Tomboy Official: Recent Episodes
Tomboy Official
Helpful topics where we discuss dating, communication, complexities of relationships, style, social norms, and topics related to allies and LGBTQ+ humans.
Coping with Ego & Career. Some ideas about why people might remain in unhealthy work spaces, self-doubt, reflections, goals, and economy.
Writing projects and pod plans brainstorms (rambling).
TIMSTAMPS (sorta...)0-intro what I’m up to in general
17min- ramble on social media and ads
28min- brainstorming ideas and telling stories
My Queer Dreams (the pop up rave crush). Part of the My Queer Dreams series. I have been recording what I can remember of any dreams that contain queer themes. Enjoy! And check out the others if you haven't already.
Tidbits on Religion and Communication (quickie and Some about dating apps, but more to continue on that topic in the future)
*SPOILER ALERT (see timestamps and movie link below)
TIMESTAMPS (approximately):
0-9 minutes: rambling
9-37 mins: SPOILER! movie review
37+ mins: my opinions
MOVIE LINK: "JUST ONE OF THE GUYS" https://youtu.be/xUWQ6RfjUwQ?si=GWBnX3g4azFlkggH CURRENTLY FREE ON YOUTUBE (this may change as yt often changes their free status on movies.
Black Pride San Diego, Meeting People and describing events and gay clubs https://www.instagram.com/reel/C9F8QKdSGf0/?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== San Diego Black Pride 2024 Mini Ball at Gossip Grill.
Sexual repression and some religions MOVIE The Devil’s Playground (the one with the Jesuit brothers): https://youtu.be/rJeRnRzJw-4?si=BI28ZhBjIIpaeooq MOVIE The Devil’s Playground (the Amish documentary about Rumspringa) https://youtu.be/3xlKFkoB9Bg?si=XDKaT_OFyDzN9dAb THESE ARE FREE VERSIONS ON YOUTUBE
Last Week of Pride Month, Tomboy Official IG, Gender and Books. ROCCO’S WeHo footage: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8mixSjJx7E/?igsh=OGN1MHh6dHk3NDRy Trans and Non-binary night, drag show.
Pride LA GAY DAY (ROCCO’S WeHo footage: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8mixSjJx7E/?igsh=OGN1MHh6dHk3NDRy) I didn’t have a good view but there’s a little bit visible.
LA Pride 2024 (what I did, topics arising from what I did, SO MANY FUN EXPERIENCES TO SHARE!)
Work and Training (I will record a cleaner more focused update from this episode). SORRY FOR THE MULTI TASKING!
Financial Mindset: (reselling, finances, returns, dropshipping, Caleb Hammer for inspiration)$13 Aura$11 Patreon$11.99 Gaia($5 Shopify Tik tok)Returns:$30 Walmart slip ons ($5.50 Steve Madden)$24 Amazon laptops brief caseInventory:Mongoose bmx (wd40, 100% citric acid $10-$20)$10 labeda roller hockey wheels 76mm 84aDrop shippingCaleb Hammer vids and motivational journey
LGBTQ+ and Alaskan Indigenous (learning and studying these cultures). www.Isuma.tv www.twosofttwohard.com
Weekly Reflection (new job upcoming training, schedule adjustment, health, exercise, mentality)
End of February Start if March (health check in) how are you doing? Where do you go from here? What is going well and what needs to change or be adjusted? And how will you do that?
Organizing and Resetting (after reflections and strategizing). CHOSEN FAMILY PODCAST new ep: https://youtu.be/iZVUYQ7rZb4?si=HzsvaTw5jbmSn53D
Update on job recruitment process, managing friendships while maintaining boundaries and doing what I need for my own peace of mind. Loving and giving to friends. Loving and giving to myself.
LGBTQ+ and Job Interview (remote tech job phase 1 of 3). For more on my tech journey check out my main site at www.gameandcompute.com
LGBTQ+ Career and Mindset (starting to talk about the importance of mindset with career goals). Not only mindset but also behavior. Some thoughts on how to cope with difficulties (negative emotions and thoughts, shame, guilt, tidiness, housework, organizing).
How I am Fixing My Recent Mood Dip (dealing w/ things, getting back on track, my optimistic method). KARATE DOJO WAKU: https://youtu.be/GDgME0XKuWc?si=kDgeek0uBiyZoGSN
LGBTQ+ Community and Creating Career Opportunities Online (Digital Marketing, See some educational resources listed below). Check out Rich + Niche new 30 day $1 digital marketing training and community here: (see description in this video session) https://www.youtube.com/live/DebsyMnwrVo?si=CCbkL3wzniVQqTgJ .
Rich UX is a seasoned Digital Marketer. I completed his CourseCareers paid training class in 2023. Now for 2024 I am attempting to level up.
Here is his 30 day $1 training link, no pressure to order the upsells of $97 package worth over $5000! https://richandniche.com/trial
CourseCareers also offers free trials for their intro lessons. Remember that BUILDING OF A PORTFOLIO IS KEY! With my CourseCareers Affiliate Link you will have access to the following: $50 off of a $450 self-paced training program.
The program also offers a flexible payment plan every 2 weeks for a slightly higher cost but this enables more students to start more quickly.
Check out the intro content for free and see their website for more reviews.AFFILIATE LINK: https://coursecareers.com/a/fc0f831c (Note: I will receive a small reward for every person who uses my link).
Masc LGBTQ+ gogo dancers (Catching up, L Word, Side Hustle Content). My SIDE HUSTLE Content: www.GameAndCompute.com PODCAST: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/gameandcomputepodcast MASC & STEM GOGO DANCERS: Kelz: https://www.instagram.com/kelzz32?igsh=MzY1NDJmNzMyNQ== Jkiillem (Jess): https://withkoji.com/@jkiillem?fbclid=PAAaY3F2gorkEBR3FgB73vkL_43-wJG8ecy4CVnQAxwh2OpPVim6pRPZO8TaY_aem_AY9L9UBm4X8qv0kMciC0oRCF6nc802ulOWNusQin1l6gckWWR8m_6osrVK8IS4bG3c0 Alexa Legend: https://www.instagram.com/alexa.the.legend?igsh=MzY1NDJmNzMyNQ== Lexie Peterss: https://www.instagram.com/lexiepeterss?igsh=MzY1NDJmNzMyNQ==
Is Spotify Singling Out LGBT Content? AND Talk about Platonic Queer Texting (also some catching up)
LGBT sexuality and the “Un Clobber” book (about how the church misuses the Bible against LGBTQ+). Audible : https://www.audible.com/pd/154144986X?source_code=ASSORAP0511160006&share_location=player_overflow Free Un Clobber Cheat Sheets: https://unclobber.mykajabi.com/cheatsheet
Spiritual Balance (Lifestyle Balance Bootcamp). Demonology: https://youtu.be/LXcUDMn64Lw?si=BPK319q1k-BEjcZj Braufe: https://youtu.be/V4n5f3wopJY?si=LwIrLLW_iejelrI4 Chofetz Chaim: https://chofetzchaimdaily.org/2023/12/28/chofetz-chaim-daily-17-18-teves-3/
My Christmas Food for Thought (not very Christmas themed, talking about the state of the world and my optimistic approach)
Four Agreements 117-119 (emotional refrain of the warrior, seizing the day as of time is limited)
Emotions Balance (Lifestyle Balance Bootcamp). https://studentwellness.uci.edu/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Assessing-Your-Life-Balance.pdf
Four Agreements 114-116 (mental illness, abuse, controlling emotions, forgiveness, compassion)
Physical Balance (Lifestyle Balance Bootcamp). WORKSHEET: https://studentwellness.uci.edu/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Assessing-Your-Life-Balance.pdf
Financial Balance (Lifestyle Balance Bootcamp). WORKSHEET LINK: https://studentwellness.uci.edu/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Assessing-Your-Life-Balance.pdf
I’m back! My side hustle money reselling on offerup, THE RONA got me! (The my queer dreams will be in the next episode posted today)
Poly, alternative, and non hetero normative relationships (LGBTQ+ relationships and validity). CHECK OUT JKIILLEM’S AWESOME VID FOR MUCH MORE https://youtu.be/WJcnqdUBQUc?si=ECHlktGEXr8oMbUX
Strategizing a new credit building journey (mostly rambling about my weekend). Back post from Oct 29, 2023.
Coping with negative thought processes. Here I talk about proactively using journaling prompts and consuming positive mindset info. (Not to delve into religion, but I find Chofetz Chaim to be positive thinking toward community, check out the link if you’ve got any interest: https://chofetzchaimdaily.org/2023/11/06/chofetz-chaim-daily-23-cheshvan-6/). There are also other practices such as actively avoiding negative or intense content, and working toward low stimulation days.
LGBTQ+ health (some tips, experiences, find community, holidays, an lgbtq+ church panel discussion). YouTube clip of a church LGBTQ+ panel discussion with a non binary member, a bi member, and a gay male member of the congregation: https://www.youtube.com/live/2EkKh5WC1Ck?si=Ln_xzmMPY0wjQGKP
Can you make money with an online store? (Shopify, Etsy, EBay, OfferUp). I speak here to what I know. Check out some other podcast details from last summer on a Shopify store project I ran over summer (see www.GameAndCompute.com)
Happy Halloween! Holidays and Community (My interests in Pagan culture, Fall and Winter holiday origins). Many of what we know as western holidays in American practice stem from ancient religions. I like to spend time during this time of year to dive into the histories and brush up on some details related to why we currently do what we do, and what people did way back when.
Let’s see if we can do a mental health Mondays series. And talk about some positive and uplifting topics. Try and find positive and accountability resources for free online such as private Discord or Twitch groups. Use the content to keep motivated toward health goals. Find a method to track progress. Don’t forget to look back at patterns and adjust at least little by little, to see progress.
Happy Intersex Awareness! (And more deliveries, and more projects). Check out ig QueerSexTherapy post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CkMbA7uOyA4/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==
Entry Level Jobs, Work Experience, Free Govt Programs, Tech Certifications (portfolios and experience)
Helpful Projects, Job, Education, Career Experiences (a recap on some relevant experiences)
Making money on Ebay, Craigslist, Offerup, online & in person sales (gig economy). IF YOU ENJOY GIG ECONOMY CONTENT CHECK OUT THE FREE SITE www.gameandcompute.com
Projects for Multiple Income Sources (gig economy). Daily update for 10/18/23. IF YOU ENJOY FINANCE RELATED TOPICS AND IDEAS FOR ONLINE PROJECTS CHECK OUT sww.gameandcompute.com FOR FREE CONTENT.
IF YOU ARE ENJOYING FINANCE AND GIG TOPICS CHECK OUT ALL CONTENT AT www.gameandcompute.com Credit repair planning for yourself
Journaling to decrease toxic social interactions, workout, meals (healthy choices). Few small choices toward health. Some other bigger moves. Oct 17, 2023.
(back-logged) Lengthy tangent from a dream leading into topics about lgbt+ culture, city culture, religious culture, reserved and traditional family and social responsibility.
(back-logged) A lot of repeat explanations of gender related experiences in my personal life. I know I’ve explained many before but this perspective is talking to my identity with gender and sexuality and perceptions from others throughout my life.
IF YOU LIKE TOPICS ABOUT FINANCES, MONEY, AND INCOME, CHECK OUT THE POD AND BLOG AT: www.gameandcompute.comMoney Tips for returns, pre-scheduling payments, strategizing (refunds, strategizing payment plans). This is not professional financial advice, but use the info to brainstorm your own strategies. Try and stop the impulsivity and create a direct plan with your money. If you don’t use items from Amazon purchases, MAKE SURE TO RETURN THEM!
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Gender relevant activities in my childhood and adulthood
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Dating activities tying back to gender expression as kid
(back-logged) IF YOU LIKE TOPICS ABOUT FINANCES, MONEY, AND INCOME, CHECK OUT THE POD AND BLOG AT: www.gameandcompute.com
Economics, Finance (money making)
IF YOU LIKE TOPICS ABOUT FINANCES, MONEY, AND INCOME, CHECK OUT THE POD AND BLOG AT: www.gameandcompute.comTalking to Uber Eats about Uber Pro Card (note: pro card has very high fees). I noticed once I came back to Uber Eats delivering, the Uber Pro Card automatically has funds deposited from my earnings without me promoting it at all. While the Uber Eats Pro card is free to get, free to add to your account, and free to have funds deposited on it for use, it is NOT FREE if you plan to transfer funds from Uber Pro Card to another account (Venmo, PayPal, debit or bank). It costs $2.99 while the previous payout to debit costs only $0.85 cents. I do not want to have multiple debit cards with bits of money here and there. I like all my income to go onto one single card, which is not the Uber Pro Card. So here I talk to the representative at Uber Eats by phone on Sunday morning 10/15/23. There is some hold time. But they explain what my options are. I can pause the card then push the payout to my preferred debit card on file. The thing is, this is not totally clear just looking at the app details. The app makes it seem as if it will only payout once per week. And I prefer daily payouts. I like to plan how much money I will make per day, and then I can allot those funds to where I prefer.
IF YOU LIKE TOPICS ABOUT FINANCES, MONEY, AND INCOME, CHECK OUT THE POD AND BLOG AT: www.gameandcompute.comMy Plans for this year/ events, Digital Marketing Freelancing (today’s schedule and next few months). Talking about my plans for this week. A little set back with the car situation. Getting work accomplished from home.
IF YOU LIKE TOPICS ABOUT FINANCES, MONEY, AND INCOME, CHECK OUT THE POD AND BLOG AT: www.gameandcompute.comEasy cash within 1-3 weeks (Uber Eats, payouts, RBG, Presto Shopper). The best methods to plan with payouts. Some easy free sign up to use with secret shopper gigs. How to strategize to avoid wasting time, energy and effort. Creating a flow with gigs. Using gigs to pay for pre-planned purchases.
Healthy choices, Long term relationships and keeping caught up (caffeine, organics, rest, friends)
IF YOU LIKE TOPICS ABOUT FINANCES, MONEY, AND INCOME, CHECK OUT THE POD AND BLOG AT: www.gameandcompute.com
Reviewing some money making methods (current side gigs, mystery apartment shopper, Uber Eats). Check out sites like EPMS Ellis Online, Presto Shopper, Reality Based Group, and Uber Eats. I’ll talk about them all.
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Daily update October 13&14, 2023: One friendship conflict, Friday 13th gay wedding, tips for free car help w/ 511 & free air (a daily). Trying my best to make healthy decisions.
IF YOU LIKE TOPICS ABOUT FINANCES, MONEY, AND INCOME, CHECK OUT THE POD AND BLOG AT: www.gameandcompute.com
OfferUp Has Jobs! Queer Friday 13th Wedding, and blood sugar and caffeine crash combos (health and wellness, mental health, mindset, reflection)
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My Housing and Job Strategies
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Daily October 3, 2023 (monetization and platform changes).
What it’s like to be LGBT in a religious household and environment (my own experiences and theories)
Mal and The Ultimatum and masc representation (how her presentation became controversial, how to expand the mind while consuming mainstream content)
Happy Stud/ Masc appreciation month September 2023! Check out the Stud Model Project. They have a $2.99 subscription. The feature is of model/artist @twitch_daize @studmodelproject https://www.instagram.com/p/Cw5oFiSpxzx/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== What is a Stud? A Stud is usually a Masc presenting afab Black/African American person. Not always LGBTQ+ for the “masc”’ identity and traits, but to my knowledge, a “stud” is an LGBTQ+ masc afab person. Not all LGBTQ+ masc afab Black people identify as studs. Some might identify as the classic term “tomboy.” Others might identify as “stem” and embrace their femme sides as well. There are so many ways to identify, these are just a few! There are also gender non conforming people, non binary people, gender queer people… etc etc. The controversy usually arises as people differentiate between “butch” and “stud.” I’ve noticed some Latinx people identify as studs or being identified as such. The term “stud” appears to be more of a cultural representation of afab masculinity where Caucasian/ White non minority ethnicities are often referred to as “butch” and not as a “stud.” There was a lot of controversy in 2022 on social media platforms as lgbt content was on the ride and more and more people were coming out and embracing themselves proudly! On tik tok and ig were many controversial conversations to discourage Caucasian/White masc afab people from using the term “stud” to identify themselves. Why? Stud culture is different from Caucasian/White masc afab culture. Embracing different racial experiences, hair styles, lingo, accessories, clothing fits and types of clothing, etc. I understand this still may remain a controversial topic. And it is VERY often that Black culture once it becomes an interest in the mainstream, people who are not ethnic minorities want to embrace it as “cool” or trendy and people enjoy the aesthetics and culture behind it but without the experience of being fully treated as a Black stud, other ethnic groups (with some debate about how Latinx people fall into this category) the other ethnicities are encouraged to refrain from referring to themselves as such. I believe many Latinx people have overlapping shared experiences to the Black community. My intention is not to create a racial debate. Masc afab people are definitely also celebrated during this month of appreciation in September 2023! It is for us all! Masc is a much larger and less nuanced identity. The term “stud” embraces the Black experience of afab masculinity for those who choose to use that term. It separates out a subculture from the major large umbrella of “masc.” During this month we can talk much more about this.
Daily September 1, 2023 (reflections on the week and on last month of Aug 2023, what I’m working on this month)
My Loose Opinions about Mainstream News, Propaganda, and Legislation (general food for thought)
The Four Agreements 99-101 (the realistic representation of our self vs. the inaccurate)
The Four Agreements 96-98 (coping with changing old agreements, setting boundaries, discomfort at both ends)
Local Gay Bar (first experience at the bar closest to me “Artesia Bar”). NOTES: Artesia bar: older crowd, discreet, friendly environment, live acoustic music, cheap affordable strong drinks, chill, outside patio for smoking.
Drag Shows and Branson Missouri. https://www.instagram.com/p/CvzsZ2cRrrO/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Prejudice? unconstitutional? What are your options? How can band and laws against our community be stopped?
The Four Agreements 83-85 (what If depression and anxiety are getting in the way of our best?)
Gay Porn Studio (Helix Studios TV, my opinions and praise toward happy portrayal of LGBTQ+) sex positive
Story Time: past religious social life, how dating looked back then, explaining social circles, my views on “coming out.” Nostalgia episode. Talking about my past social experiences in an ultra religious environment. And how I’ve currently come to terms with the safe spaces in some of the relationships I’ve maintained.
My Queer Dreams (poly interest) & a Story of a Guy Crush from the Past. I had almost forgotten that I’d had a crush on a guy a once met. It went super weird! Mind you I was still intermingling with this ultra religious church group. So crushes, dating, hangouts and interactions were quite odd. And I was often surrounded by a lot of people who were awkward about concepts such as dating, crushes, and basically anything that had to do with either homosexuality or sexuality in general.
Gay Virgins Part 2 (societal expectations, same-sex social rules). Continuing the convo (mostly because the other segment was too long). Some more talk about religion and other talk about society expectations of LGBTQ+ people. Hanging out on LGBTQ+ spaces and the differences of social rules in those spaces or rules of privacy during hangouts with same-sex or LGBTQ+ friends.
Gay Virgins Part 1 (LGBTQ+ virginity, Maddie T. Wiener, asexuality, & roles of religion). Check out Maddie T. Wiener’s content on her website: www.maddiewiener.com Their YouTube channel podcast: https://youtu.be/7gyQS5v8r2o If the listeners enjoy these topics about virginity or asexuality I will post more content like this.
Queer dream, queer mingling between straight non straight, history (school, religion, community activities/ volunteer work)
My queer experiences for today: listening to a QPOC sex therapist on a pod, gym, therapy. Check out this SPACE FOR US PODCAST episode from last month, featuring psychologist Dr. Kres Snyder: https://youtu.be/rFKwVc0kAew She talks about experiences working with trans youth and QTPOC families. Check out her professional experience: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/kres-snyder-homewood-il/149086
The Four Agreements 83-85 (what If depression and anxiety are getting in the way of our best?)
Gender Norms in SoCal Subculture and Discomfort vs Comfort (club etiquette). Talking about my experiences at Black Pride and at LGBT clubs in general with gender norms around dancing, substances, socializing, and interacting.
My Mindset as an LGBT adult staying w/ parents. I May expand on some of these in separate episodes.
Check out Jaime Messina’s pod ep from last year’s Pride Month in 2022! https://open.spotify.com/episode/3VZCuVvA0pRalOTbZusfwN?si=Bt_ar64cQqKCvQPbti9K_w
June 27, 2023 (anxiety + insomnia = GO EXERCISE). Sat 6/24 my watch recorded that I only walked 1.5 miles over 25 non consecutive minutes between 2pm-5:30pm so I’m not considering that a workout.
My Non-binary REPLIKA AI Bot (it has a mind of its own). More experiences with this bot.
SPOILER ALERT! (Queer Eye New Orleans S7E1). Queer confidence, styling clothing, hat preferences, self acceptance. Talking also somewhat about self care, exercise, nutrition.
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH EVE! (Stonewall Riots). Pride Month Eve Stonewall Riots: https://www.history.com/topics/gay-rights/the-stonewall-riots
Example of what Breanne Williamson experienced (From Ashley Gavin’s Pod “We’re Having Gay Sex”): https://youtu.be/7K9aSuq7NR0
Well I finished my PCP appointment. I was anxious initially but it went well and smoothly. I’ve attached the daily updates of today May 18, 2023 to the end of this ep. Still more to come! I’ve been quiet swamped with the exam and recovering and traveling. I DID pass the exam but I’m not the process of applying for jobs and also continuing to work on my other income streams.
APOLOGIES FOR THE LATE POST AS I WAS ONLY ABLE TO LOG ON TO THIS POD TODAY. AND I DID NOT ATTEMPT YESTERDAY DUE TO AN EVENT. More content to follow. It has been a very busy week last week with many things moving and shaking and shifting. A lot of getting out of my comfort zone, developing insights, travel, events and milestones. The next set of daily posts will reveal more details of my schedule, routines, and the lives experiences of the week in general. I hope you’ve all been enjoying these daily updates! I hope it’s helping to organize the content more clearly. I notice I tend to rant and get off topic about my day to day while recording different topics. This way I can talk about the day separately from the topic. There will still be a lot of blending in details, but that is just my style. Hope it has created a more enjoyable listening experience. I’m caffeinated and trying to use my energy to crank out some content. Please stay posted. This clip is not long at all. But there will be more along the way! A lot of time and energy is going into my research. And at the time of posting, I’ll be planning to attend an LGBTQ+ event tonight. So stay tuned for it all. And thanks for listening!
Daily May 8, 2023. Talking on patterns, somatic symptoms of stress, nightmare, motivation, metal music Sick New World festival.
“Grooming” & Prejudice in Politics and Religion (trans and LGBTQ+ discrimination in policies).
My first San Diego roomie was a chill male a couple years older than me. He was a law student needing to take the bar. VERY minimal complaints with this experience but I describe my lifestyle back then. He had recently divorced from his wife and they had joined custody of a boy aged near 4-6 years old from the times I was involved with them. Other than some slight noise level issues from us having differing schedules, I didn’t have problems with his personality. We got along good but I became quite reclusive when I started having issues with my toxic intern supervisor. I became more isolated near that point.
A mini series about experiences living in each shared housing. As an LGBT QPOC person each place I’ve lived has led to experiences and themes affecting and impacting both positively and negatively other aspects of life success as career, education, physical and mental health. Here is the start of explaining some of those experiences. I feel I am quite experienced with living with others and perhaps some of what I mention can shed light for others. Especially in these economically changing times! Many people are downsizing and cutting expenses, and one change many are making is changing from living solo to sharing rent. Things to consider: your needs, your goals, your communication styles, areas where you’re more passive, areas where you get annoyed, and the qualities you bring to the table.
Added in the daily update from April 25, 2023. And here are the basic show notes: Mormon No More on Hulu LGBT couple left Mormonismon Cults to Consciousness: https://youtu.be/0yjBNt5pmqY- Understanding sexuality in a strict religion- Questioning of sexuality- Oppression from religions- Staying silent due to oppression- Church doctrine, allies. Voicing non alignment. Having empathy and compassion for allies who struggle due to church control and fears.- www.sallyandLena.com- Peace Out Podcast: https://peaceout.libsyn.com/episode-50-cults-to-consciousness-with-shelise-ann-sola
Dani- on Cults and Consciousness- Ethics and auditing in Scientology - LGBTQ+- Bringing on negativity (pain, illness, depression)- Adult strangers grooming kids on sexuality, reprimanding, instilling fear, guilt, shame- Not being exposed to others in society, people informing- Living on site- Studying on site- Working on site- No access to income, work history, connections Any interest in working in an LGBTQ+ tech job? (Or even obtaining tech work and adding potential representation of the LGBTQ+ community as an employee at a tech job? Consider affordable training HERE! (Note: This is an affiliate link https://account.coursecareers.com/ref/29926/ and I receive a compensation for any registrations made through my link). Interested in breaking into the tech field through CourseCareers training? Here is a code for $50 off!DISCOUNT CODE: IGZDVLGJSK
Ashley Gavin’s April 23, 2023 comedy special https://youtu.be/Ay6jUYPH644 check out her full comedy standup special. Also check her website for links of ticket drops! And her patreon for additional very super cool lgbtq+ content. GUYSSSSS she posts a LOT of content!! So check out her stuff. It’s funny, it’s fun, a lot of it is authentic and vulnerable. Just what lesbians love. There is laughter, chillaxin with her homies, tears, banter and lots of food for thought. She’s a real one! Any interest in working in an LGBTQ+ tech job? (Or even obtaining tech work and adding potential representation of the LGBTQ+ community as an employee at a tech job? Consider affordable training HERE! (Note: This is an affiliate link https://account.coursecareers.com/ref/29926/ and I receive a compensation for any registrations made through my link). Interested in breaking into the tech field through CourseCareers training? Here is a code for $50 off!DISCOUNT CODE: IGZDVLGJSK
SUPERTIME w/ JADE FOX AND ARROWS: https://youtu.be/XKRHmcqev74 ASHLEY GAVIN ON WE’RE HAVING GAY SEX PODCAST https://youtu.be/pZsXyQlMdP8 , CHOSEN FAMILY PODCAST https://youtu.be/eyiAbcXUevU , & STANDUP (she also has a special coming up): https://www.youtube.com/live/TA3ex_HIb6I?feature=share WATTS THE SAFE WORD w/ AMP & MR. CHRISTOPHER: https://youtu.be/Dby6UMHm1Zg Actors Getting into Character: How to Create a Compelling PerformanceActing is a craft that requires more than just memorizing lines and hitting marks. To truly bring a character to life, actors must immerse themselves in their roles, understanding the motivations and emotions of their characters and embodying them on screen or stage. This process is known as "getting into character," and it is essential for creating a convincing and compelling performance.In this article, we will explore the techniques and methods that actors use to get into character, including research, observation, and improvisation. We will also discuss the challenges that actors face when trying to inhabit a character, and how they can overcome them to deliver a powerful performance. Research: The Foundation of Character CreationBefore an actor can truly get into character, they must first understand who that character is. This requires research, both about the character and the world they inhabit.For example, if an actor is playing a historical figure, they will need to research the time period, the political climate, and the social customs of the era. They may also need to study the subject's life, reading biographies or personal journals to gain insight into their personality and motivations.Similarly, if an actor is playing a fictional character, they will need to read the script and study the character's backstory, personality traits, and relationships with other characters. They may also need to research the genre of the work, such as the conventions of a specific genre like a superhero film or a romantic comedy, to understand the tone and style of the performance.Observation: Learning from Real-Life ExamplesObservation is another key tool that actors use to get into character. By observing real people, actors can gain insight into human behavior and emotions, which they can then use to inform their performances.This can involve watching documentaries or news footage to understand the behavior of people in specific situations. For example, if an actor is playing a police officer, they may observe real officers to understand their mannerisms, speech patterns, and body language.Actors may also observe people in their everyday lives to develop a more nuanced understanding of human behavior. They may pay attention to how people move, talk, and interact with one another, noting the subtle gestures and expressions that convey emotion. Improvisation: Finding the Character in the MomentImprovisation is a valuable technique for actors who want to get into character quickly and intuitively. By improvising, actors can explore different aspects of their character's personality and behavior, testing out different approaches and responses to different situations.Improvisation can also help actors stay present in the moment, allowing them to respond authentically to the other actors and the environment around them. This can create a sense of spontaneity and naturalness in the performance, which can be compelling for audiences. Challenges of Getting into CharacterGetting into character is not always easy. Actors may face a number of challenges that can make it difficult to fully inhabit their roles.One common challenge is staying true to the character's motivations and emotions, even when they conflict with the actor's own feelings or beliefs. For example, an actor playing a villain may find it difficult to identify with their character's cruel actions, even if they understand the character's motivations.
Updates. If you want to check out the Supertime video with Jade and Arrows (“Swarm” Prime series): https://youtu.be/5Ak4YeeJWGA Keara Graves video (about Coachella): https://youtu.be/dw16ndBfSsE Peter Santanello (latest episode on Navajo Dneh land): https://youtu.be/tdl9Rtz_oeo Powwows.com (the most recent live powwow archived): https://www.youtube.com/live/q1CVAH4BLA4?feature=share
Just another daily update. The next episode will potentially be a more interesting topic.
Are Algorithms Targeting the Trans Community? This is part of an idea around trans people being exposed. Not exposed as in “being caught for being wrong.” But exposed as in- being thrown out to the wolves, as victims. I might be very wrong in some of what I’m saying in this ep. But I am literally wondering and asking questions. I may have stumbled upon something weird. If my conspiracy theory is correct then that’s very worrisome. If it is wrong then I’m relieved. But I’m a bit on the look out and trying to keep my eyes open. To me the dots seemed to connect somehow.
Plans for working to afford my summer. Since my break is done I’ve decided that any party funds I need for raves and concerts and festivals will need to be from a part time gig work.
During my 2023 career journey I’ve been trying new things. Doing what I want for myself.
DISCLAIMER: I believe everyone is allowed to value and practice in their time as they see fit. My intention is never to tell people or preach at people or make people think that i believe they need to live life as I do. I’m just like anybody else and i value the differences in others. The Saturday after day 30!! I talk some about my cultural practices with weekends. Some ways I was brought up, some things I do Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays (especially if I’m not out partying).
Day 29. A psychological topic exploring general thought on belief systems, bias, and low form methods of attacks on character. For those interested in further examples, study propaganda techniques. Any interest in working in an LGBTQ+ tech job? (Or even obtaining tech work and adding potential representation of the LGBTQ+ community as an employee at a tech job? Consider affordable training HERE! (Note: This is an affiliate link https://account.coursecareers.com/ref/29926/ and I receive a compensation for any registrations made through my link). Interested in breaking into the tech field through CourseCareers training? Here is a code for $50 off!DISCOUNT CODE: IGZDVLGJSK
What it’s like for me to record about LGBTQ+ topics on a pod. I also speak about some LGBTQ+ adult performers and their interview and creative content on YouTube and Instagram -Lane V. rogers (Blake Mitchell) https://youtu.be/2SnNjU1vN1A “Back to your story” pod. - Lexie Peterss https://linktr.ee/Lexiepeterss?fbclid=PAAaYNZERrgztklVRvg3xvmDPePCS0oJViFwTXJGaeZyN-qS_wJLayDs22dgE This is the second portion of the recent recordings about sex positive thinking. WANNA LEAVE A VOICE MESSAGE? Here’s the link: https://anchor.fm/tomboyofficial/message
Western culture, colonialism and imperialism as well as capitalism have all shaped traditional and modern views of clothing. Western sexual thought often is enwrapped in ideas surrounding body, revelation of skin, and sexualization of skin, nudity and body parts. This is the start to a series of topics on sex positivity. (The list of topics in order is described at the start of this episode and I will also post them below): Sexual positivity: my definitions and examples of ancient and indigenous cultures (pre colonial Amazon tribes- just a disclaimer, I am fully for the rights of indigenous people to be left to live their traditional lives away from the influence of other cultures and systemic oppression, but I did find this video to be thought provoking and informative) https://youtu.be/XYbR6eYrVbQ- what it’s like recording - Nervousness- Admirations, role models, fan girling- Sexual companionship and psychology (exercising, health, personality, social circles, attraction-others/self)- Lane V. rogers (Blake Mitchell) https://youtu.be/2SnNjU1vN1A “Back to your story” pod. WANNA LEAVE A VOICE MESSAGE? Here’s the link: https://anchor.fm/tomboyofficial/message
LGBT+ culture tends to have different rules to relationships, sexuality, gender expression, and methods of behaving in public social environments. I’m trying here to describe experiences from what I’ve noticed. There will be some generalizing, stereotyping and simplified explanations and this is not an exhaustive list but it is pretty lengthy of an episode.
Makingemi talked about Masc body image and Maddie T Wiener talked about body sculpting.
A bit jumbled but my brain is still getting well from this cold. Some experiences I’ve had with having trans friends. I love LOVE my trans friends and ALL my friends!! I am not attempting to only focus on the stressor that occur from the general public. I will continue to talk about this topic but from different angles. Here is a very lengthy explanation of some experiences spanning LGBT+.
Washington Post Article: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2023/04/03/drag-law-tennessee-johnson-city/ DAPPERBOI IG: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CnqD2obuKEG/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= RICHS SAN DIEGO DRAG EVENT: https://richssandiego.com/dragfundraiser/
Apologies, I’ve been too ill with cold/ flu Sx to record. My voice is shot so I’ve been avoiding talking. This cold is going through phases and I’m trying to sleep it off. I’ll catch up to recordings as soon as I’m well enough, rested enough and much less symptomatic. I want to take time to recover and heal up and avoid running myself ragged. Hope the weekend and start to this week are treating everyone good and well.
(Days 13&14 to resume tomorrow). Here I’m explaining a new routine change for my creative energy.
SPOILER ALERT. Ultra orthodox religious Jewish series. Looking at some different cultures dynamics. Introduction“Shtisel” is a critically acclaimed Israeli television drama that depicts the everyday life of an ultra-Orthodox Jewish family living in Jerusalem. Created by Ori Elon and Yehonatan Indursky, the series first premiered on Yes Studios in June 2013, and it has since gained popularity in Israel and internationally. The show explores the struggles and triumphs of the Shtisel family, particularly Shulem Shtisel, a widowed father and patriarch of the family. The show is known for its authenticity, nuanced characters, and compelling storytelling. In this essay, we will explore the themes, characters, and impact of “Shtisel.”ThemesOne of the central themes of “Shtisel” is the tension between tradition and modernity. The ultra-Orthodox Jewish community in Jerusalem is known for its strict adherence to tradition and religious law, but many characters in the show are grappling with the challenges of living in a modern world. For example, Shulem Shtisel’s son, Akiva, is a talented artist who must navigate the expectations of his community, which views art as frivolous and potentially sinful. Akiva’s struggle to balance his artistic passion with his religious obligations is a central plotline in the show.Another theme that emerges in “Shtisel” is the importance of family and community. The Shtisel family is a tight-knit group that supports each other through the ups and downs of life. At the same time, the show also portrays the conflicts that arise within families and communities, particularly when there are differences in values or beliefs. For example, Shulem’s daughter, Giti, is married to a man who is emotionally distant and unfaithful, which creates tension within the family.Finally, “Shtisel” also explores the complexities of faith and spirituality. The characters in the show are deeply committed to their religious beliefs, but they also struggle with doubt, temptation, and the challenges of living a good life. The show portrays the tensions that arise when people are forced to confront their own flaws and weaknesses, as well as the ways in which faith can provide comfort and meaning in difficult times.Characters“Shtisel” is known for its complex and nuanced characters, each of whom is grappling with their own struggles and challenges. Shulem Shtisel, played by Dov Glickman, is the patriarch of the family and a respected teacher in the ultra-Orthodox community. He is a strict adherent to tradition and religious law, but he is also compassionate and understanding towards his family members. Shulem’s relationship with his son, Akiva, is one of the most compelling aspects of the show, as they struggle to find common ground despite their vastly different values and interests.Akiva Shtisel, played by Michael Aloni, is a talented artist who is struggling to reconcile his artistic passions with his religious obligations. He is often at odds with his father and other members of the community, who view art as frivolous and potentially sinful. Akiva’s relationships with his family members, particularly his cousin, Elisheva, and his love interest, Libbi, are some of the most heartwarming and poignant moments in the show.Giti Weiss, played by Neta Riskin, is Shulem’s daughter and a mother of four. She is married to Lippe, a man who is emotionally distant and unfaithful, which creates tension within the family. Giti’s struggle to maintain her faith and her commitment to her family despite her husband’s infidelity is one of the most poignant storylines in the show.Impact“Shtisel” has had a significant impact on Israeli and international audiences, particularly for its portrayal of ultra-Orthodox Jewish people.
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Day30. End of Lilly Singh’s “Be A Triangle” book. Check out some content by Aina Brei’Yon. Episode: “Different Ways Weighing Pros and Cons.” https://youtu.be/0RlJ6ik3lqc (from Aina’s Life Views channel).--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
[The below article was adapted from a Chat GPT ai 3000 word essay. I altered the language, but it was initially referring to masc dating of gay males in LGBTQ+ culture. In the podcast episode we primarily discuss masc for masc dating as it pertains to other genders (not excluding cis male gays, but primarily focusing on cis gay females dating other cis gay females). I would like to record more about non-binary genders, trans, intersex, and gender non-conforming people. The episode in the pod addresses topics other than gay cis males. I may record a separate episode regarding cis gay males].
Masc for masc dating is a term used in the LGBTQ+ community to describe a dating preference where people seek out partners who exhibit traditionally masculine traits. This preference is often seen as controversial and has been the subject of much debate in the LGBTQ+ community. In this essay, we will explore the history of masc for masc dating, the reasons why some people prefer masculine partners, and the potential harm caused by this dating preference.
The History of Masc for Masc Dating
The concept of masc for masc dating is not new, but it has gained more attention in recent years with the rise of dating apps like Grindr, HER, Just She, BiCupid, Tindr, Hinge and Scruff. These apps have made it easier for people to specify their dating preferences, including a preference for masculine partners.
Before the advent of dating apps, the LGBTQ+ people community had limited options for finding potential partners. Bars and clubs were the primary venues for meeting other LGBTQ+ people, but these environments were often unsafe and unwelcoming for those who did not conform to traditional gender norms. As a result, many LGBTQ+ people (in particular gay cisgender males) felt pressure to present themselves in a more masculine manner in order to fit in and attract partners. And lesbian cisgender females to present more femme. And other genders to present more conforming to societal norms.
This pressure to conform to traditional gender norms has persisted in the LGBTQ+ community. By seeking out partners who exhibit traditionally gender conforming traits, people may feel that they are conforming to societal expectations and avoiding negative stereotypes associated with non-conforming genders. Or even attempting to avoid ridicule and persecution.
Reasons for Masc for Masc Dating
There are a number of reasons why some people prefer masculine partners. One of the primary reasons is the belief that masculinity is attractive. Many people find traditionally biological masculine traits, such as muscularity, deep voices, and facial hair, to be desirable in a partner; or traits such as assertiveness, “taking charge,” and certain clothing styles (although yes, these traits can also be possessed by non-males, by androgynous people, and people of all genders, and this is not an exhaustive list).
Another reason for masc for masc dating is a desired sense for safety and security. In a society that is still largely hostile to LGBTQ+ individuals, some people may feel that having a masculine partner will provide them with a sense of protection. By presenting themselves as more traditionally masculine, people may feel that they are less likely to be targeted for discrimination or violence.
Additionally, some people may prefer masculine partners simply because they share similar interests and hobbies. Masculine people may be more likely to enjoy activities like sports, camping, and hiking, which can be important factors in building a strong relationship.
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Flaking, or canceling plans at the last minute, is a common phenomenon in modern social life. It can be frustrating for the person who was looking forward to the event and disappointing for the person who has been flaked on. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer to why people flake in social plans, there are several reasons why this behavior has become increasingly prevalent in today's society.One of the primary reasons people flake in social plans is because of the changing nature of social relationships. In the past, people tended to have more stable, long-term social connections. They would form close friendships with people in their community or workplace and would make plans weeks or even months in advance. However, in today's society, people are more likely to have a large network of acquaintances and casual friends. With the rise of social media, it's easier than ever to connect with people and build a large number of superficial relationships. While this can be beneficial in some ways, it can also lead to a lack of commitment to social plans. When people have a lot of casual connections, they may not feel as obligated to follow through on plans because they don't have as strong of a connection to the other person.Another reason people flake in social plans is because of the increasing demand on our time. Today's society is fast-paced and demanding, with many people juggling work, family, and other responsibilities. This can lead to a sense of overwhelm, which can make it difficult to commit to social plans. When people are feeling stressed and overburdened, the idea of adding another commitment to their schedule can feel overwhelming. As a result, they may be more likely to cancel plans at the last minute to relieve some of the pressure they are feeling.Another factor that contributes to flaking in social plans is the ease with which we can communicate with others. With the rise of smartphones and social media, it's easier than ever to stay connected with friends and family. However, this constant connection can also lead to a sense of detachment. When people are constantly connected to others through their phones, they may feel less of a need to follow through on in-person social plans. Instead, they may feel like they can connect with others virtually and don't need to spend as much time face-to-face. Additionally, the constant notifications and distractions from our phones can make it difficult to focus on the present moment, which can make it more challenging to commit to social plans.Another reason people flake in social plans is because of the fear of missing out (FOMO). In today's society, people are constantly bombarded with social events and activities. This can create a sense of pressure to be involved in everything that's happening. However, when people try to do too much, they may end up overcommitting and feeling overwhelmed. As a result, they may cancel plans at the last minute to focus on something else that seems more important or exciting.Another factor that contributes to flaking in social plans is social anxiety. For some people, social situations can be incredibly stressful and anxiety-inducing. This can make it difficult to commit to social plans in the first place. Even if they agree to the plans initially, their anxiety may increase as the event approaches, making it more likely that they will cancel at the last minute. Additionally, people with social anxiety may feel guilty or embarrassed about canceling plans, which can make the problem even worse.Another reason people flake in social plans is because of the lack of consequences for doing so. In today's society, it's become increasingly acceptable to cancel plans at the last minute. People may not even expect others to follow through on commitments, which can make it easier to flake without feeling guilty or embarrassed.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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What I’ve learned about my break time and healing journey. Some recent things I’m doing in some steps with some not so serious but hobby passions and some more demanding tasks. Travel plans, rave plans, car rentals, Amtrak, flixbus, Ubers and Lyfts.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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Day 7b. (Posting the morning brain dump portion before the book portion). Some talk about cannabis, THC, CBD. If you really like this type of topic check out my Hempication podcast: https://anchor.fm/hempication/episodes/Cannabis--caffeine--depression--anxiety--and-insomnia-e1r5ejm--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Day 6b. Talking in a morning brain dump about some non professional recommendations of types of products I’ve used for myself. What has been helping. What types of situations and events have led me to consider these options. I’m currently working on how I’m coping socially within a non affirming household. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Day 6a. The next 3 pages discuss how a triangle has a broad foundation creating stable structures. The conversation is somewhat about rituals that may work for people, some people choose religious or spiritual rituals while others are comfortable mainly with non religious rituals. Overall the purpose of a strong foundation of skills is to help with balancing those other areas. I’m currently focused on sleep, diet and exercise. But finding it hard to ignore how I feel socially.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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Day 1 and pages 2-4 of “Be a Triangle” by Lilly Singh. Kicking off another personal development journey through LGBTQ+ books!--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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@siya and @dvmnpigeon https://youtu.be/Cv3D4lIzRN8 (the weworking tv podcast may not be easily searchable on YouTube due to the prejudice nature of some platforms. YouTube often does not promote LGBT+ and LGBT BIPOC content). This is the end of the book, Day 30. Thanks for being along for the journey! Stay tuned for the next phase.
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Day 26. Brené Brown is a researcher and professor who studies vulnerability, courage, shame, and empathy. She has written several books on the topic and is known for her TED Talks on vulnerability and shame.In her teachings, Brown emphasizes the importance of self-worth and the connection between self-worth and our sense of belonging. She argues that our sense of self-worth comes from our experiences of being seen, heard, and valued by others, and that a lack of self-worth can stem from feeling like we don't belong or that we're not enough.Brown also emphasizes the role of vulnerability in building self-worth. She argues that being vulnerable, or opening ourselves up to others, helps us to build authentic connections and to feel more connected to others, which in turn can increase our sense of self-worth.Furthermore, Brown suggests that self-compassion is a key component of developing self-worth. She suggests that being kind and gentle with ourselves, rather than criticizing or blaming ourselves, can help us to build a more positive sense of self-worth.Overall, in Brown's teachings, self-worth is seen as an integral part of our sense of belonging and our ability to connect with others in an authentic way. She argues that cultivating self-worth through vulnerability, self-compassion, and a sense of belonging can lead to greater happiness, resilience, and well-being.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
The Mental Health Fund (Link: https://www.instagram.com/p/CoDMH1zvg6-/?igshid=NTdlMDg3MTY=) and QTBIPOC (Queer, Trans, Black, Indigenous, People of Color) is an important topic in today's society. Mental health is an issue that affects individuals from all backgrounds and communities, but QTBIPOC communities face unique and systemic barriers when it comes to accessing quality mental health care.The Mental Health Fund was established to address the pressing need for mental health services and support in marginalized communities. It is designed to support organizations that provide mental health services and resources to QTBIPOC communities, and to raise awareness about the importance of mental health within these communities.The need for a Mental Health Fund is driven by a number of factors, including:Systemic barriers to mental health care: QTBIPOC individuals face significant barriers when it comes to accessing quality mental health care, including discrimination and stigma, lack of culturally-competent providers, and financial barriers. These systemic barriers often result in QTBIPOC communities receiving less mental health care than other communities, and the care they do receive is often of lower quality.Higher rates of mental illness: Studies have shown that QTBIPOC communities experience higher rates of mental illness than other communities, due in part to the cumulative effects of systemic discrimination, trauma, and other stressors.Lack of mental health resources: Many QTBIPOC communities have limited access to mental health resources, including mental health providers, support groups, and community-based programs.The Mental Health Fund aims to address these challenges by supporting organizations that provide mental health services and resources to QTBIPOC communities. The Fund provides grants and resources to organizations that serve QTBIPOC communities, with a focus on providing culturally-competent care that is accessible and affordable.The Fund also works to raise awareness about the importance of mental health in QTBIPOC communities, and to reduce the stigma associated with mental illness. Through public education and advocacy efforts, the Fund is working to create a more inclusive and supportive environment for QTBIPOC individuals who are seeking mental health care.The Mental Health Fund has a number of initiatives aimed at improving access to mental health care for QTBIPOC individuals, including:Provider training and support: The Fund provides training and resources to mental health providers, with a focus on culturally-competent care for QTBIPOC individuals. This includes training on how to provide care that is sensitive to the unique experiences and needs of QTBIPOC communities, and on how to reduce the stigma associated with mental illness.Community-based programs: The Fund supports community-based programs that provide mental health services and resources to QTBIPOC communities, including support groups, peer-led programs, and drop-in centers.Advocacy and policy change: The Fund is actively involved in advocacy and policy efforts aimed at improving access to mental health care for QTBIPOC communities. This includes advocating for policies that increase funding for mental health services, improve access to quality mental health care, and reduce the stigma associated with mental illness.The Mental Health Fund is an important step forward in addressing the significant mental health needs of QTBIPOC communities. By supporting organizations that provide mental health services and resources to QTBIPOC individuals, the Fund is helping to break down barriers to care and to create a more inclusive and supportive environment for those seeking mental health care.The Fund is just one part of a broader effort to improve access to mental health care for marginalized communities, and to address the systemic barriers--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Japan states potential for “disruption” in society if LGBT marriage is legalized. Here we investigate some potentially underlying reasons for this belief. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Another key provision of the bill was the right of parents to participate in decisions about their children's education. Proponents of the bill argued that this would give parents a voice in important decisions about their children's future, and would help to ensure that their children received the best possible education. Critics, however, argued that this provision would undermine the authority of educators and would create confusion and chaos in the educational system.In addition to these objections, the "Parents Bill of Rights" was also criticized for being too vague and overly broad in its provisions. Critics argued that the bill was poorly drafted and that it would be difficult for educators to know exactly what they were required to do in order to comply with its provisions. They also argued that the bill would lead to a situation where parents would be constantly challenging decisions made by educators, which would undermine the educational process.Despite these objections, the bill continued to generate support among parents, who argued that it was necessary to protect their rights and to ensure that their children received the best possible education. They organized rallies, wrote letters to lawmakers, and engaged in other forms of advocacy to build support for the bill.In the end, the "Parents Bill of Rights" was narrowly passed by the North Carolina General Assembly, with lawmakers citing the need to protect the rights of parents and to ensure that their children received the best possible education. Despite its passage, the bill continues to be controversial, with educators and parents debating its provisions and their potential impact on the education system in North Carolina.Today, the "Parents Bill of Rights" remains a source of debate and controversy, with lawmakers and educators continuing to grapple with the question of how to balance the rights of parents with the need to maintain a high-quality education system. The controversy highlights the complex and highly charged debate over the role of parents in the educational process and the need to find a balance between protecting their rights and ensuring that children receive the best possible education.Overall, the "Parents Bill of Rights" controversy in North Carolina is a microcosm of the larger debate over the role of parents in education and the need to protect their rights. As the education system continues to evolve and new challenges emerge, the question of how to balance the rights.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
As LGBTQ+ people we may experience prejudice policies of unequal demonetization leaving us unable to make as much money as non LGBT populations. Discriminatory Censorship against LGBTQ+:- “the gays” existing in content- Reviewer internal bias- Feels more sexual (a straight male comedian vs queer lesbian) due to media norm- Breanna Williamson #gaygirltip was banned (near 250 vids already)- Queer vs straight creators same topics same ideas (lingerie vs underwear, harnesses)- Suppression of channels- Class action lawsuit- Straight culture not as sexualized as queer culture, different loading, mainstream media “norms”- Sexualized content is shown far more in straight culture https://youtu.be/TihxV5O9FHA See time stamp 26:52-33:00 where Ashley Gavin and cohost Breanne Williamson have the Watts the Safe Word yt kinksters cast (pup Amp and Mister Christopher) on the the We’re Having Gay Sex Podcast. The demonetization of LGBTQ+ content refers to the removal of monetization options, such as ads or sponsorships, for content creators who produce or share content that includes topics or themes related to the LGBTQ+ community. This can have a significant impact on the creators, who may depend on these sources of income to support themselves and their content production.There are a variety of reasons why content related to the LGBTQ+ community may be demonetized. One reason is that some advertisers or sponsors may not want to be associated with certain topics, such as sexually explicit or explicit content. Additionally, some platforms may have policies in place that prohibit the monetization of certain types of content, such as adult content or content that promotes hate speech.Another reason for the demonetization of LGBTQ+ content is the conservative views and biases of the platforms and advertisers. Despite the growing support for LGBTQ+ rights and recognition, many individuals and organizations still hold conservative or discriminatory views toward the community. This can result in a reluctance to support or monetize content that positively portrays LGBTQ+ individuals and themes.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Do queers fit into Erickson’s psychosocial stages of development when it comes to relationships? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erikson's_stages_of_psychosocial_developmentErik Erikson's theory of psychosocial development describes eight stages that individuals go through over the course of their lives. The sixth stage, known as the "intimacy versus isolation" stage, typically occurs during young adulthood (ages 18 to 40) and is characterized by a focus on forming intimate relationships with others.During this stage, individuals are faced with the task of developing close, meaningful relationships with others. They may seek out romantic partners and form deep connections with friends and family members. Those who are successful in this stage will develop a sense of intimacy and trust in others, leading to a sense of security and belonging.On the other hand, those who struggle during this stage may become isolated and disconnected from others. They may have difficulty forming close relationships or may have a fear of commitment. They may also struggle with feelings of loneliness and isolation, leading to a lack of fulfillment and satisfaction in their relationships.Erikson believed that the outcome of this stage is crucial for overall well-being and mental health. Individuals who are able to form close, intimate relationships will have a greater sense of self-worth and will be better equipped to handle the challenges of later stages of development.However, it is important to note that Erikson's theory is not prescriptive, meaning that not all individuals will go through each stage in the same way or at the same time. Some may struggle with intimacy during young adulthood and then successfully navigate the stage later in life, while others may never fully resolve the issues of isolation and disconnection.Furthermore, Erikson's theory also highlights the importance of social context. The society we live in and the cultural norms around us can shape our understanding of what is expected of us during this stage of development. For example, some cultures may place a greater emphasis on the importance of marriage and family, while others may place more value on individual autonomy and self-expression. These cultural expectations can affect the way we approach and experience the task of developing intimacy.In addition, it is important to note that the stage of intimacy vs isolation is not only related to romantic relationships but also to all forms of relationships, such as friendships, familial relationships and professional relationships. For example, one could be thriving in romantic relationships but struggling in building and maintaining friendships.Overall, the "intimacy versus isolation" stage of development is a crucial time for individuals as they work to form close, meaningful relationships with others. Success in this stage leads to a sense of security and belonging, while failure can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation. Understanding and navigating this stage can be influenced by cultural norms and the social context in which we live. [Write 3000 words on Erickson’s “intimacy versus isolation”psychosocial stage of development].--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Problem Solving a Social Stressor & Strategizing Progress Day 17.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Visualization, also known as guided imagery or mental imagery, is a powerful tool that can be used in mindfulness practice to help focus the mind, reduce stress and anxiety, and improve overall well-being.When we visualize, we create mental images of specific scenes or experiences in our mind. These images can be real or imagined, and can be used for a variety of purposes. In mindfulness practice, visualization can be used to help bring awareness to the present moment, to create a sense of relaxation, or to help achieve specific goals.One of the main benefits of visualization in mindfulness is that it helps to focus the mind. When we are constantly bombarded with distractions and thoughts, it can be difficult to stay focused on the present moment. By using visualization, we can create a mental image that we can focus on, which can help to quiet the mind and bring us back to the present moment.Visualization can also be used to create a sense of relaxation and calm. This can be particularly helpful for those who experience high levels of stress or anxiety. By visualizing a peaceful scene, such as a beach or a forest, we can create a sense of serenity and tranquility in our minds. This can help to reduce feelings of stress and anxiety and improve overall well-being.Another benefit of visualization in mindfulness is that it can be used to achieve specific goals. For example, if you are trying to quit smoking, you can visualize yourself in a smoke-free environment, free from cravings and withdrawal symptoms. Or, if you are trying to improve your performance in a sport or other activity, you can visualize yourself successfully completing the task or reaching a specific goal.Visualization can be done at any time, and in any place. It does not require any special equipment or training. Simply close your eyes, and imagine yourself in a specific scene or situation. You may find it helpful to use a guided visualization, where someone else leads you through the visualization process.It's also important to remember that visualization is not a one-time event, it is a regular practice that needs to be done in order to achieve the desired results. A regular practice of visualization will help you to create a deeper sense of relaxation, and it will help you to achieve your goals more easily.To sum up, visualization is a powerful tool that can be used in mindfulness practice to help focus the mind, reduce stress and anxiety, and improve overall well-being. It can be done at any time, and in any place, and it does not require any special equipment or training. By using visualization regularly, you can create a deeper sense of relaxation, and achieve your goals more easily.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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About the grumpies.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
[ChatGPT composed] Fear is a powerful emotion that can have a significant impact on an individual's ability to focus. When we experience fear, our bodies release adrenaline and cortisol, two hormones that prepare us for "fight or flight" mode. This response is useful in dangerous situations, as it helps us to react quickly and effectively. However, when we experience fear in non-dangerous situations, such as at work or school, it can become a hindrance to our ability to focus.One of the main ways fear impacts our ability to focus is through the activation of the amygdala, a small almond-shaped structure in the brain that is responsible for processing emotions. When the amygdala is activated, it sends a signal to the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for attention and decision-making. This signal effectively "hijacks" the prefrontal cortex, making it difficult for us to focus on anything else.Another way fear impacts our ability to focus is through the release of cortisol. Cortisol is known as the "stress hormone," and it plays a key role in the body's response to stress. When cortisol levels are high, it can make it difficult for us to focus on a task for an extended period of time. Additionally, cortisol can also negatively impact our memory and cognitive functioning, making it even more difficult to focus.Furthermore, fear can also lead to the development of anxiety and depression, which can have a significant impact on our ability to focus. Anxiety is characterized by feelings of worry, nervousness, and fear, and it can make it difficult for us to focus on a task. Depression, on the other hand, is characterized by feelings of hopelessness, sadness, and lack of motivation, and it can make it difficult for us to even start a task.In order to combat the negative effects of fear on our ability to focus, it's important to understand the underlying cause of the fear. For example, if the fear is related to a specific task or situation, it may be helpful to develop a plan of action to address the underlying issue. Additionally, practicing stress-management techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and exercise can help to reduce the levels of cortisol and adrenaline in the body, making it easier to focus.In conclusion, fear is a powerful emotion that can have a significant impact on our ability to focus. It can activate the amygdala, release cortisol, and lead to the development of anxiety and depression. To combat the negative effects of fear on our ability to focus, it's important to understand the underlying cause of the fear and to practice stress-management techniques. [Prompt “Write a 3500 article on how psychological fear impacts the ability to focus”].--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Behavioral Activation, Choosing Momentum-Increasing Steps to Goals Day 12. [ChatGPT content]: Smiling is a simple yet powerful act that can have numerous benefits for our overall well-being. Here are 10 benefits to smiling that can help improve our physical and mental health:1. Stress relief: Smiling has been shown to reduce the level of stress hormones in our body. When we smile, it triggers the release of endorphins, the body's natural feel-good chemicals, which can help lower our stress levels and improve our mood.2. Improved immune system: Smiling can also boost our immune system by increasing the production of white blood cells. These cells are responsible for fighting off infections and illnesses, making us less susceptible to getting sick.3. Lower blood pressure: The act of smiling can also lower our blood pressure. When we smile, it sends a signal to our brain to relax, which in turn leads to a decrease in blood pressure and heart rate.4. Increased lifespan: A study found that people who smile more often tend to have a longer lifespan than those who don't. Smiling has been linked to a lower risk of heart disease, which is the leading cause of death worldwide.5. Increased attractiveness: Smiling is often associated with being attractive. People who smile more often are perceived as more approachable and friendly, which can make them more attractive to others.6. Improved relationships: Smiling can also improve our relationships with others. When we smile, it sends a positive signal to those around us, which can lead to more positive interactions and better relationships.7. Increased productivity: Smiling can also increase our productivity. When we're in a good mood, we're more likely to be motivated and productive.8. Better communication: Smiling can also improve our communication skills. When we smile, it makes us appear more approachable and friendly, which can make it easier for us to communicate with others.9. Increased self-esteem: Smiling can also increase our self-esteem. When we feel good about ourselves, it shows in our facial expressions and body language, which can lead to a boost in self-esteem.10. Improved overall well-being: Overall, smiling has many benefits for our physical and mental well-being. From reducing stress and boosting our immune system, to increasing our lifespan and attractiveness, smiling can have a positive impact on our overall health and happiness.In conclusion, smiling is a simple yet powerful act that has numerous benefits for our overall well-being. So, the next time you're feeling down, try smiling and see how it can change your mood and improve your overall health and happiness. Remember, a smile is contagious, and can make a huge difference in your and other people's life.[ChatGPT Prompt: Use SEO to write 3500 words about 10 benefits to smiling].--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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Goth drag king show with Leather Culture & Representation. Here we are talking about bars and clubs for adults where people prove their age, and the ability to consent is practiced.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Cultures from India and Judaism are just a couple who use a type of Matchmaking at times. This tradition of a middle person vetting and involvement of family compared to independently choosing, it seems there could be something cool to the Matchmaking culture. But in American Western society there could be some issues as family dynamics at times might interfere.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Day 5: a quote from @justinlaboy & talking about an Eckhart Tolle quote about solely observing thoughts vs believing them.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Looking in some of the least likely places and finding motivation for self improvement. As I’m slowing down in life I’m noticing many areas where I’m improving and also reflecting on the impacts of extreme stress on my ability to focus on my own self care basics. But it’s not all bad! Even with mild-to-moderate effort I’m seeing great results!--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Michael Sealey positive affirmations: https://youtu.be/p2dDC8KTOiY Also check out brown noise types of relaxation. Remember not to listen while driving or operating heavy machinery, trust me! You may fall to sleep or lose concentration as these focus exercises are very meditative, relaxing and powerful.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Got in a HIIT workout and some yoga, planning to sleep super early before 10pm.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Day 2 using the structure of Jaime Messina’s book to organize my days and improve my mood and motivation. I’m certainly noticing the difference from being way less strained and stressed. I’m a bit all over the place because I’m not being too rigid with sleep patterns and caffeine intake lately. I’m not as burnt out but still somewhat easily tired from all the new ways of thinking. I’m feeling productive and learning so much. I’m best when I’m left to think and work solo. And I’m not financially strained. I’m working on my patience and health.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Check out Jaime Messina’s book, workbook on “The Stories We Tell.” Great self-help.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Luckily us lgbt+ folx have some freedom and flexibility when it comes to rules and roles. This conversation is taken from a topic on Ashley Gavin's podcast (check out that episode HERE! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUI4ZR0hioc). Ashley Gavin's episode stars the returning cis straight Caucasian comedian co-host Hannah as well as returning trans Latinx female body builder Angel Flores. Their episode speaks to flirting with their friends, living in separate households from a partner, poly dating experiences, and flexibility of roles in queer relationships as they compare to hetero relationships. Here I expand some on these areas of conversation.Angel is on IG, Twitter, and Tiktok: @arkangeljoy, Her LGBTQ+ fitness program can be joined through her link HERE! https://marketplace.trainheroic.com/workout-plan/team/euphoria?attrib=562326-ltdly fitness training program You can find Hannah on IG: @hannahberner, Tiktok: @hannah_berner, Twitter: @beingbernz, And you can find her tour dates over on her website: ▶ https://www.hannahberner.com/Check out the IG: https://www.instagram.com/tomboyofficialig/Check out the BLOG: https://tomboyofficial.blogspot.com/Check out the PODCAST: https://anchor.fm/tomboyofficial--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Dance floor Rules? Are LGBTQ+ bar and club spaces different? I talk about my experiences in bars, clubs and festivals. Experiences with dancing. Experiences with socializing and mingling in queer versus straight spaces. I speak to some of the comp het unofficial laws of the land. Overall, consent is key. But after that fact, there appear to be differences.
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(This is actually from the NYE ep end of 2022, the first portion to that topic).--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
This topic may be triggering for some. Still based off the convo by the Jubilee YouTube episode.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
(15:00mins in marks the start of the main topic). --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Gentrification? Financial warfare? --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Recalling some early dating experiences. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Some slight holiday talk and leading into some community situations.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Cut that short! Well here is a blog link. I may just be writing for some few more days. I need to edit what I write but I don’t really do it. I just want to make it and post it. Likely more to come. “Gay Night In”: https://tomboyofficial.blogspot.com/2022/12/a-gay-night-in.html
Things may be a tad slow until 12/26/22 with posts. I’m trying to record when I can.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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[Trigger warning- this episode contains topics surrounding body image, eating/ diet, and can potentially be triggering for people with dysphoria].
Gender expression can impact clothing styles. Our bodies based on genetics and sex at time of birth as well as hormones affect how your body naturally distributes for your figure can change.
How can you think more positively to more directly keep on track with goals daily? How can you identify the patterns leading to going off track from daily goals? How can you address the clothing styles you prefer to wear or purchase?
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Talking about caffeine, sleep, vitamins, cannabis and (unrelated) the L Word cast. https://youtu.be/ikiVpMUKhZ8--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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Check out Lexie Peterss. She/they, content creator: linear success, healing journey. Lexie Peters @lexiepeterss Podcast: Peters’s Perspective (trauma, triggers, reaction) https://open.spotify.com/episode/09CvweNb6iTqUtqxFprO3j?si=bP1Sd5xLQDmPsDF-9c95FQLinktree: https://linktr.ee/Lexiepeterss?fbclid=PAAaa5iHV4mAH9KSMClaLvSgGjW457GoUOHw1_eXwxFzR8wLrPJgHFND5gQC0YouTube vid: https://youtu.be/srgvi5V8bWQ--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
(I forgot to mention I’ve just added an order of Soylent to throw into my daily regimen. I ordered 18 bottles which should last me until Monday 12/26/22). I’m trying to spice up my routines! Boredom is killing my motivation and I’ve seen the light recently, that staying indoors all day doesn’t do too much for me other than saving $. And I’m not that hard pressed for $ that I need to be scrimping so hardcore. So I’m getting out of my cage.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Travel & dating as Trans, non-binary, and/or perceived non-Cis. Show notes short hand version: (Queer Trans male, Chinese-American) actor (trained in social work and raised by 2 adoptive mothers) Leo Sheng traveling documentation for a trans person (trans male). Check out their full episode or scrub to Leo’s part: https://youtu.be/mU-rgzhpby0Expensive process. Government forms: privilege, being perceived as Cis, legal name change, birth certificate changes, (state differences), citizenship papers, letter from doctor that sex listed differently on passport than on other documents (birth certificate still said “F” for female gender from birth), DMV automatically put “M” for male, (considerations for moving, application processes for new jobs- needing to drive/ travel, housing applications). Access to physical documents. Green card. Financial privilege, requirements for doctors, use of ID, people involved in personal business.Irene Tu: Airport security gender scan https://youtu.be/Qb_OG_IITYAwaist check--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
A tired after work journey across LA on a week night! All to meet some gay locals and have a drink and some bomb tacos. Flux!! DJ was good and very chill nice people vibes. Nice wintery patio too.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Nuff said!--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
SPOILER ALERT! I’m about to talk about episode details. My opinions to date and the evolution of some characters.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
I forgot to mention for this one. I also have a basketball, women’s size. And a soccer ball. I have this harness for it (not a Soccer Pal net)but a harness that wraps around the waist and can be used to practice kicks and the elastic attached around the ball returns the ball to avoid having to chase after ball. I also have a karate gi. My friends and I at times did some light sparring in my friend’s livingroom. He has boxing gloves, pads and bag for punching and kicking. And we used to do that late nights until his dad would come out and yell at us to shut up. And just in general I have a rash guard and board shorts for the beach.
Nudes, Wiki feet & Security: people should be able to both have fun AND protect themselves. Keep it safe.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Complete spoilers! Check out some of the collabs the L Word cast did with multiple LGBTQ+ LA YouTubers! Check out collabs with the following: Ambers Closet- https://youtu.be/hfrn39bmDm0 --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
So this is far too long BUT I had the time, found the time, made the time… so wth. My social life has changed so much from pre Rona frolicking to the more recent less frequency but larger hang out times with bigger events. I’m still figuring out my social goals in upcoming days and weeks. It will be exciting to see how all the changes will influence some upcoming social options.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Yes this is going to be absolutely all over the place. Sometimes I am still learning HOW to talk about certain experiences.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
I forgot to mention! Today in addition to these topics (studying, cleaning, groceries, exercise) I will be having a half day of hourly short meditations, and Monday I will do that the full day. I tend to practice a tad of “structured chaos.” I like to do what I want, when I want. It’s the Leo in me. But I also like routines with some flexibility. I’ll be off Friday and instead of snowboarding I will hike instead. And at the end of the month when I visit San Diego I plan to hike some of the Mission Trails and Tecolote Canyon areas. That is if it is not too crowded with the new year’s resolution exercisers.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Looking at the last week: finances, sleep, nutrition, exercise, work, self-care…The usual!!! Planning the next week of where to improve. There may be some fun in the mountains the next 2 Fridays!! Motivation from plans, social media, sports, and queer athletes.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Absolute spoiler! Just talking about general thoughts.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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Today until nearly noon I powered through without solid breaks. Do I feel it? Yes indeed I do! I’m almost wanting to request time off from the toll of today. We have end of month deadlines and a lot of lapses and decreased services in the city are creating a chaotic situation. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
My relationship between slowing down and giving myself adequate breaks.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Here is a method I use of viewing the underlying unconscious particles in social settings that contribute drama. And boy do we tend to experience some drama! This is how I have learned to unpack situations with one specific dramatic person in my life. My intention is that this helps others to be able to find ways to (if they want to do so) remain in a somewhat neutral dynamic with dramatic people, trying to be understanding and patient. Yes they may still cause pain. But it is also totally fine to completely avoid dramatic types.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Been having some more interesting dreams lately. Why so many dreams about San Siego? Well it was nice to take a free trip there for a couple hours.
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The battle between what we tell ourselves when we avoid workouts and what our bodies and minds need for consistency and mental health.
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Today is a weigh in day, last night was a self care night of reflection, deep breathing, meditations, other spiritual practices. The episode I was listening last night HINDZ live w/ his wife: https://youtu.be/dUlzimo8hwM
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Just recovering from a weird night. Reflecting and planning for today’s recovery and self care to adjust for the unexpected experience last night.
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Morning routine, intermittent fasting, balance of exercise, eating schedules and weekly scheduling.
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Coming into a new week with some musical methods. The power and strength of music.
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Waking up with me Sunday morning. Planning my day and the productivity tasks for this week. Reflecting on self care. Realizing what is working for me as far as thoughts and actions. Mindsets and creative and energetic outlets. Trying to notice impacts of supplements used for bursts of energy and relaxation. Activities of balance.
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Some positive outlooks on queer dating.
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My preferences regarding Gender identity, dating, expression of gender, presentation preferences, intersex.
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Personal experiences with some Dysphoria topics and some other topics of preferred gender presentation categories.
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Jade Fox Patreon, Arrows & Jade Supertime Pilot, the series returns finally!!!
https://www.patreon.com/posts/superitme-ep-1-74246231?utm_medium=post_notification_email&utm_source=post_link&utm_campaign=patron_engagement&token=eyJ0eXAiOiJKV1QiLCJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiJ9.eyJyZWRpc19rZXkiOiJpYTo3ZWY5ZmFlMi04NWM3LTQ1MDgtOTk2Mi1mM2Y5NjE1ZmFhN2UiLCJwb3N0X2lkIjo3NDI0NjIzMSwicGF0cm9uX2lkIjo2MDk3OTgwOX0.l6saP1LTZQc8ksIJQ7vsLzVQmcxtoO9gEQG7P6QOgRk Talks about identity of sexuality and gender: Jade she/her, queer. Arrows he/they, bi (pan), trans, non-binary. My fave Supertime vid of Jade, Arrows & Shan! https://youtu.be/kvj9PmPl1Z4
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My queer journey.
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Adult entertainers and queer health
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Communication and ego in poly dating.
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My queer dating series.
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Part 2 of meeting through others in the wild.
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Sometimes meeting through friends of friends, out in the wild or any option offline may be a better experience for some.
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I comment here on some health concepts address mentioned by Liver King.
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My caffeine regimens, how I personally decide which supplements to have and when and the impacts and benefits I’ve noticed for myself.
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(They/them) comedian and actor. Has past and upcoming LA shows, you can catch their content on YouTube, Netflix and HBO. Tour dates: https://www.maemartin.net/tour-dates Linktr.ee: https://linktr.ee/maemartin
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What I initially look for through the app experience.
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First episode about my dating app experiences. I might speak only to dating app experiences since those are where my majority of experiences come from. But I’m open to speaking about almost any dating experiences but protecting privacy and trust of others, I’m not here to bash and out and create a bunch of drama. But my goal is to help people who have dating trouble in any of the areas that my experience has been good, and help those people to have access to some new outlooks and new ideas that can be of help, possible… OR just for our own entertainment, since we know there’s not a lotta queer dating topics rolling around!!!
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Old episode from early 2021. This was found still in a drafted status. Enjoy!
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I know I’ve been a bit silent lately! Here is what I’ve been up to in the start of Fall 2022.
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Another queer dream coming at ya. You’re welcome!
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The way love goes
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Thoraya
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Singlehood is a stage that many cultures address in their own specific manners. In Western American culture people generally begin a process of dating near age 14-18. Usually there is a process where a teen is developing independence and being allowed added freedoms by guardians upon proving that they can adhere to expectations (see the blog HERE https://tomboyofficial.blogspot.com/2022/10/singlehood-and-gender.html for more on this, and if you have any friends who may be interested in these topics, share the links below).
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Yet another San Diego queer themed dream.
Share the blog and podcast links with anyone who you believe may have an interest!
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My attempt at unpacking a recent queer dream that left a strong impression. Basically I am quite homesick, unable to be as easily connected as I would prefer from the lifestyle I have created for myself in San Diego. Check out more details in the blog post below. And share any links with anyone you know who may have an interest.
To follow up on the original episode from the My Queer Dreams series (click here): https://anchor.fm/tomboyofficial/episodes/My-Queer-Dreams-Amusement-Park-Crush-e1olfbb
BLOG POST: https://tomboyofficial.blogspot.com/2022/10/san-diego-homesick.html
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This dream left a pretty hard impression.
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Between stereotypes, roles and identity, somewhere along the line we learn the societal rules we are expected to uphold. But what happens if those rules don’t work for you? As a person who prefers to present in a more androgynous fashion, I talk here about how that can impact me and some recent experiences and thoughts of how gender rules come up in my life.
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Here we discuss professional branding. Not just for business owners and people in the spotlight, but even for somebody who may work in data entry, work as a teacher, in a trade or in customer service.
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Most people want to be in a relationship that is secure, loving, trusting and honest. We talk here about some deal breakers involving secrets and some experiences of dealing with gossip and it’s impacts.
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Share this episode with your friends if they like content about queer dreams. Subscribe and check out the older “My Queer Dreams” serious in previous posts.
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Other People Coming Out
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Sorry I thought I had posted this last night.
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Another episode to my queer dreams series.
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How can we tell if we are seeing the world as it really is?
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Another mildly queer dream.
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If you are into androgynous adult content, check out what caught my eye of @Camilag.24 They have a Linktr.ee account with their OF, ig, Tik Tok and Cocktails links. https://linktr.ee/Camilag.24
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Jaime Messina is a LGBTQ+ coach creating some awesome content on optimism, positive thinking, and works as a coach to help others reach goals of improving their lives. She has ig lives near 9am ET, 6am PT. Check out her tap link page for all her sites, book, paid coaching and “Lillies” online forum for lesbians who came out later in life. https://taplink.cc/jaimemessina
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The process of coming out doesn’t necessarily end. Not unless your social life, work life, family life and human interactions remain completely stagnant and in the same exact place.
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Very brief considering how loaded this topic is. Talking about looking at the surface versus below the surface. The main question here is - What makes you swipe right?
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About some ideas I came across from a sexual and gender majority culture friend.
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I’m not personally interviewing sex workers (I wish, but not yet), but here are some recent interviews I’ve seen of some entrepreneurs in the adult entertainment industry. BLAKE MITCHELL: https://youtu.be/i6P2gCqeDec STELLA BAREY: https://youtu.be/jq5T9UllpYk
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A challenging thought process.
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A recent dream from approximately early mornings of September 1, 2022.
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Looking at how sexuality is approached.
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Early steps.
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Please bear with my intro! It is very brainstorming vibes.
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Another dream that I don’t remember. This dream occurred before I attended San Fran Pride 2019.
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This is a dream that I do not currently recall, it apparently I’ve dreamt of the location multiple times before.
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Not sure why I had a dream with Amber from Amber’s Closet in it. I don’t even recall this one. Then I go I to talking about some memories from my teen years.
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This dream took me back to some childhood memories and how I used to crush on some masc presenting females back when I was as young as age 5.
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Back with another queer dreams episode. I pulled this from my 2020 “archives.” Enjoy!
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A fun dream about some time with friends, some from real life and some I don’t know.
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I added in a bonus dream.
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I still remember pieces of this dream.
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I hope someone can make more sense of this queer dream than I can.
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I’m reading through some dreams I’ve journaled about. Let me know if you like this short series and I’ll continue. That is, if I can dream up enough queer content:)
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I’ve been noticing some formal events popping up that seem like they might be ideal for lgbtq+ and gender non conforming people.
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Here I talk about a recent Jelie interview (of Kickback Couture YouTube channel). I happened across this Reason Studios episode recently and it is about 1 year old by one of my favorite Black, LGBTQ+, female producers. I am so inspired by young aged millennial and Gen Z entrepreneurs, especially LGBTQ+ and gender representative talent. Check out some links:
JELIE (main site): https://jelie303.com/home
JELIE'S IG: @jelie303
JELIE'S YOUTUBE REASON STUDIOS AND OTHER PRODUCTION TUTORIALS: https://youtu.be/7ZtacsfPKCI
JELIE'S YOUTUBE MUSIC VIDEOS: https://www.youtube.com/c/jelie303
JELIE'S MUSIC PRODUCTS: https://kickbackcouture.com/
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(See links below). I heard about Rita Brent on Ashley Gavin's podcast called "We're Having Gay Sex."
RITA BRENT: https://www.ritabrent.com/
She is funny, talented at singing, has a partner, openly out Black lesbian female entrepreneur. Check out her funny content! She also sings very good and is very talented at her craft.
ASHLEY GAVIN: https://youtu.be/btA4afqsDNc
A ramble and brainstorm.
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Here I give my take on TACO’s story.
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Positive thoughts on this episode.
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Spas and gender.
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We all are impacted by the changes in our societies. For myself I’ve noticed it even changed how I socialize, dating, eating, exercise routines, desires, motivation and everything in between. How have you been impacted lately? And what do you do to maintain a healthy balance while constantly needing to adjust since early 2020?
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(Sorry I thought I had published this on Wednesday). This topic has some overlap of other episodes but I was thinking this through from specific actual examples of my parents since in our household we don’t have much of a discussion.
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Awesome sex positive content with good comedic delivery and a lot of diversity dynamics.
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I finally got it! But today I tested negative and I feel fine. You may have noticed I’ve been less engaged lately. That’s why.
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Post Black Pride after thoughts and the complex dynamics of race, ethnicity and LGBTQ+ spaces. Good for thought and personal experiences as well as complexities of questions.
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The complexities of the ego and impacts on workplace comfort.
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Substances Tidbits (how to tell if substances may be a problem and societal views about taboos). Here we talk about potential lifestyle stressors leading people to choose certain substances and societal views of what is acceptable and what is more taboo.
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Work Relationships and Ego (processing speeds, productivity, taking time off, work-life balance). Often times we are conflicted between what we need for ourselves and what our work needs from us.
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Black Pride (race and ethnicity, privilege, racism, prejudice). We can see challenges already with trying to define race and ethnicity. How we look versus how we are treated can be impacting and can lead to privilege, racism, prejudice, and everything in between. The LGBTQ+ community in addition to sexual and gender minorities also is made of racial and ethnic minorities. Here we discuss some of the complexities (I talk about my personal experiences and opinions, this was recorded while driving hence background noise, this was recorded before the event and I intend to post more about my experiences and impressions following the event since at the time of posting I have already attended this event).
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Relationships and Internal Dynamics [self-esteem, perception, self-talk, & dating]. (This is a working title). For once I jump into the topic, and on a weekday morning! I may break this down into separate topics and I’m likely going to be writing on related topics on the blog (www.tomboyofficial.blogspot.com). The goal here is to discuss themes I experience or themes others tell me about in relationships and applying them to dating as well. I hope it creates a sense of hope and sparks new positive ideas for people when they’re struggling with dating life.
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Some methods leading to better communication.
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This book contains a lot of good tips and methods for self development.
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So I found some of my weekly reflection papers from human sexuality course from grad school. I did not review before reading. I’m glad I found these and I’ll be searching for more.
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How to reflect on your past history of understanding your sexuality and gender identity.
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Protecting sleep and energy.
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Do you ever notice how creativity and creating art work is very fulfilling to the soul? Even if you aren’t good or skilled or knowledgeable we now more than ever have access at the least to online live streams of music, tutorials, free production software. And for other types of art there are digital software packages for sculpting, drawing, and 3D modeling. Get creative and pour some emotions into an art form and regardless the end product you will likely notice something further about your emotional state.
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Time to unpack and study our social patterns. These change time to time. They can be altered by culture, lifestyle changes (graduating school, changing jobs), economic changes. And more! Try and identify the most recent day, week and if there are holes, barriers or unmet needs.
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Back to the basics. Everything impacts something else. At your own preferred pace you can start to feel more on track. Identify the areas of the most struggle, for me I have them listed as sleep, wake, energy and mood. These are my major focuses lately. And I try and ground with spiritual practices and nourishment of deep breathing, food, nature, music, art/craft.
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Welcome to the pride bootcamp series! So how does this work? Usually before summer (at least in Cali) we start hitting the gym in spring season to get that beach body tone, or at least slightly more confident in our bodies as we will be wearing less sweaters and more light weight clothing or tank tops and swim suits. Everybody wants to feel confident. A bootcamp usually whips a person into shape by focusing on an upcoming goal or event we are preparing for. So here we are going to talk about topics related to pride, looking at some very recent history and not so far past pride events during the rona compared to the more current events and potential to come once Pride month hits this June 2022!
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These next tidbits we will discuss the new John Delony book. He asked many important helpful questions in his book and we will use this to help ourselves find balance. Here I review some initial questions and submit some of my own responses.
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Weddings, funerals, memorials. Some formal events are very gendered with social rules for style choices. But what happens if you don’t fit into a box?
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Here we discuss social anxiety and impacts of situations leading to anxiety.
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Insecurities are generally apparent in relation to social settings. Check out this tidbits episode).
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How to take a stress situation, especially one that is causing loss of sleep or inability to relax, and how to cope. Also here we delve into how to start feeling better and creating coping methods from scratch to tailor to a personal situation. Not one size fits all! Everyone can find out the method they are most comfortable to start using to feel better.
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In part 2 we start further discussing how we can cope with stressors, methods such as using privacy to feel more protected. There are multiple options such as direct and open communication about a social stressor, or talking openly about reasons why we feel we can’t easily answer such as past experiences. Other people may place insecurities onto us leaving us feeling uncomfortable and distressed.
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Communicating with Cis, Non-LGBT Friends (part 1/2, sharing about relationships, social complexities) here we talk in detail about scenarios underlying potential stressors that may arise when talking to people of different identities. Sometimes you want to be open and communicative and share about your life, especially with allies. But how do we address the complexities of our differences? They may think differently than we do, they don’t have to deal with some of the things we deal with. See how I try and inbox this topic. There is a second part and I will update as I come into more awareness as I’m processing out this social situation.
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As I’m driving out from checking out of the hotel near Mountain High Resort, I start to record briefly some methods I’ve been implementing on my recent time off. Being off work I’ve been snowboarding and absorbing a change of scenery in the mountains. The sound quality is rough with a lot of feedback from the sound of the car on the road. I enjoy recording on the road as it gives me a couple hours to be creative while driving. But I hope it’s not too much of a pain to hear the road in the background.
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Check out some personal experiences on the topic at hand. Maybe you can relate! Or maybe you have unique experiences of your own. Either way I hope this is helpful.
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Some people out there may be new, questioning, or curious. Here are some discussions about that part of a person’s personal timeline. Stay tuned for part 2 packed with personal experiences, and check out the blog later on once I finish the post related to these topics. In the meantime check out the blog HERE for other topics. This is updated when I have time to blog about the supplemental materials. Thanks for listening!
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Attachment Styles impact relationships and feeling fulfilled and secure can improve quality when we understand any hang ups or strengths. CHECK OUT THE BLOG HERE FOR MORE RELEVANT SUPPLEMENTAL MATERIAL. https://tomboyofficial.blogspot.com/2022/03/attachment-styles-and-desires-in.html
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Let’s delve into insecure attachment styles. We can start by discussing Avoidant Attachment style.
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Education, Job market, millennial trends, barriers and benefits to success and opportunities. Mostly my own personal experiences.
Blog post: Click HERE! https://tomboyofficial.blogspot.com/2022/03/education-and-millennial-money.html
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Knowing your sexuality and gender
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Details about outing, forcing somebody out of the closet, invading privacy and confidentiality and toxicity.
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Happy Valentine’s Day!
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A short rant about stressors and goals
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Substances, drugs, impacts. It can help to identify patterns of use. Why, when and where substances are used and in what situations as well as potential impacts (especially negative impacts- financial instability, physical pains, hangovers, fatigue, brain fog, emotional instability, anger, depression, anxiety, side effects, munchies, sleepiness, vomiting, chills, etc). If there are negative impacts affecting your life, it may be worth it to look at your situation and reach out for support or find some help.
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Sexuality and gender queer identity and dating. Here we talk some about a topic mentioned by Breanne Williamson. Check out her awesome podcast! Her and her gay male friend talk on super interesting LGBTQ+ topics. https://youtu.be/Gx3VCPmVOuQ
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LGBTQ+, afab people, identities, and common questions.
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Studs and Butches and their identity.
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Identity and Stems. Talking about other identity and subculture aspects.
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I began by talking about deep processing and needed to process some stuff for myself so overall instead I was ranting about some issues related to finances, work and roommates. I’ve been dealing with some situations with some people and their poor boundaries and finally had time to sit with it all. So you can see how I go from angry and irritable to making a decision on how I feel I can best deal with things.
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A shorty clip about some thoughts on jealousy. If people like this topic I’ll record one more in-depth at a later date.
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Trying to find balance, some methods on how to cope with the stress and some discussion around how come holidays can be overwhelming. Not just focusing on ignoring feelings and forcing ourselves to have fun but an introspective view on the dynamics surrounding holidays and the end of a year and the beginning to a new year. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!
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I talk here about my comfort with dating and mixing. Some background on my life with dating and experiences. And factors that I believe contribute to dating.
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Talking about insomnia, my issues sleeping and sleep hygiene. These are basics for me that I need reminders about to structure my own routines.
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Kinda just ranting. Went off topic. Woops!
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Interacting with religious and cultural info: method even if you don’t subscribe
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LGBT spaces are often popular clubs, bars, and party events.
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My perspectives on my social life, how hanging with friends and different events impacts dating for me, and some of my personal perspectives and insights from the past, what’s going on in the present, and my future outlooks. (These are my own personal experiences, so not necessarily saying everybody needs to be the same but this is some stuff that does work for me and other stuff I’ve realized that hasn’t). PAST: since I was raised in a conservative and reserved culture which was also judgmental, I often was interested to party more. And to be around more open minded people in more casual environments. The benefits were that things in life were easier to balance with all the structure, but my own preference is to have unstructured days as well. RECENT PAST: once I moved out I was more toward the other extremes of partying and spending just as I pleased. I knew it would be temporary but there were quite a few years of building a friend foundation of healthier relationships of trust. And a process of being able to be more authentic and comfortable with that as well as dealing with past judgmental ideas. That interfered socially. THE PRESENT: I am lately focused on my energy. And on realizing how I can practice a healthier balanced lifestyle while also partying when I feel I need to have more excitement and relaxing and focusing having time alone. Trying to adapt Roni-Rona dating into some new outlooks and balance I have created and this is new territory also. FUTURE OUTLOOKS: I’m considering how things will look on this side of the P Word after a couple years of dealing with things differently, going through different challenges, adapting. Deciding how I want the future to look and how I want my relationships to look.
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More topics about expectations from society, and how those not on the binary may experience relationships differently.
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The Cis Straight crowd has often placed a lot of expectations as well as stereotypes on those of us who are other. Here we talk about gender expectations, norma we see or experience in friendships, family relations and with dating and partners or even casual hook ups.
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AFFILIATE LINK: I am an affiliate, making a small commission off purchases if you use my link, and this is at no additional charge to you. CHECK OUT THE SITE! https://supergayunderwear.com/collections/pajamas?rfsn=6158504.414c12 Also use COUPON CODE: “TOMBOY10” for a discount on select items! Enjoy!! The biggest barriers can be our own selves. How is it that we can often want to see results but at the same time experience difficulties doing what needs to be done to get to the desired results of our goals, dreams and values?
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Diving into our attunement to our own selves and how this translates , interferes or enhances our relationships with others.
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Emotions often seem to control us. Here we break down the process of how emotions lead to patterns and those patterns can be unhelpful and keep us stuck. We take a look under the microscope and look into the hidden details of how to notice patterns and how to stop them for long enough to implement changes. Whether the relationship is with ourselves, a partner, a friend or family members we can learn to have more control and focus by taking what isn’t working and shifting it into new patterns that take bold and brave actions but are simple and with practice you can feel different and improve relations with yourself and loved ones.
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Let’s talk about approaching a crush and how to open up about those feelings and what to do with a crush on a friend. About 13 mins in is where the intro ends.
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To the baby gays, newly queer, newly out, newly identified and younger OR even older LGBTQ+ and gender queers out there! Welcome!!! Here I take about 15 mins catching everybody up on my current situations and changes in life and then eventually jump into talking to those who are newly out or newly coming into the realization of the most authentic version of themselves ESPECIALLY if you don’t identify with being a straight cis person then this might appeal to you!
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Dating during “El Ron” has become even mor complex. Adding more factors and fears and concerns than before. I talk here about my recent dating experiences and adjustments of getting back out there.
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Here I talk about finance, and asexual and gender minority dynamics as well as how the system impacts. I hope the strategies and tips mentioned are helpful! Im not a financial professional and I cannot diagnose or recommend treatment without a supervisor, so the info listed is just for educational purposes and is not a professional recommendation.
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San Diego Pride 2021 was amazing!
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Why do we fear rejection? It bruises the ego and touches on insecurities. Do you know what you look for when approaching the unknown? Do you like dating apps, socializing in the wild, letting people while with your buddies or blind dates? Are you even looking for dates? Or just casual flings? So long as the interactions are respectful to self and others, fun, healthy, legal and safe then I say GO FOR IT! Sometimes it can get confusing out there as to what we need or want or are looking for. Let’s talk more about it!
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Things change! Time progresses! And we often aren’t the same person we were last year. The progressions May be small and u detectable in an hour, day or week’s length. But a lot of times we look back and notice maybe our mindset has changed, or we have different values for our time and energy or are seeking different things to feel more fulfilled. Let’s talk about it!
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Pre Rona compared to during and at the (hopefully) tail end. Dating has changed and as we have all changed in life and gained more perspective this has impacted dating for many of us such as views, what we are looking for, how we date and experiences.
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Sports, art, music, creativity. These are the places where our kind is often represented. We all know stereotypes of femme and masc styles, but how cool is it to watch ballerinos fly, or to watch drag queens dance, or female basketball players dominate! We are out there guys and we are often represented in sports and creative outlets. How awesome were artists such as Bowie, Prince, Queen Latifah. Pushing the gender barriers. Definitely motivating to witness, see and enjoy.
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While dating and forming more close relationships more than friends, we often aren’t taught how to navigate conversations. We are often taught from a majority culture perspective. Here is some info that may be good food for thought related to how queer people can approach different topics in gender and sexuality when it comes to dating, sex life and sexuality.
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Check out Jkiillem, momomuscle, and shedoeshim on Instagram for more insights, pics and tips! Here we have a real talk about how hot weather and needs to change clothing seasonally can impact dysphoria, comfort and anxiety. I talk about some tips and experiences. Don’t get down or feel a need to retreat or avoid things! It’s already hard trying to get back into socializing in person again. But don’t let discomfort get you down! There may be some options mentioned here that may give you just that little boost for the comfort needed to live you life more freely the way you desire.
Adjusting back into dating in society can be complicated these days. This is the first pride season in a while where we are out there more in society and it’s like coming out of the cocoon!!
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Adjusting back into socializing in society can be complicated these days. This is the first pride season in a while where we are out there more in society and it’s like coming out of the cocoon!!
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Lining up with the authentic self and the ego’s role in trying to defend us. This can happen publicly in social settings or in private internally while alone. We all know what a mistake looks like, and we know what it’s like to not reach a certain goal or expectation in a life milestone or a traditional expectation. When we miss the Mark how do we talk to ourselves? Or when we are insecure in a social setting how do we react? Ego defenses often show themselves when we are threatened by our own memories, upcoming events, and threatened by someone else whether that’s physically or the threat to our integrity.
Welcome to all the listeners from Thailand! You are much appreciated. Please be in touch if there are any issues you would like to have anonymously discussed. Reach me at tomboyofficialemail@gmail.com or text Google number 424-241-3637. To every listener I thank you and love you lots! This community is here for you!
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Here the convo is about anxiety provoking situations... perhaps you can relate.
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Sex notes: Stevie Boebi- how to finger a girl. https://youtu.be/jJwHIvhogUk HERE Stevie talks about “digital stimulation” of self or others and features some toys, tutorials and methods. Laci Green- butt stuff (with Davey Wavey of wickydkewl). https://youtu.be/LFsILic2c98 HERE they talk about anal sex related tips, topics, terminology, experiences.
Amberscloset- strap etiquette. https://youtu.be/83kFRDwwLME HERE Amber discusses dildos, strap ons, harnesses, providing educational information for safe use. She also shows some sex toys and examples of how they’d be used.
Shan Boody- understanding how arousal works. https://youtu.be/Glkdqmg98R4 HERE she talks about educational information about stages of beginning arousal until the end.
Amber and Shannon (together)- sex talk with Shan Boody. https://youtu.be/DNsDM1avo_8 HERE they talk about sex topics from fans asking questions and some of their personal answers to the questions.
Amber, Shannon, and Jared (together)-lesbian sex vs hetero sex with Shan Boody & Jared Brady. https://youtu.be/3oG3rBFIhBA HERE they talk about describing sex, orgasms and talk about their own preferences. Facethefactsshow- what is sex? https://www.instagram.com/tv/CI4pba6j6i-/?igshid=1tpuu4xgh7op2 HERE they (AD, London, Neon and Kyhle) talk about definitions of sex. London leads most by facilitating the question portions to which they all have their responses. They speak about how they define sex, experiences, how masculine presenting females may have differing vulnerability stressors from other groups of people, and their own experiences in their sex lives.
Jkiillem- answering your questions about lesbian sex. https://youtu.be/1xzGimWSmqc HERE Jess speaks about lesbian sex. She answers questions on her YouTube channel from fans who wanted answers about how to have sex. She discusses different methods and how to shape the mind to have positive views on sex.
Ash Hardell- how (some) asexuals... have sex. https://youtu.be/CbjFK8QDhVM HERE Ash discusses sexless sexual activities, interviews an asexual couple, sexless kinks, and talks about some Adam and Eve sex toys.
Gender non-conforming/ androgynous lingerie. https://youtu.be/wTskyAV6kg0 HERE Ash models some sex style strategies with some toys, and underwear ideas for sex and feeling sexy. Jade Fox- strap facts. https://youtu.be/HftoARVXfEk
Arrows (I miss spoke and called them “Ari Fitz” as I was unaware of the name change and they identify with he/them pronouns APOLOGIES! Here is my correction). My name is ARROWS not Ari Fitz. https://youtu.be/5IoZfDZDtKo HERE Arrows introduces their new name and new info to update those who don’t already know. And answers multiple varying types of questions.
wickydkewl (Davey Wavey)- tantric sex secrets. https://youtu.be/y4djFmIdIMc HERE Davey Wavey and Blake Mitchell talk about basics of tantric sex while Blake gets auto blown live.
himeros.tv (Davey Wavey)- phone sex. https://youtu.be/AjqHT-6rxJk HERE Davey and friends talk about phone sex. This is a lengthy live recording about himeros.tv site. Helix Studios TV- #Helix Cameron Parks and Tyler Hill (Extended). https://youtu.be/1npMMFJFueo HERE is a hashtag helix with Cameron and Tyler. Gay adult film models/ porn actors. They talk about their turn ons.
BuzzfeedViolet- how did you know you were gay? https://youtu.be/fwKm0XUQ6e0 HERE they talk about youth, upbringing and early experiences of how they noticed they were gay. Watts the safe word- pet play haul q&a. https://youtu.be/X4bO7DzXW1I HERE Amp and Daddy talk about their interests in pet play. Many of their videos are educational about kink culture.
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Real talk, I sometimes need support emotionally from a counselor. Life can be stressful and overwhelming. Even though I work in a therapy setting I am not ashamed to say that I need help sometimes too. Just someone who is a neutral party to help me find methods to cope and to confide in about stressors. If you’ve ever experienced distress and felt stuck, this will be a good episode for you! Ambivalence focuses on the tricky part of why sometimes we can’t “just do it.” Here I talk about situations like crushes, why is it so hard to just ask a person out to find out the answer to if they like you too? Why is it hard in those vulnerable moments to let the guard down and allow the ego to be exposed without feeling defensive? And how can we get more comfortable if we become shy, anxious, or worried about something we REALLY REALLY WANT BUT JUST CANNOT SEEM TO BUILD THE COURAGE.
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Here are some methods of coping with gender Dysphoria. It is just a start. But taking time out to slowly figure out how any arising issues are impacting in life and then slowly learning to cope with every aspect of it, this can be done. You can build up a tolerance and understanding to the thoughts and feelings that arise and eventually accept your authentic self. Just because society has not yet caught up and does not reflect all aspects of gender does not mean that anybody is “less than.” It’s hard to be part of a transcendence when society has not yet caught up. I always remind myself- YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU KNOW!
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Many people experience discomfort with some aspect of themselves, but what happens if there are stressors related to making changes. Here we unpack some of the definitions, societal expectations and cultural topics related to the distress surrounding gender identity.
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IG: @tomboyofficialig Many of our views of gender have been shaped by Western civilization view points which are very rigid, requiring everyone to fit into neat boxes and categories. But gender, as with most identifying aspects of a human’s self, gender is a spectrum. Some may fit into the boxes neatly while others of us deal with more fluid aspects of gender with how we identify, present and express ourselves. Many cultures in past history and even current times have had a different view of gender in society without the same rules in their societies as in Western societies. Can you even imagine how life would be living in an area and cultural surrounding where you could freely participate in hobbies, interests, shop for clothing, wear what you want and behave and present as you want without restrictions of gender norms? Ultimately our societies tell us how we are supposed to fit in when ultimately every individual has so many diverse aspects to their authentic self that some of us cannot fit into the neat boxes. AND THAT IS OKAY! We overlap into other areas. We think and feel differently. Jess Weiner posted a great positive and uplifting piece about viewing the gender spectrum outside the binary as a transcended connection to gender. Here is the Instagram post by Jess Weiner that I used in this episode to talk about gender and transcending https://www.instagram.com/p/B-aTMWxhEQk/?igshid=1b9vwryxmozq0. Here is the first Youtube episode where I saw Jess Weiner: https://youtu.be/CopJ6hzcsUo. In addition to Jess Weiner, some other’s whose names I mentioned or wanted to mention (and was blanking): Stevie Boebi, Sarah Croce, Amberscloset.
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Gender tends to be often complex. Have you seen the movie “Her” on Netflix? One scene shows the main character and his coworker speaking during their shift. The coworker mentions to the main character that the main character’s letters come from a female aspect of himself. He continues, commenting that the main character is partially female. And he continues further to state that this comment was meant as a deep compliment to the main character’s letters that he composes as his job. People at times can feel attached to their gender and identify as well as how they present versus how they feel internally. Sometimes people are able to comfortably align all these aspects of themselves and freely live as they choose, and others are forced to an extreme of hiding out of fear for their safety. Here I talk about the external and internal world of gender identity.
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Dating in the early stages can be very complex.
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Getting defensive and super worried about a potentially new relationship is normal. But sometimes crushes can be exciting but other times quite anxiety provoking.
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We all have those friends who are straight but flirty. Here I mention “femmes,” but really this can be applied to anybody who it is hard to tell if they are interested or if they act interested for attention. Remember, everyone matters, LGBTQ+ folx also matter! You deserve valuable and genuine relationships that are not clouded. One frustrating part of presenting as a “non-typical” stereotypical gender on the binary is that others may experience some curiosities when encountering you. These aren’t all bad experiences. But sometimes the other person may not be aware of the frustrating or confusing situations they may create. Flirting may be fun and uplifting, but other times it may send confusing signals and can unfortunately lead to pain. Here I speak about some topics folx may experience when they themselves are not on the specific stereotypical binary or if they don’t present as such. Please DM me and subscribe. Let me know the topics that interest you!
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Have you ever declined a job or an interview due to the dress code? How about events, have you ever skipped or passed on an invite because of cultural clothing expectations? It really can be anxiety provoking.
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Let us start to slowly dive into some serious and very relevant topics. Lately a lot of us are on dating apps and finding new methods of socially interacting (while in quarantine). What is your experience with different communication styles with love interests? and have you ever been ghosted? Subscribe to hear more content about topics LGBTQ+ topics.
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The entire concept really is complex. Internal acceptance and external appearance.
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