Are you conscious of your personal boundaries? All of them? Not everyone has the same ones, seen easily from culture to culture. So how do we go about understanding our boundaries better? That's the answer I wanted for a long time.
I bring in learnings from a bunch of readings on natural human body and mind development and let you decide how your environment, society, family and friends have influenced your choices in having certain boundaries.
Consider how parents make decisions about your body from a young age, it could be piercings to your hair length. The food you eat and how you should eat. What values you should have, spiritually or religious wise.
All of this is taken in before our mind is fully developed. That is about 25 years of influence before we are 100% mature (according to research on emotional intelligence).
Then, the question becomes if our mind isn't fully developed to its full, ripe state when we learn about our body, do you then assume personal boundaries and go about your life without fully understanding the impact on us and our relationships.
Resources:
Grubinger, Lenore. "On the Way to Walking: The Essential Guide to Natural Movement Development". Florence, MA: Amajoy Developmental Movement & Bodywork, 2016.
MacNamara, Deborah. "Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One". Vancouver, Aona Books, 2016.
Hanscom, Angela J. "Balanced and Barefoot (How Unrestricted Outdoor Play Makes for Strong, Confident, and Capable Children)". Oakland, New Harbinger Publications, Inc., 2016.
Rapley, Gill and Tracey Murkett. "Baby-Led Weaning: The Essential Guide - How to Introduce Solid Foods and Help Your Baby to Grow Up a Happy and Confident Eater". New York, The Experiment, 2010.
Goleman, Daniel. "Emotional Intelligence: Why it Matters More than IQ". Bantam, 1995.
Payne, Kim John and Ross, Lisa M. "Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier and More Secure Kids". Ballantine Books, 2010.
I’m T. Vyas, you can call me T became most people do. I’m, as you’ve guessed, a person of colour who looks forward to chatting with you about some things identity, some things colour and ALL things Love! Tune in Tuesdays for a new episode! In the meantime, you can find me on Instagram @bareinmind.podcast
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