Martha, Martha: Recent Episodes
Bonnie Landry
- you have to be pretty creative, and you're probably already tired
- it requires a lot of energy to determine what rewards/consequences work with whom, and you're probably already tired
let's talk this week about why attachment/gentle parenting is easier and how that plays out in large families
I can't even. So good. I wish we could all get together and watch it. And talk about it.
As the first in a series of attachment at different ages and stages, I've sought out the reflection of Catholic mothers about their journey. In the context of seeking relationship with our children, we discuss the awakening of developing secure relationships for both mother and child. Covering the desire for connection, the challenges in pursuing it and the benefits, these moms share their stories, resources, concerns and blessings.
We begin by defining attachment:
“Attachment” refers to a relationship that we seek as parents. On our end, attachment requires us to be attuned to our children through physical and emotional closeness. We seek to provide an environment where they feel safe and cared for, heard and seen. The hunger for connection its the most fundamental need for a human being. Our awareness and understanding of that need are the foundation for a securely attached child.
A securely attached child rests in the knowledge that her emotional and physical needs will be acknowledged and met; that love and respect are inherent and these things do not need to be earned. A child will be comfortable expressing their needs and emotions. This ability to rest in our love creates an environment that allows their natural maturity to flourish.
https://www.spinningbabies.com
https://www.mamanatural.com/pregnancy-week-by-week/
https://us.hypnobirthing.com/about/marie-mongan-method/
Made for This
https://www.amazon.com/Made-This-Catholic-Guide-Birth/dp/1681921715
The Birth Partner
The Womanly Art
Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth
Apps:
Gentle Birth
Christian Hypnobirthing
Christina’s novena for labour and birth:
https://www.theevangelista.com/newlywed-life/2017/10/21/a-novena-for-labor-and-birth?rq=novena
with Father Mike Schmitz - have a listen to his Divine Mercy homily
As we accept God's mercy, we become more merciful
https://soundcloud.com/bulldogcatholic/041121-scar-stories
A fabulous interview with my dear friend Father Harrison, who podcasts over at https://www.clericallyspeaking.com/!
We delve into the Catechism of the Catholic Church...what is it, where did it come from and how it can teach us to be better parents...what is our role as Christians parents in educating our children. Father brings so much depth into the words of the Catechism, I'm so grateful for him helping me to unpack and understand my role better.
Familiaris Consortio
http://www.vatican.va/content/john-paul-ii/en/apost_exhortations/documents/hf_jp-ii_exh_19811122_familiaris-consortio.html
Gravissium Educationis
http://www.vatican.va/archive/hist_councils/ii_vatican_council/documents/vat-ii_decl_19651028_gravissimum-educationis_en.html
Ignatius on indifference:
https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/ignatian-indifference/
Find Fr. Harrison here on twitter
https://twitter.com/FrHarrison?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor
https://www.bonnielandry.ca/blog-1/talking-to-young-kids-about-sexuality
please share this episode if you think other parents will benefit...
where earthquakes and emotions collide
a couple of blips at the end of the recording....
"Whenever anything disagreeable or displeasing happens to you, remember Christ crucified and be silent." - St. John of the Cross
https://www.clericallyspeaking.com
Meal making for those short on time (that would be all of us...) and for those who don't find cooking a creative outlet.
Says St. Thomas Aquinas
https://www.amazon.ca/One-Minute-Aquinas-Doctors-Fundamental-Questions-ebook/dp/B00I655UJM/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+one+minute+aquinas&qid=1613570967&sr=8-1
I don't why the recording is so weird. Sorry.
highlights of chapter seven, Revolution of Mercy
We must find ways to fill our own tanks if we are going to be able to fill our children's tanks...
What is receptivity, why do we want it?
Hold Onto Your Kids
Revolution of Mercy
What is the impact of our life in the big picture?
The Lighthouse
Hearts in Atlantis
Seriously, why are we being asked to be perfect. I recorded this, and then, in one of those great God moments, I was led to read this quote from St. Augustine, who, as concise as possible, sums up life on earth:
**"Our meditation in this present life should be in the praise of God; for the eternal exultation of our life hereafter will be the praise of God, and none can become fit for the future life, who hath not practiced himself for it now.
The daily prayers of the faithful make satisfaction for those daily, tiny, light faults from which this life cannot be free. "**
St. Augustine
more on responding vs. reacting - it takes practice
Bishop Barron's seven deadly sins video
Blog post on resilience
tools for resilience - today:
The Temperament God Gave You
I've talked about setting goals, taking care of ourselves and developing gratitude as the three easiest first steps toward resilience. Here's a way we can practice all three at once!
I use a three part process
assess (or identify)
decide (what things in your life you want to change)
do (choose if you act on it or accept what is)
Resilience matter because God is a God of peace. And we want to be like Him. He's the BEST.
honing discipline always spills over to other areas of our life
https://hallow.com
Where to find my pdfs
Tyranny of the Urgent chart
and yes, it affects your spiritual self ❤️
Sink Reflections
https://bemorewithless.com/project-333/
three things that got me started
- it's about love
- order can be accomplished in little chunks
- it's about discipline, which is virtue
Lord, we beg you to visit this house and banish from it all the deadly power of the enemy. May your holy angels dwell here to keep us in peace, and may your blessing be upon us always. We ask this through Christ, our Lord. Amen
Sharing with you a litany to pray for the pregnant women in your life!
https://www.bonnielandry.ca/blog-1/funny-saints