Bruce Cameron and Sherrod Ellis discuss reality versus actuality. This transitioned into how clients handle being thwarted to disappointments in both positive and negative ways. We discuss how to avoid anger when thwarted. More importantly, we ask "what is your role in the situation?" Adding coaching and mentoring can assist clients to cope with negativity in their lives. Bruce Cameron can be reached at lifexecoaches@gmail.com or www.conciergecoach.net Sherrod is found at www.nlfmtexas.org