Becoming Disciples: Recent Episodes
Lisa Hensley
All believers are called to be disciples, or followers, of Jesus. Join Lisa Hensley in exploring what that process looks like.
In this final episode of this season, Lisa dives into four directives that Paul gives in Colossians chapter 4.
The book recommendation is Vindicating the Vixens, edited by Sandra Glahn.
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Is Christianity just following a bunch of rules? In this episode Lisa discusses what it means to be one with Christ and how that affects how we view the Christian life.
The book recommendation for this week is Delighting in the Trinity by Michael Reeves.
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In this episode, Lisa jumps back into Colossians and discusses the putting off and putting on that Paul talks about in chapter 3. What are the remains of the old life that we should leave behind and what practices are to mark our lives now?
This week's book recommendation is Half the Church by Carolyn Custis James.
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In this episode, Lisa talks about recognizing other people as image-bearers and other believers as having the Spirit of God. This will change the way we interact with the people around us and how we see ourselves.
This week's book recommendation is Liturgy of the Ordinary by Tish Harrison Warren.
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This episode is back to Colossians to talk about prayer and how we can allow the Bible to guide our prayers. This week's book recommendation is The Color of Compromise by Jemar Tisby.
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This episode is a discussion on three ways we can respond to temptation. We can be deceived; we can blatantly disobey; we can respond with the truth of Scripture .
This week's book recommendation is Practice Resurrection by Eugene Peterson.
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This week is a dive into Paul's prayer in Colossians 1 and how we can know, not only what God's will is for our lives, but also how we can stick with it until we see Jesus.
The book recommendation is The Forgotten God by Francis Chan.
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In this episode, Lisa lays out what the podcast will look like for this season. Then she jumps into a short conversation about how to set goals that matter to the life you’re already living. The book recommendation for this week is Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. You can sign up for the Practices of Becoming weekly emails here! You can find Lisa on her blog and on Instagram!
This episode dives into the minor prophet Jonah. After a brief recap of the story, Lisa breaks down three ways we can see God moving after people in this tiny book.
This week's book recommendation is How to Preach and Teach the Old Testament for All Its Worth by Christopher Wright.
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In spite of how inflammatory the title might sound, this week's episode encourages us to use the language of the Bible whenever possible. Lisa lists five reasons that she no longer uses the word "headship" and is instead careful to use the phrasing of the Scripture.
Lisa also introduces a new show segment where she will recommend a book that has helped disciple her. She starts out with A Long Obedience in the Same Direction by Eugene Peterson.
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In this episode, Lisa is actually talking about more than just modesty and lust. This is a conversation about how we should describe people's behavior in context of their own relationships with God and not in the context of the opposite gender.
Tim Mackie's Sermon on the Mount episode
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In this episode, Lisa talks through the two main passages that are pulled out when we talk about women in the church, 1 Corinthians 14 and 1 Timothy 2.
Paul and Gender with Cynthia Westfall
"Ezer" by Carolyn Custis James
Are Women More Easily Deceived?
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This episode marks the start of a new series on women, or both men and women, and the Bible. Lisa jumpstarts the series by discussing submission and why it's a character trait that is to be displayed by both genders.
Sandra Glahn and 1 Peter 3 Pt. 1
1 Peter 3, Pt. 2
The Weaker Vessel
Series on Women and Theology
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Lisa pulled in her husband to read your questions this week. Hear answers to everything from her enneagram number to how she finds time to read to how she decides what she shares on the internet.
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After the Mother's Day break, Lisa wraps up the conversation about being made in the image of God. What does it mean to image God in how we work? How does God work? How are we supposed to relate to other people?
Run with the Horses by Eugene Peterson
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All women mother. This episode starts with the need for spiritual mothers and then moves to motherhood as discipleship (and what mothering teaches us about discipleship). It ends with some practical ideas for thriving as a mama.
Happy Mother's Day!
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In this episode, Lisa talks about what it means for human beings to be made in the image of God. How does that change how we relate to others and look at our work? How does that change how we look at ourselves? What does that mean for us as believers?
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Old Testament stories might feel irrelevant to our lives today but they aren't! We can always see how God is working and the consistency of His character throughout all time. In this episode, Lisa walks through the story of Huldah with the hopes of introducing you to one of her favorite "unknown" Bible characters and sparking an interest in how the prophets weave into the narratives of Scripture.
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To wrap up the beginner believer series, Lisa talks about walking by the Spirit. The two pitfalls of this life that we are called to are veering into liberalism or becoming shackled by legalism. How can we leave those behind and how do we learn and teach that?
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This week, Lisa discusses why we need spiritual disciplines and what we're really after when we cultivate them. She talks specifically about Bible reading and prayer and the eyes back/eyes forward outlook we need in order to remember the story we live in.
Sermon on the model prayer
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In this episode, Lisa breaks down how God has always used individuals in context of the communities of Israel and the church. Then she discusses the purpose of community and a few practical ideas for building community.
A Long Obedience in the Same Direction by Eugene Peterson
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In this short trailer, Lisa introduces the theme of Becoming Disciples and answers a few questions about the changes from Uniquely Woman. But don't worry, you are in the right place! Welcome and thanks for listening.
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In this solo episode, Lisa talks about realizing she was speaking lies over her life instead of the truth of the Gospel. She steps through three questions to help you identify your internal dialogue, evaluate that by the Gospel, and then apply the truth of the Bible to the lies you are telling yourself.
Also, check out her friend Tabitha Panariso on Instagram!
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This week Lisa chats with Lauren Alexander, a pastor's wife, mom, and speaker. Lisa met Lauren at a conference over the summer and snapped up the chance to interview her. They discuss how her speaking ministry started and how it morphed into having an online component. They also talk about social media use and how the enneagram has helped their spiritual lives.
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In a new Theology 101 episode, Phylicia and Lisa tackle the basics of the covenants. They discuss the five covenants in the Bible and remind us how they each point to Jesus and are fulfilled in Jesus.
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In this week's solo episode Lisa discusses the signs of a lack of discernment. It seems that most of us are clamoring for someone to tell us who's right on the internet and what's wrong with specific books. Discernment is a skill that all believers are supposed to be growing in, not one reserved for "elite" Christians. So she ends the episode with practical ideas for growing in discernment.
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Shannan Martin's new book "The Ministry of Ordinary Places" released yesterday and Lisa sat down and chatted with Shannan about the book.
They discussed learning to view yourself as a neighbor, setting boundaries, and telling stories that involve other people. They also bring their enneagram 8-ness to the conversation for a few minutes.
"Until I'm told to go, this is where I am."
Order the book HERE.
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This week Lisa interviews Andrew Peterson, a songwriter, musician, and author. You've probably heard his music but if not, go listen to Resurrection Letters Vol. 1 as soon as you've finished this episode.
They discuss how Andrew conceptualizes different types of albums, how long he considered working on his fiction series before he started writing, how he's managing social media these days, and his role in The Rabbit Room.
You can find Andrew on Instagram (when he's there) or on tour.
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In this solo episode, Lisa dives into hospitality. She discusses having people into our homes, of course, but then moves on to forming a hospitality life, where we welcome people wherever we are.
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In this week's episode, Lisa explores a short verse in Romans 12 that insists we are supposed to enter into the joys and sorrows of others. But that can be really hard, can't it? Lisa finds that remembering that Jesus is the prize helps her celebrate the victories of others and that remembering she isn't here to be happy helps her enter into the griefs of others.
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Phylicia and Lisa bring the second episode in the Theology 101 series and break down the creation story and the fall. Somehow they also manage to talk about evolution, original audiences, what it means to be image-bearers, new creation, tactics of the enemy, and the atonement. All of that in only three chapters of the Bible.
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We're all about faithfulness in the daily routine but sometimes you need a big dream to point you in the right direction. In this episode Lisa breaks down a few of her big dreams and how they shape what she does in her normal, everyday life.
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This week Lisa wraps up our series on Bible literacy. She briefly mentions genres (the Bible is truth and literature) and then discusses different ways to read and study the Bible.
Resources on genre:
The Story of the Bible
How to Read the Bible
The Bible Project: scroll through and listen to the episodes on poetry and narrative and metaphor and setting
Ways to Read the Bible
1. As quickly as possible
2. Inductive study
Precept Ministries
Intervarsity
3. Chronological
TaNaK reading
4. Topical
Bible Gateway
Bible Study Tools
5. Listen to it: audio totally counts
Women of the Word by Jen Wilkin
How to Study the Bible by Kay Arthur
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This week Lisa interviews Dr. Leighton Flowers of the Soteriology 101 podcast. Dr. Flowers, among many other things, is an apologist for traditional (provisionist) doctrines of salvation. We've recommended his podcast before and you all were so interested in this topic that we asked him to come on the show!
In this episode, Dr. Flowers discusses how he went into and out of Calvinism, when he started researching soteriology, and why he started his podcast. He also talks about the surges of Calvinism in church history, why we should all care about knowing theology and provides some resources at the end of the show.
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This week, we are kicking off a new series! Phylicia and Lisa are co-hosting theology 101: a non-seminarian, open discussion on various theological topics. This series is designed to encourage you to dig into the Bible, form your theology as you read and study, and compare Scripture with Scripture.
We start with "Who is God"? What do we know about Him and how do we know it? Jump in with us!
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Three episodes ago we talked about why Bible literacy matters for all of us, no matter our vocation. But we don't want to leave you hanging there so we're going to offer some help with this literacy. This week, Lisa discuss proof-texting and how to work through the context of Bible passages. She starts off discussing some verses we commonly use for poof-texting
Then she defines some words and asks a few questions:
Does it (your meaning) agree with the actual text it's contained in?
Does it agree with the story of the Bible?
What is the historical/cultural context of the passage?
Sometimes Christians act like understanding the Bible is simple, but if you put a little work into it you can get so much more in return.
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This week, Lisa's husband joins her for a chat about how their family operates and then they do a question and response time with your questions!
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Listener questions that we respond to:
How can you include husbands/dads in pregnancy?
When one has a healthy habit, does the other get on board or resist?
Did we discuss potential family size before marriage?
What are our favorite ways to serve each other? How do we resolve arguments?
Did we get to a point where we decided divorce was not an option?
How can you let grief bring you together instead of pushing you apart?
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This week Lisa is chatting with Landry Jung, a real-life friend who spent a semester of college in South Africa and is headed to China soon. We learn how she made these decisions and how her faith was impacted by encountering Christianity in another culture. We also discuss encountering the God that lives within us and why that makes so many of us uncomfortable.
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The Forgotten God by Francis Chan
Knowing the Holy Spirit through the Old Testament by Christopher J. H. Wright
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There's a behind-the-scenes announcement to start this episode!
This week is all about Bible literacy. It's tempting to think that knowing the Bible only matters if you teach the Bible or have a platform, but that's not true. We are all tasked to continue the work that Jesus started.
1. Our goal is becoming like Jesus.
2. What we believe about God affects our behavior.
3. We need to preach the Gospel to ourselves.
4. We are lights of the world.
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Did you know that the Bible doesn't talk about having a quiet time? So where does this phrase come from? Is this practice foundational to Christianity?
In this solo episode, Phylicia digs into the history of the "quiet time." She explores what the morning watch was and how it emphasized intercessory prayer. Then she discusses how we can approach our time with God with the intent to know God and go about His mission in our days.
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Phylicia was asked a question about how to make the Gospel less offensive, which sparked a lively conversation about how that's not actually possible. But why? If it's good news, what's so offensive?
In this episode, we tackle the following:
- What is the Gospel? It is the story of the Bible from Genesis to Revelation. It's the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus.
- Why is the Gospel offensive? We shouldn't try to smooth out that the Gospel is offensive because it's exclusive. Because it points out our sin. Because it requires everything from us. The Gospel offends the flesh.
- How does the Gospel affect today? Does salvation only affect our eternal life or does it affect life now?
Leviticus commentary
The Biggest Story ABC
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This episode started, as many others do, with a Voxer conversation about soulmates. Do we have soulmates or are we free to marry any available believer? How are we supposed to relate to the opposite sex?
Where did the idea of soulmates come from?
Singles: only temptations or prospects?
How marriage-changing it is to view your spouse as a brother in Christ first
A disagreement about the Billy Graham rule?
Inviting singles into our families
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This week we are discussing 6 topics where we've changed our stance. Before we jump into that though, we have a brief conversation on reading your Bible and why you should change your mind as you grow.
Then we jump in, alternating topics.
What is modesty?
What does it mean that man is the "head"?
Is courtship required?
Should we really just use the KJV?
Are men really that much better than women?
Should women only wear skirts?
Be willing to change your mind based on what Scripture says.
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This week we have a special guest, Rebekah Hargraves from Hargraves Home and Hearth. As you'll hear, Rebekah is a "fairly good" friend of both of us and joins us to discussion some complicated topics like the Eternal Subordination of the Son and how this played into the development of complementarianism as a movement.
Here's a brief disclaimer that we were unaware of what would be the current conversations about gender relations and the explosion of this topic (if you are following the news on this anyway). Either way, this was what we had recorded for this week and simply continues the conversations that we have been having already.
This episode includes a brief discussion of Eternal Subordination of the Son, quotes from the founders and presidents of the Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, and how Jesus interacted with women.
Rebekah's article on complementarianism.
Christianity Today podcast link
Wendy Alsup
Women in the Storyline of Redemptive History
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Extra reading: How Jesus Discipled Women
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This week we finish our conversation on things the Bible actually doesn't say about women.
We discuss how sex isn't just for men and that men aren't charged with being the primary breadwinners of the family. Then we move on to Biblical pictures of femininity and masculinity (hint: we're all being remade in the image of Jesus) and how both parents are necessary to raising children.
The article that started this whole conversation.
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This is the first of two parts where we tackle some common conservative narratives about gender that aren't actually in the Bible.
This week we tackle the myths that men are supposed to keep women in line, that men and woman always view each other sexually, and that husbands are called to lead their wives. (Don't freak out until you listen in, ok?)
We'll finish up this conversation next week.
The article that started this whole thing.
NPR article about Patterson.
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This week, we are tackling how to confront sin. This is not an intensive guide (please seek wise counsel from godly people in your life) but rather an overview of some Biblical attitudes to help direct your actions.
We talk about why how you talk to and about your spouse on the regular matters, when Phylicia resembled a cornered badger, and why you shouldn't be the accountability for your spouse.
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Spring is baby and wedding shower time! In light of that, we decided to dedicate an episode to expecting and new mamas. We share books, the pared-down baby necessities list, birth accounts on Instagram, and resting- really resting- after you give birth.
Then we move into early motherhood and making sustainable decisions instead of convenient ones, avoiding the "mommy wars" by remembering the freedom we have about so many things as believers, and keeping something fun around to entertain yourself when you are up with the baby.
Note: If you listen with your kids around, we do discuss both birth and sex after babies. You might want to pop in some headphones for that part!
Holy Labor
Ina May's Guide to Childbirth
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We're tackling goal setting, even (especially!) though it's the end of April. As Christians, how we spend our time matters and there's nothing like a re-evaluation before summer starts.
We talk about casting a vision, identifying your trouble areas, and the difference between goals and practices. Then we end with a discussion about Phylicia's productivity course!
Phylicia Masonheimer
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We've dropped episodes on a lot of serious topics lately so we thought we would mix things up with a fun episode. We discuss personality tests, podcasts, and a handful of our favorite things.
We discuss three personality tests. On the Myers-Briggs, Phylicia is an ENTJ and Lisa is a INFJ. We've both recently dug into the enneagram and Phylicia is a 3: the Achiever and Lisa is a 8: the Challenger. On Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies, Phylicia is an Upholder and Lisa is a Questioner.
Soteriology 101- a favorite of both
The Purpose Show
The Bible Project
The Bible Binge
Dear Daughters
Happier in Hollywood
That Sounds Fun with Annie F. Downs
Sex Chat for Christian Wives
Women's Work
Favorite Songs: Phy loves Unstoppable by Sia, Ever Be by Aaron Shust, No Longer Slaves by Bethel Music. Lisa is enjoying Isn't He by The Belonging Co and This is Me and Come Alive from The Greatest Showman soundtrack.
TV Shows: The John Addams miniseries for Phylicia
Psych and The Mentalist for Lisa
Food: Strawberry Dip with almond cream cheese and dark chocolate chunks
Lisa's started an afternoon tea ritual.
Something we can't stop talking about:
Lisa is obsessed with the big picture ideas of why God made the world and why did He make people and what's our role as a redeemed people in a fallen world.
Phylicia is consumed with the issue of race and the Gospel.
3 Favorite Instagram Follows: Phylicia's- Lindsey Elmore, Ayanna Thomas, Jamie Golden
Lisa's- Jess Connolly, Elise Joy, Lori Harris
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This week, we're tackling why church matters and why it should matter to us. Do we actually need to be involved with a local group of believers? What difference does it make in our lives?
We discuss that Jesus died for the church and therefore we must care for it. This Christian faith is meant to be communal, not individual, and that means doing life with other believers.
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Most of us would shun the idea of a true "prosperity gospel." We would be horrified at being promised riches and fame for becoming a believer. But how often do we settle for a lesser form of a false gospel when we believe that Christ came to make us happy and make our lives easy?
This week we are tackling what we really signed up for as believers. We discuss how life is a battle- and how we both find that motivating. We talk what it means to live for eternity and how it's really the most hopeful way to live life.
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We promised you an episode on identity and here it is! What happens when we don't know or believe what God says about Himself or us? We're left spending our lives seeking the approval of others or developing our sense of self-worth.
We need to find our worth in Christ. That allows us to focus on the work He has given us to do. It also allows us to treat other people on the basis of how God treats us instead of how other people treat us.
(Yes, there is something wonky with Lisa's sound. We're working on it. Sorry!)
About International Women's Day
Stop Telling Me I'm Beautiful
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We talk about women's issues a lot on this podcast. But we realized that we've never broken down why we think it's important to have these discussions. Why does what we believe about being a woman matter?
- We want to obey the Bible.
- We operate from our identity.
- Our beliefs about gender are foundational to our beliefs on marriage.
- Our beliefs about gender affect the mission of the church.
Biblical Womanhood: What Is A Woman?
Contrary Women: Genesis 3:16
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It's Lisa this week with a solo episode. She discusses her tendency on Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies. (Find yours here!) She's a questioner. She likes to ask questions and if there's a good reason, she'll be on board with almost anything.
This episode breaks down the intersection of why we should read our Bibles and how we are transformed to be more like Jesus. She's going to walk you through something she's been learning in her personal Bible study; the main verse is 2 Corinthians 3:18.
Here's the song from her childhood that she promised you as well.
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For this podcast episode we are defining leadership as "a conscious stewardship of influence." (This is not a discussion about women in leadership positions in church.) We all know men and women who are have led others in discipleship and how they have lived without having a position or a platform or a title. How do we cultivate this in our own lives?
Leadership looks like coming in and serving the people around you. How do we use our influence in our marriages, with our children, with our social media, and in our friendships?
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We could have titled this episode a lot of things: What We Believe about the Gendersor Why Women Work or What's Up with Spiritual Headship? You get the point, but we haven't answered the question, have we?
Since we answer this question in about two minutes, let us relieve the suspense. We're neither complementarian nor egalitarian and we spend this whole episode telling you why.
We cover our largest complaint with complementarianism (that would end our journey even if we agreed with the rest of it) and then outline what we believe about how the genders are alike, why women are commissioned to work too, and where the genders are different.
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This week, we are tackling a list of listener questions!
-What is our best advice for first-time parents?
-How have porn addictions among pastors influenced how they teach passages of the Bible directed at women?
-Can I wear jeans if I get more attention in them?
-How do I handle reassembling my faith (and feeling father away from God) when I'm learning things that I have been taught in the past are wrong?
-How do we handle friendships with people drifting from Biblical standards? with unbelievers? with the emotionally needy?
-How do we find time to read?
-What are our favorite books on motherhood?
-Is there a difference between crushing on someone and liking them?
-What are our best resources for discovering the historical/cultural context of Bible passages?
-How do you embrace your personality and how God made you without embracing sin?
-How do you handle a long-distance relationship when he's ready to commit?
-How do I stay upbeat and positive when my spouse is struggling with depression?
-How can I be content when I'm single?
-What do we believe about speaking in tongues?
-Why do we homeschool?
-When did we know we would marry our husbands?
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This week, we tackle the idea of interpreting Bible passages well. We want to be faithful to the Scripture and what they actually mean and that requires intentional study. We share five questions to ask before you decide that your interpretation of a Bible passage is correct. We also include some helpful thoughts on Bible study.
- What does the passage actually say? What would it have said to the original audience?
- Does this interpretation disrupt any major theological truths?
- What is the narrative on the topic throughout the whole Bible? Does this interpretation agree?
- What does this interpretation say about the character of God?
- Does this interpretation play out in real life? (and across the world, not just middle-class America)
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In this week's episode, we're discussing feminism. But before we jump into that, we both share our favorite "girl power" song. The genres do not match the geographical location of each woman, you've been warned.
Next we jump into the history of feminism, the definition of feminism, and what feminism is now. Then we move on to the big topic: why do Christian women join up with feminism?
Articles we discussed:
Sarah Bessey
Ann Voskamp
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In this solo episode, Phylicia is tackling how to adjust from working full-time to staying at home. She experienced a mix of emotions when she left her job and found she needed to adjust her mentality, attitude, and spirit.
- Embrace, don't replace. Enjoy your new role. Be defined by Jesus, not your position.
- Anchor your identity. You are not what you do.
- Look at this as your new job. This is a work.
- dress for the day
- set up flexible routines
- Cultivate relationships with other moms.
- Pursue interests and passions.
Take everything you learned from your career into motherhood.
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It's a question we get a lot. How can I find godly friends?We have developed a Christ-centered friendship over the past three years and we each have these relationships with a few other women as well.
We start with a short list of the benefits of these friendships: encouragement, a sounding board, accountability, and a witness.
Then we dig into some practicals. What can you do to start finding and cultivating these friendships?
-stop avoiding awkwardness
-be the one to reach out/host
-go deeper
-make the time and effort
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This week, we take a few minutes at the beginning of the episode to clarify a point from last week and then discuss how to graciously disagree. Because sometimes we disagree and we need a plan for handling that.
Is it a gospel issue?
Are we in a situation where it matters if it's a gospel issue?
Can we filter with discernment?
Then we share a few practical ways we both handle disagreements, online and in real life.
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For 2018, we're introducing a few changes! There's new podcast art and a new tagline: inviting women to Biblically challenge the status quo. We're going to dive into some deep subjects where we might have answers or we might be asking questions, but all with the hopes of helping us all better live out our faith.
To kick this off, we're diving into the subject of Eve's curse. Was Eve cursed? We say no. First we discuss what was cursed and how Jesus' sacrifice on the cross took all of the curse for sin from people. We're disturbing some theological truths to claim otherwise. Then we tackle explaining why the added pain in birth wasn't even punishment using the narrative of women and babies in the Bible, the character of God, and the actual conversation in Genesis 3.
We also discuss how having a Biblical perspective on childbirth is necessary for a pro-life stance. It's really hard to convince women that God has blessed them with a child when you're also saying that God is simultaneously cursing them.
Next week, we'll wrap up this topic with some more conversation on curses (you know you're excited) and why women are also commissioned to work.
Welcome to 2018!
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For the last episode in 2017, we are jumping back in for a full-length episode on body image. We tackle what the Bible says the body is, lies we believe about our bodies, and how we each work on overcoming body image issues.
The body is:
-the temple of the Holy Spirit
-made in the image of God
Lies about the body:
-the body is an ornament
-the body is for our glory
-the body is for attracting men
-the body defines worth
-the body can make me happy
Merry Christmas!
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In this short Q+A session, we discuss how long a woman should wait for a man to decide he's ready to move on to a commitment. Short answer? Get counsel from a godly person in both lives.
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This week we are talking Christmas! In this short episode, we both share how our families celebrate Christmas in a way the children can join too.
Here's the carnitas recipe and the advent activities.
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This week, we are tackling the subject of modesty! The first thing we discuss is why we both hate the word "modesty" and the words we prefer instead.
Then we move right on to four reasons modesty matters:
-how we dress should reflect that we are set apart
-we are dressing the temple of God
-dressing well is a form of self-respect
-how we dress reflects our heart toward God
And we also chat about three things modesty is not:
-it's not a safeguard for men's purity
-it's not a list of rules
-it's not a measuring stick for other women
Then to round out the episode we discuss how we are preparing to approach this volatile issue with our kids since Lisa has all boys and Phylicia only has girls.
We also give a special shoutout to one of our favorite marriage/sex bloggers Sheila Gregoire!
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In our second solo episode, Lisa is tackling how motherhood is just an extension of our call to discipleship. She gave this talk to a MOPS group earlier in November and we're excited to share it with you!
Sometimes motherhood isn't fulfilling. When we don't feel the warm fuzzies, we don't have to freak out. We just have to stick to the assignment. What assignment? Making disciples of the children God has given us. And who better to teach us about discipleship than Jesus?
- Jesus invested in His relationship with God.
- He realized interruptions were part of the process.
- He spent time teaching and reteaching and reteaching and the disciples still didn't get it.
- Jesus let the disciples see Him minister to others.
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Since we are both writers we frequently get asked how to get started as a writer. First thing? Start writing! Then decide if/how you want to share that writing with others.
Then we move on to some work tips: a work ethic is invaluable to learning to write well. Write consistently, be in it for the long haul, read a lot, and write down all your ideas.
You too, can be a writer!
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For our second episode in our "How Do We" series, we're discussing Bible study. How should we approach the Bible? What does Bible study look like with small children? What are some of our favorite resources?
Lisa gives you three questions to consider when coming to the Bible and shares some encouragement if you've ever fallen asleep while reading the Bible.
Phylicia breaks down her process for stepping through a passage of Scripture and how she uses outside tools for historical and literary context.
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Women of the Word
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I asked Phylicia what to name the episode and well, that's what happened. But literally, we are talking about how we talk about sex and why it matters.
- Reflects on our witness
- Teaches children how to view sex
- Changes our attitude toward sex
- Alters our actions
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What does the Bible really say about birth? In this first solo episode, Phylicia tackles Genesis 3 and how Christians should approach birth and babies.
New Age ideology dominates the birth conversation largely because the church has been silent besides to terrify women with whispers of "their curse." But man was cursed too, right?
There is a promised Redeemer that comes through childbirth and that knowledge affects how we view birth today.
-God designed our bodies to work this way. It is largely complicated by the fall but still on the framework of God's beautiful design.
-We live in a world unaccustomed to discomfort or suffering. But God never leaves us even when things are hard.
A Biblical attitude toward birth matters.
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In this week's listener Q+A, we tackle how we both handle meal planning. (Just for context, Lisa has a family of 6, Phylicia has a family of almost 4.) Our meal planning strategies have changed some over the years but it still saves the evening witching hour.
Here are some ideas for menu planning:
-make a list of easy to cook, easy to modify meals and cycle through those
-repeat the same breakfast and lunches
-keep a pinterest board of new recipes and try one a week
-start food prep earlier in the day
-pick a time to prep food for the week
-pack your lunches if you're regularly gone at mealtime
There's not one right way to meal plan. Just find something that works!
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This week you get your first "How Do We" episode! We both take a turn discussing how we handle surprises in life. Not fun surprises like birthday parties but surprises that are more like interruptions or unwelcome circumstances.
Lisa's advice:
-Remember God is sovereign
-Pray
-Share with trusted friends
-Make a game plan
Phylicia's take:
-Look to Jesus as model
-Remember reactions affect others
-Pray and apply Scriptures
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In this episode, we discuss where we've been the past two months (hi, again!) and go over some thoughts on dealing with trials in your life. It's mostly an unedited, off-the-cuff discussion of how God's been working in our hearts that we hope encourages you in your own hard moments.
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We're back!! While breaking for a few months (when Lisa had Luke and we both dealt with some personal issues), we have changed the format of the podcast to allow us to produce more content with less recording time. This week, however, you get a normal podcast episode. Thank you for listening!
This week we are tackling the topic of comfort zones: why people like them and why we should embrace opportunities to step outside them.
- Discomfort is the only way to grow.
- See discomfort as a challenge instead of a hindrance.
- Discomfort shows God's grace and strength to others.
- Discomfort shows us our need for God.
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This week we are tackling an issue that plagues conservative circles: basing worldviews on a reaction to the world instead of on what the Bible says.
We provide a few examples of this, such as holding motherhood as the highest calling of women, viewing women as objects of sexual temptation instead of humans made in the image of God, and advancing courtship as the answer to hookup culture.
But not to worry, we also discuss the answer. We don't have a five-step program that fixes all the problem but we do remind you that your personal theology matters. Get in the Word, know what it says, and build your worldview on that.
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We're baaaaack! After a slightly unexpected break (we really did intend to record a few episodes while Phylicia was visiting Lisa but we talked too much and did Facebook lives), we are back with a new episode! We intentionally titled this episode "how to build a life" because a life you love doesn't magically appear. You don't luck into it and no one else does either. Here are a few ideas to make this happen.
- Be a tourist in your hometown.
- Structure your days with a weekly view in mind.
- Get outside!
- Nurture creativity and personal projects.
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This week we are tackling a sensitive subject surrounding the topic of infertility. We delve into being open and honest with friends, letting them guide where the relationship goes, and following God's call for our own families while being compassionate toward others.
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Today, we're tackling the next episode in our friendship series and discussing both how to prepare your heart for deeper friendships as well as how to keep the bonds of those friendships strong. We women long for friendships but in so many seasons of life they seem beyond our grasp.
- Preparing your heart
- You won't be close to everyone; some people won't even like you
- You are made for friendship but friendships can't validate you
- Deeper friendships take time to develop
- Peel yourself off in layers as relationships develop; don't dump on someone all at once
- Point each other to Jesus; be able to point out sin or problem areas with love
- Pray: for good friends, to be a good friend, for your friends
- Strengthening friendships
- Find ways to relate even when you are different
- Be open to new ideas and recommendations
- Ask for advice
- Listen
- Spend time in person/Facetime regularly (it helps to hear her voice)
- Only speak well of each other
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This week we are answering a question from Sarah who wants to know how she can learn to at least tolerate, if not enjoy, cooking. Listen for a few tips from two women who do love cooking (and think you might can to!).
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Based on feedback we received at the podcast meetup last December, we are starting a series on friendship. This week we are discussing what Biblical friendship looks like, why we need friends of different ages, and using technology to stay in touch. Plus, you'll get a brief glance into the life of our friendship.
- The Titus 2 model of friendship
- What's the point of friendship?
- What Biblical friendship does
- supports God's call on lives
- pushes one another to Christ
- cheers on other person
- handles the difficult circumstances of life
- What Biblical friendship does not
- encourages you to be flippant with life
- sees life as comparison
- born of gossip or jealousy
- not propelled by insecurity
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This week, we are discussing a topic brought up at the podcast meetup we hosted in December. How do you acclimate to a new life after you move? Moving changes your whole life and it can take a while to find your footing.
Also, we had some sound issues with this recording and while we edited out as much as we could, this episode has a lower sound quality than our typical podcast. Thanks for your understanding and for listening!
- Restore rhythms- ease back into new routines slowly
- Find friends- put yourself where the people are
- Help your kids with the adjustment
We also add a few thoughts on moving back to the same town as your family since that can hold its own difficulties.
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This week, we are answering a commonly asked questions: how did we meet? It's a fun story that didn't involve meeting in person until December of 2016. The internet can be a lovely place, friends!
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Inspired by this article, we are discussing how to enjoy being a mom. Motherhood is hard and it's a gift from God and that dichotomy often needs an attack plan in our daily lives.
- Have the right perspective. Motherhood is work.
- Sally Clarkson
- Heidi St. John
- Have systems.
- How I teach my babies to sit on my lap
- Learn from other moms.
- Hands Free Mama- Rachel Macy Stafford
- Glimpses of Grace- Gloria Furman
- Give Them Grace- Elyse Fitzpatrick
- Ministry of Motherhood- Sally Clarkson
- Educating the Whole-Hearted Child- Clay and Sally Clarkson
- Be confident.
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This week we are talking about dealing with postpartum hormones. We include some ideas for weathering the baby blues and dealing with hormonal changes as well as resources if you struggle with postpartum depression. Don't walk this part of life alone!
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Because there's nothing magical about January 1st, this week we are discussing our goals and words of the year. We also talk about how we arrived at our words and how we break down our goals into practical steps.
- Words of the year: Phylicia chose Settle and Lisa picked Make.
- How we arrived at our goals.
- How we make goals happen.
- Visual reminders
- Make to-do lists from goals
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This week we are answering a listener question from Sarah. She asks how we can let people into our lives when we have been hurt in the past or know that we could be hurt.
If you have a question, send us an email at uniquelywomanpodcast@gmail.com.
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To start off the New Year we are discussing how to deal with personal insecurities when interacting with other females. There's nothing like a talented, beautiful acquaintance to remind us of all the things that we aren't. But we don't have to live there. Listen in for four tips on interacting with other women.
- Be a "there you are" person.
- Don't worry if other people like you; concern yourself only with honoring God.
- Other people don't think about you as often as you think.
- Be interested, not interesting.
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This week we are tackling a question from Anna and discussing how to stay focused on God when you are single and would like a husband. Or in other words, how to cultivate a life where you are when you would like to be somewhere else.
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All of us have unexpected events occur in life, but what are we going to do when they come? We can either throw a fit because we aren't getting our way or we can walk a path of grace- because God always goes before us. This week we are discussing some ideas for managing life when the unexpected arrives.
- Am I really willing to let God interrupt my plans?
- You can be sad and surrendered.
- Share your heart carefully.
- Be flexible with routines and schedules.
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The podcast is back! Our sabbatical did exactly what we needed it to (more on that in a full episode next week) and we are excited to be back with you this month! Today we're tackling a listener question about how to handle awkward encounters, specifically with an ex.
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This week we're discussing how to manage the basics of home life and why it's important. Home management cares for your family while also making time for you to pursue other interests.
Please note that we are taking a sabbatical for the month of November but we'll be back in December!
The foundation of home management is self-discipline. Discipline brings freedom.
Then we discuss the various ways that we have handled different aspects of home management and suggest some other options that might work for you. We discuss:
- Meal planning
- Laundry
- Cleaning
- Scheduling
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In this week's mini episode, we talk fast and furious for five minutes about how to adult. What are core skills you need to succeed once you get out on your own?
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This week we are answering a listener question. No, it's not a mini episode because we're tackling how to move from singleness to marriage. We discuss five areas that will help you share your life with your man.
- Clear communication: have open and continual conversations
- Self-Denial: life is not about you
- Understanding what marriage is: the goal is for your husband to serve God better
- Honesty about expectations: your husband can't read your mind
- Grace for growing: a difficult season in marriage doesn't mean it's over
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This week we tackle how you can improve communication in your dating relationship and share date ideas for getting to know the other person.
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Phylicia just moved 12 hours and her family is living with her parents while they renovate the house they just bought. Lisa is in the process of transitioning some of some of her son's medical care and we've both been reminded that transitions and waiting for the final solution is often harder than it should be. This week, we're going to discuss how we can walk through transitions in a way that glorifies God.
- Don't rush it. You like to avoid difficulty because it's uncomfortable but it's helping you grow.
- It's ok to grieve. You can be sad about leaving people or places or seasons in life.
- God's will is clear today. You might not know what's coming tomorrow or next week but you do know what God wants you to do right now.
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Thank you for all the questions for this Q+A format! This week, Phylicia and I are tackling the topic of boudoir photography and whether it's appropriate or marriage-enhancing.
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We are excited to announce the start of a weekly Q+A mini episode where we will tackle one listener question in (hopefully) under ten minutes.
For the inaugural episode we are discussing whether pursuing a dream conflicts with a wife's role of supporting her husband and if that matters before marriage.
The Q+A episodes will typically air on Mondays with your regular content released on Thursdays. Thanks for listening!
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