Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with @ThatHoarder

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This week, let's revisit a brilliant conversation I had with money coach Paige Pritchard all about overspending, compulsive shopping, and resisting the urge to binge buy.

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Reflecting on the journey from my terrified first recording to episode 200, I am talking today how speaking out brought connection, understanding, and a community I never thought possible. This episode is a letter to my past self, and it’s also to you. It’s honest about what’s changed, what’s still hard, and the unexpected power of not being alone.

If you’re struggling too, know you’re part of something bigger here.

Letter to Episode One Self
Emotional state during the podcast's inception (fear, isolation, shame)
Misconceptions about being alone with hoarding disorder
The unexpected journey and growth started by publishing the first episode
Early Understanding of Hoarding Disorder
Lack of knowledge about hoarding at the start
Pain of isolation and confusion
Limited exposure to terminology, research, and causes
Learning and Personal Growth Through the Podcast
Gained understanding about the science and psychology of hoarding
Insight into links with trauma, grief, ADHD, autism, and anxiety
Struggles and gradual improvements in managing inner critic
Realities of Recovery
No “quick fix” for hoarding disorder; non-linear progress
Importance of learning
Learning to discuss hard issues before they are resolved
Building a Community
Realisation of not being alone — over 400,000 plays
Listeners’ responses and the impact of shared stories
The growth of a supportive community, accountability calls, and new friendships
Challenging Shame and Secrecy
Confronting and gradually reducing shame through connection
The belief that shame was deserved begins to change
Disclosure of hoarding disorder to three real-life people and their supportive reactions
Helping Others Through Honest Sharing
Helps others feel less alone
Listeners gain courage, understanding, and the will to seek help
Gained Wisdom & Tools
Increased confidence, self-trust, and knowledge
Action, however small, is key to progress
Understanding that worth is not tied to cleanliness or orderliness
Recognition that recovery is more than just decluttering
Accepting Ongoing Struggles
Open acknowledgment that challenges persist
Emphasis on wisdom and resilience, not just results
Evolution as a Podcaster
Recognition of the podcast’s impact on the host and the community
Gratitude for guests and listeners
Encouragement to continue the journey, highlighting non-linearity and hope
Thanking podcast guests
Appreciation for both long-time and new listeners

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Hoarding is far more complicated than just clutter - there are layers upon layers, from the visible stacks of possessions to the hidden emotional weight, old identities, and tangled feelings of shame and secrecy.

In this episode, I talk through what these layers actually look like, why they make healing and recovery so tough, and how recognising them can help us start to move forward.

It’s about giving an honest look at how hoarding really is, and offering a bit of encouragement and understanding for anyone living with it.

Layers in Hoarding Disorder
Explanation of the concept of "layers"
Recognition of complexity in hoarding and recovery
Importance of understanding layers for self-awareness and change
Physical Layers of Stuff
Sorting belongings as an “archaeological dig”
Stories and histories attached to different layers of possessions
Practical observations about layers:
Top layer: Most recent or most-used items
Middle layers: Mixture of older and neglected items, representing different life periods
Bottom layers: Emotionally complex, broken, or “buried” items
How physical layers inform decluttering decisions
Emotional Layers in Hoarding
Surface emotions: annoyance, sadness, irritability
Deeper emotions: anxiety, fear of making wrong choices
Core emotions: grief, trauma, feelings of unworthiness or inadequacy
Guilt, anger, disappointment, and how these mix together
The idea of layering additional distress (as per Carolyn Spring)
Differentiating unavoidable pain from added self-blame
Focusing on agency in managing additional emotional layers
Cascading Layers: When Problems Create More Problems
Examples of problems compounding:
Physical issues (like leaks) made worse due to hoarding
Social isolation leading to more depression and worsened hoarding
Administrative issues (unpaid bills leading to fines)
Cycle of increasing overwhelm and powerlessness
Compassion for oneself in recognising these cycles
Layers of Identity
Complexity of personal identity in relation to hoarding
Public vs. private identities
Former, current, and future self-identities
The impact of possessions on perceived identity (e.g., holding onto teaching materials)
The difference between authentic identity and identity tied to objects
Layers of Time
Holding onto items as connections to the past
Present consequences of hoarding: overwhelm, panic, paralysis
Future-oriented worries: fear of needing items later
Spaces/items “frozen in time,” keeping people anchored to the past
Reflection on who we want to be now and in the future
Layers of Shame and Secrecy
Shame and secrecy as invisible yet heavy “layers”
How secrecy takes energy and perpetuates shame
Impact of secrecy on relationships and daily interactions
Barriers to seeking help caused by shame and secrecy
The process of being more open about hoarding
Navigating and Addressing the Layers
Emphasis on not needing to resolve all layers at once
The process of recognising and being patient with layers
Importance of support systems and therapy
Identifying helpful (protective or wise) layers versus harmful ones
Themes of self-compassion and validation for the complexity of the experience
Rejecting simplistic advice to “just get rid of stuff”
The process is about understanding and self-acceptance
Encouragement to approach oneself with patience and compassion
Closing remarks and reminders about podcast resources and support options

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Carolyn Spring
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Today I’m talking about how being intentional - basically doing things on purpose rather than on autopilot - can genuinely reshape how we deal with hoarding and our stuff.

I’ll share how intentionality helps us pause, make better decisions, and treat ourselves with more compassion, rather than reacting on impulse or out of habit.

Plus, I’ll look at how setting small boundaries and choosing to rest on purpose can all be important aspects of real, lasting change.

The transformative power of intentionality.
Setting the stage: How being intentional relates to what we keep, acquire, or discard.
What is Intentionality and Why Does it Matter?
Definition: Acting with purpose, consciousness, and awareness.
Impact on self-perception: How intentional actions can improve self-esteem and self-compassion.
Increasing the distance between stimulus and response.
Agency and empowerment: Transition from reactive to deliberate decision-making.
Examples (nature walks, acquiring possessions): Using intentionality to shape experiences and choices.
Intentionality vs. Reactivity in Hoarding-Related Decisions
Reactive behaviours: Impulse acquisitions and the resulting feelings of regret.
Intentional decision-making process: Steps and self-questioning (e.g., Do I need this? Does this fit my values?).
Intentionality in Dehoarding
Emotional barriers: Overwhelm, panic, and high-stakes feelings in hoarding/dehoarding.
The value of starting small: Engaging in micro-decisions with thoughtfulness.
Shifting mindset: Moving from resentment (“I have to") to choice ("I choose to”).
Language and self-talk: The impact of words on perception and action.
Boundaries: Establishing and maintaining intentional rules for oneself (e.g., only buying clothing in your current size).
Intentional Habits, Rituals, and Boundaries
Creating structure: Using rituals (tea, meditation, rewards) to make dehoarding sessions purposeful.
Habitual vs. intentional choices: Challenging default behaviors (e.g., always keeping old birthday cards).
Self-reflection: Using intentionality to question long-standing personal rules.
Intentional Inaction: Choosing Not to Act
Recognising when rest is necessary: The difference between intentional rest and giving up.
Personal example: Planning for difficult days by intentionally not scheduling activities.
Self-compassion: Allowing yourself to rest without self-judgment.
Rest, Self-Care, and Challenging Productivity Myths
Importance of rest in the decluttering process.
Distinguishing between caring rest and avoidance.
Encouraging self-compassion and recognising limits.
Navigating Grey Areas in Intentionality
The challenge of self-deception: When “intentionality” masks hoarding justifications.
Tools for discernment: Grounded vs. anxiety-driven decisions.
Value alignment: Considering whether choices support personal values and goals.
Managing Setbacks and Self-Compassion
Responding to slip-ups: Viewing mistakes as data, not failure.
Problem-solving: Analysing triggers and adjusting future behaviour.
Avoiding all-or-nothing thinking: Reframing setbacks and maintaining momentum.
Building an Intentionality Practice
The ongoing nature of intentionality: It’s a skill developed over time.
Practical applications: Small daily decisions (e.g., washing dishes immediately).
Mindfulness: Checking in with thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations.
Encouragement: Be patient with yourself - progress, not perfection.
The cumulative power of intentional decisions.

Links

Episode about letting yourself half-arse it (#192)
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Today I’m talking about what it really takes to stick to our dehoarding decisions - how to resist urges, tolerate discomfort, and actually follow through, even when it’s tough. I’ll share why holding our nerve matters, what gets in the way, and some strategies to help avoid falling back into old patterns. Plus, there’s a practical top tip at the end to help boost your self-care this month.

Holding Our Nerve
Explanation of the gap between deciding to act and actually taking action when dehoarding
Definition in Hoarding Context
Persistence in sticking to healthy, productive decisions
Managing urges to revert to hoarding behaviours
Commitment to goals for sustainable progress
Reference to Amelia Earhart’s quote about decision-making and tenacity
“Paper tigers” explanation – things we fear that seem big but aren’t as powerful as they appear
Application to Hoarding Behaviour
Resisting Acquiring Items
Examples: bargain shopping, free items, online shopping temptations
Enduring Discomfort in Dehoarding
Tolerating emotional and physical discomfort during the dehoarding process
Maintaining Long-term Commitment
Remembering reasons for setting goals in the first place
Avoiding short-term gratification and honouring original decisions
Hoarding as a Coping Mechanism
Exploration of how and why hoarding behaviours develop and persist
Acknowledging that they once served a purpose and understanding possible current motivations
Strategies for Holding Our Nerve
Breaking the Cycle
Recognising urges and patterns
Learning from successes and setbacks
Decision-Making vs. Tenacity
Differentiating between difficulty in deciding versus following through
The importance of honouring previous decisions
Reminders and Motivation
Recalling the “why” behind goals (better living conditions, consequences, self-improvement)
Using motivational tools (e.g., visual reminders, Pinterest boards)
Compassion and Flexibility
Allowing for Mistakes
Emphasis on not seeking perfection, just consistent progress
Adjusting Expectations
Recognising that personal best varies from day to day
Trusting the process, even during discomfort
Building the “Dehoarding Muscle”
Each successful decision builds strength and determination for future efforts
Identifying and Addressing Triggers
Internal Triggers
Decision fatigue, emotional attachment, mental and physical exhaustion, anxiety or depression
Self-doubt and “what if I need it?” thoughts
External Triggers
Specific shops, websites, sales, or social pressure from others
Discouragement, overwhelm, enticing offers, or resistance from people uncomfortable with change
Planning Around Triggers
Identifying personal stumbling blocks and creating plans to avoid or counteract them
Coping Tactics for Urges
Acknowledgment & Self-Reflection
Naming feelings and urges to reduce their power
Recognising patterns and underlying needs (e.g., hunger, mood)
Nervous System Regulation
Using grounding techniques, calming objects, self-talk, and other anxiety-management tools
Allowing oneself to feel discomfort without acting on it
Dealing with “What If I Need It?” Thoughts
Trusting future self to be resourceful
Breaking down hypothetical worries and seeking alternatives
Importance of Support Systems
Building and Using Support Networks
Therapists, friends, accountability groups (Zoom sessions), online communities
Support as both emotional (crying, laughing) and practical (advice, checks on decisions)
Loneliness and Variations in Support
Recognition that not everyone has support, with encouragement to proactively seek help
Mention of a related episode on loneliness
Self-Compassion and Learning from Setbacks
Self-forgiveness and Reflection
Importance of forgiving oneself instead of engaging in self-punishment
Analysing situations where nerve was lost to prevent future recurrences
Practical Planning
Strategies for managing triggers, such as only shopping with someone else or removing items quickly

Links

Podcast ep 196: Trusting our future selves to be resourceful with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Podcast episode 174: How to feel grounded when we’re overwhelmed or dysregulated using ventral vagal spaces and touchstones, with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Podcast ep 49: Sitting with discomfort: distress tolerance and hoarding – How unconscious distress avoidance might be worsening your problems
Podcast ep 190: What if we forgive ourselves, but now we know better, we do better? Choosing compassion over shame in hoarding disorder
Podcast ep 130: Loneliness and hoarding with Vassia Sarantopoulou: build human connections and combat hoarding-related shame
Action for Happiness calendar
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
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This episode, I’m joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to talk about why so many of us who hoard struggle to trust our future selves to cope without keeping everything “just in case.”

We get into how doubts about our own resourcefulness and fears about scarcity keep us stuck, and share practical ways to build confidence in our ability to handle whatever comes next.

If you’ve ever worried you won’t manage without every single spare part or backup item, this conversation’s for you.

Trusting Our Future Selves to Be Resourceful
The psychological struggle of believing in one’s ability to cope without keeping everything
Personal anecdotes from the host about surprise resourcefulness
Exploration of cognitive distortions surrounding trust in future adaptability
Resourcefulness in Hoarding Behaviour
Contradiction: Resourceful justifications for keeping items vs. fear of not being resourceful if they’re discarded
The role of loss aversion and catastrophic scarcity thinking
Imagining multiple uses for broken items versus inability to visualise coping without them
The ‘Just in Case’ Myth
Reading and analysis of Ru Kotryna’s Instagram post on ‘just in case’ keeping
Discussion of how this reflects distrust in future self
Emotional impacts: fear of change, sufficiency, and facing the future without backup
How Distrust in Future Selves Manifests in Hoarding
‘Insurance hoarding’ and duplicate/back-up keeping
Information hoarding for fear of forgetting needed details
Emotional insecurity and sense of powerlessness
Host’s personal examples (nature as a self-soothing tool and fear of its impermanence)
Navigating Ephemerality and Change
Conversation about the fleeting nature of things and the difficulty in accepting impermanence
Reflection on attempts to freeze time by hoarding
Behaviours and Thoughts Stemming from Lack of Self-Trust
Executive function issues (planning, organisation, working memory)
Trauma and past experiences of genuine scarcity
Shame and immediate anxiety-reduction through keeping
Avoidance and ‘comfort objects’ as safety strategies
Psychological Mechanisms Behind ‘I Don’t Trust Future Me’
Discontinuity between current and future self
Impact of ADHD and perimenopause on executive functioning and time perception
Cognitive gaps between imagining needs and recalling/locating stored things
Irony of ‘preparedness’ leading to greater unpreparedness
Building Trust in Future Resourcefulness
The value of journalling resourceful moments
Small experiments: let go of duplicates and record how needs are met afterward
Reviewing past examples of having coped or improvised successfully
Consumerism and the Illusion of Solutions
Attraction to gadgets and solutions for perceived problems
The sunk cost fallacy and struggles to let go
Owning up to aspirational or impulse purchases and being flexible in letting go if they don't work
Scarcity Thinking and Its Long-Term Effects
Personal stories of genuine scarcity and the enduring fear it creates
How fear of not having enough directs attention to objects as solutions, rather than inner resourcefulness
Difficulty breaking the object-focused habit even after circumstances change
Breaking the Pattern: Psychological Approaches in Therapy
Building evidence of existing skills and resourcefulness
Addressing deeper self-worth issues and messages from childhood
The importance of social connections, seeking help, and curiosity
The Power and Pitfall of Backup Systems
Possessions as emotional and practical backup
Drawback: Items often become inaccessible or forgotten
The paradox of keeping as “preparation” that often fails in practice due to volume and executive dysfunction
Strengthening Connection with Future Self
Using ACT techniques and self-compassion
Treating your future self like a friend and planning for their needs
Internal monologues about preparing spaces and making life easier for future-you
Alternative Pathways to Security and Preparedness
Community and social resource sharing (borrowing, lending among friends/family)
Developing adaptability, self-confidence, and skills rather than accumulating more items
Experimenting with minimalism and embracing uncertainty
Actionable Steps for Building Trust in Resourcefulness
Saying “I’ll figure it out when I need to”
Experimenting with running out of non-critical supplies
Documenting and reflecting on resourceful problem-solving
Letting go of low-risk items and noticing outcomes
The reminder that listeners have survived all past problems resourcefully
Encouragement to recognise and trust personal growth and capabilities
Emphasis on learning, adaptability, and present-focused living

Links

The Ru Kotryna Instagram post that inspired this episode
Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Dr Jan Eppingstall at Stuffology
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https://twitter.com/stuff_ology
https://www.instagram.com/stuff_ology/
Dr Jan Eppingstall on Pinterest
Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
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I really hope to be back with new episodes for you next week but, in the meantime, enjoy this incredible conversation with Dr Jan Eppingstall all about executive function, executive dysfunction, and hoarding.

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Today, as we go into the weekend (and it's a long weekend here in the UK), get some ideas for weekend-shaped dehoarding tasks you can really get your teeth into.

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"Really early on, I was like, this isn't about the stuff. This just isn't about the stuff." - Tracy McCubbin.

Today, we’re revisiting this episode with podcast favourite Tracy McCubbin, about being the child of a hoarder and becoming a professional organiser.

Find the full show notes and transcript here: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-78-from-child-of-a-hoarder-to-professional-organiser-an-interview-with-tracy-mccubbin/

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Today, we’re revisiting this episode with the inimitable Dr Jan Eppingstall about how grief, bereavement and loss are often knitted into hoarding disorder.

Find the full show notes and transcript here: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-63-grief-and-loss-and-hoarding-with-dr-jan-eppingstall-of-stuffology/

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Today, we're revisiting this episode with the wonderful Jo Cooke from Hoarding Disorders UK about chronic disorganisation, what it has in common with hoarding, and how it differs. Find the full show notes and transcript here: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podcast-ep-139-chronic-disorganisation-with-jo-cooke-of-hoarding-disorders-uk/

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Why is it so hard to deal with uncertainty, and what does that have to do with hoarding? This week I’m joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to unpack how our brains handle ambiguity, why fear of making mistakes can keep us stuck, and how intolerance of uncertainty feeds into hoarding behaviours. We break down practical ways to build up your tolerance for not knowing and share some strategies that might actually make a difference.

Uncertainty and Its Challenges
Definition and context of uncertainty
Evolutionary reasons for discomfort with uncertainty (Selfish Brain Theory)
Contrast between historical resource scarcity and modern abundance
Our minds’ outdated ways of managing uncertainty
Cognitive Closure
What is cognitive closure?
Difference between cognitive closure (psychological need for definite answers) and “closure” in pop culture (emotional resolution)
How it relates to need for certainty in present/future, not just past events
The creation of cognitive closure measurement scales by researchers
Factors influencing need for cognitive closure:
Personality traits: Conscientiousness, neuroticism (now called emotionality), openness to experience, extroversion
Trauma history and its effects on the nervous system
Neurodivergence (with emphasis on autism and “sticky thinking”)
Combination of personality, trauma, and neurodivergence
Intolerance of Uncertainty
Psychological definition of intolerance of uncertainty
Negative cognitive bias: How it affects perception and response
Manifestations in people experiencing uncertainty as distress
Its direct relevance to hoarding behaviours
The Link Between Hoarding Disorder and Intolerance of Uncertainty
Research findings: intolerance of uncertainty as a predictor of hoarding symptom severity
Usefulness in early intervention strategies
intolerance of uncertainty as a transdiagnostic factor (across anxiety, some depression, and other mental health conditions)
How heightened anxiety sensitivity in hoarding perpetuates avoidance
Experiential avoidance in hoarding (saving and acquiring behaviours)
Connection between maladaptive behaviours and intolerance of uncertainty
Fear of Making Mistakes and Perfectionism
Common fears of mistakes in hoarding (disposing, acquiring, putting things away)
Perfectionism’s role (fear of failure, not wasting)
All-or-nothing thinking and rigid decision-making rules
Paralysing effect of avoidance due to fear of mistakes
Not making a decision as a potential mistake itself
Interaction and reinforcement between perfectionism and intolerance of uncertainty
Comorbidity and Severity
Research on multiple diagnoses: More than half of psychiatric patients have more than one diagnosis
Diagnostic challenges and overlapping criteria
How comorbidity compounds issues: More symptoms and more complexity
Higher intolerance of uncertainty linked with more severe hoarding, especially when other conditions are present
Impact on treatment difficulty
intolerance of uncertainty’s Impact on Acquiring and Discarding Behaviours
How acquiring reduces fear of missing out and future needs
Difficulty discarding as protection against future regret
Shame around mistake-making
Common inner questions: Future use, responsibility, relationships
More complexity leading to more avoidance
Nuances in intolerance of uncertainty and Hoarding
Study on sub-factors of uncertainty:
Factor 1: Negative self-referential implications (linked to hoarding severity)
Factor 2: Perception of uncertainty as unfair (not linked)
Internal vs. external perspectives on uncertainty
Relevance of anxiety-driven self-criticism
Changing Relationship to Uncertainty: Curiosity and Reframing
Rilke’s quote on “loving the questions”
Transforming approach from fear to curiosity
Curiosity as a therapeutic tool
Creativity in imagining alternatives and solutions
Relevance of loss aversion and cognitive biases
Modern Life and Uncertainty Intolerance
Research linking increased use of technology (instant answers) to rising intolerance of uncertainty
Smartphone/information overload and decreased tolerance “muscle”
Relevance to hoarding (desire for backups, information saving)
Example: IMDb, screenshots, saving digital info
Treatment Strategies
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) effects on intolerance of uncertainty in anxiety
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and exposure-based methods: Pros and cons
Importance of a therapist experienced in error-related distress and uncertainty
Key skills: Observing distress, sitting with uncomfortable feelings, gradual exposure
Self-help approaches:
Reframing mistakes as learning
Practicing self-compassion
Values-based decision-making
Systematic exposure to small errors
Gradually breaking rigid rules (e.g., waste, tidiness)
Recognising individual differences and seeking appropriate support
Embracing Mistakes and Humanity
Learning from therapist/client anecdotes
Cultural expectations around perfectionism vs. real human messiness
How mistakes can be positive or even entertaining
Letting go of the need for perfection
The Four Cs for Managing Uncertainty
From Elizabeth Weingarten: Curiosity, Conversation, Community, Commitment
How to foster each:
Curiosity: Approach with questions and exploration
Conversation: Discuss uncertainties with trusted people
Community: Build social support
Commitment: Dedication to exploring questions and knowing when to let go

Links

Hillman, S. R. HOARDING DISORDER AND Intolerance of Uncertainty, Anxiety Sensitivity and Distress Tolerance in Hoarding Disorder Compared to OCD and Healthy Controls - Shemariah R. Hillman; Claire L. Lomax; Nadeen Khaleel; Theresa R. Smith; James D. Gregory
Baldwin, P. A Multimethod Examination of Vulnerability in Hoarding, UNSW Sydney, 2016. https://doi.org/10.26190/UNSWORKS/19156
Castriotta, N.; Dozier, M. E.; Taylor, C. T.; Mayes, T.; Ayers, C. R. Intolerance of Uncertainty in Hoarding Disorder. Journal of Obsessive-Compulsive and Related Disorders 2019, 21, 97–101. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jocrd.2018.11.005
Exploring Humanity’s Relationship to Uncertainty with Elizabeth Weingarten
Podcast ep 49: Sitting with discomfort: distress tolerance and hoarding – How unconscious distress avoidance might be worsening your problems
Podcast ep 190: What if we forgive ourselves, but now we know better, we do better? Choosing compassion over shame in hoarding disorder
Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall
Podcast ep 127: Overcoming overspending with Paige Pritchard, Money Coach
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Dr Jan Eppingstall at Stuffology
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Today, let's revisit this episode with 31 things you can dehoard today if you're stuck and don't know where to start. You can find the full episode transcript and show notes here.

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Transformation and comfort rarely go hand in hand, especially when it comes to overcoming compulsive hoarding.

In this episode, I talk honestly about why making real change means facing discomfort, based on a quote from Healing Justice London that “transformation and comfort do not live in the same house”.

I challenge us to identify the difference between familiarity and comfort, and share practical ways to push through those tough moments - because growth comes from getting a bit uncomfortable.

If you’re tired of mistaking chaos for comfort, this one’s for you.

“Transformation and comfort do not live in the same house” (Healing Justice London)
The universal truth behind the idea
The necessity of discomfort for real transformation
Discomfort Versus Comfort in the Hoarding Context
Familiarity as a source of “comfort” for those who hoard
Risks of equating familiarity with true comfort
The need for change and its inherent discomfort
Examples of positive outcomes after embracing discomfort
The Reality of Discomfort in Dehoarding
Emotional and physical challenges of dehoarding
Potential for overwhelming feelings and anxiety
Catastrophising and perfectionism surrounding decision-making
Emotional toll of letting go and possible identity implications
Acknowledgement that discomfort does not mean failure
Familiarity Versus Authentic Comfort
Distinction between feeling comfortable and something being familiar
The false sense of control and security provided by clutter
The actual consequences of living in a hoarded home:
Physical hazards (tripping, blocked access, risk in emergencies)
Social isolation and shame
Lack of practical comfort (e.g., not sleeping in one’s own bed)
The hidden, ongoing “slow burn” of stress and discomfort
Motivation and Community
Importance of recognising the true discomfort of living with hoarding
Community connections via the podcast and accountability Zoom sessions
Methods to share resources and reduce isolation
Reframing Discomfort as Growth
Viewing discomfort as a sign of progress rather than a warning
The parallel discomforts of both dehoarding and continuing to hoard
Making conscious choices between competing difficulties
Strategies for Managing Discomfort
Taking small, manageable steps to build resilience
Being gentle and compassionate with oneself during the process
Reaching out for support (friends, family, therapist, peer groups)
The use and benefit of accountability sessions
The Broader Benefits of Transformation
Improved physical space and wellbeing
Increased self-confidence and pride
Better relationships and decreased shame
Regaining practical functionality and freedom at home
Enhanced overall quality of life
Practical Suggestions and Further Resources
Trying a small, uncomfortable but positive task today
References to previous episodes for deeper exploration:
Sitting with discomfort and distress tolerance (Episode 49)
Building resilience (Episode 70 with Dr. Jan Eppingstall)

Links

Podcast ep 190: What if we forgive ourselves, but now we know better, we do better? Choosing compassion over shame in hoarding disorder
Podcast ep 49: Sitting with discomfort: distress tolerance and hoarding – How unconscious distress avoidance might be worsening your problems
Podcast ep 70: Resilience and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall of Stuffology
Enough, the Podcast
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
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In this episode, I unpack the myth of laziness and why it’s such a damaging label for people with hoarding disorder.

I’ll break down how blaming ourselves or others for being “lazy” ignores the real barriers - like overwhelm, poor mental health, executive dysfunction and more - and just piles on more shame.

Let’s get honest about what’s actually holding us back and why reframing this idea matters.

The Myth of Laziness in Relation to Hoarding
Revisiting a previous episode’s question: Are hoarders lazy?
Arguments against the idea (hoarded homes require more energy to live in, etc.)
The aversion to external intervention reveals deeper issues than laziness
Societal attitudes towards rest and productivity
Internalised and external accusations of laziness
The damaging effects: shame, isolation, distress
Understanding Hoarding as a Mental Health Issue
Hoarding as a coping method for difficult emotions
Judgments of laziness overlook the disorder’s complexity and nuance
Such labels add barriers to seeking help and reinforce stigma
Consequences of Labelling People who Hoard (or Ourselves) as Lazy
Shame and self-criticism deepen the problem
Laziness as a simplistic explanation that ignores underlying issues
Possible root causes: executive dysfunction, decision-making difficulties, emotional attachment to items, avoidance, depression, physical disability, etc.
The Harmful Cultural Narrative Around Laziness
Societal pressures to be constantly productive
Inaccuracies of the “we all have the same 24 hours” myth
Differences in time and capability due to systemic inequalities
Examples: physical ability, mental health, neurodivergence, responsibilities, discrimination
Moral and Social Implications of the “Lazy” Label
Care tasks are morally neutral (reference to KC Davis, episode 82)
The negative cycle: shame leads to paralysis, makes it harder to seek help and make progress
Laziness label used as a justification for lack of societal support
Political and social consequences for marginalised groups
Importance of community, support, and helping each other
The Danger of Linking Self-Worth to Productivity
The toxic culture of non-stop productivity and hustling
Problems with feeling guilty for resting
The spiral of self-worth being tied to continuous output
The Limiting Nature of the Laziness Concept
It shuts down further exploration of underlying problems
Missed opportunities for self-compassion, empathy, and effective assistance
Underlying Reasons for Struggles That Are Mistaken for Laziness
Lack of motivation: exhaustion, depression, overwhelm
Overwhelm due to the scale of the task
Executive dysfunction (planning, initiating, processing tasks)
Fear (of the process, of making wrong decisions, of consequences)
Fatigue, burnout, and mental health struggles
Being practically or emotionally stuck, lacking skills or knowledge
Societal Structures and Individual Blame
Blame placed on individuals ignores wider systemic and commercial influences
Industries profit from reinforcing personal inadequacy (beauty industry analogy, storage solutions)
The cycle of self-blame, shame, and attempts to “fix” via consumerism
Breaking the Cycle and Moving Forward
Recognising the myth of laziness enables real progress
Compassion, curiosity, and support as healthier responses
Encouragement for self-acceptance and seeking genuine solutions

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Links

Podcast ep 57: Are hoarders lazy? I think you’d be surprised…
Podcast ep 82: Dehoarding when you’re drowning with KC Davis of Struggle Care
Podcast ep 112: Executive function, executive dysfunction and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Podcast ep 186: 10 executive dysfunction tips and tricks to help people who hoard, whether we have ADHD or are neurodivergent or not – Hoarding Awareness Week 2025
Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt
Podcast ep 162: From Fibble to Focus: Defibble your executive dysfunction with Jo Cavalot
Podcast ep 188: 12 ways to make decision-making easier (and why people who hoard find it so hard to make decisions in the first place!)
Podcast ep 139: Chronic disorganisation with Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK
Podcast ep 107: Things that look like hoarding but aren’t: ADHD, depression, autism, OCD, OCPD and more
Enough, the Podcast
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Today I’m talking about why letting yourself make mistakes - like running out of everyday items or doing things imperfectly - can actually help if you’re struggling with hoarding.

From challenging perfectionism to rethinking the fear of scarcity, I’ll share how embracing messiness can move us forward. Plus, I’ll offer practical ideas for easing those fears and making progress, one small, imperfect step at a time.

Announcement of new dates for Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Sessions.
Aimed at connecting people who hoard for conversation and simultaneous decluttering.
Details on how to get tickets and availability through several upcoming months.
The Value of Making Mistakes
Challenging the idea of perfection and fear of making mistakes.
Proposing the benefits of allowing oneself to:
Make more mistakes.
Run out of things occasionally.
Do things imperfectly or “half-arsed.”
Identifying how fear of mistakes and perfectionism can keep people stuck in hoarding behaviours.
Perfectionism and Fear of Scarcity
Perfectionism:
Fear of making the “wrong” decision leads to inaction or keeping everything.
Uncertainty about the future and anxiety about discarding items.
All-or-nothing thinking: If it can't be done perfectly, it’s not worth starting.
Personal reflection on the struggle with perfectionist tendencies.
Fear of Scarcity:
“Keep it just in case” mentality.
Stemming from past experiences of poverty or deprivation.
How personal history and upbringing foster scarcity-based behaviours.
Recognition that such fears can be irrational and still hold significant power.
How this fear leads to over-acquisition and reluctance to discard.
Addressing Perfectionism and Scarcity (Mindset Shifts)
Techniques to gently challenge perfectionism and scarcity fears.
Reframing mistakes as learning opportunities rather than failures.
Allowing for experimentation as a method of progress.
Embracing Mistakes as a Path Forward
Learning from mistakes as a source of growth and behaviour change.
Normalising occasional regrets over discarding or not acquiring something.
Comparing the cost of keeping everything versus the occasional “mistake.”
Observing emotional responses to mistakes as a way to learn and build decision-making confidence.
Encouragement to start with low-risk decisions and build up “dehoarding muscle” gradually.
Allowing Things to be Done Imperfectly
Encouragement to “do things badly” rather than waiting for perfect execution.
“Done is better than perfect” as a motivating principle.
The danger of all-or-nothing thinking leading to perpetual inaction.
Practical examples of doing small tasks imperfectly:
Tackling a small part of a larger problem (e.g., half a shelf).
Donating a partial bag of items.
Taking any step forward, even imperfect ones, counts as progress.
Allowing Yourself to Run Out of Things
Creative and resourceful solutions arise when supplies run low.
Examples from daily life (cooking, art journalling) where scarcity breeds creativity.
Differentiates between essential items and those where running out is an acceptable risk.
Suggestions for consciously assessing what’s truly necessary to keep in stock.
Experimental Mindset: Treating Dehoarding as Data Collection
Each decision - successful or not - provides valuable data for future choices.
Building confidence and capability for bigger, more challenging decluttering decisions over time.
Summary and Reinforcement of Key Points
Allow for imperfection, mistakes, and occasional scarcity.
Importance of starting with manageable steps and celebrating imperfect progress.
“Done is better than perfect”—taking action, however small, is crucial.

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Feeling defeated by dehoarding? I’ve been there, and I’m trying to get out of it, so in this episode I unpack what’s really behind that sense of hopelessness, breaking it down into manageable pieces, and sharing practical steps for moving forward - even when it all feels impossible. If you’re stuck, overwhelmed, or just too tired to start, you’re not alone. So let’s talk about some concrete things you can try.

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Feeling Defeated by Dehoarding
Host’s recent struggle with feeling defeated and hopeless
Common reasons for feeling defeated:
The enormity of the task
Personal life challenges and lack of time
Breaking down what “defeated” means for individuals
Self-Reflection and Identifying Obstacles
Using self-questioning techniques inspired by CBT
Listing and mapping out the causes of defeat on paper
Examples of personal obstacles:
Fatigue and physical health
Difficulty concentrating
Emotional overwhelm and stress
Shame and self-blame
Sense of impossibility
Breaking Down Barriers and Theme Identification
Categorising specific reasons for defeat
Writing actionable notes beside each challenge
Strategies for managing each obstacle:
Sleep hygiene and physical health maintenance
Working on self-compassion and challenging self-blame
Supporting concentration and mental health through self-care
Trial and error with productivity and to-do lists
Coping with Overwhelm
Recognising overwhelm as a rational but paralysing response
Techniques for reducing overwhelm:
Breaking tasks into tiny, actionable steps
Focusing on achievable mini-goals
Reframing "impossible" goals into manageable actions
Addressing Stress
How personal and environmental stress feeds into defeat
Practical strategies:
Tackling smaller, actionable tasks to relieve work/personal stress
Honest communication with peers, family, and colleagues about overwhelm
Accepting that some sources of stress require long-term coping rather than immediate solutions
Tackling the Sense of Impossibility
Recognising the vagueness of the feeling
Returning to self-analysis to clarify what specifically feels impossible
Using accumulated small improvements to chip away at the larger sense of defeat
Dealing with Overwhelm and Taking Breaks
Granting oneself intentional breaks to refresh perspective without guilt
Comparing dehoarding effort to the need for breaks in work life
Re-evaluating Plans and Expectations
Assessing the effectiveness of current strategies and goals
Adapting goals to current capacity and circumstances
Seeking external feedback and community support
The Importance of Support Systems
Nurturing and expanding support from peers, professionals, and loved ones
Recognising where additional support is needed
Celebrating Small Wins
The importance of acknowledging tiny victories
Suggestions for gentle self-recognition and reward
Recording achievements for self-motivation

Links

Podcast ep 190: What if we forgive ourselves, but now we know better, we do better? Choosing compassion over shame in hoarding disorder
Podcast episode 174: How to feel grounded when we’re overwhelmed or dysregulated using ventral vagal spaces and touchstones, with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Podcast ep 160: Dehoarding with the seasons: get inspired by nature when everything is overwhelming
Podcast ep 16: Dealing with overwhelm
Podcast ep 127: Overcoming overspending with Paige Pritchard, Money Coach
Financial Confessions podcast
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
Become a Dehoarding Darling
Submit a topic for the podcast to cover
Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions
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Today I’m looking at what happens if we forgive ourselves for past hoarding behaviours, why we maybe should, and how we can actually use that insight to make better choices and move forward. I talk honestly about the shame and guilt that keeps so many of us stuck. There’s some reflection on the roots of hoarding, the importance of self-compassion, and why hating ourselves into action just doesn’t work - plus a few practical suggestions for anyone trying to make a change, no matter where you’re starting from.

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Forgiving Ourselves but Doing Better
Exploration of guilt and shame related to hoarding and feeling overwhelmed.
Reflection on self-blame, regret, and paralysis it can cause.
Catholic upbringing: Confession, forgiveness, and the importance of genuine intent to change.
Recognition that hoarding often stems from trauma, loss, fear, anxiety, or neurodivergence.
Discussion of cause and effect - influences behind hoarding behavior.
Emphasis that hoarders are not lazy or bad people, but in a complex situation.
The cycle of self-judgement and the importance of self-compassion as an antidote to shame.
Practical advice: Treat oneself with the compassion you’d offer others, challenging negative self-talk.
How self-criticism can demotivate and hinder progress.
Comparison: Encouraging someone else is more effective than berating oneself.
Understanding mistakes, taking responsibility, and making amends when possible.
The importance of learning from past experiences and committing to doing better.
Practical Strategies for Moving Forward
Suggestions for emotional and action-oriented progress:
Journalling or talking to someone about feelings.
Looking back with compassion to identify patterns and triggers.
Start dehoarding by breaking tasks into small steps.
Avoiding perfectionism; celebrating any progress.
Reference to "towards and away moves" from episode 182 with Dr. Jan Eppingstall.
Identifying values and making choices that align with them.
Finding support from therapists, friends, family, support groups, or accountability sessions.
Acknowledgement that forgiving oneself is challenging but necessary for progress.
Emphasising persistence, compassion, and learning from mistakes.
Encouragement and Validation
Recognition of listeners at various stages of their journey - starting, struggling, making progress, or just listening for now.
Assurance that small steps count and everyone is doing their best.
Emphasis that listeners are not alone.

Links

Podcast ep 181: Past influences and future possibilities: cause and effect and hoarding disorder (plus Podcasthon)
Podcast ep 95: Shame and hoarding with Professor Luna Dolezal
Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall
The Gray Area podcast
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
Become a Dehoarding Darling
Submit a topic for the podcast to cover
Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions
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This week I’m joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to talk about scaffolding - what it means, how it helps with hoarding recovery, and why our needs for support change over time.

We break down practical, emotional, and motivational scaffolding, from therapy and peer support to self-made systems and the way we talk to ourselves.

If you’ve ever wondered how to find the right kind of help without feeling stuck with it forever, this is the episode for you.

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Explanation of Scaffolding and the Zone of Proximal Development
Definition of scaffolding from educational psychology.
Origins in Lev Vygotsky’s work: helping people accomplish tasks with support.
Relevance to hoarding and recovery.
Application of Scaffolding to Hoarding Recovery
Psychological, cognitive, and emotional elements in hoarding.
Physical and organisational skill deficits in people who hoard.
Differences and interplay between psychological barriers and practical skills.
Illustrating support levels: from high assistance to independence.
Personal examples demonstrating that support needs can resurface over time.
The Changing Nature of Scaffolding
Scaffolding shifts in form and amount as people progress or encounter setbacks.
Individualisation: What’s supportive for one may not be for another.
Types of Scaffolding for Hoarding Recovery
External supports: therapists, peers, coaches.
Direct instruction and physical assistance.
Environmental modifications.
Tools and resources.
Social encouragement and accountability.
Assessing current functioning.
Matching support to challenge level (not too easy, not too hard).
Gradually reducing support as independence grows.
Scaffolding for Neurodivergent Individuals
Adjustments for ADHD:
Shorter work periods, built-in breaks.
Accountability partners and visual reminders/checklists.
Adjustments for Autism:
Predictable routines.
Clear rules and decision trees.
Sensory-friendly environments.
Executive Function Challenges and Tailored Scaffolding
Strategies like breaking down decisions, using templates, "parking lot" systems for deferred decisions.
Recognising that executive function can be context-specific and fluctuate.
Importance of Emotional Scaffolding
Emotional regulation during dehoarding.
Need for self-soothing and distress-tolerance skills as support is reduced.
Informal and Internal Scaffolding
Peer support, self-talk, problem solving, reminders.
Adapting systems in the home as a supportive structure.
Habituation and Evolvement of Support Systems
Reminder fatigue and strategies to combat it (rotating formats, colours, locations).
The necessity for systems to evolve as needs and effectiveness change.
Mindset Shifts and Realistic Expectations
Acceptance that supports may need to be re-engaged during crises or setbacks.
Not viewing return to scaffolding as failure - progress and healing aren’t linear.
Testing assumptions about personal limitations.
Re-evaluating and Customising Support
Creating, testing, and modifying practical systems in the home with or without outside perspective.
Recognising the value of trying new strategies even if initial skepticism exists.

Links

Zone of Proximal Development
The Metaphor of Scaffolding: Its Utility for the Field of Learning Disabilities, Stone, C. Addison, Journal of Learning Disabilities, 0022-2194, July 1, 1998, Vol. 31, Issue 4
Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt
Money Love podcast
Podcast ep 127: Overcoming overspending with Paige Pritchard, Money Coach
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Dr Jan Eppingstall at Stuffology
https://www.facebook.com/stuffologyconsulting/
https://twitter.com/stuff_ology
https://www.instagram.com/stuff_ology/
Dr Jan Eppingstall on Pinterest
Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
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Decision-making can be a huge stumbling block when you’re trying to tackle hoarding, from cognitive overload to perfectionism and decision fatigue. In this episode, I unpack why making choices about our belongings feels so overwhelming, what can go wrong if we avoid it, and I share practical strategies to make the process more manageable. If you find yourself stuck in analysis paralysis or endlessly putting off decisions, this one’s for you.

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Introduction to Decision Making and Hoarding
Decision making as a common issue among hoarders
Overwhelm and avoidance connected to belongings and acquiring new items
Episode aims: understanding why decision making is hard, consequences of indecision, and strategies to help
Why Decision Making is Difficult for People Who Hoard
Cognitive Overload
Too many items to process, making each choice feel monumental
Resulting in avoidance and deferral of decisions
Accumulation due to unresolved decisions
Analysis Paralysis
Being stuck analysing endless options and outcomes
Difficulty prioritising and overthinking decisions
Exhaustion from mental effort
Information Processing Challenges
Trouble prioritising urgency and importance
Struggling to filter necessary versus unnecessary information
Being trapped in unresolvable decision loops
Emotional Barriers
Perfectionism and fear of making the wrong decision
Catastrophising possible negative outcomes
All-or-nothing thinking relating to perfectionism
Sentimental Attachment
Struggles with emotional connection to items (gifts, memories)
Difficulty discerning genuine sentimental value
Fear of the Future
Anxiety about future need or regret causing paralysis
Preference for clinging to items over risking discomfort
Executive Function Challenges
Difficulties with planning, organising, prioritising, and initiating tasks
Impact of poor working memory on decision making
Consequences of Avoiding Decisions
Vicious Cycle of Procrastination
Accumulation of clutter, increased overwhelm and fatigue
Practical Implications
Safety hazards and restricted home usage
Social isolation and relationship strain due to inability to host
Emotional Impact
Stress, depression, guilt, and shame
Financial Consequences
Extra spending, buying duplicates, damage or loss of items, missed bills and penalties
Building Negative Self-Perceptions
Belief in inability to decide reinforces avoidance
Declining self-trust and self-esteem
Strategies and Techniques for Improving Decision Making
Identify Resistance and Mental Blocks
Questioning internal "nope" responses
Understanding fears or overwhelming factors behind avoidance
Treat Decisions as Experiments
Lowering pressure by seeing outcomes as learning experiences
Avoiding a pass/fail mindset
Make Micro-Decisions
Starting with low-stakes, emotionally neutral items
Building decision-making confidence ("decision muscle")
Utilise Support Systems
Seeking feedback or accountability from friends, family, organisers, or therapists
Sense-checking and encouragement from others
Clarify Values and Priorities
Aligning decisions with personal goals (e.g., hospitality, functionality, beauty)
Using values as a decision compass
Set Time Limits
Imposing limits per decision to prevent overthinking
Adjusting duration as confidence improves
Accept “Good Enough” Decisions
Allowing for adequacy over perfection
Challenging double standards around self-expectations versus others
Reduce Number of Choices
Limiting possible options (e.g., keep/throw/donate)
Pre-determining criteria to streamline choices
Reality Checks
Probing feelings of “I might need it” with practical questions
Reviewing usage frequency and functionality
Increase Awareness of Avoidance
Noticing procrastination and avoidance behaviours
Evaluating the significance of indecision as a barrier
Build Tolerance for Uncertainty and Discomfort
Accepting that discomfort is part of life, and not deciding brings other difficulties
Gradually practicing sitting with uncertainty
Practice Consistency in Decision Making
Incorporating daily decision-making habits
Gently challenging avoidance and celebrating each choice made
Decision-making is a learnable, improvable skill
The importance of starting small and practicing imperfect decisions
Building self-trust and confidence through repeated practice
Encouragement to challenge avoidance and recognise growth with each decision

Links

Buy your copy of Everything You Need to Know About Hoarding by Dr Lynne Drummond at cambridge.org/EverythingHoarding, and get 20% off with the discount code HOARDING20.
Podcast ep 172: Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents’ very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live
Podcast ep 186: 10 executive dysfunction tips and tricks to help people who hoard, whether we have ADHD or are neurodivergent or not – Hoarding Awareness Week 2025
Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt
Podcast ep 162: From Fibble to Focus: Defibble your executive dysfunction with Jo Cavalot
Podcast ep 112: Executive function, executive dysfunction and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Podcast ep 149: ADHD, hoarding and clutter with Susie Boutal, ADHD and Declutter Coach
Podcast ep 107: Things that look like hoarding but aren’t: ADHD, depression, autism, OCD, OCPD and more
Podcast ep 40: ADHD and hoarding with Dr Sharon Morein
Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall
Podcast ep 28: Avoid analysis paralysis by having ‘systems’
Podcast ep 49: Sitting with discomfort: distress tolerance and hoarding – How unconscious distress avoidance might be worsening your problems
Reasons to be Cheerful with Ed Miliband
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
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Self-care gets a lot of airtime these days, but I’ve started rethinking what it actually means, especially when you’re struggling with hoarding disorder. In this episode, I talk about why marketed, consumer-driven “self-care” just adds more pressure, and why nurturing yourself with compassion, connection, and practical routines is far more effective. Plus, I share some genuinely helpful, low-cost ways to support yourself without adding to the clutter - or your to-do list.

Self-Care in Modern Times
Evolution of the meaning of “self-care”:
The older, practical definition (basic hygiene, nourishment)
Current consumer-driven, extravagant interpretations
Critique of modern self-care commercialisation
Challenges of Hoarding and Mental Health Struggles
Emotional toll of hoarding disorder
Stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, grief
The exhausting process of trying to “fix” things
Daily stressors of living in a hoard
Feelings of failure, constant reminders, adrenaline spikes from unexpected visitors, tripping over items
The Real Purpose of Self-Care
Balancing negative emotions (stress, grief, trauma) with activities that nurture the soul
Evaluating popular self-care advice
The problem with universal, commercialised recommendations
Importance of individualised, inward-looking approaches
Introducing the Concept of "Self-Nurture"
How self-nurture differs from self-care
Greater compassion, sustainability, and personalisation
Emphasis on looking inwards for individual needs
Practical examples of self-nurturing activities
The Pitfalls of Commercialised Self-Care
The “shoulds” culture and guilt surrounding unmet self-care standards
Surface-level versus meaningful acts of care
How marketed solutions often do not address real needs
Guilt and shame when unable to practice recommended self-care (especially for those who hoard)
Consumer Culture and Self-Care
Self-care as a commodified experience: Encouragement to buy unnecessary products
How this affects people who hoard
Risk of exacerbating clutter by acquiring more as “self-care”
Focus on external fixes rather than internal wellbeing
The Benefits of Self-Nurture
Self-nurture as inexpensive or free
Focus on activities rather than acquisitions
Finding joy or restoration in simple practices (e.g., using what you have, accessing the library, running without specialised gear)
Compassionate Self-Nurture in Practice
Asking internal questions about core needs (physical, emotional, psychological)
Treating oneself as one would treat a person they love
Emphasis on gentle, non-critical, incremental progress
Drinking water for wellbeing rather than obligation
Time in nature, connecting with friends, creativity, self-acceptance
Building Emotional Security and Gentleness
Establishing emotional security as a core need
Managing self-criticism and reaching out for connection despite anxiety
Celebration of small wins and progress
Validating and acknowledging difficult feelings with compassion
Evaluating and Choosing Nurturing Activities
Key questions to ask: “Will this nurture me emotionally, psychologically, or physically?”
Differentiating between genuine needs and justifying unnecessary purchases
Avoidance of reinforcing negative patterns through acquisition
Developing a Personal Toolbox for Self-Nurture
Gathering and customising strategies that work
Routines and coping mechanisms
Taking stock of helpful techniques, personalising approaches
Recognising and valuing unique sources of restoration
Top Tip
DIY, low-cost tip for cleaning the dishwasher with household items
Encouragement to take any step, however small, towards self-nurture

Links

The "feeling your feelings" episode
Episodes talking about the inner critic: with Steve Chapman; about the song that changed everything for me; and about making mistakes
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
Become a Dehoarding Darling
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Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions
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For Hoarding Awareness Week 2025, I’m focusing on executive function - the brain’s control centre for planning, starting, and finishing tasks - and the small, practical hacks that can make a genuine difference for people who hoard, whether or not we have ADHD or are neurodivergent. I talk about real-life tips for breaking the overwhelm, managing perfectionism, building momentum, and overcoming shame, all with the aim of making progress sustainable and achievable in your day-to-day life. This episode is all about honest advice that actually works, whether you’re in the thick of it or just looking for a few smarter ways to approach this.

Hoarding Awareness Week 2025 and its theme: Hoarding & Executive Function
Recognition that executive function challenges impact both neurodivergent and neurotypical people
Executive Function and Hoarding
Previous podcast episodes relating to executive function, ADHD, and hoarding
Importance of using effective hacks and techniques, regardless of neurotype
Emphasis on finding what works personally for each listener
The Realities and Challenges of Tackling Hoarding
Overwhelm and daunting feelings about dehoarding
Breaking tasks into small, manageable parts
Focus on actionable, day-to-day strategies rather than long-term, rigid planning
Understanding Executive Function
Explanation of what executive function is (control centre for planning, focus, and impulse control)
Factors that can impair executive function (neurodivergence, mental health, stress, lack of sleep, etc.)
Universality of executive dysfunction - everyone struggles at times
Emotional Barriers: Perfectionism and Shame
The cycle of shame and self-blame in executive dysfunction and hoarding
Societal judgment around hoarding, and its paralysing effects
Strategies for stepping back, naming emotions, and cultivating self-compassion
Core Executive Dysfunction Tips and Hacks
Breaking Tasks Down
Setting realistic micro-goals
The concept of “towards” vs. “away” moves in progress
Tracking Progress
Counting bags/items leaving the house
Caution against tracking becoming burdensome for some
Using Timers
Setting short (e.g., 5-minute) timers to help with task initiation
Use of voice assistants to avoid distraction
Reverse-timer technique to use end of music/podcast as a cue for action
The Two-Minute Rule
Limitations and personal adaptations of rule
Identifying Motivations
Creating visual or written reminders of why you want to dehoard
Acceptance of some tools working only temporarily, and switching when necessary
Reward Systems
Small, non-material rewards for completing tasks
Linking listening to desired media (like the podcast) with decluttering activities
Non-Negotiable Rules
Creating routines to reduce decision fatigue (e.g., charity bags leave home immediately)
Body Doubling
Doing tasks alongside others (physically or virtually, like in the host’s Zoom sessions)
Emotional/moral support of parallel accountability
Alternative ways to body double if group support isn’t accessible
Time Blocking and Scheduling
Using calendars and reminders to schedule decluttering sessions
Flexibly adapting this strategy based on personal response
Habit Stacking
Linking a new task to an established routine (e.g., unloading dishwasher while kettle boils)
Using “add-ons” for frequently-visited spaces (e.g., clearing five things each time you enter the bathroom)

Links

Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt
Podcast ep 162: From Fibble to Focus: Defibble your executive dysfunction with Jo Cavalot
Podcast ep 112: Executive function, executive dysfunction and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall
Podcast ep 149: ADHD, hoarding and clutter with Susie Boutal, ADHD and Declutter Coach
Podcast ep 107: Things that look like hoarding but aren’t: ADHD, depression, autism, OCD, OCPD and more
Podcast ep 40: ADHD and hoarding with Dr Sharon Morein
Podcast ep 82: Dehoarding when you’re drowning with KC Davis of Struggle Care
Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall
Podcast ep 184: What if we actually felt the feelings? An honest conversation about trauma, hoarding, and allowing yourself to feel
Podcast ep 28: Avoid analysis paralysis by having ‘systems’
Arielle and Ned's Daily Tips That May or May Not Help You
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
Become a Dehoarding Darling
Submit a topic for the podcast to cover
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In this episode, I’m with Dr Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor and hoarding expert extraordinaire. We unpack the concept of engaging with our belongings - actually seeing, touching, and using the things we tend to accumulate, rather than letting them fade into the background. Jan shares insights from her work, explains why we often feel safer just owning stuff instead of interacting with it, and offers practical ways to build a healthier, more intentional relationship with what we own. There are some genuinely enlightening moments, and plenty of ideas for anyone looking to break free from an excess of stuff.

Defining "Engaging with Our Stuff"
What it means to actually engage with possessions (seeing, touching, using)
Comparison to possessions fading into the background
The idea of using versus just possessing objects
Patterns of Engagement Among People Who Hoard
Sense of safety from being surrounded by possessions without interaction
Only the "top layer" of possessions typically being used
Loss of intention behind keeping sentimental or useful items
The psychological comfort of having versus using objects
Emotional and Psychological Aspects of Compulsive Hoarding
Emotional connection to the potential of objects rather than actual objects
Avoidance of decision-making by not engaging/touching items
Security and reassurance derived from the mere presence of items
Defeatism and pointlessness associated with searching for or using objects
Barriers to Engaging with Possessions
Overwhelm from the sheer volume of stuff
Active resistance and avoidance behaviours
Feelings of incompetence and adaptation through purchasing duplicates
Guilt associated with over-accumulation
Benefits of Actively Engaging with Possessions
Rediscovering useful or wanted items when sorting
Increased awareness of what is owned and where it is
Neurological and psychological benefits of tactile interaction
Insights gained from using and trying on items (e.g., clothing)
Decision-making as a muscle that strengthens with practice
Realisations about unnecessary duplicates (e.g., multiple ladles in the kitchen)
Emotional and practical hurdles in finding homes for items
Perfectionism and rigidity around item placement and organisation
Moving, Arranging, and Re-organising Possessions
Resistance to moving items from "their place" due to tradition, attachment, or perfectionism
Fear of forgetting where things are if organisational changes are made
Multi-step decision fatigue when organising
The importance of flexible, evolving systems for item placement
Confronting Avoidance and Overwhelm
The value of small steps, e.g., simply looking into an avoided bag or space
The myth of a “good reason” for keeping certain items, often dispelled when items are revisited
Developing Healthier, More Intentional Relationships with Stuff
Introducing intention and ritual to everyday interactions with possessions
“Rotation stations” and seasonal evaluation/rituals
Benefits of conscious handling, organisation, and maintenance
Cultural Perspectives and Practices
Japanese concepts:
Te Ate: hand-care, tactile connection as a ritual
Mushiboshi: seasonal airing and assessment of items
Ma: meaningful emptiness/space as a source of tranquillity
Contrasts between Western consumerism and other cultural approaches to possessions
Challenges and Solutions in Organising and Letting Go
The impact of spatial processing or organisational difficulties
Accepting that resistance to change is sometimes due to overwhelm
Personalisation and Flexibility in Managing Possessions
Tailoring organisation and engagement to one’s own needs, routines, and neurodiversity
Maximalism and the need for varying levels of stimulus—distinguishing between maximalism and chaos
Allowing spaces to be intentionally clear, embracing the benefits of emptiness
The ongoing journey of developing intentionality with possessions
The importance of kindness and patience with oneself in making these changes

Links

Podcast ep 146: Where Dragons Live and what we leave behind
Podcast ep 172: Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents’ very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live
How to watch Where Dragons Live
Podcast ep 53: The Endowment Effect and hoarding – How this cognitive bias makes you feel the need to keep everything
Podcast ep 124: How the little-known Hummingbird Method can help you to dehoard the areas you’ve been avoiding
Podcast ep 74: Couples and hoarding: An interview with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist
Podcast ep 140: How to cope with – or help – a partner who hoards, with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist
Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt
Elis James and John Robins podcast
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Dr Jan Eppingstall at Stuffology
https://www.facebook.com/stuffologyconsulting/
https://twitter.com/stuff_ology
https://www.instagram.com/stuff_ology/
Dr Jan Eppingstall on Pinterest
Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
Become a Dehoarding Darling
Submit a topic for the podcast to cover
Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions
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This week, I talk about what happens when I actually let myself feel the tough emotions instead of shutting them down - a pattern that's shaped my life and my struggles with hoarding, self-harm, and eating disorders. After a thought-provoking conversation with Anna Sale on Death, Sex & Money last year, I started questioning whether avoiding feelings has helped or hurt me in the long run and have been trying to process that ever since! I share what it’s like to sit with big emotions, experiment with messy ways to cope, and why feeling the feelings might just be a way forward.

Avoiding Feelings
Realisation that I tend to do anything rather than feel difficult emotions.
Recent personal reflection and processing feelings over the past few months.
Impact of mental health and a PTSD flare-up on my ability to manage feelings.
Connecting Coping Mechanisms to Avoidance
Experience with PTSD, self-harm, anorexia, and bulimia as different forms of not feeling or avoiding emotions.
Insights from an interview with Anna Sale on Death, Sex & Money that linked these coping together as forms of avoidance.
Acknowledgment that these strategies were more than just avoidance - also punitive, protective, and multifaceted.
The Cost and Pattern of Emotional Avoidance
Compartmentalising as a lifelong coping skill and its negative long-term consequences.
Difficulty breaking the habit of not feeling and the impact on my sense of identity.
Recognition that suppressing feelings can be as damaging as (or more damaging than) the feelings themselves.
Actively Facing and Processing Feelings
Engaging in therapy, journaling (both resentful and creative/collage style), and reading poetry to access emotions.
Talking more openly with friends as a supportive measure.
Forcing myself to do enjoyable activities (like getting outside), which helps counteract avoidance.
Community, Connection, and Support
Impact of Trauma and Suppression on Daily Life
How PTSD and unprocessed sadness began affecting sleep, revealing that suppressing feelings is no longer effective.
Discusses the challenge of letting oneself feel emotions, both by choice and when overcome involuntarily.
The risks of being overwhelmed and the delicate balance between feeling and avoidance.
Learning and Conversations About Emotional Acceptance
Revisiting lessons from previous podcast guests about the counterproductivity of suppressing or over-intellectualising feelings.
The concept that suppressed emotions may “come out sideways” through other behaviours, like self-harm or hoarding.
Nuanced view of coping mechanisms - not labeling them as purely negative since they served protective purposes.
Vulnerability, Shame, and Deepening Relationships
Gradual willingness to share deeper, more distressing moments with friends.
Examining the reasons behind the instinct to hide intense distress.
How vulnerability leads to stronger, more meaningful connections.
Positive Effects of Feeling the Hard Stuff
Discovering that feeling hard emotions increases the capacity to feel positive emotions more deeply.
Finding deeper love, joy, and beauty in everyday experiences.
Recognising the importance of support systems when exploring difficult emotions.
Reflection and Encouragement for Listeners
Encourages listeners to be curious about their own patterns of avoidance and coping.
Cautions that intentionally feeling emotions is difficult and requires support.
The hopeful observation that allowing feelings can be cathartic, gratifying, and healing—even if it’s uncomfortable.

Links

My interview on Death, Sex & Money
Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall
Podcast ep 169: Compassion-focused therapy for grief and hoarding with Dr Chia-Ying Chou
Podcast ep 172: Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents’ very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live
Declutter Hub podcast
Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding
Become a Dehoarding Darling
Submit a topic for the podcast to cover
Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions
Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast
Twitter: @ThatHoarder
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In this episode, I chat with Carrie Lagerstedt, a professional home organiser specialising in working with neurodivergent people in New Zealand. Carrie, diagnosed with ADHD herself, shares insights on managing clutter and executive dysfunction by creating home systems that work for us. We challenge the very idea of laziness and explore the potential of “may as well”.

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Carrie's background and transition from teaching to organising
Neurodivergence and Clutter
Common issues linking neurodivergence with clutter
Out of sight, out of mind
Sensory overwhelm and its effect on executive functioning
Challenges faced by those with executive dysfunction
Carrie's Experience with ADHD
Benefits of having ADHD when working with clients with similar challenges
Building trust through lived experiences and understanding
Moral neutrality and Organising
KC Davis' influence on Carrie's philosophy
Moral neutrality and functionality in organising
Debunking the concept of laziness
Challenges of living up to capitalist expectations
Systems for Neurodivergent Individuals
Making the home work for individuals
Difference between aspirational thinking and functional changes
Importance of practical systems over willpower
Executive Functioning and Organisational Strategies
Tools used to aid working memory and organisation (e.g., Post-its)
Cognitive flexibility and overcoming 'all or nothing' thinking
Understanding blocks and identifying actionable solutions
Personal Experiences and Adjustments
Personal stories and realisations regarding household tasks
Impact of habituation and changing perspectives on tasks
Tools and Hacks for Developing Systems
Categorising as key to organisation
Using visual reminders and structured systems

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Today, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to unpack "towards moves" and "away moves" in the context of hoarding. These terms might sound unusual, but they're crucial for understanding behaviour in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and how they relate to our values. It's all about recognising whether our actions are leading us closer to what matters or pulling us further away, and we'll be exploring how to identify and pivot those choices.

Introduction to Towards Moves and Away Moves
Definition and explanation of the concept.
The relevance of these moves in dealing with hoarding disorder.
Initial thoughts on the impact of small actions.
Examples in a Hoarding Context
Away moves (e.g., keeping craft supplies, avoiding recognising chaos).
Towards moves (e.g., donating supplies, acknowledging home environment issues).
Explanation of how values influence these moves.
Role of Values in Decision Making
Importance of determining personal values.
How values affect choices and provide motivation.
Impact of materialism and societal pressures on values.
Cognitive Fusion
Explanation and examples of cognitive fusion.
The effect of tightly held beliefs on reality and actions.
Discussion of accuracy vs. helpfulness of thoughts.
Flexibility vs. Rigidity and Perfectionism
Psychological inflexibility and societal expectations.
The struggle between personal values and societal pressures.
The concept of emotional flexibility and its importance.
Recognising Towards and Away Moves
Strategies for acknowledging and reflecting on these moves.
Importance of awareness in decision-making processes.
Dopamine and Pleasure vs. Meaning
The role of dopamine in pleasure and motivation.
Discussion on short-term pleasure vs. long-term meaning.
How these insights influence approach and avoidance behaviours.
Making Changes and Addressing Moves
Creating “if-then” plans to anticipate moves.
Reflecting on decisions and their outcomes.
Recognising patterns and using past experiences to guide future actions.
Role of Helpers in Towards and Away Moves
Identification and importance of helpers like goal setting and values clarification.
Challenges faced by individuals with attentional deficits.
Votes for the Person You Want to Be
Connection between choices and self-identity.
Concept of actions as votes for future selves.
First Steps to Take More Towards Moves
Starting with value clarification exercises.
Questions to help determine what’s important personally.
Encouragement to explore inner motivations and experiences.

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During a recent drive with a perfectly curated playlist, I had a revelation about cause and effect, particularly how our past behaviours and experiences contribute to both our challenges and our successes. I talk about having a compassionate understanding of how we've arrived at our current situation and how small, mindful actions today can shape a more positive future. The episode also features a discussion on Podcasthon and highlights the UK mental health charity Mind.

Explanation of Podcasthon: A week where podcasts highlight a charity.
Mind Charity: Focus on the mental health charity Mind in the UK.
Audio Clip: Sharing a video of Mind's work, with a translation of a Welsh sentence.
Cause and Effect Discussion
Insight through Music: Personal anecdote about creating a playlist for a long drive.
The role of personal actions in positive outcomes.
Life and Hoarding: Exploring causes of both positive and negative outcomes in life.
Factors influencing hoarding: Trauma, scarcity, and mental health challenges.
Behaviour evolution: Hoarding behaviours becoming normal over time.
Impact of Life Experiences
Examining past experiences and their contributions to current behaviours.
Considering past without judgment as a way to understand hoarding.
Facing Reality
Objective Assessment: Evaluating the current state of living conditions.
Navigating feelings like anger, sadness, and bitterness.
Future Implications
Positive Actions: How they can shape a better future.
Accountability and Responsibility: Recognising the impact of present actions.

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In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to explore a fascinating angle on hoarding: its artistic side. We'll tackle the connection between creativity and hoarding, including why so many people who hoard are into arts and crafts, and diving into how people who hoard might view their possessions in an unusually aesthetic light. Jan shares insights from both clinical experience and research, offering a fresh perspective on the parallels between art and accumulation. Whether you're a creative type or just curious about the psychology behind collecting, this conversation will give you plenty to think about.

Curiosity: Example of using curiosity to cope with pain.
Gratitude: Using the Finch app to practice gratitude daily.
Journaling: Imperfect journaling as a new approach to managing emotions.
Arty, Crafty Side of Hoarding
Trends seen in clients regarding art and hoarding
The challenge of managing craft supplies in people who hoard
Analysing Creativity and Hoarding
Comparison to detectives and acute perception
Consideration of feeling overlooked
Struggles with Crafting and Perfectionism
Challenges in starting and completing craft projects
Study on Artists and Hoarding
Traits shared by studio artists and people who hoard
ADHD and executive dysfunction parallels
Art and Beauty in Hoarding
Tendency to keep beautiful things
Struggles with displaying or appreciating collected items
Analysis of Andy Warhol's Accumulation
Discussion of Warhol’s collection as art vs. hoarding
Socioeconomic and behavioural aspects of collecting vs. hoarding
Aesthetics and Inclusion in Hoarding
Discussion of under-inclusiveness in categorising objects
Exploration of seeing beauty in ordinary objects
Potential Neurodevelopmental Aspects of Hoarding
Insights from MRI study
Brain regions potentially linked to hoarding behaviours
Using Art to Represent Hoarding Space
Artists using clutter and hoarding as themes in art
Questioning the nature of representing hoarding through art
Fear of Sterile and Soulless Homes
Addressing the fear that tidiness equals lack of personality
Discussing clutter core and maximising aesthetic displays

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In this episode, I'm chatting with Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger, a psychologist at De Montfort University who has researched how hoarding behaviours develop and the potential for early intervention. We explore the importance of looking beyond physical clutter to understand what possessions mean for those with hoarding tendencies and discuss the role of trauma, loss and life transitions. Plus, we touch on the challenges and potential pathways for early intervention in children and young people.

Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger's Path to Studying Hoarding
Influence of TV programmes about hoarding.
Curiosity about the development of hoarding behaviours.
Research on Hoarding Behaviours and Childhood
Discussion on hoarding behaviours beginning in childhood or adolescence.
Experiences shared by research participants.
Understanding 'Struggling to Manage'
Explanation of the concept derived from research.
Methods used by Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger in her research.
Qualitative study and grounded theory methodology.
Patterns of Hoarding Development
Managing possessions and life.
Emotional attachments and meanings of possessions.
Impact of life transitions on hoarding behaviour.
Overcoming Hoarding Challenges
Importance of support beyond possessions
Identity and functioning challenges for individuals with hoarding disorder.
Early Intervention in Hoarding
Difficulty in identifying people who need early intervention.
Importance of awareness and understanding childhood behaviours.
Diagnostic Criteria and Support Challenges
Discussion on current diagnostic criteria for hoarding disorder.
Difficulties in accessing support without a diagnosis.
Potential Patterns and Findings in Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger's Research
Emotional attachments and decision-making reluctance.
Preferences for discarding possessions through certain methods.
Advice for Parents about children showing hoarding behaviours
Recommendations for parents of children displaying hoarding-related behaviours.
Importance of communication and understanding the emotional meanings attached to items.
Emphasis on trauma and loss in hoarding behaviours.
Importance of understanding personal experiences in hoarding

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In this episode I chat with Sam, who speaks movingly about growing up with a mother who hoards. Now 28, Sam reflects on the claustrophobic environment, the impact on their self-esteem and organisation, and the ongoing journey to rebuild a relationship with food, space, and self-worth. Whether you're a hoarder, the child of somebody who hoards, or you know someone who is, Sam's story offers a vital perspective on living through - and beyond - the hoard.

Sam’s experience growing up in a hoarded home
Importance of understanding perspectives of those affected by hoarding
Sam’s Childhood Experience
Description of upbringing in a hoarded home
Emotional impact and feelings of claustrophobia and anxiety
Lack of emotional and physical space
Experiences of shame and comparison with peers
Coping Mechanisms and Effects on Daily Life
Sam's view of their home as an obstacle course
Impact of hoarding on family relationships
Lack of privacy and its influence on personal development
Impact on Self-Esteem and Mental Health
Struggle with self-esteem and self-care
Connection between environment and depression
Feelings of negativity and isolation
School and Social Interactions
Effect on academic performance and organisational skills
Challenges in completing schoolwork
Experiences with friends visiting the home and related anxieties
Adolescence and Growing Awareness
Anger and frustration during teenage years
Lack of external intervention and support
Missed opportunities for professional help
External Perception and Professional Insight
Outside family and societal perceptions of hoarding
Drip-feeding experiences to others and feeling of overwhelming others
Relationship with Food and Nutrition
Negative perceptions of food due to spoiling and smells
Ongoing struggle with eating certain foods, particularly fruit
Rebuilding a relationship with food as an adult
Leaving the Home and Independence
Sam’s experience and decision to move out at 20
Challenges and processes involved in leaving the parental hoarded home
Continued responsibilities in a second hoarded home
Long-term Effects on Sam’s Adult Life
Influence on career choice and support work with young carers
Ongoing challenges with personal organisation and self-care
Struggles with mental health and burnout
Sam’s Relationship with Family
Complex relationship dynamics with parents
Lack of understanding from parents regarding Sam’s struggles and decisions
Reflection on parental insight into hoarding and its effects on family
Current Relationship with Hoarding and Cleaning
Sam’s approach to possessions
Emotional responses to cleaning and organising tasks
Developing the skillset for maintaining an organised living space
Message for Others Experiencing Similar Situations
Encouragement for other young carers and children of hoarders
Importance of self-worth and identity outside of hoarding stigmas
Strategies for mental health and personal growth
Final Thoughts and Reflections
Reflections on how sharing and exploration helps understanding
Hope for the interview to be beneficial to listeners with similar experiences

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Today, I'm reflecting on 11 unexpected lessons I've picked up since starting this podcast, which go beyond just understanding hoarding disorder. From learning the power of showing progress rather than perfection, to discovering the benefits of stepping out of my comfort zone, I'll share insights that have influenced not just my journey with hoarding, but life as a whole.

Let's see how the themes of mistakes, progress, and learning can apply to anyone seeking positive change.

Importance of showing progress instead of aiming for perfection
Personal struggle with early episodes and progression over time
Decision to keep early episodes live as a reflection of journey and growth
Examining Contradictions
Realisation of contradictions in personal life versus podcasting
Applying podcast editing philosophy to home tidying
Capabilities and Achievements
Realisation of being able to do things previously thought impossible
Learning from incremental progress and its application to life
Comfort Zones
Exploring stepping outside of comfort zones
The rewards of nudging the edges and expanding comfort zones slowly
Learning and Growth
Starting from minimal knowledge and continuously learning
Academic engagement and gaining comprehensive understanding
Sticking to a Routine
Maintaining a consistent schedule and routine with the podcast
Role of accountability and motivation in sticking to a routine
Adaptability and Change
Ability to learn, adapt, and tweak processes over time
Application of flexibility learned from podcasting to personal life
Community and Accountability
Impact of accountability and community support on podcasting and life
Building mutual support through interactions and feedback
Facing Mistakes and Reality
Embracing mistakes and authenticity rather than striving for flawlessness
Shifting perspective on self-perceived failures
Respect and Compassion from Others
Receiving respect from guests and listeners despite personal doubts
Impact on self-compassion and self-respect
Transferability of Learning
Applying lessons learned in podcasting to other areas of life
Recognising that growth in one area can benefit others
Reflections on the transformative impact of the podcast on life
Encouragement to pursue growth and new experiences beyond direct goals

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In today's episode, I talk about the practical challenges of handling clothes when losing or gaining weight, without promoting or criticising body size changes – this is a diet-culture free zone! I look at the emotional, nostalgic, and practical hurdles in letting go of clothes that no longer fit and offer advice on maintaining a well-balanced wardrobe while managing current size transitions. Like, what do we buy in our new size?! Plus, I'll provide practical tips on selling or donating old clothes and how to avoid over-accumulating in your new size.

Handling Clothes When Gaining or Losing Weight
Experience with Weight Fluctuation
Emotional and Practical Challenges of Clothes That No Longer Fit
Challenges of Discarding Clothes
Emotional Attachment to Clothes
Difficulty in Letting Go of Clothes with Memories or Associations
Factors Influencing the Decision to Keep or Discard Clothes
Potential Future Weight Fluctuations
Emotional Attachments
The Sunk Cost Fallacy
Guilt About Waste
Strategies for Managing Clothes When Weight Changes
Building the Dehoarding Muscle
Selling vs. Donating Clothes
Setting Parameters for Clothing Storage
Practical Solutions for Current Clothing Needs
Shopping Your Own Stuff
Gradual Replacement Strategy
Mindful Purchasing Decisions
The Liberating Aspects of Letting Go of Clothes

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In this episode, I'm joined by Jasmine Sleigh, professional declutterer, as we discuss the daunting first steps of reaching out for professional help in tackling hoarding. Jasmine shares insights into what prompts individuals to make that initial call and the courage it takes, alongside practical strategies for working with organisers. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on overcoming fears and building trust for positive change in managing clutter.

Inviting Professional Help
Jasmine explains common motivators for people to seek help
Specific incidents or realisations prompting action
Example scenarios like misplaced items or repairs
The Initial Call to a Professional Organiser
What typically prompts the call for professional help
Jasmine's perspective on admiration for those who reach out
The importance of taking calls seriously and with empathy
Engaging with Potential Clients
Approach to initial conversations with potential clients
Building trust and understanding the client's situation
Establishing client needs and potential outcomes
Assessing the Client’s Home
How Jasmine gathers information about the client's home
Importance of assessing without judgment
Considering client interaction with their items and living space
Professional Organiser-Client Dynamics
Respecting clients’ preferences and leading decisions
Balancing professional insight with client autonomy
Working towards the client's goals and priorities
Process from Inquiry to Working Together
Steps from initial inquiry to in-home visit
Managing client expectations and realities
Ensuring client comfort and readiness
In-Home Visit Experience
Jasmine’s mindset and approach during a home visit
Avoiding overwhelm and maintaining professionalism
Logistical and emotional assessments of the client’s environment
Judgment and Perception in the Decluttering Process
Being conscious of non-verbal cues and judgments perceived by clients
Strategies for maintaining client comfort and trust
Determining Fit and Referrals
Assessing fit between client and professional organiser
Referring clients to other professionals when appropriate
Dealing with Client Motivations and External Pressures
Addressing clients seeking help due to external pressures
Finding a balance between urgency and client readiness
Ensuring Positive Outcomes and Encouraging Future Engagement
Creating a sense of achievement for the client
Fostering positive experiences to encourage future self-help
Challenges and Responsibilities of Professional Organisers
Ethical responsibilities and managing client expectations
Building trust for effective collaboration
Personal Reflections and Habits for Mental Health
Jasmine shares personal habits that support her mental health
Reflection on the importance of reading and self-care activities

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In today's episode, Dr Jan Eppingstall and I explore how to create a ventral vagal space or touchstone to help us regulate our emotions, drawing inspiration from the work of Deb Dana and polyvagal theory. We look at how we can find or create areas within our home, and objects we can use on the go, that provide safety and connection, allowing us to feel grounded and manage overwhelming moments. We'll look at the emotional significance of objects, avoiding those that glower at us, and instead creating spaces filled with comfort and warmth.

Creating Your Own Ventral Vagal Space
Permission Slip segment
Discussion about photographic portraits
Emotions associated with the portraits
Objects as Memories
Significant memories vs. happy memories
Harriet Impey's notion of "glowering" objects
Emotional Impact of Objects
Portraits as a reminder of insecurity
Ventral Vagal Space Concept
Use of Deb Dana's work in polyvagal theory
Connection between emotional safety and physical space
Explanation of Polyvagal Theory
Breakdown of the nervous system's stages: ventral vagal, sympathetic, and dorsal vagal
Relevance of Polyvagal Theory to Hoarding
Trauma and its relation to object attachment
Challenges of decision-making in a cluttered environment
Deb Dana's Home Analogy - Comparison of home systems to body's autonomic systems
Integration needed for a "full life" and connection
Practical Application of Ventral Vagal Spaces
Creating nourishing home spaces
Abundance
Importance of Touchstones
Explanation and significance of touchstones
Examples of personal or portable calming items
Creating a Ventral Vagal Space or Touchstone
Starting small by identifying objects that bring safety and contentment
Using childhood memories to influence current safe spaces
Applications and Benefits
Using the space for emotional regulation
Touchstones as portable reminders of safety
Recognising objects that already serve as touchstones
Importance of awareness and observation in identifying touchstones
Utilising Resources for Grounding
Examples of resources: lava lamps, messages, certain sounds
Strategies for implementing these resources in daily life

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In today's episode, I'm sharing nine strategies that are making a real difference in managing my hoarding behaviour and curbing over-acquiring right now. From tricks to overcome perfectionism and opening a daunting pile of letters to finding support in unexpected places and even leveraging a cute app, these tactics are moving me forward.

Join me as I lay out what's working, in the hope it sparks a few ideas for you too.

Opening 100 unopened letters
Overcoming fear and procrastination
Sorting coins and dealing with obsolete items
Decision-making process in letting go
Recognising dehoarding as self-kindness, not punishment
Benefits of having a friend who knows the hoarding situation
Managing perfectionism and doing things imperfectly
Using the "hummingbird method" for tasks
Introduction and use of the Finch app for self-care
Using virtual assistants for task reminders
Success with excessive mug collection and food cupboards
Impact of the documentary "Buy Now" on purchasing habits
Changing relationship with the inner critic
Overcoming Mail Anxiety Milestone
Kindness, Not Chore
Embrace Imperfection for Future Growth
Hands-Free Task Management
Best-before dates at the start of the year
Consumerism Documentary
Curbing Instant Gratification

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In today's episode, I chat with Harriet Impey about the complex process of clearing out her parents' cluttered house after their deaths. From unusual family rules to emotional ties with objects, we cover how Harriet navigated the challenges of sorting belongings, her family dynamics, and the personal growth she experienced along the way navigating emotional landscapes.

We also talk about whether her parents hoarded and how their relationship with their stuff has affected her relationship with her stuff. Plus, we discuss the importance of letting go, embracing mindfulness, and the transformative power of therapy.

Trailer: Where Dragons Live: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2ARgzYZei8
Growing up in a cluttered house and realisation later in life
Harriet's mother's attachment to objects and possible hoarding
Influence of family habits on personal behaviour
Relationships and Emotional Awareness
Harriet's journey towards emotional awareness and accepting imperfections
Importance of recognising complex feelings
Managing fear of arguments and expressing anger
Using Objects Instead of Saving Them
Harriet's family preference for keeping items "too special to use"
Transition to using these items with joy
Family Dynamics and Emotional Suppression
Differences in attitudes towards possessions among Harriet and her siblings
Parents' contrasting approaches to objects
Impact of her mother's anxiety on household rules and behavior
Clearing Out Parents' Home
Harriet's responsibility in sorting through parental belongings
Emotional impact of dealing with deceased person's possessions
Reference to "Swedish Death Cleaning"
Importance of considerate item management
Therapy and Self-Reflection
Harriet's 20 years of therapy and its impact
The influence of therapy on personal happiness and self-awareness
Learning to be less rigid in life
Managing and Letting Go of Belongings
Evaluating the necessity of keeping certain belongings
Mindfulness and Mental Health
Mindful self-compassion and ACT
The filming of "Where Dragons Live"
The dual charm and burden of the family home
Personal Experiences and Family Impact

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In this episode, I discuss Ren's song "Hi Ren," a mind-blowing exploration of inner conflict that blows apart ideas about the balance between darkness and light within us all. We'll unpack Ren's introspective lyrics, which explore themes like mental illness and creativity, and consider his take on life and what we can learn from it. I share how this song's impact has resonated with my own journey in dealing with grief and the inner critic.

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Impact of "Hi Ren" by Ren Gill on my life
Relation to grief and managing the inner critic
Themes of Strength and Hope
Inner strength and resilience amidst challenges
Inner Conflict
Illness and psychological battles
The pendulum metaphor, advocating acceptance
Universal evil and inner conflict
Dark side as defensive rather than malevolent
Chaos and division as intrinsic parts of self
Identification with 'hope' indicating a shift towards optimism
Life as a Dance
Complexity and humanity over supernatural perfection
Episode contains sensitive topics including swearing, suicide, and mental distress
Song Analysis
Exploration of mental illness and creativity struggles
Connection to personal inner critic experiences
Dialogue between Ren's dark and light personas
Discussion of inner conflict and personal growth
Internal struggle about personal achievements
Dark side's criticism of Ren’s insecurities
Ren’s music achieving 43 million YouTube views
Dark side as a symbol of temptation and negativity
Host's parallel with personal inner critics
Steve Chapman's TED talk on inner critics
Emotional impact of "Hi Ren" song on the host
Dark Ren attacks out of fear and insecurity.
Inner critic misconstrues protection as help.
Inner critic always undermines self-confidence, futile.
Ren's song conveys hope's profound impact.
Embrace change; it's an evolving balance.
Struggling makes us human, imperfect, and relatable.

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Exploring impermanence, this episode highlights how these concepts can help us understand hoarding behaviours and the illusion of control. Looking at impermanence also includes addressing mindfulness, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, coping with change, ambiguity and uncertainty. Yikes!

Embracing Impermanence
Psychological benefits of impermanence
Concept of "glimmers"
Interplay between mindfulness and impermanence
Fernández-Campos paper on non-judgmental attention
Critique of commercial distortion of mindfulness
Jon Kabat-Zinn’s definition of mindfulness
Practical mindfulness exercises
Mindfulness in Hoarding Context
Psychological dimensions and security from possessions
Environmental Responsibility vs. Hoarding
Personal insights on waste and possessions
Uncertainty, Ambiguity, and Impermanence in Hoarding
Tolerance of uncertainty and ambiguity
Embracing impermanence to reduce distress
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Hoarding
Psychological flexibility and acceptance of constant change
ACT's promotion of resilience
Use of ACT and Compassion Focused Therapy
Radical Acceptance
Steps to practice radical acceptance
Awareness and curiosity toward challenges
Vocalising Thoughts and Journaling
Benefits of speaking thoughts aloud
Buddhist Concepts and Impermanence
Awareness and acceptance in Buddhism
Tara Brach’s qualities of awareness
Personal Reflections on Change and Relationships
Resisting and coming to terms with change
"Permission Slip" Segment
Concept of Control and Suffering in Hoarding
Desire for permanence leading to hoarding behaviour
Justifications for Keeping Items
Avoiding unnecessary consumption
Ethical decision-making when buying
Increasing Awareness and Understanding Personal Motivations
Promoting curiosity through being without something

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In today's episode, I ask Dr Chia-Ying Chou about the complex interplay between grief and hoarding. We'll explore how emotions like grief can trigger hoarding behaviour, the role an inner critic plays, and learn all about compassion-focused therapy – including why it’s so much easier to offer compassion than to receive it. The timing is perfect, coinciding with National Grief Awareness Week in the UK.

Grief and Hoarding Discussion
Chia-Ying Chou discusses the non-direct link between grief and hoarding based on clinical experience.
Factors such as resistance to grieving and avoiding vulnerability exacerbate hoarding.
Grief can trigger hoarding behaviour to maintain a sense of control and avoid confronting loss.
Host shares personal experiences of how grief intensified their hoarding behaviour.
Grief and Possessions
People keep deceased loved ones' belongings as a way to preserve their existence.
Chou mentions the ambiguous preservation of loved ones through items.
Anxiety and resistance to facing grief make organising or discarding possessions difficult.
Complex Emotions in Grief
Host reflects on the unexpected emotions in grief, like anger or impatience.
Therapeutic Strategies for Grief and Hoarding
Chou compares addressing resistance to grief to preparing for a challenging hike.
Emphasis on resourcing, preparing mentally, and gathering support.
Suggestions for a "baby-step" approach to facing fears and emotions.
Inner Critic and Grief
Host discusses journey with their inner critic and finding new approaches to handle it.
Chou highlights how internal criticism is often related to grief and missed opportunities.
Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT)
Integration of Western psychotherapy and Buddhist philosophy for addressing psychological challenges.
Difficulty in receiving or directing compassion towards oneself.
Connections Between Hoarding, Trauma, and Grief
Patterns of loss, either tangible or intangible, among those who hoard.
Episode ties with National Grief Awareness Week in the UK.
Cultivating Compassionate Companions
Idea of cultivating an imaginary compassionate companion for emotional support.
Emphasis on emotions being a part of persona, not the true self.
Emotions and Grief Management
Pacing yourself.
Chou recommends creating space for emotions to surface naturally.
Encouragement to welcome emotions as a creative process in internal space.
Examine fears and take small steps to engage with feelings.

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Today, I'm with Dr Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor, about the fascinating art of kintsugi and how it connects with hoarding and trauma recovery. We explore how this Japanese tradition of mending broken pottery with gold has lessons for us about the therapeutic journey and the beauty in imperfection. We also discuss how these concepts apply to overcoming perfectionism in hoarding and highlight the empowering process of creating, destroying, and rebuilding.

Introduction to Kintsugi and Dr. Jan Eppingstall
Explanation of kintsugi as a Japanese art form of repairing objects with gold.
Kintsugi and the connection to recovery from trauma.
Kintsugi as a Metaphor for Healing
Importance of acknowledging the process of healing without oversimplification.
Reference to Amy Price's article about kintsugi symbolising care and time.
Discussion of Tomas Navarro's book and the importance of action in healing.
Psychological and Therapeutic Implications
Metaphor in therapy for expressing complex emotions.
Application of kintsugi philosophy in mental health contexts, including trauma recovery.
Relation to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), acceptance, and resilience.
The real-life application of acceptance and self-compassion.
Creation, Destruction, and Rebuilding
Create, destroy and recreate art as part of personal healing.
Parallel with kintsugi in wabi sabi / finding beauty in imperfection.
Personal Empowerment and Resilience
Empowerment through courage and resilience using scars as a metaphor.
Resonance with Leonard Cohen
Idea of imperfection as a means for transformation.
Contrasts with Modern Consumerism
Kintsugi and wabi sabi's focus on the beauty of imperfection and impermanence.
Reference to Beth Kempton's book on creating serene, beautiful spaces.
Addressing Perfectionism and Hoarding
Application of kintsugi principles to address perfectionism in hoarding.
Exploration of creating, destroying, and rebuilding as a therapeutic exercise.
"Wreck This Journal" to overcome artistic perfectionism.

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In this episode, I propose ten experiments to help customise your decluttering journey, focusing on individual preferences to uncover what strategies work best in your home. These experiments encourage a flexible approach to dehoarding. It's all about tailoring your methods to fit your style and your personality, ensuring that decluttering becomes a more intuitive and effective process.

Approaching Tasks as Experiments
Tasks viewed as experiments inspired by CBT
Reduction of perfectionist pressure
Emphasis on personal differences and no right or wrong answers
Testing different time slots for tasks
Effectiveness of beginning the day with decluttering
"Swallowing the frog" concept
Long-term goals vs. short-term goals for motivation
Experimentation and Adjusting Over Time
Periodic repetition of experiments to adapt to changes
Use of structured time frames and spontaneous urges to declutter
Experimenting with personal preferences for initiating action
Options such as music, TV, silence, social interaction, or media consumption
Use of podcast as motivational tool
Upbeat music playlist
Group accountability sessions via Zoom for shared motivation
Productivity based on to-do list specificity
Decluttering strategies: by space, type of item, or item within a space
Handling Difficult Categories
Approach to emotionally challenging items
Tailoring strategy based on personal readiness
Consistency in Dehoarding
Short daily durations vs. longer weekly sessions
Finding the best fit based on routine
Time Constraints
Setting strict vs. flexible schedules
Combination of structured and spontaneous efforts
Personalising Decluttering and Productivity Methods
Focus on individual preferences and method effectiveness

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In today's episode, I talk about the strategies I've been trying to address over-acquisition and manage my finances, from savings pots to practising 'just-in-time' shopping. I explain how these methods, alongside mindfully resisting impulse buys and more, are helping me reduce clutter.

Personal Financial Management
Dedicated accounts with savings pots for various expenses like glasses, car repairs, and gifts.
Spending limits.
Evaluating the necessity of purchases.
Reflecting on past financial struggles.
The tendency to overprepare due to fear of scarcity.
The impact of hoarding on life, such as emotional pain from bereavements.
The challenge of trusting that resources will be available when needed.
Shopping Habits and Strategies
Emphasising rationality in shopping.
The "just in time" shopping approach to combat over-acquiring.
Mindful shopping techniques
Checking existing supplies before shopping.
Using shopping lists with flexible categories.
Resisting urge-driven purchases like discounts.
Mindful Financial Practices
Exploring alternative uses for money beyond impulse buys.
Prioritising spending on quality experiences.
Past Financial Hardship and Emotional Impact
Past experiences of financial hardship leading to anxiety and hoarding.
Reflecting on the emotional impact from periods like the COVID-19 pandemic.
Personal Growth and Overcoming Beliefs
Encouragement to try despite potential failures.

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Avoiding the chaos of complex idea capture systems is vital for preventing distraction and overwhelm. Today, I'm sharing practical strategies for transitioning from idea capture to action, breaking down large tasks into manageable subtasks and exploring tools like Google Tasks and voice assistants for prioritisation and organisation. Plus, I reflect on my own long-term struggle with to-do lists and how to experiment with different approaches to find a system that suits your needs.

Simplifying Idea Capture
Avoid complex systems to prevent distraction and overwhelm.
Focus on simple, streamlined methods for capturing ideas.
Set dedicated idea capture times to minimise distractions.
Organising Idea Capture Materials
Ensure materials and tools are easily accessible.
Utilise technology for effortless idea capture using voice assistants.
Transitioning from Idea Capture to Action
Prioritise tasks based on urgency, impact, or personal goals.
Structure and prioritise tasks.
Break down large tasks into smaller, manageable subtasks.
Combining Digital and Non-Digital Methods
Use written to-do lists to complement digital systems for immediate tasks.
Essential Elements for an Effective System
Thinker's Notebook's five elements: omnipresence, efficiency, organisation, security, and offline thinking.
Exploring Digital and Non-Digital Tools
Popular digital tools: Evernote, OneNote, ToodleDo, Todoist, Trello, Taiga.io, Google Calendar, Outlook Calendar, Google Tasks.
Non-digital methods: scraps of paper, notebooks, preprinted planners, bullet journals, mind maps.
Personalising the Capture Method
Importance of selecting a method suited to personal preferences and technical comfort level.
Experimentation with different approaches.
Two-Step Strategy for Idea Capture
Combine digital or portable capture methods with comprehensive home organisation tools.
Mind Mapping for Subtasks
Use mind maps to break down tasks, providing a visual representation.
Realistic Time Management
Decide on timings based on deadlines and personal flexibility.
Visual Task Management
Track progress and prioritise tasks using visual tools like checklists or kanban boards.
Prioritisation and Breaking Down Tasks
Organise tasks by priority for easier management.
Divide large tasks into smaller parts for simplification.
Timely Task Execution
Be realistic about time required for tasks and accommodate flexibility.
Psychological Boost from Completion
Mark tasks as completed for a dopamine boost and visual progress tracking.
Adapting Idea Capture Systems
Experiment with various methods to find an effective system that suits personal needs and goals.

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In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall, a counsellor with a PhD in hoarding, to discuss the phenomenon of digital hoarding, where people accumulate excessive digital items.

We'll explore the emotional responses to losing digital content, the organisational and environmental implications of digital clutter, and strategies for managing our ever-growing digital lives.

From the nostalgic pull of old photos to the overwhelming influx of emails, this conversation reveals the surprising similarities between physical and digital hoarding.

Introduction to Digital Hoarding
Definition of digital hoarding
Comparison with physical hoarding, highlighting similar stress, anxiety, and attachment.
Emotional Responses to Digital Loss
Non-hoarders experiencing emotions like anger and anxiety over losing digital items.
Technological Advancements and Digital Storage
The proliferation of digital content creation, especially digital photos.
Impact of technology on creating and storing digital content.
Historical context of storage limitations versus current capabilities.
Broader Implications of Digital Hoarding
Extending beyond photos and videos to emails, subscriptions, and digital accounts.
Cybersecurity risks and financial costs associated with digital hoarding.
Reasons we retain digital content.
Emotional Attachment and Digital Data
Emotional ties to digital items like photos and documents.
Reflecting identity and memory triggers in digital possessions.
Digital Organisation Strategies
Host's impeccably organised digital life contrasted with a cluttered home.
Tiago Forte's PARA method for prioritising digital items.
Inbox Zero and maintaining an organised email setup.
Challenges of Digital Clutter
Volume over efficiency: issues accessing necessary information despite organised files.
Parallels between digital and physical hoarding behaviours.
Digital Inefficiency and Environmental Impact
Wasted time, reduced focus, and productivity issues due to digital clutter.
Significant carbon footprint of data centres and environmental concerns.
Strategies for Managing Digital Clutter
Reducing digital intake by unsubscribing from unnecessary emails and content.
Advice on stopping excessive bookmarking and managing browser tabs.
Importance of setting up email filters to streamline email management.
Creating physical keepsakes from special digital photos for meaningful interaction.
Permission Slip Segment
Discussion on evaluating difficult-to-discard items for sentimental or practical reasons.

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In today's episode of That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding podcast, I'm joined by Kendra Adachi, author of "The Plan, Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius," as we explore self-compassion and realistic productivity. We'll discuss cultural differences in self-trust, the pitfalls of traditional planning, and how small, manageable steps can lead to meaningful progress. Kendra's insights challenge societal expectations and underscore the importance of kindness and contentment in our daily lives.

Self-Trust and Societal Influences
Cultural differences in self-trust between men and women
Women's challenges with self-trust
Understanding systemic influences
Encouragement of kindness and acceptance towards oneself
Societal Expectations and Productivity Pressure
Critique of the "hustle" culture and pressure for excellence
Contentment as opposed to constant optimisation
Kindness to oneself as an alternative to relentless improvement
Resistance to the idea of contentment
Contentment and Self-Compassion
Contentment not the same as giving up
Defining contentment as awareness and appreciation of the present
Self-compassion as a holistic life perspective
Contentment and making mistakes
Hoarding and Mindset Shifts
Problem with future-focused thinking
Importance of prioritising what matters to us
Shifting mindset towards valuing fewer things and creating space
Kinder approach to oneself and questioning what we have lose by trying contentment
Integration vs. Greatness
Embracing integration over achieving greatness
Honouring emotions and practicing self-kindness
Goal setting challenges and adopting flexible approaches
Shrinking priorities to manage overwhelm
Planning and Productivity Challenges
Discussion on why many struggle with planning and productivity
Unrealistic expectations from productivity experts
Internalisation of failure for unmet expectations
Disparity in authorship vs. readership of time management books
The Lazy Genius Way and Practical Strategies
Introduction to concepts from "The Lazy Genius Way"
Principles of "going in the right order" (naming what matters, calming the chaos, trusting oneself)
Encouragement of smaller, manageable steps
Potential for meaningful change despite societal pressures

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In today's episode, I chat with Jo Cavalot, a compassionate inquiry practitioner and coach, about tackling executive dysfunction through a unique concept called "fibble", designed to help those struggling with focus and organisation. Jo shares her insights into treating internal parts with kindness, her own journey of recovery, and how she co-created Fibble as a tool to understand and manage executive function challenges. We explore the importance of personalised support in overcoming obstacles, and Jo offers a special discount for listeners interested in her work.

Importance of a compassionate approach
Internal family systems and parts work.
Viewing internal parts as friends with individual needs.
Differentiating exploratory sessions from physical organisation tasks.
Executive Dysfunction and 'Fibble' Concept
Challenges of executive dysfunction, specifically among people who hoard.
Use of the 'fibble' acronym: Frustrated, Inadequate, Baffled, Befuddled, Lacking, and Exhausted.
Fibble as a practical tool
Jo Cavalot's experience with alcoholism
Parallel between Jo's alcohol experience and hoarding.
Emotional challenges and non-linear nature of recovery.
Emphasis on self-awareness and self-compassion.
Jo's significant life changes, like moving to Spain and involvement in the Camino de Santiago.
Motivation through personal recovery and organisational skills.
Involvement and motivation in Hoarding Disorders UK.
Compassionate Inquiry, Based on Dr. Gabor Mate's work, focusing on trauma's impact.
Positive impacts on clients with hoarding behaviours and related trauma.
Key Challenges and Strengths in Addressing Organisation
Common challenges: sustained attention, organisation, self-activation, planning, and prioritising.
Creative problem-solving as a strength.
Flexible thinking and stress tolerance.
Use of a questionnaire assessing executive functioning across environments.
Understanding and leveraging diverse personal strengths.
Varying self-activation for personal vs. others' tasks.
Goal Setting and Personalisation
Personalised tools over generic advice.
Introduction of the Ikigai concept in goal setting.
Use of the fibble questionnaire for personal assessment and support.
Understanding and Addressing Underlying Causes
Identifying trauma responses and underlying causes.
Adjusting expectations based on life circumstances.
Holistic and trauma-informed support for personal challenges.

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In this episode, I’m joined by Steve Chapman, an artist and coach, to talk about working creatively with your inner critic. We talk about understanding this inner voice as a misguided protector rather than an enemy and explore creative approaches like drawing or dancing with your critic to better engage with it. However sceptical you may be about it, listen to us talk about finding compassion for that voice in your head and how art can be a therapeutic ally in your journey. Even if, like me, you cannot draw!

Steve Chapman: artist, writer, speaker, coach, with a background in Gestalt psychology, improv theatre, coaching, and art therapy.
Discussion on creativity, imperfection, being stuck, shame, and the inner critic.
Struggles with a harsh inner critic for years.
Perspective shift influenced by the song "Hi Ren"
Insights on the Inner Critic
Inner critics act as misguided protectors from early childhood.
An approach to understand inner critics rather than fight them.
Creative Approach to the Inner Critic
Drawing or creative engagement to externalise and personify the inner critic.
Small creative experiments to better understand the inner critic.
The therapeutic nature of experimenting with art.
Inner Critic & Self-Compassion
Developing a compassionate relationship with the inner critic.
Thich Nhat Hanh on nurturing inner energy.
Dealing with worry through acceptance and self-compassion.
Art as a method to engage with emotions and inner critic
Resonates with others and serves as a therapeutic tool.
Shame & Vulnerability
Shame thrives in secrecy; exposing it diminishes its power.
Importance of bringing shame to light as discussed by Brene Brown.
Comfort and Discomfort
Finding a balance between comfort and distress.
Advocates for taking small steps toward addressing discomfort.
Discussing mental health openly demonstrates personal growth and reduced stigma.
Working with different materials for creative exploration.
Workshops begin without set goals to allow creativity to flourish.
Dealing with Inner Critics
Awareness of inner critics as part of being human and lifelong process.
Engaging with the inner critic in a playful rather than adversarial way.
Therapeutic Work and Community Support
Value of in-depth therapeutic work and community support in managing inner critique.
Artistic Abilities and Perceptions
Societal pressures influence perception of artistic ability.
Chapman aims to inspire and counter feelings of inadequacy.
Role of Continuous Exploration in Art
Art viewed as an ongoing process rather than a definitive product.
Tuning into emotions and body sensations beyond verbal communication.

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In this episode, I explore how the change of seasons can inspire and motivate dehoarding efforts, with autumn in the northern hemisphere and spring in the southern hemisphere being upon us. Drawing on traditions like harvest festivals and spring cleaning, we'll discuss how nature’s rhythms can support our journey toward a more organised home. Plus, personal insights on managing the emotional challenges of letting go and tips for embracing seasonal transitions as opportunities for growth.

Seasonal Influence on Dehoarding
Autumn Motivation
Mixed feelings: beauty vs. precursor to winter
Harvest festivals: gratitude and inspiration for giving and decluttering
Nesting instincts as a motivational tool for organizing
Spring Motivation
Symbolism of renewal and hope
Growth and change as motivators for overcoming hoarding disorder
Spring cleaning tradition as an opportunity for new beginnings
Emotional Aspects of Decluttering
Acknowledge and understand feelings like overwhelm, anxiety, confusion, and fear
Use emotions to gain self-insight and understand attachment to items
Seek support from therapists, friends, family, or professional organisers
Practical Steps for Dehoarding
Assess possessions when transitioning between seasons
Evaluate practical use of items like blankets and coats
Decluttering inspired by seasonal changes
Focus on small areas to avoid overwhelm
Small, consistent changes over dramatic ones
Set realistic goals for home improvements by New Year
Community and Support
Engage in dehoarding accountability sessions for communal support
Donating items to reduce unnecessary storage
Assess what you want for your home as the year end approaches
Aiming for improvement, maintenance, or worsened state?
Set intentions
Walking, observing nature, and journaling
Creating Rituals and Redefining Comfort
Suggest creating rituals in tune with seasonal changes to aid decluttering
Redefine comfort by reducing clutter rather than accumulating more
Highlight the importance of a comfortable, decluttered space for winter

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On this episode, I share my experience from being a guest on Death, Sex & Money with Anna Sale. Then I dig into the idea of wanting things but still choosing not to have them and how it applies to various aspects of life, especially for those of us dealing with hoarding disorder. I’ll discuss how the disorder can distort our perception of items, leading to irrational attachments. I look at how desires often change over time, the unhealthy attachments formed for identity, comfort, or security, and how fear of regret can hinder the decluttering process.

Choosing Not to Have Desired Items
Distortion of item perception in hoarding disorder
Temporary nature of desires
Safety and clutter concerns
Emotional and Irrational Attachments
Understanding and challenging emotional attachments
Exploring reasons for keeping or acquiring items
Addressing “irrational” beliefs
Dealing with fear of regret
Joy from finding things often surpasses regret (Jasmine Sleigh's insight)
Managing regret is possible
Decision-making with clutter in mind
Not Retaining Items for Others
It's not our responsibility to keep items for others
Prioritising personal and familial well-being
Setting boundaries regarding others' potential desires
Feeling loss, fear, sadness, and nostalgia
Acknowledgment and validation of these feelings
Communicating fears and emotions
Recognising and challenging irrational thoughts and feelings
Celebrating small victories without adding more clutter
Liberation and freedom from letting go
Misinterpreting laziness as anxiety
Anxious sloth and decreased productivity

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In today’s episode, I’m chatting with Dr. Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor, about what it means to take a trauma-informed approach to hoarding disorder. Stick around as we break down why understanding trauma is crucial for effective support and treatment.

Trauma-informed approaches to understanding and treating hoarding
Importance of understanding trauma's impact
Concerns about wellbeing inquiries without adequate support preparation
Collaboration in Trauma-Informed Care
Practical Implementation for Non-Therapy Roles**
Incorporate trauma-informed principles
Sensitivity to potential triggers
Misconceptions and Communication
Fear factor surrounding trauma and its treatment
Detailed trauma disclosure unnecessary for effective support
Client Autonomy and Professional Boundaries
Respecting clients' communication preferences
Retraumatisation in Hoarding
Harm of forced clearances and strangers touching possessions
Negative impact of language and actions on hoarders
Respectful Support Practices
Building Trust
Importance of building trust before intervening in a hoarder's space
Ensuring professionals genuinely practice trauma-informed care
Over-explaining as a stress response
Broad approach of trauma-informed care
Factors influencing trauma perception
Trauma Definition
Trauma and Hoarding
Commonality of trauma in hoarding histories
A supportive framework rather than a treatment model
Five Pillars of Trauma-Informed Care
Assuming trauma backgrounds in hoarding behaviour clients
Loss of Control in Trauma
Trauma involves loss of control; care pillars help restore it
Tracking and managing nervous system responses
Importance of recognising client-specific signs
Term misuse by minimally trauma-informed trained professionals
Dangers of Misleading Trauma Informed Claims
Proper understanding of trauma to avoid harm
Non-therapists adopting trauma-informed principles
Importance of feeling present and calm during therapy
Teaching clients to feel safe and grounded
Clear Boundaries in Therapy
Trauma Types and Responses**
Variability of trauma
Explanation of retraumatisation
Managing Retraumatisation

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In this episode, I look at two major – and opposing – strategies for dehoarding: "swallow the frog," where you handle the toughest task first, and "save the worst till last," which focuses on building confidence with easier tasks. I'll discuss the benefits and drawbacks of each approach and offer tips for blending them to fit your unique needs. Join to learn how to break down the overwhelming task of dehoarding into manageable steps.

Swallowing the Frog
Best when preventing access to essential areas (e.g., cooker, bath).
Tackling tough tasks first can improve home functionality and reduce stress.
Saving the Worst Till the Last
Building confidence in dehoarding.
Tasks that are emotionally charged but less visibly impactful (e.g., old photos).
Utilising both approaches based on emotional resilience and situational needs.
Experimentation with both strategies.
Reflect on personality and typical approaches to difficult tasks.
Planning strategies based on task suitability and personal motivation.
Curiosity and trying different methods.
Observing outcomes and refining methods.
Balancing approaches for optimal dehoarding progress.
Embracing flexible planning and adjusting as needed.
Breaking Down Tasks
Breaking tasks into smaller, manageable steps.
Working for shorter, focused periods with breaks to prevent burnout.
Building Confidence
Addressing easier tasks first to build capability for more challenging tasks.
Sorting manageable items before tackling emotionally difficult possessions.
Mixing both "Swallow the Frog" and "Save the Worst Till Last" strategies.
Examination of the psychological impact of task management.
Discussing mental barriers, procrastination, and overwhelm.
Emphasis on efficiency and making progress to avoid demoralisation.
Strategies to manage overwhelming dehoarding tasks
Identifying the "frog."
Two opposite strategies for handling hard tasks.
Resolve tasks early to minimise stress and discomfort.
Breaking tasks into smaller chunks mitigates overwhelming discouragement.
Starting with easier tasks provides steady motivation.
Procrastination perpetuates stress from avoiding major tasks.
Ease into dehoarding with manageable tasks first.
Try both approaches, observe, adapt, and refine.
Examining two strategies for tackling hard tasks in the context of dehoarding: "swallow the frog" (address tough tasks first) vs. saving the worst for last, focusing on their psychological impact on barriers, procrastination, and efficiency.
Completing tasks alleviates stress and builds momentum for future tasks.
Swallowing the frog can be discouraging if tasks are tougher than expected. Break tasks into smaller chunks to avoid demoralisation. Identify and prioritise your most challenging tasks, such as urgent issues or emotionally taxing items.
Starting with smaller tasks provides steady motivation and achievement, offering quick wins that boost morale and maintain long-term productivity.
Procrastination on the most urgent task causes continuous stress and anxiety, overshadowing achievement of smaller tasks.
Start with moderately hard tasks, gradually advancing to harder tasks over time. Adapt approaches based on task suitability.
Start with easier tasks to build confidence when dehoarding, and save emotionally challenging items for later. Use both approaches as needed based on your situation.
Try both approaches and observe which helps you make the most progress. Keep adapting and refining based on your observations.

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In today's episode, I’ll help you identify the triggers that make us want to acquire stuff and how to use that knowledge to combat the urges to buy impulsively. We’ll explore practical strategies like observing urges, delaying reactions, and using distractions to curb impulsive buying. Plus, we’ll uncover the deeper emotional and environmental triggers that drive compulsive shopping and how to address them.

Emotional Triggers
Identifying emotional triggers like stress, sadness, boredom, and anxiety.
Understanding the role of dopamine in shopping behaviours.
Recognising the temporary distraction of shopping from negative emotions.
Environmental Triggers
Discussing how shopping environments stimulate purchases through strategic design.
Marketing tactics designed to exploit spending prompts.
Ecommerce Optimisation
Strategies ecommerce websites use to maximise purchases.
Seamless and tempting buying experiences.
Ease of Access
The convenience and immediacy of online shopping.
Encouraging impulsive purchases through immediate gratification.
Social Triggers
The influence of peer pressure, FOMO, and social validation.
Buying to fit in or earn social approval.
Self-Reflection and Values
Evaluating whether purchases align with personal values.
Seeking meaningful praise beyond materialistic validation.
Journaling as a Tool
Identifying and understanding personal triggers through journaling.
Noting emotions, activities, and feelings before and after purchases.
Pattern Identification
Analysing journal entries to identify shopping patterns and triggers.
Behaviour Change and Avoidance
Adjusting behaviour to avoid known triggers.
Implementing stress management techniques to handle stress-induced shopping.
Mindfulness for Identifying Triggers
Encouraging presence and consciousness in the moment.
Observing sensations, thoughts, and feelings without judgment.
Enhancing self-awareness for deliberate actions.
Observing Urges
Acknowledgment of the urge to buy and sitting with it.
Comparing urges to waves – they rise and fall.
Practicing distress tolerance during unpleasant urges.
Delayed Reaction Technique
Delaying purchase decisions to avoid impulsive buys.
Starting with short delays (e.g. 1 minute) and extending them.
Developing longer periods without giving in to urges over time.
Distraction as a Tool
Engaging in alternative activities.
Contacting friends and talking through the urge.
Reducing immediate impulses through distraction.
Addressing the Root Causes
Focusing on underlying issues (anxiety, depression, boredom).
Pursuing therapy, self-help resources, lifestyle changes, or medical treatment.
Avoiding Triggers
Avoiding people or environments that encourage unnecessary shopping.
Finding alternatives to shopping activities.
Shopping in places that minimise impulse-buying triggers.
Complexity and Difficulty
Acknowledging the multifaceted nature of combating buying urges.
Recognising triggers and managing urges requires effort and practice.
Host’s personal experiences with guilt and shame from compulsive buying.
Discussing the financial strain and relationship stress caused by impulsive purchases.
Emphasising the mental and emotional health impacts.
Impulsive shopping causes financial and relationship stress.
Emotional triggers can lead to impulsive shopping.
Awareness of emotions can reduce impulsive shopping.
External triggers and dopamine drive impulsive buying.
Question purchases' true value.
Praise for values is deeper than material praise.
Mindfulness helps identify triggers by observing sensations.
Address anxiety holistically, considering therapy and lifestyle.
Avoid triggers to reduce compulsive buying impulses.
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Impulsive shopping causes financial and relationship stress, guilt, and clutter. Today's episode explores triggers to address and mitigate these issues.
Emotional triggers like stress, boredom, sadness, and anxiety can lead to impulse shopping as a temporary escape, though this often results in further stress due to added clutter and financial strain.
Awareness of evening fatigue helped me stop shopping out of boredom or anxiety. Recognising emotional triggers can prevent impulsive purchases.
Marketing and environmental triggers compel people to buy impulsively for dopamine hits, involving extensive research.
It feels great to get social validation from buying items, but it's worth questioning if possessions define our identity and relationships.
Identify triggers for impulsive buying through self-reflection and journaling to align purchases with personal values.
Mindfulness helps identify triggers by being present, aware of feelings, sensations, and thoughts, leading to greater self-awareness and deliberate actions.
Address anxiety and depression through therapy, lifestyle changes, and avoiding triggers, rather than impulsive shopping.
Avoid environments that trigger unnecessary shopping to break the habit. Find alternatives like meeting friends in different places or shopping online.

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In this episode, Dr. Jan Eppingstall and I are exploring the impact of self-stigma and societal responsibility in hoarding. We look in depth at stigma and how it affects individuals with mental health conditions, especially hoarding disorder, and how self-stigma can damage us and prevent us from seeking help. Plus, we introduce a new segment — "permission slip". Stay tuned for some outtakes at the end!

Impact of Public Stigma and Self-Stigma
Dr. Jan Eppingstall explains public stigma, including stereotypes, prejudice, and discrimination
Key facets of public stigma: difference, disdain, and blame
Understanding Self-Stigma and Public Stigma
How stereotypes can affect self-stigma, using people's reactions to TV shows as an example
The implications of self-stigma, including low self-esteem, hopelessness, and reluctance to seek treatment
The interlinking of public stigma, self-stigma, shame, and self-consciousness, as well as self-blame and the impact of self-stigma on seeking help
Variation in mental illness stereotypes by disorder
Introduction of the "permission slip" segment
Discussion on the compulsion to keep things and the completionist mindset
Influence of Socioeconomic Status on Mental Illness Stigma
Conversation about the perception of hoarding based on socioeconomic status and the value of items being kept
Comparison of hoarding in different contexts: ample space and financial means versus living in a cramped environment
Impact of space and wealth on hoarding, highlighted through a documentary about Celine Dion and her extensive costume collection
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) in Addressing Self-Stigma
Dr. Eppingstall outlines the ACT approach, focusing on personal values and psychoeducation on relational frame theory to address self-stigma
Cognitive behavioural therapy techniques like reframing and peer support groups to combat self-stigma, as well as radical acceptance through a 10-step process
Influence of Cultural Beliefs and Social Factors on Stigma
Discussion of the influence of cultural beliefs on mental illness stigma, including the impact of social factors on self-stigmatisation
Protective factors against self-stigmatisation: quality of life, social relationships, and cultural acceptance of mental illness
The impact of societal influences on self-stigma and the importance of understanding one's thought patterns without trying to banish them
External stigma's potential influence on self-stigma, with a suggestion that marginalised individuals facing more external stigma might be more susceptible to self-stigmatisation
Internalised social stigma leads to negative self-concept.
Self-stigma affects help-seeking behaviours negatively.
Questioning stigmatisation and hoarding in media.
Cultural stigma influences self-stigmatisation of mental illness.
Communities’ response to mental illness.
Self-stigma's impact varies based on individual factors.
Internalised stigma is the acceptance of negative societal stereotypes.
Self-stigma creates harm, deters seeking help.
Reflection on hoarding stigma and societal perceptions.
Public stigma in different cultures affects self-stigmatisation and attitudes toward mental illness and treatment.
Reflecting on community's approach to mental illness and its impact on self-stigma.
Practicing radical acceptance, using self-acceptance talk and behaviour changes to move forward.
Self-stigma affects people differently based on various factors such as personality, upbringing, and society. Different societies can influence how people perceive and react to self-stigma.

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Today, I explore the reality of dehoarding. From the thrilling sense of accomplishment to the mundane, hard, and sometimes emotionally difficult aspects, I cover it all. Join me as I discuss the ups and downs of the journey and why loving the process isn't a requirement - getting it done is what counts.

The Importance of Persistence and Commitment in Dehoarding
The need to keep going even when it's not thrilling or empowering
Embracing the mundane and boring aspects of dehoarding
Understanding that progress is more important than loving every moment of the process
Recognising that dehoarding can include both rewarding and difficult experiences
Using reminders of the end goal to cope with the challenging days
Compassion and Self-Care in the Dehoarding Process
Embracing self-compassion during difficult dehoarding days
Utilising self-care practices as a way to cope with the process
Understanding the importance of acknowledging and validating difficult experiences
Acknowledging the necessity of perseverance and consistent effort in dehoarding
Coping with Mundane and Monotonous Aspects of Dehoarding
Recognising the importance of routine in the dehoarding process
Strategies and techniques to cope with monotony and boring tasks
Understanding the difference between emotional highs and lows, and coping with routine tasks
Utilising rewards and mindful strategies to cope with tedious dehoarding tasks
Redefining Success in Dehoarding
Understanding that success is measured by effort, home improvement, and personal pride
Acknowledging that dehoarding progress is not always thrilling or enjoyable
Embracing that progress is still progress, regardless of its size or level of excitement
Challenging unrealistic expectations set by influencers and social media about dehoarding
Action and Commitment Despite Feelings Towards Dehoarding
Encouragement to take at least one step in the right direction, regardless of loving the process
Embracing the idea that it's okay not to love dehoarding every minute
Recognising that commitment to dehoarding is a significant achievement in itself
Affirming the capability to create a space one feels at home in, despite the ups and downs of the journey
Dehoarding doesn't have to feel thrilling.
Difficulties come, but remember your purpose.
Feeling overwhelmed is normal during the decluttering process, but progress matters more than celebrating every step.
Self-care involves activities like hot baths, TV time, and walks, paired with self-compassion to be effective.
Reward self, be mindful, focus on present, seek support, value effort over success.
Embrace the journey, take steps forward.

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In today's episode, I look at how the Pareto Principle, also known as the 80/20 rule, can revolutionise our approach to decluttering. I discuss how focusing on the 20% of our possessions that cause 80% of our problems can lead to more impactful change with less effort, and how identifying the 20% of tasks that show the biggest results can help us to manage our energy and make visible progress. Join me as I break down this principle and explore how it can transform our mindset and approach to dehoarding.

Introduction to the Pareto Principle
Explanation of the Pareto Principle or the 80/20 rule
Relevance of the Pareto Principle to hoarding and home management
Impact of focusing on the 20% causing the most problems
Identifying Impactful Tasks and Items
The impact of expending energy on low-level tasks
Importance of prioritising impactful tasks for noticeable change
Making a dent in belongings by focusing on impactful items
Brief history of Vilfredo Pareto and his observation
Various contexts where the Pareto Principle is seen to apply
Validation of the principle in different areas
Applying the Pareto Principle to Your Home
Strategic thinking in identifying items causing disruption
Identifying 20% of belongings used most often
Energy expenditure and impact of dehoarding actions
Emotional Attachment & Rational Decision Making
Emotional connection to belongings
Encouraging rational assessment of belongings' value
The role of emotions in retaining or discarding items
Reassessing and Ongoing Vigilance
Need for ongoing reassessment as space is cleared
Importance of reassessing the 20% causing problems
Frequency of reassessment and calibrating belongings
Reflecting on the impact of the 80/20 rule in home management
Pareto principle for hoarders.
Pareto principle: 20% effort, 80% results.
Reframe, prioritise, and declutter for efficient living.
Identify essential items, discard unnecessary possessions strategically.
Identify unnecessary items to make life easier.
Reevaluate possessions and focus energy efficiently.
Use the Pareto principle to focus on tasks with high impact.
Identify and declutter items for a noticeable ease in daily life; use the 80/20 rule for organising and resolving space issues.
Reassess belongings, focus on what matters.

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I look at an old fable from when I was little and how I’ve changed my view on it completely. And, of course, how it relates to hoarding – and dehoarding.

Acknowledging reaching 250,000 downloads for the podcast
Dehoarding fast vs. slow and steady approach
The benefits of dehoarding fast
Getting a lot done in a short time
Responding to emergency situations
Harnessing sudden bursts of motivation
The risks of dehoarding fast
Burnout
Impracticality of sustaining a fast pace in the long term
Emphasising the importance of finding a balance between fast and slow dehoarding
Acknowledging the benefits and drawbacks of both approaches
The significance of Aesop's fable "The Hare and the Tortoise"
Initial scepticism about the fable
Understanding the importance of perseverance and consistency over speed
Drawing parallels between the fable and dehoarding
Primary Topic: Slow and steady work for dehoarding
Sustained approach for dehoarding the entire home
Making habits or new behaviours stick and become habitual
Enhancing slow progress with focus and documentation
Achieving objective progress through slow and steady work
Suitability for long-term planning and sustainable change in behaviours and beliefs
Riding the wave when the urge to throw into action arises
Recognising when to work fast
Potential drawbacks leading to complacency or exhaustion
Balancing fast and slow dehoarding approaches
Finding a balance for effective and sustainable progress
Avoiding the pitfalls of extremes in dehoarding approaches
Fast action can be encouraging and valuable.
Sustainable pace fosters effective dehoarding.
Slow, steady progress towards a liveable home.

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Dr Jan Eppingstall has had an idea, and it is as revolutionary as it is terrifying. We talk about it!

Shifting focus from individual items to the bigger picture
Creating a guilt-free zone for a limited time to honour values and experience more joy and fun in the future
Putting aside certain values temporarily to create better conditions for the future
Introduction of the concept of "household equilibrium"
Understanding the emotional attachment to possessions based on lived experiences
Behavioural and Emotional Aspects of Discarding Items
Reluctance to discard out-of-date food due to guilt and fear of waste
Emotional connection to possessions and the importance of using them
Encouraging the usage and enjoyment of possessions
Trauma-focused approach to discarding clutter
Coping with the guilt and shame around wastefulness
Making difficult decisions about discarding items
Exposure to letting go and small, less risky decluttering tasks
Letting go of controlling outcomes and focusing on wellbeing over perfect disposal
Starting with low-risk categories when decluttering, such as wrapping paper
Prove that terrible things do not happen when decluttering
The importance of proportionality in the decluttering process
Children's Belongings and Autonomy in Decluttering
Clear guidelines for disposing of belongings that are not yours
Contacting owners to collect items, especially for children's belongings
Revisiting keepsakes periodically to reassess their importance
Respecting children's decisions about their belongings
Navigating the decluttering process with understanding and sensitivity
Creating a Safe and Comfortable Living Environment
Implementing an amnesty on existing rules and guidelines
Suspending the acquisition of new items to keep the space in equilibrium
Allowing space for new interests and hobbies to enter one's life without guilt
Desire for perfection leads to unnecessary clutter.
Temporary pause for a more balanced life.
Stay safe and open to new experiences.
Encouraging use of gorgeous clothes in daily life.
Helping people cope with guilt and clutter to prioritise their well-being.
Desire for perfection in decision making and finding balance.
Some people value frugality but need to let go sometimes.
Focus on physical safety, declutter for new hobbies, no guilt.
Facing fears leads to growth and relief from guilt.
Recommendation to limit exposure to items and practice letting go to avoid regret.
Encourage using and enjoying clothes, shoes.
Expressing love for a cherished mug.

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It’s the 150th episode, and I’ve got a special one for you. I’m tackling the 13 pieces of hoarding advice that you're really tired of hearing, and I’m hitting them head on! We've all been on the receiving end of well-meaning but utterly unhelpful advice when it comes to hoarding. From "just get rid of it" to "you're being lazy"… the list goes on. They may seem harmless, but they often overlook the emotional complexities and serious mental health challenges faced by people who hoard. Most importantly, I explain why these pieces of advice do more harm than good. Oversimplified solutions just won't cut it when it comes to overcoming hoarding disorder.

Terrible Hoarding Advice
"Just get rid of it" underestimates the emotional attachment
Emotional attachment to possessions
Overwhelming nature of such advice
"It's just stuff" overlooks the significance of possessions
The significance of possessions to hoarders
Dismissal of the emotional connection to items
"Get rid of things that don't spark joy" oversimplified and doesn't consider complexities
Oversimplification of the decluttering process
Failure to recognise the complexities of hoarding disorder
Blaming hoarders for being lazy, weak, or selfish is not helpful
Stress and shame reinforcement
The impact of negative reinforcement on mental health
Telling hoarders to be embarrassed or ashamed is counterproductive
Exacerbation of hoarding tendencies
Implications for mental health and stigma
"Just get a skip" advice may create time pressure, anxiety, and public display
Pressure and anxiety for hoarders
Public display of possessions and potential distress
Cleaning up a hoarder's space without consent creates mistrust and anxiety
Impact on trust and mental well-being
Reinforcement of trauma responses
Suggesting to sell or have a yard/car boot sale oversimplifies things
Complexity of hoarding disorder
Dismissal of mental health issues
Decluttering advice of doing one room a day or week underestimates the difficulty
Emotional challenges of decision-making
Complexity of hoarding disorder
Three piles for keep, give away, and throw away is not effective as stand-alone advice
Emotional attachment and decision-making
Complexity of decluttering for hoarders
Telling someone to try harder and give 100% effort at all times is unrealistic
Unrealistic expectations and burnout
Impact on mental health and sustainability
Long-term and complex nature of decluttering
Understanding the complexity of the process
Mental and emotional focus of decluttering
Hoarding as a Complex Process
Comparison of decluttering to a marathon
The endurance required for decluttering
Criticism of advice containing the word "just"
Casual dismissal of hoarding tendencies
Encouragement to reconsider using "hoarder" casually
Impact on stigma and understanding
Consider emotional attachment in addressing hoarding issues.
Hoarding disorder is complex and deeply personal.
Blaming hoarders reinforces shame and hinder recovery.
Skips can be a stressful solution.
Car boot sale: a communal yard sale.
Oversimplifying, dismissing mental health issues - not helpful.
Avoid burnout by pacing and considering emotions.
Simplify, declutter, and be mindful of health.
Reconsider comparing mild mess to hoarding.
Advice to declutter doesn't consider emotional attachment; drastic approach may cause fear and anxiety.
Hoarding disorder is complex, possessions hold deep meaning, and one-size-fits-all approaches don't work.
Blaming hoarding on laziness is unhelpful and untrue.
Using skips as a solution for decluttering can create anxiety for some as it puts their possessions on public display.
Car boot sales are similar to yard sales, with people selling items from their car boots in a car park on Sundays. Sellers might not get much for their cherished items.
Avoid burnout by pacing efforts for long-term decluttering, including handling emotionally charged items with care.
Casual use of mental health terms.
Hoarding is not just about having too much stuff; it affects emotions and living conditions.
Avoid comparing mild mess to hoarding.

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Susie Boutal is a qualified ADHD coach and decluttering expert. She joins me to talk about the intersection of ADHD, hoarding, and clutter. Susie shares valuable insights for anyone dealing with ADHD and hoarding. We cover the myth of laziness, the importance of open communication in relationships, managing hoarding behaviour, the impact of self-talk, and the influence of past experiences on self-perception and the responsibility to yourself and others in managing living spaces. Join us as we navigate the complexities of decluttering and hoarding with compassion and empathy, and gain valuable advice from Susie on nurturing a kinder inner dialogue.

Negotiations and Agreements in Relationships
Compassionate Expression of Needs
Impact of Self-Talk and Past Experiences on Self-Perception
Nurturing a Kinder Inner Dialogue
Offering Yourself Compassion and Empathy
ADHD and Clutter
Impulsivity
Compassionate Approach to Motivate Decluttering
Guilt and Shame
Breaking Tasks into Microtasks
Tips for People Dealing with ADHD and Hoarding
Self-Compassion
Establishing Daily Non-negotiable Routines
Breaking Down Tasks into Small Goals
Approaching Uncertainty as a Space of Possibilities
Overcoming Procrastination
Identifying Procrastination Triggers
Breaking Tasks into Achievable Goals
Maximise Productivity and Time Management
Reassessing Productivity in Small Time Periods
Using Small Time Intervals for Decluttering
Addressing Impulsivity in Acquiring Items
Finding Long-Term Purpose
Managing Living Spaces in Relationships
Open Communication
Setting Non-Negotiable Priorities
Overcoming decluttering barriers with 5-minute tasks.
Find purpose by identifying goals, prioritise passions.
Setting rules, responsibility, and personal growth awareness.
Establishing boundaries and agreements in relationships.
Recognising patterns
Impact of words can last a lifetime.
Establish routines, question resistance, break tasks down.
Embrace uncertainty as a challenge, not a threat.
Clutter linked to ADHD, trauma, mental health, impulsivity, and seeking new things.
Focusing on microtasks for motivation and habit building.
Decluttering seems overwhelming, but starting with small tasks can be motivating
Find purpose, set long-term goals, prioritise over short-term impulses.
Setting rules and responsibility to overcome impulses and seek long-term goals.
Open communication and defining nonnegotiables is crucial in living together respectfully.
Negotiating boundaries and agreements in all relationships, including regarding space and activities.
Recognising negative patterns, understanding origins, finding benefits in change, and being kinder to yourself.
The lasting impact of hurtful words.
Routines, self-reflection, and breaking tasks down.
Embracing uncertainty leads to growth, while fear of uncertainty causes paralysis.

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Today, I talk about a woman who sold every single thing in her wardrobe and explore the lessons that can be learned from this drastic approach, discussing both the positive and less than ideal aspects of the woman's actions. Highlighting the importance of taking small actions and steering away from all-or-nothing thinking, I look at what we who have difficult home surroundings can learn from this

Acknowledging annoyance and taking action against it.
Overcoming scarcity mindset and emotional attachments to possessions.
Liberating to sell clothes, or all-or-nothing thinking?
Gradual progress leads to lasting change and adaptation.
Exploring actions and habits to address annoyances.
Don't have to do extreme decluttering.
Small actions are valuable.
Incorporate new behaviours consistently.
Slow progress is more effective than dramatic change for long-term success.
Accepting and embracing feelings as a human reaction.
Taking Action on Annoyances
Acknowledging ongoing annoyances
Taking decisive action to address the problem
Decisiveness
Being inspired by the woman's decisiveness
Overcoming overthinking and indecisiveness
Finding fulfillment and reward in making a dramatic change
Feeling liberated by having considerably less stuff
Living with Considerably Less
Realising that living with less is not a threat
The protective nature of hoarding behaviour
Less Ideal Aspects of Extreme Action
All-or-Nothing Thinking
Recognising the danger of extremes in decision making
Embracing the value of moderation and balanced action
Small Actions versus Grand Gestures
The importance of small, consistent actions over grand gestures
Building lasting change through gradual progress
Overcompensating
The dangers of drastically clearing out possessions
Gradual adaptation and adjustment to change
Accepting Feelings and Reactions
Understanding that feelings of overwhelm are a normal human experience
No Secondary Shame
Rejecting the idea that feeling hard emotions is a source of shame
Overcoming internalised beliefs about the negativity of emotions

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With Dr Jan Eppingstall, today I delve into the fascinating world of habituation – which you might be familiar with as clutter blindness, but it’s so much more than that! – and its impact on our daily lives. We look at the role of habituation in hoarding, and offer practical techniques to revitalise our perspectives. Join us as we unravel the complexity of habituation and its relationship to hoarding, with valuable insights into improving our quality of life.

Habituation and its Impact
Definition of habituation
Evolutionary and innate nature of habituation
Habituation as a form of non-associative learning
Role of habituation in daily life
Individual experiences with habituation
Positive, neutral, and negative aspects of habituation
Habituation in hoarding behaviour
Habituation and autistic people
Effects of habituation on daily tasks and decision-making
Habituation in relation to clutter blindness and hoarding
Overcoming Habituation
Techniques for combatting habituation
Changing daily routines and habits
Using different modes of transport
Performing everyday tasks in different ways
Looking at space through a different perspective
The need for a variety of approaches to combat habituation
Techniques to break habitual patterns
The importance of stepping out of your comfort zone
The importance of mixing up approaches and embracing what works
Habituation in Mental Health and Therapy
Deliberate use of habituation in mental health treatment
Exposure therapy and fear ladder approach in treating fears and phobias
Gradual exposure therapy for specific fears
Maintenance of progress in overcoming fears and phobias
Implications of habituation for individuals with autism spectrum disorders in relation to hoarding
Insight into habituation and its impact on hoarding behaviour
Techniques and advice for combating habituation
Examples of habituation in daily life
Experience of habituation in hoarding behaviour and clutter blindness
The impact of habituation on decision-making and compensating for clutter
Connection between habituation, working memory, and people-pleasing behaviour
Understanding the impact of habituation on decision-making and perceptions
Strategies for breaking habitual patterns and experiencing joy
Mindfulness and gratitude in daily life
Rekindling appreciation for familiar places and seeing them through fresh eyes
Encouragement to find joy in life and invest in experiences over material possessions
Non-associative learning: Becoming accustomed to stimuli.
Habituation serves necessary and neutral purposes.
Skipping stages and creating fear ladder for hoarding.
Clutter organization leads to joy, not regret.
Habituation in hoarding leads to inaction.
Removing obstacles can make daily tasks easier.
Visual cues and externalising tasks aid memory.
Self-sufficiency
Observing and changing habits leads to improvement.
Experiences linger longer than material possessions.
Habituation is normal and can be positive.
Habituation is the process of becoming less responsive to repeated stimuli.
Habituation serves purposes: prevent overwhelm, allow focus, survival. Good, neutral, negative aspects.
Overstimulation and stimming behaviors.
Reliance on visuals becomes less effective.
Visual reminders and working memory limitations prompt use of external systems to record and remember tasks.
Some people have a mindset of overcoming odds and finding resourceful solutions.
Changing habits and mindset is key for improvement.
Observing and reflecting on how things are done can lead to finding better, more efficient ways.
The key is to have a mix of approaches for habit change.
Variety is essential and embrace what works, even if just for a bit.
The mind values experiences over possessions for lasting impact.
Habituation is normal, can be positive, neutral, or negative, and can be used to reduce distress.

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Incredible conversation with the ever-insightful KC Davis of Struggle Care. From discussing the impact of accumulating unused items to exploring the mental and emotional barriers people face in decluttering and tidying up, this episode covers a wide range of strategies and insights to help you on your dehoarding journey. We look at the shame and stigma associated with struggling with care tasks, including dehoarding, and the impact on individuals' self-worth and ability to seek help, and replace the shame with an approach rooted in self-compassion and moral neutrality towards care tasks. So if you're looking for practical tips, empathy, and support on your dehoarding journey, you won't want to miss this episode!

Understanding Care Tasks and Struggles
Definition of "care tasks"
Stigma and shame surrounding struggles with care tasks
Impact on self-worth and ability to seek help
Overcoming Shame and Stigma
Fear and self-criticism
Importance of self-compassion and supportive community
Motivation and the limitations of shame
Individualised solutions rooted in self-compassion
Thriftiness and environmental concerns
Strategies for Task Initiation and Motivation
Challenges for hoarders and those with ADHD
Differentiating motivation and task initiation
Small steps, transitions, and tools for task initiation
Starting the Decluttering Process
No one right way to start
Making small decisions and using timers
Involving friends in parting with items
Overcoming Emotional Barriers to Decluttering
Impact of accumulated items and their eventual outcome
"5 things theory" to overcome resistance
Adjusting the tidying process and taking small steps consistently
Strategies for Organising and Tidying Up
Breaking tasks into smaller steps
Visual storage ideas and creating rituals
Setting priorities and challenging societal norms
Judgments based on work, race, and appearance
Many people feel therapy isn't addressing their needs.
Shame doesn't lead to lasting behaviour change.
Self-help methods are not one-size-fits-all.
Permission to accommodate leads to lasting change.
Challenges of ADHD and executive functioning explained.
Declutter by what I need, love, keep.
Motivation leads to easier hard work and decluttering.
Take small steps and make decisions.
Break tasks into small steps.
Community support for navigating vulnerability.
Many people find online content more helpful than traditional therapy, reflecting societal attitudes towards seeking help.
Shame and social pressure don't guarantee change.
Self-help space lacks personalised solutions for diverse challenges. Universal methods don't address individual barriers and needs.
People give themselves permission to accommodate and it leads to curiosity, not necessarily a finish line.
Challenges with executive functioning and organisation due to ADHD, struggling with clutter and distractions.
Sort items by frequency of use, happiness, and necessity. Prioritise what to keep, rather than what to discard.
Motivation leads to easier wins, declutter by discussing meaningful items with friends.
Taking small steps without pressure, performing tasks with enjoyable activities.
Breaking tasks into smaller steps and utilising a simple action to initiate it.

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I watched a film, "Where Dragons Live," which struck a chord with themes of belongings, families, the meaning of our stuff, and the complexities of dealing with a loved one's stuff after they pass away. I talk about the deeper implications of what we leave behind. Join me as I reflect on the emotional impact of material possessions and the significance of our connections with others.

Film Review: Where Dragons Live
Review and discussion of the film "Where Dragons Live"
Exploration of themes relevant to hoarding, family dynamics and privilege
Reflection on the concept of treasuring and maintaining possessions
Analysis of the film’s portrayal of mixed, nuanced emotions and reactions
Examination of the anxiety surrounding what we leave behind for others
Emphasis on the impact of hoarding on one's own life and grieving process
Personal reflection on the burden and worry of leaving behind a hoarding home
Consideration of the challenges faced by those sorting through a hoarded space
Insight into the complexities of emotions and decision-making related to hoarding
Impact Beyond Possessions
Reflection on the value of relationships and connections beyond physical possessions
Examination of the meaningful impact individuals can leave on others
Emphasis on the significance of emotional and personal legacies
Discussion of minimising physical clutter to alleviate stress for others
Personal experiences related to friendships and legacies
Reflection on the meaningful contributions individuals can make in others’ lives
Recommendations for listeners to consider the impact they leave on others
Encouragement to prioritise meaningful connections over material possessions
Mixed emotions lead to decision-making challenges.
Grieving and hoarding
Overwhelm
Leave behind meaningful and powerful positive impact.
Film subjects reflect on sentimental items.
Grief and clearing out a hoarded home, finding value in the midst of overwhelming belongings.
Leaving meaningful impact beyond material possessions.
The film's focus on balancing material possessions with emotional value
Minimising belongings for others' sake.

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Dr. Jennifer Krafft, director of the Mindfulness and Acceptance Lab at Mississippi State University and her expertise in hoarding disorder, OCD, anxiety, and mindfulness and acceptance processes for treatment brings a fresh perspective to the prevalent issues surrounding hoarding. We’re talking particularly about stigma and hoarding disorder, the impact of cultural and societal attitudes, and the potential for self-help interventions to reduce stigma. We look at the roles of psychological flexibility, self-compassion, and the need for societal change in addressing hoarding stigma.

Stigma and Misconceptions Surrounding Hoarding Disorder
Lack of public awareness and understanding
Sensationalism in reality TV shows and its impact on stigmatisation
Impact of hoarding stigma on seeking help and social lives
Mindfulness and Acceptance in Managing Hoarding Disorder
Dr. Jennifer Krafft's personal experiences and curiosity leading to interest in hoarding disorder
Lack of effective treatments and trained providers for hoarding disorder
Study on self-help interventions reducing stigmatisation for people with hoarding disorder
Combating perfectionism through flexibility and managing cognitive reactions
Seeking Help and Self-Stigma
Dr. Jennifer Krafft's study on individuals' preferences for seeking help for mental health problems
Public stigma and self-stigma, leading to shame, embarrassment, and hiding behaviour
Psychological inflexibility linked to stigma and rigid behaviour patterns
Acceptance and commitment therapy promoting psychological flexibility
Addressing Stigma and Shame
Impact of intersecting stigmas on individuals, such as hoarding and racism
Addressing self-criticism, shame, and seeking support
Mindfulness exercises and self-compassion in managing stigma and shame
Cultural and Identity Perspectives in Hoarding Disorder
Lack of research on culture, identity, and hoarding, particularly in diverse populations
Additional challenges faced by individuals with multiple forms of discrimination
Acknowledging the impact of intersecting stigmas on individuals
Evolutionary Perspective of Hoarding Behaviour
Dr. Jennifer Krafft discussing hoarding behaviour in the context of human evolution
Mismatch between human adaptation and the current society's abundance of material possessions
Promoting Awareness and Education
Dr. Jennifer Krafft's advocacy for societal change in addressing hoarding stigma
Necessity for professional education and awareness about hoarding disorder
Lack of research on culture, identity, and hoarding, particularly in diverse populations
Each of these topics delves into the complexities and implications of hoarding disorder, shedding light on the need for compassion, understanding, and effective interventions.
Reality TV impacts public perception of hoarding.
Insufficient research on hoarding and identity discrimination.
Negative thoughts and emotions control behaviour; impacts stigma.
Identifying and challenging perfectionism in daily life.
Seeking support, not meant to be isolated.
Consider the adaptive nature of hoarding behaviour.
Dehoarding Zoom sessions help with self-judgment.
Acceptance and commitment therapy promotes psychological flexibility to navigate stigma effectively.
Insufficient research on hoarding and identity, leading to potential discrimination.
Psychological inflexibility leads to stigma. Acceptance and commitment therapy can help.
Researcher discusses unexpected study findings, biases
Intrinsic motivation in decluttering.
Seek support from others, fight hoarding stigma.
Evolutionary perspective on hoarding behaviour and the potential benefits of hoarding in certain contexts
Zoom accountability sessions for decluttering, self-judgment comparison.

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Today, I focus on the dreaded "analysis paralysis" and how it affects individuals with hoarding disorder. I discuss practical strategies for making decisions easier and breaking through the overwhelming feeling of being stuck in the decision-making process. From setting time limits to reframing fear, I will talk you through the steps to overcoming paralysis and perfectionism.

Analysis Paralysis and Hoarding Disorder
Definition of analysis paralysis
Overwhelmed by options and freezing due to overanalysing
Negative impact of perfectionism and fear of uncertainty on decision-making
Feeling overwhelmed by choices
Getting stuck in overanalysing
Impact of perfectionism on decision-making
Fear of uncertainty hindering progress
Strategies to Overcome Analysis Paralysis
Using systems or rules to make decisions easier
Setting time limits to create focus and reduce overwhelm
Practicing with small decisions to build confidence
Grounding oneself in the present and breaking tasks into smaller chunks
Having a decision-making framework or process to aid in breaking through analysis paralysis
Techniques such as pros and cons lists, cost benefit analysis, and setting rules to make decisions easier
Importance of setting criteria to aid decision-making
Making use of time limits to create focus
Building confidence through practicing with small decisions
Breaking tasks into smaller, more manageable chunks
Prioritising Progress Over Perfection
Encouragement to start small, even if something seems impossible or too difficult
Strategic questions, setting a timer, joining an accountability group, and focusing on the present moment to overcome paralysis and perfectionism
Emphasising the importance of progress over perfection
Starting with small, achievable goals
Using strategic questions and setting timers for focus
Utilising support systems like accountability groups
The emphasis on progress over perfection
Overcoming analysis paralysis through implementing systems.
Overcome perfectionism and fear by taking action.
Refocus on positive possibilities to overcome fear.
Focus on 20-minute tasks to avoid overwhelm.
Start with small decisions to build confidence.
Focus on the present, break tasks down.
Focusing on first step, making decisions easier.
Simplify decision-making process to ease overthinking.
Overcome perfectionism and fear of uncertainty by taking action and learning as you go.
Changing mindset from fear to possibility, reframing challenges and gaining perspective.
Focusing on 20-minute tasks helps with overwhelm and promotes action.
Start small, build confidence to overcome hoarding.
Focus on the present, break tasks into smaller chunks.
Start with first step, use decision making framework to break through analysis paralysis.
Tips for overcoming paralysis and overthinking: use pros and cons lists, cost benefit analysis, and practice to build confidence.

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I have a bit of an emotional moment in this one! In this episode, I talk about how we can spot those things that may have been useful at one point but are limiting us now. And look at how we can start to even entertain the idea of moving away from them without getting overwhelmed by the things that we're running away from in the first place.

Identifying coping mechanisms that have become detrimental
How once-helpful behaviours or thoughts can now cause stress, annoyance, or interfere with work and relationships
Acknowledging the negative impact of these coping mechanisms
Letting Go of Detrimental Coping Mechanisms
Symbolism of finding freedom after letting go of detrimental habits
Thanking coping mechanisms for past usefulness while acknowledging their current negative impact
The process of letting go described as taking small steps
Emphasising gradual change rather than extreme transformation
My experience of letting go of self-harm as a coping mechanism
Therapist's advice to apply the same principle to hoarding
Reflecting on past coping mechanisms and their evolution
Reassessing the need for detailed to-do lists as a coping mechanism for insecurity and fear
Overcoming Adversity and Achieving Small Victories
The power of achieving small victories
Using every bit of progress to fuel the next step, even if it feels impossible
Identifying the benefits derived from hoarding and finding alternative positive coping mechanisms
Adopting Positive Behaviours and Embracing Change
Importance of trial and error and gradual change in adopting positive behaviours
Encouraging curiosity and open-mindedness
Acknowledging that change doesn't have to happen all at once
Our lives can be better without the distress-causing coping mechanisms
Support and Community
Invitation to hoarders for an event for support and discussion
Acknowledging past coping mechanisms, embracing self-acceptance.
Struggling with past coping mechanisms; learning to let go.
Identify harmful coping mechanisms to improve well-being.
Understanding underlying emotional needs.
Reflect on coping mechanisms, assess their effectiveness.
Identify and let go of problematic coping mechanisms, consider letting go of hoarding behaviours.
Reflect on positive moments, gently acknowledge the problems.
Find positive coping mechanisms, assess their effectiveness, and make gradual changes.

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We need to talk about hoarding and physical disabilities, chronic illness, and chronic pain. With the inimitable Dr. Jan Eppingstall, I look at the unique challenges faced by individuals with disabilities, chronic health conditions who hoard. From the impact of aging on hoarding tendencies to the struggles of navigating a hoarded space while managing chronic pain, we offer insights and practical strategies for those dealing with hoarding and physical limitations. Join us as we delve into the complexities of hoarding and its intersection with physical health challenges in a compassionate and informative discussion.

The Impact of Disabilities on Hoarding Behaviours
Complex relationship between hoarding and disabilities
Chronic pain, mental health issues, and aging
The prevalence and severity of hoarding in correlation with aging and physical limitations
The challenges of categorising people and their impairments
Gender Disparities and Disabilities in Hoarding research
The association between physical disabilities, chronic illness, and chronic pain with hoarding, particularly among women
The link between autoimmune diseases, common in women, and hoarding
The impact of poverty on disabilities and hoarding
Advocacy challenges for women with disabilities and hoarding behaviours
The need for women to better acknowledge their achievements without feeling like boasting
The significance of functional impairment in the discussion
The importance of persistently seeking medical help despite the gender pain gap and lack of specificity in symptoms
Strategies for individuals to lead a more independent and fulfilling life despite chronic issues
The effects of giving up on seeking medical help on documenting conditions and receiving appropriate care
Managing Hoarding and Disabilities
Balancing function over appearance for hoarders with chronic health problems
The individuals' strong attachment to certain aesthetics and struggles in decluttering due to sentimental attachment
Practical ways to seek help and simplify tasks for people with hoarding tendencies, particularly for those living alone
Strategies for managing household tasks despite limited mobility
The importance of pacing oneself and not pushing beyond physical limits
The impact of spending time outdoors on mental and physical health
Challenges of Aging and Hoarding
Accumulation of belongings over a lifetime, particularly among older generations
Reluctance to part with items due to sentimental attachment and difficulty decluttering with physical limitations
The isolation and loneliness experienced by older individuals in decluttering and organising tasks
Addressing the challenges faced by hoarders with physical limitations, including lifting, fine motor skills, and brain fog
The impact of limited energy and the need for careful prioritisation of tasks
Living with Physical Health Problems in a Hoarded Environment
The physical and emotional challenges of living with physical health problems
Managing disabilities and planning, scheduling appointments, and attending to physical needs in a hoarded space
The increased energy consumption living in a hoarded space
Navigating chronic pain and strategies to manage dehoarding tasks even on bad pain days
Differentiating between tasks that move the needle and those that simply paper over the cracks
Hoarding research shows self-selection bias towards females.
Hoarding increases with age, affecting functionality.
Disability requires more planning and preparation.
Living with physical limitations is never straightforward.
Self-compassion improved my situation.
Avoid pushing too hard, limit activities to 3 hours.
Hoarding and function over appearance for health.
Assessing and adjusting belongings to create harmony.
Study on disability assessments, measuring functional impairment in 6 areas.
Moving away from cause and effect to individual change and vulnerability.
More planning for disability due to brain fog.
People underestimate complexity of physical disabilities.

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Today, I look at the impact of micro trends on our lives and how they are contributing to clutter and excessive consumption and the additional challenges hoarders face in this ever-evolving landscape of trends. I look at identifying our true style beyond societal pressures and resisting the temptation of constantly changing trendy items. Join me to explore the consequences of indulging in micro trends, the environmental impact of fast fashion, and strategies to make mindful purchasing decisions in a world dominated by fleeting trends.

Impact of Microtrends on Hoarding Behaviour
Hoarders facing unique challenges with microtrends
Consequences of indulging in microtrends such as financial strain and accumulation of belongings
Resisting the Temptation of Microtrends
Avoiding constantly changing trendy items
Thought exercise to identify personal style beyond external influences
Understanding individual style versus succumbing to marketing influences
Questioning motivations behind purchasing new trends
Mindful Purchasing and Consumption
"One in, one out" approach to purchases
Delaying purchases to assess genuine interest
Identifying if existing items can serve the same purpose
Evolution of Trends and Impact of Social Media
Trends in fashion and design propelled by personal expression and corporate marketing
Acceleration of trends through social media platforms
Accumulation of items due to shorter trend cycles and excessive consumption
Environmental and Social Impact
Production and consumption of fast, low-quality products contributing to waste
Struggle of charity shops to sell items from past micro trends
Encouraging individuals to opt out of supporting fleeting trends
By addressing these topics, the podcast provides a comprehensive exploration of how microtrends impact hoarding behaviour, strategies for resisting trends, and insights into the broader societal and environmental implications of excessive consumption.
FOMO in micro trends: dopamine, immediate reward.
Consider the real reasons for wanting something.
Consider delaying purchases to avoid micro trends.
Hoarders face challenges with microtrends, self-control.
Desire for personalization and expression; trends and fashions driven by corporations to fuel spending.
Accumulation of unused items, struggle to declutter.
FOMO in micro trends leads to regretful charity shop donations.
Questioning motives, mindful consumption.
Consider delaying purchases to assess true desire and value. Immediate craving may indicate fleeting trend.
Microtrends are a challenge for hoarders, leading to more stuff, less money, and self-doubt.

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This week, I’m with Laura Silverstein, a Certified Gottman Couples Therapist, who is a genius on how couples can improve their communication and the way they take each other’s needs into account. So we explore the complexities of living with a hoarding partner and the impact it has on relationships.

Laura provides anecdotes and advice on setting healthy boundaries, initiating difficult conversations, and the role of a therapist in couples therapy. We also discuss the value of authentic communication, empathy, and the idea that love requires continuous effort.

We look at the difficulties non-hoarding partners face in understanding their hoarding significant other, the impact of unresolved conflicts, and the evolving perception of quirks in a relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of open and honest communication, emphasising the need for both partners to be involved in decluttering decisions.

Join us as we talk about coping with – and helping – a hoarding partner in a relationship.

Living with a Hoarding Partner
Challenges for the non-hoarding partner
Understanding hoarding behaviour
Impact of conflict in relationships
Approaching hoarding issues as a couple
Communication and Decision Making
Importance of open and honest communication
Involving the hoarding partner in decluttering decisions
Examples of different approaches to decluttering
Setting Boundaries and Deal Breakers
Clear communication and healthy boundary setting
Communicating core needs with a partner
A therapist's role in helping couples set boundaries
Couples Therapy and Relationship Dynamics
Role of a Therapist in Couples Therapy
Encouraging honest and respectful communication
The goal of therapy in relationships
Valuing the time spent in a relationship
Initiating and Navigating Difficult Conversations
Approaching conversations in a positive and constructive way
The "I like, I wish, I wonder" framework for expressing emotions and requests
The importance of clear communication and avoiding misunderstandings
Building and Sustaining Relationships
Acknowledging each partner's needs
Significance of authenticity, empathy, and mutual understanding
Challenging topic of hoarding and relationship conflict.
Understanding and accepting challenges of hoarding disorder.
Improving communication, appreciating efforts, and showing love.
Authenticity in relationships and understanding partner's pain.
Respect partner's wisdom, avoid secrets and betrayal.
Honesty and understanding create helpful solutions.
Fear of hurtful conversations hinders creative solutions.
Setting boundaries is important for relationships.
Progress is non-linear
Seeking respectful closure through difficult conversations is success.
Leaving with integrity and seeking support.
It's important to normalise conflict and focus on repairing relationships through understanding, communication, and meeting each other's needs.
Importance of embracing differences in love and relationships.
Advocate for needs
Common conflict communication pattern is attack-defend.
Skilled communication improves relationships.
Acknowledging past communication issues, understanding partner's challenges, emphasising authenticity and love in communication.
Authentic empathy and communication are key in addressing relationship struggles and finding mutual understanding and support.
Focus on trust and communication in relationships to address hoarding issues.
Discussing how to handle hoarding sensitively and considering different scenarios before making decisions.
Honest communication and creativity in relationships.
Fear of difficult conversations hinders creativity and problem-solving in relationships.
Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining integrity in relationships.
Success in helping people navigate difficult relationship conversations, with respect and support.
Success is about integrity and treating your partner well, whether working through difficulties or parting ways.

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Today, chronic disorganisation with our special guest, Jo Cooke of Hoarding Disorders UK.

Chronic disorganisation impacts day-to-day living, from time management to project completion, and is closely connected to hoarding behaviours.

Jo’s written a whole book on the topic, so join us as we look into the overlap between chronic disorganisation and hoarding, executive dysfunction, and the impact of grief, trauma, and loss on these issues.

Chronic Disorganisation
Definition and impact on day-to-day living
Connection between chronic disorganisation and hoarding
Executive dysfunction and its effect on chronic disorganisation
Understanding and managing energy levels using the "spoon theory"
Physical self-care and its impact on organisation and management
Grief, Trauma, and Menopause
The role of grief, trauma, and loss in chronic disorganisation and hoarding
Societal shift in openly discussing menopause and its impact on daily life
Importance of self-compassion and understanding that disorganisation does not equate to laziness or lack of intelligence
Impact of Covid and Societal Factors
How Covid has impacted people's experiences, including loneliness, anxiety, and chronic overwhelm
Contribution of technology, fast-paced living, and societal expectations to difficulty in focusing and staying on task
Strategies for Managing Chronic Disorganisation
Body doubling as a method to have someone quietly cheerleading alongside on tasks
Importance of sustained attention, goal perseverance, and finding the right motivation and goal-setting approach tailored to individual preferences
Achieving and maintaining focus on tasks through setting achievable goals, tailored to individual needs, and utilising the PACE approach (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy)
Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation
Importance of seeking help, defining what help looks like, and joining support groups to combat shame and self-blame
The release of Jo Cooke's book "Overcoming Chronic Disorganisation" for pre-order and her online presence at hoardingdisordersuk.org
Recognising trends in client needs, including bereavement, ADHD, and menopause, and challenges in organisation.
Chronic disorganisation impacts daily living with system struggles, time management, and tasks.
Hoarding and chronic disorganisation overlap due to executive functioning challenges, leading to repetitive acquisitions and disorganisation.
Modern life is fast-paced with high expectations, leading to difficulty focusing.
Body doubling can help remain on task.
Focus on short and medium-term goals, not just the ultimate goal.
Shame vs joy, playfulness, curiosity, and distress tolerance.
Support group helped challenge self-blame and shame.

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In today's episode, I talk about holding yourself accountable by yourself. Then I talk about holding yourself accountable if you've got an accountability buddy. And then I'm going to talk about holding yourself accountable if you don't have anybody that you can talk about hoarding with. Because those are 3 really different situations with really different pros and cons and approaches and benefits as well.

Accountability and Dehoarding
An accountability buddy who is also working on dehoarding
Mutual support and encouragement
Honest and constructive feedback
Using before and after photos for accountability and motivation
Setting up times to donate or recycle items together with an accountability buddy
Shared encouragement and sense of accomplishment
Solo Accountability in Dehoarding
Challenges of holding oneself accountable when nobody knows about the hoarding
Joining clutter groups on Facebook or posting on social media for accountability
A group Zoom session for hoarders to hold themselves accountable
Setting external deadlines for accountability
Using inspirational visuals and quotes
Having regular check-ins and task schedules
Tools for Accountability in Dehoarding
Using productivity apps or reminder apps to track progress
Finding features that work best for individual performance
Rewarding oneself with non-material rewards
The Concept of Accountability
Reluctance to commit to accountability
Acknowledgment of its effectiveness in achieving goals
Personal experiences and strategies for self-accountability
Tracking progress and setting deadlines
Holding yourself accountable is crucial for productivity.
Accountability involves planning and setting goals.
Regular check-ins help achieve and motivate goals.
Encourage and support each other for success.
Accountability buddy supports, encourages, and holds responsible.
Setting deadlines and visual, shared encouragement motivates.
Seek accountability through social media and groups.
Accountability involves self-discipline and planning to achieve goals.
Regular self-check-ins help stay on track, providing motivation and a sense of accomplishment.
Encourage support, set same time for tasks, share progress and tips with accountability buddy to overcome obstacles.
Having an accountability buddy offers mutual support, encouragement, and honesty in achieving goals.
Accountability buddy motivates donating items.
Find accountability in decluttering through social media or online groups

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Today, the daunting task of tackling a laundry backlog. In this episode, I discuss practical strategies to conquer Mount Washmore and take control of the laundry chaos. From decluttering to creating a laundry system, I look at ways to streamline the process and prevent clothes from piling up. I also touch on the environmental impact of overwashing and share experiences of managing overwhelming laundry situations. So if you're ready to conquer that laundry mountain and reclaim some peace, hit play for some valuable tips and insights.

Addressing the Extreme Laundry Circumstances
Using a laundrette to catch up
Don’t berate yourself for the laundry backlog
Practical Solutions for Managing Laundry Backlog
Declutter to reduce laundry load
Establishing a designated place for dirty clothes and towels
Involving others in the household in the laundry process
Creating a personalised system for ongoing laundry management
Minimizing Overwashing and Unnecessary Clothing Purchases
Advising against overwashing clothes to minimize environmental impact
The environmental impact of overwashing, especially in relation to microplastics and microfibres
Minimising new clothing purchases to reduce laundry load and simplify life
Liberating Feeling of throwing away items in bad condition
Identifying and removing barriers to doing laundry
Streamlining the Washing Process
Sorting laundry into darks, lights, and colours
Containing laundry in bags or containers to streamline the washing process
Disregarding special care instructions and putting items in the washing machine, finding that they come out fine
The gruelling but necessary process of dedicating days to washing laundry, especially without a tumble dryer
Challenge of managing limited drying space
Doing laundry less demanding than cleaning or decluttering
Gratitude for the invention of washing machines
Consideration of organizing a Zoom accountability session for listeners and encouraging them to express interest
Strategies for Tackling Laundry Pile
Prioritising cleaning a few days' worth of clothes before addressing the entire pile
Gathering all dirty laundry in one place and discarding items in bad condition without guilt
Managing laundry by organizing tasks around the workday, not allowing the volume of laundry to overwhelm
Alternative options for managing overwhelming laundry, including using a laundrette or paying for laundry services if necessary to alleviate stress and feeling of being overwhelmed by laundry
Prioritise survival over saving damaged items.
Efficient sorting made laundry process much easier.
Efficient laundry process allows for multitasking.
Outsource your laundry, let someone else handle it.
Delegate laundry tasks, find a system.
Overwashing sheds microplastics, buy less clothing.
Procrastination leads to fear and anxiety. Start by ensuring clean, comfy clothes.
In times of overwhelm, prioritise survival over waste and home livability over personal items.
Without a tumble dryer, drying clothes is limited to 2-3 loads a day, making it difficult to keep things moving without dampness.
It's important to be realistic about what to keep and donate while doing laundry.
Options for laundry: do it yourself, pay for pick-up service, or drop off at a laundromat.
Use a laundrette for extreme laundry situations, without feeling guilty.
Laundry tips for efficiency and delegation.

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In this episode I talk about 19 lies we tell ourselves about our stuff that help us to remain hoarders rather than break free from drowning in stuff.

Acknowledging the Difficulty in Addressing Hoarding Behaviour
Emphasising the possibility of change and the necessity of taking action.
Challenging Justifications for Hoarding
Negative impact on social interactions, emotional well-being, and emergency situations.
The impact of hoarding on children's well-being and long-term trauma.
The inefficiency and laborious nature of selling items from a hoard.
The impracticality of holding onto items because we believe they could be fixed or upcycled.
Setting deadlines for projects to address items awaiting repair or upcycling.
Recognising Lies and Contradictions in Hoarding Behaviour
Separating self-identity from possessions.
Questioning the necessity of holding rare or one-of-a-kind items.
Challenging the belief that items might be needed in the future.
Holding onto clothing that no longer fits.
Challenging the idea of holding onto items in anticipation of them coming back into fashion.
Taking Immediate Action to Address Hoarding Behaviour
Not postponing decluttering and organising efforts.
Challenging the rationale for holding onto items for sentimental reasons.
Considering hosting a virtual accountability group for dehoarding together via Zoom call.
Identifying and Challenging Lies About Belongings
Encouraging listeners to recognise and challenge lies about their belongings.
Addressing beliefs about the necessity of more storage items and the significance of keeping just one item.
Challenging justifications for keeping items, such as receiving them as gifts or having spent money on them.
Emphasising that love and respect for others are not dependent on holding onto objects.
Encouraging letting go of unused items, despite their perceived value or sentimental attachment.
Torn between hoarding and avoiding waste.
Recognise lies, challenge ourselves, become more accountable.
Dehoarding reveals need for less storage.
Overcoming sense of futility, one small effort at a time.
Love doesn't depend on holding onto belongings.
Letting go of excess stuff is liberating.
Don't keep stuff for future fashion trends.
Clutter affects every aspect of your life.
Recognising lies, challenging beliefs, and being accountable for actions.
Don't know what's needed; buying storage adds clutter.
Letting go of stuff creates space for growth and reduces harm.
Delaying decluttering prolongs discomfort. Let go of attachments to things from the past.
Clutter affects mental health and safety, including for children.

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Sometimes you want to get something done, but you just need somebody to tell you where to start, right? You need a nudge. Because if we have too much choice in front of us, it can become overwhelming.

Benefits of becoming a Dehoarding Darling supporter for the podcast
New feature on top of monthly update with recommendations, extra podcast episodes, a song, and a top tip
Feedback on the idea of a monthly Zoom call for accountability and task completion
31 tasks to tackle hoarding, including specific items and areas
Clearing out old magazines and newspapers
Sorting and discarding empty boxes
Evaluating and recycling outdated electronic devices
Matching and storing Tupperware without lids or vice versa
Disposing of expired medication
Discarding old cosmetics and sunscreens
Evaluating old greeting cards for sentimental value
Getting rid of out-of-date food in fridges, kitchen cupboards, and freezers
Donating unread books
Testing and discarding non-functional pens
Releasing unused notebooks for others to use
Discarding single socks without a pair, old calendars, dead batteries, and promotional items
Unsubscribing from promotional emails
Discarding duplicate kitchen utensils
Decluttering clothing, jewellery, kitchen appliances, old receipts and bills, excess mugs and glasses, old towels and bedding, holiday decorations, unused hobby-related items, expired coupons and promotional flyers, and shoes
Asking serious questions about the usability of items
Downsizing items related to former hobbies
Expired coupons and promotional flyers
Being ruthless with old towels
Dispassionately evaluating holiday decorations
Decluttering shoes that are no longer worn
Creating space for necessary items
Getting rid of old shopping bags
Donating usable bags to charity shops or food banks
Encouragement to consider the 31 suggested decluttering tasks and taking action
Motivating listeners to initiate decluttering and organizing
Offering practical and achievable starting points for decluttering efforts
Engaging the audience in taking positive steps towards decluttering their spaces
Limiting clutter can lead to clarity.
Declutter chargers, cables, and old devices responsibly.
Keep meaningful greeting cards, discard the rest.
You deserve fresh, safe food
Donate books to libraries and charity organizations.
Unused appliances are space-wasters.
Reevaluate hobbies; downsize belongings for practicality.

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Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall, I look at the nuanced approaches needed for effectively supporting people with hoarding disorder. Jan provides valuable insights for therapists, emphasising the importance of curiosity, collaboration, and empathy in therapeutic sessions. The episode explores evidence-based interventions, the significance of exposure therapy, and the challenges counsellors may face when working with hoarding clients. Additionally, practical tips for building trust and understanding the unique needs of hoarders are shared. Listen for the tools you need to make a meaningful difference in the lives of your clients.

Therapeutic Approach to Hoarding Disorder
Importance of Collaboration in Therapy
Hands-On Support and In-Home Visits
Exposure Therapy
Patience, Empathy, and Understanding in Therapy
Different Modes of Therapy (CBT, ACT, Person-Centred Therapy)
Education and Support for Mental Health Professionals
Minimal Education on Hoarding Disorder in Clinical Psychology Programs
Building Expertise in Hoarding Disorder
Seeking Supervision
Need for an Eclectic Approach in Therapy
Values Clarification, Problem Solving
Challenges for Therapists
Generalist vs. Specialist Counsellors
Addressing Co-Occurring Mental Health Issues
Impact of Hoarding on Other Mental Health Issues
Preparedness of Therapists to Deal with Hoarding
Effective Therapies (Exposure Therapy, Cognitive Techniques)
Collaboration with Professional Organizers
Building Trust with Clients
Generalist counsellors deal with common mental health issues.
Open dialogue and willingness to share knowledge.
Understanding clients holistically
Struggles with hoarding and perfectionism in therapy.
Assisting clients with letting go of possessions.
Exposure technique for easing attachment to possessions.
Tiny habits

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Today, I talk about prioritising when you're facing a hoarding situation and can only manage the absolute basics, with guidance for people struggling with motivation, energy, and overwhelming emotions like depression or grief. Tackling the challenges of hoarding when feeling depleted, the episode explores practical ways to approach the situation. Tune in for strategies to navigate hoarding with compassion and practicality, understanding that even the smallest progress is a step forward.

Prioritising tasks and setting realistic goals
Identifying the most effective tasks with limited time and energy
Being objective and evaluating what can be done with available energy
Avoiding busywork and focusing on tasks that push the needle
Adjusting high standards and expectations to avoid disappointment
Finding motivation in something you care slightly about
Identifying and prioritising safety concerns
Setting tiny, achievable goals to avoid feeling like a failure
Using the hummingbird method to set yourself up for success
Opting for tasks that require less emotional energy and decision-making
Making tasks easier and setting up for success
Incorporating comfort TV or music to make tasks more manageable
Establishing a single daily task
Seeking help to understand the reasons behind challenges
Exploring available options for support and improvement
Setting up a reward system without resorting to purchasing items
Practicing gentleness and self-compassion
Overcoming obstacles and taking small steps
Recognising that small progress is still progress
Implementing tasks that take only a few minutes to accomplish
Understanding that self-care can involve both urging yourself to do things and allowing yourself to rest
Consider effective use of limited time and energy.
Find one thing you care about.
Being kind to your future self.
Consider options for small impactful actions when lacking energy

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In today's episode, I talk about trying to dehoard when life is jam-packed with commitments. I share practical tips for making the most of those precious spare moments, tackling small areas at a time, and procrastination. I discuss productive procrastination, setting achievable goals, and seeking help, as well as valuable insights on time management, priorities and self-compassion.

Strategies for Dehoarding When You're Really Really Busy
Utilising small pockets of time for dehoarding
Waiting for a call, boiling the kettle, or other short intervals
Making a list of tasks for different time durations
Focusing on small areas and celebrating small victories
Seeing visible progress and maintaining motivation
Productive procrastination and not making things worse
Harnessing time spent on other useful tasks
Saying no to new items and time commitments
Gamifying decluttering and being consistent
Setting daily goals for items to get rid of
Seeking help from others with time-consuming tasks
Tracking time to save time and prioritise
Tracking time for analysis and identifying areas for saving time
Using data to approach work about schedule changes
Prioritising and understanding personal motivations for decluttering
The importance of rest and downtime while working on decluttering
Declutter efficiently using small pockets of time.
Small victories lead to progress.
Productive procrastination: using time for useful tasks.
Learn to say no to new commitments.
Consistency is key for successful project completion.
Delegate tasks, track time for better efficiency.
Balancing work and leisure is essential for well-being.
Forgive yourself, prioritise and seek self-compassion.
Reframe busyness as even more reason to simplify and declutter
Small victories help to spur further progress
Making the most of odd bits of time.
Commitments and requests you don’t want to do
Consistency over time is more productive than sporadic bursts.
Delegating tasks
Rest and downtime are essential for mental and physical health. It's not about suffering, but finding balance.

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Today I welcome Meg Kissack to talk about compassionate productivity. We discuss the importance of showing up for yourself, taking imperfect action, and acknowledging the value of rest. We gently challenge traditional productivity advice, emphasising the emotional aspect of getting things done and the need to deprogramme the idea that rest must be earned. The conversation also addresses misconceptions about self-care, the impact of advertising on self-worth, and the necessity of embracing vulnerability and rewriting the narrative of success.

Tune in as we advocate for embracing personal quirks, fostering genuine connections, and initiating more honest discussions beyond the façade of social media perfection.

Compassionate Productivity and Personal Growth
The importance of showing up for oneself
Taking imperfect action
The value of rest as a productive element
Deprogramming the idea that rest must be earned
Making friends with our future selves
Small actions can make a big difference
Replacing inner critic with inner wisdom
Making tasks fun and easier
Redefining Self-Care
Redefining self-preservation
Recognising and resisting marketing tactics and old narratives
The impact of advertising targeting women and playing into insecurities
Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Worth
Rewriting the narrative of success
Overcoming the fear of starting something before feeling completely ready
Finding wisdom in people who are open about failures and the process of success
Recognising self-worth without achieving goals or milestones
Practicing self-compassion and acceptance
Self-worth and embracing personal quirks
Disparity between ideal productivity routines and reality
Complexity of mental health issues, financial struggles, and relationships
Unrealistic and patronising nature of one-size-fits-all approach to productivity
Ddisconnect between privilege and reality
Struggle with pushing through, compassion for self.
Shame cycle of productivity and self-judgment.
Transactional mindset, cruel self-treatment, need for imperfection.
Self-worth leads to better decisions and boundaries.
Self-worth isn't a game to unlock.
Struggle with self-compassion and body image.
Bohemian Rhapsody helps motivate and focus.
Challenging the consumerism of self-care experience.
Productivity doesn't always mean more is better.
Struggle with cultural pressure to push through, learned to be compassionate for better well-being.
Shame cycle, internalisation, and moral judgement. Compassionate productivity needed.
Struggle with mental health and hoarding is complex and not easily fixed.
Value yourself, make decisions that support you, self-worth leads to positive change.
The struggle of starting small tasks with the intention of leading to bigger accomplishments.
Questioning spending and self-care without materialism, commercialisation of self-care.
Active self-care vs passive self-care.

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Today, I look at the link between loneliness and hoarding behaviour with special guest Vassia Sarantopoulou, an expert psychologist and relationship counsellor. Come on a thought-provoking journey as Vassia and I discuss the complexities of loneliness, and practical steps for combating the shame associated with hoarding. There's the deep impact of societal expectations on emotional expression and emphasise the importance of forming genuine human connections for those affected by hoarding.

From identifying warning signs of loneliness to exploring the link between trauma, grief, and hoarding, this episode offers insights into the struggles faced by individuals dealing with compulsive hoarding and the loneliness that often accompanies it.

Vassia shares effective strategies for overcoming loneliness, reaching out for support, and finding ways to rebuild connections when you hoard.

This episode is a candid and compassionate exploration of the intersection between loneliness and hoarding, offering support for those seeking to break the cycle.

Loneliness and Its Impact
Stigma and Misconceptions Surrounding Loneliness
Two Layers of Loneliness: Normal Feeling vs. Deeper Sense of Loneliness
Common Causes of Loneliness
Overcoming the Fear of Rejection and Making New Friends
Difficulties in Discussing Personal Struggles with Friends
Importance of Creating Safe Spaces for Discussing Grief and Negative Emotions
Combatting Shame and Overcoming Self-Judgment
Steps to Combat Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour
Impact of Societal Expectations on Emotional Expression
Building Human Connections and Combatting Feelings of Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour
Practical Steps to Build Human Connections and Combat Feelings of Shame Associated with Hoarding Behaviour
Addressing Shame and Overcoming Self-Imposed Judgment Related to Hoarding
Gradual Approach to Disclosing Hoarding in Relationships
Practical Advice and Resources
Purpose of Social Activities: Engaging in Activities to Reduce Pressure and Stress
Building Relationships and Disclosing Hoarding: Choosing the Right Moment and Managing Expectations
Taking a Gradual Approach to Disclosing Hoarding in Relationships
Impact of Hoarding Symptoms on Loneliness
Warning Signs of Loneliness and Isolation
Mental and Physical Health Effects of Loneliness
Seeking Harmful or Unhealthy Relationships Due to Loneliness
The Contribution of Trauma, Grief, and Loss to Hoarding Behaviour and Loneliness
Dual layers of loneliness lead to isolation.
Loneliness stems from disconnecting from ourselves.
Impact of loneliness mental and physical health.
Loneliness and trauma can lead to hoarding.
Reconnect with old friends, join social groups.
Healing involves selective sharing and seeking help.
Guide, allow time, ask, express, connect authentically.
Layered loneliness: valuing connections, deeper isolation, worthiness doubts, fear, rationalisation.
Relying solely on objects for emotional needs
Neglecting physical appearance
Changes in sleep
Loss of interest in activities
Hopelessness or helplessness.
Traumatic experiences can lead to hoarding and social isolation as a protective mechanism.
People in healing choose carefully who to share with

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Today, I'm looking at psychological flexibility and rigidity with Dr. Jan Eppingstall. Join us as we explore the impact of changing hoarding behaviours and learn about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a powerful tool in addressing psychological inflexibility. Discover the six core processes of psychological flexibility and inflexibility, and gain insights into challenging rigid beliefs. We'll also discuss the role of curiosity and acceptance in fostering adaptability and open-mindedness.

So, grab your headphones and get ready for an enlightening conversation on embracing change and overcoming psychological rigidity.

Importance of Psychological Flexibility in Hoarding
Psychology inflexibility's role in hoarding behaviour
Impact on life satisfaction
Application to all humans, not just clinical pathologies
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a Model for Psychological Adaptability and Health
The 6 core processes of psychological flexibility and inflexibility
Acceptance vs. experiential avoidance
Diffusion vs. cognitive fusion
Flexible attention to the present moment vs. inflexible attention
Self as context vs. attachment to conceptualised self
Committed action vs. inactivity or impulsivity
Hexaflex and its origin
Changing Behaviours
Trying new things, compromising, and risk-taking
Change in one area affecting various aspects of life
Techniques for Managing Panic Attacks
Addressing panic attacks through curiosity and acceptance
Healing experience of being understood and accepted
Macro and Micro Perspectives
Techniques such as meditation or mindfulness
"Yes, And" Technique and Promoting Open-Mindedness
Role in promoting compromise and open-mindedness
Importance of considering alternatives with a curious and open mindHoarding, rigidity, and psychological inflexibility
Experiential avoidance and rumination
Inflexible actions
Adapt to different situations while staying true to your values
Taking action towards values, maintaining psychological flexibility.
Practice observing your thoughts through thought listing
Working on being less rigid, more flexible.
Mediation in statistical analysis.
Consider alternatives, embrace curiosity.
Finding flexibility in perspective improves relationships
Values to guide actions.
Acceptance, understanding, and support from trusted individuals.
Discussion on rigidity and inflexibility in hoarding, its correlation with various mental health issues.
ACT academics aimed to create unified therapy model, different from DSM.
Living in state of inaction, choosing values for action.
Experiential avoidance, cognitive fusion
ACT for hoarding.
Questioning negative thoughts, being psychologically flexible, and testing beliefs to overcome attachment to possessions.
Flexibility vs. avoidance in behaviour and mindset.
Awareness of thoughts and feelings helps in making wise decisions.
Being creative and adaptable in different contexts
People may act differently in various situations, but there is a constant sense of self.
Neurodiversity may impact ability to visualize or notice thoughts.
Struggling with rigidity and flexibility, challenging it.
Questioning values, flexibility, and inflexibility in decision-making and life choices.
"Yes, and."
Actions not matching with values
Thought listing exercise to align with values.

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I take a look at the time-consuming nature of living in a hoard, including the impact of clutter on daily life. I cover the stress, procrastination, and decision fatigue that come with hoarding to shed light on the ways in which hoarding not only affects our living spaces but also consumes valuable time. Tune in for a candid conversation that challenges perceptions and offers a fresh perspective on the journey to overcome compulsive hoarding.

Questioning time for tidying in a cluttered life.
Gradual realisation about time consumption.
Tidying takes time, hoarding takes longer.
Organising the kitchen, decluttering, and categorising food items.
Knowing where things are saves time.
Reducing possessions saves time and effort.
Hoarding makes cleaning harder and time-consuming.
Rethink hoarding, liberate yourself, save future time.
American society invented the concept of human failure.
Organising saves time and reduces clutter.
Having too much stuff makes cleaning difficult and time-consuming.
The burden of hoarding and time wasted
Reframing thoughts to improve decluttering.
The concept of human failure was an American invention due to a capitalist society.
The misconception of tidy people spending all their time cleaning and tidying.
The realisation that living in hoarding is time-consuming due to the difficulties caused by clutter.
The Impact of Hoarding on Daily Life
The stress and time wasted in finding everyday items in a hoarded home.
Decision-making process and procrastination caused by overwhelming clutter.
Cleaning Challenges and Time Management
The additional time required for cleaning and maintenance in a hoarded home.
The difficulty of keeping a hoarded home clean compared to a neat and tidy home.
The liberating aspect of dehoarding by freeing up time for the future.

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Today, I am joined by the insightful Paige Pritchard, a money coach and the owner of the Overcoming Overspending community. Together, we dig into the complexities of overspending, addressing its emotional roots and psychological impact on individuals' lives. Paige offers invaluable insights into understanding the deeper motivations behind spending habits and emphasises the need to reclaim control and satisfaction in life. We discuss practical strategies, such as the "urge jar" to create distance from impulsive buying and find fulfilment without overspending. Join us as we explore the psychological effects of spending habits and discover empowering approaches to overcome overspending.

Overspending defined
Impact of shopping on time, relationships, confidence.
Men face stigma for impulse spending, too.
Striving for perfection
Products tied to identity and feelings
Resist urge to splurge
Anticipation brings more pleasure than actual events.
Recognise brain's response
Individual approach: abstainer vs moderator.
YNAB for budget transparency.
Budgeting software provides helpful transparency for planning.
Impact of shopping on time, relationships, and financial confidence.
Perfectionism and spending habits
Consumerism links products to identities and emotions
Delay impulse buying
Baseline awareness of brain's response to threats
No spend challenges
Personal spending behaviour
Signs of overspending
Financial implications
Time spent on shopping and acquiring
Impact on relationships
Financial self-confidence
Impact on environment and clutter
Understanding Motivations and Emotional Experiences Behind Spending
Aspirational spending
Consumer culture
Deeper motivations behind spending habits
Impact of spending habits on psychological wellbeing
Deeper reasons behind excessive spending
Regaining a sense of control
Escaping life
Managing Impulse Buying
Scarcity Spending
The "urge jar" as a tool
Form a new habit loop
Dopamine without spending money.
Fear of missing out
Managing Regret
Decision Making
Inevitability of emotions
Implications of extreme approaches.
Budgeting software
Managing annual expenses
Psychological perspective behind impulsive buying
Creating distance before making a purchase.
Impact of social media on contributing to overconsumption
Downplaying shopping addiction.
The seriousness of shopping addiction and its effect on people's lives, especially for women.

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Today with Dr Jan Eppingstall I explore the nuanced concept of insight in hoarding. From defining overvalued ideation to understanding the levels of insight, we unravel the challenges individuals face in recognising and addressing their hoarding behaviours. Through personal experiences, expert advice, and valuable research insights, this episode sheds light on personalised treatment approaches, effective communication strategies, and the importance of empathy and compassion. Get ready to gain a deeper understanding of hoarding disorder and discover practical ways to support individuals on their journey to overcoming compulsive hoarding.

Insight into Hoarding
Levels and Types of Insight
Insight Variability Among Individuals
Factors Influencing Insight (e.g. Comorbidity, Trauma, Life Experiences)
Insight Study by Helena Drury and Colleagues
Insight in Diagnosis of Hoarding Disorder
Relationship Between Hoarding Severity, Self-Criticism, Shame, and Preservation of Self-Concept
Overcoming Clutter Blindness
Getting Rid of Things and Challenging Thoughts
Taking Photographs of Living Spaces
Vulnerability in Showing Spaces to Someone Else
Exposing Oneself to Getting Rid of Things and Challenging Thoughts
Identifying and Addressing Lack of Insight
Anosognosia and Overvalued Ideation
Reflecting Feelings and Thoughts
The LEAP Technique for Support People, Coaches, and Therapists
Understanding Hoarding Behaviour
Motivations Behind Hoarding Tendencies
Defensive Denial and Psychological Reactance
Demographics and Characteristics of Hoarders in Research Settings and Community Services
Neurocognitive Damage and Insight into Hoarding Behavior
Communication and Approach in Supporting Hoarders
Validating Concerns and Correcting Misunderstandings
Empathetic and Compassionate Approach
Using "Yes, And" Technique in Conversations
Tailoring Therapy Approach for Hoarding Clients
Treating things as an Experiment
Importance of Curiosity and Playfulness in Therapy Approach
Limitations of Manualised Treatments

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By acknowledging potential roadblocks ahead, we can prepare emotionally and practically for upcoming challenges and even get more efficient when we’re dehoarding. I talk about the importance of being proactive, realistic, creative and adaptable when facing obstacles, while also seeking professional support when needed. I look at the need for planning, prioritising, and breaking down tasks into smaller chunks to overcome difficulties.

Anticipating obstacles improves efficiency and motivation.
Anticipating challenges leads to proactive decision-making.
Anticipate obstacles, reflect, and evaluate for success.
Stay open to possibilities, prepare for obstacles.
Planning can overcome mental obstacles for success.
Preparing for challenges in dehoarding process.
Anticipate challenges and plan preventive measures.
Allow yourself rest, plan ahead, ask for help.
Anticipating obstacles while working. Subconscious problem-solving.
Anticipating obstacles improves efficiency and reduces discouragement.
Anticipating challenges improves decision-making, reduces panic.
Being proactive is key.
Planning to deal with nostalgic stuff eventually, while focusing on current tasks and building up decluttering skills.
Anticipate and adapt to obstacles, focus on progress rather than completion. Reflection and objective evaluation are key.
Stay open to possibilities, prepare with needed supplies, seek advice on overcoming obstacles from others.
Address decision fatigue, burnout, and overwhelm to avoid stops and starts and make consistent progress.
Prepare for challenges, gain confidence from past experiences.
Anticipate and prevent burnout by pacing work, taking breaks.
Take days off even if it feels wrong. Plan ahead and seek help.
Tip for calming mind
Importance of Anticipating Obstacles
Benefits of problem-solving and emotional preparedness
Improving efficiency and momentum in the decluttering process
Assisting in planning, prioritising, and decision-making
Overcoming Challenges
Difficulty of anticipating obstacles, particularly for novices
Leveraging experience to anticipate and surmount obstacles
Adaptability, creativity, and flexibility in addressing anticipated obstacles
The value of trust, resourcefulness, and forward planning
Nostalgic items as potential distractions and triggers
The importance of realistic goal setting and objective evaluation
Anticipating Logistical Challenges
Ensuring necessary supplies are available
Learning from others' experiences with obstacles and their solutions
Importance of planning, breaking down tasks, and consistent progress

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Today I delve into my experiences of overcoming avoidant behaviours when it comes to decluttering. I share how the Hummingbird Method has been instrumental in breaking down the fear and anxiety associated with tackling daunting hoarded areas.

Join me as I explore the power of gentle, gradual progress and the freedom that comes from challenging rigid beliefs and behaviours.

New method for managing tasks: hummingbird method.
Overcoming fears
Use the hummingbird method to beat procrastination.
Versatile method adaptable for different tasks and problems.
Challenging rigid beliefs to overcome hoarding habits.
Experiment, try new things, open new doors.
Gentle approach to tasks.
Change is necessary for progress.
Trying new things, starting small.
Understanding the Difficulties of Letting Go
The fear and difficulty involved in letting go of hoarded items
The sense of freedom and positive change that can result from letting go
Exploring hummingbirding
Overcoming inflexible behavior and thinking through the hummingbird method
The daunting piles were not as intimidating as imagined
Challenging limiting rules and stepping into avoided areas to confront tasks
Embracing a New Approach
Encouragement to experiment and try new ways of approaching difficult tasks
Starting with small steps, such as opening the cellar door
The passive nature of the "Hummingbird method" in breaking down avoidance barriers
Comparison to a kitten gradually expanding boundaries to become more comfortable
Applying the Hummingbird Method
Using the method to tackle fears and avoidance behaviours
Gradually familiarising yourself with daunting tasks or situations
Illustrative examples of avoiding tasks and gradually confronting them
Comparing the method to a child overcoming a fear of balloons at a party
The importance of flexibility and openness in challenging rigid beliefs and behaviours
One tool in a range of strategies
Recognising that there is no one-size-fits-all solution for overcoming hoarding and avoidance behaviours

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In today's episode, I delve into the emotional impact of emergency dehoarding. Over the last few weeks, I've faced the daunting task of decluttering my home in preparation for an impending electrical testing. I explore the rollercoaster of emotions, from terror and shame to motivation and determination, as I grapple with the challenges of addressing my hoarding situation. Join me as I uncover the journey of navigating through the paralysis and panic to making progress, all while acknowledging the emotional and physical toll of the process.

Stay tuned for practical insights, personal revelations, and a determined commitment to moving forward and not slipping back.

Overcoming fear and making progress step-by-step.
Planned time off and charity donation preparation.
Anticipated shame, ensuring access, fluctuating emotions.
Continual progress and proactive cleanup mindset.
Therapist support pivotal.
Overcoming challenges with tools and focus.
Cannot sustain that intensity, but need to keep moving.
Making rooms accessible.
Overcoming challenges one step at a time, managing panic and making progress amid fear.
Took time off, arranged charity collection.
Struggling with hoarding shame, balancing pragmatism and terror.
Focus on forward movement and addressing small tasks promptly.
Realising the value of decluttering and talking to therapist.
Facing challenges, equipped with tools and deadline.
Unable to sustain pace, seeking balance and progress.
Despite challenges, maintaining progress is beneficial in the long run.
The emotional impact of emergency dehoarding
Paralysis and panic when faced with the task of dehoarding the house
Overcoming initial resistance and taking gradual action to prepare for impending electrical testing
Managing emotions of terror, shame, and exhaustion during the process
Finding motivation in focusing on progress and benefits of a cleaner home
Coping with difficult tasks by reminding myself that it all had to be done
Creating a loose daily plan to guide efforts
Booking a charity collection for excess belongings providing practical assistance and motivation
Acknowledging the imperfect nature of the donation process but recognising its necessity
The role of support from a therapist and knowledge gained from a podcast about hoarding in managing the process
Developing a "toolbox" of knowledge and strategies through podcast, interviews, research, and listener stories
The benefits of having a deadline to stay focused and make progress in the hoarding situation
Reflecting on the improved hoarding situation and the emotional and physical toll of the process
Acknowledging the progress made and the determination to continue moving forward and not slip back
Making a conscious effort to avoid reverting to old habits, aiming to maintain balance and not let up on efforts to overcome compulsive hoarding

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After a year where my subverted phrase of the year was "it'll do", I talk about how I'm hoping to continue shedding perfectionism and learn to be more resourceful and adaptable. Tune in to hear all about it.

2023 phrase "it will do" calms my perfectionist anxiety
Striving for tidiness, resisting hoarding tendencies
Retiring items when its purpose has been fulfilled
Embracing "it'll do" mentality for 2023 led to less stress and overthinking, allowing for more focus on important things.
Hoarders struggle with using what they have, but I'm seeking to become more adaptable and resourceful.
Facing challenges in decluttering, balancing desire for tidiness and fear of letting go.
Desire to reduce waste, finding satisfaction in finishing products.
Examples of how "it'll do" helped me make decisions and reduce stress.
Introduction of the new phrase for 2024, "make do," which emphasises resourcefulness and adaptability.
The influence of financial awareness in choosing the new phrase.
Desire to engage more with possessions.
Exploring the contradiction in hoarders' tendencies to find multiple uses for items to justify keeping them but not being resourceful in other ways.
The impact of perfectionism on the desire for the "perfect" item and the challenge to accept what is adequate.
The potential risk of using "make do" as an excuse to keep everything and the need for balance.
The acknowledgement of challenges in embracing "make do" and the importance of trusting the process.
Finding pleasure in finishing and using up items as a result of a shift in perspective.
Personal examples of feeling a sense of achievement in using items fully.
Comparing the emotional attachment to well-used items versus unused items.
The aim of "make do" to encourage thoughtful use of possessions and sustainable engagement with them.

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In today's episode, I look at the intriguing use of virtual reality in treating hoarding disorder with our guest, Dr. Hannah Raila. Dr. Raila, a psychology researcher at UC Santa Cruz, shares her insights on how virtual reality can help individuals desensitise to distress and practice discarding virtual possessions. She discusses the immersive nature of the VR experience, the potential for the technology to attract more male research participants, and so much more. Join us as we explore the innovative possibilities of virtual reality in the treatment of hoarding disorder.

Novel treatment for hoarding using virtual reality
VR sessions focus on virtual discarding practice
Virtual reality to create distress for phobia treatment
Practice desensitization to discard and declutter effectively
Novel approach due to existing treatments not working for everyone
Study methodology including recruiting participants with hoarding disorder for buried in treasures group and virtual reality sessions
Creating a virtual world of participants' rooms and practicing discarding items in a psychologically immersive environment
New treatments for hoarding needed, virtual reality tested for hoarding, based on successful use in anxiety and PTSD
In-home visits helpful for reducing clutter but often not feasible
In VR therapy, practice discarding virtual objects to desensitise to distress
Virtual exposure therapy principle: Desensitise to distress by simulating real experiences
There is a debate about hoarding disorder prevalence and gender participation in research and treatment. More women seek treatment, but the disorder may be even across genders
The Stanford lab's community presence may influence gender participation
Testing novel intervention with existing treatments, attracting more patients, need for RCT before nationwide administration
Practice desensitisation by rating distress, discarding and tracking feelings to tolerate and declutter home
Preparing new study on contamination fears for OCD at UC Santa Cruz lab
Description of the virtual donation box, recycling, and trash bin in VR sessions
Facilitating repeated rehearsal of discarding virtual possessions for real-life application
Reported improvement in hoarding symptoms due to VR treatment
Time and technology challenges in programming and designing virtual worlds for the intervention
Practical Applications and Takeaways
Monitoring and tracking distress levels when discarding items
Applying desensitisation without a virtual space
Starting with easy-to-discard items and gradually progressing to more difficult ones
Potential of virtual reality to help people move up the ladder of difficulty in discarding
Dr. Raila's plans to continue virtual reality work
Conducting a study on difficulty discarding in the normative range

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In this episode, I delve into the weird world of imperfections, flaws, and uniqueness. Drawing inspiration from the Crooked Spire of Chesterfield, I share personal struggles with self-criticism and acceptance. It's a round-about look at authenticity and self-acceptance, via imperfections and community. I also share a hoarding secret from a listener and a top tip. Join me!

Chesterfield's Crooked Spire
Folklore and reality behind the Crooked Spire's twist
We often judge ourselves harshly
Old churches, old books, imperfections, universal struggles
Authenticity and honesty in safe spaces
Embracing self-acceptance and confidence
Challenging societal expectations leads to self-acceptance
Embracing imperfection, finding strength in community
Folklore and history intertwine at Chesterfield's Crooked Spire church
We tend to see flaws in ourselves, not in loved ones
Impact on self-esteem varies with mental health and stress
Struggling with self-judgment
Need spaces for self-expression, honesty, and mental health to avoid internal conflict and damage
Often start with difficulty, but ultimately reach a point of empowerment
Not conforming to societal expectations
Changing Faces charity for people with visible differences
Personal struggles with hoarding behaviour
Encourages self-acceptance and appreciation
Resilience and community embrace of imperfections
Personal growth and acceptance related to societal norms
Struggles with conforming to expectations
The beauty of imperfections
Old books with folded corners and underlined passages
The podcast as a place of honesty and authenticity

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In today's episode, Dr Jan Eppingstall and I will be diving into a topic that is rarely discussed - homelessness and hoarding. We will explore the limited research available on the connection between these two issues and the complex factors that contribute to both. We uncover the connections between trauma, loss, and mental health issues that can lead to both homelessness and hoarding behaviours as well as the instincts associated with hoarding and the difficulties in interrupting these instincts.

Homelessness and hoarding: connections and similarities
Lack of hoarding-related academic articles
Homelessness can be caused by hoarding
Lack of support, finger pointing, no understanding
Excessive stuff brings hope for normal future
A sense of safety motivates us to accumulate possessions
The physical barrier between us and the chaotic outside world is important
Excess stuff can be seen as hope for a better future
Society pressures us to make a perfect home
Epigenetics, trauma, and genes influence hoarding behaviour
Poverty pushes some to become hoarders
Humans want to share during crises
Neurodivergence, brain injuries, schizophrenia
Homelessness and hoarding have similarities, including trauma, mental health issues, and fear of scarcity
Possessions may be portable but excessive saving behaviour persists
Homelessness caused by hoarding; trauma leads to hoarding in new home
Need to ask "What do you need?"
The comfort of material possessions
Possible evidence of neurodivergence or organic brain injuries, schizophrenia, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, complex post-traumatic stress disorder
The importance of asking the right questions and providing appropriate support
Approach problems from various angles and keep iterating to find what works
Short-term focus of government hinders this
Homeless individuals trading stuff and the instinct to hoard when they find secure housing
Difficulty in interrupting the primal hoarding instinct
Strategies for interrupting the instinct, such as calculations and sharing with others in need
Need for a holistic approach and joined-up thinking to address hoarding and homelessness effectively
Lack of resources and understanding to support hoarders once they are housed
Treating hoarders with dignity and respect
Importance of appropriate questions and support due to the complexity of hoarding behaviours
Lack of support and assistance in addressing the root causes of homelessness
Sense of control and safety that possessions offer
Importance of addressing the additional traumas faced by homeless individuals
Study finding higher hoarding prevalence (18.5%) among homeless individuals compared to the general population (1.5-5%)
Oversampling technique used to study rare subpopulations
Overlapping risk factors of hoarding and homelessness (trauma, grief, brain injury, neurodivergence)
Sense of safety and need to create a home driving the accumulation of possessions
Scarcity mindset and stockpiling items due to homelessness
Epigenetic processes potentially turning on genes associated with hoarding as a coping mechanism
Poverty and uncertainty about basic necessities contributing to hoarding behaviors
Importance of listening to frontline practitioners and individuals in order to understand their needs

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In today's episode, I dive into the topic of using AI to help us dehoard. I have some skepticism about AI and its ability to assist with decluttering. However, after exploring various AI options I share my findings and experiences with these tools. From providing tips and schedules to even taking on personas like Dolly Parton, AI can offer some assistance in the decluttering process. I also discuss the use of AI voice assistants and AI-driven coaching, discussing their potential benefits and my concerns. Join me as I explore the strengths and weaknesses of using AI as a tool in decluttering and dehoarding.

Mixed results with AI
AI voice assistance for dehoarding tasks.
Privacy concerns, limited effectiveness of chatbots.
Fact-checking is better done personally.
AI decluttering apps listed by Bard didn't exist
Bard provided good breakdown of timings in real-world context
ChatGPT and Bard can expand on previous answers.
Streamline decluttering, prioritise tasks, and explore personas with Chat GPT and Bard.
I used an AI tool to mimic Dolly Parton's style for a video.
AI voice assistants like Siri, Google, and Alexa can help with tasks like playing music and organizing, allowing users to have conversations and make requests
AI chatbots cannot provide the same support as humans
Privacy concerns and lack of trust.
Not ruling them out completely,but cautious about therapy-oriented bots
Asking specific questions can yield better results.
Skepticism about using AI for dehoarding
Not wanting to just repeat what others have said
Description of AI bot
Conversation with the AI bot
Critique of the AI bot's advice
Description of ChatGPT and Bard as AI tools
Tips for using ChatGPT and Bard effectively
Comparison of their capabilities with decluttering
Limitations and challenges with specificity and relevance to hoarding
Benefits of using voice assistants for organizing and task management
Examples of tasks voice assistants can help with
AI-driven coaching and therapy
Potential benefits and use cases
Concerns about privacy, emotional support, and effectiveness
Strengths and weaknesses of using AI for dehoarding
Personal observations on specific tasks AI is good at, such as scheduling
Mention of AI's limitations, imaginary recommendations, and the need for skepticism

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The topic for today is perfectionism and its connection to hoarding. I talk with Dr Jan Eppingstall about perfectionism and its impact on hoarding behaviour. We share personal experiences and struggles with perfectionism, discussing the fear of failure and the tendency to give up if something cannot be done perfectly.

We also touch upon the importance of psychological flexibility, being present in the moment, and living by our values. Dr. Eppingstall enlightens us with insights on challenging rigid thought patterns, breaking free from the demands of perfection, and embracing personal growth.

Perfectionism and fear of failure drive hoarding.
Perfectionism linked to hoarding and obsessive personalities.
Rigid thinking
Surprised by others' flexibility
Children with insecure attachment blame themselves for parents' problems.
Curiosity, experimentation, and flexibility lead to growth.
Encouraging exploration leads to personal growth.
Regretting inaction is a bigger regret.
Relax, do it wrong, get more done.
Perfectionism and fear of failure relate to hoarding.
Concerns over mistakes and parental criticism are prominent.
Being creative with limited resources to find solutions and not being rigid in following rules or plans.
Turtle mode hinders logic, self-criticism hampers progress.
Children with insecure attachment due to a parent's mental illness or preoccupation tend to believe they cause their parents' problems
They feel pressured to help their parents and seek validation through achievements and obedience to alleviate their parents' sadness or anger.
Perfectionism linked to trauma response, family expectations.
Fear of negative emotions, regret of not pursuing dreams.
People are adaptable and inventive
Give yourself permission to make mistakes, relax, and get more done
The reluctance to start or complete tasks to avoid an imperfect outcome
Self-criticism and lack of confidence as common problems with perfectionism
Overcoming perfectionism and embracing flexibility
Psychological flexibility: being present, taking action guided by values
The importance of curiosity and challenging behaviours
Living by values rather than solely focusing on goals
The role of a support system in venturing outside the comfort zone
Taking small, cautious steps outside the comfort zone
Opening up slowly leads to personal growth and a sense of accomplishment
Breaking rigid thought patterns through repeated challenging
Recognising triggers and behaviours associated with perfectionism
Cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) as helpful approaches
Perfectionism as a manifestation of people-pleasing and trauma response
Perfectionism leading to feelings of not being enough or worthy
Using perfectionism as a coping mechanism for emotions and relationships
Addressing perfectionism through therapy and exploring its underlying reasons
Progress and success can still be achieved even if things don't go perfectly or as planned
Regretting not doing the things we wanted to do in life rather than letting go of physical possessions
Challenging negative "what if" scenarios and highlighting potential positive outcomes
Demanding standards, self-criticism, fear of wasting or making mistakes in hoarding behaviour

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I've always believed in making positive change through my purchases. Recycling, supporting local businesses, and buying eco-friendly products have been my way of feeling like I'm making a difference, saving the world one shopping trip at a time. But I had a revelation. In today's episode, I'll explore the common belief that shopping can be a form of activism, that it is positive to support or promote whatever values are important to us. The struggles of aligning hoarding tendencies with ethical and environmental values are not lost on me. I'll delve into the difficulties of ethical purchasing and provide some insights to help you navigate through the clutter.

Expressing beliefs through items can lead to clutter
False advertising misleads consumers with "natural" claims
Some environmentally friendly products are more toxic
Resource extraction required for "ethical" consumption too
Choose green options but be mindful of unnecessary consumption
Individual actions won't save world; collective action needed
Systemic change
Believing we've done our part hinders change
Hoarders struggle with ethical purchasing decisions; advice appreciated
Although we can make ethical shopping choices, society convinces us that spending money on stuff is a form of activism
Supporting local businesses is beneficial, but it doesn't negate the negative consequences of buying something
Supporting recycling and shopping in charity shops can lead to excessive clutter and prevent others from purchasing
Buying items to display or share beliefs/values can lead to clutter; shopping won't save the world
Companies can mislead consumers by labelling products as "natural" or eco-friendly, leading us to believe we are making a positive impact
Electric car batteries release significant amounts of CO2 before being purchased
It's important to strive for better socially, environmentally, and personally, and to make informed choices when purchasing necessary items
Stocking up on unnecessary items is problematic
Collective action and societal change are needed for significant global change, not individual shopping habits
Boycotts may not be effective in changing company practices if they are still profitable
Changing to unleaded petrol required a law change
Believing shopping solves problems hinders impactful change; focus on reducing consumption, reusing, and finding real solutions
The hoarder's perspective on making positive change through purchases
Recognising flawed thinking and greenwashing
People believing they are saving the Earth through shopping
Greenwashing and misleading consumers with eco-friendly claims
Ethics of shopping and the reality of consumerism
Contribution of consumerism and resource consumption to environmental damage
Interconnection between social and environmental issues
Pitfalls of feel-good consumerism and the importance of reducing consumption
How buying green products can lead to complacency and less virtuous behaviour
Eco junk
Emphasis on consuming less and reducing consumption as a more effective solution
Shopping cannot solve issues like climate change, racism, inequality, or homophobia
Aligning ethical values with challenging hoarding tendencies

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In this episode, we're diving into the topic of squalor. Is it the same as hoarding? Can you have a squalid environment without hoarding being present? Compulsive hoarding and living in unsanitary conditions can have a profound impact on us. We'll explore the key factors and distinctions between hoarding and squalor, as well as the underlying causes that contribute to these behaviours. From acquired brain injuries and cognitive impairments to mental health disorders, we'll delve into the intricate web of reasons why people find themselves in these challenging situations. We'll also touch on the impact of substance misuse, the role of physical disabilities, and the link between hoarding and conditions such as dementia, schizophrenia, and OCD.

Join us as we explore the different characteristics, challenges, and possible solutions for hoarding and squalor. Whether you're facing hoarding tendencies yourself or seeking to understand these behaviours better, this episode is for you.

Differentiating Hoarding, Squalor, Clutter, and Collecting
Hygiene practices determined by culture.
Unsanitary living caused by physical disability, dementia, illness, brain injuries, psychiatric disorders
Long-term substance abuse damages brain's command centre
Hoarding and squalor pose health risks
Seek help for environmental neglect without shame
The definition of unsanitary is determined by cultural hygiene practices, varying across cultures
It relates to the reasonable person's judgment of cleanliness based on cultural norms.
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and contamination fears
Substance abuse impairs decision making and damages the prefrontal cortex
Hoarding and squalor pose health risks due to unhygienic living conditions and food safety issues.
Prefrontal cortex damage explains dementia-related hoarding
Unsanitary environments can result from socioeconomic factors such as poverty and limited access to sanitation services
Lack of access to rubbish removal and funds for disposal
Hoarding behaviours can lead to unsanitary living conditions due to hoarding severity, clutter volume, and difficulty discarding items. This attracts vermin and causes shame
Living alone can lead to higher risk of unsanitary conditions
Seek professional help, consider NDIS support for disabilities
Clutter makes cleaning difficult
Impairment in decision-making due to substance abuse
Acquired brain injuries and neglect of personal and environmental hygiene
Impairment of the command centre of the brain
Deteriorating eyesight and its effect on recognising unsanitary areas
Isolation and lack of support for seniors
Loss and depression leading to neglect of hygiene
Self-neglect among hoarders
Characteristics of squalid living environments
1. Lack of purposeful clutter
1. Absence of emotional attachment to objects
1. Fear of objects that have touched other objects
Root causes of squalid environments
Waste management and food storage
Socioeconomic Factors
Access to education, poverty, and sanitation services
Challenges faced by people living in public housing
Role of support systems in overcoming squalor
Seeking help from mental health professionals and GPs
Overcoming shame
Challenges Faced by Aging Hoarders
Influence of injuries or loss on hoarding behaviours
Avoiding unhelpful and meaningless labels
Squalor cannot be overcome by willpower alone
Emotional and functional purposes driving hoarding behaviour

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Today’s episode is all about the pros and cons of selling your stuff. If you've been following my journey, you know that I have been apprehensive about selling items in the past. But I've taken a tentative step into the world of selling my clutter. Today I'm going to share the lessons I've learned and explore whether selling is truly worth it. So, grab your headphones and get ready for an insightful discussion on the potential benefits and drawbacks of selling your stuff.

Selling stuff slows you down, hampers decluttering

Holding on to things instead of selling

Potential and creativity don't guarantee objective value

Saves money, extends life cycle, reduces waste, helps environment, satisfies hoarder brain

Time, effort, selling, selling process

Selling stuff may hinder hoarder's progress - delay, excuses

No guarantee of sales or payments; uncertain and time-consuming process

Setting parameters saves energy.

Selling slows down decluttering, creates excuses to keep items.

If we don't want to get rid of something, we might pretend we'll sell it without actually doing so

We use excuses to avoid throwing it away because we have a tendency to hoard

We believe someone else will want it.

Realistic value check.

We overestimate the value of our possessions.

Selling stuff can make money during tough times

Varies depending on what you sell.

Someone else can use them

Reusing is better than recycling or throwing away. It's environmentally beneficial

Selling can be both a motivator and an excuse for delaying getting rid of things

There is no guarantee of selling or payment for listed items.

Unpredictable

Listing and selling items require time and energy that could be used more productively.

Charity shops save time and effort compared to eBay

Not advocating selling everything

Previous stance on selling items and recent change in perspective

Importance of finding a balance and considering what is best for oneself and the items being sold

Making money while in debt or struggling with bills

Benefiting from the extra money, especially in a tough economy

Extending the life cycle of items by reusing them

Supporting the idea of reducing consumption

Sense of satisfaction in knowing that items will be put to good use by someone else

Uncertainty involved in the selling process

Difficulty in determining the right price for items

Frustration of receiving offers below desired price or dealing with non-paying buyers

Feeling demoralised if treasured items don't sell

Potential dissatisfaction with the final amount received after all the effort

eBay fees and the impact on the final selling price

Potential Hoarding Related Challenges of Selling

The tendency to use selling as a means to delay getting rid of items

The role of selling as a motivator versus an excuse to hold onto possessions

Assessing individual motivations for selling personal belongings

Considering whether the effort and time invested in selling outweigh other actions

Setting a minimum price threshold for Facebook Marketplace to avoid lowball offers

Taking into account one's overall personality and goals when deciding to sell or keep items

Insights and Lessons Learned from Selling

Realizing that overvaluing possessions is common for hoarders

Recognizing the importance of speed in decluttering and minimizing possessions

Learning about oneself and possessions through the selling process

Reiteration of the importance of finding a balance between selling and letting go

Highlighting the benefits and potential challenges of selling items

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In this episode, I look at the topic of regret when it comes to dehoarding. Drawing from my own experiences, I delve into the fear of regret that often plagues individuals who hoard. She discusses the negative impact this anticipation of regret can have on the state of our homes and our lives, as well as the importance of reframing our mindset. Through personal anecdotes and valuable reflections, That Hoarder shares how considering the potential regrets of not dehoarding and the potential benefits of letting go can help overcome this fear. She provides practical tips and strategies for navigating the journey towards a clutter-free life. Let's confront and conquer our fear of regret in the dehoarding process.

Regretting hoarding, but also regretting not changing.
Focus on potential regret or potential benefits
Regrets and fears may hinder decluttering items.
Starting slowly can prevent future regret.
Making decisions without regret is nearly impossible
Setting time limits and asking for help can be helpful in making difficult decisions.
Occasional painful regret can be transformative.
Step towards personal growth and home improvement.
Importance of considering both regret and lack of regret in decision-making.
Focus on potential benefits, not regret or fear
Reframe questions to consider gains or missed opportunities
Identify core fears to address them.
Examining fears of regretting and loss of objects, emphasising a realistic perspective.
Weigh the pros and cons and take measured actions
Holding onto everything restricts opportunities and can lead to a limited life.
Making decisions without regret is difficult, but setting time limits and seeking advice can help
Sharing fears with others can quiet them.
Making decisions, big or small, can bring about regrets. Others may not have experience with hoarding but can offer perspectives on overcoming regrets.
Personal growth and improving coping skills can enhance our lives and homes.
Anticipation of regret in hoarding
Negative impact on homes and lives
Insurance policy approach to dehoarding
Battle with fear of regret
We forget to anticipate regret of not taking action
Potential future regret from not making homes easier to live in
Considering what might be missed out on if not taking action
Reframing questions to include potential benefits
Personal experience of not regretting donating to charity shops
Focusing on potential benefits instead of potential regret
Identifying the core fear beyond the fear of regret
Addressing and assessing the fear
Examples of fears related to specific objects or items
Starting gradually and assessing each step
Testing out fears and evaluating the actual feelings
Using previous experiences to build confidence
Taking action before reaching a crisis
Importance of addressing the fear before drastic consequences
Acknowledging the realities of life circumstances
Encouraging steady and ongoing progress
Weighing pros and cons and considering fears
Making more considered and measured decisions to prevent future regret

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Today's episode is all about batching and hoarding. Have you ever started a task only to get sidetracked and end up feeling disheartened and unproductive? Well, you're not alone. In this episode, I explore the concept of batching tasks together and how it can help you overcome the distractions and actually get things done. Join me as we delve into the world of productivity strategies, context switching, and the positive benefits of batching tasks. Get ready to declutter your mind and your home and find the encouragement you need to keep going. Stay tuned for some practical tips and insights on how to make batching work for you. Let's get started!

For people who easily get sidetracked and lose focus quickly
Using technique to focus on tasks efficiently
More focus leads to increased productivity and visible results
Batch tasks for efficiency and effectiveness
Batching tasks simplifies decision-making and improves efficiency
Batching tasks helps with transitions and procrastination
Create a schedule for regular batched tasks
Batch based on area, category, or activity
Feeling unaccomplished by distractions when trying to complete tasks
Focus on one task at a time to accomplish more and see noticeable results, providing motivation and encouragement
Allows for a fresh perspective on completed work and saving time and energy
Batching tasks simplifies decision-making, reduces analysis paralysis, and allows for forward planning, increasing productivity
Helps with transitions and initiating task
Beneficial for dehoarding, depending on progress. Establishing a schedule for regular batched tasks may be helpfu
Batch items based on area, category, or activity. Stay focused and redirect distractions by saying "No, I'm working on this for now."
Explanation of context switching and its impact on focus and productivity
More noticeable results at the end of a decluttering session
Boost in motivation and encouragement
Importance of visible progress in overcoming feelings of disheartenment
Comparison between concentrated progress in one area vs. scattered progress throughout the space
Difference between visible and hidden progress
Encouragement to apply batching techniques to stay focused and improve effectiveness in organising efforts

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Today, Dr. Jan Eppingstall is here to shed light on the connection between executive function, executive dysfunction, and hoarding behaviour. We explore how executive function impacts our ability to organise and declutter our living spaces and uncover the challenges individuals face when it comes to decision-making, mental flexibility, and working memory. We'll also discuss strategies for improving executive function and overcoming the obstacles that hoarding behaviour presents.

Depression and health conditions can impair focus
Nervous shutdown and self-compassion during stress
Trick yourself into starting
Network atrophies when not engaged
Issue with sticking to tasks due to desire for novelty
Reducing food shops, using what's in cupboards
Procrastination hinders progress, but changing behaviours helps
Mental flexibility essential
Flexible thinking in shopping, problem solving, creativity
Executive dysfunction hinders organisation; hoarding makes it harder
Lack of experience in decision-making, cutting corners
Perspective and help are important when organising
Lack of space hinders planning
Executive functions affects losing things
Fear of loss worsens clutter
See-through boxes and labels
Mindset affects executive function, self-care is crucial
Many conditions cause brain fog and difficulty focusing
Understanding our executive functions helps us manage stress, improve awareness, and leverage strengths
Reflection can inform future behaviour
Nervous system shuts down, could be triggered by dissociation
Engaging in tasks helps people focus and enter a flow state
Perfectionism = rigid thinking, efforts towards being more flexible
Trying to organise a hoard is destined to fail
Can we reassure ourselves when we put things away?
Minimise visual distractions, motivation to improve surroundings
Take care of your mind, believe in yourself, and prioritie self-care for better executive function
Is difficulty organising due to executive function issues or the sheer quantity of items?
Difficulty getting rid of things once they are brought into the home due to the endowment effect
Suggestions for improving working memory through mental maths and storytelling memory games
Identifying triggers and strategies for preventing or dealing with shutdowns
Practicing self-compassion and reducing stress for better action-taking
Introduction of the task positive network (TPN) and flow state during tasks
Downsides of hyperfocus and its impact on cognitive attention
Weakening or atrophy of the TPN due to lack of exercise
How depression, autoimmune diseases, and long COVID can impact executive functioning
Unique perception and organization of belongings for individuals on the autism spectrum
Planning skills and lack of space as potential barriers

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Today, I'm delving into the world of excess and overstocked items. I have some insights on how to navigate the clutter of spares and backups that can often accumulate in our lives and explore the challenges of hoarding spares, the fear of running out, and the art of letting go. It's time to take action and make space for what truly matters. Let's dive in!

Too many backups, no space for essentials
Too many spares hinder finding things
Hoarders stock up, but it's problematic
Keeping spares, especially when on sale
Overbuying and hoarding wastes time and money
Allocating space reduces overstocking, prompts evaluation
Consider cost, availability, and ease of replacement. Assess necessity based on these factors
Evaluate spare items for necessary maintenance
Risk and fear limit our daily lives
Consider reasonable quantity and necessity, not excess
We accumulate unnecessary backups, making it difficult to organize and discard unused items
Keeping too many unnecessary items makes it hard to find what we really want
Letting go takes faith but leads to easier access
Buying in bulk is cheaper
Overbuying and hoarding leads to an unmanageable situation, preventing you from enjoying life
Fear of running out is understandable but excessive stockpiling is not helpful or cost-effective
Dispose of obsolete tech and excess items, donate or discard thoughtfully
Allocating a specific space for overstock might help control it
Consider limiting the number of spares and keeping track of inventory
Consider the cost and availability of replacing items. If easy and affordable, no spares may be needed. If costly or hard to find, consider quantity and storage
Check if your spare items need maintenance. Don't keep duplicates if they don't work. Consider safety and cost when replacing items
Balancing risk and spares in daily life, reassess as needed
The waste feels horrible, but you can learn from it and make more conscious decisions about buying
Don't beat yourself up, instead turn discomfort into determination to avoid future waste
Think before buying unnecessary items
Assess the importance and potential consequences of running out
Balance the need for preparedness with space and cost
Proportionality is key
The concept of overstocking and hoarding spares
Keeping a record of the quantity of spare items to alleviate anxiety about running out
Difficulty of finding desired items among a clutter of unused items
Taking Action to Get Out of Clutter
Importance of taking action to declutter and organise
Acknowledge fear of being without certain items, but encourage letting go of unused items to make space for what truly matters
Donating unwanted items can make it easier to access needed items
Availability of replacements locally or online
Considerations like expiration dates and proper storage
Fear of running out and hoarding as a response
Balancing the benefits of buying in bulk with the negative impact on daily life and family dynamics
Keeping old appliances as backups even if they are no longer functional
Using discomfort as motivation to avoid overstocking and waste
Reassessing judgments about spares over time as anxiety levels change
Futility of hoarding obsolete tech
Space, cost, and compatibility issues
Reflect on own overstocking habits and take steps to overcome compulsive hoarding

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Jasmine Sleigh is a professional declutterer and has spent the past decade helping people to free up space. She focuses not only on physical belongings but also on the emotional and psychological aspects of decluttering. In today's episode, Jasmine likens her role to a dance, where she carefully navigates through uncertainties and potential triggers for her clients and stresses the importance of providing support and encouragement throughout the decluttering process.

We also discuss Jasmine's book, Being Owned: A Decade in Professional Decluttering, where she expands on the concepts discussed in this episode. Let's dive into the world of decluttering with Jasmine Sleigh.

Facilitating crafts and donating unused items.
Professional decluttering: a personal and people-centric approach
Handling belongings requires adaptability and improvisation
Sort out space, prioritise essentials, declutter
Understanding lives through belongings; an intimate job
Stuff has power, can be moved
Keep belongings accessible for ease of use
Helping people achieve their goals is the key
Positive actions in a cost of living crisis
Jasmine wanted to write a book about her experiences as a professional declutterer, focusing on the poignant stories of her clients and celebrating her achievements
She also felt frustrated by people's misconceptions about the job
The importance of using and sharing possessions, especially in the context of crafting and hobbies.
Jasmine can only go as far as clients are willing to let her
Training others has further shaped her understanding
Emotional attachments and recent purchases may require more distance
The power of belongings and the impact they can have
Ensuring easy access and a comfortable living environment for individuals is the main priority
Goal is to make people happier in their homes
Using resources for good and the availability of second-hand items in a crisis
Sorting through belongings and determining their importance in one's life narrative
The Unpredictability of the Job
Need for adaptability in dealing with unexpected situations
Describing the job as a "dance" due to uncertainties and triggers
Being present and flexible in the moment, avoiding over-preparation
Ineffectiveness of threats and negative consequences
The Process of Decluttering
Recognising that there is no quick fix or magic solution
Examples of finding forgotten items
Belongings becoming overwhelming and causing a burden
The ability to move and rearrange belongings to improve the situation
Different levels of difficulty in letting go of different types of items
Sorting out keepsakes at different life stages
Importance of having hobbies and engaging in creative activities
Creating a space to pursue hobbies and finish projects
Passing on unused items for sustainability and resource usage
Power dynamics surrounding objects
Giving individuals agency to make choices about possessions
Stories of reengagement and finding joy in personal belongings
Being attuned to people and focused on their well-being
Maturation and increased understanding after 10 years of working
Importance of the home as a sanctuary for wellbeing

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In today's episode, we're diving into the topic of when you feel like giving up. We'll be exploring the struggles, frustrations, and moments of doubt that can arise during the journey of overcoming compulsive hoarding. We'll uncover strategies to stay motivated and find the strength to keep going. Join me as we navigate the highs and lows of this challenging process and discover the power of perseverance.

So, grab a cup of tea and press play!

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Reminder: Why was change important? Self-examine motivation for new things.

Stay present, take care of yourself, embrace failure.

Challenges and triumphs in a long journey and a big project.

Setting expectations based on order rather than timings is preferable for someone who finds it difficult to predict. Learn from experience and set realistic expectations. Consider the burden of letting others down if you communicate expectations to them.

Setting milestones helps celebrate small wins. Clearing the kitchen table can be a goal, leading to a sense of accomplishment and motivation. Having compassion for oneself is crucial.

A Facebook comment inspired compassion from children of hoarders, encouraging someone to not give up and be a hero for their kids.

Change up your habits, shift timing, remember why you started.

Remember why decluttering was important to you. Reflect on your motivation and discover new reasons, like enjoying extra space, treating yourself, or flexibility while working from home.

Taking breaks and finding inspiration from others helps prevent burnout during long-term projects. Look to successful people for motivation, even outside of your specific field.

Applying mindset to various areas of life, replacing unproductive habits, assessing and making adjustments, and the potential benefits of visualizing success.

Acknowledging slow progress is better than no progress

Feelings of frustration and impatience with the current situation

Be patient and work with circumstances

Mindful Approach to Avoid Feeling Overwhelmed

Being present in the moment instead of rushing to the next thing

Appreciating and being present in small tasks

Practicing mindfulness and avoiding constant engagement with everything

Importance of physical, mental, and emotional self-care

Maintaining motivation through scheduled and unscheduled breaks

Viewing failure as a learning experience, not a reason to give up

Importance of setting specific goals and milestones in decluttering

Celebrating accomplishments as motivation

Breaking tasks into manageable chunks to reduce overwhelm

Replacing rigidity with a more gentle and careful approach

Doing a bit, assessing, and making adjustments

Changing Environment and Finding Motivation

Changing environment or time of day to make decluttering feel new

Reflecting on initial motivation to stay motivated

Various sources of inspiration, including social media, podcasts, and books

Unrelated endeavours like trekking the Appalachian Mountains as a source of inspiration

Flexibility and Adaptability in Pursuit of Goals

Emphasizing the importance of flexibility and adaptability

Overcoming rigidity and perfectionism through adjustment and starting multiple times

Taking breaks and weekends off to prevent burnout

Failure as a Motivator and Opportunity

Understanding failure as a setback in life plans

Validating the feelings of discouragement and wanting to give up

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In this episode, we explore decision making and its connection to hoarding. I dive into neuroscience research, exploring the neural mechanisms of decision making in hoarding disorder, discover how individuals categorise their own possessions versus those of others, and how this impacts their ability to make decisions. I talk ways to improve decision making skills. From flipping a coin to considering our values, setting priorities, and seeking advice, I explore practical techniques that can help anyone struggling with indecisiveness. Along the way, I tackle the fear of uncertainty and how it can hinder decision making. I delve into the different decision making styles that researchers have identified and how understanding these styles can help.

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Hoarding OCD patients struggle with decision making.
Differences in decision making for hoarders.
Anticipating regret
Test small decisions
Gather information, set time limits for decisions
Accepting uncertainty
Toss a coin, keep perspective, ask advice.
Consider long-term consequences, stick to decisions.
Start small; gain confidence in decision-making.
Learning from past decisions improves future choices.
Hoarders report anxiety and procrastination in decision making.
Lack of self-trust skews decision-making
Hoarding disorder linked to impulsive decisions and self-reliance.
Differences in categorising own items compared to others'
Writing down thoughts can clarify complexity and solve problems
Fear of mistakes leads to decision avoidance.
Hoarders anticipate regret
Ask more than "what if"
Perspective, flexibility, seek advice.
Stick to decisions and avoid second-guessing or agonising over them.
Psychology Today: 35,000 choices made daily
Decisions can be overwhelming
The butterfly effect and the impact of seemingly insignificant decisions
Strategies for Decision Making in Hoarding
Imaginary Person Technique
Aligning decisions with values to prioritise what is truly important
How values can guide decision-making in hoarding situations
Neural Mechanisms of Decision Making in Hoarding
Study involving brain scans and paper items
Tossing a coin to make decisions and considering feelings about the result
Setting priorities, asking "what if" questions
Being open to different perspectives
Tolerating uncertainty
Understanding Decision Making Styles
No definitive set of decision making styles
Cultivating Compassion and Making Ethical Choices
Cultivating self-compassion
Making compassionate choices for a better quality of life
Practical Tips for Decision Making in Hoarding
Starting with small, easy decisions and gradually progressing to more significant ones
Challenging oneself to try different options and gain decision-making skills
Learning from past decisions to inform future ones and identify helpful strategies
Considering long-term consequences rather than focusing solely on immediate ones
Stepping out of immediate emotions
Sticking to decisions and avoiding overanalysing or second-guessing
Difficulty making decisions among patients with hoarding disorder and OCD
Characteristics of hoarding disorder, including excessive indecisiveness and avoidance
Hoarding disorder's association with procrastination, indecisiveness, and decision-related fears

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In today's episode, we'll be delving into things that look like hoarding but aren't. Joining me is the incredible Dr. Jan Eppingstall, a specialist in hoarding disorder.

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We explore the how to determine if someone has hoarding tendencies, shedding light on hoarding and its connections to other mental health conditions, such as OCD and OCPD. We'll discuss the criteria for these disorders and how they relate to hoarding behaviors. But hoarding is just the tip of the iceberg. We'll also explore the relationship between hoarding, autism, ADHD, and depression, uncovering the common symptoms and challenges in these overlapping conditions.

So, join us as we discuss things that may look like hoarding but aren't.

Understanding the cause of hoarding behaviours

OCD and OCPD are mental disorders characterized by anxiety and rigid personality traits. Hoarding was associated with OCPD

Overlap of symptoms

Depression makes daily tasks exhausting and meaningless

Autism and ADHD: understanding and terminology

Often mask to fit in

Recognise sensory needs, respect neurodivergence, ask questions

Rejection sensitive dysphoria, impulsiveness, and addiction in ADHD

Understanding the causes of hoarding behaviours is important

OCD and OCPD are mental disorders. OCD causes anxiety and impairs functioning. OCPD is a personality disorder with rigid traits

Hoarding was considered a subtype of OCPD

People with OCPD may not see their behaviours as problematic and may exhaust themselves trying to meet unrealistic standards

Do individuals feel responsible for the welfare of objects, are they emotionally attached to them, do they experience distress from clutter or the act of saving?

A potential opposite extreme of compulsive minimalism

Feeling exhausted and worthless, maintaining a tidy house becomes unimportant. A depression nest forms

Hoarding often starts at a young age. Time and untreated depression can worsen it

Bipolar disorder

Increased understanding and awareness leading to more assessments.

Women are often overlooked

Understanding and accommodating individuals with neurodivergence is important

Sensory needs and routines may vary

ADHD is highly heritable but can also be influenced by environmental stressors and trauma

Variable attention stimulus trait

Creating your own options and not being afraid of failure in self-help

ADHD, depression, and hoarding often co-occur

Other conditions like OCD, anxiety, bipolar disorder, social anxiety, bulimia, binge eating, gambling, and personality disorders can be linked to hoarding

Treatment is challenging but not impossible

Definitions and criteria for hoarding tendencies

Compulsive spartanism

Differences and similarities between OCD and OCPD

Criteria for OCPD based on Freud

Hoarding originally considered a subtype of OCPD

Labels and understanding underlying needs

Focus on purpose rather than the diagnosis

Unrealistic standards and exhaustion from trying to meet them

Sensitive dysphoria and euphoria

Feeling overwhelmed and exhausted in daily life

Accepting help without distress or shame

Depression nests

Relationship between ADHD, depression, and hoarding

OCD, generalized anxiety, bipolar disorder, social anxiety, eating disorders, addiction, and personality disorders

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I speak to Tracy McCubbin, an expert in decluttering, organising, and overcoming the emotional attachment to our belongings. With years of hands-on experience and a deep understanding of clutter, Tracy helps people reclaim their spaces. Tracy shares invaluable insights into the psychology behind stuff and the challenges that arise when inherited items become emotional burdens. She challenges the notion that objects hold inherent meaning and encourages listeners to question the attachment they have to their possessions. Tracy also provides practical advice on how to approach decluttering and organising. She dispels the myth of overnight transformations often portrayed on social media, reminding us that real progress takes time and effort. She shares anecdotes, including the story of the infamous painting of dogs playing poker and its unexpected journey to a new home. Join us as we explore clutter blocks through six items of mine,

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Introduction to the clutter blocks and their origin

Birthed from hands-on work with people and their experiences with hoarding disorder

The struggle of inheriting items from deceased family members

Difficulty in letting go of things due to sentimental attachment or financial value

Objects hold no inherent meaning, we assign meaning to them

Example of the speaker's wedding dress and societal pressure to hold onto sentimental items

The changing importance of objects over time

Acquisition of things becoming easier, questioning the need to hold onto them

Tackling decluttering and organizing separately

Not expecting immediate results

Unrealistic expectations created by social media

Working at your own pace

Time and energy limitations due to work and family

The initial chaos before improvement during the decluttering process

Hiring professionals for cleaning services if deep cleaning is not enjoyable

Selling or giving away unwanted items to avoid clutter

Celebrating progress by hiring a cleaning company and taking a break

Resisting pressure to do things one doesn't enjoy

Letting go of items and finding them in the hands of those who need them

Separating decluttering, organizing, and cleaning as separate tasks

Avoiding overwhelm and making the process more manageable

Replacing reminders of painful memories with positive ones

Not feeling obligated to keep crafts made by others

A client with a collection of birdhouses made by their father

Reflecting on the concept of regret and the things that are never thought about again

Choosing cash over a sale purse

Declutter, organize, and clean separately for success

Decluttering takes time and patience, but it's worth it

Feeling obliged to keep handmade crafts made by others

The meaning we attach to objects

Beautiful gift that's not my style

Dogs playing poker painting given new home

Father hoards baby strollers, never gives them away

Disaster relief donations often miss the mark

Hiring help for tasks you dislike

We make mistakes, let's learn and move on

Decluttering takes time and effort; it may get worse before it gets better

Psychological attachment to objects and challenges the belief that everything must be kept

Focus on good memories

Putting a time limit on completing tasks

Donate money, not random items

It is okay to not enjoy certain tasks and celebrate hiring help

We all make mistakes, but holding on to them is unnecessary

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Today, I dive into the importance of setting up systems to make dehoarding easier and less resistant. We'll discuss how examining the structure of our lives can help us determine what can be done to make the decluttering process more manageable. Plus, we'll explore the concept of choosing realistic timings that fit with our individual lifestyles for successful decluttering. We'll also explore the idea that the path of least resistance is often seen as negative, implying that someone isn't trying hard enough. In the realm of dealing with hoarding, however, the path of least resistance can be a gift. I'll explain how taking this approach doesn't mean avoiding challenges altogether, but rather making the overwhelming task of decluttering more manageable. Join me as I navigate the intricate world of compulsive hoarding, exploring the strategies and mindsets that can help us overcome this challenge. Get ready to uncover the path of least resistance.

Choosing the simplest option to overcome challenges
Uncertainty, struggle, progress in dealing with tasks
Create a system to enable donating items
Overcome barriers and get things out
Simplify decisions, prioritise, and start somewhere
Guidelines and formulas
Confidence and small steps
Choose the easiest option to start moving. Dealing with difficult challenges can be overwhelming. No shame in taking the simplest path
Uncertainty improved by experience and research
Need to be intentional to prevent worsening
Think about what stops you and create a system to enable change
Have a bag ready for charity donations
Start somewhere, any room or item, and adjust approach as needed.
Examining the structure of your life to facilitate decluttering
The negative perception of the path of least resistance
Acknowledgment of the importance of embracing challenges, but hoarding is already a significant one
Importance of making progress and having mental energy
Being more selective in future donation choices
Prioritising getting rid of items over ensuring they leave the house perfectly
Practical examples of following the path of least resistance in donating items
The challenge of determining where to start decluttering
Importance of thinking about structures that hinder decluttering
The value of creating systems or structures for ease of decluttering
The importance of following the path of least resistance to overcome difficult challenges
Barriers to getting rid of items, such as the need for perfection
Considering the easiest path to get items out of the house without throwing them away
Encouragement to pay attention to personal objections to getting rid of items
Research and intentionality as key factors in being neat and tidy
How being intentional prevents worsening and improves the situation
The benefits of considering the path of least resistance in making deliberate choices
Choosing what feels good to enhance productivity
The burden of donating items from a hoarded home due to the scale of possessions
The struggle of perfectionism in choosing where to donate
Considerations when deciding where to donate items
Suggestions for starting decluttering in specific areas of the home
The possibility of becoming overwhelmed and unable to make progress
Comparison of the structure of a river to the structure of one's life

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In this episode, we will be tackling the really gross and icky bits of dehoarding. It's not the most glamorous topic, but it's an essential part of the journey to a clutter-free life. We'll be discussing everything from dealing with unpleasant smells to handling sticky or disgusting substances that can accumulate over time. I've got some practical tips and strategies to help you navigate these challenges.

Dealing with gross things is important, but don't beat yourself up about it
Take responsibility, not blame, use it to motivate improvement
Presence of mould or goo in home is harmful physically, mentally, emotionally. Use gloves and a face mask to protect against anything gross or moldy. Use a grabber if needed
Adding essential oil drops to a face mask or using Vick's VapoRub improves smell.
Learn from experience, tackle issues one by one, prevent future problems: avoid bulk buying, store properly
The importance of addressing the "gross and icky" bits of dehoarding
Learning from unpleasant experiences and taking pride in overcoming them
Tackling issues or challenges one by one in a methodical manner
Taking proactive measures to prevent similar situations from arising again
Practical tips for dealing with sticky or gross substances
Addressing them individually until the whole house is clean
Being cautious with bulk food purchases and storing perishable items properly
Using bags for cleaning purposes is a logical use, not a waste
Spraying antibacterial spray after cleaning to ensure cleanliness
The importance of not avoiding unpleasant tasks
Facing the situation head-on because it won't go away on its own
Being realistic about what needs to be addressed
Quick resolution of tasks that have been avoided for a long time
The importance of ventilation to prevent mould and fungus spores from spreading
The need for Personal Protective Equipment (PPE) when dealing with harmful substances
Taking responsibility without blaming oneself
Using experiences as motivation to improve hoarding habits
Promoting a proactive attitude towards personal growth and improvement
Overcoming the fear and worries associated with gross or unpleasant tasks
Using gloves, face masks, and grabber tools to avoid touching or inhaling harmful substances
Prioritising health and wellbeing when removing gross or unidentifiable items
The consequences of failure to clean up grossness, including contamination and more waste
Accepting that some things may not be savable and may need to be discarded

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With therapist Dr Jan Eppingstall, I look at the scarcity dilemma, uncovering the complex relationship between fear, control, and hoarding. We explore the link between scarcity and compulsive hoarding behaviours and how marketing tactics manipulate our emotions and behaviorus, leading us to accumulate more than we need. We look at strategies and discuss the psychological reasons behind the urge to hoard and the challenging process of letting go.

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Importance of being aware of marketing tactics and their influence on emotions and behaviors.
Creating a space between stimulus and response to choose how to react.
Consideration of how a purchase will fit into our lives and finite home space.
Advising against in-store hoarding and hiding behaviors.
The urge to buy when something is believed to be scarce.
Charity shops as challenging for those triggered by scarcity.
Reactant theory and limited availability triggering increased attention and attraction.
Psychological factors contributing to hoarding behaviour.
Anxiety disorder and fear of making mistakes or being unprepared.
Preference for acquiring goods now rather than having more cash later.
Using possessions for control and anticipation of future needs.
Anticipated regret and comparison of acquisition and non-acquisition outcomes.
Scarcity perception, reactance, and fear of missing out (FOMO).
Limited availability as a threat to personal freedom.
Sense of urgency to buy and hoard when perceiving a shortage.
FOMO as a prevalent fear of not being able to purchase.
Mindset shifts and gratitude
Recognising and expressing gratitude for abundance in one's life.
Hoarding as compensatory behavior for insecure attachment.
Filling the void of missing connections.
Providing hedonistic pleasure and dopamine hit.
Compensating for lacking or not acknowledging something.
Finding fulfillment beyond material possessions.
Importance of recognising and being grateful for small moments and human interactions.
Random joy and emotional fulfillment over material things.
Ethical concerns with therapists receiving constant marketing offers.
Overwhelming amount of emails for online courses and discounts.
Feeling uncomfortable and "icky" about this type of marketing.
Effectiveness of different types of scarcity.
Limited quantity scarcity vs. limited time scarcity.
Limited quantity scarcity leading to competition and pride.
Bargains as part of the gift and providing satisfaction.
Disagreement with scarcity mindset versus abundant mindset descriptions.
Lack of competitiveness or jealousy towards others.
Belief in collaboration and not worrying about others' resources.
Curiosity about the fear of scarcity and its underlying reasons.

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In today's episode, we're exploring the power of turning your chair round and embracing different perspectives.

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Imagining advice from different perspectives
Gaining new insights and advice
Showing compassion towards yourself
Questioning how things are done
Exploring different ways to frame situations
Beginner's Mind from Zen Buddhism:
Dropping expectations and preconceived ideas
Stepping out of comfort zone
Initial discomfort leading to eventual comfort
Trying new things can be scary but rewarding
Questioning and reevaluating rules:
Determining if rules are still useful and relevant
Challenging yourself to break established patterns
Confirmation bias: Seeking information that aligns with existing beliefs
Perfectionism in organizing possessions:
Energizing and motivating the organising process
Believing in different possibilities
Challenging the belief that things have to be a certain way forever
Exploring new ways of thinking and doing things
Challenging fears:
Proving fears are not necessarily true
Gentle self-reflection:
Encouraging personal growth and understanding
Turning the chair around
Seeing possibilities and solutions with a fresh outlook
Practicing beginner's mind and mindfulness
Looking for something unrelated to existing interests

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Join me as I delve into wishcycling and the connection between hoarding and sustainable practices.

On this episode of Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder, I dive into the topic of wishcycling and how it relates to hoarding. I explore the concept of repairing and upcycling as effective ways to extend the lifespan of items, discussing the difference between repairing and intending to repair. I learn about the importance of following through with repair plans and setting deadlines.

Wishcycling, the act of putting non-recyclable items in recycling bins, is the main topic of discussion. I explore common items that are often wishcycled, such as plastic bags and crisp/chip packets, and the negative impact it can have I highlight the recycling initiative TerraCycle, which offers recycling programs for difficult-to-recycle items.

I emphasise the 5 Rs and how hoarders can focus on reducing consumption to tackle overwhelm in their homes. I also discuss the potential distractions these can pose for hoarders and the importance of prioritising oneself, the home, and the people we live with over broken or damaged items.

I also look at the uncertainty surrounding recyclable items and the complexities of the recycling process, emphasising the need to question if we really need something before acquiring it.

Topics:

Definition of wishcycling and its negative effects
Commonly wishcycled items and misconceptions
The impact of wishcycling on recycling machines and materials
Extending the lifespan of items through repair and upcycling
Examples of effective repair and upcycling techniques
The difference between repairing and intending to repair
Overview of TerraCycle and its recycling programs
Personal Experience with Repairing
Setting a strict deadline to avoid procrastination
Applying Principles of Reuse and Repair:
How reducing consumption can help tackle overwhelm in hoarded homes
Balancing Repair and Hoarding:
Repairing as a potential distraction or excuse for hoarding
Prioritising oneself and loved ones over broken or damaged items
Tendency to reuse unsafe items in hoarded homes
An overview of the five R's (reduce, reuse, repair, rot, recycle)
The question of need and waste reduction
Personal Motivation and the Environment:
Survivors of trauma as environmentally motivated individuals
Hoarding as a barrier to caring for the environment
The personal and global benefits of reducing consumption
Acknowledging uncertainties in recycling practices

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'If you had told me on March 30, 2021, when I put up two episodes of me rambling into my phone, that two-and a-bit years later, I would have 100 episodes live, I would have over 100,000 downloads, I would have had an array of amazing guests, I would never have believed you.'

Celebration of the podcast's 100th episode and over 100,000 downloads
Gas man visit as an opportunity to assess progress
Importance of talking about difficult topics and dismantling stigmas
Power of experimentation, curiosity, and strategic questioning
Recognizing the negative impact of self-criticism
Understanding that beating yourself up prevents action
Importance of addressing underlying patterns and reasons behind hoarding behaviors
Creativity and unconventional strategies may be necessary in overcoming hoarding tendencies.
Importance of asking strategic questions in decision-making

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On this episode, I dive into why hoarders are so fixated on stuff. Joining me is Dr Jan Eppingstall, who looks into the theory of transitional objects developed by Winnicott and how they shape our attachment styles. We explore how these objects serve as a source of comfort and self-soothing, representing our primary caregiver. Jan discusses how uncertainty can lead to people-pleasing and masking of emotions. We also learn about the impact of insecure attachment on hoarding behaviours and the role of belongings in forging connections and fulfilling our emotional needs. We also discuss the complex interaction between genetics and environment in hoarding tendencies. Tune in for a deep dive into the psychological factors behind our attachment to our possessions.

Transitional object theory by Winnicott
The role of transitional objects in comforting children, representing the primary caregiver
How transitional objects help children become independent and manage separation anxiety
Uncertainty and people-pleasing behaviours
Excessive attachment to belongings stemming from childhood experiences
Attachment styles and secure and insecure attachment
Using possessions to gain power, impress others, make connections
Attachment theory and its impact on hoarding behaviours
The use of possessions to forge connections
Possessions as non-confrontational and not disappointing compared to people
Attachment insecurity linked to negative thoughts about self-worth, shame, and unstable identity
Growing up in a hoard leading to disorganised attachment and attachment trauma
Understanding why people attach meaning to possessions
Possessions reflecting aspects of personality, intelligence, or past achievements
Ambivalent sense of self in hoarding and its relation to identity struggles
Common themes for hoarding: avoiding negative emotions, holding onto past happiness, validating past pain
Factors contributing to hoarding: instinctual nature of stockpiling and inability to avoid engaging with possessions
Coping mechanisms, their classifications as acceptable or unacceptable, and the tipping point to excessive behaviours
John Bowlby's attachment theory and its focus on distress and anxiety in babies when separated from primary caregiver
Influence of early separation on psychological well-being, based on experimental studies during the Blitz
The role of transitional object attachment
Mary Ainsworth's extension of Bowlby's research through the Strange Situation experiments
Identification of secure attachment and three types of insecure attachment: anxious, avoidant, and disorganised
Hoarding tendencies being more common among first degree relatives
Chromosome regions associated with hoarding, but no clear susceptibility genes identified
Limited support for a genetic predisposition to hoarding
Disproven hypotheses about hoarding and scarcity or deprivation
The interaction between nature (genetics) and nurture (environment)

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Topics covered:

The power and potential of curiosity in hoarding
The benefits of changing beliefs and embracing new perspectives
Admitting mistakes and apologising as a less stressful alternative
The importance of admitting when you don’t know something
Using curiosity to understand why tasks or environments seem impossible
How therapy can increase curiosity and explore hoarding thoughts and patterns
Accepting uncertainty and unanswered questions
Being open to new experiences
The positive impact of curiosity on mental health and personal growth
Seeking out new information, different perspectives, and asking questions
Examples of curiosity, such as exploring fears or understanding others' experiences
Embracing creativity as a way to foster curiosity
Engaging with people from different backgrounds and life stories
Encouraging open communication, learning, and challenging assumptions
The importance of trying new things multiple times before forming an opinion
Deepening connections through a curious outlook
Strategies to encourage curiosity, like treating tasks as experiments
Framing dehoarding tasks as an experiment
The effectiveness of the curious and experimental mindset in dehoarding
Thinking outside the box for a more creative and innovative outlook
Acceptance of different people and ideas through curiosity
Adding depth to life through trying new things and learning
Being present and engaged through attention to details
Learning from mistakes and cultivating personal growth through curiosity
Feeling safe to make mistakes and explore for curiosity to thrive
The numerous benefits of developing a curious outlook
Opening up communication and expanding one's world through exploration
The ripple effect of bravery and curiosity on other aspects of life

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"Don't fall into the temptation of having a box for any old miscellaneous thing that doesn't have an obvious home, because I think that leads to the same problem you've already got, just in boxes instead of spread around the house or instead of on the floor or instead of where things currently are."

Dealing with miscellaneous items without an obvious home or purpose
Host's personal success and weird dilemma
Listener secret
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There are a lot of myths and misconceptions about hoarding and hoarding disorder and hoarders and how much people misunderstand this weird condition.

And so I started jotting down some of them as I thought of them and I also asked on various different social channels what myths and misconceptions you heard a lot and which ones annoyed you the most and wow, you feel as strongly as I do about there being a lot of them around.

So I have narrowed it down to 15 and I'm going to talk you through them and how they manifest and why they are wrong.

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"Shame is called a pro-social emotion insofar as it's pro-social because it facilitates us having harmonious social relationships.

"The problem is that sometimes the norms and standards of our group can be unjust or unfair.

"And so you might start to feel shame when there's no reason for you to feel shame." - Professor Luna Dolezal

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The Sunk Cost Fallacy is a cognitive bias that sees us continuing a behaviour despite evidence that it's not effective because we have previously invested significant resources, time, money and / or effort. And if we step away from our investment, it will become a loss. For hoarders, we see this manifest as ' I've kept it this long, I'd better keep hold of it. Or I paid so much for it, I’d better keep it.'

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"they very much do in their mind feel like they're saving the animal. And many times they are the person who truly did save that animal that they found on a highway. That they took an animal from a place that was objectively unsafe for the animal and brought them into their home. And I think where the disconnect happens is the person's insight into whether or not their home is the right home for that animal." - Dr Mary Dozier

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Just because something looks free doesn't mean it is. Because it's not all about the money you hand over for something.

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"You are in a state of panic. They're in a state of panic. They need their stuff. You need it gone. And if you don't know that equation, then all sorts of things go wrong. But if you do know it, you can make it work for everybody concerned."

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Small-ish but significant things you can achieve and give yourself a huge pat on the back by Monday morning. And if for you weekend means something different, then maybe these are tasks you can do on a Tuesday. None of it is set in stone.

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Saving the world one object at a time will not save you. Your experiences have shaped how you perceive the world and those in it. You can't rescue everything.

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We think we deserve it, first of all. Of course I call myself useless because I'm clearly useless. And we also think it will motivate us. We think we can't give ourselves an easy time because if we just keep giving ourselves a hard time, it will push us to do the thing we have been trying and failing to do, or the thing that we've not even tried to do, but we feel we should do.

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Build better systems as well as better lifeboats. This is not inevitable. This is not our destiny.

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14 hoarders from history, including a US president, numerous artists, film director, fashion designer. It's really interesting to look back at how this isn't exclusively a modern malady.

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"What do I want, the space or the stuff? What's more important to me, the progress or the barrier?" - Declutter Hub's Lesley Spellman asks the important questions.
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" We are built for seeking out that order and putting evidence together that fits with our beliefs; without it, not much would have been achieved by humans. It's like we build our understanding of the world through a collection of knowledge blocks. And it's the way we make sense of our surroundings."

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Find out the unlikely story of how novelist Victor Hugo learned to delay gratification in order to write The Hunchback of Notre Dame.

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"If you're going, I wish this was different. I understand why laundry is important. I would really like to be wearing clean clothes. I would really like to be able to walk in my closet and know where my things are and not feel overwhelmed.

"Like, congratulations, you're motivated."

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"Sometimes plans work for a bit and then they stop suiting us or they stop suiting the circumstances.

Sometimes they were never quite right in the first place. And if you get stubborn and dig your heels in because you said you'd do it this way even when that's not working, all that does is disadvantage you and the progress you could be making if you weren't setting yourself up to fail"

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This week, I am going to talk about four teeny tiny things that are making a bigger difference to my dehoarding efforts than, in all fairness, they should.

They are punching above their weight, as ideas go.

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"We need to be the one to break the cycle before the thing you've inherited passes down to the next generation. You might think that your inheritance is cash or a house, but it could actually just be trauma. So be the one to break the cycle." - Dr Jan Eppingstall

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"Really early on, I was like, this isn't about the stuff. This just isn't about the stuff." - Tracy McCubbin, professional organiser and child of a hoarder.

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The portrayal of hoarders is really damaging. It contributes to stigma. It's very othering, people talk about like we’re some separate species to look at in a zoo. And I think dramatising what is a mental illness i s... well, it's unhelpful, but I think it goes beyond unhelpful, into actively destructive.

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Each step in each of those cycles just perpetuates the other steps. And so we spiral downwards, because we feel we can't get out of the cycle.

And the thing with vicious cycles, by definition is that you're setting yourself up to fail.

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"We're wired to connect, we need others to co-regulate our emotions and in order to feel a sense of belonging, we'll do anything to achieve this."

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"The work is how do you get out of defensiveness and into generosity?" - Couples therapist Laura Silverstein, on couples and hoarding.

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"Big and bold can be quite performative. But it's not necessarily that useful. It might look good briefly. But you don't often get the long-term change you're looking for. "

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So I haven't missed an episode of this podcast since October 2021 including publishing on Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve last year. Every week, brand new content.

And I think I deserve a couple of weeks off. But fear not! For two weeks, I am republishing some previous episodes that I know you valued before.

I am a big believer in re-listening to things you've already heard, because you can pick up all kinds of new things that you missed the first time around.

Also, I know that some podcasts stopped releasing content altogether over the break. But not everybody celebrates Christmas and New Year, not everybody is part of a culture that values those traditions. And also not everybody enjoys this time of year (including me, that's a secret).

So, for you, enjoy! For the full transcript, click here.

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So I haven't missed an episode of this podcast since October 2021 including publishing on Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve last year. Every week, brand new content.

And I think I deserve a couple of weeks off. But fear not! For two weeks, I am republishing some previous episodes that I know you valued before.

I am a big believer in re-listening to things you've already heard, because you can pick up all kinds of new things that you missed the first time around.

Also, I know that some podcasts stopped releasing content altogether over the break. But not everybody celebrates Christmas and New Year, not everybody is part of a culture that values those traditions. And also not everybody enjoys this time of year (including me, that's a secret).

So, for you, enjoy!

For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/
Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling
Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions
Twitter: @ThatHoarder
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"If we want to make more progress, I think the best way of doing that is to look not just at what we achieved and didn't achieve, but what worked and what didn't. Because then we can do more of what worked and less of what didn't work."

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Where to start when dehoarding your home? I'm asked it a lot and it's a huge question, and not one with a simple answer. In this episode, I take you through both the physical and psychological places to start with addressing your hoard.

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The research into resilience in the sphere of positive psychology does indicate that we can practice and develop our resilience. And that starts with awareness, then acceptance of where we are right now and a plan to build on our strengths and weaknesses.

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Whenever anything goes wrong, whether it's something terrible I've done, all the way to just being in a traffic jam, I find a way to yell at myself in my own head about what a terrible person I am and how awful I am and why everything in the world that's bad is my fault.

It's a really exhausting way to live and yet it is pretty constant in my head.

And I know when I hear from you that it's not just me, we all I think give ourselves a really hard time, we are our own worst critic.

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"One extreme is that a hoarder can shop compulsively, spend a lot of money, get into debt because of buying so many things and get into real financial trouble because of the hoarding.

"But the other extreme is people who hoard money. And I'm not talking particularly about the billionaires, although obviously they hoard money. That's not really what I'm talking about. I'm talking about everyday people who you hear about it don't you? Somebody dies and then it turns out, they had millions of pounds in the bank. And often they lived a really frugal life.

"They wanted to save money the whole time. And yet, unbeknownst to everybody, they had a lot of money in the bank, often refusing to spend even when they really really needed to."

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Everything in a hoarded home is so much more difficult.

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"ACT promotes accepting what is outside of your personal control, and committing to action that improves and enriches your life. That's kind of in a nutshell. But to understand ACT, and how it works, there is a need to touch on the theory that underpins it."

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" There's something within us that feels like it's a solution, even if it's, in reality, a massively maladaptive one that has destructive consequences."

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"If you want to be the kind of person who goes running every day, you have to start running. If you want to be the kind of person who cooks from scratch every day, you have to learn to cook. If you want to be the kind of person who reads a lot of books, you have to start reading books. And if you want to live in a dehoarded home, you need to dehoard your home."

For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/
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Bereavement or loss can act as one of the types of trauma that could spark or intensify hoarding disorder. And there's a phenomenon called Grief Hoarding, where somebody dies and a loved one takes in all of their stuff.

For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/
Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions
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Why do I find those empty spaces so anxiety provoking? And why do I find them so devoid of personality? And so why do I associate stuff with soul and personality?

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"So think of embracing imperfect solutions as a counter to perfectionism."

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"So you'd be wanting to think about which emotion it’s soothing, and helping people put in place other strategies. Because if you're going to take away one behaviour, which would be the hoarding, you have to, if that's meeting a need, you need to be replacing that with something so you're not leaving people without useful tools."

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"So today I am going to talk about DOOM. And I'm going to talk about OHIO. And I'm going to talk about how DOOM and OHIO relate to hoarding, as well as executive dysfunction, and some other stuff."

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"We don't do things for no reason. So what is the need? If we recognise that we're doing this behaviour, what's the need that that self-sabotage fulfils?"

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Lazy people don't lie awake at night thinking about whether they're a terrible person because they threw away a scribbled shopping list from 2014.

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"We all have the same thoughts, there are other moms out there who had all the same types of thoughts that I had. But where people with OCD go a little bit different is that they tend to think that those thoughts are significant somehow. They interpret those thoughts as being significant."

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"So that lack of control over each and every decision was both terrifying and liberating at the same time. I liked somebody taking that out of my hands. And I hated somebody taking that out of my hands."

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"I know that people feel sick with regret when they go out on a binge and come back, they've had that almost dissociative episode where they rushed off to the shops and bought all this stuff and come home and see it all together and have this overwhelming feeling of regret."

"Or when are the Amazon boxes arrive and you're just like, 'Oh, what have I done?'"

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" Why do we endow extra value on things we own compared to things we don't own?"

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"It might be that your landlord is doing an inspection, it might be that you've had a leak and it's going through to the flat below so you need to let somebody in to fix it. It might be that your electricity has blown.

"But for some reason, that has become unavoidable, you have to let somebody in and you are panicking."

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"Dehoarding is hard. But it's a means to an end and it can get you somewhere good. Not dehoarding… sure, you're not having the stress of dehoarding, but you're having the immense stress of living knowing that if there's a fire, firefighters might not be able to get to you. That's also hard."

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"We seek out behaviours that release the largest dopamine hit we can, we feel so good, we do it again. And soon it becomes a habit."

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"The idea of avoiding distress might initially sound positive or helpful, so that reinforces that suppressing it or avoiding it is a helpful skill when it really, really isn't."

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" It's about how I hated them, I resisted them, I was scared of them. And how I tentatively, tentatively, slowly, slowly started to successfully incorporate some into my life."

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"You will probably, if not certainly, find things you knew you owned, but thought were long lost. There are things that I know I have but I couldn't tell you what room they were in, never mind what part of the room or what drawer or what cupboard or what pile, let's face it. Things that I really want to find and that, as yet, I haven't."

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"The goal is to wire in these habits, so they happen on autopilot every time when prompted. And how do we do that? We work in a specific way."

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"So I think the biggest change I see in myself is that I just approach things a bit differently. I am not as defeatist. I don't just say I can't, or it's too much, or I don't know how."

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But the thing is the more you do something, the better you get at it. And the more you do something, the easier it gets.

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I think we often look at an item and get completely stuck and having a series of questions that we can just methodically go through can be a really helpful thing. I think when we get too in our own heads about it, we get caught up in maybe the nostalgia of an item, or maybe the potential uses of an item.

We lose the ability to be objective. And having a series of questions can just help us get back into that zone of being a bit more objective and, dare I say it, a bit more reasonable about what we keep and what we get rid of.

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"So if we're highly motivated, we can do hard things. If we've got zero motivation, the thing needs to be very easy to do."

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We see so much potential in things that others do not. We see so much potential in things that others do not. Most people see an empty crisp packet that should go in the bin, a hoarder will see something they can melt down and sew into a shopping bag. So you're not throwing away trash, you're throwing away a potential creative project that would be good for the environment, and look super cool and unique.

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"The real world is messy, people are messy, they don't come with like nice little squares and nice labels. The world doesn't work that way. But the way we make sense of the world works that way."

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"You don't dare ever throw anything out or sort anything out or give anything away in case it turns out to be a mistake. That fear takes over everything in a way that is just not proportionate to the consequences."

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"This is really important for everyone, and I bang on about it all the time with my kids. And my clients. If you don't write the task down in a list, those tasks lurk at the edge of the four or so slots of your working memory - I'm sounding very teacherish now - so this is valuable mental real estate. And it impacts your ability to do other focused work. So you always have these random to dos floating around as you're attempting to pay attention to your project that you're currently working on. If it's on a list, it's out of working memory."

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"You put your stuff in bags, you drop it off with a warm fuzzy feeling inside, because they are going to earn some money because of you. So your excess clothes are going to help fund cancer research or arthritis research, or a children's hospice. And you can feel great about that. And you can also feel reassured that those clothes are going to someone else who really wants them. And so it's not wasteful."

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"This paradox of such high standards leading to such low standards is a real one. And it's something we each need to examine for ourselves and come to our own conclusions."

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"So if you tackle a smaller task, your sense of achievement will power you on to the next task. And your enthusiasm for the project is likely to last longer."

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"If you give it to your brother, and he puts it in the bin, then it's in the bin. If you give it to an animal shelter and they put it in the bin, then it's in the bin. If you give it to Oxfam, and they put it in the bin, then it's in the bin.

"So the key is to put it in the bin yourself and not force other people to be part of this dysfunctional chain. Because you're creating work and costing people money."

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Most hoarders need some degree of professional help if they're going to get through this problem. But the number of therapies available is overwhelming and bewildering. So today, we're going to talk about some of the types of therapy on offer for hoarding disorder.

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If you can work out exactly what's tripping you up, exactly what is making you need to get distracted, that's immensely helpful. Because if you can address those worries in yourself, you may find that you're just more capable of staying on the task at hand when you don't have whatever fear or worry it is hanging around

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Your home does not exist to hold on to the ghosts of everybody you've ever met, or every dream you've ever had, or every purchase you ever made.

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"If we are to continuously dehoard and if, should we achieve a normal home, we want to maintain it, then we need to have habits rather than just one-off actions. And creating habits is something that I think about a lot. And I've tried lots of things, and some of them have worked, and a lot haven't."

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"I think that the differences in presentation and behaviour has to do with what is at the heart of perfectionism, which is fear of failure"

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"The benefit of these systems or processes is it removes one barrier. And that barrier is having to make decisions, and making decisions is tiring and it's difficult and it ties me up in knots."

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"I thought, Gosh, this is easy. I wonder if this is how people who aren't hoarders just go about cleaning and tidying, they just see something that needs doing and do it"

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You will find that you say “okay, I might be anxious at the prospect of running out of carrier bags. But now I'm putting every carrier bag I find in the same place, I realise I'm seriously not going to run out of carrier bags for at least six years.”

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The important thing to remember about it, I tell my clients this, is it's not a defect. It's not something that is wrong with you. You are not lazy. You are not unable to change. It is a survival state that in your life experience was what you used in order to survive the environment, whatever it might be that has occurred in your life, and it's become the default.

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We have to be honest, even if it's just with ourselves, that the way we're living is damaging us

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" I have never been able to say to a mental health professional or to anybody. I am a hoarder, I need some help. Because of the shame."

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" I can't throw away these scissors. What if I need them? I can't throw away this notebook. What if I need it? I can't throw away this out-of-date food, what if I need it?"

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Who do you know who is still going to the gym today, or walking 10,000 steps a day today who vowed to do those on January 1st this year? Who do you know who went on a diet on January 1st this year, and is still on that same diet today?

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"People don't give you gifts to burden you. And if keeping hold of something will burden you, then that's the opposite of the point of a gift.

"It's not disrespectful to get something and to quietly think, “Somebody else could get better use out of this than me” and pass it on to that person. There's nothing wrong with that. "

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A big issue for Christmas for hoarders is gifts: both giving and receiving gifts can be fraught.

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So I want to talk today about a revelation I had.

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"Even if I was the most skilled expert on compulsive hoarding, I probably wouldn't be the appropriate person to be intervening with my mother because of the intimacy and all the emotional baggage between us. So yeah, it's just really complicated."

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"If you break it down, and you're still overwhelmed, break it down further. If you're still overwhelmed then, break it down further."

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"People say, ‘No, you shouldn't do these things. Because you're just transferring physical clutter into digital clutter. And it's just as disorganised and it takes up a different kind of space and your phone will run out of room and you'll regret it’"

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" I don't know why I get such an urge to get stuff in the first place. I mean, is it just living under capitalism? Am I just a victim of every advert I see and every idea I have that I feel I need to turn into a possession of some kind?"

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This may sound like a weird reason to dehoard my home, but it's not as morbid as it sounds.

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What I want to focus on today is: ‘well I can't throw this away, because it would be a waste of money. I spent a lot of money on that pair of jeans, or that shelving unit, or that bedding and throwing it away now would waste that money’.

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I need to stop this statistic - that may or may not be made up - from being a barrier that stops me from making my home livable in. And so that is my goal for the time being, I need to get that number out of my head and stop using it as a reason to not make progress.

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And I was so scared. I was so scared because this person was going to come in and see how I live

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I'm also full of panic about the absolute horror and shame I will feel when they are in here. My initial reaction to that the appointment was panic, panic, panic, and then I just froze.

I was paralysed for days, I knew what needed to be done, I didn't know how to do it.

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My podcast planning has gone out of the window today, because I am in a panic. A full-on panic, my worst nightmare - one of my worst nightmares - is happening

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If you're listening, and you're struggling with hoarding and you haven't got rid of 75% of your stuff already, then listen to me: “Don't get the pretty basket, don't get the shelving unit, and don't get the pretty bags. Not just yet, anyway. Hold out, as it is just more clutter”.

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Thinking of compulsive hoarders, thinking of people whose homes are in quite a mess, then just saying, “I'm going to work on the bedroom” is just too big. It's too overwhelming. It's too difficult to do.

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I can't tell you how dejected I feel right now. Because sorting out a few boxes in one room is one thing. It's better than not sorting out a few boxes in one room.

But that's one room of several. And that's a few boxes out of a gazillion boxes.

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Programmes about hoarders exist so that viewers can look into the home of somebody who's struggling and laugh at them. And that's not okay.

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I was sceptical because the initial CBT sessions had been relatively useless. But equally, I had no other options. There aren't exactly hoarding treatments readily available. So I agreed to be referred on for this more in-depth therapy.

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So, I hate the word hoarding. I hate the word hoarder. I resist saying them unless I absolutely have to. And this podcast and the website are kind of forcing me into getting used to those words, and I suspect that's a good thing. But they are difficult words.

It's a very, very stigmatised thing.

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So I guess the place to start really is how I got to where I'm at now. Where I'm at now is that I live in a hoarded house, surrounded by crap that I have a lot of mental blocks around getting rid of.

I'm sick of how I live. But fixing it is so overwhelming that I don't know what to do.

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