Working with a Spiritual Teacher or a healer or even a therapist it's very special kind of relationship. And yet so many people especially in the spiritual movement or industry where there is a lot of ego and people want to be the all powerful healer clairvoyant telepath etc. spend a great deal of time analyzing and critiquing their chosen Teacher. Analyzing someone else in order to figure out your boundaries and tolerances it's definitely a good thing to do with friendships and love relationships and family. With a Teacher what I always look at is what am I learning. And does that Teacher have a practice... do they walk their talk. Beyond that I follow the 12th step advice "take the best and leave the rest." People on ego trips very often like to study with someone in order to bring them down or compare themselves in order to make themselves feel better. And then they will engage in a passive aggressive relationship with their Teacher and a secret game of compare and compete never asking questions never finding out backstories that are typically none of their business anyway. And then the hostility will fall out at some point. when you are walking this path you cannot be a student you cannot learn because all you're interested in doing is finding the flaws in someone you admire so you can feel better about yourself. Your Teacher is not your friend or your lover and therefore you are not at risk with getting submerged in a personality relationship. Your Teacher's personality and choices are none of your business. You don't do this with your car mechanic or your dentist do you? No because there's no ego gratification in that. If you have a cranky mechanic who does a great job you might keep that mechanic. Or you might decide it's too annoying and move on but you will not psychoanalyze them and tell your mechanic you don't like their tone of voice or how they're handling the wrench. Why do you do this with your Spiritual Teacher... Or with any authority figure that you admire? That is the question you need to be asking yourself if you want to become a student. Not everybody can learn. some people are too busy posturing presenting and competing to be a learner.