Insecurity In Relationships - How To Create 'Relationship Confidence'

With 'insecurity' being your uncertainty and lack of confidence about something, your insecurity in your relationship is your uncertainty and lack of confidence about its existence.

In other words, you're uncertain about whether it merits its existence.

Merit, remember, is deserving.

For a relationship to 'merit' its existence, all parties involved must feel the relationship deserves its existence.

JUST LIKE when you want something which you don't feel you deserve, you suffer persistently with the fear of losing it to someone who DOES deserve it, it's the same with a relationship.

In the video I mentioned people don't 'work' at friendships since they PRESUME the friendship simply exists because it merits its existence — every one involved in the friendship enjoys each other, otherwise they wouldn't be there since they're not obligated to be.

IT ONLY exists out of merit.

Relationships, most people imagine, is different. They PRESUME it requires work since it cannot merit its existence otherwise!

Now THAT is insane.

So in my relationships, I do ZERO WORK. The 'effort' I put into the communication isn't work, and doesn't feel like work, since it's something I enjoy with someone I enjoy.

To have security in your relationship REQUIRES your enhancing yourself in all those areas so people LOVE being around you!