Eulogies are meant to remember the person who died in a positive light, and offer an opportunity to speak about who the deceased was and the ways in which he or she made a difference in the lives of family, friends, and his or her community.

Delivering a eulogy is a deeply emotional experience, and though it can be a positive experience for some, it can be too difficult for others. This is a personal send off that I believe should be delivered by those who knew the deceased and spent time with him/her unlike people that hardly knew the person.

Society tends to judge when a spouse or child speaks at a funeral, this is taboo in African culture. I think we need to give an opportunity to the immediate family members that would like to pay tribute to do so without judging them.