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My views have heavily evolved since I wrote The Direct Approach article back in 2017. In that article, I talked about how if you say hi to a girl and she's moving away, terminate the conversation immediately. I really emphasized the point that the male should be non-needy in his interactions and not fight through with girls who seem unreceptive. After all, isn't that needy to push back and attempt to fight through with girls who appear to be uninterested? I even went on to include this article as one of the chapters in the book, The Forward Male, which I published in the spring of 2019. It wasn't soon after however that I became aware of my evolving perspectives, with the concept of how pushy the male should be on the cold approach as one of the most paramount. I now see it as amateur to not push hard with girls on the cold approach. Because many of these girls who seem unreceptive actually aren't. That's what it comes down to. If the girl is truly unreceptive (i.e., outright ignoring you), then yes, peel away and approach others. But if the girl throws up her hand at you, acts like you're creepy, tells you she's in a rush, or moves/accelerates away when you say hi, plenty of these girls will in reality go on to exchange with you if you are just a bit pertinacious. I call this behavior-state untethering. And I wrote a recent article on it. That is, you can't judge a book by its cover, where the male is prone to misinterpret the girl's receptivity based on what he observes on the surface. Just because a girl seems receptive doesn't mean she is; likewise, just because a girl seems unreceptive doesn't mean she is either. As I've mentioned before, you can say hi to a girl where she's twirling her hair and blushing, and she tells you your approach was rare and that you're handsome, yet she refuses the contact exchange. Or she'll exchange and then ignore your texts. Guys will encounter this scenario occasionally and act surprised by it even though it's predictable: it's called behavior-state untethering. Was she receptive? No. It's her actions that matter; not your impression of the situation. Well the opposite scenario on the cold approach is also frequent: the girl seems disinterested at best, or she tells you she can't talk because she's rushing, or she throws up her hand and jumps back a few feet when you first say hi; you non-react and pretend like nothing happened, and continue to engage her with short convo. She then goes on to exchange with you. You're like, "Wow, I can't believe that girl just exchanged." But then this will happen repeatedly until you just see it as standard and predictable: how the girl appears on the surface often has no relation to her underlying receptivity state. Behavior-state untethering is the basis for why I'm hyper-pushy on my approaches now. Probably most of the girls I exchange with don't seem overtly receptive. I see that as normal. I don't expect them to be enthusiastic. I don't expect them to be warm and engaging. I see apprehension and resistance as normal female behavior. Biologically, the male is to be pushy, and the female resists but acquiesces. That's how mating dynamics work...
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