Your singleness is a time to figure yourself out. Learn what you like, don’t like. What you want and don’t want. In life, your career, your relationships, you name it. The difference is that once you become 1 with someone, you should have a clear idea of who you are and what you want out of life and your relationship. Because the 2 of you will expect certain things out of each other and at that point, trying this and that is no longer acceptable because you have a role to play. Because marriage is 2 wholes coming together, each individual should know exactly who they are and their hearts desire. Otherwise, how do you know if you’re making the right choice to be with them?
So here are my tips for mastering your singleness and falling in love with you:
- Stay Busy
Look at your life and determine what you should be prioritizing. Whether it’s you health and wellness, your career, your friends, family or a combination of, you have things in your life that need your time and focus much more than any man out there. Get busy with those things.
- Date Yourself
Don’t make being alone a chore. You can spend quality time with yourself by dating yourself! Take yourself shopping, or to the movies. Take a trip you’ve been wanting to go on. Pour yourself a nice bubble bath with a glass of wine and smooth music. Put in the effort to make “me time” fun time! I still carve out time through my week to have a “me day” and I love it! I go get massages, eat at my favorite restaurant, watch chick-flicks, whatever my little heart desires. Be creative. Make it fun and enjoyable!
- Evaluate
Your singleness is time to look at yourself, your behaviors and habits and challenge yourself to do and be better. What don’t you like about yourself? What would you change? Self-evaluation is a form of self-love. You are taking the time to be intentional and make choices that will make you feel better about yourself. In order to get the man you want, you have to become the woman you’re meant to be. Ask yourself, what does the man I want, look for in a woman? And see if you fall short of that. How can you close the gap? How can you get closer and closer to being the woman you know you’re capable of being? What have you dealt with in your past that may be holding you back from reaching your full potential?
- Heal & Apply
To fall in love with yourself, you must apply the process of working through your self-evaluation. Taking what you found when you analyzed your life and your behaviors and creating a plan of action to address them and do better. This includes healing from your past to move forward with a bright future. If you missed the episode about healing, making sure to listen to episode #4 because we dive deep into the healing process and why it’s important.
- Be Patient
You are a work in progress. It takes time to heal from past and work through behaviors and habits that you no you want to change. Be patient with that process but also be patient once you feel your work is done and you’re ready for your man. Remember, you’re not the only part of the equation that has to be ready. Your man has to be ready too. So while I know waiting is hard, you have to continue to fall in love with yourself each and every day until your man is ready for you.
Always remember that you are worthy but you also owe it to yourself to be your very best. And that means challenging yourself, taking a look in the mirror and constantly doing things to grow and evolve as a woman.
Download my FREE Guide "Mastering Your Singleness"
Links:
Book: "What To Do Until Love Finds You"