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Your phone rings during family time and suddenly the room changes. The conversation stops, your attention splits, and you can feel the distance grow in real time. We start with a client story that lands like a punch to the chest: his kid goes quiet because they assume he will take the call. That single moment reveals what most “break the habit” plans miss, and why putting your phone away is not a technical problem you solve with an app, a timer, or sheer discipline.

We dig into the belief-level drivers that keep the habit running even when the stakes feel painfully clear. One belief says that talking about the issue with your partner will create more disconnection, so you avoid the conversation and stay stuck. Another belief says that if you don’t respond immediately, you could lose a client and risk your ability to provide, which keeps your mind on alert even when you’re physically at home. Marc and Teresa walk through the coaching questions that flip those assumptions and open up a different path, including how to ask your spouse for help and how “call me forward” creates accountability without shame.

Then we take on the fear behind boundaries at work. What if not answering at 8 or 9pm doesn’t cost you respect but earns it? What if it helps you filter for the right clients and model the kind of leadership and work life balance they want for themselves? We close with two prompts to sit with so you can spot the story fueling your old actions and test a new one that makes the better choice feel natural.

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