As attorneys, law-students, and advocates we are trained to solve problems. We are trained to spot problems and then do whatever we have to in order to resolve that problem for our clients. As a result, if we were not before, we become problem-solvers. More importantly, we become very closely connected to the identity of being a problem-solver. As a long-time problem-solver myself, I realized that over-identifying with this professional quality often did not leave room for me to experience problems myself. On the next episode of Attorney Heart I delve into how the problem-solver within us will often limit us from asking for support/help in various different scenarios and how this in turn can impact our well-being. The problem-solver within us sometimes makes us deny the fact that we have problems (and need support) because we solve others’ problems and as a result we should not have them ourselves. If we do ask for help, the belief goes, our reputation will be impacted, we will be stigmatized, and it is just better to suffer in silence. I hope this episode provides you with a different perspective on how you can turn this belief or mindset around to permit you to live a more professionally and personally fulfilling life.
New Attorney Heart interviews will be posted on iMATER NOW’s YouTube channel. Attorney Heart is brought to you by iMATER NOW. Stay connected with iMATER NOW and join its community on any of the following: Attorney Heart Facebook page Attorney Heart Website Attorney Heart on YouTube To connect with Fernando, the Founder of iMATER NOW and Attorney Heart, you can reach him on any of the following: Fernando Flores on LinkedIn Fernando Flores on Instagram Fernando Flores is an attorney and high performance coach based in the San Francisco Bay Area who founded iMATER NOW to help fellow attorneys live happier, healthier lifestyles. He also provides resources and information on the topic of attorney happiness and health through his Attorney Heart Podcast. Apart from being an attorney, Fernando is a High Performance Coach for Attorneys and Law Firms and a speaker at law schools. Prior to becoming a coach, Fernando spent 10 years as a trial and appellate attorney. Fernando graduated from UC Berkeley with Sociology and Rhetoric degrees and then studied at UC Davis Law School where he obtained his J.D.