I just came back from a powerful retreat in Mallorca, and my journal is bursting. Bursting with thoughts, emotions, patterns I’ve noticed — and memories of the last 20 years, showing up in group after group, workshop after workshop, searching for meaning, healing, and clarity. I’ve sat in yoga circles, agile certification bootcamps, tantra sessions, coaching intensives, and plant medicine ceremonies. And across all of them, there are a few things I wish someone had told me at the beginning.