No one can be perfect - we are all human - and yet many of us hold ourselves to unrealistic standards.  We might think that we should be able to do better, that we shouldn't feel the way we do or that we should be ashamed of ourselves for how we are struggling.  Do you notice all the "shoulds"?  In the words of Albert Ellis, you are "shoulding" all over yourself.   The concept of self-compassion, as discussed by Dr. Kristen Neff, uses the three principles of mindfulness, kindness and common humanity to help us approach our own pain and suffering in a way that is compassionate, and life-changing.  If you would like to learn more about self-compassion, I would invite you to check out Dr. Neff's website at https://self-compassion.org.