Lockdown or no lockdown, it can often be tough to find a moment in the day that is just for you, or perhaps one that brings you joy. 

In this minisode, Alayna and Jessie discuss this concept they originally heard about in a Girls Night In newsletter, issue 204 to be exact. It read, "As to not spiral in a million different directions, my current plan is to focus on what is concrete right now, instead of dwelling on The Future. It works… sometimes.

So I’m calendaring things I can definitely plan for, and using these small bursts of excitement as ways to manage my expectations until the big bursts of joy can happen. To be clear, these are not huge events. At times, I’m manufacturing something to do for the sake of having something to look forward to. But these small milestones help me stop fixating on the large and out of reach ones. Some control among the chaos. It’s absolutely a coping mechanism, but one that at least has me reading good books and eating good desserts."

A quick reminder to laugh more, to make time for pancakes with your kiddo on a weekday, to have a bath and read a good book, or enjoy a cocktail with your partner. Penciling the time into your calendar in advance is a way to keep a promise to yourself, and add a nice joyful surprise into your life. 

Happy listening!