The New Manager Podcast: Recent Episodes
Kim Nicol
The New Manager Podcast is where you'll learn how to be a better manager with simple, doable ideas and frameworks. Kim Nicol started teaching Essential Skills for New Managers in 2017 at General Assembly. She created this podcast for her students and clients. To work 1:1 with Kim, go to https://kimnicol.com/coaching
Add this to your toolkit for when you're feeling overwhelmed, or asking yourself "What should I do?" Take a step back, take a breath, and ask: "What is your role?" When you care a lot, it's easy to overextend yourself, avoid difficult conversations, and overly focus on how everyone else is feeling. By considering your role here, you will get more clarity -- while also being responsive to changing situations and relationships. Let's discuss!After the episode:Join the Wait List for the next group program, https://kimnicol.com/newmanagers/Get 1:1 coaching, https://kimnicol.com/coaching/--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kimnicol/message
No matter where you are in the organization, it's helpful to think about managing up. (Even if you are the Executive Director or CEO, you might still manage up to the Board!)
Start with awareness of the power dynamic and power differential -- which can vary widely depending on the organizational culture (is it super hierarchical? or more flat?) and the personalities involved. Ask yourself: What do I know about this person? How to they measure success? What do they care about? Prioritize?
Then think about it through the lens of partnership: what are your roles, and how can you work well together?
Let's discuss!
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The continuing education class I mentioned on Trauma Informed Leadership: A Guide for All Managers, starts June 19th!
Listen to Ep. 147. Ask - What New Managers Need to Know about Making an Ask
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If you find yourself suddenly having to lead a team through hard times, this is for you. Layoffs are hard on everyone -- including those left behind, who are grieving the loss of their teammates, fearing for their own job security, and feeling betrayed or mistrustful of upper management and leadership.
When things feel out of your control, the ideas here will help ground you and give you an idea for how to approach the new reality in a human-centered way.
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If you're a good problem-solver, chances are you spend a lot of time looking at. . . problems. This week, ask yourself, "What's working?" To be an effective manager and an inspired leader, you want to have an accurate picture of the situation -- which means being just as mindful of the strengths and positive qualities that you are your team possess as you are aware of the challenges.
This will also help you build trust and good-will, and set you up for success later on in the year when it comes time to do performance reviews.
In this episode you'll learn why it's easy to overlook the good stuff, and you'll get some specific strategies to help you refocus your attention.
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Good leaders and effective managers think about strategy. They consider the desired outcome or goal, and then make decisions based on the available resources and assets, constraints and obstacles. Plus, when you become more strategic, you will feel less reactive to other people's urgency.
To develop this skill, start by understanding your own strategies. Why are you doing things the way you are doing them? In this episode, you'll learn a simple practice that will help you begin to see your own strategies in daily life. Increase your self-awareness, and you'll become more intentional about the strategies you want to put into practice at work. Let's discuss!
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Learn some practical strategies for communicating your point of view. You want to understand you options, because different relationships and situations will require different approaches. You will be more influential as a leader and manager when you consider nuance and options in how you choose to communicate. If you get uncomfortable with dis-harmony, conflict, or confrontation, you will love this episode. Lets discuss!
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When you rise to higher levels of leadership and people management, expect to be invited to more meetings. If you feel like you're not sure when to get work done, because meetings have taken over your calendar, then today's episode will help!
You'll learn a simple process you can use today to re-evaluate your meetings, so you can find small ways to make them much better. You may also need to reconsider which meetings you attend, and which you decline or delegate. Just because you're invited, doesn't mean you have to go. Let's discuss!
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You can find the most valuable lessons on being an effective manager and leader from experiences you have outside of your regular work. A side quest (or side hustle) can help you tap into strengths and develop abilities that you can then bring, more intentionally, to your job.
In today's episode I share the story of my time as a fitness instructor, and how it helped make me a better Director in my corporate job.
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Think about your career and work as being part of an ecosystem. It will give you a useful perspective for addressing problems you face as a manager and leader. Let's discuss!
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Bonus episode with video and an invitation!
Join me and career coach Wendy Saccuzzo for a live (on Zoom) Career Conversation on Pivots and Side Hustles.
One of the inspirations behind this podcast is the experience I had over 12 years ago, when I was promoted to a Director role and started managing a team of my peers. There wasn't much guidance or training available to me as a new manager, and it's one reason I started teaching Essential Skills for New Managers, which then led to this podcast.
My career journey has had a number of pivots (I've been a lawyer, a yoga teacher, and a public speaking trainer). Now I work full-time as a coach in private practice, but looking back I can see how my side-hustles helped me become a better manager, a more inspired leader, and led me to work I really love.
This free✨ live (on Zoom) event is on Thursday, April 25, at 9am Pacific Time.
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There will be times at work when you wonder, "WTF are they doing?!?"
When you're a manger you might wonder this about someone on your team who reports to you, or your own manager and leadership team.
Instead of saying that out loud, however, try asking this question instead: "What are you trying to solve for?"
You want a better picture of how this person is thinking and seeing -- because that is what drives their choices and actions. Using this question will help you illuminate their intentions and the perspective behind their behaviors.
This episode breaks down why that question is so effective, especially when you're working with someone who might get defensive easily or who might be in a position of formal power over you.
Instead of feeling confused or frustrated, try using this question instead and see what happens.
Other episodes referenced:
- Ep. 129 - "Walk me through"
- Ep. 110 - Identify the Problem
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As an individual contributor, your role is to be good at your specific task or function. As a manager and leader, your role shifts -- and now you're making more decisions. When you understand how to make decisions, you'll feel more confident and less drained.
In this episode you'll learn:
- Signs you might be avoiding a decision
- The real cost of "keeping your options open"
- Why the freedom of making a decisions feels better than the freedom of not deciding
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Your health and well-being make a difference in how you show up as a manager and leader. And, your work can also effect your health and well-being. So in today's episode, you'll learn an easy framework to help organize your thinking about this. It will enable you to recognize what you do well, and identify areas you'd like to nurture. Let's discuss!
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To work effectively and sustainably, you want to think about what support you need. This might be new if you're extremely self-reliant. Your first impulse might be to say, "I'm good, I don't need any support." You might also do this if you feel that asking for support somehow makes you look bad. But being able to identify and advocate for resources is a leadership skill, and one that will benefit both you and your team. Let's discuss!
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Perfectionism isn't about being perfect. It's about feeling safe. In this episode, learn to recognize the signs of perfectionism holding you back -- including when you might drift towards micromanaging. When you can recognize when it happens and understand why it's happening, you will be more empowered to access your agency and choose a more useful approach. Let's discuss!After the episode:Book a consult to discuss 1:1 coaching with Kim:https://calendly.com/kimnicol/consultationJoin the Wait List for workshops and group programs:https://kimnicol.com/newmanagers/--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kimnicol/message
In the course of your career you will want to develop a well-nurtured network. This will help you navigate your career, as well as manage and lead more effectively. In this episode you will learn more about why you should care about growing and nurturing your network, as well as gain some specific, simple steps for how to do that. Let's discuss!
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Becoming a better communicator and more effective manager means being less reactive and more intentional. How do you do that? Start by growing your self-awareness. When you slow down, step back, and see your own habits and preferences, you will be able to bring more intention to how you communicate. Instead of simply operating by default and being reactive, you become more deliberate and intentional. Let's discuss!After the episode:I'm taking new clients. To talk with me about your goals, challenges, and how 1:1 coaching with me can help, book a time here: https://calendly.com/kimnicol/consultationGet on the Wait List to hear about workshops and the next group program: https://kimnicol.com/newmanagers/--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kimnicol/message
In this episode I talk with listener Adrian Bond about lessons learned as a new manager. We discuss: managing peers ("Who am I to tell these people what to do?"), the key difference between being a manager and a leader, how work stress can affect your home life, the importance of redefining success ("recognize what to STOP doing"), and the importance of training before you move up into a manager role.
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How do you manage change effectively? First, you must expect there to be resistance. When you understand what might be creating resistance or avoidance, you will be better at creating a plan to address it. And one of the best places to start is with yourself. Let's discuss!
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The more aware you are of how to work with emotions, the more effective you will be as a communicator and leader. Especially when it comes to disappointment. This one emotion is often behind why we avoid conversations, or don't ask for what we need.
Instead of trying to avoid disappointment at all costs, try: 1) Accepting it is a human emotion, and let yourself feel it 2) Identify the unmet expectation, 3) Learn from it, and 4) Be curious about what's next. Let's discuss!
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Managing people and being a leader means people look to you for direction. Realize that you can be direct, directive, and clarify direction (the vision towards which you want people to go) -- and, importantly, you can do all this in a way that is kind and clear. There are examples of this all around you, when you start to look for them!
In this episode you'll also learn how making decisions and experiencing discomfort come with the territory. The episode ends with three reflection questions to help you this week. Let's discuss!
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A good foundation makes everything easier, and it is never too late to revisit your foundation and make some improvements. In this episode you'll learn about Strategic Failure, and why so many new managers worry about whether they are doing a good job. Let's discuss!
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What do new managers need to know about working with HR? And what can you do to create great relationships at work -- with your manager, your team, and internal clients?
This episode covers all that and more, with special guest Maggie Reyes. Before becoming a Master Certified Life Coach and expert in marriage and relationships, Maggie worked in HR. In this episode she shares her wisdom, strategic perspective, and practical tips to help you manage more effectively and lead more authentically.
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Listen to The Marriage Life Coach Podcast: https://maggiereyes.com/podcast/
Buy her book, the Questions for Couples Journal: 400 Questions to Enjoy, Reflect, and Connect with Your Partner
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Happy New Year! Getting a fresh perspective is like looking with new eyes at a familiar scene. You will find new opportunities and possibilities. In this episode you will learn a simple framework to help you get a fresh perspective, so you can make micro-adjustments. Small changes add up, and can be easier to implement in the moment so you build up momentum.
Whether you are a first-time manager, an aspiring manager, or simply want a new approach to managing and leading others, this episode will help you.
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When you care about your team and want to do a good job as a manager and leader, it's easy to over-give and always put others first. If you being self-reliant is one of your strengths, you might not have much practice in self-care and asking for support. But as you grow in your career and gain more responsibility, it becomes more important. When more people depend on you, tending to your own self-care will help you be your best. Let's discuss!
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As a leader, you have more people looking to you -- and depending on you. You might feel more pressure and notice more fear of making mistakes. In this episode you'll learn how to recover from failure, and how your perspective will determine what happens next. Let's discuss!
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Work doesn't happen in a vacuum. When you're a new manager, there are two things that you'll want to identify in order to be more effective: Systems and Environment. These are often relational, making them tacit and invisible. And yet they are everywhere. In this episode, I'll talk about a few specific systems you'll want to identify, and some aspects of the larger environment you want to be aware of. Let's discuss!
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In this Listener Spotlight episode I talk with Amberlee, a new manager of a small team with big wisdom and insights to share. We talk about: self-care, perfectionism, identity, culture and intersectionality, and the role of vulnerability and transparency in being a human-centered leader and manager. You will learn so much from her!
To learn more about Amberlee and her work, visit her website: www.a-green.co.uk
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One of the most valuable skills in your leadership toolbox is your ability to Ask. New managers sometimes assume they should just know everything. Instead of wondering, Ask. In this episode you'll get some examples of how to do that, and what it can sound like. I share a situation that a listener submitted, and my thoughts for why an Ask might be a great next step, and how to go about it.
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When your to-do list is long enough, try the "To Be" list. This is a simple concept that can simplify your life as a new manager. When you feel overwhelmed, or are not sure what to do, the "To Be" list will help. Practice it regularly and you will see real change in your confidence as a leader, and the level of calm you feel in the moment.
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Being a manager comes with plenty of challenges, but being a leader means finding ways to stay calm and grounded when you face them. In today's episode, you'll learn a simple framework that can help you in a wide range of situations. No matter what's happening, or how you're feeling, you will feel more calm and grounded when you try this out.
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Most time management issues are not really about managing time, but about managing other things. If you've ever felt resentful about the number of meeting requests you get, or if you put a lot of pressure on yourself and feel like you're always behind, this episode is for you. Let's discuss!
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Being a manager comes with more responsibility, and more decisions. How you make those decisions is up to you. So much about leadership and being a manager is in your hands. What kind of leader do you want to be? What's important to you, as you manage people and make decisions that affect others? In this episode you'll hear a bit about my perspective on leadership, as well as the distinction between being arbitrary and realizing how much is within your discretion. Let's discuss!
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We're coming up on the end of the year -- the next 2 months will go by faster than you expect! In this episode you'll get my Q4 Checklist, with three simple questions every new manager should ask at this point in the year. It will help you feel grounded, calm, and confident as you approach year-end.
Plus, you'll hear why this is the perfect time in the year to ask your manager about professional development.
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Work-life is often focused on actions and what you do. But it's important to remember the value in being, as well. So if you find yourself overwhelmed by your To Do list, or feel like you're Not Doing Enough, or you're wondering, "What should I do?" -- this episode will help. Actions and doing is not the most important thing. Let's discuss!
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Free webinar by Center of Care Innovations: Breaking the Cycles of Trauma through Recognition and Healing
- Center for Care Innovations: https://www.careinnovations.org/
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Great managers are good at being resourceful and resilient, making things work even under challenging circumstances. If you've had to make due throughout your life, then it's easy to take that approach as a default. But just because you can make it work, doesn't mean you have to. Sometimes you need to take a step back and look at a situation with fresh eyes -- and then decide what you want to do. Let's discuss!
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If you're feeling a lot of pressure to do a great job as a new manager, this episode is for you.
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Being conflict averse makes it hard to speak up and share your ideas. Maybe disagreements feel uncomfortable, like something bad is going to happen. Or you worry about being wrong so you stay quiet until you feel your idea is unassailable. When you're a manager, there are times you must be direct. And, I want you to have a few options so that you can participate more readily without feeling confrontational.
In this episode you'll get some specific language to use, that will help you feel more comfortable speaking up. And if you manage a team where some folks tend to be more vocal while others are more reserved, this will help you to facilitate group conversations so that all voices can be heard. Let's discuss!
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To know if you're doing a good job as a manager, you need to ask yourself: What does success look like? In this episode you'll learn 4 markers to look for: internal, external, intangible, and tangible. When you take time to define success, and know how to identify it, then success won't be a mystery and failure won't be a surprise. You'll feel more grounded and calm because you'll know how you're doing. And you'll feel more confident in how you communicate what's going on to your manager, and others. Let's discuss!
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Being a manager is a different job than whatever you did before. Expect there to be a learning curve. You'll have to learn what the job is, and how to do it, all at the same time. In this episode you learn one pitfall to watch out for, and three things that will help you learn to be a great manager. Let's discuss!
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This week's episode features a special guest: Kirby Nicol, my Dad. We talk about leadership and what he's learned through a long and varied career, including being a coach at the Olympics, and serving as Executive Director for The Wharf to Wharf Race.
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Part of your job as a manager is to give feedback. And yet, if your work has never given you guidance or training on how to do it well, you're not alone! In this episode you'll learn why it's important to have an intentional approach and strategy, and how communication skills and confidence come into play. Let's discuss!
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"Control the control-ables." "Focus on your sphere of influence." How does this help you be a great manager? It reminds you to look for agency. In this episode you'll gain insight to why this matters, and a few key examples to get you thinking about your own situation.
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How do you get out of overwhelm? This episode walks you through the story of how one client found a path out. You'll hear how she first approached the challenge, what shifted after she started coaching, and what changed as a result. You'll learn more about human-centered leadership and why self-awareness and skill are so important to creating a sustainable solution. It must begin with you. Let's discuss!
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Every manager will face situations that create feelings of anxiety. Which is why Self-Care is so important, especially when it comes to human-centered leadership. In this episode you'll learn more about how to think about Self-Care, why it makes you a more effective manager, how connection reduces anxiety, and more. Let's discuss!
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If you avoid confrontation, you're not alone! Many new managers are uncomfortable with confrontation, especially if you've had success by keeping a low profile, keeping your head down, and working hard to keep the peace. Being an effective communicator means that sometimes you'll have to be direct -- even if you fear confrontation. In this episode, I'll break down what a confrontation really is, and then walk you through an approach to help you get past the habit of avoiding confrontations. So you can feel more prepared and confident, and worry less. Let's discuss!
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Being a great manager doesn't mean having all the answers. There are many times you will need to coach someone on your team, or get curious about why something isn't happening. You'll want to know how the other person is thinking, what their process is, and where they're going off course -- so you can understand how best to help. That's when to use this phrase: "Walk me through. . ." Listen to learn more about how and when to use this phrase to unlock more clarity, understanding, trust, and possibilities at work.
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If you look at your calendar and feel like you don't have enough boxes of time for all the things on your To Do list, this episode will help! Learn 5 ways to think about managing your time so you feel more in control and less overwhelmed. Each one is like a lens: 1) Energy, 2) Attention, 3) Emotions, 4) Decision Making, and 5) Communication. When you see a bit differently and develop your skills, it will change how you work with the time you have, and you'll be more effective in a way that works for you.
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To give effective feedback, there is one question you must ask yourself first. In this episode, learn more about giving effective feedback and why it's important to develop this skill in your career -- and the sooner, the better! Plus, if you're introvert or are just feeling a little more socially awkward these days, you'll get some ideas that will help you feel prepared for in-person events and gatherings. Let's discuss!
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Learn about the difference between Decision Making, Discretion, and Influence and what they can look like in the workplace. You will use them all throughout your career, and when you become a manager the way you think about them will begin to change. As a leader, you must become more aware of how you make decisions -- because it becomes a bigger part of your job, even (or especially) in times of uncertainty or imperfect information. The more you begin to understand about Discretion and Influence, the more you'll see ways to manage up. Let's discuss!
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One of the most-listened to episodes is about the Support & Authority Map. It's a framework that will help you be more effective by adjusting the amount of Support and Authority (like giving clear direction, making decisions, etc) you bring to any relationship or situation. A good manager knows how to be flexible, so you can work with a range of people and situations. This will give you a tool to help you understand what that can look like, and why you see certain patterns of behavior (in yourself, and others). Let's discuss!
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One of the best ways to learn about how to be an effective manager is to be observant about your own experience -- just being a person and engaging with the world. In this episode you'll hear about my experience volunteering for something, and some key insights and examples I gathered about onboarding, managing people, and being a leader.
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Being more confident doesn't mean you never have doubts. It means that you can move forward even when they pop up. How? By recognizing the thoughts that hold you back, and then being curious about what might be possible anyway. In this episode you'll learn more about the sneaky thought, "What's the point?" and how to not let it stop you. And, you'll learn why now is the perfect time to ask about professional development at work. When you're a manager, you'll need to develop new skills and abilities. Let's discuss!
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Communicating is not just about the words you say, but the way in which you say them. Let's discuss!
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At some point you will think: "How do I get this person to. . .?" You might be thinking about your manager, and how to manage up. Or you might be wondering why a person on your team isn't changing, even though you've already given them feedback about something. When you start managing people, you need to think more about how to get work done through others -- it's no longer just about you doing a task. Let's discuss!
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The topic of money will almost always bring up emotions. And when you're a manager, you are pretty much guaranteed to have more money conversations. It could be when someone on your team who wants a promotion or a raise, or when you're hiring someone new. Or it might be when you get promoted and are now managing your friends -- and now can see what everyone's salary is. In this episode you'll get some perspective and ideas that for how to feel more confident when you have money conversations as a manager. Let's discuss!
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When you're a manager, you'll think about employee Engagement differently than when you were an IC. In this episode, learn why Engagement is so important, and how Mindset and Attitude play a role. When you have better understanding of what creates Engagement (or Disengagement!), you'll have a better idea of how you can address it with your team. Let's discuss!
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Saying No is a leadership skill. If you want to get better at it, you're invited to my free class on The Gentle No. Many of my 1:1 clients work with me on how become more confident when and how to say No in a variety of situation. It's one of my favorite things to teach, and I can't wait to share more in class.
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This episode is about Mindfulness as a Skill of Attention and how it can help you as a manager. Specifically, using mindfulness to help you: (1) identify early signs that something is "off", so you can address small issues before they become big issues, (2) not take things personally, and (3) apply this to managing up, down, and across. Let's discuss!
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When you're really good at something, and then start managing people, it's easy to forget that: 1) being a manager is a different job and 2) there is a learning curve. It's also easy to forget that what works with one person, situation, or team might not be effective in another -- because people vary. So if you try to be "perfect" from the start, you end up putting pressure on yourself, second-guessing yourself, and delaying decision making. Instead, think in terms of process (not perfection). It will make it easier for you to learn faster, and with less anxiety and worry.
The first person you manage is always yourself. Let's discuss!
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A lot of stress and overworking comes from feeling not in control, and thinking that the only way to be in control is to just do everything yourself. This is hard when you realize there will always be more things to do. It becomes unsustainable, and can keep you stuck feeling overwhelmed, always behind, and responding just to whatever is happening in the moment. Instead, you want to take time to pause, take a step back, and get a bigger perspective. Think of it like pulling off the racetrack for a pit stop -- it's necessary to win the race. In this episode you'll get some questions to ask yourself that will help you take that pause, so you don't burn out, and you can feel a bit more in control. Let's discuss!After the episode: Join email list to get the details for the next group program: https://kimnicol.com/newmanagers/ Talk to Kim about 1:1 coaching: https://calendly.com/kimnicol/consultationSubmit a question for a future episode! Spotify listeners, submit your questions in the box below. Apple Podcast listeners, send in your questions at: https://kimnicol.com/contact/
As a manager, you make a lot of decisions. When you're in a situation where things aren't going to plan, how do you decide what to do? One way is to ask yourself: Where is my growth? That will help you pause, take a more strategic perspective, and make a grounded decision. Let's discuss!
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When you're a manager, you might feel caught in the middle between leadership and your team. I think of this as the "squeeze", when you feel like everyone is unhappy and you can't figure out how to solve it. Your manager is pushing you for more, while your team is struggling with their workload, and you're hearing it from both sides. What to do? In this episode you'll learn more about what happens when you feel caught in the middle, and feel like a failure. Let's discuss!
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Ever been told you need to "toughen up" or be harder on yourself? Have you noticed how that approach tends to create more self-judgment, resistance, and stress? When being hard stops working, go to Compassion. Managing people is hard enough without the extra pressure from an internal critic. When you call in Compassion, it makes things easier so you can move forward with more ease. It's a more effective way to work, and more fulfilling way to live. Let's discuss!
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Being a great manager doesn't require you to be a hero. But sometimes I see my clients slip into that mindset. It often looks like perfectionism, and anxiety about how others see you. It leads to overworking, isolating, and being overly responsible. It also creates a lot of pressure, feeling like everything is on your shoulders and it's up to you to keep everything together (no mistakes allowed!). In this episode, you'll learn more about why the hero mindset is easy to slip into, and how it will hold you back from being an effective leader. You'll also learn why seeing yourself as a whole human is the key to managing yourself and your own wellbeing. Let's discuss!After the episode: Schedule a consult to discuss 1:1 coaching with Kim: https://calendly.com/kimnicol/consultation Get on the list to learn about the group program: https://kimnicol.com/newmanagers/The book referenced in this episode is Persephone Returns by Tanka Wilkinson
Ever feel like you need to "push back" but don't know how? When you're a manager, there are a lot of times this comes up: you might get a request from your leadership, or be in conversations with another team about who will do what. If you've ever felt like you didn't know how to push back, or you are just highly conflict avoidant, this episode will help you. A small shift makes a big difference. Let's discuss!
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When you feel frustrated, how you identify the problem is everything! Because the way you see the problem will limit the solutions you find. And when it comes to working with humans, it's important to not fall into the pattern of blaming people and personalities. It's easy to do, especially when it's a communication issue. But doing so will keep you stuck and feeling helpless. Instead, learn to think beyond your initial reaction -- and look at things in terms of process, system, and context. This will save you so much time and energy, and will build more trust and resilience into the team. Let's discuss!
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Feel like you're struggling as a manager? Are you doubting yourself, feeling like maybe it's not a great fit? In this episode we look at three things that can be a factor: your work environment, your sense of agency, and your autonomy. Work environment includes physical things (e.g., furniture, lighting, etc) as well as the culture of your organization. Agency is your capacity to take action in a situation. Autonomy is your bigger picture perspective on how much freedom you have to make decisions for your life. When you look at how these three elements relate in your own work life, you gain insight that will help you every day. Let's discuss!
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As you rise in leadership and managing people, you'll need to hone some specific communications skills. Advocacy (for self and others), speaking up, having tough conversations, being direct, giving feedback, and establishing boundaries. To do that, you need more than information about what to say -- you need to grow your mindset so that you will apply what you've learned in an authentic way. This has everything to do with understanding yourself, and recognizing the emotions that drive behaviors. For instance, if you are uncomfortable with confrontation, it will drive you to avoid and delay -- even if you know what to say and why it's important. Addressing the human emotion behind the scenes is key to growing your communication skills and ability to be an effective manager and leader. Let's discuss!
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Ever heard the saying, "You don't get what you don't ask for."? Many organizations are happy to pay for professional development for their people -- especially new managers. After all, when you learn how to be more confident and do your job better. . . you do your job better, and the organization directly benefits. But how exactly do you make that ask? A lot of my students feel uncertain about how to do this, at first. In today's episode, I walk you though the framework I've shared for years, that my students and clients have successfully used to get their work to pay for professional development. It's worked in many kinds of organizations, and for a wide range of requests: from a $36 workshop, to thousands of dollars in coaching. The best part? When you become someone who can speak up for yourself and ask, you can access so much more. The other best part? Your work might be delighted that you're taking the initiative. Others benefit when you grow. Get ready to take notes!
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What do you do when you need to have a tough conversation, but you're afraid of conflict? One of my listeners submitted this question, and it's something that many new managers struggle with. Today I'll walk you through two steps to think about, so you can move forward. Let's discuss!
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Learning how to work with emotions is one of the most valuable skills you can develop as a manager. It will make you better at managing up, managing your team, and managing clients. It's also a key to understanding why you might be avoiding tough conversations, or giving feedback -- because you're worried about the emotional response from the other person. In this episode you'll learn why emotions are valuable, and a few ideas for working with them. Let's discuss!
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Being a great manager means developing your relational skills -- not just communication skills, but an understanding of how to effectively manage different personalities, have tough conversations, and think strategically. In this episode you'll get three questions to help you start the new year right. When you know when, why, and how to use them, you'll be better prepared for whatever comes your way this year.
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If you've ever felt tension with someone at work, and wasn't sure how to handle it, this episode is for you. First, I'll walk you through the foundation of all my work -- being Present, Curious, and Kind -- and why it's so effective in a range of situations. Then, I'll share an approach to tension at work that puts you in the position for being most influential and thinking strategically. It will help you be a more effective manager, and feel more confident even with dealing with discomfort and tough conversations. Let's discuss!
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Have you been in a situation where someone asked you a question, and it felt weird? Maybe you weren't sure how to respond, or weren't certain of the person's intentions. Maybe you felt nervous and your mind went blank. When you're a new manager, you'll be asked questions a lot -- and you might think that your job is to answer quickly with the correct answer. But it's not! If that seems counter-intuitive, listen to learn a mindset and specific tactic for what to do instead. Let's discuss!
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Back in November I taught a workshop on Boundaries with Love, and in today's episode you get to hear the replay. Just in time for the holidays. Great managers have a solid working understanding of boundaries, and know how to use them to create more trust (and keep themselves out of over working). You'll also use boundaries to create great relationships in your personal life, too. In this episode you'll learn more about boundaries with love and why it makes such a difference -- at work, and in your personal life.After the episode: New clients start in January. For 1:1 coaching, book a consult now at https://calendly.com/kimnicol/consultation Learn more at https://kimnicol.com/
For the 100th episode, first we celebrate! Then I talk about Data, Story, and Emotion. When you understand how these three elements work together, you will become a more effective manager. Think in terms of how data, story, and emotion work and you will be more influential, a better communicator, and have more confidence in your own decisions and manager style. Let's discuss!
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As you rise into higher levels of responsibility and visibility, you may start to get feedback about "developing executive presence." If you've ever felt confused by what that means, you're not alone! It's rarely something we learn about early in our work life, and it's often not described in much detail. So it can seem elusive and ambiguous. In this episode, I break down how I think about Executive Presence and give some specific examples to help new managers think about what exactly it means, and how to get it. Let's discuss!
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When you manage people, it can be hard to know if you're doing a good job! And if you're an achievement-oriented person, it's easy to feel frustrated or discouraged when you don't know how you're doing. In this episode, I walk you through a process for thinking about this. So you don't have to feel adrift and uncertain, and can keep track of how you're doing as a manager. Let's discuss!
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Do you have a high performer on your team, and you aren't sure how you're supposed to manage them? In this episode you'll learn about three common pitfalls to be aware of: 1) Neglect 2) Self-Doubt, and 3) Over-Reliance. Plus, suggestions for what to do if your team member seems frustrated or impatient for a raise, or is looking to you for guidance on what to do next.
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Being a new manager requires a new mindset: the way you think about your role, responsibilities, and challenges. There are three mindsets that new managers often adopt, that can be unintentionally limiting: 1) Do more of the same, 2) Do the opposite of what you've seen a bad manager do, or 3) Do what works best for you, personally. These will get in your way because: 1) What got you here won't get you there, 2) You don't want to base your management style on a bad experience, and 3) People vary, so what works great for you might not work as effectively for others. Instead, you want to take an intentional approach to change -- while realizing there may be some growing pains along the way. Let's discuss!
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Reflection Questions are not about having the "right" answer, or giving an answer that will gain the approval or praise of someone else. The beauty of Reflection Questions is they help you to think a bit differently about your own experience, so you can see your inner wisdom and gather your personal insight. In this episode I share 6 Reflection Questions that will help you think about your work and life, to prepare you to make strategic decisions as you move towards the end of the year. Let's discuss!
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Managing people isn't just about managing tasks and work -- it includes managing personalities, shielding your team, and more. There's a new level of emotional labor that comes with being a leader and people manager. It's also common to feel more isolated and lonely as you gain more responsibility, and feel like you have to be more guarded about what you share and who you can talk with. Let's discuss!
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Great managers learn how to be present. It helps you build trust, and stay grounded and calm so you can be responsive instead of reactive. Let's discuss!
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"What do other people think of me?" If you have a tendency to be a perfectionist (and, thus, very self-judging), high empathy or people-pleasing, this question may pop up a lot in your mind. It may activate your anxiety, and have you holding yourself back as a way to play it safe. But there's another way to look at this -- a small shift in perspective that can grow your confidence and focus. Let's discuss!
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Where does confidence come from? And if you receive feedback about being more confident at work, how do you do that? In this episode you'll learn the difference between Performative Confidence and Authentic Confidence, and why knowing where the basis of your confidence is, is so important. Let's discuss!
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Bonus episode! "You don't get what you don't ask for." Learning how to ask is a skill. You can get better at it. Even if you're an introvert, conflict-avoidant, or just don't like asking anyone for anything.
If you want to learn how to speak up for yourself at work, come to my free workshop on Monday October 3rd.
Self-Advocacy 101: How to Speak Up for Yourself at Work.
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Think you're in competition with a colleague? In this episode, a listener writes in to ask for guidance when they and their coworker are both up for promotion. And, as a manager, you might find yourself in a similar situation -- where two people on your team want a promotion, and you'll have to (1) make a decision about who and when, and (2) communicate the news. Let's discuss!
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As a new manager, you might feel a tendency to people-please flare up. It can get in the way by causing you to overwork (by having no boundaries), communicate poorly (by avoiding conversations or not being direct), or creating more pressure and anxiety (by ruminating). In this episode, you'll see what creates the impulse to people-please, and what to do instead. So you can be intentional in making decisions, and use your people-pleasing awareness for the best. Let's discuss!
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What if you're a new manager who is managing people who are older than you, or who have more experience than you? One of my listeners wrote to me asking about this, and it's such a good question. In this episode I talk about the pressure you might feel, the importance of being clear on what the job actually is, and a simple process to help you navigate the situation and relationships. Let's discuss!
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Many new managers get feedback to be more assertive. What does that mean? How do you do it? Let's discuss!
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Being a human means you have access to all the emotions -- as does everyone you work with! Becoming a manager will bring up everything from self-doubt, fear of failure, and frustration. . . to connection, inspiration, and confidence. The best part of work is when we feel proud, valued, and respected. The worst is when we feel a lack of trust, discouraged, or chronically frustrated. Understanding emotions are important for every manager (and human, lets be honest.) In this episode we walk through the very basics of understanding emotion as an experience, so you can begin to work with them more effectively.
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When you start managing people, you will be making new decisions about how you use your time. Some of your time will be in strategic thinking and planning, some will be in execution, some in communicating, and other relationship management tasks. You must learn how to use your time well, rather than letting yourself feel overwhelmed -- which leads to avoidance, reactivity, and never feeling like you have a handle on things. Each week, take a moment to pause and ask yourself: What am I spending my time on? And why? What am I avoiding? And why? Taking a little time to regularly reflect, assess, and decide how to use your time will ensure you use the rest of your time intentionally, rather than reactively. Let's discuss!
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You're not managing people yet, but it's the next step and you want to start preparing. In this episode we'll talk about how you can start developing your mindset, before you shift from IC to people manager.
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As a manager, part of your job is to speak up. But as a human, you might feel anxious or reluctant to do so. What holds us back from speaking up at work? And how can you learn to have more authentic confidence to speak up? Let's discuss.
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One reason we hold on to anxiety and perfection is because of an underlying belief that you need them to be successful. You might think that perfection makes you detail oriented, and anxiety motivates you towards achievement -- and you may have been rewarded for them! In this episode, you'll get some ideas for how to think differently, so you can achieve what you want but in a new way. It will make you a better manager, and you'll become more authentically confident. Let's talk about it.
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Having friends at work makes our work experience much more rewarding. In this episode, learn four things that great work friendships have. And learn how to think about balancing friendships with people who report to you.
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There are three skills every manager needs: Advocacy, Giving Feedback, and Boundaries. Today we explore how they all connect. When you know what you want, the next step is to consider how to go about making happen. Is it something you need to advocate for? Do you need to give someone feedback, to create a desired change? Or is this a boundary issue that requires you to clarify an agreement with yourself? Let's discuss.
Being human means going through highs and lows. Let's talk about what that means for you as a manager. And: what happens when you realize you don't love what you do? In this episode you'll learn how a small shift in perspective can help you're feeling discouraged.
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If you've managed child care for your family, then you have experience managing people. You've had to interview, hire, and onboard a new team member. You've had to manage schedules, evaluate performance, and give feedback. In this episode, let's talk about the connections between managing child care and being a manager at work.
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Many folks are uncomfortable setting boundaries because it can feel confrontational, like something you're putting against someone else. Or boundaries can feel like a rule you set for other people. But a boundary isn't about controlling other people. Here's a way to think about it instead. It may help you create boundaries more easily.
Being overly self-critical and diminishing your skills and accomplishments is one way to keep yourself small. When you start to take up more space, it might feel weird -- like you're boasting, or being arrogant. There's another way to think about it. Rather than making yourself smaller or puffing yourself up into arrogance, this episode will give you a way to think about that let's you be "right" sized.
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Being ambitious does not mean you need to be great at everything. And when you focus on what you're not good at, you're more likely to overlook and diminish what you are good at. In this episode we look at where this story comes from, how it effects you at work, and what to do instead. We'll talk about three types of family pressure and one common career pressure (especially if you are underrepresented at work), so you can identify these in your own life.
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One of the first ways we learn to do something new is by observing someone else, and then trying to mimic what we see. But this always the best approach, and one pitfall is that you'll compare yourself to others and think that your job is to be like them and do what they do. When you're a new manager, this looks like replicating what you've seen other managers do -- rather than thinking about what is needed in the moment. It also results in discounting your own judgement and preferences, because if you don't see it modeled around you, you may assume that your own ideas are "wrong." So let's talk about what to do instead.
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Time Management may seem boring, but to me it is a sacred practice. Because when you make decisions about what is on your calendar, you are making decisions about how to spend your life. Making decisions about your time is also tied into bigger topics -- like your values, your fears, and what else is happening in your life right now. There will always be more things to do than time (or energy) for it. Let's talk about it.
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What if it was possible to have better meetings? Start to think about meetings as something you can design with intention and care. Let's talk about it. If you want individual help to level up as a leader and become a better manager, go to: https://kimnicol.com/coaching/
Ambition is what motivates you to succeed. But when you take a closer look, what's really driving it? Is it a desire for achievement? Money? Autonomy? Something else? In this episode we take a closer look at ambition and how it connects with three distinct stages of career: Workhorse, Confident Practitioner, and Legacy / Vision. We'll also talk about why to become a manager -- or not.
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Before you manager other people, first you have to manage yourself. It starts by understanding how your mind works. For most of us, when faced with uncertainty the mind fills in the blanks with negative creativity. You think about all the things that could go wrong, or how you're not good enough. Learning how to manage your mind is something that will help you as a new manager and leader, throughout your career! Let's talk about it.
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Through 6-months of 1:1 coaching, you'll learn how to be a better manager and a more confident, authentic leader.
Every problem has two parts: the outside part, and the inside part. In this episode, learn how to identify the real problem, and see why working on the inside part always creates more options and solutions for you. Also: being a manager is a lot about dealing with emotions. Let's talk about it.
Wonder what happens in coaching? Let's talk about it. Many of my clients have never worked with a coach before coming to me. Learn why having a plan can get in the way of progress, and how coaching creates positive side effects like getting promoted.
What's more important that perfection? Clarity of purpose. In this episode you'll learn why new managers can get distracted by perfection, and how to look at things in a more useful way. Start to focus on purpose over perfection, and see what happens.
Why do we feel anxious when things are going well? Let's talk about it. Every new manager and growing leader will face this as some point. There will be a time in your life and career when things are going great, and yet you'll feel worried, stressed, guilty, or anxious. Find out where that comes from so you don't go into success avoidance or sabotage. Learn how to feel safe being successful.
When you feel overwhelmed as a manager, come back to the fundamentals. They can give you perspective and help you focus on the simple things that matter.
Being clear about who gets to make what decisions can reduce uncertainty, anxiety, and frustration at work. In this episode, learn how to think about authority and decision making as a manager. And begin to notice how it functions around you.
Being direct is an effective communication skill that every manager needs. But it's not always easy! Learn why we avoid being direct (and why people might not be direct with you), and what to do differently. You'll grow your confidence as a leader, and use this skill to create more trust in your relationships!
Every manager needs to learn now to give effective feedback. It's ok if it doesn't come naturally -- you can learn how to do it well. Thinking in terms of "Feedback as a Service" takes the pressure off, and helps you feel like you're on the same team. This episode will give you a useful way to think about how to give feedback, be human, and create a working relationship that works for everyone.
Effective managers know how to advocate for their team. Start with learning how to advocate for yourself -- especially regarding professional development. Learn what holds you back from speaking up, and how to think about it in a new way.
When you're a founder or small business owner and your business begins to grow, you create a new job for yourself: people manager. Here's what to know when you're a new manager for the first time as a founder.
Everything you do is driven by what you're thinking and how you're feeling. Learn how to tell when a thought -- "I can do it" -- is helping or hindering you, and know what to do about it. To work with Kim 1:1, request a consult at https://kimnicol.com/coaching/
In this episode, learn how to be strategic about why you give feedback. Hear six different reasons that drive feedback, and learn why your values and identity play a big role in your strategy.
What exactly is strategic thinking? How do you develop it to be a more effective manager? Let's talk about it.
Managing people requires a specific skillset and a different way of thinking. It's like when you go to drive a car when you've only been a passenger -- there's always a learning curve, even though you've seen others do it countless times. This episode will give you a productive way to think about it, so you don't feel stuck thinking there's something wrong with you (there isn't).
This will help when you're in overwhelm (which can lead to procrastinating on making a decision). One turn of phrase that can shift perspective, ease the burden, and help you focus on the present moment.
If you're an introvert you'll really enjoy this episode on communication skills. Learn the fundamental skills for public speaking, how it connects with giving feedback, and the number one thing you need to put it all together.
It's the new year! Let's talk about the three key skills you need to manage effectively. These hold true no matter what size organization, or how junior or senior you are. And, we'll talk about creating your professional development roadmap for the year.
If you start to feel stuck in a conversation wondering, "What is happening here?" you might be in Opinion Tennis. In this episode you'll learn about this common pattern and how it can show up at work and in family gatherings. And, I'll share two ways to get out of the pattern.
Every new manager needs to develop their strategic thinking. Here are some ways to do that at the end of the year.
In this episode I talk you through a process for end-of-year reflection and celebration. And, we'll cover why it's so valuable to celebrate. Hint: your brain has a bias for negativity. When you intentionally celebrate, it trains your attention to notice and learn from positive experiences. It also strengthens your sense of agency. Studies also show that celebrating is good for mental health and well-being, and who doesn't need more of that? To learn more about coaching with Kim, visit: https://kimnicol.com/coaching/
Tips for what to do when you feel overwhelmed. And remembering that anytime you think about a big change you want to make, you'll meet resistance and doubt. Let's talk about why, and how to approach it instead. https://kimnicol.com/coaching/
Your brain wants certainty, because it feels like safety. If you find that you're in a pattern of holding yourself back, it can help to think of it as a desire for safety rather than "self-sabotage." When you're aware of the underlying reasoning, you can start working with yourself rather than against yourself. Let's talk about it more in this episode.
Changes in leadership can be difficult. I'm sharing my favorite metaphor for this situation, and the questions that can help you think strategically when you need to communicate about the change.
In this episode I share the talk I gave at ICF Converge 2021. You'll learn more about how I think about manager development from a holistic perspective, and will come away with insights you can apply in your own work life. You'll also hear three powerful questions to ask yourself, your team, or your manager.
Making decisions is a skill, and an important part of being an effective manager. Your mindset will influence how you make decisions, and how you show up at work. Most of us learn that it's important to be right -- but that can come with adverse outcomes that you might not even realize. What happens if you're willing to be wrong? Let's talk about it.
Is your work culture fast-paced? Or is it actually reactive, frenetic, and anxious? Let's talk about the difference, and what you can do.
In today's episode you'll meet Adam Hesch, a Navy veteran who has worked in startups and global companies. Adam has great insights and stories to share about leadership, people management, and how to effectively create a sense of team connection. You'll learn about the power of ritual and how structure can enhance creativity. Plus, the value of being intentionally invisible so others can shine. I know you'll come away with ideas that can help you at work!
How do you make decisions? In this episode I share a simple framework that can help you think about how you're making decisions -- and can also be a good way to understand the basis for how other's think about making decisions. You'll find ideas you can use at work, and also in your career and life. The resource mentioned is: The Management Center. Visit them at managementcenter.org to learn more about PTRs.
What, specifically, can you do as a manager to create great relationships at work? In this episode I talk with Ross Swalve about manager lessons learned over more than a decade in the construction industry. He has great insights and perspectives that I know will help you, so get ready to take some notes!
Let's talk about why it's so important to see and respect your value -- even when your manager or workplace doesn't recognize it.
Ever lost sleep from anxiety, thinking, "I don't know what I'm doing!"? Let's talk about it! Being a manger means you're in a higher visibility role, which can feel like more pressure, and more fear about messing up. In this episode I'll share where that anxiety comes from, and what you can do about it.
I can’t wait for you to meet my next guest, Lawrence Patrick! In this episode he shares stories and insights about how to work with different personalities, how to manage up, and what happens when your team is about to mutiny. Get ready to take notes, you’ll want to savor all the wisdom and brilliance he shares about managing people.
In this episode I review the two skills every manager needs — and I share one more: decision making! How you make decisions is so important.
If you try to be perfect at managing people, it will trip you up in a big way. In this episode I share what to watch out for, and offer a few perspectives that may be more useful.
In this episode I share a concept that has helped me organize my thinking, level-up my communication skills, and de-escalate conflict. Plus! Celebrating 10,000 plays.
I’m excited for you to meet my first guest, career coach Michelle Karver! Listen in as we talk about confidence and how to know your value at work. Learn more about Michelle at her website, http://michellekarver.com
Three stories about when to leave a company or career, ideas for how to think about your choices, and what to do with the emotions that will come up.
This episode is about the distinction between leadership and management, and why it’s useful to be clear about how they are different.
Let’s talk about Confidence. We’ll go beyond performative displays to connecting with your own self-trust, no matter what.
In this episode I share three stories about promotions. You were peers and friends, but now you’re promoted to their manager. Scope creep on the job. Elevating others. Plus an observation that ties it all together.
Feel like you messed up? This episode is for you. I share three stories from my own career journey, of mistakes real and imagined. And I give you some ideas for how to think about it when it happens in your own human life.
A story about a toaster reveals some powerful insights about trust and how we work together.
In this episode I introduce the concept of Immeasurable Assets, and we explore one in particular: Trust. It’s an important element in creating high-performing teams and functional relationships, especially at work.
This question holds so much insight that can help you as a manager and a leader. We all get into avoidance from time to time. What are you avoiding? And how can you move forward? Take time with this one, there are a few angles to explore!
In this episode I share a practice to help develop your thinking about being a manager — so that you know what to do next. This will help you become more flexible, authentic, and effective at work.
In this episode I talk about your Value Story, measurable and immeasurable value, and how to think more expansively about the value you bring. This is something you’ll use in conversations with your own manager. It’s a great time of year to reflect on your Value Story, and acknowledge all the ways you make a positive contribution to your team and workplace.
You don’t need to have all the answers. Sometimes being a great manager is about asking questions and listening. In this episode you’ll learn how to use one of my favorite questions to create more engagement, collaborations, and responsibility with your team.
Remembering that people are selfish can help you be a better manager and leader. It might seem counterintuitive, but it can inspire you to be more thoughtful and a better communicator. In this episode I’ll share some stories and ideas that you can use at work.
The seasons have changed, can you feel it? In this episode I get into why it’s important to manage your energy, and how relationships play a part.
Quick episode with a reminder to TRUST yourself. Everyone is figuring this out as they go. Deep breath. You’ve got this.
It sounds counterintuitive, but it’s really important that you know when to slow down and NOT get into solving all the problems. Let’s talk about Individual contributor vs Manager & Leadership mindset.
In this episode I share thoughts about job change — which can be exhausting under the best of circumstances. Our work relationship is tied to our identity, feeling of belonging, and our financial well-being. So any change can have a big effect in our lives.
In this episode I talk about the concept of Inner Weather and Micro Climates at work, and how you can use them to find more power and influence. This is especially useful when you’re responsible for managing outcomes, but don’t have direct reports — when you have to manage by influence.
Ever had a feedback sandwich? Most of my students are tired of them, but not really sure what other options they have. So in this episode I share some ideas to help you serve up feedback that people will want to receive.
It’s July, and that means mid-year reviews. So let’s talk about feedback, it’s the topic my students ask about most. In this episode I talk about behaviors vs judgements, and why being specific builds more trust than being general.
This is one of my favorite topics! I’ll walk you through three ways to use this question to help grow your perspective and get ideas for how to be a better manager for your team.
You don’t need to “solve a problem” in order to help, but there are a few things to consider when you want to be supportive. I’ll walk you through.
Humans are great, but can be so frustrating. Sometimes when we feel in conflict at work, it’s because we forget that everyone is looking through a different lens. This comes up a lot with cross-functional teams. This episode will help.
MBTI, Strengths Finder, Enneagram... Should you be using these kinds of assessment tools at work? Let’s talk about how can they help, and how they can get in the way.
This is the framework I use to organize how we think about the “soft skills” you need as a manager. It’s simple, but really useful! The map has four places: three tend to be most familiar, and one will take a little work.
You might be surprised at how much support is available to you at work for your career growth and training. I chat with my friend Teresa Torres from Product Talk about how to ask your work to pay for your professional development.
Being a human means we tend to take things personally! I do it, you do it, and the people on your team do, too. Problem is that it really gets in the way.
When you neglect self-care you’re not going to be as effective as a manager. In this episode I breakdown 4 levels that will help you get clear on what to focus on in your own life, so you can show up as a better leader for your team.
You don’t have to be perfect. Let’s talk about a better way to think about the job of being a manager.
There are only two essential skills that you need to be a great manager. Once you get clear on what they are, every other related skill is easier to understand.
Learning to be a great manager is a skill. We begin with a question: What makes an awful manager?