The Problem with Mindset
Yes of course mindset matters and changing your mindset has the potential to change your life in exciting ways.
But you can’t just implant a positive mindset on top of all the negative thoughts and feelings.
Mindset is deep work and takes time.
Repeating positive affirmations that don’t feel true for you doesn’t work. What does work is acknowledging where you and starting from there.
Dropping into the body and noticing the physical sensations that come up for you around a mindset you wish to (or have been told to change) can be really helpful and easier than staying stuck in your head with the ‘shoulds’, ‘oughts’ and need for constant self-improvement.
Starting with the Zen premise that you are both perfect AND a work in progress, rather than something to be constantly improved, someone who is lacking and needs to work on themselves is far more empowering than trying to force a shallow mindset shift.
Ultimately mindset work is part of the coninutal journey of self-acceptance and the value we place on ourselves, our work and our impact on the world.
Be kind to yourself. Go at your own pace with playful curiousity. What comes up for you around the mindset shift is the really powerful stuff.
Mindset work is just another tool for helping you live the unexpectedly lovely life you long for. Don’t let it be another thing to beat yourself up with :)
And remember you are PERFECT AND A WORK IN PROGRESS.