I hope that the first eight episodes gave you a better understanding of introverts and some of the underlying myths. There is no one size fits all for sure.
Will some people you meet have all the boxes checked for what you ‘think’ defines an introvert – sure. Will they all? Do I? Absolutely not.
I just want to skim over the last few things that come to mind and then we will move on to the next topic. Are you excited?
Typically this idea stems from the fact that they won’t look you in the eye. Maybe it is an insecurity, but I actually know a lot of people that don’t look others in the eyes. I know, it bugs me too, but that is beside the point. This is another one that doesn’t fit me. If I’m truly in a conversation with you, I will look you in the eye. If you’re lying to me, if the situation is uncomfortable, or if you are not genuine – nope, not happening. Has nothing to do with being insecure, I’m just ready to disconnect from you.
They want to be left alone, they don’t like going out, they avoid crowds, they’d rather stay home, they don’t get excited, and whatever other stereotypical idea you can plug in here. Self-reflection, looking within, and the ability to actually be alone and enjoy your own company are actually very empowering things. I’d worry more about your friend that cannot do anything by themselves and needs constant attention and approval from others.
This is the kicker y’all. Can you even imagine? Just change your personality. That’ll just solve all the problems that someone ‘thinks’ you have. I mean if someone had the desire to get out and meet more people they could totally do it, but that doesn’t change who they are or the fact that later they will want to take a nice hot bubble bath to unwind.
Again, all that’s based on the assumption that someone isn’t happy in the first place – and we now know that you’re probably totally wrong. Take a look in the mirror next time you’re judging or assuming something about someone (we will talk about this in a future episode).
People can certainly change behavior and habits – I mean that’s part of personal development as well. Even acknowledgement can be powerful – trust me, I know. Once I realized I was actually an introvert and understood what it meant – it was like everything made sense.
I always like to assume good(yep, this will be an episode too) and find the positive, so let’s look at a few of my favorites.
Introverts are:
So, if you have an introverted friend – hang on tight!
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