One of the most harmful words commonly used is SHOULD...

As soon as we put the word should onto our self, another or a circumstance we are asserting that it is not how we think or want it to be.

Commonly this results in a resistance with what is and a heightened level of stress.

All well and good if you wear you're stress as a medal of honor, being busy and stressed has become your sense of identity and talking about difficulties has become your way of getting contact with others. 

Not so beneficial if your stress levels are harming you and contributing to behaviors that harm others.

Explore your own shoulds and chew on how much you are imposing them on yourself others and the world....