Have you believed all your life that you were doing good by criticizing yourself? I have, and it took me years to realize how wrong I was. I encouraged my inner critic to continue being harsh, mean, and sometimes even condescending because I thought it opened me up to reality.
But I have realized that my inner critic was filling me with fear, engaging in negative self-talk, and diminishing my confidence.
Most importantly, my inner critic was suppressing my instincts. So, I had to talk about it with you. Tune in to this episode of Unbox Yourself as I speak with you about taming your inner critic by building a relationship with it.
Today, you’ll learn:
- The importance of being self-aware and how it helps tame your inner critic. By becoming more aware of your inner critic and the judgemental tone you use on yourself, you’ll understand what’s happening and why.
- Fear, comparison, and negative self-talk are all signs your inner critic is working in its best power.
- When you cloud yourself with the negativity from your inner critic, your body responds negatively to it, too – your shoulders become tight, your instincts are nowhere helping, and you sound and feel very different.
- One way to tame your inner critic is to name it. Name the voice inside your head that’s constantly judging or questioning you. Distinguish between the voices — of the real you and the critiquing you. It creates a separation between you and the voice and allows you to probe and ask questions. This way, you’ll also know when to distract, when to lean in and act, and how to ask the right questions to assess any situation or feeling.
- Be the adult in your relationship with your inner critic, not a passive bystander.
- Be compassionate in your talks with yourself.
- Realize that getting over that inner voice is a slow process, that change happens slowly. Don’t expect it to go right the first time. Allow for some imperfection, take baby steps, and don’t try to give yourself a timeline.
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