Question: I want to follow your advice and love my friend. But my egoistic nature causes repulsion, and I must rise to the level of love for him. So what is my prayer for the other?

Answer: When you try to rise above hatred to love and you make serious efforts to do so, such great egoism is revealed in you that shows you cannot do this. Then you begin to realize that only the Creator can help you, and you seek contact with Him. It is in this search that one can find the Creator.

Question: So what do I ask Him at this moment?

Answer: Ask Him to help you be in love above hatred.

Question: But it sounds like I am asking for help for myself?

Answer: Why is it for yourself? You want to show love for others! It appears above hatred, above egoism. We do not understand what the manifestation of the quality of bestowal is. It seems to us that I bestow and this is my gain. No, this is not my gain.

The spiritual property requires us to absolutely renounce and rise above egoism. You are making a restriction. We do not feel what the first restriction, the screen, or the reflected light are when you completely start working for bestowal. Then you want to connect to the Creator so He can help you with this. There is no personal gain here; it has long been left behind.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 2/24/20, “Preparation for the Convention”

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