This is a LIVE replay of A Trauma Survivor Thriver's Podcast which aired Wednesday, January 25th, 2023 at 1130am ET on Fireside Chat.
Today's Guest is Corinne Coppola, Mental Health Coach, IFS Practitioner, Trauma Recovery Specialist and Founder of R.E.S.T Retreats.
Lorilee Binstock 00:01:06 Welcome. I'm Lorilee Binstock and this is A Trauma Survivor Thriver’s PodcastThank you so much for joining me live on a Fireside chat you can be a part of the conferencestation as my virtual audience. I am your host, Lorilee Binstock.Everyone has an opportunity to ask me or our guest questions byrequesting to hop on stage or sending a message in the chat boxI will try to get to you as soon as I can, but I do ask everybody be respectful.Today's guest is Current Cop, mental health coach, isspractitioner trauma recovery specialist,and founder of rest retreatscurrent, thank you so much for joining me today.
Corinne Coppola 00:02:05 You're welcome, Marlene. My pleasure, and it's just tolet you know the pronunciation is Cor.
Lorilee Binstock 00:02:11 Cuppaula. Thank you so much for for correcting me because I probably would call youin the whole time. So thank you so much.
Corinne Coppola 00:02:19 No problem. No problem.
Lorilee Binstock 00:02:23 Well, first of all, I wanna talk about your journey to get you to where you are now.Really, what made you want to workas a mental health coach.
Corinne Coppola 00:02:32 It'sa really good question. I never thought I wind up here for sure.When I was a little girl, I told my parents that I wanted to becounselor, you know, back then, it was called countwe're not therapist and they said, well, you're not gonna earn any money doing
Lorilee Binstock 00:02:50 Mhmm
Corinne Coppola 00:02:52 you better go into business. So that's what I did at the time.And then I found my wayis in the business world for a number of years worth for profit for profit,have my masters and organization development, and then justradio and Mindfulness as a practice to helpground me, keep me steady. I had three young the children at thetimeAnd I thought, wow, This is really a way that I can help servicepeople and help them because it helped those practicethis really helped me so much. And thenI started teaching, and then I worked for a long profit bringing wine centers to thisand I started working on retreats andthings just... And then I was brought to a cactus
Lorilee Binstock 00:03:42 Yeah.
Corinne Coppola 00:03:43 called Internal family systems. And I thought, wow, This is really phenomenal.And powerful for me and my own healing journeyand I thought I reallywanna be able to do this with people. So thatthey can also rewrite their past.And that's how I got to where I am.That being said, there's also, you know, some traumas around mychildhood and my adult wife that came to play intobeing motivated to heal.You know? And that how nowI am working with people and one on one of small groups andleading retreats andI could notthe more alignment and more grateful andhappy.Itself
Lorilee Binstock 00:04:31 That's so wonderful.You know, it's it's interesting. You... You know, you were workingin a traditional settingeven though you were wereyou know,empowered by mindfulnessBut was it the trauma that actuallyhad youmove to towards, you know, being the founder ofthese retreats and and
Corinne Coppola 00:04:58 Mhmm.Mhmm.
Lorilee Binstock 00:04:58 all of this and even trauma recoveryI know that you are specialist with was there was theresomething that clicked where you said. This is what... I wanna go this route.To help people recover from trauma.
Corinne Coppola 00:05:11 Yeah. That is such a great question, Laura.We'll we piecing it together by your great questions.So, yes, the answer is yes. Well, when I first started,taking yoga.I belong to a gym, and one of my girlfriends just like, oh, you've gotta ayou gotta come to this eight am Sunday class and like,No. That is my hurting to down. No. No.That won't be happening. And theThe other side of that, actually, when I began my younger jury,my youngest... My oldest daughter was only about two years old, Eighteen monthsto two years and I was working part time finishing my masters part time And one of my friends had saidyou really gotta try yoga the class like, okay. What else?Andwithfor those are you familiar with yoga, Isthe final relaxation pose. And when I went into Last,I felt like I was home.
Lorilee Binstock 00:06:11 Mm-mm
Corinne Coppola 00:06:13 I was like, wow. This is pretty powerful.But then I had my second child, and I haddifficult birth. So, like, I wasn't, you know, it it wasn't then what it isnow because he's twenty two. My daughter is twenty four.And I have another son. Who's twenty, you know, twenty years ago, there wasn't the knowledgethatprenatal yoga was okay for women who had complications.So then fast forward to my youngest being threeAnd my girlfriend inviting me to thisclass at the gym and I... And she was a phenomenal instructor finally, I wentshe's a phenomenal director, and I thoughtOkay. I'm gonna get back to yoga in a serious way.So found studio that was close to my house andthat I had originally gone to years before.And started to do additional classes there.And while there? I was volunteering at the front dashand there was a buckby a woman by the name of maya.And it was about how she healed herself.
Lorilee Binstock 00:07:22 Mhmm.
Corinne Coppola 00:07:23 From like stage for cancer through our youpractices that were in her background, that she had been a go go go, you know,fashion designer in New york and it was called a path of practice.AndI was just fascinated by that, andMonday, I was ina group setting. I was in a trauma recovery group.Myself is a participant for sexual abuse. I hadexperienced from a close family memberandI hadn't had these memories until I was forty. I am now fifty six.SoI thought to myself when I was in that group, I it just came to me.Like. Oh,This is how yoga has been so healing for me.I have to bring these practices to women and children.You know? And from there, it was Gave Emersonand BestI think I was in their second cohost of a fortrauma forI mean you excuse me yoga for trauma.And my journey sort of juststarted to unravel from there. Started to... I I wentmyself on a retreat for womensurvivors of sexual violence, and then they invited me back the nextyear to co. So I co that retreatfor ten years, and it was sopowerfulfor me to see the transformation that could happen in two and a half days.And
Lorilee Binstock 00:09:05 Mm-mm
Corinne Coppola 00:09:06 by being in nature by being in play.We weren't talking about our stories. Right? We were in our bodies. There wasmovement, light yoga, drama, some meditation,you know, just really back to being a kid.And so then in myin my jury, Iunfortunately, when my daughter was fourteen, so this is about this wasten years ago, there is a suicide cluster athigh school. And I thought to myself, I can't just siton the sidelines lines with us and knowing how thesepractices. We select practices can really holdI was able to partner with a organization that wasjust blossom. This is twenty thirteen, andyou know,I said to them, we have to bring these practices to thisschools in Northern Virginia, which is where I was living at the time.And it's sort ofcame from that. I worked with them for four years. We got the school board involved.We had a lot of high schools, you know,hundreds and then into the thousands of young people and adultsyou know, the teachers in the parents andfrom there started to do started to coand manage retreats for teens, and that also adults andnow here I am.SoYeah. It's just sort of, like, following the next best thing.Right? The next best that, like, I did not havelike, the super planvision.And at the same time,like, I didn't have a pass, but I had a vision.
Lorilee Binstock 00:10:53 Mhmm.
Corinne Coppola 00:10:56 Okay. So, like, I knewnine, ten years ago when I was in close to read that,I wanna leave a retreat back here in Costa Rica, And thisMarx,I'm leading her retreat my first retreat and close rica gut. SoI would really you know, for me, it's just been following the bread.You know? And with the intention to serve,the intention to serve, like, howcan I use my guess?To serve.And in the same time,you know, make a living.SoundThat'sit's a long answer to your shared question.
Lorilee Binstock 00:11:35 No. I love it. Thank you so much.I love what you're talking about when when you talk about youryour experience and this retreat would it was justplay. It was your in your body, you want in your head,Is thatwhat your rest retreats are, could you talk a little bit about that?I... It's a it's an acronym. Right?Right.
Corinne Coppola 00:11:57 Right. Right. It's an acronym. So the r is for relaxed.
Lorilee Binstock 00:12:04 Yeah
Corinne Coppola 00:12:03 The x is for... The excuse me. Theye is for examine. The s more surrender.And the t stands for transformation.Sothese retreats that I guide people onare different than the survival retreatsthat I did. There are elements.In this retreat.Soand I also give one on oneVip retreats out in Shank critique Virginia where I live parttime on the eastern shore.And sothe rest will be in the firsttwo days, you know, as people sort of enterwe're doing arelaxation, integration, arriving,The second day, I have a healer who's gonna do a beautiful sound journeyus. You know, then eighty three, we got it three and four we get into examine. Right? What patternsbecause my the retreat is called killing the heart.So what patterns haveorigin in which I am notlivingto the potential of who I can beinner world.Right? It's sort of beginning to whatcalled ex the heart.So practices, like,each each day, will be seen out. So, for example, covered in compassion.Right. Love and letting go. So we have to letgo of some things in order and have compassion for ussoundsand the honors so that we can... We can be on this continuumpeeling. Then you know, they're surrenderHave a surpriseplanned, but we also have a magnificent breath thatwill be reading us in a workshopyou in terms of letting go, there'll be Journaling There'll be Archmasked team movielocks in nature.And then we get to keyRight. That the acid surrender where we're letting and go andwe haveI'm just gonna say we have a musician coming in.To really help us let go on our levels.We'll be doing sunset.Fire circle. And then the t is for transformation in the lasttwo days the last day is a cacao ceremonywith awoman psychologist who I met last year who was down there, and she'sfrom close to Rica and just this beautiful healing hardthree hours ceremony yummy that we'll be having. And I'm keeping it small.Intentionally, you know, eleven spots.With some women who arereally justphenomenal and are there to dosome deep work. You know, this... It's nottherapy. It's not... You know, that's not what I'mwhat what my intention is, it's reallyto create the safe community safe sacred community.Thatwomen can show upas their best sounds, like,all of their parts parts thathave been forgotten.Like, who was I? When I was six seven eight years old andI was magic and
Lorilee Binstock 00:15:43 mm-mm
Corinne Coppola 00:15:44 who took away that magic, like, loving reconnectwith that spirit, that sacred insideso thatI can then bring these practices into my life.Andlive in a way that is in alignment withwho I wanna be and who I am.
Lorilee Binstock 00:16:04 Well, nick... You know,you talked aboutand make hear you talking about parts. I have a lot of respectfor I. I'm actually an I Therapy every week.Is do you bring that toyour respiratory retreats.
Corinne Coppola 00:16:19 Soit depends on
Lorilee Binstock 00:16:26 Mm-mm.
Corinne Coppola 00:16:26 what the client wantsRight? So for the one on one,Yes. Absolutely. For this small group,retreats
Lorilee Binstock 00:16:39 Mhmm.
Corinne Coppola 00:16:38 this is not is not the focus. However,I can't not do it.Meaning that... You know, that's who I am isyou know, speaking in, like, some of the journaling questwill be internal family system based, but it's not as ifwe're going to be having therapeutic sharing circles. Right?
Lorilee Binstock 00:17:00 Mhmm.
Corinne Coppola 00:17:01 That we're gonna be doing parts work.That's another type of retreat that I host. Soyou know, it is... There will be parts workAnd at the same time, it's not going begroup therapy.People are there also to... Like, what's really important to me isthe four or five hours of quiet time that we'll have every afternoon.
Lorilee Binstock 00:17:22 Yay.
Corinne Coppola 00:17:25 So if you wanna sit by the pool and be quiet,That's awesome we'll go to your room, take a nap. You wanna go intoexcursions to go kayak, horse horseback writing,lessons, you go do it, Zip lining, you know,so that people can reallycustomize this experience to what they feel. They want and needto thatyou know, everything is optional. That's really, really aimportant to me is to give everyone choice.
Lorilee Binstock 00:17:52 You lasts
Corinne Coppola 00:17:55 You know?Because we're all adults.And oftentimes in life, we feel like we don't have choices.I mean, you know, that's free. I can only... I should only speak for myself.
Lorilee Binstock 00:18:05 No. I feel that too.I feel that too. I feel last week, I actually gotten a ski accidentAnd I feel like I could have a... I I there I havechoices to say, I need to rest. This is before the accident.Because my life was just jam packed with so much stuff andtrying to catch up from the end of last year.You know, from the holidays. And I was like, oh my gosh. I need a break, but I
Corinne Coppola 00:18:33 Yeah.
Lorilee Binstock 00:18:33 just felt like I couldn't get a break until I literally gotten in a little skiingthen all of a sudden, and I was in bed for a week, and I was like, I really feel like the universe is listening to me.
Corinne Coppola 00:18:40 Okay.
Lorilee Binstock 00:18:43 But, yes, it was it was really, you know,there are times where I'm like, I feel like I'm in adult, and I don't have a choice. Like, I have
Corinne Coppola 00:18:48 DidWe
Lorilee Binstock 00:18:52 to cook dinner. I have to, you know, I you know, Ito do all these things. So it's nice. You know, I've looked at your treats so I'm like, oh, isyou know, this would be amazing for me. Unfortunately, my husbandbe leaving to go out of the country during that time. So I havebe with my children, but I am looking forward to going to one of your retreats.
Corinne Coppola 00:19:12 Oh, beautiful.
Lorilee Binstock 00:19:15 Yes. I
Corinne Coppola 00:19:16 Well, I'm sorry to hear about your your skiing accident.
Lorilee Binstock 00:19:20 you know, it's really funny becauseI I literally was telling my my If practitioner nor the week before I'm like, I justfeel likeI I need a break. I need a break. I can'tI feel like I keep going going going, and I feel guiltyI would feel guilty if I was, like, I needI I'm gonna be in bed.The thing is the universe heard me and was like, okay. We'll do this. And... You know,my leg wasn't hurting when I was resting, but it was it was hurting when I was walking.
Corinne Coppola 00:19:46 Yeah.
Lorilee Binstock 00:19:49 So or attempting to. So I I felt likeknow, it's one of things here you're you need to break. People need breaksand
Corinne Coppola 00:19:56 Mhmm.
Lorilee Binstock 00:19:59 sometimes it'll be a forced one.
Corinne Coppola 00:19:59 Right.
Lorilee Binstock 00:20:03 And sometimes it's gonna come at the most in opportune timesAnd I think what I've learned through my healing journey is thatyou know, everything kind happens for a reason. Everything happens for reason. This isthe their signs and signals that are telling us, you know, it's time to rest, and then we itit's our choice to listen and not listen.
Corinne Coppola 00:20:21 Right. I love that.Like, oftentimes, They'll say to my clients and not only my clients, butyou know, in general, it just comes out of my mat. Like, you're exactly where you're supposed to be.
Lorilee Binstock 00:20:30 Mhmm.
Corinne Coppola 00:20:33 That really helps mewhen On in a phone,you know, when I am feeling, like, really,This is really what's happening. Right.I'm right where I'm supposed to beand then the gratitude practice. I mean, I am the hugehuge believerof howand sciences proves it, you know, But of how gratitude has reallychanged my life.
Lorilee Binstock 00:20:58 Mhmm.
Corinne Coppola 00:21:01 You know, the the thing that it most importantly has led me tois the characteristic of acceptance.
Lorilee Binstock 00:21:08 Yeah.
Corinne Coppola 00:21:09 Wait.How can I be really thankful for theturmoil of that's happening right now in my life?You know, or in a relationshipAndthen maybe not at that moment.You know, I'm not able to see the the good in it, but still on being thanksfor it because then Iusually, it is revealed to methatyou know,I am able to seewhatOh,
Lorilee Binstock 00:21:43 Mhmm.
Corinne Coppola 00:21:40 just like what you said, you know what the purpose? Oh,this is leading me to more forgiveness.
Lorilee Binstock 00:21:45 Yeah
Corinne Coppola 00:21:47 Okay.
Lorilee Binstock 00:21:49 it's so funny how long it took me to figure that out. It took me
Corinne Coppola 00:21:51 Mhmm.
Lorilee Binstock 00:21:53 so long because people be like, in justgrateful. You know, I would have those to do list, like those like, paddedto do list papers that have says, like, you know, here's yourhere's a little checkbox box and here right, what you have to doAnd at the top of the page, it would say,I am grateful for blank, and I'm like, oh, that's interesting.And I would never write it it. I would just write my list.And I and I'm like... I never understood thethe power of gratitude andit's also interesting because when I think about earlier in our conversation, you talked about
Corinne Coppola 00:22:28 Mhmm.Mhmm.
Lorilee Binstock 00:22:29 you know, the courts pose when when you found chance for and it's
Corinne Coppola 00:22:32 Mhmm.
Lorilee Binstock 00:22:33 transformation and epiphany in that moment.You know, before I went into treatment before I wasyou know, went to residential treatment, and I would do yoga. I did... II did yoga for, you know,so lengthening and strengthening and flexibilityAnd when we would get into And pose, I would literally sit there and think about. Okay.
Corinne Coppola 00:22:58 Mhmm. Mhmm.
Lorilee Binstock 00:22:56 So what are the things I need to do today? And I never understoodthe importance of Because when I went to treatment,was like, I learned this whole idea that Iswhere you're integratingyour practice. And I'm like, really? And that changed my life. Itit's funny the things that people tell you becauseyou know, people like, oh, exhausted is important. I'm like, oh, yeah. Rest is an important shirt, whatever.And then I you know, you you move on and you do your thing, and then youyou realize, like,it it just took me so long to really absorb
Corinne Coppola 00:23:33 Okay.
Lorilee Binstock 00:23:33 the the the practice of rest, the practice of gratitude,
Corinne Coppola 00:23:37 Mhmm.
Lorilee Binstock 00:23:38 I'm telling you that really changed everything.For me, at least
Corinne Coppola 00:23:42 Yeah. Yeah. I hear you. You preaching to the prayer becauseknow, what I did used to teach public and privatethe classes. You know, I would sayIs the most important pose, andit's also something that you can take at any time you know? Andit'ssomething that
Lorilee Binstock 00:24:05 Mhmm.
Corinne Coppola 00:24:04 we don't do, like, and and oftentimes,that's what happens is we're we're resting and then everything fitsto the surface. So when people come in,meditation retreats. It's likeyou know, what they call flo strawbecause people start falling asleep the first, you know, day or two because they realizehow tiring their body is.
Lorilee Binstock 00:24:28 Yes.
Corinne Coppola 00:24:29 You know, that it's like the had nod andpeople can't stay awake, and that's just likea normal andyou know, part of what happens it's like, oh, this is what happens when Idial it down. And there's an officer and speaker name isSandra Dawn Smith. I don't know if he's... She's gonna book called sacred rest.Andshe identifies seven different types of reps, whichI can't rattle off the top of my head right now.But I just think that is so such an interestingperspective to look at oh, often ten pagesfeel rest as like the physical, but there's also emotional rash
Lorilee Binstock 00:25:12 Yay,
Corinne Coppola 00:25:12 social rest, you know, all these different types of rest.That we need, like, sometimes social recipes,interacting with others. Sometimes social recipes means, oh, I need to pull back.You know? And andit's not just as you know, it's not justwhat often type, like spa andyou know? No. No. No. No. No.No. No. It can be for me, what a Mypractices is between three and four o'clock every day.I don't schedule calls or meetingsor anything between three and four so thatmaybe it is used to respond to emails, but there's usuallyat least a ten minuteten minute window that I havefor myself that I have to go meditatepray orthat I do put my head down on a pillow becausethat completelyrefresh us and something that I learned that you might already knowis that at three o'clock, like middle afternoon, three Homework o'clock our cortisol level.Lore.And
Lorilee Binstock 00:26:19 I did not know that.
Corinne Coppola 00:26:21 this whole practice that I startedstarted over the pandemic. I was noticing that... Oh, I'mpretty tired right now. And three or four o'clock withwas the time when my second day began,right? And I would work until three or four, and then I go pick the kids up inschool, take them to different activities go over below.And then when that didn't happen during the pan,I was able to listen to my body, and I was like, oh, isn't this interesting?
Lorilee Binstock 00:26:48 Wow.
Corinne Coppola 00:26:52 So that's how it sort of came up for me. It's not like, oh,let me do this. It was me listening to my body.
Lorilee Binstock 00:26:56 Yes.Absolutely. I I... It's it's it's so... It's so hard to listenyour body when there's so many things going on.So, yes, I think that quiet time that meditation time isis the time for, you know, to really be able to listen to what's happening there.I do wanna ask
Corinne Coppola 00:27:17 Mhmm.
Lorilee Binstock 00:27:19 what does it take totruly achievetransformation.
Corinne Coppola 00:27:26 Yeah.First to all. That is a great question.I when retract the word achieve.
Lorilee Binstock 00:27:35 Mhmm.
Corinne Coppola 00:27:35 And so what does it take to aachieve transformation becausethat then makes it a goal.Right, which we all want, like we all wantthere's differentlife, like, right before this call, I happen to be at a in ayoga class, and the the teacher was just notice.AndI said... You need to be teaching in Costa Rica, and I didn't know that she wasandyou know, how did the teacher trading program of this studio and then a little block?She's like, well, you know, I have my kids and Da. AndI thought... Yeah. Yeah. But you can maybe goguest teach. You know to myself. And, like, whatwhat could the possibilities be?So I think one of the first things we have to get out of our own wayAnd when I say we have to get out of our own way,people talk all the time about, like,letting go of limiting beliefs.I don't know flip that on the head, maybe andmaybe open yourself toa possibility.Andopen yourself to the possibility ofwhat do I really enjoy doing? Maybe it's baking cookies.And you startbaking cookies these a little bit more and giving them away. And then all of a sudden,you have a cookie business.
Lorilee Binstock 00:28:59 Yeah.
Corinne Coppola 00:29:02 Yeah. I'm saying. Wait, It's just reallyandasking yourself the question,if I didn't have to be perfect atI would like to blankRight? If I didn't need to be perfect,what what is one thing that really lights me up?What is the one thing? And it may beI... You know,andand and it's out at this moment. Like, I didn't know when I startedon this path, like, when I started taking Yoga again,that I would somedaybe
Lorilee Binstock 00:29:43 Mhmm
Corinne Coppola 00:29:43 an internal family sister's practitioner, mental health coachand running retreats. Like,I didn't have that vision. I just knew thattaking yoga that and then maybe teaching you love becausewhat I did in the past,you know, part of my job with presentation when Iworked in organization development, and Itrained people in parents management, and They trained people oncareer consulting. You know? Soand and leadership development. And I... So I knew that I lovedgetting up in front of groups. I had no problem doing that.And then the passion that I had for Yoga,because of how it was healing me and it was allowing me to be in my body.Well, I wanted to bring thatto everybody. So then I, you know, got into a teacher training, and the teacher training about ben waslikeyou know, two years long, every other weekend, I did three hundred hours. Sowent out to Montana. So that's what I would say is the first step is justsharelike, be open say quietly and say,what does really lighten me out?Do I really love playing pick?You know? I mean,what do I lovedoing. Do I love gathering people?Andmaybe you... Maybe you love cooking and you want to have aVegan cooking quad like, I'm not making this up. You know, whatWhat is it thatlight you on a fire.And then follow that. So that's the firstthing that I would say. And then the second thing isacceptance.Lake,you know, so that you'reyou're open and acceptingofwhatever is happeningin that moment, Like, I went through a water suffering, and Istill go through suffering. You know, it's not... It's not like, oh,I'm happy go lucky and the... You know, it happens to bea great day today onblessed enough to be on this call with you. I went to yoga the class. Iwalk the die. I did some work before all that.You know? But it's it's having this themea gratitudeand when you're grateful soul throughout the day, and then your moreaccepting of... Okay.Well,myyoungyou know, my child's stark at me or mymy partner, you know,made a reallyin inappropriate comma lakewhat am I doing to accept what is happening?So that I don't have to be in suffering.And suffering happens whenwe want things to be different than than they are.And I'm gonna hear to tell you, like, there was a daywhen I was going through my divorce, but I had two hundred and sixty dollarsin my checking account,and I'm speaking to myself.What am I gonna do?What am I gonna do?So I could sit there.And I couldcomplainAnd I can think of all the ways that this wasn't fair.OrI canthe grateful form go for walk.Shift my perspective. You know, I have a house, and my kids are healthy.You know, I have food andin my cover that I can make for dinner, and it's not always gonna be thisway.Like, the two words that are helpful for transformation, I feelare for now.This is only happening for now.Good bad.
Lorilee Binstock 00:33:19 Yes.
Corinne Coppola 00:33:22 In betweenyou know?So those are some of... That's how I think I wouldyou know, answer your question is more aroundlike, acceptance being with what else.Acceptance.And then, you know,for now.And and knowing what what lights you up,you know, what are you passionate about?And it's if I was doing what I'm doingnow it's not like, I woke up at a bed and who's was like, oh, I'm gonna run retreats and
Lorilee Binstock 00:33:53 Yeah
Corinne Coppola 00:33:52 mister week. No. I didn't have something in that way. It's taken me ten years.
Lorilee Binstock 00:33:56 mm-mm
Corinne Coppola 00:33:57 Right. So
Lorilee Binstock 00:33:59 Wow.
Corinne Coppola 00:33:59 anyway,
Lorilee Binstock 00:34:01 Did... Is this is this what you hope?For your clients,after they leave your retreats,
Corinne Coppola 00:34:07 And then, absolutely, thatand and that has happened. And even, you know, just inand when I work with clients one on one,it can be so powerful, like I a clientthis past week that she's had a lot grief in her life.You know, three of her brothers passed away while she was growing up. I mean, it's just reallyheartbreaking. Andwhen she came into connection,withher griefAnd it felt like these cotton balls in her chest and that it wasjust all of her heart breaks and she was able to turn towards that and have compassionsupport. She's now much openand loving in her relationship with her partner.Because she had a fearbeing in an intimate relationshipbecause of all the grief from now she's had in her life, and she's also were
Lorilee Binstock 00:35:02 No.
Corinne Coppola 00:35:03 a young widow. You know, she was a young widow. Soyou know, it's really aboutgiving people hopethat you're hopeful about the future that they'reis a purpose tomy life, and then I can start over anda couple of my clients that have beento one on one retreats to me out, and she could takethey know are establishingreally thriving businesses because of someyou know, past things that they were able to let go of.So once you clear that out, right, it's the ex of the heart.Once we clear that out,then it's like we can be open to the nextthingAnd at the same time, during those transitions being open to the grief,like,I'm an empty nest, and I thought I've been an empty semester sincethe fall of twenty twenty one and I thought, okay. Well,you know, a year, I'll be, you know, on this little bit of a roller closephysically. But, you know, I gotta tell you the fall hitof twenty twenty two, and that griefwas there a little differently, but it was still there.Soyou know, just being withwhat is happening and accepting it and not pushing it away.Right? It's really about turning towards the difficult stuff.When we turn towards it, and we can have compassion and we stop running from it.Then we can understand what the message is.What that part is needing, what we're eatingSo I can talk all day about this, Obviously,
Lorilee Binstock 00:36:50 Well, It's... It's amazing.
Corinne Coppola 00:36:53 mhmm.
Lorilee Binstock 00:36:53 What you're doing. And I I do wanna ask how how often do yourstreets go
Corinne Coppola 00:36:57 So
Lorilee Binstock 00:36:59 Do you have them?
Corinne Coppola 00:37:01 yeah. So I'mThis is the first week long that I'm doing her eight nineeight days seven nights. This is the first what I'm doing.All the other ones have been weekend retreats, you know, three daystwo nights. I'm planning on expandingthis coming fall to doing themfour days three nights and, you know, partnering with different people.Andafter I do my one in Costa going and come back to these
Lorilee Binstock 00:37:34 Mhmm.
Corinne Coppola 00:37:32 post I'm actually going to be going on a road trip.So I'll be focusing mostlysomy online clientele and not doing any physicalandretreats until the fall of twenty twenty three.
Lorilee Binstock 00:37:48 Awesome.
Corinne Coppola 00:37:49 Mhmm. Mhmm.
Lorilee Binstock 00:37:51 Well, that's great. I will be looking for. Please keep me posted on those.Because yeah,
Corinne Coppola 00:37:53 I will. I willpressure.
Lorilee Binstock 00:37:57 and wanna hear more. Is there anything else you'd like to add?
Corinne Coppola 00:38:02 That is such a great question.I would like to addand might not do this justice, butthe quote.Like, even doing the smallest things with the greatest amount of love.
Lorilee Binstock 00:38:18 Oh
Corinne Coppola 00:38:19 That no matter where you are in your life right now,How can I show up?With the most loved for myself or the others, Like, even if it'sdoing laundry.Like, can I do this?In a loving way in a grateful way.Andjust doing the smallest things with the greatest lives becauseit's really not that hard to be kind.AndI just went tosee a man named auto last night.And it was just such a lovely movie.In terms of howin terms of, like, a testament to how kindnesssmall kindness.Can change your life and save a life.
Lorilee Binstock 00:39:03 Mhmm.Yeah. I
Corinne Coppola 00:39:05 Say that's really what I would say. Is just even in thesmallest ways, like,It so might sound corny, but right, before you pick up the phone to make a call,that has to be potentiallyhonor, like a service calls for an Internet problem.Right? Can you smile?And send the person live on the other side becausethey're doing the best they can too.
Lorilee Binstock 00:39:32 Yeah.
Corinne Coppola 00:39:33 So
Lorilee Binstock 00:39:34 Yeah.
Corinne Coppola 00:39:34 Yeah.
Lorilee Binstock 00:39:36 Well,Current, thank you so much. I really appreciate you joining me today.
Corinne Coppola 00:39:41 Thank you, Laura. It's beenreal real deep honor andfor your for you to extend me your invitation andto have the opportunity to writean article for your magazine. I'm just so honored
Lorilee Binstock 00:39:57 You... I honored for you to join us.And let me... Am I saying your name right? Career?
Corinne Coppola 00:40:03 Yes.Lorilee Binstock 00:40:05 I got it. Alright.Corinne Coppola 00:40:07 You got it more.