Abusive relarionships: you arenot a victim, you just dont realize how strong you truly are. Giving your significant other the.benefit of the douvt, choosing to be patient, and ignoring the warning signs of abuse, chips away of your self confidence. It leads to self doubt, and poor me victim mentality. That is the abuse which steals your positive thinking, zapping you into a weak, and pessimistic person. If you do not heed to the red flags in the beginnings, and nip it in the bud, by holding to the greater version of yourself, then little by little you will chip away at your confidence, self esteem, and accept the story that you cant change.