It’s very common to feel like our kids are either intentionally sabotaging good things or that they are purposefully setting us up to be mad or disappointed or to have to say no.

You aren’t imagining this phenomenon!

All humans do it, but our kids with vulnerable nervous system and big, baffling behaviors may seem like they do it more often.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• The neuroscience behind WHY our kids sabotage situations or set us up to be dysregulated
• What they are really doing (and it’s actually full of hope)
• How we might respond differently that could actually change their brain

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Rupture Repair podcast episode
• Match the Energy not the Dysregulation podcast episode
• Regulated, not Calm podcast episode
• Brilliant of Attachment podcast series & eBook,which goes deeper into the concept of hope vs. expectation

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