What Unhappy Couples Do Wrong:1. Attacking the character of your spouse.
2. Showing contempt or disgust for each other.
3. Being defensive and not owning up to your part.
4. Shutting down or tuning out your spouse.

How To Fight Fair:1. Overlook minor infractions.

Proverbs 21:23
Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble.

1. Know when not to fight and what not to say.

Proverbs 17:28
Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent; with their mouths shut, they seem intelligent.

1. Do not avoid needed conflict.

Ephesians 4:26-27 26
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.

1. Pause to listen carefully.

Proverbs 18:2
Fools have no interest in understanding; they only want to air their own opinions.

1. Understand your motives and manage your emotions.

Proverbs 17:28
The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.