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In this thought-provoking episode of Embracing Intensity, Aurora sits down with Sheldon Gay, host of the I Must Be BUG'N podcast, which amplifies the stories and voices of Black, unidentified, underrepresented, gifted, and otherwise neurodivergent people. Sheldon is deeply insightful, warm, and grounded in his advocacy to humanize the neurodivergent experience. Together, they dive into the power of mirroring—that magical moment when we see ourselves reflected in others—and how it plays a crucial role in identity, belonging, and connection.

Sheldon shares his personal journey discovering his giftedness later in life and how joining neurodivergent spaces offered a profound sense of home and validation. He speaks candidly about emotional giftedness, navigating systems that often don’t recognize or affirm difference, and the importance of compassion, boundaries, and self-trust.

✨ In this episode:

• What mirroring means and why it’s vital for neurodivergent people
• How Sheldon discovered his giftedness and launched I Must Be BUG'N
• Why IQ tests don’t tell the whole story of intelligence or giftedness
• Emotional giftedness, self-doubt, and how we process emotions
• Compassion and boundaries in spaces where we feel misunderstood
• Recognizing our gifts even when others don’t
• The power of community connection and storytelling
• Insights into upcoming collaborative projects with Sheldon, including neurodivergent-friendly apps
• Reflections on Aurora’s recent blog post on neurodivergent relationships

🔗 Resources & Links:

• I Must Be BUG'N Podcast
• Embracing Intensity Community
• Aurora’s Blog Post on Neurodivergent Relationships
• Intuitive Flow Podcast Episode

Whether you’re just beginning your journey or deep into exploring your neurodivergent identity, this conversation is a reminder that you are not alone—and that your experiences, brilliance, and emotions are valid and worthy of being seen.

🎧 Listen now and feel seen.

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This week on the Embracing Intensity podcast, I’m thrilled to welcome back the always thoughtful and illuminating Brendan Mahan, founder of ADHD Essentials and creator of the Wall of Awful. In this free-flowing and deeply relatable conversation, we dive into the realities of ADHD burnout, navigating screen time, and what it really means to rest. Brendan and I both share personally about our own experiences with burnout and recovery, and how we’re learning to work with our neurodivergent brains instead of against them.

About Brendan Mahan: Brendan Mahan is a speaker, coach, and host of the ADHD Essentials Podcast. He specializes in helping families, educators, and individuals better understand ADHD through metaphor, structure, and compassion. Brendan is known for his "Wall of Awful" model—a powerful visual metaphor that helps people identify and move through the emotional blocks that make motivation so hard for those with ADHD. He’s currently working on a book titled Overcoming the Wall of Awful, expected to release in 2026.

In This Episode: * The difference between hard fascination and soft fascination, and why the latter is key for real rest * What the Default Mode Network is and how it affects neurodivergent minds * How screen time mimics rest but often leads to hard fascination and further mental exhaustion * The origins of the Wall of Awful and how it helps people understand motivation challenges * Tools Brendan uses to access soft fascination, from walks in the woods to weighted pressure * The idea of contaminated time and how it sabotages meaningful rest * Navigating professional transitions and creative burnout * Letting go of transactional relationships and leaning into transformational connection * Using Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to intentionally rebuild from burnout * How embracing your values and regulating sensory input can be powerful tools for recovery * Reframing burnout as a “season” and holding onto hope that things can and do change

🎧 Tune in to hear a heartfelt, relatable conversation on burnout, ADHD, and the power of slowing down with intention. Whether you're deep in burnout or on the road to recovery, this episode offers compassionate insights and practical tools to help you find your way back to balance.

Resources & Links: * Brendan Mahan – ADHD Essentials * The Wall of Awful on How to ADHD (YouTube) * Embracing Intensity Community

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In this inspiring episode of Embracing Intensity, I’m joined by the vibrant and insightful Fizzah Zaidi, a psychotherapist based in Chicago who works with adults with ADHD, especially those navigating high-pressure environments like tech and finance. We originally connected at an ADHD conference over boots and breakfast, and I’m so excited to bring her energy and wisdom to the podcast!

Fizzah shares her journey from a creative career in animation to becoming a mental health professional, her passion for social justice, and how she uses her intensity to empower her clients. Together, we explore what it means to navigate neurodivergence with curiosity, creativity, and self-compassion.

About Fizzah Zaidi: Fizzah is a psychotherapist and former animator who brings her creative flair and social justice focus into her therapeutic practice. Working primarily with high-achieving adults in the finance and tech sectors, she specializes in supporting ADHD and twice-exceptional individuals as they navigate complex challenges in both personal and professional settings. Her approach is multimodal, trauma-informed, and deeply rooted in empathy, humor, and the belief that everyone deserves someone who truly believes in them.

In This Episode: * How Fizzah uses creativity and multimodal therapy to connect with clients * The role of social justice in her personal and professional intensity * Navigating cultural stigma around mental health and emotional expression * Toning down to survive: childhood masking and fear of judgment * Channeling intensity into advocacy: challenging grad school policies while pregnant * Why “being kind to yourself” means embracing your human moments * The power of curiosity and education in making sense of your neurodivergent brain * Executive function myths: the difference between lacking skills vs. activation * Building community care, challenging black-and-white thinking, and supporting clients in discovering their fire

Conclusion: Fizzah reminds us that intensity can be a powerful force for justice, healing, and growth when it’s supported and expressed authentically. Her story highlights the importance of giving ourselves permission to feel, question, and grow in our own unique ways—and supporting others as they do the same. Whether you’re navigating neurodivergence, embracing your emotional depth, or looking for ways to channel your fire, this episode will leave you feeling seen and inspired.

🎧 Tune in now and discover how you, too, can embrace your intensity and turn it into your greatest strength.

Resources & Links: * Fizzah Zaidi Psychotherapy Website: fzpsychotherapy.com * Connect with Fizzah via Email: Available through her website * Located in Chicago? Reach out and grab coffee with Fizzah! * PowerZone Toolkit Challenge (Free & Evergreen): embracingintensity.com/toolkit * Join the Embracing Intensity Community: community.embracingintensity.com

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After a bit of a break from long-form content, I’m so excited to be back with a solo episode that’s deeply personal and incredibly timely. I’ve missed connecting with you more intimately through the podcast and am looking forward to bringing you more episodes like this in the coming months.

Lately, I’ve been diving into the topic of neurodivergent burnout, something I’ve experienced firsthand and that I know many of you can relate to. I’ve written two blog posts on the topic and shared a companion video on YouTube—and even tested out long-form content on TikTok for the first time!

This episode is a heartfelt exploration of what burnout can look like for those of us who are gifted, ADHD, autistic, or otherwise neurodivergent, and how we can begin to recover and reconnect with our energy and purpose.

About My Experience of Burnout: Over the last three years, I’ve been working through the most intense burnout of my life. It started during the pandemic and lingered far beyond, as I struggled to return to the rhythms of daily life in a world that never truly went "back to normal." Like many neurodivergent individuals, I found myself caught in a cycle of urgency, executive dysfunction, emotional exhaustion, and identity loss—especially as a twice-exceptional adult who spent years masking and pushing through.

Throughout this episode, I share how I began healing by shifting my energy focus, consuming more uplifting media, and building out my self-regulation toolkit. These small but impactful steps helped me start to climb out of burnout and reconnect with my values and purpose.

In This Episode: * What neurodivergent burnout really is and how it differs from general burnout * The impact of executive dysfunction, sensory overload, and masking * The "gifted kid burnout" problem and how identity gets tangled in achievement * How urgency culture creates cycles of burnout and crash * Using the “circle of influence” vs. “circle of concern” to refocus energy * Shifting media consumption and moving from doomscrolling to hope scrolling * The importance of community care and authentic connection * Building a personalized self-regulation toolkit for long-term energy balance * Learning to ask for help and receive support without guilt * A reminder: burnout is not a personal failure—it’s a survival response

Burnout is an all-too-common challenge for neurodivergent people, and it often looks very different from what the general population might expect. For autistic people, ADHD burnout, and other forms of neurodivergent burnout, it’s not just about long hours or hard work—it’s about the constant effort of navigating a neurotypical world without adequate support. The neurodivergent mind processes sensory input, social interaction, and executive function tasks in different ways, often leading to sensory processing issues and emotional exhaustion. Many autistic adults and neurodivergent individuals experience a greater risk of burnout due to the compounding effects of chronic stress, loss of skills, and a deep lack of motivation when support systems are not in place.

While neurotypical people may recover from burnout with rest alone, a neurodivergent adult often needs more nuanced strategies to heal—ones that take into account their unique neurodivergent traits, sensory experiences, and cognitive abilities. Burnout can also exacerbate mood disorders like anxiety disorder and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Unfortunately, many family members, employers, and even mental health professionals may overlook these common causes, failing to provide the school accommodations, social support, or safe place needed for recovery. Whether it’s through personal experience, insights from advocates or participation in online communities, it’s clear that understanding the term neurodivergent and how it manifests is crucial. Supporting autistic children, ADHD individuals, and all neurodivergent people in reaching their full potential means meeting human needs, addressing sensory processing issues, and creating an ideal world where burnout is not the norm—but a sign that something deeper must be healed.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re constantly pushing through exhaustion, struggling to find balance, or wondering why everything feels so hard—you are not alone. Neurodivergent burnout is real, and it’s not a reflection of your worth or capability. It’s a signal that your needs deserve more care, compassion, and community support.

Let this episode be a gentle reminder that your intensity is not too much, your rest is valid, and your healing matters. I’d love to hear from you—what topics would you like me to explore further on the podcast? And if you’re ready to start building your own toolkit for energy balance and self-regulation, check out the PowerZone Toolkit Challenge, now available anytime you need it.

🎧 Listen now and take your next step toward recovery and reclaiming your energy.

Resources & Links: * PowerZone Toolkit Challenge (now evergreen & free!) * Join the Embracing Intensity Community * Watch the video on YouTube * Follow on TikTok & Instagram: @embracingintensity

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In this episode of Embracing Intensity, host Aurora Remember sits down with Caroline J. Sumlin, author of We’ll All Be Free: How a Culture of White Supremacy Devalues Us and How We Can Reclaim Our True Worth. Together, they explore the intersection of intensity, self-worth, and collective liberation.

Caroline shares her journey from feeling like she was “too much” to reclaiming her intensity as a gift. They dive into how societal systems—especially those rooted in white supremacy—fuel perfectionism, hustle culture, and the feeling of never being good enough. This conversation is both deeply personal and action-oriented, offering tools for doing the inner work to break free from these toxic systems and reclaim your inherent worth.

About Caroline J. Sumlin: Caroline J. Sumlin is a writer, speaker, and educator whose work focuses on dismantling the toxic cultural messages rooted in white supremacy that tell us we are never enough. She empowers individuals—especially Black women and other marginalized communities—to reclaim their self-worth and reimagine a liberated, fulfilling life.

Her book, We’ll All Be Free, blends personal narrative, social commentary, and actionable guidance to help readers break free from perfectionism, self-doubt, and societal pressure.

In This Episode: * The Never-Enough Culture – How systems of white supremacy drive perfectionism and keep us striving to prove our worth. * Intensity as a Gift – Caroline’s journey from being labeled “intense” to recognizing her passion as a source of power. * Masking and Cultural Expectations – The pressure on Black women to tone down their true selves and “fit in.” * Self-Discovery as Liberation – Why examining how systems shape our beliefs is essential to personal and collective freedom. * Finding Outlets for Intensity – How Caroline channels her energy through writing, tennis, acting, and music. * The Power of Rest and Reclaiming Time – How rest can be a radical act of resistance in a culture that values productivity over well-being. * Navigating ADHD and Giftedness – Caroline’s exploration into her own possible neurodivergence and her daughter’s twice-exceptionality journey. * Ripple Effect Change – Why small, intentional actions can lead to lasting, collective transformation.

Key Takeaways: * Your worth is not tied to your productivity. * Systems of oppression benefit from keeping us feeling “not enough.” * Intensity is a strength when you learn to embrace and channel it. * Rest is a radical act of resistance against hustle culture. * Small, personal shifts can ripple outward to create collective change.

Resources & Links: * Caroline’s Website * Follow Caroline on Instagram & Threads: @carolinejsumlin * Book: We’ll All Be Free – Support independent bookstores via Bookshop.org * Embracing Intensity Community * Embracing Intensity Mastermind (Coupon Code: EARLYBIRD25) * Twice-Exceptionality Stories Playlist (YouTube)

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In this episode of Embracing Intensity, I’m thrilled to welcome Sheldon Gay, host of the I Must Be Buggin’ podcast. Sheldon brings his insightful perspective on navigating life as a late-identified gifted and neurodivergent individual. His podcast and work are dedicated to amplifying underrepresented voices and empowering others to embrace their unique identities.

We explore the challenges and beauty of being true to oneself in a world that often misunderstands intensity, neurodivergence, and giftedness. Sheldon’s passion for self-discovery, emotional depth, and compassionate communication shines through in this powerful conversation.

About Sheldon:

Sheldon Gay is the host of the I Must Be Buggin’ podcast, where he delves into topics of identity, giftedness, and neurodivergence through the lens of being Black, underrepresented, and gifted. His mission is to create a space for self-awareness, acceptance, and growth, while helping others see and embrace their unique strengths.

Sheldon’s background as a late-identified gifted and neurodivergent individual has fueled his passion for helping others on their journey of self-discovery. He brings a thoughtful, empathetic approach to conversations on identity, culture, and the power of authenticity.

In This Episode:

• Navigating Identity as a Late-Identified Neurodivergent Individual – Sheldon shares his journey of discovering his giftedness and neurodivergence later in life.
• Ask vs. Guess Culture – A deep dive into communication styles, cultural nuances, and how self-awareness can help bridge differences.
• The Power of Self-Discovery – Reflections on how shadow work and embracing authenticity can lead to freedom from shame and guilt.
• Intensity and Emotional Depth – Exploring how Sheldon’s intellectual curiosity and emotional intensity shape his interactions and relationships.
• Cultural Expectations and Exceptionalism – Discussing the pressures faced by marginalized communities and how giftedness intersects with cultural identity.
• Truth with Compassion – The importance of sharing truth in ways that create connection and understanding rather than division.

Resources & Links:

• Sheldon’s Website: Sheldon Gay is Buggin
• Listen to the I Must Be Buggin’ podcast
• Learn more about Sheldon’s speaking engagements

• Explore his neuroaffirming and anti-racist merchandise

• Join the Embracing Intensity Community

• Connect with Aurora: Embracing Intensity

Sheldon’s thoughtful reflections and passion for empowering others provide invaluable insights for anyone navigating their own journey of self-discovery and authenticity. Tune in for an engaging and inspiring conversation!

Listen now and share your thoughts with us! 🎧✨

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The Science of Writing to Heal with Nneka Denise In this episode of Embracing Intensity, we’re excited to share the Q&A portion of our powerful conversation with Nneka Denise, founder of the Write to Heal Project. This discussion offers timely tools and insights as we reflect on letting go of the past year and preparing for a fresh, intentional start in the new year.

Nneka shares her transformative approach to healing through writing, addressing grief not only as it relates to loss but also to life transitions, personal growth, and emotional clarity. Whether you’re navigating stress, seeking emotional release, or exploring creative outlets, this episode provides practical strategies to help you move forward.

About Nneka Denise Nneka Denise is the founder of the Write to Heal Project and a trained end-of-life and bereavement doula based in the Portland-Vancouver area. Through journaling, visualization, and somatic practices, Nneka helps individuals process grief, trauma, and life’s emotional challenges. She also runs the New Wellness Center in downtown Portland, a collective of holistic healing practitioners offering vibrational sound baths, Reiki, massage, and emotional wellness support.

In This Episode: * The Science of Writing to Heal – How writing can help process emotions, grief, and transitions in life. * Practical Writing Strategies – Tips for using gratitude journaling, brain dumps, and affirmations to create a daily healing practice. * Ceremonial Release – The power of burning or shredding written emotions as a symbolic act of letting go. * Affirmations for Healing – How to create affirmations that feel believable and achievable, guiding you toward positive change. * Navigating Writing Challenges – Nneka’s advice for those with ADHD, dyslexia, or writing apprehensions, including voice dictation and alternative methods.

Resources & Links: * Connect with Nneka on Instagram: @nneka_denise * Contact Nneka via email: nneka.denise@gmail.com * Learn about the New Wellness Center in Downtown Portland (10th & Morrison) * Explore the Embracing Intensity Community and Memberships. * Preorder Aurora’s workbook, Energy Balance (Kindle edition), available this Friday, December 20th.

Nneka’s work offers invaluable tools for self-reflection, healing, and emotional growth through the simple yet profound act of writing. Whether you’re a lifelong journaler or just beginning your healing journey, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you process emotions and step into the new year with intention.

Listen now and take the first step toward embracing your own healing process! 🎧✨

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In this highly engaging episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora Remember Holtzman dives deep into the world of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) with Bob Yamtich, a seasoned practitioner with over 20 years of experience. Bob shares how NVC has shaped his approach to relationships, parenting, and self-understanding, particularly as a neurodivergent individual. This conversation is packed with practical insights and tools for those seeking to enhance their self-connection and interpersonal communication.

About Bob Yamtich:

Bob Yamtich is a dedicated Nonviolent Communication trainer, therapist, and engineer. His journey into NVC began after his career as an environmental engineer, driven by his desire to contribute to societal change through better communication. Bob’s unique approach integrates empathy with analytical insights, honoring the importance of neurodivergence in his work and personal growth. He is a passionate advocate for using NVC as a bridge between self-awareness and impactful communication.

In This Episode:

• Bob’s personal journey with Nonviolent Communication and how it helped him find balance as a bipolar individual.
• The core principles of NVC: self-connection, empathy, and honesty.
• How to distinguish between needs and strategies, and why it matters in communication.
• The concept of holding multiple needs and strategies simultaneously for resilience and creativity.
• Balancing analytical insights with empathy in understanding neurodivergence.
• Practical exercises, including identifying three current needs and corresponding strategies.
• How NVC fosters community, shared power, and collaborative problem-solving.
• Bob’s experiences teaching NVC to diverse audiences, including children and incarcerated individuals.
• The shift from “battle mode” to “build mode” in creating meaningful connections.

Links and Resources:

• Learn more about Nonviolent Communication and its principles here.
• Learn more about Bob on his website!
• Explore Aurora’s Neurodivergent Toolbox and other resources at the Embracing Intensity Shop.
• Get 25% off Aurora's digital products and memberships with code BIRTHDAY24 (valid until Dec 2).

Whether you're new to Nonviolent Communication or a seasoned practitioner, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable strategies for enriching your connections with yourself and others. Tune in for a thought-provoking and uplifting discussion!

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This episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, features a detailed conversation with Heather Borman Morris about understanding narcissistic relationships and how they uniquely affect gifted and neurodivergent individuals. Heather, a clinical social worker, shares her personal experience with narcissistic abuse, providing insights on identifying covert narcissism versus mere intense interest, particularly in neurodivergent or twice-exceptional individuals. The discussion delves into strategies for recognizing and managing toxic relationships, differentiating between narcissism and authentic behaviors, and emphasizes the need for understanding personal boundaries and fostering healthy relationships post-abuse. The episode also introduces Heather's work, including her book 'A Thousand Paper Cuts' and the podcast 'Starting Stronger'.

About Heather:

Heather Boorman-Morris is a renowned therapist, speaker, and author dedicated to helping individuals heal and thrive after experiencing toxic relationships. With over two decades of experience in the field, Heather specializes in trauma recovery, relationship dynamics, and neurodivergent mental health. She is the founder of Starting Stronger and the author of the acclaimed book Thousand Paper Cuts: Finding Healing in the Aftermath of a Narcissist. Heather’s compassionate approach and deep understanding of complex emotional landscapes make her a sought-after expert in the journey towards healthy, fulfilling relationships.

In this episode:

• Heather joins the podcast to discuss navigating healthy relationships, focusing on narcissistic abuse.
• Heather shares her experience of being in an abusive relationship and later discovering covert narcissism.
• Discussion on the targeting of neurodivergent individuals by narcissists, highlighting their traits like empathy and ambition.
• Differences between overt and covert narcissists are outlined, including their stages of relationship: idealization, devaluation, and discard.
• Strategies like mirroring used by manipulators in relationships are explained.
• Emphasis on trusting one's body and intuition as indicators of being in a toxic relationship.
• Conversation on distinguishing between love bombing and genuine neurodivergent intensity.
• Importance of taking time to build relationships and recognizing genuine intentions.
• Discussion about the impact of past trauma and hyper-vigilance when forming new relationships.

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In this enriching episode, Aurora hosts Marc, who shares his profound insights on neurodivergent leadership. Marc introduces himself by recounting his journey with ADHD, from his early school years to receiving his diagnosis at 16. This pivotal moment spurred him to embrace and understand his unique brain function, leading to his certification as an ADHD life coach. Marc speaks proudly of founding the Men's ADHD Support Group, a 501c3 nonprofit with over 17,000 members, aiming to empower men with ADHD. He emphasizes the importance of leveraging the inherent strengths of neurodivergent individuals rather than conforming to societal norms. Marc's empathetic and mentorship-driven leadership style, rooted in his personal experiences, serves as a testament to the potential and efficacy of neurodivergent leaders. He addresses challenges such as imposter syndrome, the importance of passion in leadership, and strategies for effective communication within his organization. The discussion also touches on the nuances of the ADHD label, stressing a balanced view that acknowledges both strengths and challenges.

About Marc: Marc Almodovar Jr. is a neurodiversity advocate and the founder of the ADHD Men’s Support Group, a safe space where men with ADHD can connect with others who share common experiences and challenges. Marc’s personal experience with ADHD led him to feel isolated and misunderstood, and he recognized the need for a supportive community. He believes that by fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance within the group, men with ADHD can advocate for neurodiversity awareness and acceptance within society as a whole.

As a mental health advocate, Marc recognizes the stigma surrounding mental illness and strives to create a space where men with ADHD can feel safe and supported regardless of their unique ways of thinking and experiencing the world. He is passionate about raising awareness about neurodiversity and helping people understand the diverse ways in which people experience the world. With a balance of authenticity and positivity, Marc inspires others to embrace their unique strengths and connect with others within the neurodiverse community.

In this episode: * Marc discusses his experience with ADHD, including his diagnosis at 16 and its impact on his life. * He shares how understanding his brain led him to personal development and becoming an ADHD life coach. * Founding the Men's ADHD Support Group, a non-profit organization with over 17,000 members. * People with ADHD often have strong leadership qualities. * Leveraging strengths rather than conforming to societal norms. * The importance of mentorship and leading by example. * Personal and societal challenges neurodivergent leaders face, such as imposter syndrome and self-criticism. * The value of self-affirmations and support systems in overcoming these challenges. * Negative feedback and misconceptions about ADHD, especially related to gender. * The need for safe spaces for men with ADHD and dispelling myths around the condition. * Giving constructive feedback while staying authentic. * Using “kind candor” and focusing on team collaboration to improve feedback delivery. * Resources available for partners of men with ADHD, including support groups and public content. * The debate around viewing ADHD as a gift versus a disorder. * Recognizing both the strengths and challenges of ADHD without labeling it strictly as one or the other.

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This week on the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora discusses the transformative power of music with guest Princess Fortier. Princess shares her personal journey of using singing to alleviate her chronic migraines, which began at the age of 13. Despite initially pursuing neuroscience to find a medical cure, she discovered that singing provided significant relief from her symptoms. Aurora and Princess delve into how music can relax, heal, and foster emotional well-being, particularly for those with neurodivergent traits like ADHD and autism. They also explore the importance of community in musical healing practices and offer practical advice for using music and singing as therapeutic tools. Tips for finding and creating musical communities are discussed, along with the benefits of engaging in sound baths and circle singing.

About Princess:

Princess Fortier is a dynamic musician, speaker, and advocate for mental health and neurodivergence. With a rich background in using music as a therapeutic tool, she has dedicated her career to helping others find healing and self-expression through creative outlets. Princess's work emphasizes the emotional and psychological benefits of music, drawing from her personal experiences and professional expertise to inspire and empower her audience. She is known for her engaging and heartfelt presentations, making complex topics accessible and relatable to diverse audiences.

In this Episode:

• Princess shares how music has helped her understand and process emotions, learn about love, and find healing.
• Aurora introduces the "Embracing Intensity" podcast, aimed at gifted, creative, twice-exceptional individuals.
• Moving to a single monthly episode improved downloads.
• Princess discusses her journey studying neuroscience to find a cure for her migraines.
• Singing during a migraine attack unexpectedly relieved her symptoms.
• Aurora opens up Q&A, asking Princess about factors contributing to music helping with migraines.
• Princess explains the potential of music to relax and align with one's purpose, influencing mental and physical well-being.
• Community involvement in singing and music is encouraged for healing and creativity.
• Practical suggestions for engaging in music, such as joining choirs or attending sound bowl classes.
• Discussion on how specific songs and types of music can be personalized for therapeutic benefit.
• Auroras' philosophy: using her platform to allow others to share their voices.
• Princess's invitation to explore creating and experiencing music for personal therapy.
• Closing remarks emphasize continuing conversation and participating in the Embracing Intensity community.
• Aurora concludes with invitations to join the community for support and access to tools for self-regulation.

Resources: Princess on Instagram

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In this solo episode, I delve into my personal journey of overcoming a prolonged burnout to explore the concept of truly restful rest. I discuss the five areas of energy balance—physical, emotional, mental, social, and connection—from my 'Balancing Your Time and Energy' workbook. Through my experience, including the importance of joy-driven activities, social connections, and the INCUP (Interest, Novelty, Challenge, Urgency, and Passion) framework, I provide practical advice on how to replenish energy reserves effectively. Also, discover the value of doing an energy audit to identify draining versus energizing activities. Learn more about my strategies for achieving genuine rest and explore my workbook collection for further guidance.

In this Episode:

• Experiencing burnout and the importance of restful rest.
• Five Areas of Energy Balance: Physical, Emotional, Mental, Social, and Connection.
• Physical Rest: Emphasizes the importance of activities that truly relax the nervous system, like going for walks.
• Mental Rest: Stresses shifting focus to activities driven by joy rather than duty to avoid energy drain.
• Emotional Rest: Highlights the significance of assertive actions over anxiety-driven actions.
• Social Rest: Explains how spending time with comfortable social connections can be energizing.
• Connection: Discusses the importance of feeling connected to oneself, others, and the world.
• Motivation Factors: INCUP - Interest, Novelty, Challenge, Urgency, and Passion - as motivational strategies.
• Urgency: Talks about creating a sense of urgency through public accountability to stay motivated.
• Challenge: Transforming tasks into challenges to stay engaged and motivated.
• Interest: Recommends revisiting previous interests to reignite passion.
• Novelty and Passion: Encourages switching things up to maintain novelty and passion in tasks.
• Join our upcoming community call on the healing power of music!

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In this episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora Remember Holtzman interviews Bob Yamtich about his journey with intensity, nonviolent communication (NVC), and self-connection. Bob shares his personal experiences with bipolar disorder and hypomania, the importance of shared reality, and his passion for self-connection. He discusses his work, including his self-connection coloring book, and provides insights into the practice of NVC for both self-awareness and enhancing interpersonal communication. Aurora and Bob also delve into the challenges and rewards of forming in-person connections and the role of intensity in their lives. The episode concludes with Bob's emphasis on the foundational role of self-connection in his approach to NVC and a preview of his upcoming live discussion on the topic.

About Bob:

Bob Yamtich is a therapist and Nonviolent Communication trainer. He completed his Bachelor’s in Civil Engineering in 2003, the BayNVC Nonviolent Communication Leadership Program in 2007 (assisting in LP08), and his Master’s in Counseling Psychology in 2011. He earned his Marriage and Family Therapist license in California in 2014. He was a founding member of the Da Vinci Center for Gifted Children in Alameda, CA, and Genesis Innovation Academy in Atlanta, GA. Bob currently lives in Indiana and offers phone coaching and in-person training. He can be followed on Twitter @BobYamtich.

In this episode:

• Introduction by Bob about trusting intensity based on shared reality and positive contributions.
• Aurora introduces Bob Yamtich, mentioning his upcoming talk on Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and their mutual appreciation for NVC.
• Bob expresses gratitude for being on the podcast.
• Aurora asks Bob about what he is intensely passionate about; Bob mentions his role as a dad and his professional passion for developing self-connection, highlighting his self-connection coloring book.
• Discussion on how NVC helps both with self-connection and interpersonal communication.
• Bob speaks about overcoming hypomania and psychosis, emphasizing the need for stability and shared reality.
• Bob shares his journey with bipolar disorder and the importance of medication alongside therapeutic practices.
• Aurora asks about the impact of intensity during Bob's upbringing; Bob shares how his extreme passion led to feelings of guilt and loneliness.
• Bob mentions his gifted program experience and the importance of having passionate friends.
• Bob discusses how nonviolent communication helped him rebuild his life and manage his intensity.
• Aurora and Bob talk about the challenges and benefits of connecting with others in person versus online.
• Bob reflects on the shadow side of his intensity, including an episode where he buried treasure and was not in touch with shared reality.
• Emphasis on the importance of self-connection in managing intensity and understanding one's needs.
• Bob shares a final blessing of self-connection and invites listeners to explore this concept along with empathy and honesty in nonviolent communication.

Resources: Bob’s Website

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This week on Embracing Intensity, we share part of our call with Sharon J. Burton on "Creativity as Self-Care." Sharon delves into a chapter from her upcoming book "Creative Sparks" that explores how embracing creativity can be a powerful form of self-care. Through affirmations, inspiration, and practical tips, Sharon will guide attendees on how to use their creative talents to nurture their well-being, reduce stress, and cultivate a more mindful and fulfilling life. Join us for an enlightening discussion on the transformative power of creativity in self-care practices.

Join us for an engaging discussion with Sharon, a creativity coach, visual artist, teaching artist, yoga nidra guide, meditation guide, poet, and soon-to-be author. Sharon shares her journey back to art after pursuing a traditional career path and emphasizes the importance of creativity as self-care. The conversation covers themes such as the challenges and joys of embracing creativity at midlife, especially for those who may not have received encouragement earlier in life due to societal pressures towards more conventional careers. Sharon introduces her upcoming book, 'Creative Sparks: 21 Affirmations and Inspirations for Creativity at Midlife,' aimed at inspiring people to reconnect with their creativity. The discussion also explores the significance of creativity for personal growth, mental health, and cultural expression, particularly within the African American community. Additionally, it addresses overcoming common obstacles like the inner critic, imposter syndrome, and societal expectations, encouraging listeners to give themselves permission to explore their passions and creative impulses fully.

About Sharon Sharon J. Burton is a visual artist, art curator, poet and certified creative coach and Founder of Spark Your Creative Coaching. Since 2016, she has focused on helping people in "creative recovery"... those looking to revive or jump start their creativity through group and individual coaching, workshops, her blog and as the host of Spark Your Creative Podcast which features artists and other creatives who are using their unique talents to create more mindful communities and a safer world. Sharon is a certified creativity coach through the Creativity Coaching Association. She completed requirements for the professional certificate in Art Business from New York University and a certificate in Art History through the Smithsonian. a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration and a Master of Public Administration. Sharon is also a Level II, Reiki Certified practitioner and received her Breath Work + Meditation Teacher Certification. Sharon infuses her creativity coaching with wellness practices to help her clients break through the blocks that prevent them from fully engaging in their creative potential.

In this episode: * Aurora welcomes Sharon Burton to the "Embracing Intensity" podcast to discuss creativity as self-care. * Sharon reflects on reconnecting with Aurora after years and discusses the importance of creativity in her life and others'. * Aurora mentions the podcast's start in 2016, noting Sharon's early appearance in its second year. * Sharon introduces herself as a creativity coach, visual artist, yoga nidra and meditation guide, and soon-to-be author. * The discussion pivots to Sharon's upcoming book, "Creative Sparks: 21 Affirmations and Inspirations for Creativity at Midlife," focused on encouraging creativity in midlife individuals. * Sharon shares her journey from pursuing a practical business degree to rediscovering her artistic side, emphasizing the challenge and reward of returning to creativity. * A chapter from Sharon's book is shared, highlighting how creative practice can serve as a powerful form of self-care and aid in stress reduction, self-expression, self-discovery, boosting self-esteem, and promoting physical well-being. * Aurora and Sharon discuss the societal pressures that often discourage creative pursuits and share personal insights on recognizing and affirming one's creativity. * The conversation includes questions from the audience, exploring challenges faced by multi-talented individuals and ways to prioritize creativity amidst life's demands. * Discussion on where creativity comes from, suggesting it can originate both from within the mind and beyond the physical body. * The dialogue transitions to a discussion segment, where Sheldon joins to emphasize the unique experiences of creativity within the Black community and the impact of cultural and societal expectations. * Sharon responds by highlighting the evolving opportunities for creative expression enabled by technology and the importance of embracing creativity at any life stage. * Aurora wraps up by summarizing key takeaways: understanding one's creative "why," giving oneself permission to prioritize creativity, and inviting listeners to explore Sharon's upcoming book as a resource for inspiration and empowerment. * Sharon concludes with details about her book launch, her podcast, and how to connect with her online for more insights into fostering creativity.

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Join us in a profound exploration of fun, creativity, and self-care in our latest Embracing Intensity Podcast episode with special guest Boontarika Sripom. Dive deep into the significance of play in nurturing personal growth and bringing joy into our lives, especially for the intensely creative and gifted. Boontarika, a life coach with a passion for play and a background in clinical psychology and human development, shares her insights on how engaging in playful activities can foster innovation, relieve stress, and support our overall well-being. Discover the psychological foundations of play, its role in human development, and how to incorporate more playful moments into your daily routine. Whether you're seeking ways to rejuvenate your creative spirit or find balance in your intense life, this conversation is a reminder of play's transformative power.

For the creative, differently wired, and divergent thinker, play can be as natural as breathing. For some of us, there are layers of shame or uncertainty that inhibit playing across the lifespan. We may be separated from an essential part of maintaining authenticity. This conversation will explore the power of play, sprinkle archetypal journeys within play and fandoms, and encourage listeners to honor their inner children by playing. To those who continue playing: My inner child honors yours. I just waved at you across the playground. :)

About Boontarika:

Boontarika Sripom, MA is a therapy-informed life coach. Her work focuses on coaching using archetypes and understanding the cognition of the differently wired, specifically highly sensitive, creative, and gamer folks. She believes knowledge, guidance, and compassion leads to insights, individual acceptance, and empowerment to change. Boonie is a former preschool teacher, paraprofessional in special education, Outreach Counselor Intern, and College Counselor for creative students. She earned her Master’s in Clinical Psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology. Her favorite games are Age of Empires, World of Warcraft, and Minecraft. She is currently playing Fortnite, Roblox, and The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild.

In this episode:

• Rejuvenating rest and exploring creativity as self-care with Sharon Burton's upcoming book release.
• The significance of play, especially for intense, gifted, creative individuals.
• Boontarika introduces her talk on play's importance, touching on her background in clinical psychology and love for video games.
• Discussion on the psychological aspects of play, highlighting its components like being purposeless, voluntary, and having inherent attraction.
• Mentions of Stuart Brown and the National Institute of Play, and their work on defining the components of play.
• Boontarika shares personal anecdotes and illustrations to explain concepts of play.
• Exploration of play's therapeutic and developmental benefits, including combating depression and fostering a sense of community.
• Reference to Jane McGonigal's works on how games can improve our lives and the role of gamification.
• Emphasis on the therapeutic aspects for neurodivergent individuals and how play serves as a safe space.
• Reflection on societal pressures, adulthood's responsibilities, and the overall decline in play.
• Discussion turns to practical ways to reintegrate play into life and its broader benefits.
• Concluding thoughts on the cultural and personal importance of play, inviting the audience to explore their own playful nature.
• Integrating play into educational settings and acknowledging the varying definitions of play.

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In this engaging conversation, Aurora sits down with the multi-talented Princess Fortier, a beacon of inspiration in the journey of embracing one’s intensity. Princess shares her remarkable story, from neuroscientist to singer and model, highlighting how music became her tool for healing and transforming her life. Together, they delve into the themes of harnessing personal intensity, pursuing passions beyond conventional boundaries, and the power of gratitude journaling. Princess's insight provides a riveting exploration of living life unbounded and the beauty of connecting deeply with one's passions. Join us as we uncover the synergy between harmony and intensity, and discover how embracing your full self can lead to a fulfilling and impactful life.

Discover how Princess overcame intense migraines through her passion for singing, marking a pivotal shift in her life that not only cured her physically but also steered her towards a fulfilling career in music. Throughout the episode, Princess shares her multifaceted experiences, from her challenges with perfectionism and navigating cultural expressions to engaging deeply with neurodiversity and entrepreneurship. Aurora and Princess delve into the significance of embracing one's intensity, using personal fire for positive impact, and the liberation found in gratitude and self-expression. This episode is a testament to the strength found in vulnerability, the beauty of pursuing one's passions, and the value of community support. Tune in to be inspired, find connection, and discover how to channel your own intensity into a force for good.

This episode not only celebrates Princess's remarkable contributions to the field of music and arts but also sheds light on how embracing one's intensity can lead to groundbreaking discoveries and personal healing. Listen in as Princess shares her thoughts on perseverance, the significance of music in her life, her battle against perfectionism, and her spirited advocacy for journaling and gratitude as tools for navigating life's challenges.

In this episode * Princess is an inspiring figure who transitioned from a neuroscientist to a singer/model and has been featured in shows like Abbott Elementary and All American. * Princess shares her unique story of how singing cured her chronic migraines, leading her to pursue a full-time music career. * The power of journaling, especially gratitude journaling, as a tool for self-reflection and goal setting. * Princess discusses the challenges and benefits of embracing one's intensity, including her resistance to being limited by societal expectations and finding freedom in diversity. * The dialogue touches on topics like neurodivergence, perfectionism, the importance of setting boundaries, and the impact of cultural and familial pressures. * Aurora and Princess share experiences of dealing with rejection sensitivity and the internal struggle of wanting to be liked and approved. * They explore the concept of using one's 'fire' for good, including sharing knowledge, setting examples for others, and creating transformative art. * Princess discusses how engaging in multiple passions, such as music and entrepreneurship, has allowed her to express her intensity in various domains. * Aurora emphasizes the importance of self-care and taking breaks to prevent burnout, acknowledging her own past of working on urgency. * The conversation also covers strategies for harnessing one's intensity and sensitivity, with Princess highlighting the power of gratitude practices. * Princess encourages the audience to let go of perfectionism and embrace their passions. * Both speakers reflect on personal growth, the importance of authentic self-expression, and supporting others in their journey to embrace their intensity. * Princess shares ways to connect with her and learn more about her journey and work, including her website and upcoming appearances.

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In this thought-provoking podcast episode, Jeff and Aurora delve deep into the topic of dismantling patriarchy through play. They explore the impact of societal norms on individuals, the role of neurodivergence in challenging the status quo, and the importance of celebrating uniqueness. Through personal anecdotes and insightful discussions, they highlight the power of embracing one's intensity and fostering connections through play. Stay tuned to gain valuable insights on creating a more inclusive and empathetic world through intentional actions and meaningful engagement.

The podcast discussion delves into the intersection of play, patriarchy, neurodiversity, and societal norms. Jeff and Aurora explore the impact of patriarchy on both men and women, emphasizing the importance of men becoming allies to women and the need to challenge traditional gender roles. They highlight the power of play in fostering connection, breaking free from societal expectations, and celebrating neurodiversity. The conversation encourages embracing uniqueness, challenging the status quo, and fostering a sense of community and connection through play.

About Jeff

Jeff Harry, the founder of Rediscover Your Play, runs an organization dedicated to making work more enjoyable through play and positive psychology. With a strong belief that play can heal workplaces and communities, Jeff emphasizes the importance of embracing intensity and connecting with others authentically. He advocates for celebrating neurodivergence and challenging societal norms to create a more inclusive and empathetic world. Jeff's work focuses on dismantling patriarchy by encouraging allies to women and fostering deeper connections through play.

In this episode:

• Jeff emphasizes the importance of play in healing workplaces and communities.
• Play is discussed as a tool for challenging the status quo and encouraging connection.
• Aurora and Jeff share stories about the power of play to bring people together.
• Celebrating neurodivergency and uniqueness is highlighted as a way to dismantle patriarchy.
• Remote companionship is discussed as both beneficial and limited in replacing in-person connections.
• The impact of societal norms on neurodivergent individuals and the need for acceptance and celebration.
• Historical examples like the 54th during the Civil War are used to showcase the ripple effects of small actions.
• The concept of the "cathedral effect" is introduced, encouraging individuals to make a difference even if they may not see the immediate results.
• The Embracing Intensity community is promoted as a supportive space for intense and gifted individuals to connect and grow.

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This week on Embracing Intensity, we share an enlightening conversation with award-winning author and licensed educational psychologist, Christine Fonseca. In this episode of our podcast, our host, Aurora, delves into an enriching conversation with Fonseca, exploring her insights on emotional intensity, mental health, giftedness, and our inherent human complexities.

Fonseca, a gifted adult herself, opens up about her experiences, passions, and various interests that set her apart. The discussion probes the depths of dealing with intense emotions, overcoming personal challenges, and handling burnout. The highlight of the conversation is Fonseca's perspective on the full spectrum of human emotions and the importance of dissecting, understanding, and accepting them as part of our unique individual journeys. She also talks about the necessity of open cross-disciplinary communication within the fields of mental health and related sciences to facilitate a more comprehensive understanding of the human condition.

Join us for these compelling insights and much more in our podcast of a treasured conversation with Christine Fonseca!

In this Episode:

• Unpacking Christine Fonseca's journey from being an educational psychologist to an international speaker, author, and gifted adult
• Discussion on the influence and inspiration behind the podcast
• Unveiling Christine's multi-faceted interests including owning a lifestyle shop and being a fiber artist
• Emphasizing the importance of not fitting in a box and cherishing one's unique identity
• Navigating the nuances of social interactions and their impact on mental health
• Exploring the connection between emotional intensity and the nervous system dysregulation
• Introduction to the ROAR protocol, a technique to understand and mitigate anxiety
• Christine's personal journey through overcoming burnout and the strategies she employed
• Deep dive into the conversation of societal pressures, the pursuit of constant happiness and its paradoxical impact on mental health
• The untapped power of holistic communication across different disciplinary silos in the healthcare and mental health sector
• Embracing the beauty and complexity of being intensely human and the power of acceptance.

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In this episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, we bring you an inspiring conversation with Cosette "Coco" Leary. Coco’s gripping story takes us on a journey from her days as a welfare recipient to eventually becoming a celebrated motivational speaker and entrepreneur. Her story is laced with determination, resilience, and overcoming adversity to redefine herself on her own terms. Join us as we delve into Coco's remarkable life journey.

Coco candidly shares her life from being a welfare recipient to ascending to the realms of high-profile activism and motivational speaking. We learn about her early struggles with poverty, systemic barriers, and personal hurdles that conditioned her resilience and determination to achieve her dreams. Coco speaks passionately about her staunch belief in the power of perseverance, community, education, and self-belief. She beautifully illustrates how she transformed a life limited by societal expectations into a path teeming with promise and endless potential.

Coco’s inspiring story delivers a powerful message about fighting for one’s dreams despite being in the face of adversity. This episode is a testament to the power of resilience, the quest for education, and the determination to change the narrative regardless of one's background. Tune in for a dose of intense inspiration!

In this episode:

• Coco shares the pivotal role desperation played in building her resilience.
• Her brave initiative to pen a letter to a CEO that opened new avenues in her life.
• The importance of having a support system and the role sisterhood played in Coco's life.
• How her children’s unmet needs in public schools led her to homeschooling, and the benefits thereof.
• The impactful experience of her stint in Capitol Hill in D.C which led her to establish her empire.
• Coco’s vision for transforming societal norms through increased social connection and community support.

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In this episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, host Aurora interviews Kaitlin Smith, a scholar, facilitator, and founder of Our Wild Minds. Kaitlin shares her journey as a gifted BIPOC individual, her work in supporting gifted adults, and her research on the history of mind sciences. Join Aurora and Kaitlin as they explore the intersections between intensity, cultural dynamics, and personal growth.

In this interview, Aurora and Kaitlin delve into Kaitlin's experiences as a gifted BIPOC individual, the challenges she faced growing up, and the cultural factors that affected her self-expression. They discuss how Kaitlin uses her intensity to make a positive impact and navigate the complex dynamics of the workplace. Kaitlin also shares her insights on harnessing the power of intensity and helping others do the same through her community platform, Our Wild Minds.

Join Aurora and Kaitlin as they delve into the complexities of intensity and its transformative potential in this thought-provoking episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast.

In This Episode: * Kaitlin's journey as a scholar, facilitator, and founder of Our Wild Minds. * The intersections between the history of mind sciences and African American studies in Kaitlin's research. * The challenges Kaitlin faced growing up in a predominantly white suburb and the conflicting expectations placed upon her as a gifted Black individual. * The impact of cultural dynamics on expression and the pressure to conform to societal expectations. * How Kaitlin uses her fire for good through various roles, including her work as a PhD student, teaching fellow, and community builder. * The importance of clarity, deprogramming, and prioritizing values in harnessing the power of intensity. * Kaitlin's insights on creating space for connection, introspection, learning, manifestation, and giving back through Our Wild Minds. * The empowering message that it's never too late to embrace authenticity and live a life aligned with your true self.

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In this age of rapid and overwhelming information, how does one choose what is important to learn? Opportunities to play are opportunities to learn. Play allows us to imagine ourselves in different realities, in different worlds where the rules are different, where we can be different. In these alternate worlds, we can demand more for ourselves. In these worlds, we can identify our needs and build rules and systems to meet our deepest needs. Just as someone imagined the world you see around you right now; the one in which neurodivergent needs go largely unmet - through play, we can imagine a world in which neurodivergent needs are met.

In this episode of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, host Aurora and Dr. Kimberly Douglas discuss the power of play in decolonizing neurodivergence. Dr. Douglas shares her insights on the relationship between play, imagination, and decolonization, and how they intersect in the context of gaming and world building.

They discuss the power of immersion, imagination, and safety in fostering a state of play, and how play can be a catalyst for expanding thinking and problem-solving. They explore the connection between play and power dynamics in society, particularly within the context of colonization. Dr. Douglas also shares her perspective on the need to decolonize neurodivergence and challenge oppressive systems that limit the expression of neurodivergent identities. The conversation concludes with a reflection on the possibilities and challenges of embracing play and creativity as tools for personal and societal transformation.

Stay tuned for this insightful conversation on play, decolonization, and embracing neurodivergent identities. Make sure to check out Dr. Kimberly Douglas' work and follow her on social media for more valuable insights.

About Kimberly: Dr Kimberly Douglass is coach/consultant to Neurodivergent Adults.

Dr Douglass is currently constructing the first design studio of its kind, run by AuDHDers, for AuDHDers.

Dr Douglass became a full-time coach after working as staff, peer-reviewed researcher, faculty and administrator in higher education for over 17 years. She began the neurodivergence advocacy work over 13 years ago when she became the chief advocate for her Son who is neurodivergent. She has since gotten more in touch with her own neurodivergence. Dr Douglass is married to Dean Tate and lives in Tennessee.

In this episode:

• Dr. Douglas shares her background and expertise in working with neurodivergent individuals.
• The importance of safety and immersion in fostering a state of play.
• Play encourages imagination, ideation, and thinking outside the box
• The relationship between play and imagination, and the role of play in expanding thinking and problem-solving.
• How neurodivergence challenges societal expectations and the worker role
• The connection between play and power dynamics in society, and the need to decolonize neurodivergence.
• Why decolonizing neurodivergence requires understanding larger systems of oppression
• The possibilities and challenges of embracing play and creativity as tools for personal and societal transformation.
• Permission to play and decolonize can bring up grief but also opens up possibilities

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Are you a gifted or neurodivergent perfectionist struggling to overcome the damaging effects of perfectionism? In this episode of the Embracing Intensity podcast, host Aurora Remember Holtzman invites special guest Aileen Kelleher, a therapist and life coach, to delve into the topic of overcoming perfectionism. Together, they explore the intersection between perfectionism and giftedness and discuss the various ways in which perfectionism can impact our lives. From high expectations and low self-esteem to time limits and parental expectations, Aurora and Aileen shed light on the challenges faced by perfectionists and provide practical strategies for managing perfectionistic tendencies and fostering self-compassion. Join the Embracing Intensity community at embracingintensity.com to dive deeper into understanding and overcoming your own perfectionism. Gain access to courses, tools, and support from like-minded individuals who appreciate and celebrate the power of high personal standards. You can also, explore the free self-regulation workbook for gifted and neurodivergent adults, titled "Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity," which offers a practical guide for overcoming perfectionism and embracing your unique abilities. Visit the show notes or embracingintensity.com for more information and resources. In this episode:

• The definition and negative impact of perfectionism, including its association with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. - Overlaps between perfectionism and giftedness, such as high expectations, sensitivity, and self-criticism. - The unhealthy coping mechanisms often employed by perfectionists, such as procrastination and avoidance. - Strategies for managing perfectionism, including incremental steps, setting realistic goals, and practicing self-compassion. - The importance of recognizing and embracing the messy nature of overcoming perfectionism and learning new skills. - The role of self-compassion and cultivating present-moment awareness in overcoming perfectionism and achieving high performance. - The damaging effects of perfectionism on daily life, relationships, and emotional well-being. - Practical tips for parents and educators to support gifted children and help them navigate the pressures of perfectionism. - The unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in managing perfectionistic behaviors and finding balance in their lives. By addressing the problem of perfectionism and providing practical strategies for overcoming it, this episode offers valuable insights and guidance for high achievers, gifted individuals, and neurodivergent adults who struggle with the damaging effects of perfectionism in their own lives. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of perfectionism and learn how to cultivate self-compassion and embrace your unique abilities.

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In this episode of the "Embracing Intensity" podcast, host Aurora brings on a special guest, Cate Osburn, better known on social media as Catieosaurus. As a certified sex educator with an emphasis on neurodivergency and intimacy, Cate sparks much-needed conversations, tackling topics others often shy away from. With her unique insights drawn from personal experiences and her role as a sex educator, she brings a nuanced understanding of how neurodivergency can interact with intimacy and sex.

Throughout the episode, Cate and Aurora, among other topics, delve into the intersection of neurodivergence and intimacy, discuss the impacts of societal norms on sex and relationships, and provide tangible strategies to navigate through intimacy issues. Cate advocates for self-advocacy, shedding light on the importance of open and honest communication within relationships.

In a world that rarely discusses the intersection of intimacy and neurodivergence, this conversation with Catieosaurus is a breath of fresh air providing valuable insights, strategies, and reassurance that you are not alone in your struggles. Catch up on this enlightening conversation today.

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In this episode: * The relationship and challenges between neurodivergence and intimacy. * Tips for navigating sensory issues during sexual activities, such as using tools like headphones. * An examination of problematic gender dynamics that can play out in intimate relationships. * Ways to manage relationship satisfaction amidst the challenges of neurodivergency. * How to distinguish between drama and passion in relationships. * The importance of self- advocacy, allowing for the fulfilling and authentic expression of our needs. * The concept of "Ask culture" versus "Guess culture" and the effects on relationships and intimacy.

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This week on Embracing Intensity, I share my experience with the physical and emotional exhaustion that comes with severe burnout. In this episode, I share updates on my personal life that have contributed to burnout, dive into my recovery process and discuss how to overcome burnout symptoms. I also share a preview of what I have coming up as I recover from burnout this summer!

Burnout can affect every aspect of your life, from your job to your personal relationships. It's important to recognize the signs of burnout early on and take the necessary steps to address it. Whether it's through improving your work-life balance, seeking social support, or making small changes to your daily routine, there are ways to recover and find relief from burnout.

Recent research has shown that burnout is not just a result of long hours and excessive stress, but also a combination of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion. It can take a toll on your physical health, immune system, and even your mental well-being. That's why it's crucial to prioritize self-care and engage in activities that promote relaxation and rejuvenation.

Join Me In this podcast, we'll explore various burnout recovery techniques, such as incorporating physical activity, spending quality time with friends, and getting enough sleep. We'll also discuss the importance of spending time on things we love, seeking professional help when needed, and finding support from friends, family members, and colleagues.

Join me as we navigate the journey of burnout recovery together. I'll share my personal experiences, as well as insights from experts in the field, to help you create a burnout recovery plan that works for you. Whether you're a busy professional, a parent, or someone struggling with burnout in any area of your life, this podcast is here to provide guidance and support.

So, grab a cup of tea, find a cozy spot, and let's embark on the path to burnout recovery. Remember, you're not alone, and there is hope for a full recovery. Let's get started.

In this episode: * I discuss my recent absence from content creation due to burnout and chronic headaches. * Factors that have contributed to my burnout including work-related stress and big life changes. * Updates on what’s been happening for me this year personally. * Giving myself permission not to be productive has been helpful in my burnout recovery. * Reconnecting with friends and reaching out for support has been beneficial, as many friends are also struggling after the isolation of the pandemic. * Engaging in activities that bring joy and relaxation, such as floating in a pool, can help with relaxation and letting go of stress. * Incorporating movement, such as going for walks, and seeking body work and acupuncture can aid in burnout recovery. * I am working on catching up on content for the planner club and developing neurodivergent-friendly planners for travel and relationships. * I’m open to taking requests for specific planner content to make it more neurodivergent-friendly. * I plan to create a printed planner using the disk bound system for customization. * Adding a new course to my membership called "Befriending Your Brain, Self Assessment Course." * Members of my course membership will have access to upcoming calls, guest speakers, call recordings, and new content. * I have many creative ideas and plans for the future, but I also need to honor my own burnout and recovery cycles. * Our next monthly call about writing to heal takes place on the third Saturday of the month at 10:00 AM Pacific time.

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This week, we talk with Arianna Bradford, an ADHD productivity coach, about the best ways for adults with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder to boost productivity in their daily lives. We cover a range of topics, from common symptoms of ADHD and organizational strategies to productivity hacks and the Pomodoro technique. Arianna shares her expertise on how to set specific goals and prioritize tasks, as well as how to use the right tools and resources to get the most out of your work mode.

We also discuss the importance of taking breaks and transitioning between tasks, as well as how to manage ADHD symptoms in the workplace or in your personal life. Whether you're a project manager, creative professional, or simply looking to be more productive, this episode has something for everyone. So grab a cup of coffee, find a quiet spot, and join us as we explore the world of ADHD productivity with Arianna Bradford.

In this episode * Arianna Bradford, an ADHD productivity coach, shares her tips for building productivity processes that work for neurodivergent brains. * Productivity for people with ADHD is not an arbitrary number or percentage, and should be set by the individual in regards to upcoming external deadlines. * Keeping all tasks and deadlines in one central place is important for feeling in control, and regularly reevaluating task priorities is crucial. * The ICNU method (Interest, Challenge, Novelty, Urgency) can help hack an ADHD brain and increase productivity, as can adding challenge and urgency, trying new approaches, and allowing for downtime. * Mind shifts and meditation can reduce stress and increase mindfulness, while tracking patterns and cycles can help with planning and prioritizing tasks. * Redefining productivity as satisfaction, not perfection, and taking breaks for self-care are essential for preventing burnout. * Favorite productivity tools include Amazing Marvin, Motion, The Bright App, Tusk, ClickUp, Headspace, and simplemind pro. * Using white, brown, or pink noise, binaural beats, and low-fi beats can help with focus, and starting new routines gradually can avoid overwhelming the brain. * Multitasking can be beneficial for ADHD brains, and it's important to remember that worth is not determined by external measures of productivity or success. * Understanding monthly and yearly cycles, as well as circadian rhythms, can aid in productivity and introspection.

Building your skills * Organizational skills, goal setting, and breaking tasks into smaller chunks of time can also be helpful. * It's important to prioritize mental health and self-care in both personal and professional lives. * There is no one "best way" to be productive, and different options may work for different tasks or individuals. * ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder, and those with ADHD may experience executive dysfunction and shorter attention spans. * Pomodoro cycles, mind maps, and analog clocks can aid in productivity, and to-do list apps and project managers can help keep track of tasks. * The ADHD community and employee resource groups can provide support and resources for productivity and navigating the work environment. * Taking short breaks and allowing for transition time can also improve productivity and reduce anxiety. * Mental health professionals, family members, and team members can also be valuable resources in building productive habits. * Social media and mobile devices can be both helpful and distracting, and it's important to set boundaries and prioritize privacy. * TikTok users and creative people may have an uncanny ability to focus on certain tasks, but may struggle with others. * The most important tasks should be at the top of your to-do list, and it's okay to leave some tasks for the next time or for the last minute. * Hard work and effort are important, but so is recognizing and accepting limitations.

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Never Leave the Playground In this episode, where we delve into the importance of self-care in our daily lives. Whether it's through mindfulness practices, physical exercise, or leisure time activities, taking care of our emotional and physical health is crucial for a better quality of life. From diaphragmatic breathing to bike rides, we explore different self-care practices that can help us manage daily stressors and negative emotions without relying on prescription medication. We also discuss how self-care can benefit young people, families, and individuals with mental illnesses. Join us as we share new ideas and small steps towards creating our own self-care regimens and personal commitments. From transition rituals to champions of the shengha, we explore the full range of emotions and the importance of social interaction and sense of independence in our self-care plan. So, grab your lunch break or end of the day, and tune in to learn how self-care can positively impact our physical and emotional well-being in the long term.

In this discussion, Rukshana shares insights and practical tips on how to maintain a playful and curious mindset throughout your life. Drawing on her own experiences, Rukshana shows that play is not just for kids – it's a vital tool for personal growth, creativity, and overall well-being.

Staying In Touch with Playfulness Triem argues that many of us lose touch with our playful side as we grow older, getting bogged down in the demands of work, family, and daily routines. But she shows that playfulness is not just a frivolous indulgence – it's a fundamental human need that can help us stay curious, flexible, and resilient in the face of challenges.

Through engaging stories and exploration, Triem encourages her audience to rediscover their inner child and embrace a spirit of play in all areas of their lives. Whether it's trying new activities, engaging in creative pursuits, or simply finding joy in everyday moments, Triem shows that playfulness is the key to unlocking our full potential as human beings.

Never Leave the Playground is a powerful and uplifting discussion that will leave you feeling inspired, motivated, and eager to incorporate more play into your daily routine. Whether you're looking to boost your creativity, improve your relationships, or simply have more fun in life, this talk is sure to provide you with valuable insights and practical strategies for cultivating a playful and joyful existence. You can find the full community discussion in the Embracing Intensity Membership.

About Rukshana Rukshana has a huge Hunger to serve, to bring deep connection to transformation women all around the world. Rukshana Hafez Triem is an Author, inspirational Speaker, and CEO of a Women's Lifestyle Coaching LLC. Her journey started in Zambia living in a Refugee camp. Due to Trauma and overcoming her sexual abuse past, she was able to create a comfortable lifestyle that supports her family. She shares her story with others as she travels around the world, doing public speaking, workshops and Retreat and her New Mission Building schools in Africa, in Mozambique, Malawi and Zambia.

In this episode: * Rukshana Triem, a former refugee, discovered the benefits of play and exercise through her Pacific Northwest Women's Hiking Group, emphasizing the importance of self-care activities for emotional health and balance in daily life. * Playfulness and nature are connected for Rukshana, who suggests small steps like a mindful walk or bike ride as part of a self-care regimen to reduce daily stressors and promote positive changes in brain function and heart rate variability. * Rukshana's book, Never Leave the Playground, encourages readers to create their own self-care plan based on their life experiences and personal commitment to self-love, vulnerability, and privacy policy. * Self-care activities can also benefit family life, including young children who can develop social skills and transition rituals through play and new tasks, such as video games or self-regulation strategies, that promote a sense of play for the whole family. * Incorporating play into our lives can be a healthy self-care practice for long-term health and managing daily stressors. * Taking small steps towards our own goals, such as scheduling play during lunch breaks, can be a great way to build healthy habits. * Different people may find play in different activities, and exploring what play means to us individually can be a new skill to develop. * Encouraging family members and friends to prioritize play and building a culture of play can also be a form of self-care and a healthy habit. * Building a culture of play is necessary for our soul and can give permission to others to prioritize play as well. * There are resources available to dive deeper into the topic of play, including call recordings and podcasts. * The speakers mentioned in the podcast, Gary Ware and Jeff Harry, have platforms focused on play and are great resources.

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Seeing Life Differently In this episode, Zaakirah Muhammad joins us to discuss mindfulness, gratitude and how these practices can help to craft a more meaningful life in her talk on Seeing Life Through a Different Lens: Mindfulness and Gratitude as a Creative. She talks about how one can use visualizing, setting goals and forming a strong support system to help achieve their dreams. Zaakirah also shares some of her personal stories and how she has worked to create meaningful relationships and find her true self.

In addition, she talks about the role of culture and how one can use their cultural values and traditions to drive their motivation and set SMART goals that are qualitative and quantitative. Ultimately, this podcast episode encourages listeners to take small steps, stay mindful of their wants and needs, and form relationships with both family, friends and even strangers, to ultimately achieve a life of purpose and passion. By engaging in the practices of mindfulness and gratitude, one can find a clearer understanding of their purpose and lead them each step of the way to a happier, healthier, and more meaningful life.

About Zaakirah Zaakirah has more than 10 years of professional photography and branding experience. She empowers people to step outside of their comfort zone through her gift of visual storytelling. Zaakirah is also the CEO and founder of Phocused Media Group which empowers and supports the growth of minority-owned businesses. She has overcome many challenges, including cancer, and autoimmune disease to establish herself as an innovative voice in the marketing industry. Zaakirah is the author of Seeing Life Through a Different Lens: A Survivor’s Memoir on Overcoming Adversity with Resilience. She also hosts the podcast called See Life Different.

Goal Setting Planner and Guide The Goal Setting Planner Tools and Setting Purposeful Goals Quick Guide are perfect for anyone who wants to take their personal and professional lives to the next level. Our user-friendly resources provide step-by-step guidance on how to set effective SMART goals, create tangible action plans, and stay motivated and focused on your pursuits. With tailored activities, create achievable objectives, envision purpose, and explore core values for an enriching life experience. Find purpose and vision, set specific, achievable goals, and break them down into manageable steps for an effective plan towards success. Reach your aspirations, form strong relationships, and make time for yourself for a happy and meaningful life.

Meaningful Life Goals Zaakirah’s encourages listeners to create and achieve their own personal or professional goals within their own unique way. By utilizing her advice and tools, such as setting specific goals, creating tangible action plans, ensuring SMART goals, visualizing, and finding motivation in family, friends and spiritual values, they can live a more meaningful, prosperous and satisfying life. Taking the first step towards one’s goal is the most crucial part, and with effort and dedication, they can one day reach the finish line.

In this episode: * Zaakirah is an Arabic name for the Hereafter, which is fitting for someone who survived retinoblastoma, a childhood eye cancer, detected by the bright light of a photograph. * Zaakirah is also living with PTSD and an autoimmune condition, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, and has pursued both entrepreneurship and part-time work with a positive impact. * Zaakirah focuses on increasing awareness of ethnicities, religious faiths, geniuses, and disabilities, in order to create equitable education opportunities and personal growth. * Establishing a positive mindset as soon as you wake up through free form journaling and speaking into future tense. * Fueling your body with proper nutrition, e.g. fiber-rich meals and lots of water. * Utilizing technology to time block specific tasks and set reminders. * Remaining mindful and shifting negativity by listening to a focus-specific playlist. * Journaling and goal setting as powerful tools for personal development and finding your life purpose.

Prioritizing Self-Care * Taking time for self-care, such as music, meditation, nutrition, exercise, and art can help support and remind people of their sense of purpose. * Healthy eating habits help provide nurturance and energy for the day and improve physical health. * Affirmations are personal mantras that can be uplifting and empowering when spoken to oneself. * Zaakirah encourages listeners to reflect on their goals and purposes for their actions towards a fulfilling life. * Sign up for her email list for vision-boarding tips and more. * Utilizing the smart method (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely) for visualizing yourself and your meaningful goals. * Zaakirah has a podcast with almost 100 episodes with topics ranging from education and advocacy around BIPOC communities to creative workspaces and morning routines. * She is planning an in-person event called "See Life Different" to help participants explore purpose-building and develop skills for working in their businesses. * Visualizing the future helps participants recognize and seize opportunities, and it is also important to be conscious of signs of burnout and know when to say no.

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Overcome Burnout Welcome to From Burnout to Brilliance, a talk that explores the best ways to manage work-related stress and overcome burnout. In this episode, we have the privilege of speaking with Dr. Zarya Rubin, a Harvard trained MD turned functional medicine health coach, who will be sharing her insights and expertise on this important topic. With the World Health Organization recognizing job burnout as a medical diagnosis, it's more important than ever to pay attention to the signs of burnout, particularly for those in stressful jobs such as health care workers and first responders. With long hours, heavy workloads, unreasonable time pressures, and a lack of self-care, it's not surprising that many people experience burnout. But it's not just work-related stress that can contribute to feelings of burnout. The household chores, long shifts, and a lack of much free time can also play a role.

How to Deal With Burnout We will take a closer look at the effects of burnout, including physical symptoms, mental exhaustion, and emotional exhaustion. We will also discuss the early signs of burnout and what you can do if you feel like you're experiencing burnout. From the importance of self-care habits, such as a healthy diet, spending time with family members, and deep breathing, to seeking professional help, Dr. Rubin will provide guidance on how to address burnout and begin the recovery process.

So, if you're feeling overwhelmed by work stress, or if you're just curious about the topic, be sure to tune in. The good news is, it's never too late to take the first step towards improving your mental and emotional health. Whether you're dealing with burnout for the first time or have been struggling for a long time, this podcast will provide you with the tools and insights you need to feel better and regain your quality of life.

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In this episode: * Dr. Zarya Rubin introduces herself as a physician, functional medicine coach, and speaker * Healing from burnout is crucial so people can share their gifts with the world * Dr. Zarya shares her personal experience with burnout and the symptoms she experienced, such as exhaustion, anxiety, panic attacks, and irritability * Burnout is more than just a stressful job, it can be caused by a lack of control and tasks that compete with one's sense of self, as well as issues with the company, goals, supervisors, or managers * Compassion fatigue and its relationship to burnout * The difference between stress and burnout * Burnout is a state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion brought on by prolonged or repeated stress and can lead to chronic health concerns * Personal factors, environmental factors, and work-related factors can all contribute to burnout * Neurodivergent burnout and the impact of masking and executive dysfunction * The prevalence of burnout during and after the pandemic * Burnout is not the fault of individuals and steps can be taken to prevent and manage it, such as improving sleep and food, avoiding going from one high stress job to another, setting boundaries, reaching out for help, building resilience, and seeking help from a qualified professional * Zarya discusses the reasons why people avoid seeking help and the high rate of physician and educator burnout * Final thoughts from Zarya, "(Life's) not a dress rehearsal, it's the real deal."

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Exploring Gifted Kid Burnout Gifted kid burnout affects many smart kids and former gifted students who were once in gifted programs. As young adults, they often share a common theme of feeling burnt out and struggling with unrealistic expectations. The pressure to always achieve gold star grades and be at the top of the class can be overwhelming.

Gifted programs, often found in grade schools and even at the national level, focus on high achievement and a fixed trait of being "gifted." But what happens when these young adults, who were once in gifted classes and AP classes, are faced with the reality of adult life and the expectations of society? They may struggle with a lack of motivation and a harmful perfectionism that can lead to chronic stress.

This phenomenon, known as "gifted kid burnout," was first identified by Professor Carol Dweck, author of "Mindsets," and has been studied by the National Association for Gifted Children. It is a result of the fixed trait mindset that is often placed on gifted children, believing that their intelligence and abilities are innate and cannot be improved upon. This belief leads to unrealistic expectations and a lack of emphasis on the development of a growth mindset and good study habits.

Manifestation of Gifted Kid Burnout This burnout can manifest in a variety of ways, such as a lack of motivation, harmful perfectionism, and chronic stress. For twice exceptional adults, who also have a neurodivergent condition, the experience can be even more challenging as they may have unique sources of stress in their daily lives and emotional needs.

School systems and the current educational environment may contribute to this issue. Gifted education programs and advanced classes may not always take into account the social-emotional needs and unique sources of stress for these students. This can lead to lack of study habits and a type of mindset that is not sustainable in the long-term, resulting in burnout.

About Cate Our guest today is Cate Osburn, also known as Catieosaurus on social media. She is an ADHD educator, a certified sex educator, and a disability advocate. Cate will share her personal experience with burnout as a twice exceptional adult and discuss her journey to finding balance and harmony in her passions and interests. Cate will also talk about how her experience in a gifted program, advanced classes, and the pressure to achieve good results in school led to unhealthy coping mechanisms and a lack of motivation in her daily life. We hope that her story will be a first step in understanding the experience of gifted kid burnout and the unique challenges faced by twice exceptional adults.

In this episode: * Cate Osborne, also known as Catieosaurus, is an ADHD educator and advocate, as well as a disability advocate who focuses on the connection between neurodiversity and sex and intimacy in relationships. * Cate splits her time evenly between her interests in ADHD and inclusivity in tabletop role-playing games like Dungeons and Dragons, making a career out of connecting seemingly unrelated things that overlap or are related. * Cate's personal brand of intensity results in burnout and struggles with balancing intensity of passion as a full-time content creator discussing serious topics like mental health, sex, and intimacy. * Cate's struggle with intensity is heightened as a neurodivergent person with ADHD and recently diagnosed with autism, and Difficulty in achieving balance is a myth, instead it's about finding harmony. * Cate's intensity in childhood was characterized by intense curiosity and ADHD contributed to an interest in trying new things and having different hobbies. Cate's hobbies can be valuable in learning and leading to change in one's life. * Cate started talking about the experience of being a gifted kid who is now burned out because of the pressure to always be the best. * Aurora and Cate discuss how giftedness is often associated with being successful, but it can also result in burnout. * Cate struggled with mixed messages about her self-worth and value as a gifted student growing up, and placed a lot of her self-worth in her academic success and being involved in activities and clubs. * Cate's tendencies switched over to unhealthy coping mechanisms like people pleasing and perfectionism once she left school and had to start "living a life."

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The importance of neurodivergent community Neurodivergent individuals are those who think, process information, and experience the world in ways that differ from the neurotypical (i.e., not neurodivergent) population. The neurodiversity movement advocates for the recognition and celebration of neurodiversity as a natural and valuable form of human diversity, similar to cultural, racial, or gender diversity. Neurodivergence is an important facet of the human race. It seeks to create a more inclusive and accepting society for neurodivergent people. Finding neurodivergent community can play a crucial role in connecting with other like-minded folks.

There are many different ways to be neurodivergent, and neurodivergent people may have unique ways of perceiving, learning, communicating, and interacting with the world. Neurodivergence can affect various brain functions such as attention, memory, and executive function, and can manifest in neurodevelopmental conditions such as ADHD, dyslexia, autism, and more. These neurodevelopmental differences can also provide unique perspectives that can lead to creative problem-solving.

Dominant societal standards have traditionally prioritized neurotypical values and perceptions, which can often leave out the rich perspectives of what neurodivergent people experience. The diversity of human brains and the ways in which they function can lead to new ideas and perspectives that can benefit society as a whole. By fostering an environment that is inclusive and accepting of neurodiversity, we can tap into the unique abilities and potential of neurodivergent people and create a more diverse and innovative society.

Building a solid neurodiversity network can help others connect over their common traits, and explore their own style of neurocognitive functioning.

Finding neurodivergent community The Embracing Intensity Community is a supportive online space for gifted, creative, and neurodivergent individuals. It is a place where members can connect with others who share similar experiences and challenges, and find support and understanding. The community is designed to provide a safe and welcoming environment where members can discuss their unique perspectives, share their insights and skills, and explore their full potential. The goal of the Embracing Intensity Community is to empower gifted, creative, and neurodivergent individuals to embrace their intensity and to live fulfilling and meaningful lives.

Other neurodivergent community resources There are a number of other ways that neurodivergent adults can find and connect with their neurodivergent community. Some options include:

1. Online communities and forums: There are many online groups and forums specifically for neurodivergent people, where individuals can connect with others who share common experiences and challenges.
2. Local support groups: Many cities and towns have support groups for neurodivergent people and their families. These groups can provide a sense of belonging, as well as practical advice and resources for navigating daily life as a neurodivergent person.
3. Neurodiversity-focused events: There are often events and conferences focused on neurodiversity and the neurodiversity movement, where neurodivergent individuals can meet and connect with others.
4. Professional organizations: There are professional organizations that advocate for and support neurodivergent individuals, such as CHADD, the Neurodiversity Project and the Dyslexia Foundation. You can also find local resources in many areas.
5. College campuses: Colleges and Universities often have groups not only for neurodivergent students, but events for the larger community surrounding the school.

By finding and connecting with other neurodivergent people, individuals can find support, validation, and a sense of belonging. Neurodivergent people may also be able to share their experiences and offer insights and advice to others. Additionally, the neurodiversity movement promotes greater understanding and acceptance of neurodivergent people within society, which can help create a more inclusive and equitable world for all.

Neurodiversity advocates Neurodiversity advocates play an important role in promoting the acceptance and celebration of neurodevelopment differences and the unique ways in which people experience and perceive the world. They often share their personal experiences as neurodivergent individuals and work to educate others about the concept of neurodiversity. They may also work to highlight the strengths and abilities of neurodiverse people, as well as the challenges they face. By sharing stories and experiences, neurodiversity advocates can help to build understanding and acceptance of neurodivergent individuals within society.

The neurodiversity movement is often seen as a social justice movement, as it seeks to create a more inclusive and equitable society for neurodivergent people. Neurodiversity advocates work to raise awareness about the infinite variation in the way people’s brains function and the diverse ways in which people experience the world.

One of the key roles of neurodiversity advocates is to connect neurodivergent individuals with the various neurodiversity resources that are available. This may include information about support groups, educational resources, and professional organizations that can help neurodiverse individuals navigate their daily lives and achieve their goals. In addition to advocating for neurodiversity within society, neurodiversity advocates may also work to build strong and supportive social relationships within the neurodivergent community. By connecting with others who share common experiences, neurodivergent individuals can find support, validation, and a sense of belonging.

Overall, the role of neurodiversity advocates is to promote understanding, acceptance, and celebration of the unique ways in which people’s brains function and the diverse ways in which people experience the world. By doing so, they help to create a more inclusive and equitable society for all.

About Marc Marc Almodovar is a neurodiversity advocate, and the cofounder of the ADHD Men’s Support Group, a group specifically for men who have been diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Marc founded the group after his own personal experience with ADHD led him to feel isolated and misunderstood. He saw a need for a safe space where men with ADHD could connect with others who shared common experiences and challenges.

Through the ADHD Men’s Support Group, Marc aims to provide a sense of belonging and support for men with ADHD. He believes that by sharing stories and experiences, men with ADHD can find validation and understanding, and build strong and supportive relationships. Marc also hopes to raise awareness about the unique ways in which people’s brains function and the diverse ways in which people experience the world, as part of the larger neurodiversity movement.

Marc recognizes that mental illness can be stigmatized within society, and he hopes that the ADHD Men’s Support Group can be a place where men with ADHD can feel safe and supported, regardless of their unique ways of thinking and experiencing the world. He believes that by fostering a sense of belonging and acceptance within the group, men with ADHD can work together to advocate for neurodiversity awareness and acceptance within society as a whole. He strikes a unique balance between positive feel-good stories and authenticity, without resorting to toxic positivity.

ADHD Men’s Support Group The ADHD Men’s support group is a group specifically for men who have been diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). The group provides a space for men with ADHD to connect with others who share common experiences and challenges.

One of the main goals of the ADHD Men’s support group is to provide a sense of belonging and support for men with ADHD. Many men with ADHD may feel isolated or misunderstood due to the unique way in which their brains function and the neurodevelopment differences they experience. The ADHD Men’s support group can provide a safe and supportive environment where men can share their experiences and find validation and understanding.

In addition to providing support and a sense of belonging, an ADHD Men’s support group can also serve as a resource for men with ADHD. Group members may share information about treatment options, coping strategies, and other resources that can help men with ADHD navigate their daily lives. The ADHD Men’s support group can also be a place for men with ADHD to connect with others who share common interests and goals. Through group discussions and social interactions, men with ADHD can build strong and supportive relationships and work together to advocate for neurodiversity awareness and acceptance.

Overall, the ADHD Men’s support group can be a valuable resource for men with ADHD, providing support, validation, and a sense of belonging, as well as an opportunity to connect with others who share common experiences and goals. It can also be a place for men with ADHD to work towards social change and advocate for neurodiversity acceptance within society.

In this episode: * Marc Almodovar is a coach, speaker, and has ADHD * He is passionate about community building and helping men with ADHD feel seen * Marc started an online support group for men with ADHD and it has grown into a nonprofit organization * The organization is the largest online community for men with ADHD * It’s goal is to educate, empower, and inspire men with ADHD through community * Marc enjoys chatting with other people with ADHD * He struggled with understanding and managing his ADHD and had low self-confidence as a result * Cultural factors, including a lack of awareness, education and understanding about ADHD, affected Marc’s ability to express himself and understand his own brain * Marc did not have behavioral or impulsive issues, but he was often “toned out” or distracted * He learned to tone himself down by learning to manage his time and energy, setting boundaries, and practicing self-care * Marc has also learned to embrace his intensity and use it to his advantage by finding ways to channel it into his work and passions * He has found that learning to manage his intensity has helped him to be more present and engaged in his relationships and activities

Creating neurodivergent community: * Marc uses his intensity to create a space for others to be themselves and feel seen * His personal brand is built on transparency and listening to others * Marc has harnessed the power of his intensity by being true to himself and embracing his strengths * He has found that by putting himself in spaces where he can be himself, he is able to use his speaking and active listening skills to connect with others and make a positive impact. * Marc uses affirmations to hype himself up and boost his confidence before speaking events * He helps others use their fire by sharing his own experiences and learning openly and transparently * Marc believes that honesty and transparency are important and encourages others to embrace their intensity and not worry about pleasing everyone * Marc emphasizes the importance of self-care and setting boundaries to manage intensity * He advises others to embrace their passions and find ways to channel their intensity into their work and hobbies * Marc encourages others to be kind to themselves and remember that it’s okay to not have everything figured out

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As neurodivergent creatives, we often find ourselves overwhelmed with too much stuff both in our environment and in our minds. We may be overrun with office supplies, craft supplies, and/or miscellaneous things that support our hyperfixations or latest hyperfocus. The ADHD brain is especially prone to mental clutter, and when our environment is a mess it's even harder to quiet our thoughts. On our last guest call, Nadja Carghetti shared how you can use Marie Kondo's approach to tidy your brain!

Many people think you are either tidy or untidy, but the good news is that tidying is something you can learn! In Marie Kondo’s book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, she shares how we can systematically tidy our space by getting rid of things that don't spark joy. Marie Kondo’s method of tidying can be applied to your mind as well as your stuff and help prioritize the things we spend our mental energy on.

On this episode of Embracing Intensity, we share our talk with Nadja Carghetti, former tidying coach and host of the Unleash Monday Podcast, on Tidying Up Your Brain, Marie Kondo Style!

In this episode: * Why people’s homes reflect their life. * Nadja's experience of being a multipotentialite and interested in many things. * How growing up messy in her tidy parents’ house led her to believe you were either tidy or untidy. * It took a long time to realize that tidying was something you could learn. * The systematic decluttering process that can help you clear your space and mind. * How learning the KonMari tidying method led to diving deeper into what brought her joy! * Finding yourself through the process of tidying. * Why tidying is considered a festival rather than a party. * The 5 categories of things and the best order to sort them. * Sorting through information overload to find the important bits.

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Building Self-Advocacy This week on Embracing Intensity, we share our talk with Dr. Matt Zakreski on self-advocacy skills. Self-advocacy is an important skill that can help you take charge of your own life and move toward greater freedom, fulfillment, and happiness. In this episode, we’ll explore the concept of self-advocacy and how it can help us feel more empowered in our own daily life.

The goal of self-advocacy is to actively advocate on your own behalf to get your needs met. To be a strong self-advocate, you have to have a clear understanding of your own needs. This is important because it will determine your goals and how you will achieve them. If you have a goal in mind, you need to have a plan to get there.

The first step to positive change is to know what you are good at and what you are not good at. Explore how you can use your strengths to your advantage, and use your weaknesses as opportunities for growth.

When you’re trying to make a change, bringing in allies is powerful because it can give you insight into the world that you don’t have. They can help you see things that you wouldn’t have thought about. Gifted and neurodivergent folks often feel like they have to go it alone in their adult life. Self advocates use their support system such as colleagues, service providers, family members, or peer support. They aren’t afraid to ask for help!

Setting the Stage! It is very important to set the stage and prepare yourself for the conversation ahead of time so that you can be as successful as possible. The best way to do that is to set aside time to prepare and to have all of your notes and your ideas and your facts ready. This way you will be able to focus and be more effective during the conversation.

Also, consider doing it at a time and in a place where you can expect to have success. Set up a good place and time to talk about your needs, but give enough context of what you’d like to discuss so the other person doesn’t assume the worst.

Before we start with self-advocacy, we also need to consider the person we are advocating to and understand that their strengths and challenges might not be the same as ours. We need to be specific and tangible and help them take ownership and buy into the solution. By taking on a leadership role in the conversation we can help guide its direction.

In order to give yourself the best chance possible to succeed, you have to be prepared to be flexible and let go of rigid expectations. If you are getting resistance from your boss or others, it’s a good idea to ask yourself, what do I need to do to get to the thing I want? Let them play a meaningful role in shaping what you need to do next. What new things can you try to improve the lives of people you’re working with? What employment opportunities might forward your career?

Supporting Long Term Success It is also helpful to consider the benefits to everyone and make it a win-win. Explore how you both get the most out of the situation, help build and strengthen relationships and improve the lives of others. Getting what you want in the moment may not pay off in the long run if it means burning a bridge. Communicating clearly and assertively can help get our own needs met without compromising the needs of others.

It’s important to be specific with your plan for following up or life might get in the way. Self-Advocacy is a lifelong process of constantly setting and re-setting boundaries. This process helps you to move forward in a positive way, towards being more successful as a self-advocate.

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 In this episode * Good self-advocates get super clear on what they need.

• Tips for playing to your strengths, using your weaknesses as opportunities for growth, and taking steps to overcome them.
• Exploring your resources, connecting with allies, and recognizing the kind of help that’s available.
• The importance of timing and coming prepared to set yourself up for success.
• Setting clear goals to improve our own lives and the lives of others.
• Developing meta-communication and self-determination skills.
• How flexibility can help us get what we need in the long run.
• Meeting in the middle to set up a win-win solution.
• Getting buy-in and setting everyone up for success.
• Communicating assertively instead of passively or aggressively.
• The importance of specific, tangible, and direct communication.
• Setting a clear plan to follow up for success.

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I am so thrilled to get to share Dr. Kimberly Douglass’ talk on Decolonizing Neurodivergence!

From Violence to Love Do you ever wonder why we get into loops on social media platforms when we talk about neurodivergence? We have convinced ourselves this conversation is just about validating each other and understanding the traits of various conditions. The very definition of what it means to be neurodivergent is rooted in colonialist thinking and behavior.
It’s clear to me: we don’t want to talk about the hard changes we have to make to ourselves, to our self-image; the hard changes we should demand from our society.

We keep the conversation at the level of defining a problem; defining ourselves as the problem. We are willing to be the problem as long as we don’t have to challenge ourselves, other people, our families, our employers, our communities, our worlds.

You are not a problem!!! Write this down: YOU ARE THE WAY!!! But, you know we talk about neurodivergence in ways that allow the powerful to hold on to their power. We are more comfortable with this than risking being disliked, having things taken from us or feeling powerful inside our own skin. Even the word power makes us uncomfortable. These are the ways we have been taught. This is colonization.Regardless of what you have been taught, YOU are the way to transformation for yourself and for others. With guidance on how to think about neurodivergence, we can help see yourself just as you are!

YOU are the way to this new understanding…. for yourself, for your team, for your community. Let’s discuss here on my weekly blog: bit.ly/decolonizingndblog.

 **About Kimberly:** Dr Kimberly Douglass is the full-time owner of Kimberly Douglass, PhD, LLC. Dr Douglass and her team are designing a world in which neurodivergent people feel they belong. The team fuses disability advocacy with design thinking. Douglass’ team designs digital and paper content, such as courses, ebooks, journals, workbooks and the Neurodivergently Thinking cards. Also, the team offers premium 1 to 1 coaching services.

Dr Douglass’ signature product is her Decolonizing Neurodivergence course.

Dr Douglass and her team design tools that validate the neurodivergent experience. The team’s content and services challenge everyday processes that marginalize and shame neurodivergent people. Dr Douglass became a full-time business owner after working as staff, peer-reviewed researcher, faculty and administrator in higher education for over 17 years. She began the advocacy work over 12 years ago, when she became the chief advocate for her Son who is neurodivergent. She has since gotten more in touch with her own neurodivergence. Dr Douglass is married to Dean Tate and lives in Tennessee. Douglasskimberlylynn@gmail.com

In this episode, Kimberly Shares: * Her thoughts on growing up neurodivergent and breaking from the system. * Moving from seeking validation to examining systems. * Some common threads of neurodivergence. * How we are living in a culture of consumption. * Why no one wins under the current capitalist paradigm. * Creating an agenda to make change. * Why neurodivergence often comes with trauma. * Examining how do we know what we think we know? * The focus on compliance in our schools. * Why we accept less, and deserve ease & flow. * What neurodivergence Brings to the table. * Supporting each other & building relationships. * Examining our own systems we live in. * Moving away from defensiveness & denial to make positive change. * The elements of white supremacy culture. * How you can support Kimberly’s work!

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Today’s episode is a recording of our talk with Leela Sinha on the intersection of neurodivergence and gender. This is definitely not an “inside-the-box” topic. You can find the full discussion in the Embracing Intensity community at community@embracingintensity.com.

Show Highlights:

• The overlap between autism and gender diversity
• How neurodivergence is defined as a very broad umbrella term for the different ways that people’s brains function
• Why the definition of queerness has changed over time but is still used as an umbrella term
• The overlap between queerness and neurodivergence
• How growing up with a different sense of known reality will cause attitudes and moves of self-protection
• How deconstruction occurs in society and feels “right” to stigmatized people
• Why identifying as non-binary or trans has become trendy as people have become more aware of their options for exploration
• Challenges in the non-binary gender spaces because of bias even in inclusion views
• How a fully nourishing environment helps neurodivergent kids understand their options and feel safe to express themselves
• How the progression occurs in media representation for queer representation and non-binary representation
• How pathologizing neurodivergence or queerness can affect a person’s ability to access resources and care
• Why accessibility is often not accounted for in the help and support spaces

Resources:

Connect with our community:

community@embracingintensity.com

Connect with Leela Sinha: Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, and www.leelasinha.com

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We all have our “beyond our wildest imagination” dreams that we never realistically hope to achieve. This is not true for today’s guest. She truly is living her dream in a place she never thought possible, and she’s teaching others to reach for the unimaginable also. Join us to learn more!

Sadie Smiley created Passive Income Pathways, where she gives expert advice about online businesses and how passive income can help achieve your wildest goals. She pushes people to learn how to make full-time money with part-time work, teaching them to “create, sell, kick ass, and repeat.”

Show Highlights:

• Why Sadie is intensely passionate about helping people make money beyond their wildest dreams
• The key to Sadie’s success: networking with others with different superpowers as a trade-off for the things she doesn’t love to do
• How Sadie’s personal brand of intensity in being “too much” means that she submerges herself 100% into whatever she does
• Why a time audit color code can be a game-changer for entrepreneurs
• How to charge your “happy price” and feel good about it
• How Sadie, with ADHD and autism, was a gifted student with good grades who had problems following rules
• How Sadie helps clients make money, no matter what barriers they have
• How Sadie learned where she was “masking” herself and learned to feel loved, cared for, and respected through the love of her husband
• How Sadie’s intensity has felt out of control many times because of her neurodiversity and personality issues, but she has learned to “grow through” the intensity
• How Sadie uses her fire for good in channeling her intensity into coaching and helping others
• How Sadie feels safe in her life now and doesn’t worry about doing things wrong “according to the experts”
• Why showing up consistently for her family, clients, and readers has helped Sadie manifest everything she has achieved
• How to focus on something small that is within your control when you feel the “shame spiral”
• Why Sadie loves helping others identify their passions and interests to give them what they need
• Sadie’s parting advice: “Work hard on showing up authentically and with consistency. Do something every day to move your business forward, and success will be the only option. Picture your wildest, craziest dream–and then work backward from it to show up every day to make it happen.”

Resources:

Connect with Sadie at www.sadiesmiley.com or here to learn about the Passive Income Pathways membership program.

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Today’s episode is a recording from last fall about time management from a neurodivergent perspective. We are joined on the guest call by Emily Roach-Griffin, who is ADHD and gifted, and her insights resonate soundly with many of us. She is a business coach and speaker at BizBFF who loves helping business owners and those with an entrepreneurial spirit to build businesses and lives they love. Join us to hear Emily’s nuggets of wisdom about practical time management strategies!

Show Highlights:

• Journaling prompts about what’s most difficult about time management
• Why time management should be thought of as “task management”
• Why we need to unravel and untether ourselves from much of our traditional thinking about productivity and self-worth
• The importance of a toolbox of strategies, realizing that different tools may be effective on different days:
• • Tools to help with “time blindness” and time awareness, like a timer and to-do list
  • Tools to help with being on time, like an app
  • Tools to help with tasks, like breaking large tasks into “baby tasks”
  • Tools to help prioritize tasks, like containers
• How Emily has “game-ified” her household tasks to change her perspective
• Why time management is NOT about getting more done in less time
• How to use a check-in system with your energy level to determine what is possible
• Why avoiding certain tasks might be our attempts to conceal our pain

Resources:

Connect with Emily: Biz BFF and Facebook

Why Bother: Discover the Desire for What’s Next by Jennifer Louden

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Today’s show carries a timely message for those of us who returned to work or school after the anxiety-ridden shutdown of the pandemic. As we try to move forward, many of us still face anxiety and burnout. My guest’s message of tapping into your intuition and doing things outside the box is relevant to almost everyone. Join us to learn more!

Cam Werley-Gonzales is an intuitive, living visionary, gifted embodiment expert, and intuitive unschooling catalyst. She is the owner of the Cambria Institute, a company that celebrates learning and living fully outside the proverbial education “box.” With over 25 years as an expert educator, it is Cam’s deepest conviction that while learners can engage with some success in typical schools, they are optimally served by alternate learning pathways, most notably “unschooling.” The Cambria Institute supports gifted families to embody their giftedness in all areas of life. The truth is that we get to learn, friend, work, love, parent, hobby, and enjoy all the things that come along with this intense and massively phenomenal gifted life with ease and alignment, uniquely in our own way.

Show Highlights:

• Why Cam is intensely passionate about unschooling and her family’s unconventional life of travel and location independence as digital nomads
• How Cam opened an alternative-style brick and mortar school in Pasadena in 2019–right before the pandemic chaos began
• Why the Cambria Curated Community (CCC) was formed as a community of unschooling families
• How Cam’s personal brand of intensity means big feelings and big emotions–all the time
• How Cam’s intensity affected her in childhood with the need to hide her true self and be a people-pleaser in her family
• How Cam learned “to play the school game” really well as a kid but was traumatized, in part because of Pragmatic Language Impairment
• Differences in Pragmatic Language Impairment (PLI) and autism
• How Cam noticed communication differences the most in relationship with her spouse, who comes from a different cultural background
• How Cam learned to tone down and tune herself out in her professional career as a teacher and just follow what she was told to do
• How Cam’s intensity got out of control when she was homeschooling her oldest son
• How Cam uses her fire for good to help families learn unschooling and live intuitively
• How unschooling is defined: “Trusting that each person will intuitively be drawn to learn all the things they need to learn in their lifetime to tap into who they are as individuals so that their learning caters directly to them. The focus is on self-direction in learning.”
• How our intuition relates to our authenticity as a unique person and promotes emotional intelligence
• How Cam harnesses the power of her intensity by tuning into her happiness and joy with her life, family, and work
• Why Cam adopted the personal habit of giving herself the gift of “slow mornings”
• How Cam helps others use their own fire by teaching people to tap into their true intuition and authenticity

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Today’s episode is the Embracing Intensity Community Call with guest speaker Alexandra Loves. The topic is Drama vs. Passion, which is highly relevant to intense people. I’m excited to share this with you! You can find the full discussion at www.community.embracingintensity.com.

As I’m working hard to finish out this school year, I am busy behind the scenes with some great projects planned for this coming summer and fall, and I’ll be sharing more about those later. Enjoy the call with Alexandra!

Show Highlights:

• How Alexandra defines the concept of drama vs. passion: “Passion is an intense desire or emotion sourced from within from a loving place. Drama is a chaotic, ungrounded emotional desire that comes from a place of fear and is sourced from ‘out there’.”
• A personal example of a conversation Alexandra had recently with someone about their passion–but it felt manipulative
• What it feels like when someone says, “You are being dramatic.”
• How Alexandra has learned to look for clarity and mutual trust in relationships
• Why your passions are worth protecting with high standards and boundaries
• How to deal with intense emotions and discern between drama and passion

Resources:

Connect with Alexandra and claim a free download, Unstuck: Remedy for Internal Toxicity: www.alexandraloves.com.

Find her Woke Wisdom Podcast.

Join our community: www.community.embracingintensity.com

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Imposter syndrome is something that most people have felt at some point or another. Intense people may feel this in magnified ways, as the world tells them they are not welcome as they are. Join us on this guest call to learn more!

Kate Arms is a return guest to the show, and I’m thrilled to welcome her back for this guest call. Kate is a classic overthinker, high achiever, and multipotentiality who exudes intensity. Her career has spanned being a lawyer, arts administrator, coach for gifted and twice-exceptional adults and parents of gifted and twice-exceptional kids, and an Agile Coach in a high-tech company. She is the author of several books and has experience in coaching, leadership development, and psychology. Kate is here to help us understand imposter syndrome and how to reduce our suffering within it by building more connections.

Show Highlights:

• Kate defines imposter syndrome as “a group of symptoms clustered together to make us feel like we don’t belong”
• How symptoms can include anxiety, hypervigilance self-consciousness, self-sabotage, perfectionism, and a sense of hiding who you really are
• How these symptoms pair with suffering to make us feel awful and ashamed
• How symptom relief and root-cause relief work together
• Why imposter syndrome boils down to belonging, connection, and a feeling of, “They won’t want me if they know who I really am.”
• How we are programmed (especially intense people) to think we are not welcome as we are because of childhood shaming, being told to “tone down,” and being too much or too sensitive
• How the “mismatch” occurs and how to address it
• How the process of learning happens when we start out blissfully ignorant
• The difference between identity and character vs. skills and experiences
• Why we must to learn to be comfortable in being ourselves–even if it makes others uncomfortable
• Why it’s hard to risk having the courage to overwhelm others with who we really are
• How we can build our sense of belonging through building our community
• How feeling connection with at least three people in your group will foster your feeling of belonging

Resources:

Hear the follow-up conversation with Kate: Community.embracingintensity.com

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Today’s show focuses on the twice-exceptional experience. As with so many people in this line of work, my guest looks to provide for students and families the help and support that he needed–and didn’t have as he grew up. Join us to learn more!

Barry Gelston is the president of GHF, Gifted Home Education Forum. They do amazing work with gifted and twice-exceptional families. Barry is an educator through “Mr. Gelston’s One Room Schoolhouse,” an online homeschool program focused on providing individualized educational services for gifted and 2E learners. In this episode, we enjoyed discussing how being 2E ourselves led us to the work of helping and supporting 2E families.

Show Highlights:

• Why Barry is intensely passionate about making a difference by being a positive activist who loves his family and tries hard to be a good person in the world
• How Barry’s personal brand of intensity shows up with constant focus and rumination about one topic at a time and being aware of sensory overload
• How Barry grew up totally dysregulated as an underachiever with social and emotional issues from being in a divorced family
• How Barry approached his problems with his attempt at executive functioning skills to become a good student and make more of his life
• What Barry would say to the adults in his life “back then”
• Why Barry’s work today revolves around what he needed as a 2E child
• How Barry learned to overcome his reading struggles and dyslexia to become a voracious reader
• Why wonderful things are happening in strengths-based approaches with 2E students
• How Barry’s cultural identity formed largely around growing up in a Jewish family in Queens
• Why Barry always felt like he had to tone himself down or tune himself out as he grew up and learned the art of conversation
• How Barry’s intensity felt out of control in early adulthood because of social pressures
• How Barry uses his fire for good through teaching and his work, trying to fix for others what he wishes would have been fixed for him
• How mindfulness, meditation, self-centering, and 2E awareness have helped Barry harness the power of his intensity
• How creating systems and structures has helped with executive functioning for Barry–and how he uses it to help students
• How Barry helps others use their own fire through connecting and learning from each other

Resources:

Connect with Barry: GHF Learners and Mr. Gelston's One Room Schoolhouse

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Today’s show looks at the differences and overlap of giftedness, twice-exceptionality, autism, and ADHD within the overexcitability framework. Join us to learn more!

Chris Wells is a writer, therapist, and researcher on all things Dabrowski. She has a nuanced take on the concept of overexcitability, a topic on which she has focused much time, energy, and study. Chris is our first three-time guest on the podcast, having appeared most recently to discuss positive disintegration. Let’s hear more from Chris!

In this episode:

• How Chris came to overexcitability in 2014 on her quest to learn more about twice-exceptionality
• How Chris was identified as gifted as a kid but felt more disabled and mentally ill
• How Chris felt broken and emotionally intense by the time she was 40
• How overexcitability turned around her perceptions of herself as problematic and defective
• How Chris became hyperfocused on understanding overexcitability
• How Chris found Dabrowski’s early work, which identified four types of overexcitability: psychomotor, imaginational, sensual, and emotional
• How the gifted education world has finally accepted overexcitability as a characteristic of giftedness
• Why overexcitability is an umbrella term that brings together all the elements of neurodivergence
• Why Chris says autism and ADHD are “clearly neuro-cousins”
• Why there are so many misunderstandings about overexcitability in gifted education
• How overexcitability brings a whole different reality to those who have it
• How Chris’s imagination would take her to another place and another reality when she was growing up–and overexcitability gave her the answers for it
• The problem in learning to live with overexcitability
• Why giftedness is a meaningful difference, even in adults
• How we can best support those with overexcitability in light of the knowledge we now have and the labels we use
• Why we struggle as a whole to figure out the right language to use

Resources:

Check out our calendar of upcoming events: www.embracingintensity.com/community

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Today’s show introduces you to a difference-maker in the world of neurodivergence. Her collective endeavors to advocate for kids, parents, and families are truly making a difference. Join us to learn more!

Debbie Reber is an author, speaker, and parenting activist. In 2016, she founded Tilt Parenting, a website, top podcast, and online community aimed at helping parents raise differently wired kids from a place of confidence, connection, and joy. Debbie’s most recent book is Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope.

In this episode:

• Get to know Debbie, who lives in Brooklyn with her husband and 17-year-old neurodivergent child; they lived in the Netherlands for several years prior to moving back to the US
• Why Debbie is intensely passionate about learning, being curious about everything, writing, helping kids and families, and running
• How Debbie’s personal brand of intensity comes through in her inability to stop doing things and not being able to stop or rest
• How Debbie grew up as a misunderstood child and class clown who channeled her energy into sports because it was the one area in which she was competent
• How Debbie, as a high school student, worked just hard enough to get by and didn’t care about applying herself
• How cultural factors affected Debbie: her family didn’t prioritize academics and didn’t teach her to value herself; there were strict religious rules that she wasn’t allowed to question
• How Debbie’s best friend’s family w
• ere the ones who introduced her to museums, travel, and a world outside her small Pennsylvania town
• How Debbie learned to tone herself down during her college years because she wanted to be perceived in a certain way to achieve her “means to an end”
• Why Debbie felt close to burnout during COVID and learned to prioritize what’s really important to her
• How she has learned to enjoy her life more and not work so much
• How Debbie uses her fire and drive to help people and make a difference
• How making things sparks her and fulfills her
• How Debbie has learned to be really organized from her beginning with poor executive functioning skills and is constantly hacking her own systems and processes
• Why Debbie’s discipline around exercise and fitness is the key to mental and emotional health for her
• How Debbie helps others use their fire by helping them create the lives they want
• Why Debbie began Tilt Parenting almost six years ago because there were so few resources for parents of neurodivergent kids
• How more and more adults talking about their neurodivergence is helping to “fuel the movement

Connect with Debbie:

• www.tiltparenting.com Visit this site for Debbie’s podcast, multiple resources, and more
• www.debbiereber.co
• Find Debbie on Facebook and Instagram.

Books by Debbie mentioned in this episode:

• Differently Wired: A Parent’s Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope
• Doable: The Girls’ Guide to Accomplishing Just About Anything
• Run for Your Life: A Book for Beginning Women Runners

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Welcome to 2022! In today’s solo episode, I’m reviewing some of our most downloaded episodes from 2021 and sharing our upcoming guest speaker series and topics already scheduled for this year. It’s going to be a great year, so come along for the ride with me! Show Highlights:

The countdown of our top ten most downloaded episodes from 2021:

#10: Ep. 231 Intuitive Flow with Kari Betton
Our July Guest Call was on Intuitive Flow and Creativity. Kari is a coach and mentor for highly sensitive and twice-exceptional people, and she has a passion for helping them find their innate sense of intuitive flow.

#9: Ep. 239 Perspectives in Giftedness with Gail Post
Being gifted can complicate many situations in life. It is wonderful to know that empathetic and supportive professionals are dedicating their lives to advocacy for these individuals. Learn more with psychotherapist Gail Post.

#8: Ep. 229 Thinking Patterns
I have seen a lot of posts about the overlap and similarities between ADHD and Autism, and it got me thinking about some observations I’d made both personally and professionally testing neurodivergent kids over the years. I also asked for feedback from neurodivergent people on social media about the patterns they related to most.

#7: Ep. 235 Playing with Your Inner Critic with Jeff Harry
This show allows you to listen to our recent group call with Jeff Harry of Rediscover Your Play. Jeff provides tips, insights, and interactive exercises to learn more about “Playing With Your Inner Critic.” Find the full discussion in the Embracing Intensity Community.

#6: Ep. 202 Chipping Away at Societal Conditioning with Julia R. Wild
This show focuses on highly sensitive people. My guest loves helping HSPs uncover the layers of conditioning put on them by society and bloom in their uniqueness. Julia R. Wild is a bestselling author, spiritual teacher, and trauma educator with a Master’s degree in psychology. She is also a writing, creativity, and life coach.

#5: Ep. 207 “But I’m Not Really THAT Smart”
I’ve heard a lot more comments lately along the lines of, “I relate to your work, but I’m not really gifted.” In this episode, I discuss why gifted folks might not recognize their own gifts, along with some resources to explore if you suspect that you might be gifted.

#4: Ep. 236 Gifted and 2E Assessment
This solo episode is about a topic that I’ve thought about for a long time, so I’m happy to bring it to you. We will discuss getting an assessment as a gifted or twice-exceptional adult, so I hope you find my thoughts and tips helpful.

#3: Ep. 208 Coaching and Mentoring Neurodivergent Adults with Dr. Kimberly Douglass
I found this guest in the most unusual place: TikTok! I first noticed her work with gifted and twice-exceptional people, and I knew I had to have her on the show. Dr. Kimberly Douglass is president and CEO of Remote Learning Solutions.

#2: Ep. 226 Asynchronous Development in Gifted Adults with Tiff Choumm
Our June Guest Call was on Asynchronous Development in Gifted Adults. Asynchronous development is a hallmark of the gifted experience, when we may have developed far ahead of our peers in some areas and have fallen behind in others. This can continue into adulthood, especially for those who are also twice-exceptional, and it can impact many aspects of our life experiences. Find the full discussion in the Embracing Intensity Community.

#1: Ep. 205 Twice Exceptionality–When Giftedness Meets ADHD
Last year, I participated in an event called Camp ADHD, where folks around the world shared talks and discussion on topics related to ADHD. I spoke about twice-exceptionality, specifically as it relates to ADHD, and the topic seemed to resonate with many, so I decided to share my talk on twice-exceptionality on the podcast as well.

I’m super excited to announce our 2022 guest speakers and general topics! (Specific details are subject to change.) You can find the schedule listed in the events calendar on the Embracing Intensity Community, and it will soon be on the 2E Connection and Embracing Intensity website calendars!

January 22–Leela Sinha, from Ep. 7: The Intersection of Queerness and Neurodivergence

February 19–Alexandra Loves, from Ep. 67: Passion vs. Drama

March 19–Boontarika Sripom, from Ep. 177: Play

April 16–Cosette “CoCo” Leary, from Ep. 181: Building Confidence and Resilience

May 21–Aileen Kelleher, from Ep. 241: Perfectionism

June 18–Mara McLoughlin, from Ep. 230: Neurodivergent Social Connection

August 20–Dr. Kimberly Douglass, from Ep. 208: Navigating Systems as a Neurodivergent

September 17–Dr. Matt Zakreski, from Ep. 240: Self-Advocacy

October 15–Nadja Careghetti, from Ep. 198: Tidying Up Your Brain (Marie Kondo-Style)

November 19–Julia Wild, from Ep. 202: How to Heal

Resources:

Find more information at community@embracingintensity.com.

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Today’s guest has wonderful Instagram posts, many of them covering her work with twice-exceptional adults. I’m a fan of hers, and she’s a fan of the podcast, so it’s exciting to introduce her to the Embracing Intensity audience!

Aileen Kelleher is a licensed clinical social worker, therapist, and coach. Her therapy practice in Chicago specializes in helping gifted and twice-exceptional children build social-emotional skills, self-compassion, and confidence to recover from anxiety, depression, and other mental health difficulties. Her international coaching practice focuses on helping gifted and 2E women harness their talents to help them find fulfillment and fun in their personal, professional, and social lives.

Show Highlights:

• Why Aileen is intensely passionate about working with 2E people and sharing tools and resources
• How Aileen’s personal brand of intensity manifests in her passion and her ability to embrace conflict and argumentative engagement; she appears intimidating to others and feels emotions deeply
• Growing up, Aileen experienced bullying from her peers that put her “on guard” with anxiety and fear where there was the capacity for negative emotions; she also had an early sense of social justice
• How Aileen identifies now as a 2E person who has anxiety, depression, and some ADHD characteristics
• In school, Aileen was a student who was eager to please her teachers and experienced solid support from her mother; she struggled to fit in and be accepted with peers
• How, as she grew older, she began challenging authority, rebelling, and calling out injustice
• How being from a large, Irish Catholic family trained her to use direct bluntness that not everyone accepts
• How Aileen learned to tone herself down and tune herself out by escaping in reading books and watching TV; in later life, she numbed herself through substance abuse to “check out” from reality
• How Aileen experienced her out-of-control intensity through raging at people as a young person and now uses writing, exercise, and art as ways to maintain control
• How Aileen has learned not to be “the biggest voice” in the room but to lift up and make room for the voices of others in community and collaboration
• How Aileen uses her fire for good by being helpful and learning all that she can about what she feels passionate about; she has also learned to admit her mistakes and keep going
• How Aileen helps other 2E adults find meaning, joy, and purpose in their lives
• How relationships with family and friends have helped Aileen learn to reach out for help and trust herself
• Why Aileen likes helping others define and find their personal values
• How ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) helps gifted kids figure out what they care about beyond simply proving how smart they are

Parting words from Aileen: “You are OK just the way you are, even if you feel like you don’t belong in a certain situation. That doesn’t mean that there is something fundamentally wrong with you, and it’s OK to ask for help if you need it. Gifted and 2E can have full and satisfied lives, and the fact that we are different shouldn’t stop us from pursuing what we want--and what everyone else gets to have.”

Resources:

Find Aileen on Instagram or at www.coaching4gifted.com. Her work with kids is at www.aileenkelleher.com.

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Continuing our top 2019 reruns. This has been one of our top episodes from it’s very start! 2019 was our first year of guest speakers, and we took a break for 2020 but had a great run in 2021. I’m super excited about our upcoming 2022 series especially because all of my top choices got back to me right away and agreed to speak. I’m still waiting on a few scheduling clarifications, but I’m pleased to announce that Jan. 22 we will have Leela Sinha, author of “You’re Not Too Much” talk about the Intersection of Queerness and Neurodivergence, and Feb 19th we’ll have Alexandra Loves talk about Passion vs. Drama! Get on our mailing list for updates and log in information at www.embracingintensity.com. You can support the continued growth of these free calls by joining our community at community.embracingintensity.com or supporting Embracing Intensity on Patreon!

Navigating relationships successfully can be one of the most challenging things we ever do. The intensity and outside-the-box nature of twice-exceptionality (gifted plus disability), adds in a whole new layer of challenge. In this episode, Dr. Melanie Hayes shares both the joys and the hurdles of twice exceptional relationships.

In this episode:

• Common issues in all relationships.
• Additional challenges for twice-exceptional people.
• Meeting our unmet needs in relationships.
• A recipe for twice-exceptional people to connect with who they really are and have fulfilling lives.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Support Embracing Intensity on Patreon

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Continuing our top 2019 reruns. One of my most popular topics is twice exceptionality, especially as it relates to ADHD. This is what prompted my work in sharing stories of twice exceptionality on YouTube and my upcoming 2E Comics. I’ll be launching a Kickstarter in the new year to help fund support with illustration so I can make it happen with my limited time!

Coincidentally, this episode features input from Brendan Mahan of ADHD Essentials, and he just shared his most recent episode with me on twice exceptionality this week! Go listen to “Giftedness is Not Achievement w/ Aurora Remember Holtzman on ADHD Essentials!

I've been asked a lot about twice-exceptionality recently and especially on how to identify ADHD when giftedness is also involved.

In this episode:

• Characteristics observed in people who are both gifted and ADHD.
• Characteristics that may be common with giftedness, but are even more extreme when ADHD is thrown in.
• Assessment patterns I've observed with kids with ADHD.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Brendan Mahan's ADHD Essentials

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Continuing the tradition of reruns for the month of December, and this month I'll be sharing some of my top episodes from 2019. The top guest episode was on Positive Disintegration w/ Chris Wells, and she has a new podcast on the topic that just came out recently! You can find the discussion recording and her latest talk on Overexitabilities in the Embracing Intensity Community.

Kazmiers Dabrowski was an early proponent of what we now call the neurodiversity movement. He asserted that what was viewed as "neuroses" were not an illness, but in fact a sign of high developmental potential! His theory of Positive Disintegration views the importance of falling apart, or disintegrating, before integrating into a higher whole.

This week, Chris Wells, Director of Qualitative Research at the Gifted Development Center, dives deeper into Dabrowski's life, what led to his theory and how it applies to us in the current day.

In this episode:

• How Dabrowski's theory relates to the current neurodiversity movement.
• How his own life experiences and trauma impacted his theory.
• The importance of values.
• The three factors of developmental potential.
• How dynamisms, or the forces that drive our actions, serve as a catalyst to higher development.

Links:

Chris' New Podcast on Positive Disintegration!

Finding Treasure In Ruins Blog Post

Embracing Intensity Community

Gifted Development Center

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I first met today’s guest when he enthusiastically shared some of my animated shorts on 2E experiences. We have followed each other, and I’m a big fan of his advocacy work. Join us to learn more!

Dr. Matt Zakreski is a psychologist who works with gifted and twice-exceptional folks. We have connected over social media, and I’m excited to talk to him today and introduce him to the Embracing Intensity audience.

Show Highlights:

• How Matt is intensely passionate about his experience as a “grown-up gifted kid,” helping people through therapy and training, ultimate Frisbee, craft beer, Bruce Springsteen, and comic books
• Why Matt’s personal brand of intensity means that he wants things to be “this way,” and has a tough time when they aren’t; he wants to know expectations ahead of time
• How Matt learned to embrace his giftedness later in his school years and had to find his people in the arts
• Why Matt speaks the language of caring and wants to be around people who care about something
• How even with ADHD and giftedness, Matt appreciates authenticity in himself and others
• In his school experience, Matt realized how to “flex” his gifts in language arts but struggled in STEM classes
• How Matt advises families to learn from his mistakes to “work smart, not hard”
• How Matt felt responsibility and a lot of expectations as the oldest child in his family
• How Matt felt the divide in high school between living in the sports world as an athlete and the arts world
• How Matt tried to tone himself down and embrace his leadership style of being second in command
• How Matt felt his intensity out of control significantly when he was bullied in 8th grade
• How Matt uses his fire for good by helping kids learn to lift others up instead of tearing others down
• Why getting in touch with his emotional world and being vulnerable have helped Matt harness the power of his intensity
• Personal habits that have helped Matt use his fire positively are taking time daily for long walks, podcasts, and music
• How Matt helps others use their fire by helping them be their best selves
• Why it’s energizing to make time for yourself
• Parting words from Matt: “If you are too much for some people, then those are not your people. Do something for you, and do your version of it. Have the confidence to put your own spin on what self-care looks like for you. We have to value putting ourselves in inspiring and charging situations instead of draining ones. You are worth putting yourself first.”

Resources:

www.drmattzakreski.com

Find Matt on Facebook.

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If you or someone you love is a gifted person, you understand that it can complicate many situations in life. It’s wonderful to know that empathetic and supportive professionals are dedicating their lives to advocacy for these individuals. Join me to learn more about one such psychotherapist in today’s episode!

Gail Post is a clinical psychologist, parenting coach, workshop leader, and writer. In clinical practice for over 35 years, she provides psychotherapy in the Philadelphia area with a focus on the needs of the intellectually and musically gifted. Gail does consultations with educators and psychotherapists and parent coaching throughout the US and Canada. Dr. Post served as a co-chair of a gifted parents’ advocacy group when her children were in school, and she continues to advocate through workshops in schools and parenting groups. Her writing related to giftedness includes online articles, several books, chapters, plans for an upcoming book, and a long-standing blog, Gifted Challenges. Gail is just one of the popular gifted writers whose work is included in the book, Perspectives on Giftedness: Sound Advice from Parents and Professionals by GHF Press.

Show Highlights:

• Why Gail is intensely passionate about working with gifted and twice-exceptional teens and adults, advocacy, parenting issues, nature, art, music, and trying to make a difference
• How psychotherapists help clients with mirroring and attunement to create encouragement for the changes people need to make
• Why it’s difficult to find psychotherapists who specialize in giftedness
• Why Gail’s personal brand of intensity looks like overthinking and being passionate about her work and values
• How Gail grew up feeling things intensely and feeling out of sync with others as she tried to fit in
• How Gail was affected by white privilege and by other issues of the 70s like the Vietnam anti-war movement, women’s right, and civil rights
• How Gail had to tone herself down as a shy child when she learned to hide her abilities and talents
• Why Gail got out of control when she felt things and reacted strongly, especially in work settings
• How Gail uses her fire for good in helping people, writing, and utilizing her strengths, and engaging with her interest in the human psyche and behavior
• How Gail harnesses her power by knowing her strengths, pacing herself, and managing stress
• How she helps others by encouraging them to feel safe and accept themselves with empowerment in challenging situations
• Gail’s upcoming book, Perspectives in Giftedness, written with several other authors: her articles include “How to Explain Giftedness to Your Child,” one about what happens when kids know they are smart by society or school tells them they are not, and one about college planning to teach students and parents what they don’t know about the process
• Why we shouldn’t tell kids their IQ number because it can harm them or hold them back
• Final words from Gail: “I encourage everyone to work on self-acceptance with who you are because that’s the foundation for moving forward in life. It’s also important to accept your child’s imperfections and all of who they are.”

Resources:

Gail Post

Gifted Challenges

Connect with Gail on Facebook.

Perspectives on Giftedness: Sound Advice from Parents and Professionals, (A Collection of Essays by GHF Writers)

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We are celebrating our 5th anniversary of the Embracing Intensity Podcast by sharing past guests, listeners and community members answer to the question "What does Embracing Intensity mean to me? 

I'm also launching my new website at EmbracingIntensity.com - go check it out and explore! 

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The podcast is marking a huge milestone this week as we celebrate our 5th anniversary! In today’s show, we go outside the box as we discuss the importance of storytelling when it comes to giftedness, equity, identity, and inclusion. Join us to learn more!

Marc Smolowitz is a previous guest on the show, and I’m thrilled to have him back to talk about one of his projects, The G Word film. Marc is a multi-award-winning director, producer, and executive producer who has been involved in more than 50 independent films. His works have touched viewers on five continents and screened at the world’s top-tier film festivals. Marc is currently in post-production on The G Word, a feature-length documentary that aims to be the most comprehensive film ever made on the topics of gifted, talented, and neurodiverse education across the US. The film tells seven stories with different perspectives and asks the urgent equity question, “In the 21st century, who gets to be gifted in America, and why?” The film is poised to premiere in 2022.

Show Highlights:

• How the pandemic has affected Marc’s work on The G Word and other projects
• A broad overview of The G Word and the important stories highlighted by the film
• How changemakers are working to make a difference in the gifted and talented community
• How we can use our voices to be allies for the disenfranchised
• How a zip code can be ultra-defining in the resources and opportunities available to people
• How Marc is working to “take the temperature” of people around the country in assessing how giftedness has been affected by the pandemic
• A look at the spirit of G/T/N Awareness Week (gifted, talented, neurodiverse), which is scheduled for October 25-29; this is a FREE five-day slate of virtual programming with a different focus each day. (See Resources to register.)
• Why free and appropriate public education is a social contract--a promise made to all parents for their children
• Why we as advocates and allies cannot quit fighting to make a better civil society for “more of us rather than less of us”
• Why we need a much more communal and collective narrative around giftedness and neurodiversity in our country
• Why The G Word is a mainstream educational film

Resources:

The G Word Film Find out more about the film, find resources, and sign up for G/T/N Awareness Week.

Find the film on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

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I’m excited to introduce you to today’s guest. She’s a highly esteemed expert in the area of neuroscience and twice-exceptionality. Join us to learn more!

Dr. Nicole Tetreault is a compassionate author, meditation teacher, and international speaker on neurodiversity, neurodevelopment, creativity, mental health, and wellness. Her book, Insight into a Bright Mind, explores groundbreaking research examining the experiences of unique, creative, and intense brains while advocating for new directions of human diversity and neurodiversity. Nicole is the founder of Awesome Neuroscience and translates the most promising neuroscience and positive psychology for people to live their best life. She is on the faculty at Bridges Graduate School of Cognitive Diversity and Education, and she leads a new generation of meditation practices by fusing novel discoveries in neuroscience with the ancient art of meditation. As the recipient of the Milton Career Exploration Prize from CalTech, she founded the novel nonprofit, Beyond the Cell, a transformative program to rehabilitate incarcerated women through guided meditation, neuroscience, literature, and expressive writing. Nicole believes we have the ability to wire our minds for positive plasticity through compassion and wisdom to live the life we dream.

Show Highlights:

• Why Nicole is intensely passionate about neuroscience, positive psychology, and understanding diversity with compassion
• How Nicole knew from a very young age that she was different than others and greatly affected by social injustices
• How Nicole struggled when her intelligence didn’t match up for her in the classroom
• How Nicole spent her adult years rewiring her brain with new patterns, thoughts, stories, and ideas
• What Nicole would tell her former teachers about how they were “missing” each other
• How Nicole experienced stereotyping and white privilege growing up as a blond Caucasian girl in a private school in a part of Los Angeles with a large Latino and Chinese population
• How Nicole had to tone herself down in phases in her life, mostly by learning to hide in middle school and again in grad school
• How Nicole’s intensity got out of control in grad school when she felt pressure and anxiety to be perfect
• Nicole’s transformational meditation practice to regulate her intensity and emotional intelligence
• The challenge in balancing a good mindfulness practice with what goes on in today’s world
• Nicole’s take on spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity
• How Nicole uses her fire for good in connecting and partnering with others who are passionate about equality for neurodiverse people
• Nicole’s habits that help harness the power of her intensity: giving herself breaks for investigation, creativity, and curiosity; meditation; writing every day in a journal; and partnering with other creatives in the community
• How Nicole helps others use their fire by helping students see their magic and helping other people see their individual gifts
• How Nicole’s book: how it came about when she listened to her gut, how it inspires others, and how she wants to change the language about being twice-exceptional

Resources:

Nicole Tetreault

Find Awesome Neuro on Instagram and Twitter

Insight into a Bright Mind: A Neuroscientist’s Personal Stories of Unique Thinking by Nicole A. Tetreault

Connect with me: 2E Connection

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Today’s solo episode is about a topic that I’ve thought about for a long time, so I’m happy to bring it to you. We will discuss getting an assessment as a gifted or twice-exceptional adult, so I hope you find it helpful for me to share my thoughts and tips.

Show Highlights:

• Considerations that are universal to all assessment types:
  • If you think you are gifted, you probably are.
  • Make sure the person doing the evaluation has experience with giftedness and twice-exceptionality.
  • Realize that every assessment will have limitations and strengths, and every evaluator will have personal biases.
• Five types of assessments:
  • Diagnostic assessment
    • This will be done with a trained professional who can give a diagnosis. Always look for someone with experience with giftedness and neurodiversity, and ask what tools they use.
  • Psychometric assessment
    • This evaluation can give valuable information about your strengths and weaknesses, and it’s very standardized for comparison to others. It has limitations, like false lows and big gaps in highs and lows.
  • Qualitative assessment
    • This evaluation looks beyond just the numbers with things like observations, records, interviews, etc. It gives very useful information.
  • Self-assessment
    • The challenge in this evaluation is that there is a lot of information to take in.
  • Multimodal assessment
    • This kind of evaluation can be any combination of the other four types; it uses a variety of tools all together.
  • Helpful books: (See Resources for more information.) The Power of Difference, The Dyslexic Advantage, The Gifted Adult, and Your Rainforest Mind

Resources:

Connect with me: Aurora Remember

Find out our upcoming group call on Overexcitability with Chris Wells: Embracing Intensity

Check out the following resources:

Cognitive Processing Inventory at LDinfo

Gifted Adult Checklist at Gifted Development

Paula Prober’s Giftedness Checklist from Your Rainforest Mind

Books:

The Power of Different by Gail Saltz, M.D.

The Dyslexic Advantage by Brock and Fernette Eide

The Gifted Adult by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen

Your Rainforest Mind by Paula Prober

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Today’s show lets you listen to our recent group call with Jeff Harry of Rediscover Your Play. Jeff helps us with tips, insights, and interactive exercises to learn more about “Playing With Your Inner Critic.” Join us to learn more!

Jeff Harry is a Workplace Play Consultant, International Play Speaker, and Positive Psychology Play Coach. He helps individuals and companies navigate difficult conversations and address their most challenging issues using play and positive psychology. While we spend most of our time pretending to be important, serious grownups, it’s when we let go of that facade and just play that the real magic happens. Fully embracing your own nerdy genius gives you the power to make a difference and change lives. Jeff believes that we already have many of the answers we seek, and by simply unleashing our inner child, we can find our purpose and help to create a better world.

Show Highlights:

• An interactive exercise to shed light on how we judge ourselves and need to allow more freedom in our mindset
• The reasons we don’t play anymore are because the external noise and our internal negativity bias keep us from playing.
• How leaning into our intuitive mind allows us to work with our inner critic
• How our brain makes connections when in a flow state and allows creative actions
• How to get in flow: relax, figure out what calms you down, quiet everything, and allow yourself to “get bored”
• Your inner critic has a playlist; what does yours say?
• How to identify what your inner critic says to you
• How to identify what your inner critic sounds like and looks like, and why you need to give it a character name
• How to empower your inner child by affirming the opposite of what your inner critic says
• How you can create new neural pathways by using empowering language
• How addressing your inner critic helps deal with the outer critics
• How to spark your inner child
• Why you need to allow feelings to flow through and go
• How to ask, “What is driving my decision?”(The answer SHOULD be play, curiosity, and experimentation!)
• What old BS story are you willing to let go?

Resources:

Rediscover Your Play

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Today’s guest is truly a multipotentialite with interests spanning gender nonconformity, psychology, healthy eating, photography, and the creative arts. He has discovered ways to embrace his creativity and merge his talents to offer meaningful help to others in their struggles. Join us to learn more!

Greg Halpen is a food blogger and food photographer who created the food blog, Craving the Yum: Eating After Chemo. Chemotherapy can do a number on our palates, leaving our taste buds desensitized and frustrated about what to eat that actually tastes good. Greg gives chemotherapy patients the steps and practical tools to reimagine meals without compromising the YUM factor. Through his food blog, he shares the secrets to preparing meals that are simple, healthy, and extra.

Show Highlights:

• Why Greg is intensely passionate about helping people navigate the frustrating and difficult waters of figuring out what to eat during and after chemo
• How Greg’s personal brand of intensity covers multiple areas of creativity: music, theater, food blogging, and photography
• How Greg’s childhood trauma spurred him into creative outlets as coping mechanisms
• The difficulty for Greg in not having a support system to help him grow as a creative person
• What Greg wishes he knew back then: “There are people in the world who WILL see you and get you.”
• The cultural factors that affected Greg as a gay young man with confusing feelings that couldn’t be expressed and realized
• How digging deep into learning about homophobia and hetero-normative thinking helped Greg cope
• How Greg has had to purposely shrink himself down to be smaller because of his insecurity as a person
• How men are affected by sexuality and gender issues very differently than women
• Why Greg has felt out of control when he couldn’t harness his creativity amidst the chaos of life
• How Greg uses his fire for good in being of service to others and helping people
• How he learned the important lesson that he isn’t at the center of everything
• How therapy, cooking, and helping others with food relationships have helped Greg harness his intensity
• How Greg helps others use their fire by helping them to make small changes and understand “diet culture confusion”
• Up next for Greg: writing a book (the free mini-version is available on his website now!)

Resources:

Craving The Yum

Get Greg’s FREE mini-cookbook, Eating After Chemo!

Visit our website to learn more about the Embracing Intensity community and events

Visit our new platform with resources and events for the 2E community

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I didn't promote last week's episode very much because I got super deep into the rabbit hole on a new project that really. Kind of pulls together a lot of the little projects that I've been doing in this past year.

It's called 2E Connection, and it's a directory for twice exceptional folks to share, explore and find support!

In this episode:

• What inspired me to create 2E Connection
• A sneak peak at some of the content so far
• How you can support keeping this free site accessible AND sustainable

Links:

2E Connection

Embracing Intensity Community

Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

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My guest today was diagnosed with ADHD and twice-exceptionality later in life. We have connected through TikTok and are learning a lot from each other. He demonstrates kind accountability in his TikTok posts and shows authenticity in his longer YouTube posts that I greatly appreciate. Join us to hear his unique perspective.

Sean Szolek-Van Valkenburgh grew up in Indiana surrounded by orchestral, classical, and contemporary music. His formal musical education began at age 7 when he started studying piano and performing in choral ensembles. As his musical education progressed, he noticed that he had the unusual gift of chromesthesia. Through TikTok, Sean avidly posts about being a professional musician and artist and connects with over 680,000 followers; he refers to them as “kings, queens, and monarchs.” He hopes to provide a safe, inclusive, and entertaining platform that prioritizes genuine content creation and critical thought.

Show Highlights:

• What is chromesthesia? Multiple senses cross in the brain, making it possible to hear music and also see it in colors, textures, and patterns
• How Sean uses TikTok to share music and chromesthesia
• Why Sean is intensely passionate about educating and helping people see the world in different ways, especially the “lightbulb” moments of learning
• How Sean’s personal brand of intensity cuts through to the truth and presents it to people, shining light on obscure areas in the legal system
• As Sean grew up, he was very adamant about certain fixations, like dominoes and Jenga; his twice-exceptionality was masked by his ability to study and learn, but his ADHD was overlooked for a time
• How his ADHD impacted the way he planned and self-regulated himself and caused imbalance in his mental health
• How Sean was socially isolated with a few superficial friendships and focused on his hyperfixations
• How Sean had to learn in college to apply himself to social constructs
• The cultural factors that affected Sean as he and his sister were black twins adopted by white parents, and how this helped inform his cultural understanding
• How Sean had to tone himself down as a counselor at a fine arts summer camp and learn how to expend his energy in appropriate ways
• Why Sean depends on established routines and structures that work with his ADHD
• How Sean has gotten out of control on social media in exposing the truth and presenting the facts, sometimes finding it difficult to strike a balance
• How Sean uses his fire for good in helping people channel their fire into artistic expression in different ways
• How Sean harnesses the power of his intensity through self-regulation and recognizing the power behind his personality and neurodivergence
• How Sean recognized his twice-exceptionality
• How Sean has learned to take time for himself and take mental inventory with introspection
• Sean’s advice: “Be educated and aware when you speak about ADHD. Know your abilities and disabilities. It’s a long journey. Find your authentic self and work on defining yourself.”
• How to ask for accommodations
• What Sean is working on for the future

Resources:

Find Sean on Instagram: @seanszolekvanvalkenburgh

Find Sean on Twitter: @SeanSzolek

Find Sean on TikTok: @seansvv

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Our July Guest Call was on Intuitive Flow & Creativity with Kari Betton

About Kari:

Kari Betton is a coach and mentor for highly sensitive and twice-exceptional people, with a passion for helping them find their innate sense of intuitive flow.

Too often, we can be focused on developing our mental health, physical health, intellect, etc, but including intuitive development in our personal development practice creates an easier foundation for all types of development within you to be congruent with each other.

A personal intuitive wandering practice can have profound implications on achieving the results and designing the life that you desire. In this call, Kari will focus on how to attain clarity and enough space in your life to listen to the inner wisdom that you already have.

In their spare time, Kari enjoys recording and producing their podcast Decolonizing Sexuality, vegan foodie adventures with friends, and painting galaxies.

You can find out more about Kari and their work at: simplybybeing.com/

In this episode:

• What is effort transcendence?
• Maintaining a trajectory of expansion over time
• When to give drops, and when to be your fire hose self

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

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I’m excited to introduce you to a speech therapist whose work is informed by the autistic community and her personal experience in identifying as twice-exceptional. Her heart and passion are to help give a voice to those who can’t speak for themselves. Join us!

Mara McLoughlin has over ten years of professional experience working with autistic and other neurodivergent people and their families. She has been a student and teacher of yoga and mindfulness for over 25 years, knowing that building these skills can help build a better world. She is a certified provider of the PEERS program that exists for the educational and enrichment of relational skills. With both her bachelor’s and master's degrees in Communication Science and Disorders, she knows that communication is fun, difficult, and the key to life. To learn and gain confidence in the initial steps of founding friendships and self-regulation skills can help improve the lives of everyone.

Show Highlights:

• Why Mara is intensely passionate about yoga and working with autistic people and their families
• How Mara’s intensity looks like a strong sense of fairness and fiercely advocating for those who can’t speak for themselves, especially those with autism or aphasia due to stroke
• Growing up, Mara was a precocious speaker who struggled in school and was a determined but difficult child
• How the masking component has affected Mara in “code-switching” according to different situations
• The misconception about autism and the children who aren’t identified by their response to social cues
• The relationship between non-binary gender identification and autism
• How cultural factors affected Mara as she grew up in white, conservative, suburban Chicago as she didn’t follow the “rulebook” or the status quo
• Why she was unsuccessful in toning herself down or tuning herself out because she couldn’t conform to others’ expectations
• How Mara moved to the West Coast and found where she fits in and feels at home
• How a stroke affected her partner at age 43 and brought out Mara’s advocacy skills
• How Mara uses her fire for good by being a fierce advocate for people who have different brains, helping to build capacity in environments for different learners
• How Mara harnesses the power of her intensity through breathing, yoga and movement, meditation, mindfulness, and gratitude
• How Mara helps others use their fire through the PEERS program with social and emotional development in making and keeping friends and solving conflict
• Mara’s business, IRL Social skills, which is a collective of speech-language pathologists and occupational therapists who help families of autistic teens and adults
• How Mara uses immersion therapy in her work

Resources:

Connect with Mara: irl Social Skills.com

Find IRL Social Skills on Facebook and Mara McLoughlin on Twitter and @pawsomesocialskills on Instagram.

There are lots of upcoming great events happening in the EI Community. Check us out at Embracing Intensity

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A while back I had seen a lot of posts about the overlap and similarities between ADHD and Autism, and it got me thinking about some observations I’d made both personally and professionally testing neurodivergent kids over the years.

I posted this tweet asking folks the following questions:

Curious with the #Autism vs. #ADHD discussions recently, if you have one or both, what do you relate to more:

1. Big Picture vs. Details
2. Order vs. Chaos
3. Think in Words vs. Pictures
4. Acquired Knowledge vs. Novel Problem Solving
5. Process Fast vs. Slow

Elaboration Welcome

More recently I posted the same questions with elaboration on TikTok and the responses were fascinating!

I think my biggest takeaway from hearing personal accounts from so many neurodivergent folks is that even when there’s a consistent pattern that is statistically more likely in a specific area of neurodivergence, they are not hard and fast rules.

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I met today’s guest through the neurodivergent community on Twitter. Join us to learn more about his inspiring story.

Joseph Gitau is a writer, singer, and blogger who has been diagnosed with ADHD and Bipolar I. With his childhood and youth being spent between his native Kenya and the US, he has a unique perspective about how neurodivergence is treated differently in both countries. Joseph uses his talents to promote mental health throughout his creative outlets.

Show Highlights:

• Why Joseph is intensely passionate about mental health and the arts
• How Joseph’s personal brand of intensity includes music and twice-exceptionality
• How Joseph’s journey of discovery through school was difficult because he was an introvert
• How the Kenyan tradition of children being “not seen and not heard” was very difficult for Joseph as an ADHD music-lover who always wanted to sing and play music
• Joseph’s years in Kenya and the US, and how his ADHD and bipolar diagnosis came about
• How Joseph has to tone himself down--even today
• How Joseph’s intensity got out of control when he dropped out of university, and he didn’t know what to do next
• Why Joseph does the important work to break the taboo around ADHD and promote mental health awareness
• Why Joseph’s writing includes interracial characters
• How celebrities represent neurodiversity to the world
• Why society uses labels to put people in different boxes
• How Joseph came to accept his neurodivergence
• The mixed feelings around neurodivergence, superpowers, white privilege, and economic privilege
• How Joseph uses his fire for good through his blog where he talks about the educational system, neurodiversity, and how marginalized people are affected
• Joseph’s plans for the future
• How Joseph harnesses the power of his intensity through yoga and learning to balance structure and flexibility
• Joseph’s parting advice: “Don’t worry about tomorrow. Nothing is set in stone except what you did yesterday. Do what’s right by you, and people will respect you.”

Resources:

Find Joseph Gitau on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube.

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Today’s conversation is with a creative who has overcome obstacles to find her place in the world where she isn’t afraid to be seen and heard. She helps others connect and engage, no matter how they have been “othered” by society, and she has learned how to effectively use her superpowers. Join us to learn more about making the world a brighter place for us all.

Jen Sujin Yoon is a creative consultant, storyteller, people-connector, and future-builder. We met on TikTok and immediately vibed with each other’s content. Jen is starting a new adventure as she launches The Dork Web Production Company. She lives in the Bushwick community of Brooklyn and loves this “cool hood” filled with passionate artists.

Show Highlights:

• Why Jen is intensely passionate about connecting people and using The Dork Web as “a light corner of the web where people meet and are inspired to make the world a brighter place.”
• How Jen’s personal brand of intensity involved her awareness of how “it all comes together” in her characteristics of being highly sensitive, neurodivergent, and 2E
• How Jen’s intensity was always shut down as she grew up as a Korean-American having to live according to metrics and expectations; she turned to art, comics, fiction, and pop culture as forms of escapism
• In Jen’s school experience, she was bookish and in the gifted program, but she never felt like she fit in or was good enough at school or at home
• Why toning down and tuning out was just how Jen learned to live, and she’s only recently learned to own her space and put her voice and face out there to be heard and seen
• How Jen learned to make herself small to try to fit in and be a people-pleaser--these were her survival skills
• How Jen felt “othered” in many ways but wants people to feel like they belong
• How Jen’s intensity becomes out of control in her moments of “Hulk-smash” crazy anger
• How Jen compares her ADHD to superpowers that make her loud and proud
• Why Jen views her past traumas as what has developed her into who she is today
• Why Jen wants to normalize ALL emotions
• How Jen uses her fire for good as she uses her interdisciplinary experience and embracing leadership to help promote others and their work that aligns with her values
• How Jen harnesses the power of her intensity as she watches her younger sister (whom she mothered) grow up and have awareness of the world’s realities
• Why Jen explains her childhood narcissistic trauma as “death by a thousand paper-cuts”
• Jen’s advice: “Even if you're a problem-solver and leader, you still have to take care of yourself and not be a martyr. No one is coming to save you---you have to save yourself.”

Resources:

Find The Dork Web on TikTok, Twitter, and Instagram. Website coming soon at The Dork Web

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Our June Guest Call was on Asynchronous Development in Gifted Adults with Tiffany Chhuom.

Asynchronous development is a hallmark of the gifted experience, when we may have developed far ahead of our peers in some areas, and behind in others. This can continue into adulthood, especially for those who are also twice exceptional, and impact many aspects of our life experience.

About Tiffany:

Tiffany Chhuom, MPH, MSW is the owner of EthTech, a healthcare consulting and training firm for the Digital Era, and Lucy in the Sky Therapy, an on-line private practice for neurodiverse adults. With almost 20 years of experience in healthcare, she holds four degrees in four disciplines from the University of Washington. Her work produced notable achievements in practice, policy, research and administration across the Public Health, Social Work, Psychology, Criminal Justice, and Child Welfare sectors. She has lead large projects across the country in behavioral and medical research while also fine tuning her craft as a trauma and addiction therapist. Mrs. Chhuom is a long-time mentor and applauded speaker, creating new opportunities to advance course offerings and continuing education on telehealth ethics and digital marketing for providers and healthcare partners. You can find out more about Tiffany and her work at: ethtechusa.com/about/tiffany/

This is a part of our 2021 Embracing Intensity Community Speaker Series.

Calls are open for all to attend, and the recordings are shared in the Embracing Intensity Community. You can support this work by joining the community, or supporting us on Patreon!

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Free Workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

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We had our first neurodivergent book club on Saturday, and one of the things we talked about was the complexity of labels. On the one hand, they serve as a tool to get information, support and connect with others, but it can also serve to separate us into "us and them" if we're not careful. 

In this episode:

• Why I avoided using the terms gifted and twice exceptional for so long, and why it's helped to finally use them.
• Just because we can get by without a label, doesn't mean it wouldn't be helpful.
• Being in both parent and neurodivergent adult spaces, parents are hesitant to label kids with disabilities, but not giftedness, while adults wish they'd gotten disability diagnoses sooner and often dislike the gifted label.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Free Workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

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Today’s show is all about taking a holistic approach to achieve balance and take back control of your life. Join us to learn more.

Zarya Rubin is a physician and functional medicine health coach. She is a formerly stressed-out mom who now helps women in mid-life get to the root of their health issues and manage their stress to take back control of their lives.

Show Highlights:

• What is stress?
• The relationship between stress, control, and our response to stressors
• The body’s primal response: fight, flight, or freeze
• Zarya explains her self-care graphic and gives factoids about stress
• How unmitigated stress often leads to burnout
• Personality traits that make you prone to burnout: being a workaholic, superhero, perfectionist, or lone ranger
• Common stressors in daily life are work, family, life events, health, finances, change/loss, and pandemic stress, which all of us have experienced in the last several months
• How stress CAN be a positive thing that motivates us to accomplish daily tasks
• How women can reduce stress levels by sharing with others and finding community
• Three types of stress: acute, episodic, and chronic
• The gut/brain connection and how stress affects it
• How to prevent stress, manage stress, and build resilience:
  • Use stress-busting techniques.
  • Take care of the basics.
  • Use a checklist, speak up, and practice self-care.
  • Practice breathing techniques, meditation, and mindfulness.
• What self-care is
• Types of rest: physical, mental, social, sensory, emotional, spiritual, and creative
• Zarya gives examples of breathing exercises and meditation that you can try at home
• Tips for good health habits for those with executive functioning impairments

Resources:

Find out more about Zarya and her work, and find her FREE Guide to Becoming Stress-Proof:

Wild Lilac Wellness

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The foundation of my work on my blog and podcast has been about intensity, and it's origins came from my work on excitability, also known as over excitability. Excitability is when you receive and respond the world more intensely than others. 

In this episode:

• Excitability as a sign of high developmental potential
• The 5 areas of excitability
• Using your strengths

Links:

Free workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity!

Embracing Intensity Community

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Today’s show is with yet another intriguing person I met on TikTok. I’m especially interested in her experience with twice-exceptionality and the work she’s doing in TV.

Shadi Petosky is an Emmy winner and Wendy’s Employee of the Month-winning TV showrunner. She co-created and showran the Emmy-winning Danger and Eggs for Amazon Prime Video, which was also a Critics Choice and GLAAD nomination. She executive produced Twelve Forever for Netflix and the upcoming live- action, gender-bending sci-fi series Forever Alone with Adaptive Studios. She most recently directed the live-action comedy pilot, Let’s Go Atsuko for Quibi, and her show, Pretty Cursed, is in development at Circle of Confusion TV. She was the animation supervisor for all 72 episodes of the hit show Yo Gabba Gabba.

Show Highlights:

• Why Shadi is intensely passionate about making stuff like comics, art, games, designs, visual effects, and TV writing
• Why Shadi’s personal brand of intensity is “clownish with a Willy Wonka vibe”
• How Shadi grew up living a series of ADHD cliches, being a daydreamer and a nerd later in high school who loved theater and clubs
• In school, Shadi was bullied a lot and involved in many fights; she stayed in trouble, was an extrovert, and says she was never anyone’s favorite person
• Cultural factors that affected Shadi include growing up in rural Montana and then a military kid who lived an isolated and classless existence in remote areas
• Why Shadi’s childhood affected what she thought was possible in pursuing dreams
• How Shadi didn’t have to tone down or tune herself out as a kid, but has had to learn as an adult to handle conflict, deal with people, and tackle her intense irritability
• How Shadi has handled her executive functioning issues in managing other people
• How Shadi uses her fire for good in making TV shows with queer kids and doing fulfilling work that matters, especially when it comes to justice sensitivity
• What Shadi has noticed about the evolution of TV shows in the representation of trans folks and other marginalized groups
• How Shadi’s creativity was affected by the pandemic and quarantine
• How Shadi harnesses the power of her intensity by making lists, going to therapy, DBT, and new medications; she has also tried to cut down on stressful jobs and prioritize leisure time
• How Shadi helps others use their fire by helping young writers, teaching, and working with kids
• Why it’s tough to be vulnerable online

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I once again had other plans for this episode but I realized I've hit survival mode for the school year. Every year since 8th grade, I've had what I called Spring Fever when I'd crash at the end of the school year. I've come to realize that it's the fatigue that comes from over taxing my executive functioning skills for too long. 

Add a pandemic, last minute taxes, aging hormones, unfavorable med change and adapting to my son's new schedule getting up earlier Mondays, and my brain's pretty much toast today!

In this episode: 

• My creativity and new thought currently dried up
• Meds are like brain glasses
• Giving grace through the end of school
• I'm opening up some 1:1 spots for coaching and adult learning assessment
• An exciting collaborating to revamp my website with more info on how that looks this summer!
• Threadless sale 15% off and just added all of Jays Workshop squirrel merch!
• Call recording for Breaking the Stress Cycle available in the Embracing Intensity Community
• Next call on Asyncronous Dev in Gifted Adults with Tiffany Chhuom

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Today’s guest had all the markers of traditional success, an Ivy League Education, letters after her name and a well paying career, but she realized she was miserable because she was not being authentic to herself. She broke out of the medical system to help people in a more holistic way. Join us!

Dr. Zarya Rubin is a Harvard-educated physician and certified health and wellness coach who is passionate about helping people heal through functional medicine. She partners with her clients to get to the root cause of symptoms and create a roadmap to wellness.

Show Highlights:

• Why Zarya considers herself a “multipotentialite” who is passionate about many interests and has engaged her entrepreneurial qualities in many varied careers
• How Zarya’s love of opera singing has fared during the time of COVID
• Zarya’s personal brand of intensity means that she has always been “a lot,” but seemed like a “garden variety normal intense person” during her time in NYC
• Why she is intense about political activism and her many passions but has learned to be quieter as she has aged and come into the coaching space, learning to live a slower paced life on the west coast
• How Zarya’s intensity has transformed over the years as she grew up as a shy and quiet child
• How the acceleration from kindergarten to 3rd grade in one year led to Zarya’s inner struggle with darkness and anxiety
• The disastrous outcome of Zarya’s acceleration in school leading her to become a burnt out gifted kid
• Cultural factors that influenced Zarya stemmed from her very Jewish, very intense, and very loud family
• How Zarya had to tone down and tune out for decades to make herself more acceptable to women in friendships and men in relationships, which also meant she dumbed down her education and career
• How Zarya’s intensity never appeared out of control outwardly, but she inwardly dealt with anxiety and PTSD
• How Zarya uses her relentless pursuit of answers and solutions for the good of her clients and her family
• How Zarya’s husband helped her gain a new perspective on social media posts
• What parents of gifted kids really want
• How Zarya harnesses the power of her intensity by embracing, recognizing, acknowledging, and accepting it
• How Zarya’s goal as a coach is working with women in midlife to help them find their spark, joy, and passion again

Resources:

Wild Lilac Wellness

Visit Zarya’s website to get her FREE Guide to Becoming Stress-Proof

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I've observed a lot of themes around integration and disintegration recently so I thought it would be a good time to do a quick overview of Kazmier's Dabrowski's theory of Positive Disintegration.

You can find a more comprehensive overview on ep. 154: On Positive Disintegration with Chris Wells, and my Blog Post “Finding Treasure in Ruins.”

Dabrowski believes that intensity/excitability is a sign of high developmental potential, and neuroses, which we might call neurodiversity, anxiety, existential depression etc., can be positive if they move us towards our higher selves. 

In this episode:

• 3 factors of positive development
• Dynamisms are the inner and outer forces that drive our actions.
• 5 types of integration and disintegration
• Resources on integration
• 5 Types of overexcitability
• Thoughts on Integration
• Over identification and/or rejection of certain parts of our identity
• What is Dabrowski's Sweater?
• Getting your conflicting parts to communicate with each other.

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Today’s show focuses on strategies for success. My guest combines her late-in-life diagnoses, training, and experience to help clients accomplish their goals.

Maaya Hitomi is an ADHD coach and academic strategist who supports ADHD, autistic, and otherwise neurodivergent clients to build strategies for better coping. At Structured Success, Maaya’s own coaching and consultation practice, she builds upon her Master’s training in psychology, her experience as a coach, and her lived experience as a neurodivergent person. Being ADHD, autistic, and dyslexic herself, Maaya credits her academic and professional success to the coping strategies she learned along the way. Focused on collaboratively building individualized coping strategies to support her clients, Maaya helps them make the healthiest thing the easiest thing.

Show Highlights:

• Why Maaya is intensely passionate about giving people tools to understand how their minds work as she teaches coping strategies and learns alongside them
• How her mom didn’t acknowledge Maaya’s ADHD early on, and her official ADHD, autism, and dyslexia diagnoses didn’t come until her university years
• In school, Maaya was always seeking to learn more and caused problems because of being bullied and feeling socially awkward
• Cultural factors that affected Maaya include her privileged upbringing in the suburbs and gifted programs at school
• Why Maaya’s intensity is less of a problem now because it’s been identified and accepted
• How Maaya was always “too everything” in elementary school, so she put her head down and spent some lonely years in high school, which was the worst thing she could have done
• How Maaya’s intensity got out of control when she stood up to a bully and was overwhelmed into shutdown mode--an act that had far-reaching effects
• How Maaya uses her fire for good by using her personal acceptance and sharing her knowledge and experience with her clients
• How Maaya has collected “nuggets of truth” along the way and developed coping strategies that she can share with clients
• How Maaya helps others use their fire by bringing strategies and options to them with which to fashion a workable system

Resources:

Connect with Maaya: Structured Success

Find Maaya on Twitter: @structuredsucc

Find Maaya on TikTok and Instagram

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I’m super thrilled to share the recording of Nneka Coxeff’s talk on Writing to Heal from this month’s guest community call! You can find the full discussion in the Embracing Intensity Community!

The wRITE to Heal Project was developed by founder and editor-in-chief of BLP magazine, Nneka D. Coxeff. As a Master Life Coach and Empowerment Practitioner, she offers transformative writing classes, workshops and wellness retreats to gently guide clients through the raw emotions of grief caused by loss, tragedy and transition.

About Nneka:

Nneka D. Coxeff is the founder and Editor-in-Chief of Black Lace + Pearls magazine, a creative and healing arts publication devoted to empowering women around the globe to live out their divine purpose. A by-product of BLP magazine is her wRITE to Heal Project where she hosts writing workshops and wellness retreats in order to guide guests through the emotions of grief caused by death, tragedy and trauma.

Through writing prompts, exercises and discussion, she assists guests in breaking free from the torture caused by unanswered questions and the sin of blame. She encourages them to sit with the pain and to own all their emotions in order to move through them and acquire some clarity and guidance. Nneka understands that relationships can be devastating to the soul when abruptly interrupted. However, she believes that it is our relationship with Self that needs to be strengthened in order to understand and to move forward.

As a consultant, she helps her clients put voice to their truths, experiences and life lessons learned along the way in order to help them heal and to inspire others as well. Everyone has a story to tell and it is Nneka's mission to help individuals value their journey, own their truth and stake claim to a more enlightened tomorrow. Writing has been a tool of healing throughout her journey and it is through this artful gift that she assists others along their path of ascension. You can find out more about Nneka and her wRITE to Heal Project at: blacklaceandpearls.com/write-to-heal.html

This is a part of our 2021 Embracing Intensity Community Speaker Series.

You can find the full discussion recording in the Embracing Intensity Community. You can support this work by joining the community, or supporting us on Patreon!

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Write to Heal Project web page

Follow Nneka!

Facebook

Twitter

Instagram

Support the wRITE to Heal Project on Patreon! Link Coming Soon!

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Have you ever felt like you were taking up too much space? My guest today shares how he moved from talking up space wherever he went to channeling his own unique powers to bring out the best in others. Join us!

Landon Young is someone I met on TikTok, which is unique as a social media platform that allows people to connect across social groups that might not normally interact. Landon describes himself as a “regular guy” who enjoys what he does as a North American Digital Brand Manager at Nike.

Show Highlights:

• Why Landon is intensely passionate about sneakers, storytelling, his dream job at Nike, playing guitar, and spending time with his wife and daughter
• How Landon’s personal brand of intensity includes empathy and passion as someone who is relentless and focused on the process
• Growing up, Landon was always labeled as gifted and was supported by his parents
• How Landon overcompensated for his issues with giftedness before medication helped him find balance
• How cultural factors affected Landon as he grew up in a Mormon home;
• He had a strong desire to excel but didn’t know how to process and regulate emotions
• How Landon finds joy in discovering connections with others
• How Landon has to tone himself down frequently--something he didn’t know how to do when he was younger: “I took up too much space and didn’t know how to channel my superpowers.”
• How Landon learned to recognize the moments when he tends to get out of control
• How Landon uses his fire for good as an “energy giver,” which he feels is his calling in life
• How Landon loves helping others at Nike as he teaches retail employees about new products and innovations and creates campaigns for product launches
• Habits that help Landon harness the power of his intensity include meditation, lots of water, and healthy supplements
• How Landon benefitted from the book, Essentialism by Greg McKeown
• How Landon helps others with true leadership, which is recognizing their potential, tapping into it, and finding what they are good at
• Landon’s parting advice: “Learn to acknowledge and leverage your ADHD in ways that build up your life with a superpower for balance and happiness.”

Where to Find Landon:

Instagram: @HeyitsLando

Tik-Tok - @heyitslando90

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This week is a bit late and short again, but it's for a great reason! I hyper focused on a project the last two days that's ready to share as a collaborative effort!

The 2E Hub!

A place for gifted, creative and twice exceptional folks to share, learn and explore!

Links:

2E Hub

Free Workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

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My guest today shares the keen awareness he’s developed of his ADHD diagnosis and how it impacts his life. Join us to hear the story of the good he’s doing in the world.

Ross Watt hosts the International ADHD Party on Twitter and is one of the ADHD-Hub co-creators. He’s working hard to make a difference for kids and adults with ADHD.

Show Highlights:

• Why Ross is intensely passionate about ADHD, writing poems, and encouraging others
• How Ross’ personal brand of intensity means being hyper-focused with a chip on his shoulder and always investigating things in deeper ways
• How Ross grew up being strong-willed, determined (especially when told he couldn’t do something), opinionated, and argumentative
• How Ross’ parents nicknamed him “Half-a-job,” which was a dig that led him to compare himself to others and find that he didn’t measure up
• How Ross’ adolescent years were a big contradiction
• How Ross has had to tone himself down and tune himself out when he knows he shouldn’t say something but feels like he will explode
• How Ross has had to learn when to speak up and when to be quiet
• How Ross’ intensity got out of control when he left his parents’ house at age 16, determined to prove everybody wrong
• How Ross uses his fire for good, helping others with diplomacy and patience
• How Ross helps others develop their ideas and disprove their opinions of themselves
• How Ross formed the habit of not telling others what he will do--just in case he doesn’t follow through
• Why Ross is very set in daily routines
• How Ross helps others by being honest and giving them belief in themselves
• How to figure out if you’re a “carrot” or “stick” person

Resources:

Connect with Ross:

Twitter: ADHD

ADHD-Hub

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This week I get to share the talk from our March guest call is on Honoring Your Sensitivity with Leah Walsh. You can find the full discussion and video in the Embracing Intensity Community!

In Sanskrit there are 96 words for love. I seriously wish we had that many words in English for the word sensitivity! A word whose origins mean "capable of feeling and sensation," what does being sensitive mean in today's culture?

Join us for this creative exploration of sensitivity, how sensitivity is a shared trait across neurodivergent experiences, and how curiosity and community can help in honoring your own sensitivity.

About Leah:

Leah Walsh (she/her) is motivated by one desire: to support conscious and creative people to uncover their unique potential and bring that light into the world. Leah sees every human as a beautiful and unique flower in life’s garden, but being your own flower can be hard work! It means cultivating a strong mind, deep roots, and a clear heart to allow your flower to grow, adapt, & bloom. Leah’s work as a Life Coach supports people to do just this. Her signature coaching programs support highly sensitive, neurodivergent, and introverted leaders to ground their confidence, cultivate deep-rooted belonging and awaken their unique impact. To learn more about Leah’s work, visit leahkwalsh.com

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Free Workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

Leah's Website

Future Embracing Intensity Events

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Today’s show focuses on support for highly sensitive and introverted leaders. Join us to learn more!

Leah Walsh is a speaker and life coach who is motivated by the desire to support conscious and creative people in uncovering their potential and bringing their light into the world. Leah sees every human as a beautiful and unique flower in life’s garden, but she knows that being your own flower can be hard work. It means cultivating a strong mind, deep roots, and a clear heart to allow your flower to grow, adapt, and bloom. Leah’s work as a life coach supports people in these ways. Her signature coaching programs support highly sensitive, neuro-divergent, and introverted leaders to ground their confidence, cultivate deep-rooted belonging, and awaken their unique impact.

Show Highlights:

• Why Leah is intensely passionate about staying grounded, exploring belonging, and speaking truth with honesty and love
• How Leah grew up in a very neurodivergent family where her parents were supportive of the differences in the way their kids were wired
• How the culture of service in Leah’s family gave her a profound capacity to feel empathy for others and have a strong bond and connection to the land where she lives
• How Leah feels and connects through relationships
• How Leah had to tone herself down when she didn’t have the language to describe what she was going through
• Why she found ways to give herself permission to be real and authentic
• How journaling helps Leah identify what she is feeling
• Why it’s important to tune into your body
• How Leah uses her fire for good in her life coaching practice
• Why self-compassion is essential in Leah’s practice as a life coach
• How Leah works as a “shame extractor”
• How Leah helps others use their own fire by using the acronym DOES
• How COVID has cracked open new possibilities
• How Leah resonates with neurodiversity and how we embrace our beauty and intensity

Resources:

Leah K. Walsh

Visit Leah’s website for more information on her seasonal meetup, The Brave Intender Club.

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This week's episode is a fairly quick one as I got inspired for a new project this week and went down a hyper focus rabbit hole for days! 

In this episode:

• Update on my latest project & upcoming course.
• Do it yourself mentality.
• Being a maker, not a marketer.

Links:

Free Harness Your Power Workbook

Adult Learning Assessment

Embracing Intensity Community

Community Events Calendar

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Today’s guest launched into the world of twice-exceptionality because of the unique strengths and challenges that came with parenting her two sons, now teenagers. Her work now meets the needs of kids like her sons, along with helping other parents and educators through her therapy practice, support groups, and parenting programs. Join us to learn more!

Debbie Steinberg Kuntz is the founder of the Bright & Quirky Summit, which features fantastic guest speakers and leading experts on “everything twice-exceptional” for parents and educators. Debbie is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in twice-exceptional (2E) kids and families. Her annual Bright & Quirky Child Online Summit attracts over 15,000 people from 95 countries, and the 2021 version is coming up in just a few days. It’s a free resource, and you can sign up now by using the link in our Resources section below.

Show Highlights:

• Why Debbie is intensely passionate about unlocking the world of twice-exceptionality
• Why Debbie’s relationship with intensity borders on workaholism and being “tenacious to the point of imbalance”
• How intensity affected her family as she grew up, and why she readily recognizes the strengths and challenges of twice-exceptionality in parenting her two children
• As a parent, Debbie looks for teachers who have raised boys before
• How Debbie wants to empower parents in the way they view their child against our cookie-cutter educational system
• How Debbie learned to embrace uniquely wired people as a Jew growing up in America
• How parents can talk to their kids about being 2E
• What Debbie has discovered about the line between asynchronous development and twice-exceptionality
• Why Debbie is a huge fan of neuropsychological assessments
• Her advice for parents about finding professional help
• How Debbie harnesses the power of her intensity through the polyvagal theory and asks, “Why?” and “Why now?”
• Debbie’s best advice about parenting comes from Kristin Neff, who says, “Talk to yourself like you would talk to a best friend.”
• How Debbie helps others use their fire by teaching them to pursue the intersection of what they are good at and what they enjoy
• The Bright & Quirky Summit 2021, coming in a few days; it features 29 experts tackling the timely theme of “Taming the Overwhelm”

Resources:

Debbie’s website: Bright And Quirky

Sign up for the March 8-12, 2021 summit

Find out about last year’s summit: Bright And Quirky

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I’m excited to share our first guest call for the 2021 season in the Embracing Intensity Community with Brendan Mahan, of ADHD Essentials, on the Wall of Awful!

From Brendan’s website:

“Everyone fails. Some, like those with executive function challenges, fail more than others.

Each failure brings negative emotions – guilt, disappointment. These smaller emotions become stronger feelings of anxiety, shame and even loneliness if one is repeatedly rejected because of their errors. Each time these negative emotions are experienced, another brick is placed into that person’s Wall of Awful.

The Wall of Awful is the emotional barrier that prevents us from initiating tasks and taking the risks necessary to make reach our goals. It is the emotional consequence of having ADHD and it must be understood to be overcome.

Let me help you climb your Wall of Awful™.

Get the free e-book “5 Ways to Overcome The Wall of Awful” here!”

In this episode:

• Who is Brendan?
• What is the Wall of Awful?
• How do we get past the Wall of Awful?
• Brendan's perspective on ADHD
• Being a leader and creating your own narratives around neurodiversity.

Links:

Brendan's Website

Embracing Intensity Community

Free Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

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I found today’s guest in a most unusual place! It was on TikTok that I first noticed her work with gifted and twice-exceptional people, and I knew I had to get her on the show.

Dr. Kimberly Douglass is president and CEO of Remote Learning Solutions. She coaches neurodivergent PhDs/EdDs on the personal, social, and technical aspects of career and entrepreneurship. In addition to moving clients from deficit-based to strengths-based thinking, she helps PhDs/EdDs develop content across a range of subjects. She helps clients deliver content in the form of ebooks, online courses, workbooks, journals, workshops, and more. Dr. Douglass bases her coaching practice on five values: empathy, justice, love, neurodiversity, and purpose. She worked in higher education for over 17 years in various roles and earned a PhD in political science in 2009 and tenured in Information Sciences in 2016 at the University of Tennessee Knoxville. Her teaching and scholarship have developed at the intersection of information science and political behavior.

Show Highlights:

• Why Kimberly is intensely passionate about coaching and mentoring neurodivergent adults
• How the same issues in our schools with kids are showing up for adults in the workplace
• Why people are taught to believe in a fake meritocracy
• How giftedness means different things for different people
• How Kimberly’s personal brand of intensity is thinking about things in different ways, deep thoughts and issues that can turn into depression, and loving information and data
• Growing up, Kimberly felt her intensity through acting goofy and humorous and always being presentable to white culture
• The distinction between management and leadership
• Cultural factors that affected Kimberly as she grew up in a black Baptist church, being told that she “shouldn’t speak up for herself,” and seeing Christianity as a tool of enslavement
• How Kimberly had to tune herself out and tone herself down when she worked at a university with mean, accusatory people
• Why she feels her intensity getting out of control when she feels dismissed or undervalued
• What made Kimberly take a different look at herself and her son regarding giftedness
• How she uses her fire for good in believing people
• Habits that help Kimberly harness the power of her intensity are tools that organize her thoughts and life
• How she helps others use their fire for good by trying to be neutral and helping people look for affirmation, values, principles, mission, and goals
• Kimberly’s advice: “Take the risk. Find someone who will help you take the risk. Realize that not moving and standing still is also risky; it’s just risky in a different way.”

Resources:

Website: Dr. Kimberly Douglass

Facebook: Kimberly Douglass

TikTok: Dr. Kimberly Douglass

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I've been hearing a lot more comments lately along the lines of "I relate to your work, but I'm not really gifted." In this episode of Embracing Intensity, I discuss why gifted folks might not recognize their own gifts and some resources to explore if you suspect you might be gifted.

In this episode:

• 5 Reasons gifted folks might not think they are really gifted.
• My own experience and why I actually believed it despite underachievement.
• 3 of my favorite books & resources to explore potential giftedness.

Links:

Your Rainforest Mind, Paula Prober

The Gifted Adult, Mary-Elaine Jacobsen PsyD

Searching For Meaning, James Webb

Embracing Intensity Community

Free Workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

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I’m excited to share today’s show with you. My guest has an interesting perspective as an obviously gifted person who has dyslexia. Her experience is fascinating, but there is so much more to her story and work. Join us!

Brenda Bryan is a kickass inspirational speaker and The Diviner of Human Potential. As a transformational coach and Mastermind facilitator, she supports women to unmask and nurture their genius, empowering them to live in the strength of their passion. Teaching through the Raise Your Voice Speaker’s Club, one-on-one workshops, and stages around the country, Brenda demonstrates authentic, warm-hearted humor with a deep wealth of knowledge of the importance of communication in feminine power. Brenda began working in her passion of building community and supporting women in the early 70s. Graduating with a degree in communications, she became active in the women’s movement. Through her activism, she acquired lasting skills in group processing, facilitation, and leadership. She facilitates ritual and teaches sacred art through drum-making and other creative works. For the past 45 years, Brenda has continued to build her toolkit to support women’s empowerment. Most recently, she was inspired to be the founder and CEO of It Must Be Said Productions, which is a platform for stories that need telling, a venue for social change. She believes the weaving together of creativity, innovation, and invention invites future visioning.

Show Highlights:

• Why Brenda is intensely passionate about feminism, helping women claim their place at the table, communication, ritual, and loving and nurturing ourselves
• Why Brenda’s personal brand of intensity involves anger over injustices and inequalities in our social order and environment, along with radical self-care and a questioning of authority
• Why Brenda wasn’t well-liked as she grew up because she would speak up and call people out
• Her learning challenges included trouble with reading, spelling, and writing due to dyslexia and being told she wasn’t “smart enough”
• How Brenda has seen positive outcomes from her journey with new possibilities as a creative thinking problem solver
• How bigotry and prejudice against gay relationships set a tone for how and where she expressed herself
• How Brenda had to reinvent how she shows up and expresses herself in a “conscious becoming”
• How her intensity gets out of control when it’s heightened in relationships when boundaries are violated, but she has learned to manage and direct her passion and anger
• How Brenda uses her fire to help other women who are looking to become more
• How Brenda harnesses the power of her intensity with consistency of thought as she evolves as a human who adventures and takes risks in becoming
• How the personal habits of meditation, drumming, ritual, and spending time in nature help Brenda
• The best advice she ever received is two-part: “Stand up when you fall down,” and “There are no mistakes, only opportunities to learn.”
• Books that have influenced Brenda: Learning to Heal Yourself by Louise Hay, The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, and Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
• How Brenda helps others by loving people where they are and helping them go where they want to go
• Parting words from Brenda: “Embrace your intensity. There is an infinite purpose in who you are and what you bring to the table.”

Resources:

Connect with Brenda:

www.brendarbryan.com

Email: brendarbryan@gmail.com

Phone: 503-728-8700

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A couple of weeks ago I participated in an event called Camp ADHD, where folks around the world shared talks and discussion on topics related to ADHD. I spoke about twice-exceptionality, specifically as it relates to ADHD, and the topic seemed to resonate with a lot of folks, so I decided ot share it on the podcast as well!

In this episode:

• Why the topic of twice exceptionality is important to me.
• Why it’s important to talk about twice exceptionality.
• Why it often goes overlooked.
• How to recognize when you might be both gifted and ADHD.
• Common themes from assessing 2E ADHD students.
• Strategies that might help if you fit this profile.

Links:

Camp ADHD on YouTube

Embracing Intensity Community

Free Workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

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My guest today is twice exceptional and was recently diagnosed with ADHD. She’s super vocal about many things, including social justice, dressing up as Elsa for storytime, and showcasing her great style. Fortunately for me, she lives in my area, so I hope to meet her in person very soon!

Dusti Arab is an entrepreneur and writer who leads the reinvention co., a boutique marketing agency specializing in building platforms and courses for mission-driven women. Dusti is currently writing a book, Braver Than Before: A Roadmap for Investigating Big Life Changes.

Show Highlights:

• How Dusti is intensely passionate about--everything she believes in! She loves to make sure people have access to what they need, including music and art
• Her personal brand of intensity includes being opinionated, drawing the right people closer, and setting boundaries
• How Dusti’s late ADHD diagnosis and twice-exceptionality manifested themselves in her drive to be an overachiever
• Why Dusti’s company is called the reinvention co.
• How Dusti grew up in Oregon, in a very white, very backwoods family in which race issues weren’t acceptable to talk about
• How Dusti loved to escape into another person through musical theater
• How she looked for other role models other than her mother and even tried a conservative Baptist church that resulted in her atheistic views
• How her intensity was out of control in her erratic job history and string of unfinished business projects
• How she went through postpartum depression, which resulted in the most intensity in her life
• How Dusti uses her fire for good in working with people and firms who help women and minorities get elected, along with bridging gaps caused by systematic injustice
• How Dusti learned to manage herself through a productivity system
• How Dusti is busy finishing the first draft of her book
• Personal habits that help with her intensity are getting enough exercise and time-blocking
• Regarding advice, Dusti admits that she was told a lot of things over the years that weren’t true--and she realizes it now
• Books that were helpful for Dusti: The Awakening by Kate Chopin and Everything in its Place by Dan Charnas
• How Dusti works as an amplifier and connector to build a platform to help women spread their big ideas
• Dusti’s upcoming event on January 22

Resources:

Find out more about Dusti and her work: The Reinvention

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This week I wanted to take a moment to share about the upcoming plans I have for the year to help gifted, creative and outside the box thinkers connect and realize their potential. 

In this episode:

• Upcoming topics and speakers for the Embracing Intensity Community.
• Refreshing my website Adult Learning Assessment and Coaching information.
• Creating lots of fun and hopefully useful content.

Links:

My first Comic!

Embracing Intensity Community

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Today’s show focuses on highly sensitive people. My guest loves helping HSPs uncover the layers of conditioning put on them by society and bloom in their uniqueness. Join us to learn more.

Julia R. Wild is a bestselling author, spiritual teacher, and trauma educator with a Master’s degree in psychology. She’s also a writing, creativity, and life coach. Her first self-help book for sensitives became an Amazon #1 bestseller, and she’s a TEDxMileHigh Blogger. Julia loves helping highly sensitive and empath children and women find their soulful, powerful voice. Part of her work also helps parents of highly sensitive children better relate to their kids. Julia enjoys disrupting conformity and subverting the dominant paradigms so people can express their unique, sovereign creativity and live extraordinary lives. She is a big believer in writing for healing and embracing the shadow as much as the light. She has two projects slated for publication soon, including her Master’s thesis on autism from a spiritual perspective.

Show Highlights:

• Why is Julia intensely passionate about her creativity, being an “old soul,” helping people find their voice, social justice, equality, and animals
• How Julia grew up in a household with extreme abuse and dysfunction in Manhattan but attended an all-girls private school
• How Julia’s personal brand of intensity involves being direct and blunt with a heightened sensory perception of sounds and smells
• Growing up, Julia’s intensity made everything more pressurized and challenging because of her toxic home and stuffy school
• How Julia’s cultural factors involved growing up in the rich environment of NYC, which gave her perspective and helped her be open-minded
• Why Julia has to water down what she says and writes
• How her intensity gets out of control with things she finds too stimulating
• How Julia uses her fire for good to help sensitives set boundaries and self-advocate
• Julia’s Master’s thesis, which gives a new, more balanced perspective to autism
• How Julia harnesses the power of her intensity with self-care, valuing her capacity for depth, and using her intensity in service to others
• Personal habits that help Julia are writing, channeling energy, and finding an appropriate use of humor
• The best advice Julia ever received:
  • From Maya Angelou: “When someone shows you who they are, pay attention the first time.”
  • From the Buddha: “Don’t believe anything because you heard it. Find out for yourself.”
  • “You’ve gotta risk it to get the biscuit.”
• Books that Julia recommends: Proof of Heaven by Eben Alexander, Walden, by Henry David Thoreau, Citizen by Claudia Rankine, and The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
• How Julia helps others use their fire by “unconditioning” people and undoing the layers of conditioning that have been put on them by society
• Parting words from Julia: “Honor your sensitivity. If you’re weird or different, stay weird or different. It’s healing to tell your story, so value it.”

Resources:

Find Julia and her work: Julia Rose Wild

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This is the final rerun episode for December before we launch into a new season of interviews, solo episodes and amazing guest speakers!

Love is the very fabric of the universe, and I get so excited when I see someone using their intensity to spread the love around. My guest this week is Alexandra Loves, and I actually approached a year ago to be on the show. I’m so glad we decided to wait until now, because my connection with Alexandra has grown and bloomed during that time, giving us plenty to talk about! Alexandra is a Love Attraction Coach, Intuitive Spiritual Guide, and Entrepreneur. She is on a mission to catalyze creative power, and use her intuitive spirituality to guide her clients into their best existence. In everything she does, Alexandra is all about harnessing the power of that abundant universal fabric from which everything is made, Love.

Today, Alexandra and I are talking about how intensity can be a force for good, for love, and for large-scale transformation. Because of her international upbringing, Alexandra feels comfortable talking to just about anyone. Added to that, she never felt the need for all the labels and stereotypes in the world today, yet the world seems inclined to want to place them on everyone. Rather than let that be the reason for toning herself down, Alexandra has fully embraced who she is and what she stands for. Now she is using her gifts to help people find love, find meaning, and find who they really are.

Alexandra is teaching us today how to use our intuition. Once we begin listening, nothing can hold us back, and we can only increase our impact on what is going on around us. Alexandra says it best, “We are changing the world right now.”

More in this episode:

• Alexandra shares why she is so committed to understanding her gifts and using them for a higher purpose.
• Alexandra is on a search of Absolute Truth, and she is OK with that definition evolving over time.
• In love, Alexandra embraces the “Wise Beyond Her Years” label.
• Much of Alexandra’s practice deals with reconciling gender expectations within men and women.
• Alexandra is on a mission to help us understand the dangers instant gratification.
• The cultural factors that have shaped Alexandra’s ability to embrace her intensity and her racial identity.
• The segregation and racial terms that put shackles around Alexandra’s neck.
• Alexandra toned herself down in terms of dating and intensity.
• How Alexandra realized she couldn’t tone herself down anymore.
• Everyone struggles under assumptions and stereotypes, and we need to be aware of that!
• Alexandra was able to heal from a damaging relationship because of her incredible support system and her own intuition.
• What habits Alexandra uses to fuel her fire.
• Alexandra helps women do the hard work of diving deep within themselves.
• Learn to recognize when you are being diminished.

Visit my Embracing Intensity Patreon Page for weekly reflection questions and other self-exploration tools!

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This December I’m sharing reruns of some of my favorite episodes from 2018. This one is from one of my all time hero’s René Brooks of Black Girl, Lost Keys. She was super amazing when I interviewed her and since then her following has absolutely blown up! I remember being excited for her last Christmas time when she hit 10 K followers on Twitter and now she’s grown exponentially with over 36 K. She’s also lined up a book deal and has a ton of other amazing projects in the works.

She’s also created 6 amazing workbooks on topics relevant to folks with ADHD including cleaning, time perception and “Guarding Your Yes,” and added a variety of great products to her store from T-shirts to fidgets and more! She now started gift cards just in time for the holidays. You can find it all on her website at blackgirllostkeys.com

What I’m most incredibly grateful to René for is bringing awareness to the topic of Twice Exceptionality.

Did you know that you could help somebody by just being honest and transparent about who and how you are? It's such a validating experience to know that somebody really gets you. Today's interview is with René Brooks. René's been a typical ADHD personality for as long as she can remember, losing keys, books, homework, and even her glasses sometimes when they were on her face! Although she was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of eleven, she never received any treatment for it until she was twenty-five. So her experience of learning that she had something real and that it could be worked with, started at that point. Listen in to find out what René has to share today, about growing up as a gifted person with ADHD.

René created a blog, Black Girl Lost Keys, with the intention of sharing the experience of receiving a diagnosis of ADHD later in life, while being part of a demographic that is still mostly skeptical about mental illness. ADHD and giftedness are not mutually exclusive, and many people don't realize that, so it was often hard for René to be understood while growing up. Listen in today to hear her talking about the ups and downs of her life growing up with ADHD, and how she channels her intensity, her fire, and her passions.

Show highlights:

• What's lacking in the world of neurodiversity.
• The similar experiences of people with ADHD within René's particular cultural dynamic.
• What René Remembers most vividly about being a gifted child.
• Being understood, and taken in context, has become more important to René than whether she's liked or not by someone.
• René discusses her ethical stance regarding politics, power, and the abuse of power.
• René has had to learn to pull herself back at times, as she can alienate people with her 'correctness'.
• Why René doesn't speak about the experiences of other people.
• What ally-ship in action really ought to look like.
• We tend to make things so much more complicated than we need to.
• René had a difficult time growing up as gifted, with ADHD.
• People often don't understand that giftedness and ADHD are not mutually exclusive.
• We really need to make space in the world for people who don't follow convention.
• The ridicule that can come from not conforming to cultural norms.
• The story of Henrietta Lacks.
• The way that black people have been exploited and made to suffer in the past by the medical community.
• More honesty and transparency in people would ultimately result in less suffering.

Links and Resources:

René on all social media: Black Girl Lost Keys

Black Girl Lost Keys Blog

ADHD Essentials Podcast

Books mentioned:

The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, by Rebecca Skloot.

Far From The Tree, by Andrew Solomon

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Continuing reruns for some of my favorite episodes from season 2 for this December! This week, I'm sharing my interview with Kate Arms!

I met today’s special guest, Kate Arms, at the SENG conference recently and was so inspired by her talk entitled "Thriving with Intensity: Mining The Magic From Your Overexcitabilities” that I knew Kate would be the perfect fit for the podcast. Kate is a classic overthinker, high achiever, and multipotentialite who exudes intensity. She gets bored easily as evidenced by a career that includes being a lawyer, an arts administrator, a coach to parents of gifted and twice-exceptional kids and gifted and twice-exceptional adults, and an Agile Coach in a high tech company. She is an eager student of western secular developments from Buddhist philosophy and practices and the Theory of Positive Disintegration and the author of the Extreme Resilience Workbook, L.I.F.T.: A Coach Approach to Parenting, Unblock: Writing Prompts for Works in Progress, and award winning short stories in the literary fiction and horror genres. She hosts two podcasts: Kate’s Nuggets features short episodes with advice on living well drawn from the worlds of coaching, leadership development, and psychology; Leadership Arts Review features conversations with leadership coaches about books about good leadership and the ideas in them. But what really lights her fire is being silly with her four amazing kids.

More in this episode:

• Kate’s shares details about her personal intensity.
• Factors that affected Kate’s intensity while growing up
• Kate describes ways her intensity could feel out of control in the past.
• Channeling ways of questioning others
• Using leadership thinking to question self
• How theater can help intense individuals.
• No one person will have all the answers for you.
• Kate’s personal practices
• The personal passion that fuels Kate's intensity
• The magic question

Resources Mentioned in the Show:

How to donate to help keep the podcast going via Patreon

website: Thrive With Intensity

website: Parents of Twice Exceptional Kids

website: Signal Fire Coaching

Signal Fire Coaching on Facebook

Signal Fire Coaching on Twitter

Undoing Depression, by Richard O’Connor

Making It All Work, David Allen

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This December, I'm continuing the tradition of sharing reruns of some of my favorite episodes, this time from Season 2. This episode is with Arianna Bradford. Since I last spoke to her, Arianna has been busy. She has dissolved the NYAM project and now writes and speaks to groups of parents for a living. Her book, Shame on You, Big Truths from a Bad Mom, was independently released July 7, and it’s been widely regarded as a fun, honest book for parents. She’s currently working on her second book, and is in the midst of relocating to Florida. You can find out more about her book, schedule her for events, and more at: theariannabradford.com

Is your personality way too big for most people to handle? And do you find yourself sometimes trying to become smaller than you really are? Today we're super excited to have Arianna Bradford join us on the show! Arianna was the founder and lead editor of the Not Your Average Mom (NYAM) Project, which is dedicated to celebrating strong women outside of the role of motherhood. Arianna really loves to talk and to express the ideas that she has going on in her head. She often found herself trying to curb the amount of talking she did when she was in high school, but it seldom worked for longer than ten minutes. Listen in today to find out what Arianna has to share about her passion and her fire.

Arianna was raised in a small town in Florida and spent the first twenty years of her life there. She thought that she would never leave. Due to unexpected circumstances, however, she moved to Texas and stayed there for about six years. During that time, she met her husband and they had two children, Miles and Charlie. Arianna, her husband, and their two young children now live in Happy Valley, Oregon. When she's not busy writing something or photographing people, Arianna enjoys reading, playing video games, or trying to sleep. Listen in today to find out more about Arianna and her brand of intensity.

Show highlights:

• During the time that she was living in Texas, her desire to capture images of her small son rekindled Arianna's interest in photography.
• Arianna loved the creative direction portion of photography when she started taking photos again, towards the end of 2014.
• The hard part of photography for Arianna then was that there was not a lot of money to be made from it in Austen.
• Discovering that she has a passion for working one-on-one with people, as a photographer- especially with women.
• Arianna's main focus is on helping women realize their own individual power and strength.
• What growing up was like for Arianna.
• Arianna was raised to think past what people would tell her.
• Being raised in a household with the attitude that you may as well be straightforward because people are going to judge you anyway.
• It took Arianna a long time to realize that sometimes it wasn't her chasing people away. It was their own prejudices and problems that did that.
• Arianna had to really try to curb her talking at high school, but it seldom worked for longer than ten minutes.
• Wanting to be smaller than she was.
• Most people believe that they need to be liked by as many people as possible.
• An anxious moment that Arianna had back in college when she was struggling socially.
• An incident that caused her anxiety and OCD to get out of control.
• Arianna believes that all emotions, even negative ones, can be channeled into something positive.
• She has made some of her greatest things in times of intense anger or sadness.
• The NYAM project was born of intense anger in Arianna.
• There are people who really identify with Arianna's writing.
• Art has really helped Arianna with harnessing the power of her intensity.
• Working hard on communication and trying to understand where other people are coming from.
• Remember that there's nothing wrong with being firey. People don't have to love you and it's okay for your fire to warm some people more than others.

Links:

Arianna’s Website

Arianna’s on Instagram

Arianna on Twitter

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In his book How To Be an Adult, David Richo refers to assertiveness as “owning your own power.” This is so important because one of the best things we can do to increase our energy is to increase our sense of power and reduce our feelings of powerlessness. The most crucial way to do this is by getting clear on what we want and asking for it.

In this episode:

• Assertiveness is owning your own power
• Passivity is giving your power away.
• Aggressiveness is changing power to control.
• You can use the four step STAR (Stop, Think, Act, Request) to communicate assertively.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Store

Embracing Intensity Community

Free workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

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Today’s guest made quite an impression on me when I found him on TikTok. His specialty is self-regulation, and he has found inspiring ways to teach his techniques to teachers and parents. Join us to learn more.

Chazz Lewis, aka “Mr. Chazz,” is a preschool teacher who currently focuses his talents on teaching teachers to teach. He’s a mentor and motivational speaker who also hosts the podcast, Mr. Chazz’s Leadership, Parenting, and Teaching.

Show Highlights:

• Why Mr. Chazz is intensely passionate about becoming the best version of himself and helping others do the same
• Why Mr. Chazz teaches self-regulation to parents and teachers
• Why we need to be careful to not “crush” someone’s superpower
• How Mr. Chazz’s personal brand of intensity means being in flow with his natural superpowers and giving and receiving energy from others
• How Mr. Chazz struggled in school, was always trying to catch up, and took ADHD medications that made him feel constricted
• The interpersonal battle over what people wanted for him vs. what he wanted as his own success
• How cultural factors affected how Mr. Chazz expressed himself, especially within the framework of his private Catholic school with a very specific discipline and structure
• The #1 lesson Mr. Chazz has learned: we need to adapt the way we teach to the way children learn instead of expecting them to adapt to the way we teach
• How Mr. Chazz has to tone down his curiosity by decreasing the number of questions he asks
• How Mr. Chazz has learned to know his likely triggers in certain situations so he can plan to pause and create a safe environment for his emotions
• How Mr. Chazz harnesses the power of his intensity through journaling and goal setting
• How Mr. Chazz helps others use their fire for good by helping them identify their fire
• The importance of finding your WHY--no matter how the circumstances change
• Final words from Mr. Chazz: “Spend a lot of time figuring out who you are and what lights you up.”

Resources:

Mr. Chazz Podcast

Mr. Chazz on Patreon

Website coming soon at Mr. Chazz

Find Mr. Chazz: TikTok: mrchazzmrchazz

Instagram: Mr Chazz Mr Chazz

Facebook: mrchazzmrchazz

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This week's episode is brief, with a quick update about my quarantine, exposure to Covid and awaiting our test results. 

In this episode:

• Barriers to early identification.
• Asymptomatic spread.
• Even when we follow all the rules, we can still get exposed.

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Today’s show brings inspiration and joy from my guest and her story. She’s doing great things in the world of gifted adults, bringing them together by highlighting their unique qualities. Join us to learn more!

Nadja Cereghetti is the host of the Unleash Monday podcast for gifted adults. Based in Switzerland, Nadja has a passion for learning new things, talking to people, science, and all things Marie Kondo. I’m thrilled to have discovered her podcast and to introduce her to you today!

Show Highlights:

• Why Nadja is intensely passionate about gifted adults and empowering women
• How Nadja’s personal brand of intensity always involved her being “too much” and “too loud”
• How Nadja learned in school and went through times of failure and times of success
• The cultural factors that affected Nadja growing up in Switzerland in being white and not being limited by gender
• Why traditional education isn’t necessary in Switzerland to get a good job or make a good living
• Why Nadja tones herself down by avoiding alcohol, mainly because no one can handle her uninhibited self
• How Nadja is able to control her intensity by practicing karate
• Why Nadja created her podcast to touch people, meet new people, and highlight unidentified gifted adults
• How the language around giftedness has evolved and developed
• How Nadja uses coping mechanisms to hide her dyslexia and gain confidence to reject other people’s opinions
• How Nadja received advice from her stepdad about not fitting in and having your own way of doing things, and why that’s perfectly acceptable
• How others’ perceptions of you change according to how you dress
• Books that have influenced Nadja: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, Joyful by Ingrid Fetell Lee, and The Book of Joy by the 14th Dalai Lama, Tenzin Gyatso, and Archbishop Desmond Tutu
• How Nadja helps others by creating a community and leading by example to show that a bubbly person can still achieve things in life
• How Nadja suffered from imposter syndrome but has finally discovered who she is and how she can help others

Resources:

Connect with Nadja and find her podcast

Find out more about our EI community and events

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo

Joyful by Ingrid Fetell Lee

The Book of Joy by the 14th Dalai Lama, Tenzin Gyatso, and Archbishop Desmond Tutu

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I wasn’t sure what to talk about for today’s podcast when I happened upon Paula Prober’s newest blog post, Can Gifted Kids Become Ungifted Adults? Hint: No but, read the full post for her take.

This got me thinking how I’ve observed as I’ve followed more neurodiverse folks on social media that people will often refer to their own giftedness in past tense and in quotes like “I was a ‘gifted’ kid,” as if giftedness was not something that still affected them now as an adult. I got to speak with Nadja Cereghetti, host of a new podcast for gifted adults called Unleash Monday, and we talked a lot about how a lot of gifted adults either don’t know they are gifted or no longer think they are.

In this episode:

• We often confuse giftedness with achievement, or executive functioning skills.
• Highly gifted folks don’t always fit the standard achievement picture because their thinking is outside the typical box.
• Acknowledging our giftedness allows us to connect with our strengths and values to figure out what achievement really looks like for us.
• Finding ways to support us in our executive functioning and self regulation skills can help us harness our energy in a positive direction.

Links:

Your Rainforest Mind Blog

Unleash Monday Podcast

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In today’s show, I introduce you to a good friend who has been an anchor for me in creating a community over the last ten years, both in-person and online. Join us!

Lana Quackenbush has been part of my Ignite Your Power program for several years, and she frequently joined the monthly Embracing Intensity guest calls last year. I’ve seen from the beginning of our relationship what an amazing person she is and how she’s learning to own the uniqueness of who she is. Lana and I both love helping people find connections in the common experiences of intensity, giftedness, twice-exceptionality, and creativity.

Show Highlights:

• Why Lana identifies as a mixed-race, newlywed, preschool teacher who loves peacemaking and doing the right thing
• How Lana’s personal brand of intensity revolves around her qualities of being intensely intellectual, perfectionistic, and judgmental
• Why as a Virgo, Lana has to work on finding balance in many ways
• Growing up, Lana’s mom told her she was “exhausting,” and she had a hard time sleeping as a sickly child who learned to tune out her body’s signals
• The cultural factors that added to the “tornado of chaos” in Lana’s biracial, highly social family; it was always stressed to her the importance of “presenting” herself well
• How Lana learned to tune herself out or tone herself down in light of her mother’s postpartum depression and the realization that her needs weren’t always going to be met
• How Lana’s intensity gets out of control at times when she is wronged, and her self-righteous indignation kicks in
• The shift for Lana in finding a relationship that uplifts her intensity in a positive way
• How Lana uses her fire for good as she spends her days teaching two-year-olds and shows interest in families, children, and their parents
• Why Lana loves to see the emotional model of raising children reign over the intellectual model
• How Lana harnesses the power of her intensity by doing yoga and studying Buddhism
• How Lana follows her varied interests in phases, organizes spaces in her home to meet her needs, and imposes rules for herself about cleaning up one area before moving on
• Lana’s inspirational to-do list hack: she writes her list on business cards so the list is manageable, and she can feel the satisfaction of checking off each item
• Why Lana is ever-so-grateful that she followed the best advice she ever received: “Don’t make any permanent life choices before age 25.”
• Books that Lana recommends: Ishmael by Daniel Quinn and The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield
• How Lana helps others use their fire by kid-wrangling, making spaces for them, and meeting their needs
• Why Lana is learning to identify proudly as a person of color

Resources:

Ishmael by Daniel Quinn

The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield

Find Lana on Instagram: ThatLanaLady

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We are celebrating our 4th anniversary, 101K downloads! At this rate, I’ll make 200K in ½ the time! Keep sharing and listening so the message of Embracing Intensity can spread to those who need it!

For this week’s special episode, I asked audience and community members to share “What does Embracing Intensity mean to me?” I left it deliberately open ended, and got a wonderful variety of answers ranging from the meaning of the phrase, to the importance of the community.

In this episode:

• Celebrating intensity, and harnessing its power.
• Tuning in to the messages of our intense feelings.
• Finding community that not only accepts, but appreciates your differences.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Leah K Walsh Coaching

Jeff's Peer Support Page

Tiffany's Lucy in the Sky: Therapy with a Pen

Mezclados Studio

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As this show airs, we’re reaching two important milestones. We hit the 100K downloads mark, which is thrilling in itself. We also are approaching the fourth anniversary of the Embracing Intensity podcast, which means we’ve been at this for quite a while now! Reach out to me at Aurora Remember and let me know what “embracing intensity” means to you. We will feature these in our upcoming anniversary show next week! For now, enjoy another informative show with my inspiring guest who I've been a fan of for quite some time.

Seth Perler’s life’s work has been dedicated to helping kids overcome executive functioning challenges so they can have great futures despite our outdated educational systems. Seth’s mission is to help compassionate and proactive parents, educators, and others who care about kids. He wants to give honest, practical, and unconventional approaches to helping complicated, struggling students without BS or misinformation. He wants to teach the world about executive function, which is at the root of student struggles. Seth’s vision is a day when we don’t need executive functioning coaches because education is wildly successful at empowering all students with everything they need to have happy, healthy, and successful lives.

Show Highlights:

• Why Seth is intensely passionate about helping struggling students and changing educators to understand these kids better
• How Seth grew up as a curious, free-spirited kid who loved animals and nature but never fit into “the box” in school
• How Seth was labeled as a lazy, irresponsible failure--and his “fire was squelched”
• How Seth became a teacher of gifted kids but soon became frustrated with the system
• How Seth’s personal brand of intensity loves nature and the environment and feels the suffering of other people, animals, and plants
• Why Seth hates to see kids struggle to be understood
• How Seth is intense with his sensory experiences and emotions
• How kids’ feelings are invalidated by cultural factors that teach them that acknowledging their feelings is not OK
• Why Seth had a hopeless and cynical attitude as a kid, knowing he was “not like the other kids”
• How Seth learned to escape by going into social settings to avoid being alone
• Why Seth felt trapped by his “darkness”
• How Seth lived in his problem until he found the tools to step into the solution
• How Seth uses his fire for good by teaching what he most needs to learn and using what he has struggled with to help others
• How Seth harnesses the power of his intensity through meditation, the #1 way he understands himself
• Seth’s advice to those who don’t think they can meditate
• How Seth helps kids learn to shine through new mindsets, systems, and routines

• Seth’s advice:

  • Focus on helping others with a heart and spirit of service
  • Meditate and have times of stillness
  • Learn to journal
  • Get in touch with your story to know what is BS and what is truth

Resources:

Connect with Seth: Seth Perler and Executive Function Summit

Find Seth on YouTube and his podcast, Learn Smarter.

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As I approach the 4th anniversary of the Embracing Intensity Podcast, I find myself and the podcast approaching a bunch of milestones in a short time! The biggest one being that I'm rapidly approaching the 100K download mark! 

In this episode:

• Help us reach 100K and enter to win an Embracing Intensity T-shirt!
• Exciting milestones for the podcast.
• Updates on the Embracing Intensity Community for this year and next!
• Overview of my coaching and assessment process.
• Other creative projects.
• Stay tuned next week for a great interview!

Links: 

Contact me to send a recording for our anniversary episode by answering "What does Embracing Intensity mean to me?" 

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For many people, discovering their giftedness can open many doors, but when it becomes the center of our identity it can close many as well. In this episode, I share my observations over the years in gifted communities on the journey to self-understanding.

In this episode:

• Stories of gifted discovery.
• Types of gifted communities I've observed.
• Times when focusing on gifted identity can be helpful, and when it can get in the way.
• My assessment philosophy.
• Knowing the limitations of our assessment tools.
• Upcoming book announcement!

Links:

Free Harness the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

Embracing Intensity Community

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It’s always great to have a good friend visit with me on the show. Join me as I introduce you to my friend, Erika. She’s a ball of energy who focuses on positivity, generosity, and finding workable solutions to everyday problems. Join us!

Erika Laws is a recovering networker, positive thinker, and sales enthusiast. She loves people, self-development, and manifesting. Her goal is to be happy no matter what the circumstances and to put her own “oxygen mask” on before helping others. She has lots of life lived and lessons learned.

Show Highlights:

• Why Erika is intensely passionate about helping people, sales, and her unique form of “matchmaking”
• Why Erika is not too concerned about being diplomatic anymore, asking the tough questions, and being a “say it how I feel it” person
• Why Erika is a positive manipulator to help people to become better
• How Erika’s intensity kicked in when she became a single mom and had to channel her intensity toward getting things done and leading confidently
• How cultural factors influenced Erika growing up because she lived in a world without much diversity but found herself drawn to African-American friends, which isolated her from others
• How Erika’s acceptance of everyone helped her later in her sales career
• How Erika had to suppress her gender and act “more male” by holding back her emotion to succeed in her career
• How Erika’s intensity gets out of control often as she tries to underpromise and overdeliver to customers, which comes across as aggressive and hostile at times
• How Erika will go above and beyond to make sure people are taken care of; she’s an observant, forward-thinking, and solutions-based listener
• How emotional awareness helps Erika harness the power of her intensity
• How Erika follows a process using the acronym SELL in every interaction: show up, engage, listen, and lead
• The best advice Erika ever received came from Jack Canfield: “There are only two things you can change about a situation. Change how you feel about it or change the situation.”
• How Erika helps others see that they are valued, leads by example, and loves connecting people as a matchmaker to help them
• How Erika is committed to holding the line with her boundaries and how she expects to be treated
• Parting words from Erika: “Intensity can be good, but your greatest strength can be your biggest weakness. You have to channel that intensity for good and know when to dial it back. Choose wisely about who you surround yourself with, and choose those who appreciate and don’t just tolerate.”

Resources:

Find Erika on Facebook: Erika Laws or Impactful Sales Solutions

If you’re in the Vancouver, WA, area, go see Erika at Mattress Firm on Mill Plain Boulevard!

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For many years I thought I needed more self control to help develop health habits that would help my chronic pain and fatigue, but I eventually came to realize that I was focusing on the wrong thing. Instead of self control, I needed to focus on self-regulation. Self control is about forcing yourself, while self-regulation is about helping yourself. 

In this episode:

• The difference between self control and self-regulation.
• With self control, the focus is often on deprivation and forcing yourself to do something.
• Willpower is a limited resource.
• With self-regulation, the focus is on setting up tools, environment etc. to help facilitate behaviors you want to change.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Upcoming Group Calls

Embracing Intensity Store

Free Workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity

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Today’s show is about swimming against the current and going against the flow. Listen to learn more about focusing on what feels good at the gut level.

Matt Zinman is a personal success trainer whose varied experiences as an entrepreneur, athlete, single parent, caretaker, consultant, and nonprofit founder drive him to be a difference-maker. His insights about self-discovery, relationships, mindfulness, and life enrichment led him to write Z-Isms: Insights to Live By and fulfill his goal to positively impact as many people as possible. In addition, Matt is CEO of The Internship Institute, which he established in 2007 to bridge the gap between education, active duty, and employment.

Show Highlights:

• As a Philly area native, Matt is passionate about ice hockey, entrepreneurship, internships, his nonprofit, and his book
• Matt’s inspiration for writing Z-Isms, which contains pearls of wisdom, wit, and insights
• Matt’s personal brand of intensity is channeled through ice hockey and his “relentlessly positive optimism”
• The relevance of earned confidence from what you’ve endured
• Since Matt contended with depression since his early teens, he had to learn how to take care of himself and notice his “mood scale”
• How he became the caretaker for his mom, who contracted HIV through a tainted blood transfusion, and he learned to convert intensity into gratitude
• The cultural factors that affected Matt, who was a Jewish kid in a Catholic high school
• How Matt learned to be an even-keeled person through years of staying in control
• How Matt felt his intensity get out of control as he lost his mom over time to HIV and dementia
• How Matt used his fire for good by pushing through in his career and swimming against the current
• How Matt harnessed the power of his intensity by paying attention to his anchors, like ice hockey, spontaneous connection to others, and positivity
• How Matt created rituals around mindfulness and gratitude
• The best advice Matt ever received was to trust himself and not overthink everything
• A book that helped Matt was Blink by Malcolm Gladwell
• How Matt helps others trust themselves and earn confidence, teaching them to take pride in yielding vs. always trying to win the fight
• Final words from Matt: “Have a positive impact on as many people as possible. Be proactive. Stay upbeat, and take care of yourself.”

Resources:

Find Matt and his tools and resources: www.z-isms.com

Find Z-Isms on www.amazon.com.

Blink by Malcolm Gladwell

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We suffer not from lack, but from paralyzing abundance. Our vast array of interests make it difficult to choose just one thing and give it the attention to detail our idealistic standards feel it deserves. But Kazimierz Dabrowski says that dissatisfaction with oneself is actually a crucial step toward positive personality development. It is only useful though if it can be directed toward achieving your personal ideal through conscious action.

In this episode of Embracing Intensity, we’ll explore ways simplify your life so you have time to channel your energy in a positive direction.

In this episode:

• 4 ways to simplify your life.
• Putting systems in place to make your life easier.
• Focusing your energy on your own "zone of genius"

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Embracing Intensity Store

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"Disruption in your life is an opportunity to play and it's helping you disrupt yourself on purpose as a way to bring out that curiosity and wonder when you're in a rut."

We wrapped up our Summer Camp Scavenger Hunt in the Embracing Intensity Community with a talk from Gary Ware on Finding Your Way Back to the Playground.

In this episode:

• The importance of play.
• 7 paths to bring more play into your life.
• The difference between childlike and childish.
• Facing your gremlins that tell you you can't do things.
• Living life with childlike wonder, curiosity and enthusiasm.

Resources:

Executive Functioning Summit - Affiliate Link

Gwen Gordon Plays

Dr. Stuart Brown - Playcore

Jane McGonigal

The Nerdist Way

Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

Embracing Intensity Community

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Today’s show features a guest who approaches every day with creativity and humor. She’s a financial expert who embraces her intensity and has the answer to your money questions.

Lisa Brumm and I met a few years ago when she spoke at an event. She is an active member of my online community, so we regularly connect and meet at local networking events around the Portland area. Lisa’s company, My Financial Girlfriend, has offices in Portland and Los Angeles. Lisa offers a shame-free zone to help women with all areas of their finances and leave them with a newfound sense of hope and relief about money and life.

Show Highlights:

• Lisa’s intense passion around travel, the Pacific Northwest, family, and her business that educates and empowers women with financial literacy
• How Lisa’s personal brand of intensity stems from a bent toward humor and a voice that doesn’t hold back; her inner drive to make things better leads her to ask questions to bring perspective to a male-dominated profession
• How Lisa learned as a kid to use humor to deflect bullying
• Culturally, Lisa as a kid was “a rare bird,” a girl who loved math and science
• How Lisa’s parents encouraged her to use unique personal expression, but she learned to tone down her opinions and control her emotions to preserve friendships
• How Lisa uses her fire to lobby for consensus
• How parenting challenges with her two kids sometimes prompted her intensity to get out of control
• How Lisa dealt with the learning diversity in her family with creativity and acceptance
• How Lisa harnesses the power of her intensity by being persistent and tenacious and taking things at face value
• Why the division of work in Lisa’s household is a little unconventional
• The best advice Lisa ever received relates to raising kids; she learned to “Let them be” as far as exploring and figuring out the world
• A book to recommend: Small Great Things by Jodi Picoult
• How Lisa helps others by giving people a safe, non-judgmental space to see what they haven’t seen before, especially as it relates to financial literacy
• Final words from Lisa: “Own your intensity, whatever it might be. There is room for everyone in this world.”

Resources:

My Financial Girlfriend

Find My Financial Girlfriend on Facebook and LinkedIn

Email: lisa@myfinancialgirlfriend.com

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I've been thinking a lot about play lately, but also feeling bad talking about play when there's so much going on in the world right now. In my interview last week with Jeff Harry, he reminded us that "there's nothing wrong with having multiple emotions at the same time," and that play can be used to help deal with challenging things and conversations. 

In this episode:

• The difference between play and toxic positivity.
• Play as a form of self-care.
• Why play isn't just something for kids.

Links:

Summer Camp Scavenger Hunt

Embracing Intensity Community

Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

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In the global pandemic, and everything else going on in the world today, there is every reason to be unhappy. Who decided that we grownups have to act our age and put playtime behind us? There are many benefits of playing like a kid, even through hard times--maybe especially in difficult times. So, when is the last time you played like a kid?

Jeff Harry shows individuals and companies how to tap into their true selves to feel their happiest and most fulfilled--all by playing. Jeff has worked with Google, Microsoft, Southwest Airlines, Adobe, the NFL, Amazon, and Facebook, helping their staff infuse more play into the day-to-day.

Show Highlights:

• How Jeff is intensely passionate about utilizing play to help people figure out who they are and how happy and joyful they were as kids
• How Jeff brings his passion to everything he does and loves to “nerd out” about any topic--along with his “fancy” bowtie that says he’s just there to have fun
• How Jeff didn’t always fit into his father’s box of “a time and a place for everything”
• Cultural factors that affected Jeff growing up as the child of first-generation immigrants include how he had to learn not to take things seriously and make play his armor
• How adults try to follow the correct way of living that ends up not being correct for them
• Why Jeff never felt like being “more” was a bad thing, and he actually regrets not being enough of himself because of fear and playing it safe
• How we allow our inner critic to control us and why we need to address it head-on
• How the flaws in our educational system tamp down and destroy genius in the classroom
• How Jeff uses play as a superpower to attack evil, disconnection, and shame
• How Jeff had to go through his own bullshit and identify his limiting beliefs
• Why Jeff doesn’t take things too seriously, practices being present in the moment, and uses his “play” lens to figure things out
• How Jeff helps others “come alive” and take a leap of faith and curiosity to reconnect with their “kidself”
• Final words from Jeff: “You’re alive for a reason. You have a variety of superpowers, and when you liberate yourself, you help others liberate themselves.”

Resources:

Rediscover Your Play

Find JeffHarryPlays on Instagram, TikTok, and Twitter

The Power Manual by Cyndi Suarez

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This week I had planned to talk about gifted kid burnout and how many of them may actually be twice-exceptional, but it was hot today and my brain was kind of mush so I decided to share part of my lesson on positive coping skills instead!

In this episode:

• Types of unproductive skills.
• Having empathy for our coping skills, and understanding what needs they are trying to meet.
• Common elements in productive coping skills.

Links:

Summer Camp Scavenger Hunt

Embracing Intensity Community

Embracing Intensity Store

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Cosette “CoCo” Leary loves to live out loud. She’s a jubilant speaker, professional coach, author, and educator. CoCo has overcome a childhood of poverty and abuse, raised four children through hard work and painful decisions, and has gone from surviving on welfare benefits to earning her university degree in Public Administration, graduating with highest honors and serving as a staff member in both a senatorial and congressional office. Ms. Leary pulled herself out of poverty to show others how to do the same. She exists to breathe life back into improving communities, rekindling relationships across economic class lines, and empowering women.

Show Highlights:

• Why CoCo is intensely passionate about not accepting society’s rules for her and being empowered to challenge the status quo; her passion comes from growing up as a foster child who was pregnant with her first child at age 14, and had to go against the court system to keep her child and not be forced to terminate
• How CoCo determined to have a life worth living for her and her baby
• CoCo’s personal brand of intensity is absolute determination and a never-give-up attitude in going up against economic class systems
• Why CoCo knew she had to start with education to advance herself to help others
• How CoCo’s children watched her at work to better herself despite living in Section 8 housing and shopping at Goodwill
• How CoCo’s intensity was affected as she grew up by her loving father who gave her the gift of imagination but died when she was 12; a few years before his death, her parents divorced, and her mom remarried an abusive man
• How CoCo was beaten regularly and repeatedly ran away from home but was carried through those hard times by the self-love instilled into her by her father
• Why CoCo had difficulty expressing herself with language other than that of the “hood” where she grew up--until she found the local library
• How I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou changed CoCo’s life at age 12 when she lived in an orphanage
• After working in DC and then returning to Washington state, CoCo went through two years of homelessness even though she had a degree in Public Administration; no one would hire her
• How she started building her brand even while homeless and working as a CNA, living in a motel for several months
• Now, CoCo helps other low-income women build their brand and helps women entrepreneurs fall in love with themselves
• Why CoCo’s intensity never got out of control because her drive was mandatory for survival
• How her health suffered from diabetes, high blood pressure, and a stroke in 2018
• How CoCo uses her fire for good by encouraging others to use their fire and giving others permission to really see who they are
• Habits that helped CoCo harness the power of her intensity: “Being honest with myself, telling myself the truth, and realizing I need a good support system, and I need to be a support system for others.”
• Last words from CoCo: “Love yourself. Tell yourself, YES. Whatever you want to do for you, find a way to do it.”

Resources:

From Welfare to The White House

Find CoCo on Instagram: @welfare2whitehouse

From Welfare to the White House by Cosette Leary

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I've seen some conversations recently about how being a Highly Sensitive Person can overlap with characteristics of specific disabilities & neurodiversities such as ADHD or Autism. There was some discussion of whether identifying as HSP might prevent or delay seeking a deeper underlying diagnosis and it got me thinking about how other traits such as multi potentiality and giftedness might also interfere with getting diagnosis and treatment.

In this episode:

• How in our attempt to avoid labels or pathologizing we might miss important treatment and supports.
• The impact of late or no diagnosis on self esteem.
• Why we should look deeper if we feel a trait is having a negative impact on our lives.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Free Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

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Are you living the life you love? For most of us, that’s a complicated question that demands an even more complicated answer. To live our best lives, we have to accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative---but that’s easier said than done. Join us as we discuss it all with today’s guest.

Dr. Raquel Muller is a psychologist, mom empowerment coach, and speaker. She is the founder of Joyful Imperfection Counseling, LLC, and the creator of The Woman System. Dr. Raquel harnesses the power of cognitive, behavioral, and mindfulness strategies to empower women to transform negative self-talk, let go of self-doubt and guilt, banish burnout and overwhelm, cultivate a greater self-love, and reconnect with their own greatness so they can create lives that they love while making a positive impact in their families and the world.

Show Highlights:

• Why Raquel is intensely passionate about supporting working moms in creating lives they love and letting go of the old notion of what a “good mom” should be
• Why having hopes, dreams, and human needs---and honoring those does not make a bad mom
• Raquel’s personal brand of intensity involves her radiant smile, boundless energy, and much passion
• How Raquel grew up in Panama as a “good daughter and student” who enjoyed the spotlight, having a mic, and sharing a message
• The cultural factors that affected Raquel as the oldest in her family who had many behavioral rules to follow
• How Raquel knew she was expected to be an example for her younger siblings and a proper example for others who saw her in public
• How her intensity got out of control during college when she lived away from home for the first time in a new culture that gave her more freedom
• How she started her business and was forced to learn new skills, grow, and get in touch with her dreams
• How she harnessed the power of her intensity by working with a coach and mentor around spiritual awareness, learning how to frame her fire and power to be more
• The personal habits that have helped Raquel are gratitude practice, meditation, listing daily wins, and having a vision for her life
• Good advice Raquel received was to listen to and honor her desires
• Books that Raquel recommends: The Science of Getting Rich by W. D. Wattles and The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
• The empowerment that comes from investing in your growth
• How Raquel helps mompreneurs with big dreams by teaching them to listen to their desires, create a vision for their lives, and be great role models for their children
• Raquel’s favorite quote by Howard Thurman: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
• Parting advice from Raquel: “Create your vision and go for your dreams. Find the thing that brings you alive, and go do it.”

Resources:

Find Raquel’s website: Joyful Imperfection Counseling

Email Raquel: dr@doctorraquelmuller.com

Find Raquel’s Facebook group: Redefining Supermom

The Science of Getting Rich by W. D. Wattles and

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

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I've been behind on my workbooks and lessons as I wrapped up my school year, and now I'm catching up! This month's theme is on Creatively Meeting Your Own Needs and in this episode I'd like to talk a little about the concept of Emotional Liberation as described through Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication. 

In this episode:

• Why NVC can be a useful tool for self-exploration.
• When NVC is not always applicable.
• 4 Responses to negative or uncomfortable feedback or experiences.
• Taking ownership of our feelings to meet our own needs and the needs of others.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

RSVP for our next group call!

Free Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

Decolonizing Nonviolent Communication Book

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I’m glad I’ve gotten to know today’s guest on the show. We’ve been following each other on Instagram, and I recently discovered that we’re in the same Facebook group. We’ve bonded over our work and service with twice-exceptional individuals, and we have much more in common, too. I’m excited to introduce you to her!

Boontarika Sripom is a therapy-influenced life coach for gifted and creative people. Her background includes school counseling, working in special education, and community mental health. As a life coach and sensitive person, she uses psychology and typology systems like Myers Briggs and enneagrams to help people empower themselves and reach their potential. Her favorite clients are creatives, gamers, and sensitive people who feel misunderstood. Boonie makes online content on Quora and YouTube. On Mixer, she streams video gaming while chatting with fellow gamers.

Show Highlights:

• How Boonie is intensely passionate about championing causes like world hunger, her connection to nature, art, kids with special needs, and video game culture
• Boonie’s connection to mental health advocacy and how she connects gamers and the geek community to therapists through the non-profit, Anxiety Gaming
• Boonie’s personal brand of intensity is to challenge “normal” and to pair with a greater cause
• Why Boonie believes that “injustice for one is injustice for all”
• How Boonie is messy and scattered at home but portrays a different picture in public
• How Boonie has an insatiable need to learn
• Growing up, Boonie misunderstood social cues, didn’t have many friends, and was naive and trusted people too much
• Why Boonie’s collectivist upbringing taught her that showing emotional pain is sign of weakness; she learned to be strong and push through any pain
• In Boonie’s first year of college, Boonie’s friend committed suicide, leaving her with PTSD; this experience intensified her mistrust that anyone could help her
• How she sought connection in emotionally-abusive relationships and kept losing herself and staying silent
• How Boonie’s intensity got out of control with her insatiable need to learn, and her compulsion to buy books and hoard them
• Why she had to honor her childhood playfulness and the needs that weren’t met
• How Boonie uses her fire for good in speaking, questioning things, uplifting others, and constructing spaces for connection
• A habit that helps Boonie harness the power of her intensity is to know the right people who accept and embrace her
• How she helps others with their archetypes and how they seek and process information
• Final words of advice from Boonie: “Everything you need is already there. Reclaim your voice and your identity.”

Resources:

Boonie’s website: Organized Messes

Find Boontarika Sripom on YouTube, Instagram, and Quora

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I’ve been sitting with the best way to use my platform to share and support Black voices with the understanding that a lot of folks are exhausted right now and don’t need me jumping in their inbox. So instead of business as usual, I decided to share information about some podcasts with Black voices and highlight them. Starting with a short clip with permission from Arianna Bradford of last week’s NYAM Project Podcast on Thoughts from a Black Mom.

Below you will find links for podcasts and youtube channels you can listen to and support using their own descriptions from their pages. If they have a Patreon, I also included that link so you can also financially support them if you'd like.

Alexandra Loves - Website and Podcast - Youtube Channel - Support her on Patreon

Helping you create what you want by being exactly who you are. Now offering Black Mentor Sessions designed to hold a space, help clear imbalances, and provide solution based guidance for those white people who want to work with her.

Arianna Bradford - The NYAM Project - Support her on Patreon

A weekly podcast consisting of anecdotes and interviews from everyday mothers and experts alike, highlighting real motherhood and questioning what we think we know about parenting and motherhood.

Andréa Ranae Johnson - A Call to Serve Podcast - Andréa Ranae’s Website - Support her on Patreon

If you have a vision for change in your communities or our world (or maybe you just know that a different reality is possible) and you want to show up, contribute, serve or generally live the kind of life that leaves this planet better than you found it – you’re in the right place.

Colin E Seale - thinkLaw Podcast - thinkLaw Website

Critical Thinking is the most essential 21st century skill but it is still a luxury good. Only 1 out of 10 educators teach critical thinking, and this educator usually only teaches at elite schools or to the most elite students.

Gary Ware - Gary Ware on Youtube - Breakthrough Play Website

Helping you improve your business, relationships, and life…with play Jaiden Love - Jaiden Love on Youtube - Held and Heard Website

Bringing More Love into the World By Teaching the Essentials of Gender Identity & Support. Leesa Renée Hall - Leesa’s Website - Podcasts featuring Leesa - Support her on Patreon

Exploring Bias One Field Trip at a Time. On her Patreon she is creating Inner Field Trips™ with writing prompts to help you unpack your biases around racism, in a supportive environment.

Phyllis G. Williams & LaTricia Smith - Living the Principles Podcast

A podcast committed to relevant conversations about strengthening the Black Community.

René Brooks - Black Girl, Lost Keys Blog - Podcasts featuring René - Support her on Patreon

A blog that empowers black women with ADHD and shows them how to live well with the disorder.

Sharon Burton - Spark Your Creative Podcast

Spark Your Creative is a company under the SJB Creative Ventures, LLC that focuses on creativity coaching…for individuals initially who want to discover or reclaim their creative gifts.

Zaakirah Nayyar - Living Legacy Podcast

The Living Legacy Podcast features women of purpose sharing stories of resilience.

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This week instead of sharing a new episode, I am participating in a Podcast Blackout protesting the deaths of the Black people slain by police violence or victims of hate crimes. I will share some links and resources below if you would like to do more work around anti-racism and don't know where to begin.

(This list is missing MANY names)

• Trayvon Martin age 17 2012
• Tamir Rice age 12 2014
• Eric Garner 2014
• Sandra Bland age 28 2015
• Freddie Gray age 25 2015
• Alton Sterling age 37 2016
• Philando Castile age 32 2016
• Botham Jean age 26 2018
• Atatiana Jefferso age 28 2019
• Ahmaud Arbery age 25 2020
• Doug Lewis age 39 2020
• Breonna Taylor age 26 2020
• George Floyd age 46 2020

Resources:

I have compiled and organized resources on this Pinterest page according to themes I’ve observed online in this Responding to White Supremacy Pinterest Board, feel free to send me other resources or topics to include.

A good start is to learn how to apologize when you inevitably do something wrong, this video from Franchesca Ramsey on Getting Called Out: How to Apologize is a good start.

Then read this article, White people, stop asking us to educate you about racism to understand why it is our responsibility as white people to educate ourselves and then pay BIPOC educators who specialize in this area to go deeper.

Educate yourself on being a better ally, some of these posts are a good start, and reading some of these books would be even better, and better yet pay anti racism educators for their trainings.

Then take action, these two posts are a good start: Want to do better, but aren’t sure where to start? Start here and 75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice.

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Today’s guest is someone I met through The Gifted Homeschooler Forum for which we both write. Through her experiences and those of her children, she’s become a champion for parents of “quirky children who don’t fit the mold.”

Kathleen Humble is an ADHD mom in Melbourne, Australia. She writes at Yellow Readis about gifted and twice-exceptional homeschooling. Her book, Gifted Myths, is available at The Gifted Homeschooler Forum Press. She’s been published in Victorian Writer, The Mighty, and Otherways magazine, and she was the recipient of the 2018 Writers Victoria Write-Ability Fellowship. In between writing and homeschooling her kids, Kathleen loves reading, sewing, and big cups of tea.

Show Highlights:

• As a long-time homeschooling mom of two twice-exceptional children, Kathleen is intensely passionate about helping parents with quirky children who don’t fit into the mold
• As a twice-exceptional person with ADHD, Kathleen can focus intensely on something to the point of not remembering to do anything else
• Growing up, she had trouble controlling her passions, but her intensity turned inward as she resorted to reading
• Being small and good at things made Kathleen an easy target for bullies in school
• One of the cultural factors that affected her intensity was learning that in Australia, standing out from others is not a great thing that’s not appreciated
• How intensity became an asset for Kathleen through performance and writing
• How Kathleen toned down and tuned out her intensity in high school when she deliberately stopped learning
• How Kathleen observed in school the behaviors that invited bullying
• Why Kathleen has to work against her intensity all the time
• How Kathleen learned to do “the pause,” a technique to physically break the intensity
• How Kathleen loves helping others, answering questions, exploring things, and empowering others
• How Kathleen harnesses the power of her intensity through “the pause,” medication, and therapy
• Kathleen’s system of “touch once” to keep track of tasks and remember names
• The best advice Kathleen ever received: “I’m OK. It’s going to be OK. Being you is OK. Being intense is OK.”
• Books that Kathleen recommends: Foundation by Isaac Asimov and NeuroTribes by Steve Silberman
• How Kathleen helps others use their fire for good by writing on her blog and people find the information they need

Resources:

Find Kathleen: Yellow Readis

Facebook: Yellow Readis

Twitter: @Yellow Readis

Pinterest: Yellow Readis

Gifted Myths by Kathleen Humble

Foundation by Isaac Asimov

NeuroTribes by Stever Silberman

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Last week someone on Twitter tagged me in a post asking if I was familiar with the concept of over-excitability. It made me realize that many who follow my work around twice-exceptionality aren’t familiar with my early work which is founded on the concept of excitability. Excitability is the foundation of my work on the Embracing Intensity Podcast and Community.

Five years ago, I asked my community to help me come up with things that many of us had in common being highly excitable. I made an animated post on Buzzfeed, but I thought it was a good time to revisit the origins of my blog, and I finally figured out how to add GIFs to my own blog so I decided to revisit this post with animation on the blog, and share it here on the Podcast!

Highlights:

• 25 things only a highly excitable person would understand.
• Why Excitability can be your greatest power.
• How you can harness the power of your excitability.

Links:

25 Things Only a Highly Excitable Person Would Understand (Animated)

Free Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

Join the Embracing Intensity Community

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Today’s show is a different one. I’m interviewing a 12-year-old with ADHD who is easily distracted. He hopes you will be, too.

It’s an extra special privilege to interview my son, Z. Jay Baxter, who just released an activity book for his 12th birthday. It’s called The Notebook of Mass Distraction: Boredom Busters for Busy Brains. He has also started a YouTube channel and would love for you to follow him there.

Show Highlights:

• Why Jay is intensely passionate about his time with friends
• Why chaos and destruction are Jay’s personal brand of intensity
• How Jay tends to get hyper-focused on something he’s interested in
• Why Jay needed to hide in his jacket during recess at school during a particularly rough time
• How Jay’s intensity got out of control in a situation at school three years ago
• How Jay uses his fire for good in hyper-focusing on one goal
• How medications and friends help Jay harness the power of his intensity for good
• How piano music and Harry Potter help Jay sleep
• Good advice that Jay has received: “Just because you hear something doesn’t mean it’s true.”
• Books recommended by Jay: the Warriors series by Erin Hunter and the Percy Jackson series by Rick Riordan
• Jay’s Notebook of Mass Distraction and the responses he’s received to it (there will be more!)
• Final words from Jay: “Remember, we all need a bit of validation in our lives. Don’t compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to you.”

Resources:

Jay's Workshop Of Wonder

Find Jay’s Workshop of Wonder on YouTube!

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When we get caught up in our own thoughts, it can interfere with our ability to see things clearly. This week on Embracing Intensity I talk about types of thoughts that disrupt our objective observations.

In this episode: 

• Thoughts are how we make sense of the world around us.
• Judgements, labels and expectations reinforce our existing view.
• Blame and all or nothing thinking places emphasis on being right or wrong.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Embracing Intensity Store

Support Embracing Intensity on Patreon

Aurora Remember on YouTube

Jay's Workshop of Wonder on YouTube

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We all love that coworker who is filled with positive energy that spills over to everyone they touch. Certain people have a knack for celebrating the wins of others, and even though we all might want to be that person, it takes a specific mindset that most of us lack. It’s an incredible benefit when this person ends up in the field of education, where they can spend their days impacting the lives of students in positive ways.

Amy Campbell is a friend and colleague in my school district. As the 2020 Washington State Teacher of the Year, she is clearly gifted and intense, but she has now become a public figure who is a fierce advocate for her special education students.

Show Highlights:

• How Amy is intensely passionate about celebrating human success with her special education students who are moderately to profoundly impacted by their disabilities
• Amy’s personal brand of intensity involves profound anxiety around celebrations and wanting others to enjoy life to the fullest
• How her intensity made her feel different
• Culturally speaking, Amy had a lot of privilege as a white, middle-class woman who was uninhibited
• How she’s had to tone down her energy level that is more than most people, and how she “feels like the wrong person” at many times
• How we feel too intense in many leadership and gender roles
• How Amy uses her fire for good in having a positive presupposition about things and seeing her students with disabilities as assets and cause for celebration
• How Amy is a fierce advocate for inclusion
• How Amy harnesses the power of her intensity by understanding herself and having time for reflection
• How personal habits of organization and running help Amy
• How distance learning has affected Amy and the importance of her need for celebrations
• The best advice for Amy came from her principal, who told her that she should lead adults in the same ways she leads kids
• A recommended book: Fostering Resilient Learners by Kristin Souers
• Why Amy’s favorite part of her job is the way she believes that every person needs space for voice and choice’
• How Amy loves helping students learn to communicate their needs and wants
• Parting advice from Amy: “You are enough. You are amazing. You are great. Look for the joy in this world and have a positive disposition. If you can share that joy, then you’re doing good in the world.”

Resources:

Find Amy on Facebook or Twitter (@the_mrscampbell)

Check Amy out on YouTube

Fostering Resilient Learners by Kristin Souers

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The last few weeks I dove deep into creative projects including updating a whole bunch of new shirts in my Threadless store, creating 8 new youtube animation videos, launching a workbook and helping my son launch his new activity book, the Notebook of Mass Distraction: Boredom Busters for Busy Brains. 

In this episode:

• Takeaways from letting myself dive deep into creativity mode.
• The importance of accessible content.
• How you can support continued accessible content.

Links:

Support my work on Patreon

Embracing Intensity Store

Jenelle Wooodlief's Self Care Revolution Community

Arianna Bradford's NYAM Project Podcast

Embracing Intensity Community

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These last few weeks have been super intense. For those of us who are sensitive, we’ve either wanted to escape into a hole to heal or dive deep into creative projects, which is what I’ve been doing. I hope you’ve found the things that help you cope best in this time of uncertainty. My guest today has wisdom and insights that can help!

AmyLee Westervelt, of Gratitude & Glamour, is a life and business coach for empaths and highly sensitive people. We connected through a mutual friend, and I’m excited to introduce you to her today.

Show Highlights:

• Get to know AmyLee, a mom of five kids under eight years of age, who grew up in Boston and now lives in Savannah, Georgia
• Why AmyLee is passionate about helping people empower themselves to change their lives
• AmyLee’s personal brand of intensity is to put a lot of “oomph” in everything she does, always cultivating a deep connection with others
• Why AmyLee felt like a “little dancing bear” as a girl who was paraded around by a narcissistic parent
• Growing up in Boston, Amy was always different and always asked “too many questions”
• How AmyLee had to tone herself down and tune herself out from overanalyzing everything and being too dramatic
• How empaths overthink everything why someone does something
• How AmyLee tries to parent her kids according to each child’s energy instead of their gender
• When AmyLee’s intensity is out of control if she feels wronged by someone
• How AmyLee uses her fire for good and believes deeply in the abilities of people to be resilient
• How AmyLee had to reign in her ego and imposter syndrome to harness the power of her intensity
• The habits that help AmyLee are meditation, the motherhood experience and seeing life through her kids’ eyes, and being creative in crafting life’s experiences
• The best advice came from a life coach, who said, “If it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a NO.”
• Books that have helped AmyLee: The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein
• How AmyLee works as a life and business coach for empaths and highly sensitive people, teaching them to navigate, create healthy boundaries, and practice radical self-care

Resources:

Gratitude And Glamour

Gratitude And Glamour Find AmyLee’s free ebook, The Empath Elixir

Find AmyLee Westervelt on Facebook

Visit The Unstoppable Empaths System for information on AmyLee’s new course, The Unstoppable Empath System

Find additional resources: Embracing Intensity Store and Embracing Intensity

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This week on Embracing Intensity I discuss what I'm doing for self care in the chaos, and share some additional resources.

Highlights:

• Avoiding contaminated time.
• Staying connected.
• Finding time for what energizes you.
• Supporting self-care community

Links:

Gifted AND: A Story about Twice-Exceptionality - Animation of Colin Seale's story

Embracing Intensity Store

Notebook of Mass Distraction

Jenelle Woodlief's Radical Self Care Community Fundraiser

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My guest today is doing great things in the field of education. I’ve come across his work in the gifted and twice exceptional circles, and I knew he would be a valuable guest on the show. I’m happy to have connected with him around his work in teaching critical thinking skills.

Colin Seale was born and raised in Brooklyn, NY, where struggles in his upbringing gave birth to his passion for educational equity. Tracked early into talented and gifted programs, Colin was afforded opportunities his neighborhood peers were not. Colin uses lessons from his experience as a math teacher, later as an attorney, and now a keynote speaker, along with his work as a contributor to Forbes, The 74, and Education Post. He’s the author of Thinking Like a Lawyer: A Framework for Teaching Critical Thinking Skills to All Students. Colin founded thinkLaw, a multi-award-winning organization to help educators leverage inquiry-based educational instruction and strategies to close the critical thinking gap and ensure that they teach and reach all students, regardless of race, zip code, or what side of the poverty line they are born into. When he’s not serving as the world’s most fervent critical thinking advocate, Colin proudly serves as the world’s greatest entertainer to his two young children, and as a loving husband to his wife, Carrie.

Show Highlights:

• Why Colin is intensely passionate about wanting to fix things for people and help them find solutions
• Colin’s personal brand of intensity revolves around his strategy about “how we get there” regarding critical thinking
• In his growing up years, Colin heard many “he’s gifted, but” statements, but not many “he’s gifted, and” statements
• How Colin was labeled for his intense behaviors instead of being supported
• How we’ve created a culture where conformity is the expectation, but many kids don’t fit these standards
• Cultural factors around Colin’s intensity include his family heritage of Caribbean immigrants from Barbados and their British tendencies, which teach passivity and non-confrontation
• The urge and commitment to end generational poverty through education
• How Colin had to tone down and tune himself out in third grade when he was labeled as “extra”
• How Colin dealt with setbacks and disappointments by overcompensating
• Why Colin is committed to galvanizing educators to run on “high” and equipping them with the “how” of helping kids unlock their critical thinking potential
• Colin’s book is available for pre-order now on Amazon; it comes out on April 30
• How Colin helps harness the power of his intensity by learning to be authentic within himself
• The importance of giving people permission and courage to be who they are
• The need to be intentional in helping kids learn entrepreneurship and innovation
• Colin’s professional and personal habits in using his fire for good include weekly one-hour innovation meetings with his team and taking a moment to press “pause” for times of creativity and innovation
• How Colin helps others stop focusing on what they want to do, but on how they want their professional lives to look, feel, and be managed
• Parting words from Colin: “We shouldn’t talk about an ADHD diagnosis or being intense or extra as a defect. If we could transition in education from thinking about what’s best for ALL kids to thinking about what’s best for EACH kid, then we can help each child achieve excellence, however that is defined for them.”

Resources:

Think Law

The latest Embracing Intensity workbook on Balancing Your Time and Energy is available in the Embracing Intensity Community. Our live group call on this topic is scheduled for Saturday, April 11, at 10:00 am Pacific.

Check out the Embracing Intensity Facebook page for upcoming events!

Thinking Like a Lawyer: A Framework for Teaching Critical Thinking to All Students by Colin Seale

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With all the unexpected changes this last week, a lot of us are finding ourselves working from home. This is definitely a challenge for me because I'm used to having the structure of work schedules and deadlines to keep me on track. I decided to explore how to create my own structure in times of chaos on my blog, Youtube and the Embracing Intensity Podcast.

Highlights:

• Taking care of your body.
• Identifying your "big rocks."
• Creating accountability.
• Creating separate spaces for work and rest.
• Building new rituals & routines.
• Giving yourself grace.

Links:

Blog post on Finding Structure in Times of Chaos  

Embracing Intensity Community and Accountability Group

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I connected with today’s guest on Facebook, and then we met in person at a conference last September. We have so much in common! We are joint members in several communities, we’ve moved from working with children to working with more adults, and we’ve both been busy in the past year refining what we want to do and how we want to help people.

Molli Osburn is better known as “Molli the Math Rebel,” formerly “Molli the Math Lady.” She is an author, public speaker, and transformational coach. As a former math teacher and tutor since 2006, Molli is the author of Beyond Math Anxiety: 99 Insights (and a Calculation’s Not One!) She specializes in spreading awareness of the widespread problem of math anxiety and its deeper cousin, math shame. Recently, she started exploring the connection between math shame and money shame, especially among women. She’s been sober since January 2019, and that progress is a vitally important part of her journey. In her spare time, Molli enjoys hiking, traveling, crafts, and gluten-free baking.

Show Highlights:

• Why Molli is intense about math, but also about helping people understand the social aspects of math anxiety and math shame
• How Molli wants to help people find social and emotional solutions
• How Molli is passionate about everything and obsesses over little details
• Why math anxiety is not an academic problem with an academic solution
• Molli’s experience in growing up as a math, science, and STEM person with social anxiety
• How negative feelings and attitudes are passed down through generations
• How Molli’s passion extends to eradicating sexism and gender bias in math, science, and STEM
• Molli’s experience in growing up with Jewish AND Catholic parents---the best and worst of both worlds
• How Molli had to tone herself down and tune herself out because she was too intense and passionate about everything
• How Molli’s intensity got out of control when she wasn’t clear about her message
• The difference in math anxiety and math shame
• How Molli got sober a little over one year ago
• The connection between math shame and money shame, especially for women
• How Molli educates people about math anxiety and math shame, helping them connect through stories
• Molli’s struggles with mental health
• Why a morning routine is vital for Molli’s mental health; it includes tech-free time, essential oils, coffee, and morning journaling
• Books that have helped Molli: The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron, The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, and Judgment Detox and Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstein
• How Molli helps others with their goals, thoughts, and feelings in healing their wounds and transforming their stories to empower them

Resources:

Molli The Math Rebel (website in progress)

Beyond Math Anxiety Book

Find Molli the Math Rebel on Facebook, Instagram & Twitter

The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

Judgment Detox by Gabrielle Bernstein

Super Attractor by Gabrielle Bernstein

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Do you have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset? This week I explore a question brought up in our Embracing Intensity Community around Carol Dweck's Mindset theory and how it relates to gifted and twice exceptional individuals. 

Highlights:

• The limitations of growth vs. fixed mindset and how it relates to innate ability.
• How gifted and twice exceptional individuals can benefit from aspects of growth mindset.
• Exploring mindset theory in relation to Dabrowski's theory of positive disintegration.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Bookstore

Threadless Apparel & Accessory Shop

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Those who have been affected by trauma are the people who truly understand the extent of the big emotions that come with trauma. It’s refreshing when someone uses their background of self-doubt and shame to help others heal. Such is the story of today’s amazing guest, so join us to learn more!

Rayah Dickerson hosts the podcast, Depth of Echoes, which is a mental health podcast that is a wonderful resource for the mental health community. Rayah is the anxious, semi-depressed wife of a guy with schizoaffective PTSD, and she’s a trauma-informed mom, ally, researcher, writer, activist, and national speaker. I was privileged to be on her show this week as Rayah interviewed me; now I’m returning the favor. She was recently diagnosed with ADHD, which is a common experience for many creatives.

Show Highlights:

• How Rayah is intensely passionate about learning, evolving, and finding the best ways to heal from the trauma that we face every day
• Rayah’s husband’s mental crisis which happened 3-4 years ago and awakened Rayah to a huge need
• Rayah’s personal brand of intensity, which is shown in love as she figures out how to heal each person
• Rayah’s recent ADHD diagnosis and how it manifests itself
• The common thread through many people with ADHD and how they can help each other
• The importance of using a planner
• How Rayah’s experiences in childhood created a lot of internal shame, manifested in sarcasm and making her afraid to get help
• How Rayah was affected by her religious background, which included many rules for women
• The shame Rayah felt when she was told to calm down and be likable and pleasant
• How Rayah’s intensity is out of control in dealing with her oldest son, who also has experienced trauma
• How Rayah shares with people around her and tries to utilize the benefits of community
• How to learn useful coping techniques from people in marginalized communities
• Rayah’s personal habits that help her deal with her intensity
• The best advice Rayah received was from a nurse who told her to be an advocate in the mental health community to help others
• Books that helped Rayah: Surviving Schizophrenia by E. Fuller Torrey MD, The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk MD, and True Inclusion by Brandan Robertson
• How Rayah helps others by giving them permission to talk about their issues
• How Rayah helps people see that life with mental illness can still be beautiful
• Parting words from Rayah: “You can change your internal dialogue, improve, and heal.”

Resources:

Depth Of Echoes

Find Rayah and Depth of Echoes on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Patreon, and YouTube

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This week on Embracing Intensity, I'm sharing an excerpt from this months lesson in the Ignite Your Power series - From Mental Chaos to Clarity and Connection. You can find the whole lesson in the Embracing Intensity Community or find a copy of the workbook in our Embracing Intensity Book Store.

In this lesson I share:

• Why thoughts can be useful tools for understanding our experiences, but need to be examined so we can see more clearly.
• Seven types of thoughts that can disrupt our clear thinking.
• An overview of the full lesson found in the Embracing Intensity Community or in my workbook found in my new bookstore.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Online Bookstore

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How much emphasis do you put on self-care? I’m talking about yourself, not what you might recommend to others. We fall victim to many myths that trick us into putting self-care on the back burner of our lives as we frantically run here and there. Today’s guest shares what she has learned through her focus on self-care and empowerment. Join us to learn more!

Jenelle Woodlief empowers women to redefine and embrace radical self-care, sharing deeply personal experience and wisdom. As a licensed massage therapist, she practices empowering bodywork aimed at restoring balance in the body. Thai massage is an incredible modality that incorporates effective massage with movement and stretching performed on a comfy floor mat. She educates and coaches clients on simple but powerful self-care techniques, empowering them to care for their bodies at home. And she does it all! She publishes her writing, speaks her truth, teaches Thai massage to groups and couples, builds community, fights inequality, and is building a self-care revolution! Join Jenelle in learning to love and care for yourself, and in turn, others. Jenelle is powerful, dynamic, engaging, and wise. I’m happy to introduce her to you today.

Show Highlights:

• Jenelle is intensely passionate about being an entrepreneur and a recently divorced mom; she loves to help women redefine what self-care means
• Her personal brand of intensity is rooted in authenticity and having the courage to show up messy in the world
• The devastation of a sudden divorce
• Jenelle’s story of growing up in “rebel fashion,” watching emotional abuse, physical abuse, and many inconsistencies in her family
• How she was taught that women are supposed to be passive, but she knew she didn’t fit into that mold very well
• In middle school and high school, Jenelle had to tone herself down to fit in with other kids; she learned to be more passive to have more friends
• As a teen, her intensity got out of control when she exploded with anger because of what went on in her family
• How Jenelle uses her fire for good: she shows up with passionate authenticity and connection with others, she prioritizes herself in many areas of life and engages with a group of women for change to be part of the solution
• How Jenelle recognized that she is an introvert and needs to slow down and embrace and care for herself
• How Jenelle prioritizes sleep, makes time and space for personal quiet time, and sets buffer times between clients
• The best advice Jenelle ever received: to focus on caring for ourselves internally, so we can care for what’s happening around us; also, to observe and detach, and not feel the need to participate when things feel nasty
• An influential book: The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary
• How Jenelle helps others by encouraging them to tune into what “lights them up”
• Jenelle’s parting words: “We can’t share our fire and intensity unless we’re stoking our own fire. If we sit in chaos, then we give chaos---and that doesn’t help anyone.”

Resources:

Instagram: @jenelle.woodlief

Facebook: Step Into Your Power

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Coming out of an educational conference it struck me how many sessions emphasized acceleration as the primary tool for supporting gifted students. As a gifted student who had both positive and negative experiences with my education, I have mixed feelings about this. While acceleration can be valuable for many gifted students, focusing on it exclusively can leave out a lot of twice exceptional and under achieving gifted folks, which can have lasting impacts on the experience of gifted adults.

In this episode:

• Common traits of gifted students and how they may leave out twice exceptional and underachieving students.
• How my experience both as a student and as a parent have shaped my view on how to support gifted and twice exceptional individuals.
• Four things I believe are crucial in helping gifted and twice exceptional individuals meet their potential.

Links:

Embracing Intensity Community

Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

Contact Me

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When I first heard today’s guest speak at a live event, I knew that I had to have her on the podcast. Her story of growing up in the Philippines in less-than-ideal circumstances is a powerful one that she is eager to share. Let’s learn more about how connecting with other people’s stories can transform lives.

Kareen Mills was born into a large family. The dream of coming to America was her escape from a not-so-healthy childhood. Her podcast, Being Motherhustler, is a tribute project to her mom and grandmother. Her podcast is ranked in the Top Ten at Entrepreneur.com’s list of 20 podcasts that will help you grown in 2020. Being Motherhustler was also named the #1 domestic violence podcast by Feedspot.com. Kareen was named one of the Class of 2018 Accomplished and Under 40 by the Vancouver Business Journal. She still maintains a day job, managing a $50 million bank branch. The reason Kareen is so passionate about financial wellness is because hers was nonexistent until she learned one of life’s tough lessons from financial ruin. This experience provides Kareen a platform to make a difference in people’s financial lives today. Kareen is a master networker who co-founded Game Changers Global Network, LLC, and The Woman’s Network. She is quickly growing her Motherhustler brand online and offline, and she holds space for the Motherhustlers and women through events, retreats, and group coaching programs. In addition to these endeavors, Kareen serves her husband and two sons as a wife and mother.

Show Highlights:

• Why Kareen is intensely passionate about holding space for women in domestic violence
• How Kareen grew up as a victim to Philippine culture, which teaches women to be enslaved to their husbands and never to leave--no matter what
• How Kareen was able to heal through connection and her project to honor her mom and grandmother
• How people carry their childhood struggles with them into adulthood and future success
• How Kareen’s intensity translates into her love for collecting other people’s stories and intense thoughts and conversations
• Kareen’s thoughts about nasty people and how she learns from them
• How Kareen wants to know what happened to people to make them mean and nasty to learn their stories
• Why it’s up to us to receive our intensity with either positivity or negativity
• How becoming a mother helped Kareen understand better what her mother went through and why she did what she did
• How Kareen gives grace to mean people because we never know what they go through behind closed doors
• Why you have to ask people about their story, which is really their struggle
• The cultural factors that affected Kareen growing up: her judgmental, Catholic background and the brand-conscious, materialistic culture
• How Kareen had to suppress a lot of her intensity before she went through healing
• How Kareen’s intensity has gotten out of control many times over little things
• How Kareen uses her fire for good in holding space for women like her mother
• How setting a routine, working out, reading, and writing things down help Kareen harness the power of her intensity
• A favorite book to recommend: The Traveler’s Gift by Andy Andrews
• How Kareen helps others use their fire by encouraging them to tell their stories because that’s where your fire comes from
• Kareen’s vision: mothering the world and teaching networking skills

Resources:

Find Kareen on social media: @kareenmills

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I had the pleasure of interviewing Kareen Mills, who's interview I'm excited to share next week. As she shared her own story and the importance of listening to the stories of others, I really related to how stories are what connects us with others.

In this episode I discuss:

• The power of story.
• How fields as seemingly different as banking and education can be so similar.
• The significance of having both windows into other experiences and mirrors reflecting our own.
• Bringing in more stories to share experiences of other gifted, creative and outside the box thinkers.

Links:

Join the Embracing Intensity Community

Support us on Patreon

Get your free Harnessing The Power of Your Intensity Workbook

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In this first interview episode of 2020, we are continuing to discuss how our intensity can be our greatest source of power. Join me for an exciting conversation as today’s guest teaches us about sharing our gifts with the world.

Emily Roach is an international speaker, business coach, and professional “Biz BFF.” Through her online courses, live workshops, and intimate retreats, she empowers women business owners to play full-out, show up wholly as themselves, and create the business of their dreams. When she’s not teaching women how to rock their business and crush their goals, she’s camping around Oregon in her vintage school bus with her family of five.

Show Highlights:

• How Emily is multi-passionate about many things, especially helping people unlock their potential and realize their capabilities
• Emily’s personal brand of intensity, which is exemplified by the way she talks too fast and too loud as she strives always to be authentic
• Growing up, Emily was an “odd duck” who was shy, expressive, and creative
• How she worried about fitting in as a teen, but then decided she didn’t want to fit in
• How she found a small group of friends later in her high school years
• The moment in high school when everything “clicked” and she found complete freedom
• The societal pressure to be a “good girl” and a people-pleaser
• When Emily feels out of control with her big emotions, and it seems like she’s not connected
• How Emily gives others permission to be themselves and loves to share her enthusiasm to pump others up
• How Emily harnesses the power of her intensity by putting more structure in place, which, in turn, gives her more freedom
• The benefits of structuring your time and schedule
• How meditation, journaling, and being supported by other people help Emily with her big-intense emotions
• The best advice Emily ever received: “Accept all the support you can.”
• Books that have helped Emily the most: The Big Leap, Playing Big, and Alice in Wonderland
• How Emily helps others use their fire by reflecting back their light and brilliance and seeing their wisdom, potential, and capability
• Parting words from Emily: “People have told me that I’m too much when at times I feel like I’m not enough. It’s an impossible juggle. Know that you are exactly the right amount of much-ness.”

Resources:

Biz BFF

Find Emily on Instagram: @biz_bff

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

Playing Big by Tara Mohr

Alice in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll

Overwhelmed by Brigid Schulte

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This week on Embracing Intensity, I'm sharing the first lesson of my Ignite Your Power Course. In this lesson, we will observe our own powers, get clear on how to harness them and develop a “power toolkit” to help harness them more. You can find the full group discussion and other materials related to the lesson in the Embracing Intensity Community! 

You can also download a free workbook on Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity.

In this episode: 

• Learn the 5 types of intensity and how they can be your greatest superpowers.
• Explore how to harness them and keep them from getting out of control or suppressed.
• Learn tips to channel each intensity in a positive direction.
• Improve your self-regulation skills.
• Create your own toolkit to get in your “power zone.”

Links:

Free Harnessing the Power of Your Intensity Workbook

Embracing Intensity Community

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As we ramp into the new year, I wanted to share a bit about what we have in store for 2020 on the Embracing Intensity Podcast!

• We are starting my free power zone toolkit this week on Monday! Sign up here to join us here!
• We will be ending the challenge with first group call for updated Ignite Your Power course I’m relaunching in the Embracing Intensity community.
• Next week I’ll share a modified recording of the first lesson on Harnessing Your Power, and then we will have our first interview episode of the year.
• We have some amazing guests lined up to interview and we are 58% of the way to covering two interview episodes per month. Join us in the Embracing Intensity Community, or on Patreon to support us!

Ignite Your Power monthly lessons & themes:

• Harnessing Your Power
• Connection
• Self-Empathy
• Time & Energy Balance
• Shifting Perception
• Meeting Your Needs
• Priorities
• Rituals & Routines
• Building Resiliency
• Self-Advocacy
• Reaching Out

Links:

Join Our Power Zone Toolkit Challenge

Embracing Intensity Community

Support us on Patreon!

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Are you an Approval Addict? How about a Gold Star Chaser? For so many excitable people, it can be exhausting and unfulfilling simply living life under the shadow of the approval of others. If that sounds like you, listen in to this rerun installment of Embracing Intensity. This week, Aurora interviews her mentor Amy Pearson about her own struggles as an Approval Addict. Amy is a life coach, mother, and deep believer in helping women come into their own authenticity. In this episode, she dives deep into what it means to live free from approval, and gives you the tools and opportunity to be who you truly are!

Join Aurora and Amy to experience all that this episode has to offer:

• Amy shares how she journeyed from people pleaser to fearlessly fulfilled.
• Discover what it means to be an Approval Addict, and how to break the cycle.
• It is time to drop the façade of likability, and start embracing that inner fire. Find out how!
• Learn how to channel your intensity instead of pursuing affirmation from others.
• Moms really do know best—learn what wisdom Amy embraced to change the course of her life.
• Unlock what it means to Amy and Aurora to unearth your own authenticity.
• Amy describes what it means to find her Tribe, and discover how you can find your Tribe too.
• Check out your Approval Personality with Amy’s specially designed quiz.

Links

Join the League of Excitable Women on Facebook

Amy's New Website Being Amy The Blog (Active 1/1/20)

Sign up for updates and take Amy's Approval Personality Quiz

Amy’s Original Website

Aurora’s Website

Power Zone Toolkit

Embracing Intensity Community

Amy Recommends

The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

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Would you consider yourself the “Creative Type?” Does life seem to be barely within your control? Do you ever find yourself toning down your big, grand ideas for the sake of appearance and opinion? If so, you might be like this week’s guest on “Embracing Intensity. Join Aurora as she interviews Katherine North.

Katherine is a life coach, writer, and mother on a mission to lead women out of the creative storm of clutter and into a more beautiful, more authentic life. Her coaching allows women to stop stifling their joy, and embrace the things they truly love. Tune in to hear about Katherine’s journey across oceans and disciplines as she explains what it means to declare dominion over this beautiful life.

Listen in as Aurora and Katherine discuss:

• Katherine’s journey from toned down and timid, to creatively big and epically badass.
• Discover how Katherine figured out how to live life in the “ethereal realm”
• How to engage with your creativity, and let it be as big as you want it to be
• Find out what it takes to be a Heathen Mystic
• Uncover the magic of “morning pages”
• Find out how you can be a part of the next Queen Sweep for a more beautiful home
• Get connected to Katherine’s weekly blog with tips and tricks for intense, sensitive, and creative women
• Learn the two requirements for being an EFBA

Links

Join the Embracing Intensity Community

Katherine’s Website

Katherine’s Book Practical Magic for Secret Mystics

Aurora’s Website

Power Zone Toolkit

Katherine Recommends

Parenting Without Power Struggles by Susan Stiffelman

Steering by Starlightby Dr. Martha Beck

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Three words: You are enough. For an intense person in today’s fast-paced and demanding world, it is easy to feel like you have to tone yourself down. Are you feeling burned up, beaten down, and bummed out? Then you need to listen to this week’s episode of “Embracing Intensity.”

This week’s guest is Starr Sheppard-Decker, a business coach, and spiritual leader with a passion to see women fully embrace their intense selves. Through spiritual searching and a dive into her own inner psyche, Starr realized she desired attention and acceptance from others, when all she really needed was attention and acceptance from herself. Hear Starr’s wisdom and heart for women with intense passions and a fire worth spreading.

In this episode:

• See how Starr’s passion for societal change has turned her into a teacher, spiritual leader, and life coach.
• Starr shares the experiences and revelations that changed her perspective on her own brand of intensity.
• Feel great about how unique you are!
• See how intensity looks in the fast paced, energetic, deep inner workings of psyche and spirituality.
• Learn how to live on the edge of cultural norms and present new ideas.
• Break the idea of categories; redefine good and bad in your life
• Find the right fit in your relationships.
• Hear how Starr found spiritual development by seeking help and healing.
• Learn grounding techniques and increase your emotional bandwidth
• Deal with false beliefs and cling to what is true.

Starr Recommends

A Woman’s Worth by Marianne Williamson

The Mandala of Being by Richard Moss

Links:

Starr’s Website

Session link

Embracing Intensity Community

XPress Your Power Store

Aurora’s Website