Most of us come from a culture that gains confidence in approval, we need to be told that we’re doing well. Knowing how disapproval feels like, we play safe and dumb to avoid conflicts. Especially when it comes to a disapproval from someone older to you. The great validation seeking example, is that social image you carry around. Yes, that SCREAMS validation. Now you might ponder over the thought, ‘Why not seek approval?’ But you must know that we only get it at the expense of knowing what we want. And somewhere along this process you miss out on learning how to approve of your own self.