How we do one thing is how we do everything and in  my experience the dirty truth of avoiding conflict is an inherent avoidance of everything that is deemed as too difficult or uncomfortable.

All well and good if you are happy to carry on in exactly the same way for the rest of your life
however if the desire is there for change  discomfort has to be faced and moved through.

"The wider apart your polarities the greater your neurosis. The more integrated your polarities the, the more collapsed your neurosis."