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K Chynn
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I was not even sure I was going to record this! But in this podcast, I am exploring why Ending a relationship can be a good thing. You get to start over and learn about yourself.
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I feel like there are seasons in life where you go through a storm. But I feel like when you are alone you can weather the storm because it does not matter it will only affect you.
During my growing phase I did not feel like a relationship would be helpful as not going to lie I was living on a prayer. You there comes a time where you live sort of hour by hour or minute by minute.
I am also a huge believer that you attract the person where you are in life.
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Knowledge is only power when it is organized. When it is not organized, it is dangerous and almost crippling in your life. I am sure you have met someone who is a Jack of all trades and a master of none, and when people listen to them, they seem shocked that they have poor results. I am going to tell you why.
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Have you ever just snapped? Has something so meaningless and pointless happened, and you just flew off the handle? Well, this is me at my worse after my favourite cup broke, and I think I lost my damn mind. But by the way somtimes you have to lose something to find it...I found my mind
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Releasing hostility is a vital step in achieving personal peace and fostering healthier relationships. Hostility, characterized by anger, resentment, and bitterness, can have detrimental effects on both mental and physical health. The process of releasing these negative emotions involves self-awareness, forgiveness, and positive coping strategies.
Firstly, recognizing and acknowledging one's feelings of hostility is crucial. Self-reflection can help identify the root causes of these emotions, whether they stem from past traumas, unmet needs, or ongoing conflicts. Understanding the source allows for a more targeted approach to addressing the underlying issues.
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This is not only my favourite Game but also, in general, life is a cycle. How do you play? And are you currently winning in the game or are you falling back? Life is a game, and if you play correctly, you can aspire to get everything you want.
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This episode is talking about being kind to yourself and speaking life into your life. How nice are you to yourself? Also, are some of the things happening to you now happening because of your state of mind? Negativity only breeds other negative events. If you do not respect yourself how can you respect others?
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After a meltdown...comes the Calm down...
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I am so excited to do this podcast called B L O O M which is a limited series. This podcast explores the metaphor of blooming in life and delves into themes of personal growth, resilience, and transformation.
It features some storytimes of overcoming challenges, embracing change, and finding beauty and strength in adversity.
There are important aspects of blooming, such as the importance of self-care, the role of mindset shifts, and the power of perseverance. Overall, this is a short, three-part reflective and uplifting journey for listeners seeking inspiration and insight into their own paths of growth and development.
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Let's talk about meltdowns because who doesn't like to talk about that?
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Anytime I hop on the mic and speak to y'all about some personal stuff, it seems to be peoples fav. Most of you know, if you have listened to the podcast before, I am very honest about my anger issue and the fact that I am addicted. I have cycles where my anger can not present at well, but then there are times it just floods out. I am gonna tallk about it.
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Nothing is wrong with being proud; I feel like today is replaced with the word ego. But sometimes, too much pride makes you too connected to things. Being tot connected to things and to emotions makes it hard to make good decisions, and sometimes, it makes you a know-it-all. Over time, this will cause your heart to harden, and you may end up like Pharaoh.
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People can protect their money, and sometimes they can protect their time. But they do not preserve their energy. Are you feeling tired or emotionally burnt out? It is because you need to start protecting your energy. To achieve inner peace, you have to work on these three things. Losing energy and time always costs money. Tap in
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I believe in being difficult because I think difficult people are difficult, and I don't mean negative or attention-seeking. The people who have to oppose things just to be noticed and remarked as "difficult." I am talking about the kind of difficult that creates change, you stand up for yourself, and do not let people walk all over you. The kind of person who strives for change, and gets branded as "difficult to work with".
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People will try to attack your character and break you down until you are a shell of yourself. You need to remember that your identity is built around your character and your personality, and no one can take it from you unless you allow them.
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I don't feel like I could have ended this episode without talking about boundaries. I feel like when you are working on yourself, you have to face this conversation at some point. What does it mean for you to have boundaries? Firstly, with yourself? Are you respecting yourself and your limits?
Therefore, I feel like to be "That Girl," which embodies focusing on your health and prizing yourself, you need to work on how much energy you put into people and how much they drain you.
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To Mark my 33 birthday, I felt like giving some wisdom. So, after 33 years, here are some essential lessons I have taken with me on my challenging yet enlightening journey.
Some I wish I learned in my 20's, which I think would have made life easier. But nevertheless here they are
33 lessons
- confidence
- Never count yourself out
- Believe
- Find values
- Keep trying
- Know yourself
- Admit your faults
- Admit your strengths
- Don’t believe in work hard
- Listen to your body
- Prioritize yourself
- Cry
- Scream
- Have an emotional breakdown
- Take a day but get back up
- Take a mental health day
- Get into alignment with yourself
- Create a life
- Read
- Travel
- Spend time with yourself
- Be kind to self
- Sell yourself your dream
- This is not That
- You can break a family curse
- Rely on self
- Stop worrying
- Be bold
- Say no
- Stay firm
- Take risks
- Be quiet
- Learn
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So, what exactly does it mean to be 'that girl'? She's not just about looks or style; she's about confidence, independence, and owning her life. And guess what? Building your finances plays a massive role in achieving that.
In this episode, I talk about looking at your finances and becoming financially independent.
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The importance of mental strength. It enables us to endure hardships, navigate challenges, and persevere in the face of adversity. Mental strength empowers us to stay focused, resilient, and determined in pursuit of our goals. But people who are mentally strong eventually break or have breakdowns because they carry everyone else's stuff. Is this you?
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A good perfume has the transformative power to make you "that girl" - confident, irresistible, and unforgettable. With just a spritz, it becomes your signature, leaving a trail of allure wherever you go. It boosts your mood, elevates your presence, and evokes admiration from those around you. Embrace the essence of confidence and allure with the perfect fragrance, and become the captivating woman you were always meant to be.
I felt this would be a good episode for number 2. As I said, I wanted to talk about That Girl without really talking about about spending money. But this is about a confidence boost, an instant one.
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Ending a relationship is like navigating through a stormy sea of emotions, fraught with uncertainty and heartache. It's confronting the fear of loneliness, facing the unknown, and mourning the loss of shared dreams. The decision weighs heavy on the heart, as memories flood in, intertwining with the pain of letting go. Yet, amidst the anguish, there's a glimmer of hope for healing and growth. It's a journey of self-discovery, learning to prioritize self-love and inner peace. Despite the difficulty, ending a relationship can also be a courageous step towards a brighter, more authentic future.
On this one I talk about setting up the tombstones.
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Empowerment is at the heart of being “that girl.” It’s about lifting others up, amplifying their voices, and championing causes that matter. Empowered women empower women—it’s a ripple effect of positivity and strength that creates lasting change in the world. What better way to do that than to create a happier life for yourself? A lot of people depend on external factors to make them happy.
But eventually, all you are doing is bogging yourself down. In this podcast I talk about what I did to channel my Inner "That Girl" starting with cultivating my own happiness. I went back to the things I like and where I needed to make space and time in my life.
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A cage doesn't always look like a cage; it can manifest as a mental prison, invisible yet suffocating. It's the self-doubt that holds you back, the limiting beliefs that confine your potential. Recognize the bars of negativity and fear, and break free by cultivating self-awareness and empowerment. True freedom begins with liberating the mind from its own constraints.
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For the Month of March, the series drops every Thursday at 12 pm
Let’s be real—being “that girl” isn’t always easy. It means facing criticism, judgment, and adversity head-on. It means stepping out of your comfort zone, taking risks, and embracing failure as a learning opportunity. But through it all, remember that your authenticity is your superpower, and it’s what sets you apart in a world that often encourages conformity. I want to just talk to y'all about what you can expect from the series. I broke it into four sections where a person can begin a unique journey. Often, when this subject comes up, I think people think a lot about money and how expensive the "The Girl" aesthetic is, but it's not about the look. It is more about wearing the confidence.
So, what does it take to embody the essence of “that girl”? It starts with self-awareness and self-acceptance. Knowing who you are, what you stand for, and what you want from life lays the foundation for authenticity. Embrace your quirks, your passions, and your imperfections—they’re what make you beautifully you.
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I decided to reclaim my life, realizing the importance of taking charge. Embracing this journey means breaking free from constraints, making choices aligned with my dreams, and shaping my destiny. Empowerment comes from within, and seizing control transforms challenges into opportunities, turning the page to a chapter where I am the author of my narrative.
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On this episode, I wanted to give my thoughts on Kat Williams and the interview he did. There were so many suitable life lessons that it is easy to miss. While he definitely threw some shade, he also provided, I think, a lot of encouragement to the underdog or people that work their butt off and do not get recognized.
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"Chop wood, carry water" is a Zen proverb that emphasizes the significance of mindfulness and presence in everyday tasks. It suggests finding meaning in the simplicity of life's routine activities. By focusing on the process rather than the end result, one discovers profound insights and a deeper connection to the present moment. This philosophy highlights the transformative power of mindfulness, encouraging individuals to find purpose in the mundane and appreciate the journey as much as the destination.
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In life, prioritizing your well-being sometimes means ignoring negative people and, when necessary, cutting them off. Surrounding yourself with positivity fosters personal growth and mental peace, allowing you to focus on relationships that uplift and inspire. Setting boundaries is a powerful act of self-care, creating space for healthier connections and a more fulfilling journey.
There are some people in life who love to be negative because they secretly hate themselves, they will always find a problem and an issue but will never fix it. Notice when you have a solution or try to fix it...they hate you now...You took away the only reason they live...Just cut them out and don't engage bothering u is there food.
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Black History Month is a powerful time for black people to celebrate and own their unique experiences. Embracing one's blackness fosters pride, resilience, and a deep connection to a rich cultural heritage, contributing to the collective narrative of strength and accomplishment. It's an opportunity to amplify voices, challenge stereotypes, and inspire future generations.
It also serves as a time to remember that black people are resilient and that we have fought and earned our seat at the table.
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People misunderstand value as though it is something that is controlled by external factors. When in reality it is something that is controlled by Intrinsic factors and our nature. Lots of people have internal conflict because they go against or operate outside of their important values, the thing that she pilot their daily lives
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People say this all the time, but words matter. What you say to yourself and the narrative that you create about yourself really matters. Words have the power to empower or disarm you and in remembering that you need to be mindful of what you to yourself or what you say about yourself. This is adding limits to yourself, and remember you are limitless but words do have the power to bind you.
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They will never. I just saved you a lot of mental energy. Does not matter what you do or say for them they will never value or appreciate you. Worse whenever you have to tell someone that you don't valued it is a sign that you need to leave the situation alone. Stop wasting your words on people who frankly could care less about you. They will just find someone else to burn out.
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One day you just wake up and realize how much of your energy you have spent on things and people that do not matter. How much energy you spend minding other peoples lives and visioning what it would be like to be them. To some extent you are probably exhausted because you are trying to live in someone else's path. But some conversations you just have to kill. One of the ones I found my energy drained on is having children or being married, I dropped that conversation because if it is my path it will happen if it is not then... C'est la vie
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So I did not do a recap podcast. I did not feel like reliving the trials of 2023. Instead I wanted to talk about what I learned and what we can all learn from hard times and how we can foster a better sense of self.
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Broke people both spittually and phsyically.
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Sandpaper is used to make things soft, it is used to smooth things over. But it is also used to form and shape, it is used to sharpen and object visually so you can see the curves.
Why did I use this? Sandpaper I would liek to use to symbolize peace which when you have peace you have the ability to have form, you have the ability to be smoothe.... Listen and see if you can connect
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Welcome to the Holiday Season! This December is different from the rest because this year I want to encourage you to pay attention to the people and the language around you. People have a way and trying to cut down your dreams and let you know that you will never do better than where you are. I want to promote a BETTER you walking into 2024.
I am not saying that you have to drop people, but I am telling you that you need to start paying attention to what people are saying to you and about you. My father called me worthless and told me that I had never amounted to anything. It hurt, he sought otther ways to attack me financially, but it was no use. Once you understand people try to project there feelings of self to you and make it your narrative, nothing they say will effect you.
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People who adapt are the people who have strong will. Life has lots of changes, it is just about how you roll with the punches. By the way no decision is a decision. So strap up and get your head in the game.
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Sometimes it is necessary. Who is your true person? Are you not tired of people telling you who you should be and how you should act? Do you not feel better when you embody your true persona.
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We insure valuable things, but we never insure ourselves. The most important thing we have is ourselves, yet we allow people to take advantage of us. We allow ourselves to be waivered by other people and their nonsense. But just as you would not like to see your shiny car scratched, why don't we value ourselves the same way? Why does it not bother us when people scratch us mentally and emotionally? We need to start valuing ourselves, stopping people and things from "scratching us" We need to take out insurance policies on "Self." I wrote a book about "Securing Self" below, you can get a free copy!Click Here for FREE Ebook--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/k-chynn/message
What stories about you are keeping alive? Changing is such a hard thing to do, believe it or not we keep negative stories and things alive to feed our narratives about self. Believe it to not continuing to tell yourself you are not worthy, actually protects you. It enforces you to stay in your bad relationship, stops you from getting hurt. But it also stops you from growing. Change is necessary for growth.
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Probably the most shocking thing I have ever experienced while being in New York City out of Canada and getting that email. Really thought I would have died of a heart attack. It is so awful when someone goes behind your back, smile in your face and then does something so underhanded. Just to be cruel
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How do you go about making changes to yourself?
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So tired of people playing the victim. Like they attack you and come at you and then they cry, or get angry because you refuse to accept their behaviour. This is the cousin of gaslighting. People like to "tell you the truth" but whose truth is it? We all have a different perception of an event we all saw, because we are conditioned by our previous experiences and responses. When you tell someone something or ask them for advice be very careful because people have their own agenda, they also carry their baggage into your situation.
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I am going to be honest here about how I have been feeling
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Lets talking about relationships.
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If anyone has had any unpleasant dealings with me, I will totally apologize. In this episode I get super vulnerable about something that has taken root in my life. A condition that has changed my outlook, and I think I went through the stages of grief, because the life I wanted not sure I can achieve it with the obstacle. But then in then through the podcast I realize I can I just have to change my procedure. Thus podcast episode is for anyone who is lost, do not wait to get a diagnosis to change, make the change now. Figure out what you want and what you need to do to sustain yourself.
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Okay, so full transparency, when I recorded this, my migraine had disappeared. I suffer from migraines but never to this extent. Anyway, I was given a medication which I took to help me counter the pain I was in. I mean, my body swole, I felt hot all over, and on day 4, I thought I was losing my mind. What was interesting was how well I controlled my thoughts which I mean, the only thing I thought about and worried about was losing my mind, but also trying to stop the pain. No other concerns; I did not know about money, work, or anything. Just the migraine was my focus, and also be scared I would get a stroke from this. Where does the matrix come from? Well, I was given the blue pill to stop the migraine, and when I finally woke up migraine-free, things seemed very different; I realized that the migraine while I suffer from them is being fed by the current high intense stress I am under. The fact that I have been under an incredible amount of pressure from all outside factors... Listen to what happened next...
What are you maintaining in your life that you don't need to? Everything takes work. You have to preserve things otherwise, they wither and die, and sometimes even with maintaining, they die like plants. Some things are worth keeping, but not everything; some people will work seven jobs for something designer, but for what reason? Now I am somewhat materialistic, but I stopped maintaining things because I no longer have the mental space to do it. I now evaluate the maintenance of something such as a relationship. I ask myself, is this worth the care? It is like buying an expensive car, well it is costly to maintain the cost of the car...do you have the money? We have many thoughts about anything that involves money, but why not when it demands are energy?
The family it the...Can you complete that sentence? Most of you were aware last year was very difficult because I have an aging parent. My father, unfortunately, takes advice from family members who do not care about him. I can be honest my father has not been the greatest with his siblings, sometimes being negative and getting into their business. So I get that, but people don't realize that some people mean you harm, see you in a vulnerable position, and finally use that to lead you to your demise. On the other hand, I am fair, and I realize people have their problems; as they age, they do not in any way want to hear about your problems. And thus, they will say whatever to get you off the line.
This one is short but it is about courage. Courage is essential to stoicism because a lot of hard things require courage. Being honest does require a lot of courage; speaking up for truth and honesty also does require a bit of courage.
Welcome to July!This is about stoicism. I will give you the steps I have used to create my life in times of stress. This is the intro to what the rest of the month will be like. My voice is way calmer and lighter. I did that with the intention of not adding too much excitement. Here I go over the principles and how I incorporated them into my life.
How can you be free? What does Freedom even mean to you? To me, being free means that I wake up and I make my own choices free of underlying motivations like, for example, making money. It is being able to do something without having any master in place. It is the ability to live my life the way I want to and not how society wants me to do it. Can we create our own freedom? In this podcast I go over how it possible in some extent to create your own freedom, but know that it has conquences.
How to get rid of gaslighters? This one was personal because I honestly fall into this trap with people. I have gotten a lot better at not falling in. People that gaslight I would like to believe they do not do it on purpose, but they actually do. Most people who gaslight know exactly what they are doing but they just want you to be the bad guy. Because somehow blaming you, completes their whole life, and now they can cry or be sad because of the evil you have done them wrong.
Let’s talk about limits we put on ourselves, believe it or not what we say about and to ourselves matter. Let’s keep this in mind all year around. The stupid talk that you say to yourself, does play over and over like a record in your head. How you can change this, is by finding out what your limiting beliefs are and how you can reframe them. How can you change the conversation you are having with yourself? Listen to find out.
Sending out lots of prayer to her family, but mostly her children! This is a terrible tragedy and I pray for her children, this is awful she was so young! But heaven got another angel!
Good friends can get on our nerves; on this podcast, I am talking about the relationships we have with people. Sometimes to preserve your friendship, it calls you to take a break from the person. And in good friendships, I believe this is necessary. I think a good friend is the person who shows up when you need them the most. They pick you up when you are down. Now you have some people who are always down, or they do it for attention. I am not talking about that kind of person. I value my friendships with people because I can be honest with them, and I would hope they would be honest with me. Relationships are investments, and I personally only want to invest in relationships where I am contributing to someone's growth, and they are contributing to mine. See, loyalty is dangerous because we sacrifice or personal mental real estate for fear of losing someone who does not add value.
This one is personal again, but really personal. I have spoken before about my father and is somewhat personal struggle. This time I am talking about the divorce and how his take down of my mom, is leading to the take down of the entire family unit. I talk in this podcast, the struggle of having an aging parent, but one who malicious and will do anything to prove there point.
Okay so here is another one that is off the cuff. It is okay to not be in a good mood, to be sad, to cry, to be mad, and really to feel things. The issue is the labels put on us when we display these emotions. I work 14 hrs a day and deal with sick patients, as I do with an unhappy family, my work and family ha become one. When do I get a break? I work incredibly hard because no one has given me anything; I didn't come from a family with an empire. I had to battle belittling comments, told I would amount to nothing to have those same people lean me. I want a day when no one requires anything from me. I am burnt the f*** out. And so I had a meltdown because my body gave out; not being in alignment with myself, is how I got here. Remember, people won't change, which leaves the responsibility up to us, as to what we will tolerate.
This podcast is a bit different. This one is very personal. I talk about my struggle with my anger and resentment. I speak candidly about my personal struggle to try to do the right things, but I am overcome with rage. I talk about the divorce but more so how I did not expect certain pieces of information to seep out and how I have to come to terms with the fact that I grew up in DMV. The impact this realization has had on me and sort of what's going on in my mind.
When you learn from a young age to fight, you keep fighting, it never stops. As a person you have to work in your triggers because they will keep on showing up. I walked off the job, who knows if I will be back, but somehow does it matter? If you lose your mind you lose everything.
Picture it 3 am and you have a fever, you can't sleep you toss and you turn. But wait you have to wake up at 6am so what's the point of sleeping? All your problems come to you... So here we go a podcast at 3am with me telling you about my personal problem, which I have finally named.
Take a Pause, and check in with yourself. I talk on this podcast about my emotional check-in and what I did for myself. However, this was the year of the money bag! Last year took a toll on my emotional health, and I needed a pause. Sometimes we need to protect our peace and I talk about that here because without emotional health we have nothing.
I was recently moved by this book I am reading. I thought about the question of "Creating self". I have done the Death of Self and the rebirth of self but never creating self. Like what does that even mean? When I was reading this book the thing that popped out is when you have no root, and your are determined to be someone, you can miss out on living because you want to achieve your goals.
You need rest..I did a whole podcast where I spoke about exhaustion and mental fatigue. I pick that up in this podcast. Sometimes we become vulnerable, and we mistake this for weakness. When in fact, we need rest, we need to sleep so that we can function on an optimal level. No one knows this more than I do. When I took those pills and slept solidly, no one felt better than I did. I had such mental clarity; I have not had that in a while. Things were getting to me that made me feel like I was either getting soft or weak. But I was just tired.
Want to make more money? You have to work on yourself and invest in yourself. You will never make more money than your self investment. As for myself I believe that growing as a person is extremely important. You can work a whole job, and grow your skills whether in school, take a course, or taking free courses. The digital world makes it a lot easier to do take courses. I know you are tired and are going through a lot and trust me when it gets pass 6 pm I am done working. Which is why the other things I do are virtual and don't run pass 6pm unless I make it so or it is for my business. But for a long time I had to work in the evenings, until I decided that if I do anything in the evening it is for my business or my own development and I started to see the money being returned to me. Personal growth is how you become wealthy, it is how you become free, and it is how you gain your autonmy back.
I am about energy and I believe a business has the energy of the owner, so if your company is successful then it is your energy that provided that. People do not like to pay people what they are worth but worse they like to control people to a uniform way of thinking. In 2023 that does not exist, what really exists is the ability to create to take a business to a new level by allowing people to work from their strengths and not your old agenda from 1929. One of the things I find that companies do is that they like to strong-arm workers, so because they are paying you, they want you to do admin work for something that you are not responsible for. For example, when people are self-contracted you can not ask them to fill out a 400pg inventory sheet counting clipboards, pens, erasers and whatever nonsense. Because if you are paying me for that 8 hrs that to me is included in that window. Meaning at 430 I am saying goodbye to people and then going through your agenda. One thing about me is if you give me too many things to do, I will do it on your time. It is also common sense, if you have good company and workers appreciate you, they will be sure to let you know "Hey this object needs to be restocked". But when people don't like you they just want a cheque and don't care then they do whatever, which leads to the admin being annoyed.
When you take time off to be with yourself, but what self? I had to take time off my work, but I consider it as I took time out of my life. I had this grand plan of what I would do upon rest. I did none of it until I geared to go back to work, like writing chapters in my book or even recording podcasts or making any money!! I discovered that there is no "me time" because I am unfamiliar with myself. I and myself have not sat at the same table in probably months. I do not even know what I enjoy vs what I do not want anymore. I can't plan my time when I do not know who I am. It is like preparing for a guest you can't tell; it gives you shared anxiety.
People work to value; there is no such thing as killing yourself over someones else's job or company. Because people do not care about others, only their families and big lifestyles. So now lots of people are working to rule, meaning there are not wasting their talents in your company. People are all different, and if companies would wake up and use people at their talents they would be able to stay in business. But no they treat everyone the same in not knowing that they have very creative people in there midst. If people start to get paid there value, they would work more effetively, or if they were compensated with a good health care plan. The idea is the middle men and the micro managing is now what is causing people to quit, as the people are so out of touch with the world we live in.
Wow, it is now year 32, and I am beyond blessed! This has been an interesting year to get to. I was ruined financially, and emotionally but I still managed to get up and fight. The last 2 years have been a constant fight for me to get a seat at the table. However, year 32 has allowed me to buy the damn table and no longer ask people to provide me with a seat. 32 is the year of "self," putting my emotional and physical happiness first so that I am able to help and support others. I think the birthday is always the best kind of day for an appraisal of one's life and the best time to start making changes. I like all my years to have a theme, something I am working towards. I talk about that here.
In this podcast, I talk about why blockbuster actually failed and why Netflix overcame it which it should’ve never done because blockbuster was the bigger company they had more power they were known, and yet they managed to fail we talk about in this podcast about how that actually happened and how people who want to run a business or own a business can keep it in business if they become a Netflix instead of a blockbuster. One of the things that kill blockbuster is how they were so cocky and not wanting to change anything and they couldn’t compete with the Internet.
Sometimes honestly, we just have to look a certain way to channel a certain energy. This is not necessarily a business podcast. It’s kind of personal, but it is talking about creating a life for yourself. It is really hard to do and sometimes if you are sad or life is just particularly difficult. You cannot shake your negative feelings however, I am encouraging you in this podcast to create an alter ego or someone else that can help you push through your dark period
How to get money! To make money, you have to focus on money; for any goal, you need to focus in on whatever your goal is. This is hard to do because you do have to give up things, usually things that bring you pleasure or social. But just remember it is not forever. However, making money requires pretty much all your skillset, your physical, emotional and mental body. You will be exhausted in all 3 capacities. Some days, you won't even know what you are supposed to do. I always say you need to train your brain like you would your body, and to make money is no different. Before this year started, I sat down, and rested for a whole week as in. I did not use my brain much as I was preparing to embark on a money-bag journey. I was determined to maximize my income, and for that, I needed to rest and prep my body. In this podcast, I take you through what that looked like! In January, I was at my best, but in Feb I kinda crashed a little, and I was double booking myself. As you know, for business, that is the worse thing you can do.
I am so much better than this. Have you ever uttered these words? Have you ever thought to hell with this, realizing how much energy you have wasted with a person or a thing and that you are so much better than the situation? In other words, the light bulb goes on over your head, and you're like, "No More." On this podcast, I explore that feeling of finally addressing wasting so much time with such stupidness.
Oh my god what a performer she was absolutely amazing. It is crazy how much passion she put in her ASL , so I am so proud of her seriously if you did not watch the halftime and watch her performance you have missed out on so much. She went viral and rightly so because the passion the way she communicated this song in the message was absolutely incredible.
Well comes from outside of work and it’s some thing that people really need to understand. If you want to get wealthy, you will never get wealthy working a 9-to-5 job. Even if you do get wealthy from it it’s not going to be forever and so you have to learn to set yourself up. In this podcast we talk about this and we explore what that actually means. How can you work less but get more money?
How to move through it? I have been through several life shocks; I believe that my life has just been, in other words, shocking. Recently way more shocking than the norm. I find myself trying to cope with the ending of many cycles for me, and one way is to remember that something ending is the beginning of something new. New cycles have to come through so that the old ones can die. The transition, though, is what makes it very difficult. So how do you sustain yourself through a life shock?
Here is what I did on Valentine’s Day. It was super low-key with my boyfriend. I was just really glad that we had the ability to connect because we have both been so busy. We don’t have much time to spend with each other. I have also been extremely busy because you guys know I’ve been taking a lot more clients and I just finished my sale on hypnosis. Business has been crazy good and everything has been so abundant that I am really in the process of building my friend, so I don’t really like anything to take away from that.
I did a podcast called "You Need a Judas" because everyone does. This time I am talking to you about my Judas. I have so many, not because I am unique; I never learned my universal lesson. To develop as a person, I had to get uncomfortable. I had to toughen up, but you can not get tricky if you are comfortable, and people tend to treat you how they see fit.
Sex is taboo, and I get that. But what I do not get is why as a business person, people are offended by cleavage or are fixated on features. We all have body parts, so seeing someone online does not mean you have to sexualize them and discredit them. The funny thing is that everyone has a private life that may be taboo. Like your dentist, how do you know they don't visit a dominatrix after hours? What is with judging people and their credentials based on their physical appeal?
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It's been a few years, and Time really does heal all wounds. Sometimes when people do you things, you must acknowledge that you are part of the problem. I decided to look back because some situations in my life appeared again, and I find it ironic and almost laughable if I am being honest. People play different roles in our lives, and if you do not pass the level with them, you will find someone else who will be there to teach you the same lesson again. I feel this is the case with my past friend. I have finally learned the lesson from her, so I can move on.
Maybe you have a reason to be worried? Whether you work with or know this person, this is an annoying person. They are so worried about being fired that they get fired. Why? Because people make it happen by doing things that are not about their job.b If you are worried about getting fired, it is probably because you are not doing what you are supposed to. This could be because you find your job boring or unfulfilling. Before you get fired, you need to work on your skills; lets have this conversation
From the song Brave. I love this song so much because it is so sad, and I first heard it from an episode of shameless; actually, it was the last episode I watched because it was so negative. But I love that show, and I plan to at some point to finish it. However, I have been listening to this song for a few years, and I have to say, when it comes down to that line, "Directions mean nothing when you are standing in the dark." I put this back to the life you can have the plan to do something, but life happens, and you can't see what you have to do. When you are in the dark, directions really mean nothing. The other day well, during Halloween, I went to a haunting fest, and there was a dark room; in the darkroom, it was pitch black, and you could see nothing. The directions they gave meant nothing because I didn't know which way to go.
So, in this podcast, I am talking about losing your way.
Okay, he is trending, and I hate to actually give that man more attention. But I have some comments I think he is gross and awful and quite hateful. But where respect is given is that he managed to sercure multiple bags by being that way, propelling his hate and then changing his narrative to stay relative is a gift. That being said human trafficing, well sex trafficing is absolutely horrible and as someone who has worked with victims, this man should be flogged. Why epople respect him has me puzzled and he made his money of women selling p***y. Which doesnt make him a genius it makes him a modern digital pimp.
The lessons he was "teaching" people are things madams and pimps do on a dialy basis. There was no magic to this, and this is soemthing that you can literally google and find, so how people paid him thousands of dollars to basically learn how to dmeoralize, kidnap, and torure women is crazy to me. As sex work is literally the oldest profession. The worse part is there is nothing macho about making money off of women, he did not make any money himself. He did not work or invest and yet he is teaching people this. There is no magic to the pimp game, the pimp game is only being rolled over to digital work. Consider pimping now remote work. And yet he is telling people he is basically giving master classes for something very dark.
Welcome to the final episode of the series. Thank you for listening this far. This topic is critical about setting time; I do not believe that people or coaches talk about time. Yet, time is fundamental for business success. How much time do you have? Also, what are you doing with your time if you have open hours and no clients? Use the time you dedicate to your business to work on your business.
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Everyone needs a promotion, but to get a promotion, you need a Judas. Judas is a powerful character in the Bible because he betrayed Jesus; the funny thing is that no one talks about: if Judas did not betray Jesus, things would not have unfolded because Jesus needed to be freed from the flesh. He also knew that Judas was going to sell him out.
On this podcast, I explore "Judas" and how this type of betrayal of this person is needed for your growth. We all get betrayed, and it is so hurtful, but within that betrayal, there is growth. You could never get your ideal job without being fired.
- What do people in your industry make?
- How can you monetize your business?
- How can you make more money ?
- How much do you have to invest ?
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Do not let them in! When someone rejects you and you boss up, that's usually when they make an appearance. Why? Because good people are just that good people. I have learned a long time ago, that do not let a man show you he doesn't want you more than once. And that being said he doesn't want you, but you probably don't want him either. People will play you when you are unsure of yourself, but once you become aligned with yourself, no one can play you. One thing an energy predator can smell is someone who is lacking in self-confidence and esteem. Today I am telling you that you are so much better than that person or the hurtful things they have said to you. Boss up and send them a sympathy card.
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Are you living up to your own expectations? I was away when I recorded this in my second home, MTL. I did not release this last year because I felt this would be a good podcast to start the New year. It occurred to me just how much people depend on titles; they introduce themselves by their titles and define their lives by labels. WHY? What happens when I am no longer a doctor, or I am no longer a librarian? Then who am I? What happens if I lose my corner office? Who am I now? I think a lot of people are becoming undone because their title dictates who they are. This is true even in relationships; what happens when you are no longer the gf? Tittles aside, you should never forget that you are a person first; we all are. And if we are people, do titles matter?
Welcome to the first episode of the Start-Up Series; this goes in place of the business podcast on Thursdays. I will take you through how to start a successful business that will be sustainable if you follow through. Ask yourself some questions:
- What kind of business interests you
- How much time do you have now?
- How much money can you spend?
- How much do you want to earn?
- What is your skill set?
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I am telling my secret. Most of you know that I have had a year of transition. Aside from the stress of my family, I underwent a procedure that altered my life. While it was a blessing, it came with a lot of personal duress, In which some of it I spoke about but did not really discuss what I did. So now I am telling my personal secret; I figured it could help someone else.
Can the Self Die? I have had a rebirth in myself. I have lost weight, changed my hair and job, and opened new businesses. A lot has happened, but the best thing that happened from this is the rebirth of myself—learning how to create and live in alignment. Which probably would not have happened had it not been for surgery and the near-death experience I had. Also, after losing a substantial amount of weight, feeling differently about things and undertanding that I am unstoppable has helped me a lot.
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What a ride. It has now been two years and over 100 episodes. I appreciate all the people listening to the podcast. You are amazing! I have had so much fun doing the podcast, as I feel like I can be myself and have conversations with you guys! This Year I did not take Christmas off as I wanted to reflect on life and how much I enjoy doing this!
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Should we be worried? So I was never going to watch this movie. I had heard that it was all about sex, and I was like, pass. However, one day I wanted something to watch, and there were limited psychological thrillers (my favs), so I watched. Olivia Wilde did a fantastic job; I think the film needed more power. That being said, for something made through covid, it was executed very well. The storyline is interesting because although the role reversal is not the focal point, it makes you think about gender and equality. It reminded me of Surrogates and a little Stepford Housewife simultaneously. The funny thing is that, essentially, this movie shows that the male ego is fickle. Regardless of women coming up, men do not want to feel like the lesser partner, and they use sex to keep you in that cage, and when that does not work, they take your soul.
Doing too much in business will turn the right people off. If you are a business owner and you want to employ people. The first thing is to know that people do not think as you do. Also, it is not their company (unless you give them stocks) so they are not going to do things as you do. Creating an equal-opportunity workforce, also means allowing people to be themselves. It is easy to spot today a toxic work culture, and the first way is a bunch of rules. Lots of rules that people have to follow, followed by punishments. You will attract all the wrong people, and this is especially true if you are running an agency, in which people are self-contracted. Self-contractors want to make their money and have no interest in your rule book. You are wasting a lot of time with stupid orientations and policies that contractors are not going to follow. See people can make you a lot of money but if you handicap them from being themselves or being able to rigid you will lose the.
Are you trying to find out who you are? Are you trying to get into alignment? Well then you might need to start with the basics of becoming more of a centric person, and starting to focus on the things that you like versus the things you don't like or the things that involve other people liking. Sometimes you need to learn about yourself, you need to really strengthen self, and hit a mental reset. In this podcast today, we talk about being a little bit more selfish, with our time, energy, space.
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Oddly, these people have a team that works for them, this is not a small business, and they would make this kind of mistake. This is a massive scandal, but I feel like we are not blaming parents. We should hold parents accountable for this because it is there children that are in these campaigns. Kids should always be protected and they did not do this, I am not sure why they thought children and BDSM was a good combo.
How you see your business is extremely important, seeing the business helps to create vision. No successful business do not have a vision. How you feel about your business translates to sales—changing your language is important because words have meaning and create a thought pattern in your brain. Removing words like "I can't" and " we aren't messy" are business will never take off." Those negative comments stifle the growth of your business.
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Fight yourself for yourself! We all have that internal dialogue that tells us that we aren't good enough, aren't smart, aren't valuable, and aren't attractive. Throughout the days, we seem to look for confirmation biases to prove these evil thoughts about ourselves true. The truth is we can't let them win, because your voices need to be re-programmed and you need to speak life into yourself.
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Kanye is doing the most, and I think everyone can agree. However, recently his comments that Hitler is unique and should be respected is hurtful. And you do not have to be Jewish to get that; how he equates Hiter to be a good person and is trying to spin it that everyone has good in them and believes that deep down Hitler is a good human is shocking. There is nothing good about an insecure little man who killed 6 million Jews and mesmerized people to believe that Jews are the root of all evil while also being Jewish. Using his own self-hatred and insecurity to filter hate among human beings is not something someone should be praised for doing. And no, there is no good in that person, as he cowardly took his own life when his plan failed to slaughter all Jews rather than face the public. So Kanye is entirely wrong, and people should stop giving him air time, to spread his hateful agenda. Hitler's legacy is still being fed today, and so Kanye should shut up.
Who do you want to be? Most of the time in December I do take time off, and I do not record a podcast. But this time I felt like I had to, so this is the first December podcast with some artwork! I ask you two questions for those that want to start a business. Can you answer them?
- Who do you want to be?
- How do you want to make your money?
LOL I did this for school and I felt like posting this. It is sitting in my archives and I want to release everything before the New Year.
What do you want for yourself? In this podcast, I give a storytime about knowing what I wanted, what showed up and How I altered that course of action. In clinical neuroscience, they use the term "background," meaning they start with the background before they get down to qualitative and quantitative tests; the background is about the person, their job, education, family life, identity, etc. So to know what you want, you need to provide background... Why do I want this? Why don't I want this? Where did this knowledge come from?
In my case, the person I was with was an old narrative; they fed the broken child in me that continued to live like I did when I was a kid. They provoked me to no end, and still to date. But you know what separates the old me from the new me? I have grown in myself; I looked at my background vs who I want to be. If I want to live in a toxic miserable place, he is the one. I must cut ties if I want to elevate and bring good things into my life.
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How to keep repeat customers? Let's be clear, any business you are thinking about or running probably exists already. So what makes your business different? Honestly, it is you. People will come to your business for you. But you are human, and you go through things that may make you unable to provide a service like you used to. One way to keep people coming to you is to provide them with perks, SO discounts, referrals, etc. In this podcast, I talk about ways to offer service without robbing yourself. Remember, like you, customers go through rough patches in their lives.
Law of conformity is the term that business people use. Marketers are aware of this, and when you see ad campaigns, the masses notice how they are done. Knowing this rule will save you a lot of money if you want to be good at business or start a business. People conform to the whims of others, hence why you always make one sale by doing things in a group. You only need to appeal to one person to convince others. If you look back in history at people like card sharks or magicians, they always use someone that knows the game, which then convinces others of the magic. Influence is significant.
Meditate: As you know in previous podcasts, I have expressed the need for a pause. But now I want to talk about why it’s essential. To do well in life, you need to get into alignment. And when you are so busy, that’s hard to do.
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Understanding that the sales that happen around this time are not emotional. This is usually when people want to offload older merchandise or things that didn’t sell as well. This is not the time for you to start a business. With IG and other platforms, your ads would be overshadowed, so If you are starting a business, best to wait till the end of November.
For ads, don’t try to beat the system. It’s all about visuals; keep it black and clean. Figure out how to put your spin on it. Remember that ads are done organically, but it’s all about visual appeal. Don’t reinvent the wheel here.
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You matter to you: I think every so often, a mental breakdown is needed. But only when your body and life have been requesting you to slow down and you hear “ramp up.” This could be for personal reasons or general stress. Maybe you have debt, and maybe you have insomnia, maybe you’re getting a divorce or perhaps it’s grief. You want to practice cognitive dissonance, where you sit around worried about your decisions, thinking about the consequences.
But then there is that moment when your body gives out. This is what happened to me, and the thing that freaked me out the most was I thought I was losing my mind. I had zero mental clarity. My heart was beating fast. I had a pulsating migraine in my temple, and I collapsed. I was in bed for a short period. Until I had to get my life back. For months I have been going through the turmoil of things in my personal life. Now it was time to accept the situation and make some changes.
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The nonsense... Let's be honest. He is a professional troll! Kanye is not just an antisemite; he's racist and also sexist. At the same time, I do not condone hate speech, nor his statements about any community he attacked.
To some extent, Kanye's msg has some truth, black artists/people have done an injustice regarding creative opportunities and their work. Members of the white communities have been controlling and reaping the profits that black people produce for years. You can't say that's not a fact because that is prevalent in the music industry. That being said, targeting the Jewish community is ridiculous, and while he complained about his "Jewish accountant," he took that interaction and blamed a whole people.
However, back to his point, black people don't matter because when Kanye made remarks about black people, Floyd's comments, the white lives matter shirt, Harriet Tubman and even women, Addidas never thought for a moment to drop him. But when he went against the Jewish community, every single partner he had dropped him instantly. So when he spoke out against black people, it was radio silent, but when he spoke up against the Jewish community, he was cancelled.
In general, he should have been cancelled for a long time despite being mentally ill; he is problematic and hateful, and although he speaks some truth, his msg is lost in translation due to the whole hateful way he brings it up. Yes, black people have been doing an injustice there work has been controlled by others who aren't them. And when Kanye could open that door, he chose to coin himself a genius, hire white people and walk around saying he did this for the community. I would even argue that the old Kanye spoke up on black rights only to line his pockets. So now everyone should throw him in the trash, leave him alone, and unplug his music because he is hateful.
If you are interested in starting a business, or you have started one before, and it wasn’t successful. This situation is not That situation, it is not that failed experience. I think people often believe that they can apply one experience to something else, and they can’t. An experience is an experience, the new experience is different, simply because you are not the same person. Everything we go through in life changes us, which means we can not experience the same thing twice. Need proof look at physics.
So if you failed at something before, know that you are NOT the same person. And I’m saying that your experience will NOT be the same. Even if it doesn’t start how you want to or doesn’t come to fruition how you expect….just TRY.
The worse feeling is wanting to do something and not doing it, not because you couldn’t but out of fear.
The opposite is true. Just because you are successful in one area, it doesn’t mean you can apply the same skill set and be successful.
Always leave a situation with grace. It doesn’t matter if it is a relationship, a job, a friend, a place....no exceptions!!OWN your emotions and take them out of the control of others. Grace is something we practice for ourselves, to keep our integrity and dignity together. People are people and they will do what they do, but we don’t have to join them in their circus.
Suppose you want to be rich and start a business! You can not get rich working for other people. Consider your 9-5 spending money. That said, you can not make money if you do not know who you are...Wait, you can by working for other people and helping them line their pockets. The first thing to do is to start working on yourself. Learn who you are, What you are about, and What is your narrative? I tell entrepreneurs all the time there are two kinds of customers :
- The one who likes/needs the product, so they buy it
- The one who likes the person and will support the person product or none
The #2 person is the better person to have as a customer. But you can only have them when you know your story. Confidence can be faked, but genuine confidence is what consumers buy. Ask yourself, have you ever bought something from someone just because you liked them? Felt bad? Wanted to see them win?
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This was super hard to talk about this and I did out a trigger warning. My father and I used to have a good relationship, but once you are grown and if you have a parent that is an addict it becomes a challenging relationship. Basically, because it is like your eyes are finally wide open. It is hard to come to terms with the fact that your parent cares more about their addiction than they do you.
Sometimes you aren't daddy's favourite.
Parents are supposed to protect you. And originally this podcast was supposed to be the first one that came out. However, I thought about it and I wanted to really make my podcast a pleasant series. However, I feel like some other people can relate to this, and thus I am sharing this story with you all.
Once again, I am grateful for the experience. It saves me a lot of time working for someone who already has a business. But that being said, I take pride in what I do, and if you value me, you will pay me way more because of what I bring to the table. So if we aren't talking money, you can not have something I created to give to other people; in the academic world, that would be considered plagiarism. For too long, people like people to give her creative output and not compensate. In the world we live in today, creativeness is everything, especially when working with a younger population. No one wants to work for anyone anymore because the rich get richer after stealing from people who create their own stuff, while the creators are on the struggle bus. Those days are over!
Who are you blaming for your life? In the upcoming podcasts, I will share some personal stuff about my life with y'all. At my age, I am grown to know that while our environments play a fundamental part in who we are, we can redirect our paths in life. We don't have to be our parents; even if we become them, once we recognize the pattern, we can change course. The work is "changing course." Having a parent who struggled with mental health, it is straightforward for me to lie in bed one day and stay there. But I make it a point to get up and do other things, not just something comfortable. For a period, I would blame my parents, but the reality is that they honestly did the best they could, and now the rest of the work is mine to do.
Talking about feminism and being a black feminist, what does it mean? As a black woman and a feminist, I feel almost in the middle of the argument. Why? I am a feminist. I believe in equality for women; I think our body is our right. But I also, as a black woman, sometimes feel like white feminist women use this as their right to pretend that they know about the black cause. So I think it is essential o educate yourself cross-culturally, but I also believe it is necessary to respect avenues you are just learning about.
I find this especially true when we speak about diversity. When discussing diversity, some people believe that a group of white people who sit in power positions can tell other people about variety. When that is inaccurate, if you want to talk about diversity, your brand should be a diversified brand that people can visually see.
Three key areas to improve if you want to become a top performer. First, if you currently have a 9-5 and are running a business or if you want a promotion, it all starts with you. You have to invest in yourself, start with discipline and develop goals. Design the life you want, but doing that requires a lot of mental real estate. LET'S TALK ABOUT IT!
Featuring Attachment Style: let's be clear you can not live in this world without disappointment. But not all disappointment is equal, and some forms of disappointment cause heavy tension and usually a breakdown in a relationship, but it doesn't have to. I want you to know that you can predict dissatisfaction from many people in your life by their behaviour. I am not saying that people can not change, but many people practice not being self-aware, so they change and not transform. So remember that transformation trumps change. I will do a podcast diving into attachment style, but right now, this is dealing with people who disappoint you. You can not avoid disappointment, but you can make allowances for it. I tell a quick story about how I was left holding a bag in a situation, but I pulled through because I know this person's character, and I know they give up super easy.
I watched Dahmer, and I think Evan Peters did an excellent job channelling him. It was lacking lustre, almost like it was missing something. Other than the gory crimes and the beer not sure what else happened. I will give credit where it's due and say that one thing this film achieved was making a point that he got away based on three things sociological, racial and homosexual. Sociologically the police did nothing because he was a white blonde male. So how could he ever be a killer? Racially- the people he went after were mostly Asian and black, and their lives have always been undervalued. Then homosexuality, reporting a homosexual crime back then and today, had people discounting your story and victim shaming you. Therefore, many lives could have been saved if the system did its job and put its stereotypes to bed. In pop culture, his name is never mentioned because of those things but also because of cannibalism which people find to be gross, and yes, it is that he ate his victims. But it is crucial people keep their victims in mind because this is an excellent example of how a person assaulted a boy and got a slap on the wrist. After all, he is white. He was so confident that he transcended into a murderer but also a cannibal, where the police escorted his victims into his home.
What can I say about this movie? First, I think it was well done, and Ana De Aramas was fantastic. She portrayed Marilyn in such a powerful way. The film told a story about a girl who grew up with a mentally ill mother, who battled her demons from abandonment to being unloved to being insecure. It portrayed a famous actress who had everything anyone could want. But honestly, when your mind goes, everything goes. One of the biggest takeaways from this film is that you never genuinely know someone's backstory or what motivates them to do the things they have done. And yet, as a society, we judge people for choices they made in their past. She did very well for someone like MM, who had no parents and grew up in an orphanage. Regardless of what she did to get there. Secondly, money is not everything, inner peace and healing turmoil are.
Stop asking other people, and believe in yourself. It is your life, and only you can live it; therefore, asking other people's opinions is stupid. Most of the time, if you think about it, what you are seeking is validation about your choices from other people. But they are not you and don't live your life; what is crazy for other people is a new start for someone else. People also have bad intentions and often act from that place because of envy. Ultimately, only you should be making decisions for yourself and letting the noise of others fall back. It's you for you!
Working on yourself is essential; it doesn't matter what is happening around you, but you must always work on yourself. Transition and change are very different, and people seem to miss that. A transition is more lasting than a change because you can not quickly transition into anything. You can change into something, but a transition takes more time; it takes more building to work. Anybody can change, but can anybody transition? To transition is a process, a frustrating one but a beautiful process.
People have a nerve; well, small businesses have a nerve ... When you run your business, it is essential to note that your character is everything. These days there is no such thing as a unique business. Anything that you do, someone else, I say this often because you are working almost 24 hours representing your brand as a business owner. And no business can be without customers; it isn't a thing. So being kind to loyal customers despite being in a bad mood is fundamental. So here is a bit of s storytime.
Are you active or passive in playing? The funny thing is that we all think we will be here forever or have time. The funny thing is we have no time, and that life is constantly happening; all that matters is how active you are when it comes to that. As in, what are you waiting for? It is like if you are sad and go on vacation and have a miserable time. You had a miserable time because the vacation is happening, but your mindset is not changing. Or waiting to go somewhere but you are waiting for a partner, so you never go. If you want something, you have to go for it; time does not wait for you. And if you passively sit by and wait, you will get nothing.
Thank you so much for being here! I am pleased to be back podcasting! Life has been crazy. I have been on an up and down rollercoaster, and whew, chile, it's been difficult. But I believe that life can throw challenges at you, and all you have to do is accept and move on. The truth is the adventure of life only starts when you are being challenged and have a greater calling. I have gone through so much personal stuff that has cut to the core. But I believe I rose to the challenge and am a much different person now; I am stronger.
Who do you need to L? I hate to write this, but I have to be honest sometimes; for your peace of mind, you need to “take an L.” I hate to lose and certainly hate to take an L, but at this point in life, I see a necessary reason to take one.
Let me explain; if you were given 24 hrs to live, would the annoying arguments and the frustration be worth pursuing in that 24 hours? As in that person who owes you the money you will never get back (super annoying), would it be worth guilting yourself to give it to the person? Or complain about lost money? Let karma be the judge cut ties, and make more money. Remember, nothing is ever lost without again. You also don’t have to guilt yourself because you helped someone who was in need. Alternatively, bad relationships (take the L), not being treated fairly (take the L), Fired from job (take the L), lost money (take the L), business went under (take the L). The hardest thing in life is to take an L when you invest your energy in something. It’s so brutal for me, honestly, but I do take L’S when my peace is being interrupted.
Sometimes you have to pay for peace; having someone nag you or bother you, or worse, rent a space in your mental real estate is gross. Losing your precious sleep and getting crow's feet over nonsense is unnecessary. While you need to validate your feelings, after 24-48hrs you have to let those feelings die. And trust me, in the end, they will receive the rightful karmic justice that will hit them correctly. You, on the other hand, capture your peace and free your mind to make more money and smash goals.
Ya I am done with that energy! Let’s chat about people thinking that they are ultimately better than you. And let me remind you, the person who believes that is usually way worse than you. You probably don’t have time for those thoughts because you are drinking water and minding your business.
There is nothing worse than a clown hopping out of their clown car and speaking down to you. The enlightened part of me wants to say, “the reflection of the hurtful things they say is said because they are unhappy with life.” But the super hood side wants me to tell you that’s only partially true.
Yes, they are disempowered, but they also want power, and they see you as powerful, so they want to tap in. Seriously, haven’t you noticed someone broke and miserable, but somehow they find themselves positioned in other people's lives advising and directing. However, people with actual lives don’t dictate other people's lives.
I believe that disempowered people are so disconnected they don’t even know how crazy they sound. And because they have no power, they maximize their superpower of manipulation, making you and I feel as though they are all-knowing and we are to fall in line. Simply by making you feel like something is wrong with you or suggesting they would like you more if… This is common in relationships, and when you want someone, you overlook the obvious red flag, or maybe you are in a transitional phase, so you don’t even notice it. People take it to their advantage, and they make it seem like you need their validation. And the day you don’t do what they say, they take shots.
I know how much you guys want the business podcast to come back, and I promise it will. But I decided to do a podcast about nasty emails because I think it's something that we really need to talk about. Suppose you run a business or you are the head of a company. In that case, you really need to practice this because email etiquette is crucial. This will have people not support your business if you continue to answer them with a passive-aggressive undertone. There should never be any reason to email somebody passive-aggressively. Because of the simple fact that an email is not something where you are in person, you have the ability with email if you are having a bad day or tired of people to clean up your behaviour because it is words. Believe it or not, it is straightforward to tell when someone is having a bad day because of the kinds of emails they send to other people. Nothing is grosser than a passive-aggressive email, especially to personal email accounts.
How do you feel about losing?
There can be winning in losing. The best kind of win is winning yourself back. I read that losing is freedom, and I never thought about that. I never aim to lose; I try my damnedest before I do. This concept was complex to grapple with. I had to think deeply about this, and I dove a bit further and focused on the relationship that I had to win. Dumping him, although sad, was also very freeing. I realized I don't have to get my hair done weekly, wear makeup all the time, attend dinners I don't want to go to. I was able to reclaim my time, and that was freedom. I had to lose something to gain something back.
Therefore, I reflected on what I had lost or been rejected from. This idea that failure, loss, rejection, is terrible but on the other side is freedom. Because the expectations have been dropped, you and I get to design the next phase of our lives in starting over. We always have the right to choose, although it doesn't feel that way when we equate loss. But loss and being lost equals freedom. It is a self-directed new start, as in losing a job. It is depressing, and y'all know I did a podcast about that, but in my loss, after the grief, I was able to direct myself to my dream career only because I was lost.
I don't think it comes as a surprise that Blac Chyna did not win her case. I believe that she might've had a more substantial chance had she stepped off-line for a few years, and nobody had seen how she was spending money or what she was buying. However, the jury has decided that the Kardashians are not in the wrong. Do I agree? Well, listen and find out. I really do like Blac Chyna, and I feel like there is a comeback for her. Still, it's a bit questionable at this time because whatever she does next will be a huge issue when it comes to her appeal. I think it's some point, people have to be honest about who they are as a person and where they need to change because if they don't and don't grow, it will only stay for them further.
What drives you? Are you waiting for motivation? This is for you. Motivation is not a thing; it is not sustainable. And often, you like me use it as a crutch. However, you generally have to motivate yourself, and you need passion to do that. Notice when you are passionate about something, you are quick to do it. A whole part of psychology is called the psychology of motivation because motives make people do things they never thought they could or were capable of doing. It all has to do with neuroplasticity and creating new neurons, and that's what purpose does. Purpose trumps motivation because it’s the bigger picture and usually fuelled by passion. Ever notice that you are exhausted, but if you have an assignment due, you magically have just enough energy to do it? That’s because doing the assignment is in line with your purpose and so even through you are tired you still can do it.
Intrinsic motivation is more powerful than external because. As YOU have to want something, and purpose creates passion which creates inspiration. The whole expression mind over matter is the basis here. No one can want something for you; it is something that you have to want. Waiting to be motivated will have you waiting forever. You need to get up and get to the task at hand.
I used to really like Blac Chyna and I still do. I admired her hustle for many years until well I guess she fell off. I think she had multiple opportunities to make money but some of those shows really damaged her "celebrity status". The world we live in today, people are very involved with our lives, yelling and screaming will turn people off from you. I do think that she has been through a lot, but also think she does have to take some accountability. People say all kind of things about her, where I see someone who has been through trauma, and really is looking for some restitution. Not a Kardashian fan but I don't think they really ganged up to kill the show. I mean the show was okay but they split up, so what would they film? I in know what believe that Rob was in the right its gross what he did, in no way should you have posts private pictures of someone.
Seriously? Can we be honest? You and I are a catch. It is a little insane that someone would not want us. But, okay, we are perfect. Lol Okay, no, we aren't, but have you ever been rejected? Has it ever made you feel sad? Have you ever taken it personally?
Rejection is never easy; I did an entire podcast on it. But I am reframing the question of How do you not want me? To you don't deserve me. Also, when some of these people reject including a workplace, it is really because we don't match. It's usually some low vibe person or crappy workplace that doesn't value people. So, in the end, we do better; if you look back at tour history at the people you may have liked that did not like you back, many of them are the same or worse off they were years ago. You, my friend and dear listener (even if in a rut), your glow up usually supersedes there. That is not bragging. It's a simple fact.
I remember when I liked this guy, and I would move heaven and earth for some attention until I found his energy exhausting. He also did the bare minimum but always talked a really big game. I felt rejected because he wasn't that into me. The funny story is when my rose-coloured glasses were removed, it's like, really girl! The guy has nothing but lip service and creative lying experiences out of this world. Why on earth did I try that hard for someone who lacks consistency, trust and honesty. Anyway, when I left the circus, I ended up with a wonderful lawyer (he isn't always), who, if nothing else, doesn't lie and is always consistent. I had to let go to let in someone else. This also applies to work; I think I told y'all about that gross job interview.
Sometimes you have to reframe and revaluate. And if that's too hard as yourself. would I pay for this person to treat me this way? (Cause we all love money.)
Everyone wants to give up, so don't feel special. Life gets complicated and presents some tough challenges that sometimes we have to go alone. People don't understand what we are going through, and it can feel very isolating.
I am here to tell you that the obstacle you face is the real way. Think of your life and something you never thought you would overcome, and you overcame it. No one is encouraged 24/7. People get defeated and unmotivated, but you know what sets a winner apart? The ability to push through, the ability to still do something. However, you may not be 100%. You may be operating at 30%, but give yourself credit because you are committed to yourself and aren't breaking your promise.
Obstacles build character, and they build strength; everything you have been through that has challenged you gave you power. You literally float through the things that people trip over because of the challenges you have adapted and conquered.
Commit to yourself, and never break a self-commitment; even if you don't feel like tackling it, tackle it and get it done.
My thoughts: I do not in any way condone violence. However, I also don't condone trolling either. I believe that Chris Rock did not deserve to be publicly slapped by Will Smith at such a powered event. Especially winning an Oscar for such a touching film. A film about a black father that trained his daughters to become the most outstanding female athletes, commanding respect when they entered the room. That being said, Rock was dead wrong to speak on a medical condition; I don't care whether people feel like he did not know. Many women don't choose to go bald by choice. Some of them do, and others have no choice. Speaking on a woman's hair but precisely a "black woman's" hair is wrong. As black women still face the "hair convo" at workplaces and school, not being able to wear braids or the fro look. Ironically he made the movie good hair and did chastise women who wore weaves.
That being said, I know Rock was traumatized as a kid, and I can imagine how humiliating it was for him to be slapped on stage. However, I think he did a good job keeping his composure. But often find, people who go through trauma or were bullied turn around and bully others. Comedy is comedy 100%. It's fun, and you can for sure make fun of people. However, medical and personal struggles should be off-limits.
I don't think Will was wrong for standing up for his wife; I just don't think he needed to put his hands on him. He could have yelled at him, for sure. However, the slap was overboard.
Only invest your mind in things that matter to you
Let's be abundantly clear, every person in our lives takes up some mental real estate. As we age, we have to make allowances for some and X out others that don't deserve to be there. So many of us live on the edge every day; the last thing we want or need is some gaslighting person always there to aggravate. And so I tell you to start selling that property.
To me, friendships and relationships are an investment, and you see, when it comes to money, you are very careful where you invest it. But when it comes to our energy, we tend to invest haphazardously and then wonder why we are so tired or irritated. This is funny because time and energy are the things we can never get back. You could be dead broke tomorrow and be a millionaire the next day. But you can't be 40 and then 25 tomorrow. So we need to start protecting our energy and focusing on the people who are important and have something to contribute to our lives and dump everyone else.
Ask yourself this: If I was paying for this relationship, would this person still get my money?
What defines you? It's clear on social media today that many people who, let's be honest, are nobody's feel like somebody's because they flex online. Meaning they post pictures of houses they can't afford, drive cars they can't pay for, fake documents, borrow money from everyone around them to flex. The true definition of flexing is making your own money, cultivating your lifestyle on your dime. Eventually, the people you borrow from will be tired of you, the car repossessed, and chances are you may be homeless or sued.
Why?
Everyone on this earth wants to feel and be unique and social media gives you a platform to do just that. But, unfortunately, it gives you this false sense of "Look at me" many people with no talent other than being attractive. But attractive is subjective and not forever, and eventually, you cant capitalize on your looks.
It becomes more challenging for us to be authentic because we begin to live in a parallel universe, from the IG flex to the debt collector calls, which only brings us further from ourselves and closer to hell.
Y'all know I love luxury things, but I purchase them because I like them, not because other people have them. I believe in being my authentic self, so I don't live up to other people's definition of me. I refuse to go into debt to borrow anything from anyone to pretend all is good. Look at all the YouTubers going flat broke from all that flexing. Don't be them!
This is a storytime/ rant about this awful experience with an interviewer. They were super judgmental and rude for no reason. I figured many people could relate to this. While I believe these people have no manners, many interviewers think they are God. An interview should be based on the person's skill set when one is going for a job interview. Who cares really what they look like, or what they do after work hours.
The funny thing is that most people live double lives, including the douchy interviewer judging you. It's like acting high and mighty when you low key have an alternative lifestyle or are just miserable with your life. The most comical thing is that when people have these mediocre jobs, they think they are Jesus and because you won't commit to 40,000 a year as they have, you are the opposition which is crazy. I can not live on that, and many people alike can not. So, therefore, they run side businesses that they are passionate about and can help other people. So because I run a business, I can't work?
These women are married, and that's fine. I am not and I have nobody paying any bills around here. I can commit to a 9-5, but after 5 is my time. Running a business in no way means that you can't work a 9-5. The work culture today is having more than 1 job. So because I run a business in a small-minded person's head, I can't work normally. Rather than seeing a person who runs a business as an asset, people are just jealous. That's why you can never tell a company you own or have another job. It's a joke because they always do!
We all have the same 24hrs in a day, sis, and if you want to run a business or go back to school, do it. However, don't guilt me because I want more for my life. Lots of us today work 2-3 jobs, myself included, so I will not let judging Judy stop my bag. I am also a single woman, and I don't have a husband to supplement my income, so we have to have another job or business over here. Thank you!
Welcome to my Birthday edition of “Good Morning Text.” Firstly, I want to thank you for supporting my business but mostly my book. I had written this when I was going through a lot with someone I liked. But life changes; you grow and evolve.
This marks 31 years on earth, and I’m in a different stage of mind. Literally, in 6 months, my life has changed.
I released a birthday edition to symbolize growth and make the redo more representative of where I am today—using lighter colours and making some changes.
I have never been more in love with myself, crafting what I want for myself. I tried to transmit this feeling to you.
I wrote a book last year, and it did pretty well. So I revamped it and it will launch March 7 and it will be $5. You’ll be able to have access immediately. This is a positive intention book! I even changed the cover.
Are you called negative when you are honest?
I wanted to do a podcast about negativity, which is a good thing. But, unfortunately, I think people believe that negative is wrong and it isn't. For the most part, being negative is a bad feeling we can all agree; it makes other people uncomfortable, and after a while, we get tired of ourselves. However, I implore you to take a different approach to negativity; it's a signal for change when we get negative. There is a shift in something in our lives, whether job, partner, education, or just life.
The things that once pleased us lead our bodies to stress and annoyance. Essentially ask yourself, have you or anyone you know ever made a change in their life when they were in a positive space? Be honest. I am guessing the answer would be "NO." When we are positive, things are good, probably moving our way. Life is not about stagnation. It is about moving and, of course, resting in areas. However, we live to evolve. It's a part of humanness, and the only way to do that is to address those negative feelings.
Being a Black Business Owner- One thing that I am proud of is being a black woman. Although I am black 365 days, I can appreciate black history month because it educates people about black people and what we have done for humanity—starting with everyday inventions that people mindlessly use and never think about.
Black history always reminds us of slavery and what our ancestors endured. Today, the modern approach is to do just that and support black businesses and entrepreneurial moves that black people are making. It reminds us of what they had to go through and all the pain they dealt with from being treated less than human. The pain they bared to get their freedom and our freedom today. Then, we would not have the right to vote, eat-in restaurants, live in neighbourhoods, drive, run a business, get married, have families (on our terms) and overall freedom. We are far from equal opportunities, but some of our oppressional chains have eased up.
Even though I celebrate the Lunar Year in February and pay respects to my 爷爷 (grandpa), I also celebrate being a black woman and all that my ancestors endured for me to be in the position I am today. Without them, the things I take for granted, like being educated and owning a business, would never happen. Of course, there are many challenges today being black and female. However, I am in a position to make changes thanks to them, and I am reminded of that every day, I get into my car, work at the clinic, and get coffee at Starbucks. These mundane things that are major like being a black female and having the job I have; would not be possible without their struggle; I have the privilege they did not get. I am grateful for the sacrifice. Now it is my turn to carry the torch.
Companies need to train workers to deal with time off better. People are very insensitive to the needs of others. It is excellent to work from home or sit in your comfortable office chair and dictate to others. We all have the same life stressors, so why people pretend that people aren't allowed to take off is beyond me. People need to be mindful of how they speak to others; why make someone wrong for taking time off? Everyone is entitled to a day off, and when we want the time, we take it, so we should allow others.
What I think annoys me the most is that it becomes evident that people are replaceable through the pandemic. Companies still thrive without past employees. Sure they have to get coverage, but you are just a number. And because you are a number, you have to take care of yourself and take the time when you need it. You are not a number to your friends and family; you are a person they rely on and come to when they need any support.
Workers are WORKERS, and they need to show respect to fellow workers and respect that when a person needs time off, to grant it. Especially if the person never calls in but has to. Furthermore, you know people live on the edge, and the last thing you should do to someone is guilting them because they need personal time.
This one is super personal. I usually do not talk about my personal life, at least when I see the person. However, I am older now and wiser, and people seem to really be interested in my romantic life. But to be fair, people have always had an interest in my personal life, lol I am not sure, I think, because they find it filled with so much drama. It's like a novella with me and these guys.
However, although not my forever partner, my current partner, just a lovely and peaceful stopover is terrific. After a year of tumultuous and toxic guy, this one could not be more amazing. Just because he mentors me with my career transition and checks on me, I felt like I should share what we did for V-tines.
Also, I speak about the beautiful V-tines I had with a few of my friends. Anyway, I wanted to spread some joy doing Valentine both ways.
How to boost sales for Valentine’s Day. Some things to sell you a little bit different, also should your business type really have a sale? Plus is it okay to have a sale for Black History Month and who should do that?
When you fall out alignment With friends and family, what do you do? When you no longer feel a place for these people in your life. Is it Okay to let go?
This podcast is about not falling back, if you feel like you’re at your whits end listen up. I give you some tips I use to maintain my composure even though I myself can totally relate. I am so sorry this one is not all crisp like the others. Due to some other stuff I did not get the chance, to make it on time. However, thanks so much for coming I did not want to miss an episode. The art work for Feb will be up next week!
Have you ever been triggered by something and simply couldn’t figure out why it was a trigger? I recorded this because I find this to be a major topic today. And everyone at some point feels like they aren’t good enough at something. This was more personal it was about how a person was making me feel because I already felt that way about myself. He fed my not good enough belief system. Once I cut him off I think I developed into the woman I was destined to be. You don’t need anyone who makes you feel bad about you.
This is about business and personal. It’s hard to go through things but it’s harder to grow through them. Being new doesn’t meant being a different person it means being a BETTER version of yourself. We are great people so we don’t need to be anyone else. We all have untapped potential, that we haven’t been able to use. Take the challenges and let them grow you into a better version of yourself.
If your life seems stalled, try creating a routine. The most successful people in the world have routines. Routines show us where our time goes, and nothing or more valuable than time
Here is what I have planned to do, to be better this year. I am reclaiming my time and my peace
I love running a business and I get it, sometimes you go through rough moments when you make no money. You also go through times where there are no customers. Have you been giving or just receiving? I believe that in business like life you have to give to receive. Not just because we are in Holiday mode, but customers who have been supporting you all along, you can show them appreciation in some way. I speak about that in this episode
I post bonus content sometimes. But be warned this one is a little emotional. I know a lot of people enjoy listening to the podcast late at night. This is personal it’s about a break up that has crippled me emotionally.
What can you give you customers that doesn’t take to much of your time? What can you add to their experience to show them you appreciate them? Now is the time to think about converting your customers to REPEAT customers.
How do you let go of someone who means so much to you? How do you say goodbye to someone who has so much potential? Like how do you go about? This was a difficult subject to talk about it because I thought it would be different.
December is an excellent month to get new customers and move products. But you have to be smart and start ahead of people. If money is an issue for ad campaigns, don’t worry I am giving you the most affordable way to do it. You guys will love it. Also checkout @topaproductions on IG
My response to this clown telling me he doesn’t find me attractive, after years of seeing each other. You would think I would be negative and really react. But when you have peace in your life and also evaluate the person telling you these things….your perception will change.
Given my short time to record this. I wanted to talk about classical literature not being inclusive to non-white writers and women. It’s interesting watching literature evolve to not just include classical time pieces, or kingdoms. It’s nice to include video game storylines, and it keeps literature on trend. It’s nice that literature is now being used as a general term, and incorporating art such as Hamilton.
Sometimes it is necessary to take a day off, even if you have no sick days. Who doesn’t love money? But sometimes adequate rest is necessary to avoid burnout.
Have you ever been with someone who was like this? They are faithful in there own head because they aren’t sleeping with other people. But in reality they are having relationships with other people emotionally ?
You know I run my business and I take it really serious. Well I have now merged my business together www.realqueenhypnosis.com the service launches Jan 2022. Stay posted! Also pleased to announce we I will be running mostly FREE workshops monthly on there.
Are you stopping your progress? Are you in your way? Are you making up stories about situations that aren’t happening ?
December is busy! And maybe you work a second job, or you decided to take a mental rest. That’s okay because if you listen up you can run your business, without much physical effort.
Have you ever felt those 3 emotions at the same time? Whether business or personal, they can truly effect how you feel about yourself. Btw I tell a storytime about stealing….ummm ya
How to reappraise your work situation...weather you love or hate your job reappraisals are so important. If you hate your job this can help you detect why, also highlight what you are willing to tolerate vs what your aren’t. If you love your job (yay) this is goos because work dynamics change including your workload. This may help you determine whether it’s time for a bonus, more money, or a promotions. Appraisals are fundamental they help shift you back into why you are there and aligning with your goals.
Are you in pain? Does your neck, back or shoulder hurt? Check out this book “Healing Back Pain”. In this episode I am talking about my struggle with recent pain and how I got rid of it, by realizing it was a deeper issue. Keep in mind I was cleared by my doctors. I also have a background in neuroscience. I believe pain should be treated by a medical doctor, or in conjunction with one. Some pain is psychosomatic, check out this book.
What’s your thoughts working from home? Do you like it better than being in office ? Do you feel more overwhelmed than being in the office? We are living in a time where work and home are one. This is not good for mental Health
Omg!! I am so glad to be back and talking to y’all. I have missed u guys so much! This is just a general chat!Today is an off podcast because it dropped on a Wednesday! But remember the podcast is Tues and Thurs.
You market yourself every day. From the time you leave the house your marketing, believe it or not people are wondering what you do? Where you are from? If your a business person and need more clients pay attention...class is in session
Can a boss b have a solid relationship and be successful in business? Does that combination work ? Can your relationship withstand your career?
Hi Dr. Ruth! Everyone has questions about my sex life. In the future I have some people who will be dropping in for these talks! But let’s get loose.
Your brain maybe malnourished and that is not Okay. It is time to put yourself on a mental diet to garner more self development. What are you giving your energy and time to? If you want a promotion or want to be a successful at business you need to train your mind like you train your body. Do you feed your mind with nutrition ? Or are you currently just living, with a malnourished head?
People have reached out to me. So I am fine y’all I just hope this could help someone else. Or at least be in support to someone else, who may be in this position. No one can ever be you, no matter how hard they try. And if someone leaves you...good...you don’t need them.
This one is called honesty, and being truthful. This is hard to admit because I am in no way jealous. Who would be to an Ex con that has no money, lives off her, and suffers from various illnesses. God did not put me on this earth to take on those kinds of struggles. I am supposed to be fabulous, book flights, collect cheques and be great. In no way was that life supposed to be mine. But still I’m human, and I needed a moment.
This is the part that broke my CARE button. This is also to show you people’s intentions, just because you forget about someone, it doesn’t mean they forget about you. This is why personal work is important because as we work on ourselves we get mentally stronger. When people are jealous they will look to bring you down, while this lady is trying to get pregnant to spite me, I’m booking first class flights. No weapon formed against me shall proposer.
Never get it twisted, words are hurtful and they can leave a huge stain on you. We have to unpack things that are said to us to move forward. It sounds petty but this has been one of the reasons why I find it hard to trust. I mean I know it wasn’t true ( cause your girl is thick and attractive) but words Hurt. The subconscious always hears everything and words are powerful.
Hindsight is really 20/20. When you look at things as an adult and realize how people you thought were you friends were actually out to get you. How seemingly they were nice to you, when in reality they were plotting to snuff out your light. Having low self esteem can really hinder you. But it’s all a learning curve and okay it’s not a blessing so it’s a strong lesson.
The ultimate betrayal a friend sleeping with your partner. What’s worse is how many times she did it...How she played on her so called best friends insecurities. These are all true stories that happened to me. I think this can help someone, or another person going through pain. Trauma is trauma and it’s not something that can’t be measured.
We end our convo that we have been having. We talk about being your own brand and how your personality can ruin your business. Then we speak about toxic people, and then them wanting to snuff out our lights.
Happy Canada Day!!! I’ve decided to drop this gem today. Choosing do something is in our control, no matter how we try to push it off.
This is a shorty....This is what happened after I was fired. How it led me to the power of I AM. Also how I stopped wasting time making other people rich and keeping myself poor.
Wow, thank you all So much for tuning in! This is part 2, we shift topics but staying within our personal values. We speak about the RH franchise, and the infamous Giardi case happening now. Hebah is a past RH viewer and I’m still sort of in it. We speak about keeping up with the Jones, to the pressure that coming from rags to riches puts on a person and then to maintain it.
Yes! Blog are amazing and so many ways to make easy money. But it can be frustrating when you don’t see a turnaround.
Have you ever experienced racism in the workplace? Would you continue to work for a company such as this? Is money more important than values ? This happened a few months ago but I think it’s important. Let’s have this conversation.
This is part 1 of a two part conversation. Hebah asks me some so critical questions, about why I’ve taken this path. I speak on growing up and having “the social worker” conversation. Which leads us into a conversation of the W.E.B Du Bois and speaking about the double conscious but really for black women the triple Conscious.
People complain about these types of businesses all the time....Do they have any value ?
Being fired is horrible, but don’t let it represent you. Take this change and this opportunity. This is just a small obstacle in the greater plan..you were probably better than your bosses. Embrace it and push through the feelings. Easier said than done, but don’t get caught in being fired, remember so many people are into power plays, and if they get the chance to put you down to feel better about themselves they will. When you get fired do not entertain anything that is said about you that is negative. Don’t let there reasons sink into your psyche.
I am so happy to get to cohost with my fabulous friend, who is a savvy and accomplished business woman. She is such a powerhouse. It’s so amazing when you meet like minded people conversations just blossoms, and education is always present.
Angry at Work ? How to keep it professional when you angry at work? Having a bad day, week or year? Do you work with other people and need to keep it professional even when you’re annoyed! We all have someone in our work space that is a trigger for us, they say things, or do things sometimes intentionally to bother us. But for some of us, they will always be there. We can’t change them, we have to cope before we give them a black eye in the printer room. We have to control our mental health, and create a wall to block this out.
Here are some strategies and a story time!
Rethink your situation of being laid off or fired. Use this opportunity to grow and live your dream. And if you are having trouble with this concept, think of this as you are “retired” from your position. You have some free time to create the job you want...if you want tips coachingkay@gmail.com if you are having trouble with getting over this feeling tap the link in bio
Which business is better? I like both but for different businesses. It also depends on how much money your have, how much time you have, and how hard your willing to work. Drop shipping is great for people work limited budgets but there is a catch. Wholesale is great for people with bigger budgets, specifically for quality control....but again there is a catch.
Have you ever been fired? This podcast was from awhile ago, but I had saved this because I realize other people maybe going through this. Also regardless of how much you dislike your job, being fired is never good for your ego. However, being fired can lift you to a better place...after losing my job rather than getting upset, I actually went full throttle into my business and it became successful, because I got in alignment....it was hard to do, but if I can do it so can you...here is my tea
Okay so all jokes aside, I would still like to believe that NOT all men are the root of all evil. I am just tired of the disrespect and men need to do better. Like since when is it cool to be disrespectful?
COVID-19 is crazy right now, many businesses will not be able to reopen, and consider the fact people are also highly afraid to shop. It is important to move online. Closing a business does not mean you have failed, translate it and your skills to something else.
Very light convo, have you been into someone lately? I think I’m missing that...but am I?
Am I like the only one that has issues with kissing? Does this mean I am so emotionally broken? Who can relate to this? And does kissing mean your getting in deep? Who wants to be deep with someone ?
Omg! If you have not checked out the Tina Turner Documentary you are behind. I wanted to discuss it due to something personal that recently happened to me. A lot of women go through abusive situations, and some like me are afraid to even admit it. However, not sharing our truths, only hurt us.
I am thinking of adding a series, where I speak about side hustles....Maybe doing 3 episodes.
If you have a limited budget you can still start a business. This podcast is dedicated to the “maker” the person who has a skill that they do and can create. Here is the breakdown of how to stretch your money. $100 is a good amount to start. $150 is better. $250 is a fabulous budget. $500 is amazing and leaves rooms for errors. Remember you can book with me at coachingkay@gmail.com for more information.
This book was on my reading list for a class. I was blessed to hear Tea talk about her book on a panel and her journey. She is so remarkable and I am looking forward to reading more of her work.I am obsessed, I don’t think I have ever felt so moved after reading a book since “The Coldest Winter Ever”. It’s like the short, pocket, less violent, less sexual version. The writing just feels personal, and ironically I think we all know one of these women’s in our lives.
So I recently had an experience...a confrontation if you will, with another woman. Who didn’t like my opinion, and tried to invalidate what I was saying.
When is enough....enough? When do you walk away from someone who you invested so much time into? And okay they aren’t bad, and sometimes they show sign of change...but they never really change!
Here is a story time about how I entered back into the world of cohabitation and why I exited. But rather than walk away and be bitter, this time I took some educational points. I learned about how I wanted to be treated and how far I am willing to compromise. I even discovered maybe he had me in my feelings, and I’m not used to that. Purchase Good Morning text March 19
Hmm as a young black woman, relationships were different for me. I am so lucky to have diversified friends. And when we get together, we chat. It’s so interesting when my friends say, since they were little they were trained to be married. As I reflect, although I’m black I come from a mixed background. I literally have a “tiger mom” it was important for me to be educated and trained into a profession. Marriage was third after the career. But funny now that I’ve dominated education and career, I have little interest in marriage. Mainly because as a black woman I have work and world changes to make....what’s your thought ?
An embarrassing story time, about a time when I was “actively” dating and this man asked me to leave smh. Lol enjoy my embarrassment.
How to spend little money marketing your business, but get the best impact. The pandemic is proving to be a money problem, but it doesn’t have to be
During COVID so many businesses are going under and shutting down. But you can open a business right now if you do it smartly. Listen to find out more
How can we change our schemas? Listen to how pain can help you grow, how pain being with that pain and letting it move through you, will build you!
I am so excited to share my clinic that will be opening soon! The bookings will be available. I am talking about hypnosis and what’s it used for
How do you start over? Sometimes you need to take a pause! Want some clarity listen now
Stuck in a rut? Don’t know what to do? This is for you, as who can’t relate to this now
What does it take to start a business? Who can run a business ? What does it cost to run a business?
This is an intro about my podcast! I promise it gets a lot better! Come and enjoy this ride with me!