Summit: https://all-things-relationships-virtual-summit.heysummit.com/schedule/
Silas is practicing skill sets to improve his listening and communication skills with others. He is learning how to open up emotionally. But this is no easy task. We learn the struggles he has to overcome and the nakedness required to move past former hurts so that he can love healthily and effectively. Let’s continue on his journey as I help him to be ready for love.
Do you ever find yourself attracting the wrong type of man or woman? You aim for one thing but seem to typecast yourself by always attracting a certain type of man or woman? It’s as if we are actors and we are typecast, always picking the same person over and over. When it’s the wrong type of person, it ultimately brings discontentment because we end up in relationships that are unhealthy and unsatisfying. If this is you and you want help trying to develop healthy and loving relationships, listen in as I show you how to build a healthy framework as we discuss boundary setting: how to attract the right type of man or woman so that you create healthy, loving and functioning relationships.
If you haven’t seen the movie When They See Us, you are missing out on an epic movie that changes the minds and hearts of its viewers. In this four part series, director, Ava Duvernay shares the story of The Exonerated 5 and what their real experience was like after being incarcerated for a violent sexual crime that they did not commit. If you are an African American watching this movie, it moves you in ways that maybe others will never understand. Today, I’m speaking with a family who watched the series together. This family ranges in ages from 6 to 47. Let’s see how each of them were affected by this thought provoking, heart wrenching movie that made us fall in love with these men and share in the joy of their victory.
As we follow Silas on his journey for love, we learn how attachment styles effect how we view ourselves and others. Silas learns that he shuts down during times of conflict. As we move forward he is going to work on decreasing this behavior while he builds his listening skills and beginning to emote. Let’s continue on his journey as I help him to be ready for love.
As we follow Silas on his journey for love, we learn how attachment styles impacted how we view ourselves and others. Based on these styles, we learn there are some hidden fears that causes him develop anxiety when dealing with conflict in a relationship. Silas is not alone. Anyone who does not have secure attachment experiences some attachment fear. Let’s continue on his journey as I help him to identify these fears and now it’s time to address them head on.
There are a lot of stereotypes for men and women. Today I’m talking with Clifford Clark to share professional perspective on societal views regarding various relationship gender stereotypes. We’re helping to shed light on why men and women see, experience and feel the way they do. Clifford and I aren’t competing but we’re passionate about our views as we defend our gender. Listen in to hear our take on why we do the things we do.
How often do we say we are ready for love but once it comes, it seems we repeat the same patterns and the relationship doesn’t seem to work out? You know I say it all the time, “everyone wants to love and be loved” but sometimes we aren’t ready for it when it arrives. Listen in on one man’s journey opening up, being honest and vulnerable about his desire and search for love. You’ll hear first hand the commonalities we all experience based on how we see ourselves, others and our responses to the experiences in our relationships. Let’s walk with Silas on his journey to finding love.
Today we are pulled in numerous directions balancing life, work, family and everything in between. Singles as well as couples are experiencing burn out. But how do we know the difference between simply being tired and actually experiencing burn out? Today we’ll discuss the signs and symptoms to look out for so that you can take control and create healthy life balance.
Every mother and father wants their daughter to be in a safe and loving relationship. Yet, sometimes one’s knight and shining armor is not a place of safety and love but instead is a threat to one’s safety. Domestic violence (DV) can happen to anyone regardless of age, culture, education, race, sex or class. Joining us on today’s show is MaKisha Reed, founder of Greater Girls 1, a non-profit organization that ..... She educates us on the subject and shares with us tools and tips on how to recognize warning signs, identify abusive behaviors, seeking help to get out and taking back control of one’s life after leaving a DV relationship.
No one marries with the thought of ever divorcing. Yet divorce is becoming common place in our society. So what happens that causes a couple to end up on opposite sides of the courtroom? What can we do to divorce-proof our marriage? Today’s show is a gathering of the minds to include a divorce mediator, attorney and a woman who has experienced it personally. Let’s hear them share their thoughts and experience on navigating divorce.
Everyone needs a support system in place that encourages, uplifts tells and tells you the truth - in love. Wise counsel is essential to bounce our idea and thoughts as well as to keep up from making decisions that we later regret. That is exactly what our On the Couch episode will do. In today’s episode we take an introspective look at the difference between compromising and settling. We all experience moments where we begin to question our choices and decisions, but when it comes to dating and the selection of our future partner, our decision is life changing. We have particular preferences. Others may have questioned your preferences. Are they normal? Outlandish? Do you find yourself dating but not seeing what your heart desires? Is what your heart desires too much and you have found yourself questioning your likes and dislikes? Sounds like you may be at a crossroads between compromising and settling. We dig in to determine what is the fine line between compromising for what we want and settling for what we want.
There aren’t too many households which teach how to have a healthy sexual relationship. When couples get married, they have little knowledge from which it build with their partner. So we’re getting racy in today’s episode as we discuss sexual myths. Let’s build our knowledge base of truth to get rid of knowledge gained from the street so couples can have healthier, happier sexual encounters. Psychotherapist, Clifford Clark, LCSW a marriage and relationship counselor and sexual addiction specialist is joining me for this racy topic.
Death is a natural part of life. Or is it? In life we experience loss and grief. Neither are easy to handle. So how do we cope healthily when we experiencing grief. It’s especially difficult when it is attached to trauma. Today’s show, I have a special guest, LCMHC, Mia Reid of Change Happens Today. She is going to educate us on the specifics of grief and trauma, how to differentiate and cope as we live our new new normal.
Have you ever wondered why your thoughts tend to sway in a particular direction? For some it’s always positive and for others it’s always thinking the worst. How do these thoughts originate? If they are negative, how can we get rid of them? If they are positive, what are you doing that creates this continual flow of ever thinking the best of self and others. We’re discussing automatic thoughts and developing positive self-talk in today’s episode. If you or someone you know could benefit, listen in.
It’s not easy dating in 2019. Dating is nice, but we want to make certain it leads to something special, meaning and lasting. How do we go from I want to find someone special to...hey I’d like you to meet my girlfriend/boyfriend. On today’s show, I will share some tips and tools to help you to position yourself for better dating. I’ll share some his and her do’s and don’ts and of course some safety tips. I mean, it’s 2019, we have to stay ready.
Did you ever notice how it seems that people who have previously been married seem to always find love? How does love work the second time around? Are they better equipped the second time around? What makes things work? Or not work? Does it make a difference if the happy couple knew each other early in life and revisit the relationship? So many questions. While we could focus on all the things that didn’t quite go right the first time around, let’s instead focus on the lessons learned that couples bring into their current marriage that make it work. Let’s take a look at the growth they have accomplished. Let’s take a look at the love they found that may have been missing originally.
Don’t you want to have better love? Lasting love? Well of course you do. But guess what, not everyone knows how to get what it is they desire from their relationship. In today’s episode I am sharing some key tips on how to build happier, healthier relationships and move towards lasting love. These keys teach the basic elements necessary for any relationship. If you want to learn more about these tools, join the ABCs to Better Love challenge where we will learn how to develop and build upon these keys. Go to erosmeetsagape.com to sign up.
Gillette has gotten a lot of flack from their new commercial. They are asking men to do better, thus be more open and sensitive. But, can the alpha male be this person? Can men expose themselves in the workplace emotionally? Do they have a safe environment at home to come to in order to express their emotions? Join me and my special guest, Sherri Moore, as we discuss the alpha male as we try to understand their style of emotional expression at home as well as the work place.
In 2019 we are expecting great things from the Eros Meets Agape podcast. As our listening audience grows - so do we. Today’s show provides a sneak peek as to what you will hear from us this year. If you think you were shocked by some of last year’s episodes...hold on...there is more in store. Join us as we share what’s coming!!!
Winning at life and love can sometimes be difficult. We sometimes struggle to balance it all. We want the productive and successful work life, but also must do our part to make the best of our relationships and to make them work. How do we have both? How can we live our best lives and experience love at its best? To help listeners win at love and life, I have some therapists joining me on today’s episode to share their tips, tools and resources to help you win in all of your relationships. We’re joining forces and combining our skill set to help you win at love and life.
The holidays seems to do one of two things. You either welcome it with open arms, enjoying a new snow fall, visiting with loved ones, the spirit of the Christmas season and sharing quality time with those you love...or you feel the pressures, stress, anxiety and depression that seems to take over during the holiday season. If this is you, or someone you know, I’ve gathered a few African American female therapists in the Metro Detroit area who are sharing their wisdom and expertise in hopes of helping others survive through the holiday season.
The birth of a baby can bring a joyous time for many new mothers. However, not everyone experiences such elation after the birth of their child. Some new mothers, due to the hormonal change in their bodies, along with existing life challenges can cause an onset of postpartum depression. Postpartum depression is real. Although it can be a difficult time, it can be overcome. Know that you can overcome this and there is help. We’ll hear from Author, Kimberly Batchelor-Davis as she shares her trial and triumph overcoming her postpartum depression.
It seems that when you are a counselor you have a history of others seeking you for advice. I can remember this happening as early as my teens…and from adults. I never thought much of it. I answered as best I could and prayed for the rest. Everyone desires to be loved, but not everyone knows the best ways to go about finding and cultivating that love. I want everyone to get the best out of their relationships. Now that I am a counselor, the questions have increased. So today’s show may be helpful as I dig into the many questions I’m asked on relationships, sharing my wisdom, education, and counseling expertise navigating your way through love.
Millennials are those who were born between 1981 - 1996. Technology is a generation-shaping consideration for how millennials connect and communicate. What is unique for post-Millennials is that television, the Internet, and social media has been part of their lives from the start. Millennials believe they are very different and most parents cannot understand why they think and do things differently. Today we listen to a group of millennials share their points of view on life and love - in a technology driven age. Let’s get schooled by this generation.
If love was something that we could buy, it would be the hottest item selling out in every location. Many books are written to show people how to find and keep love. Yet, couples are still unhappy and struggle to fight divorce. So what works? What are successful couples doing that unsuccessful couples are not? Let’s find out some keys to making love last from a few successful couples on today’s show. We’ll hear their tips, do’s, don’ts, and advice on how to live Happily Ever After.
Men are sometimes misunderstood. Many are labeled in a negative light, but what about the good guys?! What about the men who strive to be the best man, husband and father they can be? Many times we don’t take the time to understand the heart of a man and the things they grapple during their transition from boyhood to manhood to fatherhood. We assume men are emotionless and navigating through life effortlessly, without pain. But it is not so. Good men desire to share a legacy with their sons, and extend love to their daughters, so they know how a real man should love and treat them. Today, we have a heart-to-heart with some men sharing their views on their evolution from boys to men.
When most women imagine their adult lives, they picture themselves married with children. We view this as the norm in our society. But what happens when what you imagined would happen, does not happen the way you imagined? What happens when life does not present you with a spouse in the early part of life? Is it a blessing? A curse? With the advent of online dating, traditional dating has changed. Is online dating the way to go? Who takes the lead? Who reaches out first? How much do you disclose? I guess the question everyone wants to know…is there someone out there for me and how do we find each other? If you find yourself, never married, single with children or single hoping to have children when you marry, listen as our guests share their experiences to dating after 30.
Sometimes in life we get stuck. It helps to have a professional to help answer questions that will get you thinking clearer to help you process better. Today, we address some of the harder relationship questions so that you can do your part in bettering self and your relationships. Let’s dig in!!!