Be a Man: Recent Episodes
Jack Garrity
Do you ever wonder what it means to be a man? Do you have questions about dating, communication, gender roles, body image, social stigmas, sexual performance, anger, or body hair? Do you ever wonder why it's hard for you to cry or why you cry too much? Do you have lightish to darkish hair, and are you between 2 feet and 8 feet tall? Then this podcast is for you!
Join Jack as he dives into all things about men and mental health and gender and identity. He talks to friends and super smart people to figure out what it all means.
E-mail the podcast to engage with Jack and ask questions, offer scathing rebukes, or offer suggestions for discussion topics: beamanpod@gmail.com
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Jack talks to has dad about their shared loves of sports. They swap stories of their favorite sports memories and the beauty of the ball game. They try to decipher why Boston fans are so crazy.
Jack doesn't know what the H he's doing and he needs help. He asks for feedback from YOU! and breaks some big news about his future and the future of the podcast. Why do men struggle to ask for help? HELP US UNDERSTAND!
Jack talks about LeBron James making a good point. Also, Joe Rogan is an average dumb guy.
On this episode of D-BUNK'D, Jack and Fran (Porn, Sexting, etc.) swap some tired old myths men and women hear about each other. What's false - what's reality? Do alpha males exist? Are women more sexually promiscuous?
Jack talks about how social media blurs the lines between what matters and what doesn't and expresses his concerns over Kanye's abuse of his influence. Old friend Kyrie Irving makes a guest appearance, GO VOTE and GO.....uhhh, oh yeah VOTE.
Jack and James (Comedy and Woodworking with James DeMenna) talk about sleep and anger and the war on drugs. This episode is sponsored by Spindrift - Blood Orange Tangerine.
Jack talks with buddy Christian (Boyz in da Therapist's Office, etc.) about John Wall's piece in the Players' Tribune. They discuss his harrowing story from the last 4-5 years and the challenges of asking for help.
Jack consults a LinkedIn article to help describe many terms surrounding gender and sex. Turns out LinkedIn is more than just the world's largest platform for connecting professionals to other professionals. It happens to be a platform where humans can connect as...humans. Wow. (Slow clap)
Jack talks to his friend John about their desire to be fashion icons. They discuss stereotypes, self-judgment, thrift stores, cullots and hair metal.
Jack talks with his sister, Kate (Online Dating 1&2), about the recent overturning of Roe v Wade. They discuss who this impacts the most, how it impacts all of us in different ways, and why men need to get involved in advocating for reproductive rights. It's a really lighthearted, hilarious episode.
Jack is back! He recounts his travels since New Orleans, talking about places so beautiful he doesn't believe them, homelessness in America, and the lack of glamour of #vanlife.
Jack talks with Christian in their hostel room in New Orleans to recount their adventure from swamp to swamp. Biblical insect swarms, jurassic bird calls, and campsite lovin' is all featured in this beaut by the Bayou.
Jack gets y'all up to date on his first week of travel through the country, and he discusses prejudices, expectations, failures, and successes so far!
Jack celebrates one year of Be a Man ALONE. LIKE A SAD LITTLE MAN. It's cool, though, he might have COVID, but he probably doesn't. Being alone is for the best this time around. He reflects on a big first year and does some other shit.
Jack reflects on how his understanding of being a man has changed since he was a kid. He discusses how the podcast has changed his thinking and how he hopes to push the envelope moving forward! It's almost been 1 year!
Jack talks to comedian Allie Lawrence about internet craziness, comedy, ghosting, dating, and the patriarchy in this wild ride of a conversation! Choo choo! All aboard the fun bus! Train, I mean.
Find Allie on instagram: @allielolrence
Jack talks to friend of the pawd and sextpert, Fran, about how to craft some HOT, CONSENTING sexts so we can all have fun and connect with our partners on that NEXT LEVEL. They lay out a methodology for tickling the keys in a way that is sure to please, and they get into the nitty gritty of how to take good sexy pics.
Jack talks about the needs we can't sacrifice in a relationship along with the wants we might be able to negotiate. It's almost the 1 year anniversary of Be a Man! He hands out his first Man of the Month Award for February.
Jack discusses white woke-ness and the importance of context and nuance in our discussions on race and gender. He will be holding a press conference live on NBC Tuesday night at 7 PM to apologize for all his opinions shared in this episode.
Jack sits down with his friend, Max, and listens to the tale of Max saving his grandma from Mexico in time for Christmas.
Jack talks to comedian, actor, and writer, Kylie Vincent, about her experiences on stage sharing jokes and deeply personal stories. She describes interactions with audience members, evolution of her writing, and making art with deeper purpose.
Jack talks with friend of the show and brother of his family, Aidan, about hit TV show "The Office". Aidan had recently shared an opinion about the show which Jack took umbrage with which also happens to be similar to an opinion shared by someone else in Jack's life which he also took umbrage with at the time. You follow? In fact, such umbrage was taken that he recorded episodes "Complaint of the Week #1" and "Fran Reacts to Complaint of the Week #1" about said umbrageness and now continues to dig deeper here in a conversation with his brother.
Jack talks about a newly developing Kyrie Irving situation, simplifying happiness, and flowing like water. We can often find ourselves fighting forces infinitely greater than ourselves so how can we become a drop of water in the ocean and work with these forces to find our way?
Jack talks about his idea of the Pillars of Happiness and what they can teach us in our tough moments. He talks about some things that have helped him get out of difficult places in his life and he visualizes happiness and depression.
Jack sits down with comedian James DeMenna to talk about the strange amount of similar parts of their lives they share. They love comedy and woodworking for starters, they grew up 20 minutes from each other and -- What's that you say? They also have mustaches??
Jack talks with Lira about believing in the things you make. They discuss the faith necessary to follow through with anything creative and they wonder about what freedom means to them.
Jack talks to Christian about their experiences in therapy. They describe their misconceptions of it before getting involved, what they get out of it, and why it's aight. Therapy is cool, don't be a fool. Sit back with your cocktail and romantic novel and enjoy the episode.
Jack is told he might have had a heart attack at the doctor's office and he talks about the good reasons we have to avoid painful feelings.
What part of the pandemic are we currently in? Jack talks about feeling restless and his struggle to accept life these days as normal. He discusses hating strangers and mannequins, alike.
Jack discusses his exploration into finding the origins of the voice in his head. In reading "The Artist's Way", he has started to make some connections between his childhood and the way he talks to himself. How do you talk to yourself? Whose voice is that?
Jack talks with his old friend, Luke, about their recent decisions to remove alcohol from their lives. How the hell could they do such a thing? What is wrong with them? How can they be fixed? Why do they have to be such a bummer? Listen along as they answer these questions!
Jack talks to old friend of the show, Fran, about the culture of porn and its impact on us socially and sexually. They discuss everything from the industry itself to sex education to John Fogerty's son.
Jack tells a few NYC stories and tries to capture the essence of what makes a real New Yorker. Are New Yorkers as icy cold and hard shelled as people say, or are they really just a thin shell of sugar coating a creamy, gooey center?
Jack talks about his challenges in processing anger and sadness. His old, bitchy friend, Anxiety, has come back to town and he tries to figure out their new tricks. How are all these feelings tied together? He discusses angry cyclists, getting closure in relationships, and Abe Lincoln's horse.
Jack talks to his ex-girlfriend, Zaïna, about how they met, what they enjoyed together and the challenges they endured keeping their relationship together while apart during the pandemic for 12 months.
Jack talks with his old friend, Aaron, just two weeks before his first kid is due to be born! They talk about their relationships with their parents and the things to look forward to and be nervous about with having a child. Favorite lullabies are remembered and the mystical doula is discovered.
Jack says hey before taking August off. He recounts some interesting open mic sets he's done and tells some really funny little tid bits you'll have to hear to believe.
Jack sits down with his friend, Sylvie, to talk about their friendship and the dynamics of being friends as men and women. They discuss jealousy, being tender, and take a Friends Quiz to see how truly compatible they are.
Jack talks to Fran about their experiences with social anxiety. They describe what anxiety feels like and the strange ways it shows itself.
Jack takes a deep dive into explaining there is no episode this week but he is planning some changes to the episode release schedule! Tune in for the juicy deets!
Jack talks with his friend, Christian, about their instincts to look a certain way, and how their self esteem has evolved over the years. They gas each other up and talk about Dragon Ball Z, workout obsessions, unrealistic expectations, and the best ways to feel good about yourself.
Jack discusses a recent trip to Planned Parenthood to have a bump checked out. Other things are discussed, as well.
Jack reads a piece of writing he made with a new technique he's working on, in which he narrates his stream of consciousness. He also describes a Keith Haring exhibit he visited and how it's inspired him to continue working on letting go of self imposed rules.
Jack discusses the recent comments made by Kyrie Irving, of the Brooklyn Nets, about racism in Boston. He explores some history of how black athletes have been treated in his hometown and tries to understand how he adopted his prejudices.
Jack sits down with Seth (from the "Why Is It So Hard to Say What You Mean?" episode) to discuss the role their penises - their dongs - their hogs play in their lives. They talk about the emotional sensitivity of that part of the body, dispel myths, and consider why we place so much importance on the little champ in our pants.
Seth is an actor and musician in NYC. See Seth in Season 5, Episode 1 of Gotham and find Seth's music at @sethclaytonmusic on Instagram!
Jack discusses his relationship with fear and how it's changed since reading Steven Pressfield's book, "The War of Art". Are our fears our wishes, or are they a sign to stop and run away?
Jack talks with his mom for a special Mother's Day episode and asks her if raising boys is any different from raising girls, what the challenges of motherhood are, and how climbing trees can help determine someone's bra size. Huh?
Fran (from the Fran Reacts to Complaint #1 episode) stops by to dig deeper into the details and culture of ghosting. She and Jack discuss the spectrum of ghosting, the benefits and detractions of leaving someone in the dust, and the weird world of "orbiting".
Jack talks with his general practitioner dad about the two most common STIs in America: Herpes and HPV. How much do we really know about these heavily stigmatized viruses? What can we do to prevent their transmission? How can we live with them if we've contracted them? Prepare for all your questions to be answered by DR. DAD GARRITY!
Sit back, relax, and enjoy this delightful tale of Jack's recent experience with depression masked by a coffee addiction! This story has everything: substance abuse, mental illness, puking in trash cans, pugnacious fish, and benzodiazepines. Need I say more?
The conversation continues! Part two of Jack's conversation with his sister, Kate, reveals the worst dates of their lives along with the secrets of crafting a great dating application profile.
Jack answers 23 questions women have for men from a Buzzfeed article. He describes buying condoms for the first time, the spectrum of sexuality, and settles once and for all the debate on the existence of blue balls.
Jack talks with his sister, Kate, about her experiences with online dating. She sheds light on the apps that get the best dates, weird profiles, and bad dates!
Ghosting is when someone abandons communication with someone without explanation. The term can be kind of confusing because a ghost's presence is felt, either physically, visually, or auditorily, whereas when someone is "ghosted", the ghoster's presence is entirely lacking and they are nowhere to be found. Just thinking this through as I type this out. Anyway, Jack has heard the effects of ghosting on many women he knows, so he offers a few thoughts on why this might be happening to people!
Jack tells of his confusing relationship with the hair on his body. He can't predict its next move and he describes his philosophy on dealing with it. In this episode, the word "scourge" is said twice with two different pronunciations. That was intentional, and everyone who writes in to tell Jack the proper way to say it will get a special surprise in next week's episode!
Jack remembers some of the terrible moments from his life that continue to haunt him to this day. But he might have an idea for a way to work through these painful memories.
Jack talks with his friend, Fran, about her thoughts on Complaint of the Week #1. They talk about how making offensive jokes can push us forward or hold us back, and Jack tells stories of being called out by teachers in school.
Jack talks with his friend, Seth Clayton, about expression and communication. Why is it difficult for some of us and is it really that important?
Jack whines about something annoying, I dunno. Jk, he whines about misguided sensitivity and the need to let each other fail in a horrible explosion of flames and discomfort.
Jack talks to his brother, Aidan, about the competition and unspoken love they shared growing up together.
Jack describes his personal evolution since moving to New York City in 2014, and how the Black Lives Matter and Me Too movements influenced his perspective.
Jack Garrity wants to know what it means to be a man. He was born a boy and grew into a man and he still doesn't know. Jack talks to people smarter than he is in order to get to the bottom of it.