A person comes to receive pleasure from bestowal when the Creator desires it. To make Him want this, one must ask Him.

Question: How can I understand that my desire coincides with the Creator’s desire?

Answer: You will feel this by the way He relates to you.

Question: What is the Creator’s pleasure in this?

Answer: It depends on what the person desires.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 6/25/24, Writings of Rabash “Concerning the Will to Receive – 1

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