The root cause of all of your problems is a lack of self-validation. Let me explain…

This isn’t some self-love, woo-woo kind of thing.

I want you to think about every one of your maladaptive behaviors:

  • People-pleasing - needing other people to be happy with you so that you can feel good about yourself
  • Perfectionism- needing everything to be perfect so that you can believe you’re good enough
  • High-achiever- needing to keep achieving milestones to feel like you’re worthy
  • Obsessing over what other people think of you - needing other people’s approval so you can believe you’re good.
  • Imposter syndrome- insisting on believing you’re not good enough when all of your achievements prove otherwise
  • And on and on.

Every. Single. One comes from your inability to validate yourself.