In today’s episode of BEYOND LEANING IN, we listen to an excerpt from the book following  Amber as she finds herself at a neighbor barbecue in a conversation about the risks that women are constantly calculating in their heads. Spoiler alert: The women at the BBQ don’t feel the same way as the men. Then Melanie sits down with a former college classmate, certified psychologist Dr. Huong Diep, who works with BIPOC and LGBTQ communities and specializes in global mental health, to talk about the concept of mental chatter. They discuss what mental chatter is, just how common it is, why women and people of color often have an extra layer, how it connects to imposter syndrome and how Dr. Diep helps her clients recognize mental chatter and combat its negative effects. Join this conversation now! Welcome to BEYOND LEANING IN, a podcast designed to inspire candid discussion about gender gaps in the workplace. All too often, the “real talk” about the challenges that professional women face happens behind closed doors. Author Melanie Ho is on a mission to change that through her new book, BEYOND LEANING IN. She is joined in this podcast by co-host Carla Hickman as the two longtime friends discuss the ideas and research that inform Melanie’s book. You will also be invited to listen and join the conversation with early readers, women and men across generations and a wide range of professions, as they reflect, discuss and debate the ideas in the book. Also, don’t forget to get a copy of BEYOND LEANING IN in any of its formats, now available on Amazon.  Resources https://www.ihollaback.org/bystanderintervention/ (How Reading Fiction Increases Empathy and Encourages Understanding) https://www.ihollaback.org/bystanderintervention/ (Training to Stop Anti-Asian/Amerian and Xenophobic Harassment) Get the book https://www.melanieho.com/ (Beyond Leaning In) by Melanie Ho See and share Melanie’s https://www.melanieho.com/beyond-leaning-in-webcomics (31 Days of #BeyondLeaningIn Webcomics)  Follow Melanie Ho on https://www.instagram.com/melanieho13 (Instagram) or http://www.twitter.com/melanieho13 (Twitter) Follow Carla Hickman on https://www.instagram.com/southerncarlachelle (Instagram) or http://carlamhickman (Twitter)

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Jump straight into: (01:52) - Book Excerpt: Amber finds herself in a conversation about the risks women are constantly on guard about - “In the workplace, you didn't have to worry about whether someone was going to slip something in your coffee, or if a potential perpetrator was hiding behind a corner, most of the time anyway, but you still had to be constantly on your guard.” (08:10) - Dr. Huong Diep on mental chatter - “Definitely for marginalized communities, that chatter is much louder and oftentimes that's what leads to additional fatigue.” (11:46) - Good mental chatter and bad mental chatter - “Our brains are programmed for survival, not actually for happiness. So it's always scanning the environment, looking for negativity. In terms of the chatter, it developed as a manager to protect us from situations that might be threatening.” (14:22) - Second-guessing yourself - “Unfortunately, our brains will go looking for experiences and things to kind of confirm certain negative beliefs about ourselves.” (17:11) - Imposter syndrome and cognitive-behavioral therapy - “The ironic part is that the higher level you get, in education or the more amazing your CV is, the more imposter syndrome you have and that really cuts across the board.” (25:49) - Processing thoughts and emotions - “As we grow up we categorize certain emotions and we don't allow ourselves to fully feel these emotions and the emotions really start off...