We're talking about enmeshment today and how codependency can have us thinking that our emotional states have to match the way others around us are feeling. If I'm happy then you must be too. If you're sad, maybe I should lower my energetic frequency to match yours. Is that really how it should be? Listen to find out!
EPISODE NOTES:
Do you relate to sometimes feeling like your emotions have to be happy and positive for everyone else to be ok? Or do you feel like you need the other person to not be in a grumpy mood because it affects you?
Would you like to be able to just show up how you are and not worry about how it affects the person next to you? Or would you like to show up and not have other people’s emotions affect you?
If you want that to be the case, I’m here to help you. It’s what I do all the time. I’ve learned how to walk out of codependency.
Sometimes we need others who are not feeling as down as we are to come in and be light around us. We long for someone to come alongside us and tell us that it is possible that one day we won’t feel as down and dark as we do today and that we can see the sun again. We long for hope. We long for a strong possibility that things will get better. When others say yes there is hope! It can bring so much peace that we’re longing for.
You are allowed to have your emotions and others are allowed to have theirs. Our emotional states don’t have to match.
If you have questions, send me an email or dm. We can be really specific to your situation in one on one or group sessions with me. I hope you can mull over what I’m saying and know there’s a way out.
When we get dysregulated because others are dysregulated, it escalates. My encouragement is to pause and take deep breaths. Repeat them until you start to feel more settled. Whether it’s outloud or in your mind, remind yourself that you are allowed to have different emotions and experiences from others—even about the same situation. It is ok that you’re having a hard time right now.
No matter how you show up, you are worthy of love. You are beautiful. There’s nothing wrong with you.
To participate in a group session, go to https://changeradicallyscheduler.as.me/
Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/corinne-guido-powell/message