By being together with my friends, in a group where there is love of friends, I will be able to rise to the house of the Creator. That trail is called “a path of bestowal,” and it is against our nature. In order to be able to reach the house of the Creator, there is no other way but love of friends (Rabash, “Love of Friends – 1”).

Love is the overcoming of mutually repulsive egoistic forces between us when we try to overcome their mutual rejection.

Moreover, those who experience a stronger rejection from others have stronger souls. As it is written: “Everyone whose attainment is greater, his ego is greater.” Therefore, in fact, Kabbalists are huge egoists on the inside!

For those who enter into the attainment of the upper worlds, this work is with such great egoistic desires that I have no words to convey it. There are no such repulsive forces in our world to imagine the forces Kabbalists overcome. How much they hate everyone! How much they repel everyone!

But all this is to the extent they can overcome such forces. They form a huge Aviut, the thickness of desire, and above it a restriction (Tzimtzum), a screen, and everything else.

As it is written in The Book of Zohar, the students of Rabbi Shimon, who wrote this greatest book on Kabbalah, were ready to kill each other! Can you imagine what kind of rejections arise between everyone?!

Love cannot be without hate; in nature everything is balanced. Therefore, if we talk about love, we mean that it arises above the rejection of each other. We feel this rejection and build closeness and unification over it up to adhesion and love, while there is hatred and rejection inside. This dichotomy we achieve holds the whole system of the worlds.

Therefore, do not be naive and try to be like a state of an angel: everything is fine, we love each other, we unite. If I do not feel rejection from another, I cannot feel attraction to him, or spiritual love. If these are spiritual feelings, they always consist of two properties: an egoistic property and an altruistic one above it.

This road is called the path of bestowal, and it goes against our nature. To come to the house of the Creator, that is, to a state where we unite in love, there is no other advice than love for our friends, which we reveal above hatred for them.

Thus we look very realistically at all of nature, at all states, both hatred and love at the same time. Only then does it exist forever and support one another since between them there is a restriction, screen, and reflected light, a desire to work with egoism in the property opposite to it. There is no love and bestowal in us; it happens when we work against our ego. This is called correction.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/24/20, “Preparation for the Convention

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