In the Rising Episode 2 Show Notes
7 Ways Self-Love looks like in real life.
1. Be Aware of how you feel, and what you think.
2. Act on what you need vs what you want. Is what you are doing, or think or saying based on what you want, or what is really necessary?
3. Be sure to take care of what is considered a basic need, this includes sleep, interaction with other people, exercising, and eating properly.
4. Set boundaries. Don’t put up with people treating you as though you owe them something.
5. Protect yourself from people and from situations you know in your gut are unhealthy for you.
6. Forgive yourself for your past. Sometimes you did the best you could, sometimes you didn’t. You learned either way.
7. Live intentionally, and not just a subject to circumstances.
Resources:
The articles discussed are
Fowler, J. H., Christakis N. A. (2008). Dynamic spread of happiness in a large social network: longitudinal analysis over 20 years in the Framingham Heart Study. The British Medical Journal. 337:a2338 https://www.bmj.com/content/337/bmj.a2338
Information by Dr. Henry Cloud and John Townsend https://www.cloudtownsend.com/
Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D.’s article
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/get-hardy/201203/seven-step-prescription-self-love
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Transcript of Podcast
Welcome to In the Rising podcast. I'm your host, Bettina Brown. And this is the platform from which I talk to you about living a life without the captivity of guilt and regret, so that you can use yourself or to live in empowered, independent and free life. Let me start off by saying that I am not a licensed counselor, psychologist, psychiatrist. But I am a student of life in a health care professional who loves to research and talk about topics of living, our best self version and living our best life the way it's intended to be.
This is Episode two, and what we're talking about today is what does self-love look like? How often have we heard you have to love yourself more? You have to care about yourself more. Or if you would just put yourself first than blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. This wouldn't happen. That would happen. And these are many phrases of self-love and self-care that we see everywhere on Pinterest, instagram, Facebook. And I know this because I have pinned them like them, Save them, printed them off. But what exactly does that mean? And is getting a massage on a regular basis. What self-love should look like is ensuring that your shoes match your pants. Match your accessories. Is that self-love? But it doesn't seem like that, really, is that either? So what does self love look like to you? And I wasn't quite sure, so I looked it up.
I go with my research, and I found a really interesting article by psychologist Deborah Khoshaba, and I hope I'm not messing that up. But I have ah linked to her side in the description below. And she has seven concepts, seven actions of what self love is. It's basically not a noun. It's a verb. These&