Let's talk about requests: how to ask for what you want. And, what to do when people don't agree to those requests.

Timeline

00:00 - Nonviolent Communication requires repetition. 01:42 - It changes you on a deep level. You have to change how you talk. 02:53 - If you want something, you have to ask for it. 04:06 - Doing things for people is FUN. How I got addicted to Candy Crush. 06:24 - Relationships shouldn't be based on "right" and "wrong". 08:03 - Our society teaches people not to ask for what they want. 09:36 - What to do if somebody hears your request as a demand. Why requests are good for people to hear. 13:01 - Bad requests ("If you really loved me, you'd never forget my birthday!") 14:36 - The difference between requests and demands is whether you're ready to empathize with a "no". 17:11 - NVC is a game and games have "right" and "wrong". 18:51 - Why you should always make a "cry for help". Dealing with bullies. 24:46 - When you make a request, it gives the other person a chance to hurt you. 30:16 - How to ignore accusations and focus on what matters.