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We must bring back elegance and refinement to our culture. Never will we solve our issues by asking others on the outside to do so for us. It's time to redefine what it means to be "black," as we shatter the myths of Willie Lynch.
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Many women throughout history have displayed strength when needed. But are Black Women emotionally manipulated out of the need to be loved and helped by being stereotyped as " a strong Black Woman." Is there a sense of "false praise" that covers up the pain of lacking the help we need from Black Men?
Do we as Black Women call ourselves confident and strong for wearing revealing clothes, yet continue to question why we are only seen as," sexual objects?" Or when we become the victims of sexual violence?
Despite the trauma that the Black Woman faces- it will take more strength for her to hold on to her femininity.
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Could it be that the attitudes, and mannerisms that Black Men currently hold, lays way to the rationale behind how they lost their birthright in the first place.
Besides the many conscious communities that we have, has the Black Man ever truly thought about how his land and rights were revoked by God himself? Furthermore, how to step back into the good graces of the most high?
The Black Man says that:
Black women are eager to apply for welfare- meanwhile the Black Man was eager to send her and his child down to welfare.
When White Men fail- they blame themselves as men.- When Black Men fail they blame their women.
The White Man isn't afraid to die for his women or belief- the Black Man doesn't even see their own women( or children) are to fight for.
The Black Man calls his daughters and women whores- yet, what the Black Man fails to comprehend- is that he has to answer to God about it all.
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Why do Black people frequently destroy their freedom, education & family- something that many older Black people died at the attempt to obtain.
The Black Man isn't seeing the value of the Black Woman, because he see's none within himself, nor his offspring. Rather than having the intentions of having sex with his own women randomly- he should view black females as the vessels that replicate images of his DNA towards his future lineage and long life standing of his last name.
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How can the Black Man:
Love and teach his daughter respect- if he abuses Black Women all day.
How can he call his daughter a young lady- if on a daily basis he calls Black Women "B's" and whores?
How can he teach other upcoming Black Men his role in protecting his, women and community- if he sits along with other men; while the Black Woman is violated?
How can you protect what you do not respect, and hold value for what you do not love?
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We can no longer let classism, colorism, employment, educational status, or religion (tactics that were designed to keep us distracted from unifying) stop us from developing what should matter the most, which is a healthy, fresh, living environment where we as Black People can learn how to live together without harming each other.
Because we shouldn't have to live around others to obtain what we should have amongst ourselves- tranquility!
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Why was the average Black man taught to display their masculinity in ways, that other men were taught, would destroy their own communities and nations.
For example: Today's Black Man has plenty to "say" about Black childhood poverty, and Black single motherhood.
But doesn't a true man have a plan of action for their nation/community- that of which he has a plan of action to execute or to predict a certain outcome?
Often, you see Black Men congregate about the discrepancies within the Black neighborhoods(and Black Women.) But you hardly ever see the Black Man joining together on how he can positively make a change for the better for his own self, women and children.
Why does the Black man feel as though violence within his own neighborhoods, long jail sentences and having sex with many women leaving a string of illegitimate children behind - the perfect example of "Black masculinity?"
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As Black People we often discuss how we are the most influential people in regards to style, dress, mannerism, verbiage, and music.
But when will we become aware, that our natural ability to lead- is constantly being exploited- simply because (a) it makes other people money to place us on a platform to become some sort of icon to promote a image that makes revenue for everyone but ourselves and (b) the place of influence that Black People in this Country primarily hold (such as music, fashion, sports, and dancing) doesn't come close to the power of influence over the world that Blacks are capable of.
Only if Black People could wake up to see that the traditions that we pass down to our children are nothing short of a program designed to keep us several generations behind.
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Why do we continue to normalize, and shrug off- that raising children on our own as Black Women is killing us!
If it wasn't, than why are so many Black Women killing, and abusing our Black children? Why, because the truth isn't being told about the cases: of strokes, hypertension, death rate, and mental diseases that develop in trying to raise children singular.
Society is known for cheering Black Women on for being this "strong" woman for doing something that if the shoe was other foot- they wouldn't be proud of themselves.
As much, as police brutality, Black male on male homicide, and thug life is killing the Black Man- so is single motherhood killing the Black Woman.
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Many Black Men have expressed the need for their child to have a biological father in their lives. Also, how this effects the child emotionally and psychologically. The concern is all fine and well- but where was that same level of concern when Black fathers decide that the street life, crime, and other women are more important than their own family( or child.)
If the Black Man doesn't feel obliged to answer emergency calls, provide wellness checks,( in regards to their child's safety) spend time, attention, and contribute to the financial affairs of his children for significant amounts of time- especially anytime he may feel that other activities are more important-. Then should the mother be ultimately responsible or obligated for the father to see their child?
Bottom line is: if the father doesn't feel obligated to see his children - should the mother be obligated in making sure he has the option to see them?
Furthermore, it is one thing for a relationship or marriage not to work out; besides, every decent man deserves to be a father to their child. Which should only be a "plan B " option.
But, since when did the Black man begin to believe himself to be such an "excellent father" making the "plan B" option of single father hood- "option A" Almost as if to say, that he never had any intention of creating a legit family in the first place.
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What the Black Woman must understand is that many of the roles and customs we view as "popular" or "self made" were actually hand selected and pre determined for the Black Woman to conduct herself in a harmful manner that not only destroys herself, future offspring and brings destruction to the Black race in general.
As long as the Black Woman remains consciously dead, then she also remains spiritually void(empty.) An empty vessel that can be filled with any fad or ill-fashion(exploited) while still performing physically with her body. Therefore she can then be told that she is anything- anything but her true self!
If Black people have any chance left at surviving- it will have to be done through the womb of a conscious mined Black Woman.
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There comes a time when we as Black people have to start questioning our actions- which may keep us in a lowered state of being.
Could it be that the customs, and traditions that we've grown to love the most, which may be the most harmful, and the major cause of our own demise?
Why do we make the things that cause us the most trauma and pain- popular?
Why do our children continuously have to look at external figures to find positive examples of an adult to emulate and mold themselves after, when they should be able to look up to their own parents- or at least images that resemble their own. Which in retrospect keeps the generational cycle of conditioning our future black children ,"looking up to" or "seeing someone" that is non- black as better than.
When will we wake up to see that the "superior" role can't exist with out an "inferior" player!
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What happened to the days when Black Men were beaten and wounded- that Black Women had a bucket of water and salve waiting to heal his open areas?
And when the Black Woman's lower parts were torn apart and needed to heal, right along with being stripped of her clothing- it was the Black man who placed his cloak upon her shoulders for covering. And it was also him who still told her that he still loved her with a warm embrace.
Over time, we've been conditioned to mock, and grow insensitive to each other's needs? How much of what was instilled inside of us through mental and psychological abuse from others; do we repeat and project outwardly to our own fellow Black Men and Women without being aware of where it stems from?
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Throughout slavery, it was a method of torture and punishment; for one Black Man to whip, tar feather, or kill another Black Man for no reason at all. If he refused to do so then his life would end. As Black Men- how much of those practices have traveled down your bloodline?
Why does the Black Man feel a need to kill his own brethren with such intensity?
If Black Men refuse to find value in the lives of other Black Men; how will they truly ever, inside the lives of their own women and children?
The biggest distraction for Black Men( in achieving a higher form of self) is hatred and self division. Which in retrospect, keeps the Black Man blind- and constantly walking down a path of darkness.
When will Black Men start to benefit their own society?
Why does the Black Man continue to view other Black Men as the enemy?
When his fellow brother is all he truly has.
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We use the rationale, that many marriages end in divorce that involve children ,as a justification to our dysfunction within the Black community. Also, as an excuse to never get married. Which also gives us the excuse of never reaching for the sky, or having higher expectations for ourselves.
If Black Men and Women started dating with a purpose(i.e, marriage, commitment and raising a stable family for future children) in mind instead of just dating for sex - We'd be better off as a people.
And if you have already made certain errors or mistakes - why not sacrifice the time that it takes to raise your children not to continue the same behaviors.
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Even though some may have never picked up a bible- the average Black man can quote verbatim on how women are supposed to follow a mans lead and came from his rib; but develop selective memory about the part where God stated that a Man was responsible for the land, women, and children- and that he should work by the sweat of his brow .
The Black man can no longer pacify himself by using the excuse that all Black women just want head of household, without realizing that many Black men willfully left their home for one reason or another. And that some women had to make a choice: either pick up the slack a man left behind to survive, or die!
Many Black men have a mentality that teaches them to only worry about their life- and not that of their children's children -children. Because many Black men's father never worried about their lifestyle up until and after adulthood nor the financial situation they leave their children in.
If Black men could understand that the most important part of his life is not only when he is still living, but decisions he makes that will benefit or effect his children's lives more than a 100 years into the future. It is only then, can the Black Man truly understand the significance and the meaning behind the reasoning of him needing to become Head of Household.
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Many " U.S" Citizens are claiming that as usual, Black People are "over reacting" simply because they are calling or referring the horse reins that are being used to attack Black Haitians at the border " a whip" - as if that denotes or justifies the fact of the reasoning behind the Border patrol men using his rein on the backs of Haitians in the first place!
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Why does the Black Woman offer sex?
Because she hasn't been taught how to offer other skills and qualities to attract with.
The Black Woman was conditioned to "gain attention," because "love" was something she could never obtain.
The Black Woman must gain the confidence to find out which man will love who she is from the inside vs the others who like only what they see from the outside.
The Black Woman must work on her inner beauty in order to find out the truth.
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(!!!!!!A special thank you to all my listeners: as September 22nd marks 1 full year of The Truth with Trinity's Motivational Podcast!!!!!!! )
What actions are both Black Women and Men committing that still deem them as inferior?
For it isn't "who we are" but what we continue to do" and refuse to change -is as to the reasoning behind us remaining inferior.
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The Black Man complains that he can't walk in America with the sense of safety. Yet, he hasn't answered why he can't feel safe while walking amongst his own brethren within his own communities. Because after all, if one can't feel safe while being around those that look just like you- then where can you truly feel safe at.
Why do we continue to look for someone else to provide an environment for us, that we should be able to provide for ourselves such as:
Clean sidewalks
non-graffiti buildings
non urinated sidewalks, hallways, sides of buildings and alleyways
safe pathways for our kids to walk safe to and from school
A non- violent environment within Black Communities
Other demographics & places of residence's are called "neighborhoods" meanwhile predominantly Black communities are called "hoods" because we don't have unity, trust, or a sense of duty and responsible to look out for the people that live next to us, neither do we feel a need to maintain the atmosphere that in which we live inside.
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There is plenty of online material that states that the type of men that Black Women are known for dating are thugs. But hardly any of the material go into detail, or educates our young Black Women on "why" they shouldn't date a certain kind of guy. Furthermore, what ramifications that will be placed not only upon herself; but her children's lives as well.
As women, we can tend to have a," we can fix a man" mentality, when in actuality we need to accept a man for who he is without having unrealistic expectations of trying to make him fit into what we want him to be. And if we can't accept who they are- learning to have the confidence, courage, and self esteem to walk away.
We also must change the things that we may find "attractive" if we want a successful family.
When the Black Woman truly believes she deserves better- it will indeed motivate the Black Man to become better!
~ The Truth with Trinity~`
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One of the main practices that keeps Black people at the lower end of the totem pole; is our black youth finding difficulty in differentiating between right from wrong. How could our children possibly know, if we as parents, are not only influencing them on, "how to " but also engage in activities with our child(ren) - that we're supposed to protect them from doing.
Then we become frustrated when today's youth are found disrespecting adult authority- all because they have been raised to think that being an adult is, " a joke."
What our children, need is guidance that includes sound morals and consequences for negative behavior. They need love, stability, and a sense of stern judgement from their parents. Children come out in the long run feeling more loved by parents (mother & father) that set up boundary points and showed positive examples while growing up.
Although as a child ages they should be able to utilize a "open door" policy with their parents. A parent should wait till after adulthood to be their child's friend.
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Many of today's Black Women reduce the art of femininity to something as simple as donning a dress, or wearing makeup, or walking with a "switch" in their walk. Yet deny other mannerisms that are included, due to feelings of being ashamed and vulnerable.
Meanwhile Black Men, continue to ask questions that they are a big factor in solving.
Has the Black Man provided an environment where Black girls and women felt that they could "be" or "feel" feminine within?
From a societal and structural standpoint: The Black female must be provided a area and space where she can concentrate and practice being feminine- also, she must see the men that surround her from a position of protection.
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The Black Man is taught that he has no control over what his women and children do.
The Black Man is no longer physically mutilated for the most part- but now it has become psychological.
Every time the Black Man is presented with issues, he can no longer shift blame to his Black Woman, and still expect to be looked at as a man.
The Black Man does have women who will stand along side of him.
But he must make the necessary transition from" helpless" to "warrior" from being the "tail" to "the head."
The Black Man must work with( other Black men)and the Black Woman to develop a new reality.
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The Black Man, ever since slavery was taught that if he or his women and children: needed housing, food, or clothing- that they should ask the slaveholder for it. Thus forth rendering another man in control of the Black Man's reality.
The Black man finds himself upset. He feels the need to be head and in control but doesn't know how.
The Black man has been conditioned to be insensitive to his woman's needs and cry. Where as other nationalities of men understand that if they don't want their women to ask other men that they must handle the issues themselves.
When the Black Woman naturally comes to the Black Man with issues that he should be capable to solve. He often gaslights her by calling her crazy or bitter to deflect from the reality that he doesn't "have" or was never "shown or raised " to know the answer.
The Black Man is like the Lion that has been encaged all his life - and doesn't realize not only his own power & strength; but that his capturer's are hoping he never realizes it either.
The very same thing that the Black Man denies -is what keeps him trapped in the curse!
(his duty & unity)
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Many young Black Women are growing up in homes where they either haven't been informed on what components are needed to become a lady. Or even worse, may have been influenced or encouraged to act uncivilized.
The young Black female must be taught as a child to set her expectations high on not only education- but to become that of a wife instead of just another woman with a child. Not only must she be taught on setting her sights high upon matrimony- but also the critical elements that " qualify" or "disqualify" her from such eligibility.
The Black Woman lives in a age that she can become a pilot, senator, teacher, scientist, or scholar. Yet, there still exists the negative depictions of Black Women that are yet to be fully debunked.
The Black Woman can no longer parade herself nationwide in such a manner, then wonder why she finds difficulty in obtaining respect- no more than a person who submerges themselves in a body of water, then wonder why they have become drenched.
Women like Madam C.J Walker, Rosa Parks, and Mary Mcleod Bethune(plus many more,) set ground breaking legacies that helped develop, mold, and change the face of how Black Women were viewed and would be remembered.
One- hundred years from now - what will we be remembered for?
Which one will you choose - Black Woman?
~The Truth with Trinity~
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Helping black people to heal isn't limited to just one side( male or female) nor can it be simply explained.
The only way Blacks will move forward, is accepting the fact that topics may be discussed that may prove to be challenging to mentally digest; and that not every word comes from a place of hate - just because it doesn't " tickle your ears." this goes for both Black Men and Women.
This episode encourages us as Black women to give thought to our actions . And how our actions are a direct reflection as to who we are as women-- the effects our habits have on our children, and the consequences thereof.
Also, what generational patterns to be aware of, and what to look out for in our daily living.
The image of the Black Woman will not correct itself.
The time is now!
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Many Black Women exclaim not "needing a man" not realizing that her mental and physical health diminishes while trying to do the job of two. Meanwhile our children are suffering from a multitude of issues- especially the Black son.
The methods switch from decade to decade and from century to century in how to annihilate the black race. Could the last step be: to have both Black Men & Black Women to finish each other off?
Countless women, have yelled, beaten, and destroyed their sons while simultaneously thinking about the son's father.
How will God give the Black man back his authority if he thinks his women and children's affair are not of his concern- to blame a "feminist movement" or simply say that Black Women don't want male authority- when in actuality, many Black Women have never had it.
I encourage Black Men: that before they write Black Women off as simply being unable to accept male authority- that they make a 100% conscious effort to deliver and introduce positive male protection and authority. Show Black women how it can help her instead of hurt her. And if that proves to be difficult, start with your daughters.
If the Black Man wants his Black Son to survive, he must actively be there, to not only balance and cultivate the household in which his son lives - but also to help stabilize the woman that raises him too.
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One (unconscious) brother stated, "that there seems to be a whole lot of damaged Black broads."
What the Black man has yet to understand- is that by calling the Black woman out her name and such negative adjectives- that he often manifests and calls forth the very negative attributes, he claims to dislike in the Black woman.
Not only does it lower the esteem of the black woman but it is also a direct reflection about how the Black man feels about his inner self. For the man who looks for flowers but claims he cannot find any, when he has smashed them all !
ThetruthwithTrinity #BlackWomen #BlackMen ~The Truth with Trinity~
Question: Do you know the difference between our Black ancestors from the late 1800's up until the late 1960's- and the current Black People as of now?
Answer: The difference is that Black people back then knew their lives were in danger at any given moment, and currently- Black people have forgotten, and now fall under the veil and illusion that they are as free as everyone. Which is why so many black men and women are shocked when reality sets in - about how they are treated differently.
It is already quite difficult enough that as a person of color- one doesn't necessarily have to be doing anything but," breathing" to be harassed or murdered.
But the sooner we come out of the matrix and come towards the light, that the same laws don't apply to all, and have a fine print underneath- is the sooner we can stop making decisions that expose us to further opposition. And spend more time making decisions that will steer us in a more productive direction.
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Could it be argued that a new method of Jim Crow has taken the form of sexism, but due to our inner turmoil; we failed to take notice?
This episode takes a closer look at things we as Black people may overlook for acceptance and out of hatred, whereas other races of people would never- if the opposite was done to them.
Is sexism the new, "Jim Crow" under the guise of having special "privileges or treatment?"
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Are majority of Black men really as shocked as they seem, at the current state of Black women as a whole?
As if he doesn't know why, or as if she has become this way all on her own?
Are Black Men using the excuse that the feminist movement is solely responsible for the damaged mentality of Black Women- as a coverup to sweep underneath the rug the decades of mishandling of Black Women?
Have Black Men forgotten about the many years that Black Women once held them down?
Can we argue that the Black woman has officially for the most part become, " burned out?"
Did the Black Man play the Black woman?
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Have Black Men ever given any thought as to where did the ideal come from ; or when did it ever become popular to kill their own Black brothers ?
If the Black Man doesn't have compassion for anyone, it needs to be for his fellow Black Man. He must learn to be empathetic to a man who may leave behind a family that leaves more Black Boys fatherless that continues on more generations that show anger and resentment to other Black Men. Never giving full thought that when you kill another Black Man you are killing someone else's son. Or reverse the situation and place yourself at the barrel of a trigger- wouldn't you want another brother to have a ounce of sympathy for your life.
Why does the Black Man feel a need to kill his own men in order to live?
In order for the Black Man to save his own son he must love his fellow brother as he loves himself.
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White Supremacy is a man made concept that teaches that White people have a privilege or entitled to a higher living solely based off of skin color- despite it being to the detriment or demise of other races of people( specifically black people.)
Not only is White Supremacy passed down from elder to adolescent in predominately Caucasian households, but it is a belief system ( myth ) that was ingrained into the psyche of Black people- this was established by torturing ,killing, and starving Black People( of their natural resources) until they admitted to something; that if Black were in their natural state of being, would never agree to.
And although the definition( White Supremacy) was and still is available in dictionaries across the country in bold print- America exclaims that the only reason it exist is when POC talk about it, meanwhile they live and benefit off of it till this day - the only time they deny it or become frustrated about the term is when that said POC brings it up or makes reference to it.
Could it be argued that ideology of White Supremacy boils down to a Narcissistic Mental Illness and psychopathology that is enforced to suffocate POC ?
What White people must understand is that- Black People are past the stage of not understanding the English Language well enough to understand that just because they say that something doesn't "exist" doesn't mean that they are actually telling the truth.
Dear Black People, we can't change(neither should we try) how anyone feels. But what we can change is: how we feel about ourselves, what we teach our children, how we treat each other and the neighborhoods we live in.
If more Black people valued education, nonviolence to their own fellow man, marriage- families , and Independent thinking. Then how well could it exist
Furthermore, how much do we enable or validate such ill concepts with our current actions as Black People?
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Per listener's request: It was questioned as to the reasoning behind the Black's Woman's excessive need for non committal sexual relationships?
Also, why does the Black Woman have difficulty with healing from prior relationships?
But first, lets go back to the origins inside the every day life of the average young Black female's childhood to gain meaningful insight.
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Is it fair to mention that the failure of black children that turn into adults come from a percentage rate of 80% black single mother households without mentioning what ratio of men that left black women in that condition to raise them alone.
As we work on and encourage our young girls and women to wait for marriage before engaging in physical conduct with a male; and to value their body and chastity.
I also challenge the Black Man to take more responsibility for his reproductive(sexual) organs and refrain from making statements such as:
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How did she get pregnant
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She tricked me into pregnancy
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I didn't mean for her to be the mother of my child
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I don't know how she got pregnant
All these comments made by the Black man signifies that from the start of conception that he, although enjoys sexual intimacy is all too willing to place 100% of the burden and responsibility on the Black Woman from the very start.
And surprisingly, still believes that he should obtain the reverence and respect of a man; and then becomes shocked when catastrophic casualties happen upon the child - stemming from single parenting only to blame Black women for not being able to do his part(or share.)
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The Black Man who is the Son of God has the ability to call those things not as though they were.
At one time the Black Man was also in total control of his destiny and reality, until being oppressed and forced to live inside another man's reality that would never benefit him, his women, nor his children.
True, the Black Man is still calling forth manifestations, but have (some of them) they now become distorted creations deriving from an altered mental state of being?
From the damaged chakra's within to the unfinished families linked to him
When will the Black Man finish what he started?
blackwoman #blackman #awareness
Much love
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We watch other races of women get more respect than us. yet fail to identify, omit, and revamp our behaviors and mannerisms as Black women that contribute to the problems we face.
We can say that other races of women twerk , but if we are honest with ourselves as black women, - black women are 3-4x more likely to been seen on social media and out in public twerking and gyrating than any other race of woman.
Black women have engaged in conduct for far too long that they should quite honestly- be ashamed of.
The Black man shouldn't have to go elsewhere just to find a soft- well spoken woman- who can form a sentence without cursing, who knows how to cover herself and act at home and abroad.
When will the black woman denounce and reject those stereotypes that were said to be strictly associated with the black woman( stripper, rump shaker, booty call, brute, loud, violent, naked ,promiscuous)
It is time that our future daughters have more positive examples and role models of upstanding black ladies.
Black woman, you are so much more than your body or what you have to offer sexually - if only you can believe it !
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Many Black girls have grown up in a world where the men who were supposed to protect her the most were the ones that did most of the violating.
Black women are taught to hush up or be quiet, unless she wants her reality denied or seen as just being another bitter one or delusional.
Black Women are all too familiar with fighting against the men that are supposed to fight for her.
Therefor, many of Black girl's femininity has been stripped, and there for grew up to strip his manhood before another man could do it again to her.
Other than for physical gratification, many black women find it difficult to associate black masculinity with positive attributes, or may feel uneasy while discussing it.
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The more black boys are left to be raised under the pressure of a single woman. The more men we have that grow up volatile- to damage other black women who grow up damaging more black men that hurt more black women.
Both black men and women are triggering each other's wounds that may have been stemmed from childhood through early adulthood which contributes to hatred for the opposite sex.
We must stop the generational cycle!
~The Truth with Trinity~
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White America is used to mentally abusing, physically assaulting, and murdering Black people without being questioned.
( this episode is inspired by a 23 year old Black female who was recently murdered in police custody in Indiana)
As long as it could be excused as a suicide, or the said Black person was acting belligerent, or violent - that was all the justification it took to commit a legal lynching.
Blacks are coming into a age where they are becoming aware that the Pagan God isn't their God. But do not be deceived- just because the Pagan God isn't our God doesn't mean that God doesn't exist at all.
For it is that God that keeps them from exacting their full wishes of bloodshed upon us.
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This episode goes into detail on how more Black Men can show chivalry towards Black Women and what exactly does that mean.(Per listener's request.)
Baseline respect( at minimum) isn't asking for fairytale( unrealistic )treatment as some brothers may believe.
Since when did brother's get the misconception that singing, vocalizing, and showing a woman your devotion and care considered "outdated."
And yes some women have been conditioned not to believe even when a man says or shows these things, but if more Black Men meant it, then more Black Women could believe in it!
~The Truth with Trinity~
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Unless one has experienced the sport of topic, who can really say how much pressure is placed upon the shoulders of a athlete -especially at the elite level.
America has a problematic history of naming ( for example) a black person who may be skilled in a instrument such as the fiddle- and nicknaming ( dehumanizing) them according to their instrument aka " the fiddler."
As long as that particular black man or woman could make the slave holder money and highlight prestige towards them-
they could care less about that black persons health whether; that be mental or physical.
Yet, if this brilliant, intellectual, and uniquely talented athlete never did as much as a cartwheel for America again- she would have already achieved more than most within the sport has done in 2-3 lifetimes !
P.S:( During the episode) I meant to say Dominque Dawes not Dawson- much respect :)
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We live in a society that teaches women the ideology that, "what you won't do another one will."
But if a man rushes you before your time, does not care or respect you.
At times as women; we do it any way- hoping they will keep us company a little longer. When deep down inside we know he wasn't truly interested in who we were but more of what we offered.
I encourage you to know that its okay to say "no," and it's okay for a guy to catch a attitude, not answer his phone, or walk away- if you tell him that you are," not ready."
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From a psychological standpoint, it is said that men and women tend to treat the opposite sex a bit nicer( especially those they are attracted to,) but do white men( on average) tend to treat black women more kind, but show a hostile side towards black men? Meanwhile are white women(on average) smiling at black men, but yelling or communicating with black women that include condescending mixed with elitist undertones.
Is this an age -old tactic to give black people the perception of being accepted and as equal, but only on a baseline, superficial level- while whites maintain a superior vs inferior relationship under the guise of being "nice" to black people but only if it is the opposite sex as them?
If a white person can only be nice to a black person of the opposite sex as them but show hatred towards the same sex of blacks- then one may question. How much do they genuinely have respect for you or black people in general?
Furthermore, do black people at times have so much inner hate for their own race to even notice the difference, or even care?
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I used the search engine on Google images to look for a picture to use as a thumbnail to portray a black man but when I entered "Black gentleman" in the search engine nothing came up.
In the black community- being seen as a "gentleman" is often compared to being a "beta-male" or mistaken as a sign of weakness towards women.
But mostly everything the Black man has been taught is the opposite of who he should be.
Should a man take advantage even if given the opportunity to do so?
Is there a such thing as a Black Gentleman?
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The Caucasian demographic makes up 76.3 % of the U.S population, while Black Americans make up 13.4%, and of that 13.4 % Black women make up over 70% of single mothers within that small percent of blacks alone.
We can sit and talk about the 24% of white single mothers that exist but it still leaves white children who are born into two family households at 51%- which is over 3x the rate of the population of Black Americans in the U.S alone.
In retrospect, Black people don't have the time to continue to produce children into situations that lead them into a life of poverty- and also causes poverty on ourselves as parents.
The Black Woman and Man never has been, nor ever will be inferior by nature to no one.
Yet it is only our unwillingness to break generational cycles(mentality), and our disobedience to God that deemed us so.
~ The Truth with Trinity ~
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When are Black Men going to stop using the blanket statement that accuses all black women of simply choosing the wrong man as an excuse to deny or sweep underneath the rug - the magnitude of violence displayed towards black females at the hands of the Black Man?
When are Black Men going to be honest with themselves- that not every single Black Woman is just mindlessly and carelessly throwing herself at any man. Without being honest with themselves that we have a problem within our communities across this country.
Because for the Black man to continuously use the excuse that ,"Black Women just happen to always choose the wrong man" as a scapegoat in regards to the high incidence percentage rate of , physical, and sexual violence towards their own women- is no more different than when White America justifies another unarmed black man being killed by a officer that was stopped for a missing headlight.
P.s: When will the Black Man show an example to the Black Woman on who the right man is; for her to pick from?
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You could yell from a top floor apartment balcony, down at your incoming visitor- but should you?
You could laugh loudly to garner the attention of a man- but will it?
You could walk down the street yelling and screaming at the top of your lungs; because after all- you are grown !
But The first rule to remember as a lady is that:
It is not about what you "could do," but more about what you "ought to do."
Many Black Women have never had the privilege of an upbringing that consisted of instructions on what was considered "fitting" or "lady- like" mainly because places and events like ballroom receptions and tea banquets never were associated with the brown or dark women- neither were they ever invited.
So, in retrospect those attributes of class and demeanor were never associated with the black woman until now.
"It is time for the world to see that the Black Woman can be - and shall be known for more than "just" her body.
~The Truth with Trinity~
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What we consider "cool' is usually the wrong way (lame )- and what is often considered "lame" is usually the right way to go within the black community.
Many brothers have yet to comprehend that one can make 10k per day and still be unable to place homes, businesses, loans, and cars in his name, and usually have to place them in another woman's name due to the illegal money and his criminal record.
What he doesn't understand is that this is a form of irresponsible behavior; due to the fact that he has to place what should be legally his in the fate or hands of another. Which in retrospect leads to more role reversing in the black communities of women being head, handling and owning, or renting everything that some black males live or operate within - at the permission of another woman .
The Black Man must also realize that it is considered reckless behavior( irresponsible ) to engage or indulge in activities(such as jail time, killing ,drug dealing,) that he knows will be a higher percentage, chance, or risk; that he will leave his children and family in compromising situations.
The black man must transition from "playing" to being able to understand how his actions not only effect himself but everyone that surround him.
The black community needs more men that are able to critically analyze, evaluate, and posses a serious mindset.
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Due to many Black Men's void of obtaining higher education, more political, financial, and judicial power or achievement. Does he feel the only outlet he has, is to display his masculinity in ways that destroy black women?
When a group of Black men sit around and let an unconscious black man verbally or physically assault a black woman and does nothing to stop it- or even worse- to find amusement in it.
It destroys the black woman's confidence in ever seeing a man or his masculinity in a positive way, and may permanently damage her trust in men forever.
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Are we following the same ole script with just another name?
It doesn't matter what others think of us, but how we think about ourselves!
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The Terms Sambo and Mammy are descriptions used to dehumanize Black Men and Women- that was heavily used throughout the slave and Jim crow Era.
And with nothing new ever being under the sun- are some black people still enacting the very stereotypes our ancestors fought hard to disassociate from?
Every time we as black people hop, curse, and gyrate across a stage( and in daily life), are we truly performing for or entertaining our peers or are we rehearsing a skit that was handed down for us to perform from generations ago?
For the amusement of others?
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What young women must understand is that: their body is not to be used as commodity such as being used in exchange for; promotions, reduced purchase pricing, gifts, or money.
Just because a guy offers you money and gifts does not mean that he loves, respects, or cares for you.
Which one is more important to you?
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Is it because Black people were taught to go against each other, and to respect and obey White Over seers and Master's during slavery? So therefore, has it been ingrained in most black people's head not to go against them?
Do we tend to take black management, more so as a "joke." and don't expect them to follow company policy?
Regardless, to nationality; all management deserves proper respect and vice versa?
But why do (some) black people respect non- black management more. And white employee's are more able to accept directions from management that resemble them?
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No one wants to be taken advantage of. But are some Black Men using the word to discourage other men not to have any respect for Black Women?
Are some brothers just as afraid of vulnerability(and kindness) as they claim that some Black women are?
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A Olympic Swimmer, of African descent and hair texture was denied wearing a soul cap that would enable her to maintain her naturally textured hair without having to alter (flatten) her hair to compete. Many commentators were stating that she should have to shave her hair off or just be quiet. Almost as if to say that she should be grateful that she is allowed to swim at all.
Along with other issues and topics that pertain to heritage, ethnicity, and race - are Black people demonized, criticized, or silenced from speaking out about their perception or point of view?
Could they handle being done the same way?
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When most men discuss their status in society they usually state or make reference that they are superior to the female species
Superior-Higher than another in rank, station, or authority: a superior officer.
Of a higher nature or kind.
Of great value or excellence; extraordinary.(source; the freedictionary.com)
Black Men are usually no exception to this mindset. But are most (or some) Black Men failing to take accountability and responsibility for the conditions that surround them such as their environment, women, and children.
Although he vocally states his authority, yet when it comes to answering up or giving account he tends to shirk back or displace the responsibility on to another race of man or black women.
The first step in black men asserting themselves in their rightful position and to restore the proper order that he seeks-he must assume responsibility (despite how difficult or abnormal this may seem) to make the transition from being helpless ( or the victim of white men) to a man who is well respected, not only in the sight of black women but the world itself.
True, the original design (intent) was for the black man's image to be destroyed in the sight of black women, and to be rendered helpless at bull-whip and gun point.
But......
How long will the Black Man watch the displacement and the dysfunction of his women& children, and communities go on- and state that he has nothing to do with the said issues- yet expect for these same women to show him reverence and respect?
Lastly, how long will the Black Man argue to the Black Woman that her disdain and contempt for the Black Man is despicable- without the Black Man fixing the underlying issue?
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I encourage Black Men Nationwide- to use critical thinking skills and analyze how his actions effect not only himself, but his own fellow black man in regards to: leaving one black woman scarred is only leaving another Black Man down the road to have to attempt dealing with her.
The Black Woman is on "autopilot." She pushes one man away, out of anxiety and fear that she will be hurt or lied to again.
Furthermore, If the Black Man wants the Black Woman to change and become more trustworthy. He must become so himself.
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Indeed, some of our Black Men's mind's have been conditioned and damaged to view Black Women- regardless as to class and conduct with, disrespect. And as the Black Man must be re-educated; so must the Black Woman. We can no longer vocalize the demand for respect without exuding the characters and conduct that exemplify those attributes.
We must have a plan, with a conscious mind to execute(put into action.)
We need pioneers( both male and female) that will take our people into the next step of evolution.
We need more black women that will say that. "enough is enough." Despite what is popular- I won't engage in activities that have proven to be harmful to myself and other sisters and brothers.
The Black Woman must regain consciousness of her natural state , because all black children enter through her vortex(portal) and shall remain unconscious ( if the issues go unsolved) which continues to sets the black man and woman back generations at a time.
The Black Woman must give the the Black Man a reason to regain respect for her!
~The Truth with Trinity~
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The Black Woman is like a dehydrated flower that droops it's petals, from lack of sunlight, oxygen, and water; without the love of the Black Man.
Since Black people have been over taken by European rule. The Black Woman has always had her Black Man stripped from her( and vice versa)- rendering her virtually helpless and made to fend for herself.
The Black Woman has had to put on a "false sense" of security that tells Black Men," to leave" even before they have attempted to exit. That exclaims to Black Men," that she doesn't need him!" when on the inside, she is only one heartache away from mental anguish at the fear of the absence of another Black Man.
The Black Woman wants to love but is afraid she will be hurt, Wants to tell you, but is afraid through a hardened heart that she will not be heard.
The only thing that will take away the Black Woman's pain is that of a Black Man.
~Let's start being real to one another~
~The Truth with Trinity~
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They tell you to get a baller or high profile guy- while you lose the man you already have.
They tell you to leave the man of your children- only to become girl# 4 on the list in another man's life.
They tell you to chase a bag- not mentioning how you will lose your soul and the ways you will suffer for it
They tell you about having a W.A.P , but forgot to tell you- that you will lose your class, dignity, and respect as a woman; just to show it.
Are female artist paid large sums of money to profit off of the inner struggle, hurt and pain of other black girls and women?
If the black man has any chance of re-surfacing from his unconscious state, the black woman must fight to retain her soul.
Furthermore, black women pride themselves on setting trend( a certain image,) but in all actuality; what are we truthfully setting the trend of being known as?
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They tell you to get a baller or high profile guy- while you lose the man you already have.
They tell you to leave the man of your children- only to become girl# 4 on the list in another man's life.
They tell you to chase a bag- not mentioning how you will lose your soul and the ways you will suffer for it.
They tell you about having a W.A.P , but forgot to tell you- that you will lose your class, dignity, and respect as a woman; just to show it.
Are female artist paid large sums of money to profit off of the inner struggle, hurt and pain of other black girls and women?
If the black man has any chance of re-surfacing from his unconscious state, the black woman must fight to retain her soul.
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Could it be that the vast majority of black brothers speaking on the issue of how single black women with kids are the least desired- have indeed in their past, left a woman and his kids behind at one time-themselves.
And although there are several obstacles involved as to fathering kids that are not your own such as: will the child grow to have respect for me? Can I discipline the child without my every move seen as child abuse? Will my new significant other take out her frustration that she has for her child's father be re-directed towards me? Is my new girlfriend still sleeping with her baby daddy? Or, will I have to fight over territory, when the biological father communicates or visits with the children.
Because we live in a society that now- says," to pick a man or woman better than your ex." which in retrospect, has left many women who have played themselves out of a stable family for herself and her children and leaves many men bitter about having to finance 2-3 households only to find out that many women have inner emotional issues- and that it was to his better judgement to at least stay with the woman( that you are familiar with her quirks and issues) who has his biological seeds.
So many black men are coming forth with the dislike in entertaining the ideal of raising another man's offspring; without encouraging more black men to stay at home with the woman he originally had his children with.
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Staying at home past childhood years has stifled many of men from standing on their own " two feet" and accumulating the basic survival skills- that leave them without coping mechanisms that enable them to deal with daily responsibilities, job occupation, and parenthood.
After the midnight rendezvous ( where he often displays masculine strength) wears off; their female significant other may bring up the discrepancy she often feels as to the neglect( in regards to the areas where the average woman needs a man the most ) that she has come to grips with, as she faces the reality that something within the relationship is amiss.
With the black woman, vying for some form of accountability from the black man- and the black man feeling psychologically worn out- from what he feels is unrealistic, over-demanding, and meaningless arguing ( or dialogue.)
He then, retreats( escapes) to where he feels most comfortable at ..
His mother's house....
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Can a woman walk outside with hardly any clothes on and still expect men to respect her, or for men to pass by without having impure thoughts?
Can a man engage in certain conversations( or ask intrusive questions) with unfamiliar women without being propositioned(treated or approached) as a "generous male" of the night?
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Can we fairly say, that the white woman is more soft spoken, without pointing out the fact that she isn't called out of her name (verbally abused)24/7.
Or, that she isn't aggressive or hasn't been known to throw a tantum or two, when in actuality it just remains " out of sight" and hidden, because white men wont allow you, the media, or any other man; to portray white women as anything other than what white men want their women portrayed as?
Furthermore, what if Black Men took the same amount of time and energy they spend, glorifying and uplifting other women- to do so for their own women?
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What would it feel like to never have a loan, or employment application approved or denied based off of the inner feelings or thoughts of a Caucasian person in the USA.
Majority of Black people are not asking to be liked, included in. or accepted by white people.
They simply ask for; what most Caucasians in this Country feel," naturally" entitled to.
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Break the Black woman so that she is eating out of our hands.( Willie Lynch Letter Excerpt)
How was the black woman broken to be led to eat out of who's hands? Furthermore, how does the black woman continue to eat out of " their hand."
We will negotiate by the black woman and at will through the black woman.( Willie Lynch Letter Excerpt)
How are they negotiating vicariously through black women even till this day, and for what purpose?
Who is effected?
How does this method keep black men and women ( as a whole) nearly at a thousand year disadvantage.
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In order for black people as a whole to heal. Black women must raise their self esteem, and the awareness of what contributes to low self esteem.
The black man and woman must rise together- because if one is healed without the other - the cycle and domino effect of trauma will continue from black man , woman, to child- and back again.
As black women we are asking for black men to evolve, but we must do our part as well.
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Its ironic how just like the black woman- other nationalities of women experience anger, depression, and express ill- tempered mannerisms towards others. Yet Black Women and girls remain the most highlighted for such actions.
Besides being constantly told, that she is a drama queen, or over exaggerating
Let's look behind the neck popping, lip smacking, loud cursing, Black Woman. And why she struggles to find her place as a woman.
With no one to listen.......
And how years of untold silence can turn into outward anger; in the everyday life of the black woman.
Disclaimer: All points of reference do not reflect the lives of all black women
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The young black male's mind must be protected at a very young age(2 -3 years of age and so forth) from all imagery of thug life such as: music( auditory hypnotizing), posters, and movies.
He must also, be protected from all males who engage in criminal and thug life behavior such as: uncles, grandfathers, and boyfriends to prevent the mental disease from being passed down another generation. Because a young male has a tendency to emulate what or who he views as a role model.
We can't wait to attempt to reform our black men (who have a low percentage to change) once they have become teenagers, or already grown men- for the mental damage is already done. And has proven to be quite difficult and almost impossible to revamp their brain from such an hypnotic state!
Because the reality is that when you kill another black man- you are only killing a part of yourself.
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As we well know, that there is a shortage of Black Men within the black community.
And granted, some black brothers are trying their very best- to perhaps some ungrateful or unrealistic women.
But are some black men using this as an excuse to give the black woman little or nothing at all- basically the bare minimum..
Are some black women wrongfully being categorized as: desperate, needy, or in a rush- in regards to the basic needs of any woman regardless of ethnicity/class/or race?
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Are young black female children encouraged more to study academically while our young black males are encouraged more to pursue areas such as sports, and entertainment?
Does the black woman aim too high, or has the black man been taught to settle at the level they are at?
Should a black woman refrain from obtaining special education and higher degrees so that she won't be considered arrogant by some black men's standards?
Are some black men who are now successful, but once a blue collar worker; marrying non- black women out of resent ,because black women wouldn't give him the time of day before he made it big- so now he feels as though black women may not be good enough?
Should the black woman:
(a) have to pay majority of the bills to live where her education has finally landed her just to to keep a man by her side .
(b)Or to keep from being accused of trying to "outshine" the black man-choose not to pursue education, and to maintain the same level as the black men she may be surrounded by.
(c)Obtain as much education and wealth as she possibly can - because she knows she may end up alone.
(d) Hope that more black men realize how important clean criminal records are, and have the ambition to pursue more career based, educational, or self employed options that will make them a better match and increase their suitability.
Is it possible for the black woman to have both love and success- or must it be one or the other?
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There is a fine line between having the confidence not to care what others think and having self respect for yourself.
The black community complains that our elders wont speak to us and give us advice or wisdom but when they do speak up- they are often shown disrespect and the advice is discarded.
Women like Madam C.J Walker fought for the black woman's self esteem - so that we could wear our hair uncovered without shame and without a bonnet.
How quickly do we give away the rights that our ancestors bled for.
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Besides the Uniformed explanation of the history on Dr. Martin Luther King, Rosa Parks, and Harriet Tubman that is given to our children from grades K-12. United States history books are saturated with slavery. As if to say black people originated from slavery which couldn't be furthest from the truth.
Europeans have "mastered" defining and telling everyone else about their history and where they come from- but their own true origins.
Also, when confronted, their favorite rebuttal is that " our own people sold us." But lets dive deeper.
In order for America to truly heal, both sides have to be willing to face truth, however ugly it may be.
White America cant get past seeing black people as only " Negroes"
And Black America love being that " Negro."
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Its a popular discussion to talk about the the black women who have problems with male authority due to them having, "daddy issues." But what good will that do the black community if we don't address the damages that have been done to young black males- that causes a horrific on- going cycle that enables them to look at the black female child as less than human.
Can the man who states that, " a woman's___________ ain't worth__________ !
Honestly teach his daughter anything about self esteem or how a man should treat her.
How can you stop other men from treating your daughter like this when you pass this mentality on to the next generation?
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The young black man was taught to spread his seeds freely without any thought as to how this may effect his inheritance, bank accounts or property- because in many instances he had none!
But now more than ever, more black men are either at the cusp- or have achieved success, only to find that their finances are being sifted because they were not fully educated on how their seeds( offspring;) and the women they impregnate are interconnected to their bank accounts.
This episode discusses methods that will decrease your chances of ending up on child support, and the red flags (in other women) to look out for.
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For every Black man who laughed at a single mother on welfare- was a black man who left a woman and a child to beg alone
For every black man who laughs at the lowered self esteem of his women- yet continue to make explicit songs that describe her in nothing but explicit sexual material
For every black man who laughs at the bitter, angry or mentally ill state of the black woman- when her mind was destroyed through dealing with and trying to survive to love the mentally challenged black man.
For every black man who called a naturally black woman a "man" and talked about her features by calling them ugly- only laughed an talked about his own features. Because a black woman's physical features derive from that of a black man.
For every black man that sat around and laughed at black women for being too easy, loose , or whorish- there was a black man who betrayed, lied, took advantage, turned her out , or tricked her out. After all, she didn't turn herself out.
Instead of the everyday black man sitting in groups laughing about the last chick he knocked down- encourage yourself, and other black men to think about the effects and influence that they have and how they can help- because every time you laugh at the condition of a black woman you are only laughing at yourself.
~The Truth with Trinity~
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We fight against teachers who are prejudice, and with school systems that may have poor curriculums. But how much of that failure falls back on us as parents?
Teaching starts at home at least 2-3 hours a day after school with your child.
The child's first introduction to material shouldn't be inside the classroom( especially K-6 grades)
The child must have mentally stimulating games such as flash cards and building blocks etc.
Teachers are not daycare providers. Therefore should not have to deal with uncivilized behavior
Although adults have learned to mask their problems with a smile- children act out what they see at home, which can cause an hazardous environment to others.
Black People we must do better and use our energy to take our children's future more seriously.
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When you ask a woman to be submissive to you - you are asking for her to trust your decision making abilities, and to support your mission in life. Furthermore, that you will not exploit ( damage) the same traits that you claim that you desired most in her.
In retrospect, are black men requiring their cut without delivering the other end of the deal?
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The black woman has the heart and mind to trust the black man, but out of fear she has grown not to- by going against her female instinct.
But Why?
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Children are most often raised successfully when both mother and father place value, priority ,and obligation on the lives of their offspring.
We are seeing more news clips, about the mom who left the baby with the new boyfriend, or the mom ( and or child) who ends up being killed by the man she chose to let live with her.
We have one million terms to call these mothers ranging from selfish, and careless-
We often talk about the disgrace that is associated with the mother who places her own ambition, self- indulgence in the opposite sex , or needs above their children- yet we never mention the men who continue to leave their God given duties, and obligation for women that they place above their own children's needs( such as food, shelter and a sense of belonging,) We often excuse these actions as" a man being a man."
The only way for a man to truly know that his children will never be violated, harmed or taken advantage of - is if he lives in the home to watch them grow up.
It is time for the black man to stop placing 100% of the failure rate of our black children solely on the black woman and still expect to be considered men.
If you as a man couldn't find the value in the reason to stay around to raise your child, don't become shocked- that some women may not find the value in the reason to correctly raise your child.
Lastly, if you want black women to stop placing other men above your child's safety and needs
You must gain the discipline to stop placing strange women over your own children first.
If the Black Man Calls himself "a leader"
Then go forth and be one
~ The Truth with Trinity~
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Many Black women find themselves looking at articles across the web , that refer to black women as being " the least desirable" or the last chosen amongst other nationalities of women.
Some black women make an assumption that it must be solely based off of her complexion or looks that she is excluded from selection.
But could it be that- (some) black women unknowingly have difficulty in how to carry themselves
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"It's the black woman's fault" or its "the white mans fault." But a real man knows when, "its his fault."
Will the black man ever grow up from that guy who hangs on the block by day, plays X-box till evening, leaves his mother's house to move in with the next woman.
Furthermore, has the black man grown too complacent with the role of "victimhood." Can he ever truly transition from being called "boy" to a man if he continues to place the responsibilities and obligations given to him and passes them along to others.
A true man doesn't blame another man for his mistakes
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If started out as us being unwillingly sexualized, but are we as women playing a part in our own humiliation ?
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The negative stereotypes about African American's have been drilled so far into the heads of many ( even ourselves at times) that when others come across a brilliant black woman, man, or child it is played off as some sort of " phenomenon" with undertones of condescending, or back handed remarks.
Always hold your shoulders back
with your head aimed towards the sky
~The Truth with trinity
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As a black man or woman; you must mentally fight against any concept that teaches or suggests that you are anything less than extraordinary and exceptionally beautiful. The fact that we were originally made in God's image- how have we been taught and conditioned to think otherwise?
~The Truth with Trinity~
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This Episode encourages the black man to look beyond the anger of the black woman to gain the answers( and insight) to the most "sought after" question as to "why?"
Many men feel that if they alleviate themselves from the home; that their only concern and focus should be the child. Despite how many visits or financial contributions they make- they cannot understand the frustration aimed at them by many female ex-spouses and lovers.
Website: thetruthwithtrinity.com
This Episode encourages the black man to look beyond the anger of black women to gain the answers( and insight) to the most "sought after" question as to "why?"
Many men feel that if they alleviate themselves from the home; that their only concern and focus should be the child. Despite how many visits or financial contributions they make- they cannot understand the frustration aimed at them by many female ex-spouses and lovers.
Website: thetruthwithtrinity.com
The Anglo Saxon Doctrine teaches that the black man and woman ( nor black people in general) must not be allowed to trust each other. That black people must only love and trust white people. The material also teaches that white people are to never trust us, yet while blacks are totally expected to love and trust them. It also discusses methods in keeping black people in an environment of hatred and envy towards one another so that white people can not only maintain the slave master/ slave relationship, but also to be able to sleep soundly at night while living amongst black people.
It also goes on to say that black people are useless to the American Economy if we are in our original state (The Letter of Willie Lynch)
Do we kill and hurt each other, not to survive against each other, but to survive in a white nation.
If black people started to love each other, would that put our life at risk in this country?
For it is easier for us to hate each other just to please others- but will take sheer bravery to unite despite the consequences
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It is hard to stick around and raise children with or by someone you never took the time to know.
Its even harder to respect a person when you don't even know their name.
~The Truth with trinity~
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Black women often take the brunt of every time a child, especially a male grows up to engage in criminal behavior. Hardly ever are the fathers brought to account in the black community.
For it is said that children are 3x as likely to be involved in negative behavior coming from single mother households.
This episode discusses the need for black men not to mock women, nor belittle black women's sexual improprieties without examining their own.
Quite often black men claim that black mothers abuse their children; whether it be psychologically, verbally or physically. But after the black woman has been abused by her mate and left - what does the black man think will happen to his children's lives?
The black man has been oppressed so much as to hate, not only his own reflection when he looks in the mirror- but any one or thing that resembles his own reflection - including his own women and children!
In retrospect leaving that black woman on a generational downward spiral of hatred of the black male and the black male's disdain for the black woman.
Let us take a trip down memory lane to see where it all stems from
In 2021 the black man and woman must fight more than ever before to regain consciousness!
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Black women often take the brunt of every time a child, especially a male grows up to engage in criminal behavior. Hardly ever are the fathers brought to account in the black community.
For it is said that children are 3x as likely to be involved in negative behavior coming from single mother households.
This episode discusses the need for black men not to mock women, nor belittle black women's sexual improprieties without examining their own.
Quite often black men claim that black mothers abuse their children; whether it be psychologically, verbally or physically. But after the black woman has been abused by her mate and left - what does the black man think will happen to his children's lives?
The black man has been oppressed so much as to hate, not only his own reflection when he looks in the mirror- but any one or thing that resembles his own reflection - including his own women and children!
In retrospect leaving that black woman on a generational downward spiral of hatred of the black male and the black male's disdain for the black woman.
Let us take a trip down memory lane to see where it all stems from
In 2021 the black man and woman must fight more than ever before to regain consciousness!
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Paying attention, and admiring anything more than God = idolatry. The music( which keeps black people lullabied and brainwashed) worshipping, certain fashion, and customs that we follow derive from Pagan rituals. Basically the same errors our forefathers made that caused the covenant with The God of Israel to be broken with the true children of Israel.
They say that black people are cursed but fail to explain why?
And what curse?
The curse to see your own brother as an enemy and murder him
The curse for our women to parade like brazen harlots
The curse for back men to hate black women
The curse for black women to raise off spring by men that they hate
The curse of having our talents and abilities sifted and extracted from us with out any true benefit to us
The curse that others benefit from us and exploit our skills
The curse of black women tearing down each other due to a torn down inner self esteem
The curse of how we keep killing each other
The curse of how black men think their own women are ugly
The curse of how other men can protect and provide but black men refuse to
The curse of how black men have hated themselves
The curse of how we continue to be disobedient to God just as our ancestors did which keep us in our condition
The curse of how after over 400 years of captivity that the children of Israel ( Black people) still wander about looking for the promised land
God has promised us to be gathered again( The House of Israel)
The covenant must be restored
But we must turn from the ways that we have grown to love that keeps God's eye and ear from turning towards us
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What is a, "Down A$$ B!T&$?" Is this the definition of a woman that you expect to follow you while you go no where, or while you drag her and your life to hell (literally!?)
This episode discusses the consequences to our way of lifestyle that continues to hold us back.
Despite what her wants and needs are-a black woman who truly loves(herself or) you will never condone you making a living in the streets.
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What is a, "Down A$$ B!T&$?" Is this the definition of a woman that you expect to follow you while you go no where, or while you drag her and your life to hell (literally!?)
This episode discusses the consequences to our way of lifestyle that continues to hold us back.
Despite what her wants and needs are-a black woman who truly loves you will never condone you making a living in the streets.
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As the black male slave looked from the backyard to glance at the white misses- she was everything he had wished that his black woman could be. She was bathed, dressed ,well spoken , and just as soft as the cotton he had just picked. Meanwhile he looked at the White master walking around in the freedom he wished he had and yearned to be able to claim a piece of land as his own.
The Black female slave who accompanied the black male slave- too glanced up at the white master, whom was everything she had wished her black man could be. He was confident, lacked fear, and was able to make critical decisions at moments notice. Yet always watching how he treated the lady of the estate, wishing it could be her. Meanwhile she looked at the white misses, able to not worry about much but the way she looked in her fancy frock, and making sure her husband was satisfied was her only concern. How the black woman had pictured herself behind that white picket fence!
Does this ideology sound familiar?
Listen up! In 2021 we no longer have to look for others- what we want to see inside each other.
Let's make it happen
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This episode discusses the challenges in the dating scene in our communities. It also discusses the mannerisms that have been proven to be a failure.
It encourages men to have respect- not only themselves but also for women by: not yelling at them (catcalling.) Abstain from using vulgar language towards them.
Wanting a woman to see you as a "gentleman" is much easier than actually being the person you want them to see.
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Your purpose is the reason why you exist on Earth. It is up to you to find out the areas where you stand out exceptionally; and develop those attributes. A dream is a vison of success , developing meaningful relationships, or obtaining things such as: houses, cars, or moving to a certain location etc. - and bringing them into reality.
There comes a point in time when your dream will over take the 9-5 job.
But Knowing when, and what to do in the meantime is key!
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Black women's mortality rate is 2.5 times higher than white women. While the national rate is 17.4 deaths per 100,000 births in 2018, 37.1 black women died per 100,000 births.
This episode discusses the importance that the male influence has on procedures given to black women by doctors and nurses during labor -and the comfort your presence gives to both mother and child.
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Our young black males must be given a purpose, to live, and succeed- not just "exist" on a daily basis.
Do not make the brutal mistake of realizing what you, "could have been" or that you "should have been great" after being behind bars.
Your self actualization starts now!
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As women we lay the foundation on what is considered morally right or wrong. When we have discord amongst each other as women: the environment and atmosphere(that surrounds us) is in disarray. Let us look out for one another, and not damage our own sister in ways we would not want done to ourselves. Let us tap into our power of influence in a positive way to further help create the changes we desire in our fellow sister, children, and men.
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On April 20, 2021 a Black 16 year old female was gunned down after a violent feud that took place in the suburbs of Columbus.
Body cam has been released.
Policing in America must change indeed but after watching the video several times-
so must we as black people!
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Holding on to being a woman can be difficult, our attire, mannerisms, tone of voice, posture, and thoughts about ourselves and others; all sum up the essence of our womanhood. Trauma, violence, and sexual assault can alter a female's perception of not only her self worth but the desire to remain and become who God created her to be.
Despite the odds, or who never wanted you to become one always remember you are
~A Lady Anyway~
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Question: When America states it has a " stand your ground law" allowing a citizen to defend oneself, who does that rule really apply to?
Answer: The stand your ground law only applies to white people being able to murder their own people as long as it was truly necessary, yet may assault or murder a non -white person without any evidence of a life threatening scenario.
Meanwhile, Black people are only allowed to exercise the, "stand your ground law" only if a black person causes threat.
Question: What happens when a white person in America provokes verbally, or physically attacks a black person( basically starting the altercation?)
Answer: A white person initiating attacks on blacks, is unspoken of, and to utter such words is deemed," delirious."
So is it safe to say we live in a country where white people can cause us bodily harm and we are not allowed to defend
ourselves, let alone speak out about it?
Yet they "claim" slavery ended a long time ago
~ Slavery never ended they just found a more clever way to disguise it~
~The Truth with Trinity~
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The human body, along with the brain and heart are electric fields that conduct energy and also run off of vibration and frequency. When we are anxious, scared, or angry- our pulse increases etc.
Music is a modulator of emotions . Whether the purpose of a particular song is for feelings of "euphoria" or " dysphoria" depends on the subliminal message behind the music/content. Therefore the subconscious mind picks up on these lyrics and causes a reaction, especially from the rhythmic repetition from the frequency level( song) being played over and over again.
Yes, some of the beats are fantastic; but what are we letting into our energy field? Furthermore is it mentally healthy for brothers and sisters to continue to listen to music that constantly talks about destroying- not only oneself but also their fellow man or woman?
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Its become quite popular for some men to call any woman that vocalizes any form of displeasure at the culture of mistreatment upon black women as being "bitter" or a woman who simply hates men. But what these men fail to realize is that their refusal to acknowledge or help rectify the situation is causing more havoc and turmoil that keeps the domino effect of misunderstanding going.
What you hear in today's music isn't how we should treat one another, neither is it normal!
We, as black women and men must start listening to each other as human beings with individual needs. For our survival depends upon it.
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This episode discusses self awareness, confidence and body image perception.
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Do you feel frustrated and want a chance to make changes against injustice? This is how you do it.
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The term " black" was given to us, to extinguish any traces of any tribe or true land that we came from.
When you look at the founding fathers of America such as: Benjamin Franklin, or George Washington- they do not resemble "our fathers." Henceforth we live in a country that was designed for them and their children.
Europeans fled from England to escape the relentless tyranny of British rule. Isn't it time we do the same?
What if black people put all their money, savings, and skills together- just as they did. But instead, move to a uncharted territory, and build a country to call our own and to give "our" future generation. And after 700 plus years of captivity that we could finally be free, because after all; how can we consider ourselves free in a place where people can do with us as they'd like?
Metaphorically speaking- its almost like a battered woman who keeps crying about her abuse, yet returns every time hoping to see the best in that person. Furthermore, we have been in this country so long that we have forgotten that our ancestors never intended on staying here in the first place!
We have have enough: teachers, Doctors, Nurses, Lawyers, Architects, Mason Builders, Plumbers, Scientist, Agriculture Specialist, Accountants, Judges etc. to build our own nation.
Why do we keep giving our gifts and talents to a system that may never acknowledge it?
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Success can be accomplished despite having children prematurely. But lets not forget to mention to our young women and girls the difficulties and struggle to reach those goals.
Our ancestors withstood and were forcibly made to raise children without men( from slavery our men being sold to another plantation and the black family separated etc.) or our men being killed.
We as women, need to inform our young girls about the consequences of poor mate selection or the ignorance in how to pick a proper husband.- and the importance of it.
We live in a society where it is considered normal to switch relationships and produce more children by different partners- without informing our young women on the reputational, societal, financial, and psychological damages that are inflicted.
Yes we did it, and may have lived through it- but let us not forget to tell our young daughters and women the truth without "hyping up" or "glorifying" situations that are far from reality.
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During slavery, the black man wasn't allowed to speak up or defend his women, today we have SOME( and I did say some) black men that have lost or never had that thought as to or do not see the need. I encourage the black man to know that your children and women need the foundation and protection within homes and throughout our communities
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Many will argue that slavery ended in 1865, so why continue to speak about it? Yet, we as Americans still follow the same U.S Constitution that originated in 1789( right along with The Declaration of Independence-1776,) that was only written for the people free at that time. Without very little to- if any alterations to these partucular documents; how can America ever be equal, consider, respect or protect anyone other than the "people" the constitution was originally designed for?
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From generations long ago- and even now, they vocally and subliminally teach black children that the only occupations that await them after high school graduation are: janitors, butlers, servers, entertainment, athletics, and criminals( any venue that doesn't require the mind necessarily.) Meanwhile white children were taught the world was their "oyster." Which led to our young children's minds being controlled and conditioned.
In the 80's and 90's the war on drugs began, which led to a wide spread addiction to the utilization of drugs , not only that, but it gave black men an "addiction" to a lifestyle quite often portrayed in movies like, "New Jack City" where a young black man obtains mansions, cars ,and money that he would not be able to get as quickly by working a 9-5. Black men were purposely addicted/hooked , so that other generations after him would look up and want to become one. But now the money has been removed from the" game." Many young black men who distribute; find themselves not living a lifestyle that closely resembles what is seen on television. A lot are living home to home and can barely keep clean clothes on. The agenda/ colonization tactic has been accomplished by (a) getting the black man accustomed to a lifestyle at the expense of his freedom, soul, integrity, duty, and dignity.(b) Removed the money so that now all is left is for black men to kill each other over the breadcrumbs that are left( which was the original intent.)
If we can forgive others on the outside from killing us so easily, why can't we forgive each other. Black man you are all you have!
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Just because your daughter hasn't hit puberty, doesn't mean it is harmless for them to wear revealing clothing. From the way you speak to the gestures you make- your daughter is watching your every move. As women we must teach our daughter's that it takes more than just vocalizing the status of "princess" and "Queen" to be one. We must rear our young daughter's to be ladies in training. And what better way than to possess those qualities ourselves. We can't leave our children to look up to celebrities and actress's to mold their impressionable minds!
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There is a fine and very stringent line within the Caucasian race on what is considered "white." But on the contraire, the African DNA holds a vast array of hues, facial features, and hair types. Could it be said, that just because Caucasians have such a very thin margin and restriction on their racial lines - that they try to enforce on black people the same viewpoint about their own ethnicity?
Also, what gives white people( the same people telling biracial people(less than 21 years ago) that they were negro and mistreating them along with black people, now the right to switch what a person's identity is?) Is that apart of their privilege too, that they get to alter, and determine who is classified as "what?"
Lastly, a biracial person is the only person that can truly tell you what they identify most with. If they identify mostly with "Caucasian" we need to respect that. But if you find that they want to identify as " African American" we as black people need to embrace them as our own-even if they choose neither. Don't let the method ( classification)of racial division over take us.
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True love is already hard enough to find . And some do find it in other cultures. But one will want to make sure it is "real" and not based off of superficial reasons or fetishes; or even worse - those with ulterior motives. Here are a few key signs to look out for- before making the "big leap" to making long term- life altering decisions.
Always trust your instincts
~The Truth with Trinity~
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Although, if a non-white person commits a criminal act against a white person- the first speculation that comes up is," was it racially motivated?" Yet when a white person commits heinous offenses towards other nationalities, it is always proven to be a "mistake," or simply," having a bad day!" White people will never be called into account for their racially driven monstrosities against people of other ethnicities due to the fact that if "one" white person was ever convicted, that would mean thousands would have to be convicted. It would also allow others to defend themselves against their psychotic behavior.
After all, isn't it human nature to defend yourself against someone who is attacking you?
~The Truth with Trinity~
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Narcissism is a mental illness that is said not to have a cure. Is it safe to say that the racism in Europeans have no cure as well? Although they find it "harmless" and a figment of others " imagination." Lets go into depth on how the way white people's interactions with other ethnic groups relates to a deep ingrained pathological psychosis.
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Could it be, that what was once their lifestyle and identity, replaced with what is now ours? Will God allow for us to ever obtain our birthright back; through the acknowledgment of our forefathers error? Furthermore, are they walking around in the identity that we once walked around in and replaced our "true selves" with the left over scraps?
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Telling a woman she is beautiful, with sincerity isn't the problem. Yet it depends on how you say it and with what intention(it shouldn't be for the sole purpose of obtaining sexual gratification.)
To constantly, and adjectively point out physical attributes of a woman's body deteriorates their self esteem subconsciously. Furthermore it also conditions women that they have to be sexual in order to gain "attention or false shallow based affection."
Are the only compliments you have for black women surround their physical appearance, but have nothing else to say positive. This message may be for you!
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Single parenthood is rising amongst all, yet we remain the highest percentage of that statistic. Being a father who lives outside of the home from where your children live is considered a part -time father. Even if you see your children almost everyday. It isn't good enough for black women nor should it be ; for a man to just, "care about his child/children" and not the woman from which those children came from-- enough to be a loving man, husband, support system and father. We are no longer enslaved in the backyard of a plantation to just have intercourse and produce offspring for mass production and labor like cattle. Lets stop acting like we are!
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Social Media, Camming up, and Party dates are great, but how much is too much? Furthermore, how does it effect our children, leading up to the adults they soon will become.
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Back in the days they would dress in klans men attire to lynch you. Now they feel so comfortable as to do it right on camera . How can you as a black man decrease the likely hood of your demise and increase your chances of survival?
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Your unification is everything, yet standing as individuals who are against each other will get you annihilated. Put down your guns- stop aiming the trigger at each other, set aside beef/ arguments, make money together in a positive way, and heal your communities.
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This segment highly encourages black men to reevaluate their intentions for: dating, marrying -or having female offspring. If you can't help to heal a woman leave her alone; because having children by men who are abusive, leaves the female's psyche to subconsciously create a womb that produces children from hate, hurt, betrayal, and confusion- that leaves a trail mark of generational stains that both male and female children have to deal with the brunt/ backlash i.e, " my mom hated me because I look like my father!" or " why does the black mother abuse her black sons?"
Show the black woman that you are more than sex and cash- that you can provide, secure, be a live-in father-husband and protector to help break the curses bestowed upon us.
~The Truth with Trinity~
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This won't solve all of our problems, but by incorporating a class to recondition the 400+ year conditioning that was bestowed upon us- and by having classes that are apart of our education system i.e; elementary, High school, college courses etc.. We could learn to break the mental chains that have held us down for so long - to be able to gain the strength to say," enough is enough."
Key is: we are much stronger as a unit than individuals!
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People often cover up what they do by placing the blame on others. Yet when others call them out on their nonsense they are often labeled as the "crazy ones."
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Our youth are more likely to follow examples of what they can visualize in the people they look up to the most, rather than just vocalizing it. What we want our kids to emulate- we must first become ourselves !
If we want our children to behave a certain way- we must set forth certain standards, by conducting ourselves in such a manner.
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From our over- indulgence and obsession with entertainment and leisure, ;to our excessive need for fashion brands- to the mistreatment, distrust, disharmony, jealousy, and inner sabotaging ways in which we treat each other. Many Asians, Caucasians, Jews, Arabians etc. have found a very lucrative lifestyle for themselves- from our ( as blacks) inner turmoil.
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Does dancing in a provocative way further damage our reputation as women of color. Or is it harmless fun?
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Whites are given the full extent of the U.S Constitution( freedom/ expression of speech) anyone non-white performing or engaging in these kinds of acts on U.S soil is considered a "terrorist" by default.
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Instead of us trying to be better or out smart each other, what we need to do is take what we have individually -and collectively start to put our pieces together. We can longer be envious of those ahead nor can those ahead shrub their noses at those who haven't arrived yet ( crabs in a barrel mentality.)We must show each other how to get ahead.
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There is a argument that goes: Blacks can't be "racist" because they haven't much political control..
Are blacks more racist amongst each other( due to different shades and hues of skin color?)
What do you think?
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From the black version of Spiderman to The Little Mermaid there is so much black lash. But why?
What can be said about the many white actors and actress's that portray prominent Black, Native American, and Biblical historical figures throughout time?
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Ever wonder why the "guilty" are rendered an acquittal, despite how much evidence you seem to have against the accused is brushed under the rug. Here is the answer to why it is so, in the U.S justice system.
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As we well know, the form of racism takes the shape of many forms, but here- lets take a closer look at just a few examples of the methods used.
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To control the level of black people succeeding, drugs were put in place, as a act of terrorism, to distract, and diminish the numbers from rising to greater levels.
Is it in a man's nature to commit to monogamy?
Are we as women in denial- Living a fantasy ? Or are men?
As we dive into the topic of men and their need for other women.
We see it in television shows, music videos and movies- to our every day communities, many young and old black males discussing their due court date, or release date. But why? What makes it even worse, is that some of them talk about their lifestyle as if," that makes them Mr. Macho!"
We have black men talking about their time spend in jail like they've just graduated form Harvard ! Yet it's the least impressive.
Just because they'd rather see you locked up doesn't mean you have to give in - so easily ! Make it harder for them!
We need more black scholars to cheer for, instead of placing money on books , fatherless children, widowed spouses, and visiting our next loved one behind bars.
Due to the harsh realities most black men are born into- how can they hold their head up high? As the brutality on their very lives continue- its no question as to why they struggle with self esteem with having no where to turn to - ultimately making black women the end of the receptacle of their frustration.
The more you dish out, the less valuable you become.
Lets harness that beautiful energy.
Save something for yourself :)
When they can predict what you will do, they can easily control you. Therefore giving them a sense of familiarity and comfort.
Lets switch it up !
Never let your negative inner thoughts get the best of you.
You are strong, you are courageous, you stand throughout the test of time!
Rise and shine- for you are a mother !
~The Truth with Trinity~
Talks about the challenges of dating while being a single parent- and some of the red flags to look for.
If you find yourself in a situation where the folks around you can't give you the answers- It may be time to seek answers outside the circle.
In the healthcare field, Doctor's have an unspoken practice that excludes, majority of blacks from receiving proper pain management for their pain.
They say that race doesn't matter, yet we have to check what race we identify with. They say its only for "Census" reasons- yet will get upset if you don't comply with revealing your racial background. The root word of "Majority" is MAJOR and the root word of "Minority" is MINOR- and there isn't one insignificant thing about being black :)
~ The Truth with Trinity~
As black women we need to be very careful in regards to the family dynamic setup that we create for our children. We can't let emotions and lack of impulse control lead us into a destructive cycle- in continuously choosing the wrong mates that will leave us to be the caretakers of children who have different fathers. In this episode I go into detail on the consequences and the mental difficulties of dealing with such decisions
Women need breaks from children and the option to move on with their lives as well. Even the best mother's need time out to themselves. Don't punish her by refusing to be apart of your children's lives as a means of holding her down from experiencing new opportunities.
Its often said that black women can be "masculine acting," This episode encourages black men to differentiate their own needs as a man from that of a woman.
With many fathers being out of the home - it leaves many black women with no choice but to pick up the extra slack mentally, emotionally, and most certainly financially. Leaving children in a atmosphere to raise themselves - which can lead to disaster !
This message informs fathers on the consequences of abandoning their children, especially as a result of some form of punishment to the mother !
Although there are many aspects as to why the surge of black male homicide has increased in society; one of them is paramount -as Black Men when you show the world that you have no respect in how you treat your women- the world see's no value in respecting you or your life!
Black women are the life force behind the black male population- when you show society that you think black women are worthless, then the same energy comes back to you .
It's time for black men to spend more time rebuilding their women, children, and communities, and furthermore themselves, therefor leading to a way of decreasing always being the constant target !
The protection and guidance from a father is the foundation of many young women's relationships. This episode encourages more men to make sure that the influences and people who are in their daughter's circle are positive ones.
While "some" women use men with the sole intent of accumulating wealth- they never get labeled a prostitute . But as a black woman- just requiring the bare necessities can land you in the category of a "gold digger." Are black women too materialistic or are the men they deal with too selfish, or just simply lack the resources?
Has the world convinced you that the "Southern Belle" deserves the House with the "WHITE picket fence," while the BLACK woman deserve nothing?
~The Truth with Trinity~
The power is in our hands as parents, not the teachers. Arguing with a school system( or faculty) will get us no where ! As we all know the system was NEVER designed with any purpose or intent for our bright young pupil's to excel. The way we can fight back is by taking the time to make sure our children know the fundamental materials needed before they even set foot into the classroom- To have pride in our children's education!
-All training should be done at home-
aka HOME TRAINING
~The Truth with Trinity~
We can move to any location, or even have our neighborhoods remodeled. But if we don't change and clean up our mindset (intrinsic values ) then what would be newly constructed- would be quickly destroyed - as many of us are used to impoverished communities. We must have a positive mindset, so that what is on the inner will manifest on the outer- to be able to maintain the "finer things in life"
Some women claim they only want a man for "physical contact" then after he is done he must leave - but does this particular mindset come from subconsciously knowing that the man that you are dealing with only wants "you" for sex. So to feel in control, you say that you only want him for sex, as a power move- when the reality is you really want a relationship- but you know that he does not?
You are a beautiful woman. Could a "B" and a "Queen" ever co-exist? Never disrespect yourself again by calling yourself such a horrific name. Your value is worth more than diamonds.
Some black men happen to be misguided from the elder black men of our communities, who teach them to have as many women as possible( the pimp/ player ideology,) but fail to teach them consequences to their actions. As the old saying goes, "its cheaper to keep her!" couldn't be further from the truth . Let's take a look at how the failure and refusal to stand up and be a man to their women, and their children has cost them a fortune, and at times their freedom.
Poor advice from (some) elderly black women( due to their preconceived notions of prior bad experiences with men ) passed down to young black women on the in's and out's of how to tit for tat with the black man, that not only destroys the young women's lives- by teaching them methods that keep them trapped in a system that only cares to profit from their errors - that further destroys; not only them, the black men they involve themselves with, and any future offspring had- keeping the cycle of generational poverty going.
Black children were born to single black mothers at a rate of 23.6 % during 1965. Currently, in 2020 the percentage has increased to over 72% . With a system in place ready to profit off of our dysfunctional practices that have been passed down from one generation to another -lets take a deeper look.
What woman doesn't like a financially supportive man? But when it comes down to the amount of monetary gain, or the way in which means that they make their money- we need to be mindful in how we encourage our men to make their ends meet.
Many black women mourn over a deceased son or child's father - or go to visit them behind bars. Never fully understanding that the "street life" although produces a certain amount of financial gain in the beginning - isn't worth the children that grow up without access to their fathers and the many mothers that long to see their sons once again.
We can't continue to cry when they become incarcerated- or even worse dead. The first tear must drop at the first moment, we see our sons, and young men engaging in activities that will ultimately lead to their destruction.
So, it's this thing in the hood, that if you don't speak slang/ or up on the current Ebonics that you are trying to sound white or better than being black, when the reality is that the majority of blacks in America that are the descendants of slaves - do not have a native tongue- and thus forth are left to speak English(which is a European Language.)
Furthermore, every time you accuse a black woman or man(boy or girl) of speaking "white" instead of talking intelligible- what you are basically saying (without even realizing it) is that, "black people only seem fit to speak broken English(slang-unintelligible)" and that, "in order to enunciate or fluently speak English is only fitting to whites."
It's okay to have a language that you share in common within your community, friends, and family. But when it comes to the American Society and advancing in life- one must be able to adjust and adapt to achieve!
~The Truth with Trinity~
On one hand black women are often depicted as being too loose, too quick to have sex- yet the same ones that accuse her of these actions, often times will get upset if a sister is the type to want marriage( or at least abstain from physical intimacy for a length of time to get to know a guy) or decline in making hasty decisions. She's the one that has disciplined herself to make it to the top of what she wanted, while other black women are accused of wanting "handouts" and "gold diggers." News Flash gentlemen - you can't have it both ways............
So many black men claim that their children's mother(allegedly bitter,) block them from taking time to spend with their children- make sure you are not the real reason behind, "why you are being denied unsupervised visitation." . It is your duty and obligation as a father(mothers as well) to protect and lay down your life( if need be) for your child. Don't leave that job in the hands of another. # Accountability # selflessness #Protection # Placing value on our children over materials
Striving for success( furthering your education, entrepreneurship, speaking correct English-especially while in business settings), and encouraging others to make a decline- in behaviors that have been known to cause harm to our communities, doesn't make you a, "sell out."
We have to stop using the excuse that," we don't know any better." when the reality is- that some of us, " don't want to or refuse to want to know any better." Let's stop criticizing our brothers and sisters for telling us things," that we don't want to hear or are afraid of knowing."
For it takes courage to change
And nothing to stay the same.
As mothers( especially single) we are the number one protectors of our children . Placing value on their safety -over our fun and leisure time is a must. No matter the cost
Being a strong black woman has been a term that has been used for women of color that have had to endure hardships and survive. But has the term been misused? Leaving us no room to be feminine , yet we too need protection, love and respect.
Everyone makes mistakes, our black babies are so precious - but as black women we must also make better choices in the selection of men, and the standards we set forth to decrease our need for being pregnant by men that we will have no future with. We must find inner value within ourselves- to promote marriage and families within our communities. And also be willing to abstain from sex if need be.
How can we send a message to the cops to stop police brutality- when we are killing our own brothers and sisters,
As we can see, burning buildings and violent protest have not worked.
Lets come up with a plan that heals our communities and promotes peace from within.
Until we learn how to unify, and respect one another- no one will take us seriously !
Lastly, we can't expect for anyone to love us more than we should love ourselves.
We should matter to one another.
~The Truth with Trinity~
Believe it or not the way we dress has a great impact on the way others treat us - especially men :)