I wasn't planned. In other words, my mom got pregnant in 1960 unwed.   I was born in 1961.  My dad married my mom per her request so she would at least have a name for me.  So long story short.  I grew up without a father figure.  She never remarried.  So I never saw myself taking up space.  I never had the the upbringing that I was enough. Just didn't have that remembrance of life. My mom died at age 54 and I was 31.  I wish I could have asked her more questions.  But for now I know Im meant to be here.  And you are too.