1. Hot and Cold in any relationship is confusing; that intense sharing then you're left cold.  I know I've done this to others.  Now, I'm getting a Hot and Cold pattern with a new friendship and I make sense of this pattern from the other side - something I hadn't seen in myself.  

Can you get re-ghosted over and over again?  This hot and cold pattern of intense sharing to no contact and then back again.  I didn't think this could happen in adult friendship yet, this pattern is something I had perpetuated in my own life.

Friends were hot and cold with me but I also was hot and cold with them.  And recently, I experienced this familiar pattern but now I'm more aware and could see it happening in real-time.

I chronicle my journey with an acquaintance that I've known for years and a hot and cold pattern started to emerge as we tried to develop some sort of friendship. It has been an eye opening experience to been on the receiving end of a hot and cold contact pattern and it end up revealing more things about me than it did about her.

I’m T. Vyas, you can call me T became most people do.  I’m, as you’ve guessed, a person of colour who looks forward to chatting with you about some things identity, some things colour and ALL things Love!  Tune in Tuesdays for a new episode!  In the meantime, you can find me on Instagram @bareinmind.podcast

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